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Topic: Hi Susan
Subject: Hi Susan - Posted: 4/22/2009 12:30:53 PM

Sorry it took so long to reply to you - there were some technical difficulties at the start but we‘re up and running now!

In your post  you don‘t mention if the abusive man is a husband or domestic partner you‘re living with; a husband or domestic partner you‘re separated from; or a non-live-in boyfriend.

If the abuser is a non-live-in boyfriend, my suggestions are less complicated: get joint counseling to see if the relationship can be improved or end the relationship and get support from your friends, family, a counselor or whatever constructive activities appeal to you until the heartache stops.

For domestic relationships, the answers are more complicated; but I‘d suggest you try to find a FamilyJustice Center in your area (www.familyjusticecenter.org will tell you locations nationwide) or go to your local DA‘s office to get help mapping out a legal strategy, including filing for an Order of Protection if necessary.  Another option:  contact a local domestic violence center or woman‘s organization for information and referrals.

One thing I DON‘T recommend is taking self defense or martial arts classes in order to cope with someone who is physically abusive.  That‘s like pouring gasoline on the floor and then throwing a match on itthere‘s bound to be an explosion!  Save the self defense training for after you leave the relationship, in case the abuse turns to stalking, or simply to help give you the inner strength to pick yourself up and go on.  Training is one of the BEST ways to do this.

On my radio show Crime Prevention 101 (www.crimeprevention101.com), I did several shows on domestic violence and abusive relationships that you might find helpful.  Check in the archives for the following dates:  10/4/08, 10/11/08, 10/25/08, 8/16/08 and 3/14/09. 

Hope this helps.

 

 

 

 

 


Topic: NEED advice
Subject: NEED advice - Posted: 4/22/2009 4:47:32 PM

I‘m not sure you can really say anything to her that would make any difference.  And, what often happens is that the person comes to resent anyone who‘s trying to be helpful if they‘re not ready to be helped.  Besides, people who keep repeating destructive patterns might very well need professional help rather than help from concerned friends - but they have to decide that and want that for themselves.

One suggestion:  without telling her your concerns, you might try to get her to take a self defense course (most are no more than 4 weeks long) or even a personal safety lecture.  In case push comes to shove (literally), she might at least be able to defend herself, and one of the benefits of a self defense or martial arts course is that it increases your self esteem and inner strength.  That might be the best help you could give your friend right now (and it wouldn‘t hurt you either!).

By all means, go to my radio show hostpage, Crime Prevention 101 (www.crimeprevention101.com) where all my past shows are archived.  Send your friend a link to any of the shows you feel would be particularly interesting to her.  You can also sign up for my mailing list or RSS feed there.  Maybe that will point her in a more positive direction.  Good luck.


Topic: keeping 17 yr old daughter safe while dating
Subject: keeping 17 yr old daughter safe while dating - Posted: 4/22/2009 5:04:54 PM

I understand your concern and I‘ve been asked about this many times over the years.  I have a few suggestions for you:

 

Go to my radio show hostpage www.crimeprevention101.com and listen to my show on 2/28/09 which is my interview with the folks from Just Yell Fire (www.justyellfire.org).  JYF is a nationally-recognized self defense program aimed at tweens and teens from ages 11-17.  I give lots of advice and safety tips on the show, including talking about their Dating Bill of Rights, which every teen should know about.  You can get their free self defense DVD and the Dating Bill of Rights from their website.  Sit down with your daughter, watch the DVD and let her express her concerns to you.

 

Another good resource is my show on 1/24/09:  Kidpower, Teen Power, Full Power -- another great self defense program.  Their website, www.kidpower.org, has lots of articles and tips on it about dating concerns too.

 

Lastly, take a look at my Date Rape Tips which is on my own website (http://www.susanbartelstone.com/2009/safetytips-success.html).  I think that will help.

Topic: keeping 17 yr old daughter safe while dating
Subject: keeping 17 yr old daughter safe while dating - Posted: 4/24/2009 1:35:45 PM
One more thought occurred to me after I posted:  why not consider both you and your daughter taking a self defense class together.  Good for both of you.

Topic: Completely hearbroken
Subject: Completely hearbroken - Posted: 5/15/2009 2:26:49 PM

I wish Dr. Sandra Brown was still on the Forum to answer this question.  This is more of a relationship question than a crime prevention/personal safety topic, which is my area of expertise.

I do have a few thoughts though:

1.  I always tell people to listen to their instincts.  If deep down in your gut you know  something feels wrong, it‘s really important to honor that feeling ... even if you really really really want to believe the opposite. 

Listening to your gut has saved many a potential crime victim from heartache, and would apply to any other kind of life situation as well.

2.  One of the best ways to gain self esteem and strength to heal from life‘s trauma‘s - whatever their source - is martial arts training.  If you‘re trying to heal or find the inner strength to walk away from a situation that is bad for you, I urge you to try a few classes just to see if it catches hold within you.

It‘s one of the most strengthening, self-healing activies I‘ve ever experienced in my lifetime. 

For women, check out www.nwmaf.org (website for the National Women‘s Martial Arts Federation) for a woman-friendly class in your area.  If you don‘t see one listed, email them for a reference.

If you do it, let me know what happens.

 


Topic: Why did he do this?
Subject: Why did he do this? - Posted: 5/15/2009 2:38:14 PM

I don’t know what kind of “training” this fellow had, but any person trained to deal with sexual assault or incest victims knows you should never push someone who has been traumatized for details if they’re not ready or unwilling to open up.  That’s something that will come in time, when trust has been established.  Or maybe never at all. 

 

Either way, your wishes must be respected; and I say good riddance to him.

 

One thing I would suggest is that you check out a website called Points With Purpose (www.pointswithpurpose.com).  It’s a forum for crime and sexual assault survivors where they can unburden themselves anonymously and share their feelings with others with the same experiences.  Another similar - and wonderful - website is www.healingthroughcreativity.org.  I did radio shows on both these organizations and you can tune in and listen to either of those shows by going to my website www.susanbartelstone.com and hitting the tab for Crime Prevention101 and scrolling through the archives.  Good luck.

Topic: divorce and grieving
Subject: divorce and grieving - Posted: 5/15/2009 2:45:16 PM

Again, here‘s another question I wish Dr. Sandra Brown was still on the Forum to answer this question.  This is more of a relationship question than a crime prevention/personal safety topic, which is my area of expertise.

I‘d like to repeat some thoughts I‘ve given out before as I think they apply here as well:

1.  I always tell people to listen to their instincts.  If deep down in your gut you know  something feels wrong, it‘s really important to honor that feeling ... even if you really really really want to believe the opposite. 

Listening to your gut has saved many a potential crime victim from heartache, and would apply to any other kind of life situation as well.

2.  One of the best ways to gain self esteem and strength to heal from life‘s trauma‘s - whatever their source - is martial arts training.  If you‘re trying to heal or find the inner strength to walk away from a situation that is bad for you, I urge you to try a few classes just to see if it catches hold within you.

It‘s one of the most strengthening, self-healing activies I‘ve ever experienced in my lifetime. 

For women, check out www.nwmaf.org (website for the National Women‘s Martial Arts Federation) for a woman-friendly class in your area.  If you don‘t see one listed, email them for a reference.

If you do it, let me know what happens.

Topic: Need advice quick on my boyfriend
Subject: Need advice quick on my boyfriend - Posted: 5/15/2009 2:58:28 PM

This person‘s behavior is abusive - bottom line.  Love is not supposed to hurt.  And, it‘s only going to get worse.  Run, don‘t walk.  Get out.

Do things that give you strength and pleasure and self esteem until you stop grieving for this loss.

One suggestion:  If you‘re trying to heal or find the inner strength to walk away from a situation that is bad for you, I urge you to take a few martial arts classes  just to see if it catches hold within you.

Martial arts is one of the most strengthening, self-healing activies I‘ve ever experienced in my lifetime. 

For women, check out www.nwmaf.org (website for the National Women‘s Martial Arts Federation) for a woman-friendly class in your area.  If you don‘t see one listed, email them for a reference.

If you do it, let me know what happens.

 


Topic: Should I be afraid?
Subject: Should I be afraid? - Posted: 5/19/2009 3:28:48 PM

Response to Should I be afraid?

 

 

I didn’t even have to read your description of this man (or what you believe you know about him because people do lie); but I know he’s exhibiting classic stalking behavior and classic behavior that’s indicative of domestic violence in a sustained relationship – the controlling behavior, the accusations, the contriteness after he’s been called out, the begging and pleading to be taken back and given another chance, the “poor me” history in an attempt to justify his behavior; in fact all of it.  Unfortunately, this type of behavior characteristically gets worse over time instead of better, and often progresses to physical violence or worse.

 

Strong attractions are very seductive, but people that exhibit this type of behavior are a really bad bet in terms of achieving a healthy, loving, non-abusive relationship.  There are no “boundaries” possible here.  Listen to my 2/14/08 radio show Crime Prevention 101 on dating safety, which featured Stephanie Alexander, founder of WomanSavers.com for a whole lot of tips on dealing with stalkers (http://www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=36244).  In the meantime, here are a few suggestions:

 

1.  check w/ your phone service provider:  a variety of screening devices are available; you may have to switch providers to get the screening capability you want.  You may also have to consider changing your number to an unlisted one and give it out very sparingly.

 

2.  Consider filing for an order of protection if the harassment starts up again.  Rather than just calling the police during an incident, try to find a Family Justice Center in your area (www.familyjusticecenter.org will tell you locations) to get help mapping out a legal strategy; or see if your local DA‘s office has a stalking unit.  Another possible referral source is a local domestic violence center or woman‘s organization.  Each state has different laws on stalking and there are merits and limitations for an Order of Protection.  You‘ll want to know these so you can make the best decision about whether to file or not.

 

3.  Consider getting an inexpensive security system if you feel he might try to break into your house.  A good resource here is www.homesecurity911.com. (a great website with lots of home safety information).  My radio shows on 7/26/08, 8/9/08 and 8/16/08 deal with home safety tips (all shows are archived by subject on www.susanbartelstone.com/crimeprevention101radio.html).

 

4.  Get a canister of pepper foam for the house and pepper spray for outdoors.  Download my "Using Defense Spray" tip sheet from my website safety tips page.

 

Let me know how things work out.


Topic: Should I be afraid?
Subject: Should I be afraid? - Posted: 5/22/2009 2:23:27 PM

Good for you.  I know it was hard at first.  It does get easier when you know you did the right thing.

 


Topic: Should I be afraid?
Subject: Should I be afraid? - Posted: 6/3/2009 10:23:55 AM

You‘re doing the smart thing - being prepared for any eventuality.  Encouragingly, it  looks like he WILL get the message.  

            

 

 


Topic: Michael Jackson: Pop Icon or Child Molester
Subject: Michael Jackson: Pop Icon or Child Molester - Posted: 6/26/2009 12:12:59 PM

Upon the death of Michael Jackson, there‘s been an outpouring of love and sympathy and whitewashing of all his bizarre behavior:  sleepovers with young boys, sleeping in the same bed with them, and similar - proven - stories. 

Most disturbing to me, however, were the 2 cases of child molestation.  He was never convicted of this crime, but it cost him a FORTUNE to make them go away.  While many feel the fact he wasn‘t convicted as proof of his innocence; cynical folks like me feel he bought his "innocence."

Michael‘s been quoted many times as saying he‘d never hurt a child; but that‘s a classic response from almost all child abusers.  They almost NEVER see their actions as hurtful and always express great love for the child they abused.

WHAT SAY YOU ALL! LOVE YOUR OPINION.

 

 


Topic: background checking
Subject: background checking - Posted: 7/10/2009 12:55:58 PM

This is an interesting topic for me and one I haven‘t been asked before.  Outside of the obvious - googling the person, checking him out on WomenSavers, and possibly hiring a private detective (don‘t rule that one out, it might be expensive but very worthwhile), off hand, I don‘t know of any services that check out people.

Let me ask around through some of my law enforcement buddies to see if I can find anything and I‘ll get back to you.


Topic: background checking
Subject: background checking - Posted: 7/15/2009 10:43:49 AM

I checked with one of my experts, retired Nassau County Police Dept Detective Mike Irise, about ways to do background checks on someone.  Here‘s what he said:

Licensed agents, i.e. Police Officers, Sherriffs, Feds, and the one that you or I could hire, private investigators, have the best access to information.

If you can‘t or don‘t want to go that route, one website that comes to mind, and a good starting point, is Zabasearch.com.  Go there and type in your name to test it.

You can also try "Background Check" in Google; there are a number of listed links to get info.

Hope this helps and good luck!

 


Topic: Is there any recourse that can be taken on a man who gives out stds?
Subject: Is there any recourse that can be taken on a man who gives out stds? - Posted: 8/27/2009 2:38:15 PM

Actually, I have heard about cases like this.  Let me check around with some of my law enforcement resources and see what I can come up with for you.

 

 


Topic: marriage fraud
Subject: marriage fraud - Posted: 8/27/2009 2:44:58 PM

This is a terrible story and I‘m going to reach out to some of my resources to see if I can find anything for you. 

In the meantime, have you contacted INS about this?  Or any other official agency?  If so, what was the response?

 


Topic: Every holiday is a chance for my ex to fight with me. I would appreciate your advice.
Subject: Every holiday is a chance for my ex to fight with me. I would appreciate your advice. - Posted: 9/10/2009 9:50:46 AM

One of the best resources around is the Family Justice Center which is a one-stop shop for a domestic violence victim including legal counseling, psychological counseling, and a whole range of other services that someone in your position might need - all in one place. 

The FJC has centers all over the country.  Go to their main website ( http://www.familyjusticecenter.org/)  and see if they have a center near you.  If not, I urge you to contact a local domestic violence organization, woman‘s group like NOW or similar one and see what resources are available for you.

Please don‘t wait too long.  This is a toxic, volatile situation that needs to end.

 


Topic: Is there any recourse that can be taken on a man who gives out stds?
Subject: Is there any recourse that can be taken on a man who gives out stds? - Posted: 9/10/2009 9:56:00 AM

I checked with some of my law enforcement resources and they advise you to contact the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (http://www.cdc.gov/).  They may be able to point you to a local resource.

For your own personal safety, I‘d advise you to do nothing on your own (such as contacting people you think might be at risk because of this guy).  I get the impression from you description that  he could be violent if pushed.

If you can‘t find an official agency to pick up the ball, you may just have to bite your tongue and walk away.

 


Topic: marriage fraud
Subject: marriage fraud - Posted: 9/10/2009 10:03:05 AM

I did a whole bunch of checking for you but, given all that you‘ve done, and the seeming "uninterest" in the matter by INS, and also because you no longer have any legal, marital connection to this guy, you‘re just going to have to walk away from the whole issue.

It also sounds to me like there‘s still a lot of anger and other issues that still need to be processed by you to understand why you ended up in such an ugly situation.  I urge you to find someone to talk to about this and see what happens.

Let me know.

 

 


Topic: Abuse on ‘rate a guy‘
Subject: Abuse on ‘rate a guy‘ - Posted: 9/28/2009 11:48:25 AM
I‘ve alerted the administrators of the site and they will take care of it very quickly.  In the meantime, do nothing to contact this guy and do not reply.  It will be straightened out.;

Topic: Is my husband a sexual deviant?
Subject: Is my husband a sexual deviant? - Posted: 10/16/2009 8:49:53 AM

Hi Queen - sorry it took so long to reply; somehow I didn‘t catch your entry.

This question doesn‘t fall within my area of expertise but I do have a panel of experts that I refer things to and one of them is well qualified to give an opinion.  I‘ll relay what she says as soon as possible.

 


Topic: Help, Susan!
Subject: Help, Susan! - Posted: 10/19/2009 2:20:04 PM
I wish I could be of more help but I really don‘t have anything to do with the administrative side of WomanSavers. They‘re ususlly right on top of things like this but I‘ll let them know (yet again) that there‘s another problem and I‘ll "red flag" it.  so sorry.

Topic: Help, Susan!
Subject: Help, Susan! - Posted: 10/20/2009 2:40:00 PM

I‘m sorry too that this couldn‘t be straightened out and I don‘t blame you for the steps you took re WomanSavers.  

If you ever have need of some crime prevention or personal safety advice, please don‘t hesitate to post a question for me. 


Topic: Help, Susan!
Subject: Help, Susan! - Posted: 10/25/2009 3:39:52 PM

Topic: Found my sex addicted husband on Match
Subject: Found my sex addicted husband on Match - Posted: 11/9/2009 1:26:36 PM

You need to check with a lawyer to find out if you have any legal recourse.  See if you can find a community legal clinic (many law schools operate these facilities) in your local area and go for a consultation. 

Many divorce lawyers also give a free consultation and you surely might need one of those!

Good for you for taking positive steps. 

 


Topic: How do you know an abuser has changed.
Subject: How do you know an abuser has changed. - Posted: 1/3/2010 7:03:57 PM

I asked one of my panel of experts your question and here‘s what Beth Scullin, head of the Brooklyn DA‘s Special Victims Unit (SCULLINB@BrooklynDA.org), said in answer:

My conservative response to this woman, without having the opportunity to speak with her, would be that this sounds like a dangerous crossroads in an already violent situation and that her concerns are valid and real.

She should reach out to a professional, impartial organization (i.e National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) to process her thoughts and receive safety planning assistance specific to her needs.  I‘d also be happy to help her find local resources.

Longer term-surviving domestic violence, whether or not the
relationship ends, is a real trauma and requires real treatment
(counseling, group etc.) to assist the healing process. I am also happy to speak to this woman personally if that is at all helpful, so please give her my email address.

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SB‘s Comments: I‘d also like to add that I agree with the earlier poster about the seriousness of the alcohol issue and I‘d recommend that your husband be regularly attending a substance abuse program like Alcohol Anonymous (with a commitment to do so for life, as that is the only way it is successful) before you agree to take him back in the house.

As Beth suggested, get counseling for yourself so you won‘t succumb to the pressure from his friends and family; have a safety plan in place so you‘re prepared for any eventuality;  and only take him back when you‘re sure he is ready to come home.  Counseling for you will be critical in this regard and I urge you to email her.

I wish you luck with this and urge you to contact Beth or someone local to you for help.  Let me know what happens.

 


Topic: How do you know an abuser has changed.
Subject: How do you know an abuser has changed. - Posted: 1/21/2010 1:22:45 PM

Just want you to know that I found your question so important that I devoted a whole segment to it on my radio show, Crime Prevention 101, on 1/17/10.

My guest was Juan Ramos, Program Director of the Domestic Violence Accountability Program (Batters Group) at Safe Horizon, the nation’s leading victim assistance organization with more than 80 victim assistance programs located throughout the five boroughs of New York City.

If you‘d like to hear the show:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=43873

Let me know what happens with this.


Topic: Am I in danger here?
Subject: Am I in danger here? - Posted: 1/21/2010 1:50:44 PM

Dear Queen - I‘m sorry to hear this situation has not been resolved and I really feel you need to speak with a mental health professional to get some kind of clarity about what‘s going on here. 

It‘s my opinion that you‘ll be never be able to find a normal, drama-free life, a normal marriage and a nice home for your and your  daughter with this man until either or both of you (preferably) is in therapy -- IF THEN -- but a psychologist or therapist would be the one to evaluate this!

What is in my bailiwick, however, is the question of his violence towards you.  His behavior, as mentioned in your post, is typical of domestic violence situations.  I strongly urge you to find a Family Justice Center in your area, which can provide information on your legal options regarding this question as well as divorce issues.  The national website is www.familyjusticecenter.org and you will be able to locate a facility in your area (if there is one).

Otherwise, please find a local domestic violence group or women‘s organization.  Please don‘t think you have no options, no matter what your financial situation is. 

A few more resources for information about DV and programs in your area that can help you: 

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233:  http://www.ndvh.org/

The Domestic Violence Awareness Project:  WWW.dvam.vawnet.org/

US Dept of Justice list of national DV organizations:  http://www.ovw.usdoj.gov/dv-nationalorg.htm

Please take action immediately for your safety and peace of mind (and that of your child).

 

 

 

 

 


Topic: Bad past
Subject: Bad past - Posted: 1/21/2010 1:59:34 PM

In my opinion, this relationship doesn‘t bode well for you on any conceivable level that I can think of.  You absolutely MUST seek professional help to sort out your feelings, clarify the issues involved and see this man in the cold hard light of common sense and reason. 

Please take action immediately.  Don‘t waste anymore of your youth or your life in this situation when you may have very viable options that will ultimately allow you to find happiness.  The cost of inaction might be considerable.

 


Topic: Men Stopping Violence; Stopping Cyberstalking
Subject: Men Stopping Violence; Stopping Cyberstalking - Posted: 1/21/2010 2:07:21 PM

Hi, Susan here.  Catch my latest , Crime Prevention 101 radio show tonight @ 8pm eastern or as a podcast, check it out @:  http://tinyurl.com/PreventCrime or on iTunes @ http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes

Show Description:

Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone‘s first segment addresses the question:  how do you heal after you‘ve been traumatized by crime or abuse?  One of the most powerful healing tools is to become an advocate for change.  Shelley Serdahely, the victim of years of emotional and physical abuse from her husband, has gone on to thrive and is now helping others.  She‘s the Executive Director of Men Stopping Violence, which works to end violence against women in a variety of ways including direct intervention and variety of innovative programs.

Next up, Susan talks about the connection between domestic violence and cyberstalking, a new wrinkle in an abuser’s ability to locate and control their partner after she or he has escaped an abusive relationship.  Her guest is Alexis Moore, who knows what it takes to leave someone who cyberstalks you and the challenges someone faces starting over with nothing.  She‘s the founder of Survivors In Action which is a tremendous resource for others.

 


Topic: Am I in danger here?
Subject: Am I in danger here? - Posted: 1/21/2010 2:12:07 PM

One more resource for you:  Survivors in Action (www.survivorsinaction.com) started by Alexis Moore.  She gives a lot of info on her site about starting over when you have nothing.

She was a guest on my radio show Crime Prevention 101, which airs tonight (1/21) and will be available as a podcast. 

If you‘d care to listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=43951

 


Topic: husband leaving me with a DVI while he‘s cheating
Subject: husband leaving me with a DVI while he‘s cheating - Posted: 1/25/2010 9:58:59 AM

So sorry to hear this story.  I know it‘s a very difficult situation.  

What concerns me, in terms of you getting out of this situation, is the validity of the information you‘ve been given about what your options are re your court case and other legal consequences.  You don‘t mention the source of this information, but one of the best resources I can give you is the Family Justice Center which has offices nationwide.  Go to www.familyjusticecenter.org to see if there‘s a local center in your area. 

You might also call some of the local colleges in  your area that have a law school.  Many law schools have free legal clinics where you might also be able to get accurate advice.

Also, pls find a domestic violence organization or a women‘s center or even a N.O.W. chapter to get a counseling referral so  you can have a clear perspective about your marriage and your life after it.  

The more action you  take on you own behalf with the right professional help, the sooner you‘ll be able to find your way out of this situaiton.

Stay in touch and let me know what happens.

 


Topic: He saved a little girl
Subject: He saved a little girl - Posted: 1/30/2010 12:07:38 AM

I, too, applaud those who go above and beyond to save a child.  Thanks for sharing this.

 


Topic: Dating Safely: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Dating Safely: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/16/2010 11:08:24 AM

This turned out to be a great show   

If you‘re out there dating, you should check it out.  And, listen specifically at the end of the show for the offer of 3 free months of Safe Checkin - a great service for daters as well as people in DV or stalking situations, among others.  Just mention that you heard about them through my radio show Crime Prevention 101 in your email to them.

http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=44501


Topic: Native American Women and Rape - & - Avon‘s Response to Domestic Violence
Subject: Native American Women and Rape - & - Avon‘s Response to Domestic Violence - Posted: 2/25/2010 3:18:10 PM

Upcoming radio show:  Crime Prevention 101

Air Date:  2/25/20 @ 8pm eastern

To listen:  http://tinyurl.com/CrimePrevent101 and blogsite http//www.crimeprevention101.com and also on itunes: http://tinyurl.com/CPiTunes

According to Amnesty International, Native American women are 2.5 times more likely to be sexually assaulted than women of other ethnic groups and 86% of those assaults are by non-Indian men.  Due to legal jurisdictional conflicts regarding crimes committed on reservations, lax response by law enforcement and lack of services, Indian women can pretty much be raped with impunity.  This week, I‘ll be speaking with Charon Asetoyer, of the Native American Women‘s Health Education Resource Center, about what can be done to change this situation.

 

Then, I talk with Mary Quinn, from the Avon Foundation for Women.  Everyone knows about Avon‘s sponsorship of breast cancer research.  Most are not as familiar with their efforts on behalf of domestic violence and women‘s and girls empowerment.  Yet, the Avon Foundation has raised and awarded more than $750 million to improve the lives of women.  Thought you should know about some of their programs!

 

We’ll also try to catch a criminal with Det. Robert Sarrantonio from the Bluegrass Crime Stoppers group in Lexington, KY.

 

 

 


Topic: Leaving an Abusive Relationship- Upcoming Radio Show on Crime Prevention 101
Subject: Leaving an Abusive Relationship- Upcoming Radio Show on Crime Prevention 101 - Posted: 3/3/2010 1:59:44 PM

Stephany Alexander, founder of Womansavers.com will be interviewed on my radio show on Thursday 3/4 @ 8pm eastern on VoiceAmerica.com and we‘re going to be discussing a post someone made on the forum titled "Am I in Danger?"

It was from a young woman with a child who was in an unhappy and emotionally abusive marriage with a man who was cheating on her, lying and getting physically abusive when confronted.  She said she didn’t believe she had the courage or the financial resources to leave the relationship and didn’t know where to go to get information or support. 

 

Her plight is such a common one and really moved me, so I thought I’d address the topic of leaving an abusive relationship on the show this week. 

 

We’ve got lots of resources and tips for you; and, we’re coming to you live this week, so Stephany and I invite you to call in and share your stories if you care to.  The call in number is 866-472-5787.

 

But wait, there’s more!  I‘ve also got my true crime pal, Tricia Griffith, with me to talk about what‘s hot on the Websleuths.com forums this week; and be sure to stay tuned for my "Let’s Catch a Criminal" segment.  This week, I’ll introduce you to Mark Speer, Executive Director of the Los Angeles Regional Crime Stoppers group. 

To listen:  http://tinyurl.com/CrimePrevent101 or on iTunes http://tinyurl.com/CPiTunes


Topic: Link to Crime Prevention 101 radio show featuring Stephany Alexander
Subject: Link to Crime Prevention 101 radio show featuring Stephany Alexander - Posted: 3/19/2010 12:08:41 PM

If you didn‘t catch the show (and it was wonderful!), here‘s the link; check it out:

 

http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=44889

 


Topic: Am I in danger here?
Subject: Am I in danger here? - Posted: 3/19/2010 12:11:08 PM

I featured your question on my Crime Prevention 101 radio show on 3/4/10 because it was such an important one and a widespread problem.

Here‘s a link to the show in case you missed it:

 

http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=44889

 


Topic: Finding Missing People
Subject: Finding Missing People - Posted: 4/2/2010 12:57:43 PM

Did a great Crime Prevention 101 radio show on 4/1 on the topic of finding missing people with private investigator Gil Alba, who has worked on or consulted on such high profile cases as the Natalee Holloway case, Chandra Levy case, Marvin Weinstein kidnapping (which was successfully resolved) and the 12-year old NYC missing persons case of Kristine Kupka.

To listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=45462

 

                   

 


Topic: Warriors Making a Difference in the Community…and the World
Subject: Warriors Making a Difference in the Community…and the World - Posted: 4/7/2010 9:49:10 AM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

Air Date: 4/08/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

 

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Interview with:  Self Defense Activist Tom Callos; Sally Cox, from the San Diego Crime Stoppers; and our Crime Prevention 101 true crime reporter Tricia Griffith, from Websleuths.com

 

April is, among other things, Sexual Assault Prevention Month.  Since I‘ve been a self defense instructor for more than 17 years, I thought I‘d commemorate the month by focusing on some unusual warriors out there in the trenches:  self defense and martial arts instructors who are not only teaching people how to defend themselves but are reaching out and making a difference in their community and, sometimes, the world. 

 

I‘ll be speaking with Tom Callos, who calls himself a self defense activist, and wait ‘til you hear all the amazing things he‘s done and inspired others to do.  Then, I‘ll be talking to some of his students and colleagues who‘ve mobilized martial artists in their own sphere to fight for such causes as diabetes, anger management and so much more.  Giving back and helping the healing!

 

We‘ve also got our WebSleuths gal, Tricia Griffith, with us to talk about what‘s hot on the true crime forums this week; and we’ll try to "Catch a Criminal" with Sally Cox from the San Diego Crime Stoppers.

 

Want to add your voice to the discussion.  We‘re coming to you live tonight.  Call in number is 1-866-472-5788.

 

It’d be a crime not to listen!


Topic: Child Sexual Abuse Education: Erin’s Law
Subject: Child Sexual Abuse Education: Erin’s Law - Posted: 4/11/2010 4:37:08 PM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

Air Date: 4/15/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

 

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month and Safe Kids Week comes at the end of the month, so this week Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone speaks with Child Abuse Education Advocate Erin Merryn, author of Stolen Innocence, who survived terrible childhood sexual abuse but has gone on to thrive and inspire others.  She‘s going to tell us about Erin‘s Law, which she‘s trying to get passed in IL and then nationally, so young children will get the kind of information they need to protect themselves from sexual predators while in school. 

 

Also with us, for an encore appearance, is Jill Starishevsky, Assistant DA from the Bronx, NY and author of My Body Belongs to Me, who‘s helping Erin in her efforts and trying to get a similar law passed in NY. 

 

We‘ve also got our Crime Prevention 101 True Crime Reporter, Tricia Griffith, from Websleuths.com, to talk about cases that are hot on the forums this week; and we’ll try to "Catch a Criminal" for Anita Shell, from the Crime Stoppers of Anchorage.  Brrr!

 

It’d be a crime not to listen!


Topic: Denim Day & Sexual Assault Awareness Month
Subject: Denim Day & Sexual Assault Awareness Month - Posted: 4/20/2010 11:55:19 AM

According to the NYC Alliance Against Sexual Assault:  Denim Day was started 11 years ago by Peace Over Violence, the lead organization for Start Strong Los Angeles. This day was coined after a 1992 Italian court case, in which the Chief Judge argued, “because the victim wore very, very tight jeans, she had to help him remove them, and by removing the jeans it was no longer rape but consensual sex.”

This verdict enraged female members of Italy’s Parliament, who wore jeans in protest, and Denim Day was born.


Topic: Safe @ Home and Safe @ School
Subject: Safe @ Home and Safe @ School - Posted: 4/20/2010 1:34:55 PM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

Air Date: 4/22/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

 

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

April 18-24 is National Crime Victims‘ Rights Week and National Victims of Crime Awareness Week. 

 

To commemorate this, I‘ll be talking about ways to avoid becoming a victim of home invasions with frequent media guest and security expert Jordan Frankel, who‘s got some great security tips for you. 

 

Then I talk about school security (a really timely topic) with personal security specialist Cheryl Watterson, who‘s multi-talented background includes more than 20 years experience working for one of the largest security alarm companies in the world, and who now specializes in keeping children safe at school. 

 

And, stay tuned for my security product picks:  inexpensive high AND low tech gadgets you‘ll definitely want to know about. 

 

We‘ve also got our Crime Prevention 101 True Crime Reporter, Tricia Griffith, from Websleuths.com, to talk about the cases that are hot on the forums this week.  

 

It’d be a crime not to listen!

Topic: He Plays the Bad Guys...Oh, So Good!
Subject: He Plays the Bad Guys...Oh, So Good! - Posted: 4/26/2010 9:30:49 AM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

Air Date: 4/29/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

 

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

This week‘s show is a little change of pace.  First up, I‘ve got a really entertaining guest for you, former NYPD cop Ralph Squillante (a/k/a Squiggy), who became an award-winning actor by playing the bad guys oh, so good.  He‘s hysterically funny, totally honest about his associations with the wise guys and he‘s got real insight into what makes those bad guys bad! 

 

Next, I‘ll be talking with … ME!!!!  I‘ve got crime updates for you, great personal safety products you‘ll want to know about and lots of crime prevention tips. 

 

We’re going to start off the show, as usual, with our Crime Prevention 101 True Crime Report, featuring Tricia Griffiths from Websleuths.com, who’s going to tell us what cases people are talking about this week on the Forums.

 

And, last but not least, we‘ve got our "Let’s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy.  Tonight, I’ll be speaking with Darlene Cusanza, Executive Director of the Greater New Orleans Crime Stoppers, and we‘ll find out about the tremendous job they‘re doing after Hurricane Katrina and what the crime landscape is down there these days.

It’d be a crime not to listen!


Topic: Looking for Radio Show Callins who‘d like to speak with crime victim, survivor and thriver Mary Jo Buttafuco
Subject: Looking for Radio Show Callins who‘d like to speak with crime victim, survivor and thriver Mary Jo Buttafuco - Posted: 4/30/2010 11:23:51 AM

I‘m looking for callins who‘d like to speak with crime victim, survivor and thriver Mary Jo Buttafuco on my Crime Prevention 101 radio show on VoiceAmerica.com. 

 Would you like to know why she stayed with her then-husband Joey Buttafuco for so many years, despite the fact that his affair with the LI Lolita was responsible for Mary Jo being shot?  Would you like to ask her how she survived all the media hoopla?  Ask her any questions you‘d like! 

 The show airs this Thursday 5/6/10 from 8-9pm eastern.  Please e-mail me @ solutions@fightsafe.com with the subject line: "Mary Jo" along with your email address, daytime phone number(s).  A producer will call you to set up your time for your call. 

 Listen to previous shows at http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306 to ensure your comfort level with the show.

 

 


Topic: Getting It Through Her Thick Skull! Interview with Mary Jo Buttafuoco
Subject: Getting It Through Her Thick Skull! Interview with Mary Jo Buttafuoco - Posted: 5/4/2010 9:42:22 AM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

Air Date: 5/06/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

CALL IN WITH QUESTIONS OR COMMENTS:  1-866-472-5788

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

Mary Jo Buttafuoco’s anonymous life as a suburban housewife and mother of two in sleepy Massapequa, NY ended on May 19, 1992, when she was shot in the head on her front porch by 17-year-old Amy Fisher, who‘d been having an affair with Mary Jo‘s then-husband Joey. 

The sensational trial that followed, dubbed the "Long Island Lolita" saga, sparked a media frenzy that hasn‘t fully died out to this day.  And, all the while, Mary Jo steadfastly stood by her man, even as the name Buttafuoco became a national punchline and Joey and Amy continued to make outlandish headlines. 

Why did she stay for so long, we all asked?   Mary Jo answers this question and more in her new book, Getting It Through My Thick Skull, and I‘ll be talking with her about what happened, what she‘s learned and the happy ending she‘s finally found for herself.  You‘re not going to want to miss this interview and you can call in with questions or comments @ 1-866-472-5788.

Our True Crime Report this week features Pulitzer-nominated investigative journalist and blogger Caitlin Rother, from InColdBlog.com, talking about the her book Body Parts which takes a psychological look at the life of Wayne Adam Ford, a long-haul trucker who killed four women, dismembered two of them, then did the rare deed of turning himself in to authoritieswith his latest victim‘s breast in his pocket!  

And, we‘ve got our "Let’s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy.  Tonight, I’ll be speaking with Larry Wieda, former president of Crime Stoppers International, about how they catch those international crooks. 

It’d be a crime not to listen!


Topic: Bullying: A Different Approach to Prevent It
Subject: Bullying: A Different Approach to Prevent It - Posted: 5/18/2010 1:28:12 PM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 5/20/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

On January 14, an attractive, vibrant 15-year-old named Phoebe Prince was found hanging in the stairwell of her house -- the result of repeated verbal taunts, cyber bullying and physical threats from several of her high school classmates in the small New England town of South Hadley, MA.  This week, I‘ll be talking more about the topic of bullying with school psychologist and psychotherapist Israel Kalman, from Bullies to Buddies, about his unusual but highly successful bully-prevention methods. 

 

Kalman also says it‘s not a school‘s fault if there‘s bullying in the school; and, in a recent blog article for Psychology Today, he even supported the efforts of the much-maligned high school in South Hadley, MA where Phoebe Prince attended.  Can‘t wait to hear what he has to say on this topic! 

 

Our True Crime Report this week features horror author, filmmaker and notorious true crime comic book publisher Hart D. Fisher, who blogs on the InColdBlog site.  We‘re going to talk about the brutal rape and murder of the woman he refers to as his first love and his heroic and continuing efforts to ensure that not only was the killer was caught and convicted but that he‘ll remain in jail for life.

 

And, last but not least, we‘ve got our "Let‘s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy.  Tonight, I‘ll be speaking with Lt. Albert Anderson, Coordinator of the  Nassau County Crime Stoppers, Long Island, NY and maybe we can help them catch a criminal! 

It’d be a crime not to listen!


Topic: Human Trafficking: What It Is and One Amazing Thing We Can Do About It! -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Human Trafficking: What It Is and One Amazing Thing We Can Do About It! -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 5/24/2010 10:27:51 AM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 5/27/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes

I read an article a few weeks ago that absolutely floored me and I knew I had to talk about this on the show.   It was such a simple idea:  flight attendants who are trained to recognize signs of the horrific crime of human trafficking on international and domestic flights.  This came about through the work of dedicated flight attendant, Sandra Fiorini, who flies for American Airlines, and hooked up with Deborah Sigmund, founder and Executive Director of Innocents at Risk, an organization whose purpose is to raise awareness about and promote ways to stop human trafficking.  I‘m talking with both of them on the show tonight and you‘re going to be amazed by this story.

 

Our True Crime Report this week features writer Pete Kotz, editor of the True Crime Report blogsite.  We‘re talking about the case of Elizabeth Mandala, a high school student (and part-time stripper) who wanted to earn some extra income by smuggling illegals in the country…and ended up dead.  Like who woulda thought this occupation might be dangerous! 

 

Our "Let‘s Catch a Criminal" segment, where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week, will return next week. 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Why isn‘t choking someone automatically a crime?
Subject: Why isn‘t choking someone automatically a crime? - Posted: 6/2/2010 4:20:50 PM

Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 6/03/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

In New York State (and too many others as well), compressing someone‘s neck and cutting off air flow (i.e. choking them) is not considered an assault unless there‘s evidence that the victim suffered physical injury.  In fact, the choker is often only charged with harassment and isn‘t even arrested. 

 

This week, I‘m discussing the so-called "Choking Loophole" in the law with crusading DA Joseph Hynes from Brooklyn, NY and Warren County DA Kathleen Hogan, who‘s also President of the NYS District Attorneys Association...and the bill that‘s been introduced in the NYS Legislature to close the holes.  If your state also has this loophole, you don‘t want to miss this show.  

 

Next, I‘ll be talking with Self Defense Instructor Joanne Factor, from Strategic Living in Seattle, WA about techniques that are effective if you‘re being choked.  Joanne was voted "Best Feminist Butt-kicker of 2007" by the Seattle Weekly.  Find out why! 

 

Our True Crime Report features former police officer Stacy Dittrich, from Justice Interrupted who‘s the author of Murder Behind the Badge:  True Stories of Cops Who Kill and the much-praised, fictional CeeCee Gallagher detective series.   

 

And, last but not least, we‘ve got our "Let‘s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy.  Tonight, I‘ll be speaking with Det. Michael Martinez of the Albuquerque Metro Crime Stoppers.  Let‘s help them catch a criminal! 

 

 IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Video of Choking Self Defense Techniques
Subject: Video of Choking Self Defense Techniques - Posted: 6/4/2010 1:15:50 PM

Hope you got a chance to listen to my Crime Prevention 101 radio show on 6/3/10 about the need for strong "choking/strangulation" laws ... particularly in an domestic violence situation.

If not here‘s a link:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vepisode.aspx?aid=46689

and here‘s a link to the video my guest, self defense expert Joanne Factor, from the Strategic Living group in Seattle, made to accompany the show of some of the techniques we talked about.  A must see!

http://www.strategicliving.org/ChokeReleases.htm 

 

 

 


Topic: Hollering Back Against Street Harassment: What It Is and Some Simple Things We Can Do About It! -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Hollering Back Against Street Harassment: What It Is and Some Simple Things We Can Do About It! -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 6/7/2010 1:28:29 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 6/10/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

It doesn’t just occur when women pass by a construction site or a group of men hanging out in front of a store.  Simply by being in ANY public place, women can be subjected to behavior that ranges from the merely annoying (catcalls, whistles, references to body parts) to the downright terrifying (public exposure, public masturbation, threats of rape).  It’s called street harassment and it happens pretty much all over the world. 

This week, I‘m interviewing national street harassment expert Holly Kearl, author of the upcoming book Stop Street Harassment:  Making Public Places Safe and Welcoming for Women for a definitive look at this problem.  She runs the website Stop Street Harassment and the companion blog where people from around the world submit their street harassment stories and where she discusses street harassment incidents that make the news.

Then I speak with Chai Shenoy and Shannon Lynberg, co-founders of Holla Back DC which is part of a worldwide grassroots organization that aims to empower people to build a community free from public sexual harassment and assault.  Trust me; they offer a very unique way to effectively “holla back” at your harassers. 

You’ll also learn some awareness and prevention skills and simple verbal responses to street harassment that’ll increase your chances of staying safe in these situations, when I speak with self defense instructor Lauren Taylor, from Defend Yourself, who‘s also based in Washington, DC. 

 

 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!

 


Topic: Independence vs. Safety: A Delicate Balancing Act For Kids & Parents
Subject: Independence vs. Safety: A Delicate Balancing Act For Kids & Parents - Posted: 6/16/2010 2:24:44 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 6/17/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

If you have young children, what are the scariest decisions you‘ll ever have to make?  I believe it‘s those decisions that involve balancing your children‘s need for independence and freedom with concerns about their personal safety and well being. 

 

A new childrearing philosophy that‘s gaining followers describes today‘s typical parents as invasive helicopters, always hovering about their kids, or as snowplows, trying to remove all obstacles from the path to adulthood, and states that kids are being smothered by concerns about germs, diseases, childhood injuries and what‘s been termed as really remote personal safety dangers.  This last part really gives me pause.

 

Tonight, I‘m speaking with Irene van der Zande, co-founder of the worldwide self defense organization, Kidpower, who says that reasonable precautions AND self defense skills empower children and provide them with the tools to enjoy their lives and not live an unnecessarily restricted, neurotic and fearful existence.  Plus, she‘s got great tips for parents on what to teach your children about personal safety. 

Our True Crime Report features Edgar-winning author  Burl Barer, who blogs on the InColdBlog site.  We‘re talking about his book, Mom Said Kill, the horrifying true story of how a bizarre and twisted mother turned her children and their friends into stone cold killers -- and then rewarded them for their crime. This is quite a tale.

 

Last, but not least, we‘ve got our "Let‘s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy. 

 

This week, I‘ll be speaking with Janice Van Houten, Program Coordinator of the Boise Area Crime Stoppers. 

 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Trial By Jury: In Search of the Truth! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Trial By Jury: In Search of the Truth! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 6/23/2010 10:07:55 AM

Air Date: 6/24/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Have you ever heard a verdict in a case that left you scratching your head and asking where did they find the bunch of idiots who were on THAT jury?  Rapists set free!  Murderers sentenced to only a few years in prison!  An award of millions simply for being burnt by hot coffee! 

 

Well, I‘m done scratching my head.  Got my first real glimpse of the jury selection process a few weeks ago and have a much better understanding of how these seemingly insane decisions can happen.  In fact, NOW I‘m wondering how any jury actually makes what I consider to be the right decision!  To help me figure all this out, I‘m speaking with Dr. Kathy Kellermann, a nationally-known trial consultant and an expert on jury profiling.  We‘ll be talking about the effectiveness of the jury system, what attorneys look for when selecting jurors and what factors sway juries one way or the other. 

 

Tales from the Jury Box

 

Then you‘ll hear from some people who‘ve had very interesting experiences on jury duty including a woman who served for six months on the second Tyco trial (which involved more than $600 million in grand larceny, securities fraud and enterprise corruption charges against the company‘s top officials); and, a woman who blew the whistle on a tainted jury with unexpected results.  I‘ll be telling my jury duty story too--about not being picked for what would‘ve been a very spicy murder case.  How could they not have wanted me??? 

 

Our True Crime Report features horror film maker and Renaissance man Hart D. Fisher, who blogs on the True Crime site InColdBlog, back for a second appearance.  We‘re talking about his upcoming book--the story of a hardened gangbanger who‘s turning his life around and how he‘s doing it.  We like that!!

 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Overcoming Tragedy and Facing Life’s Challenges by Making a Difference! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Overcoming Tragedy and Facing Life’s Challenges by Making a Difference! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 6/30/2010 3:53:44 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 7/01/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Susan Murphy-Milano:  Surviving Abusive Relationships

 

No one should ever have to face what my guest this week, Family Violence Activist and Prevention Specialist Susan Murphy Milano, has faced...finding her mother murdered and her father dead by suicide.  Learn how this courageous woman‘s life changed that day and how she‘s helped thousands of women avoid a fate like her mother‘s.    

 

And, find out what you can do to escape an abusive relationship with important information from her new book Time‘s Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships.

 

 

She Wasn‘t Even Supposed to Walk…Now She‘s a Black Belt!

 

Then I speak with Sheila Radziewicz, from Salem, MA, who was born without arms or kneecaps.  She wasn‘t even supposed to live, let alone walk; but she not only defied those odds, she just received her black belt in Tae Kwon Do! 

 

Now working as an advocate for victims of domestic violence at Healing Abuse Working for Change (HAWC), in Salem, MA, she‘s a warrior and nobody‘s victim.  Don‘t miss her exceptional story.  

 

The Crime Report

 

We‘ll start the show off with Steve Handelman, former columnist, foreign correspondent and senior writer for Time Magazine.  He‘s now the Editor-in-Chief of The Crime Report, a comprehensive news, multimedia information and networking resource on crime and justice, for those who want to probe beyond the daily crime headlines and political rhetoric.

 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Crime @ the Beach: Solving Your Summer Reading Dilemma. Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Crime @ the Beach: Solving Your Summer Reading Dilemma. Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 7/7/2010 12:35:33 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 7/08/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

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Hot town, summer in the city….Back of my neck getting dirty and gritty.  Perfect weather for going to the beach or lounging by the pool or just curling up somewhere in the shade with something great to read.  I’m finally going to get away for a long vacation, but I have a dilemma; I still don’t know what books (NOT a Kindle-er) I’m going to take with me.  Maybe you also have the same dilemma?

 

So, I thought I’d invite some of my favorite guest authors to come back on the show, as well as some authors whose books sounded interesting to me, and maybe they can help me put my reading list together. Whatever your taste, I‘ve got a great lineup of guests for you.  If it‘s hot where you are, spend a refreshing hour with me, as we take a dip into the LITERARY pool tonight. 

 

Have a great summer; catch up on past Crime Prevention 101 shows via iTunes; and we‘ll see you in the Fall.

 

First up, we‘ve got former prosecutor and TV crime analyst Robin Sax talking about the Joran van der Sloot case and THE COMPLETE IDIOT‘S GUIDE TO THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM. 

 

Then, journalist Candace Dempsey gives us a front row seat at the lurid Amanda Knox trial in MURDER IN ITALY. 

 

Next, the devilish Burl Barer discusses THE SAINT; and Caitlin Rother speaks about her NAKED ADDICTION. 

 

Have a great summer; catch up on past shows via iTunes; and we‘ll see you in the Fall.

 

 


Topic: Flight Attendants On the Front Line to Spot Human Trafficking -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 92910
Subject: Flight Attendants On the Front Line to Spot Human Trafficking -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show 92910 - Posted: 9/28/2010 12:23:48 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 9/29/10 @ 7pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

Such a simple idea:  flight attendants who are trained to recognize signs of the horrific crime of human trafficking on international and domestic flights.  I mean, who better to serve as the eyes and ears of homeland security than airline personnel! 

Back in May, 2010, I first talked about the work of American Airlines flight attendant Sandra Fiorini, who, in conjunction with Deborah Sigmund from Innocents at Risk, had been informally raising awareness among her fellow flight attendants to this ever growing problem.  Since then, due to their efforts, and with assistance from Nancy Rivard from the Airline Ambassadors International humanitarian aid organization, American has stepped up to the plate and will be offering this training to all its flight attendants.  You‘re going to be inspired by this story and I can‘t wait to have them back to talk about this and other exciting developments. 

 And, if you missed the earlier show, check it out here:  Human Trafficking: What It Is and One Amazing Thing We Can Do About It!  

 

 

And, last but not least, we‘ve got our "Let‘s Catch a Criminal" segment where I feature a different US Crime Stoppers group each week and maybe we can help them catch a bad guy.   Tonight, I‘ll be speaking with Jaime Deal, Executive Director of the Crime Stoppers of San Juan County, NM...the second oldest Crime Stoppers group in the nation. 

 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!

 


Topic: Crime Prevention with McGruff the Crime Dog - & - Financial Literacy for Domestic Violence Victims -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Sh
Subject: Crime Prevention with McGruff the Crime Dog - & - Financial Literacy for Domestic Violence Victims -- Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Sh - Posted: 10/12/2010 2:07:44 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 10/13/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Crime Prevention with McGruff the Crime Dog

 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month AND Crime Prevention Awareness Month, so this week, I‘m speaking with the National Crime Prevention Council about the "new look" for McGruff the Crime Dog (you heard it here first, folks!) and their campaign for Crime Prevention Awareness Month.   You‘ll also get to hear their very informative PSAs, which will now be aired every week on the show.

Financial Literacy for Domestic Violence Survivors

Next, I talk about financial empowerment for domestic violence survivors with guests David Anderson of the national financial literacy program WI$E  and financial planner Anja Luesk, co-chair of the Pro Bono Division of the NY Chapter of the National Financial Planning Association and Denise Allen, a survivor who‘s gone on to thrive and now helps others design survival strategies.

This is a critical topic where domestic violence and abuse is concerned, because it‘s almost impossible for someone to even CONTEMPLATE leaving an abusive relationship--or not returning to their abuser as so many do--if they don‘t have the economic resources to survive on their own and take care of their family.  Got lots of great information and resources for you in this segment!

Empire Gives Back:  Beauty Salons Against Domestic Abuse

Finally, back again for the third year, are my friends from the Empire Beauty Group, a supporter of the awesome CUT IT OUT: Salons Against Domestic Abuse Program  through which hairdressers are trained to spot the signs of domestic violence in their clientele and how to help. 

 We‘re also going to be talking about the Empire Gives Back Program and some of the wonderful things their instructors and operators are doing at shelters and other domestic violence programs. 

IT’D BE A CRIME NOT TO LISTEN!


Topic: Hero Cop - & - Help for Bullying Victims - & - Stop the Use of Rape as a Tactic of War: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Hero Cop - & - Help for Bullying Victims - & - Stop the Use of Rape as a Tactic of War: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 10/26/2010 6:46:15 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 10/27/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Kathy Burke Hero Cop:  Starting off the show, I‘m speaking with hero NYPD detective Kathy Burke, who, though barely 5‘2" tall, joined the force in 1968 when only 1% of the police department was female; served 23 yearsand became one of its most highly decorated detectives. 

 

Her autobiography, hopefully soon to be made into a movie, Detective: The Inspirational Story of the Trailblazing Woman Cop Who Wouldn‘t Quit chronicles her career in some of the NYPD‘s most elite units; how she survived a shootout while working undercover on a drug bust during which she was gravely wounded and her partner was killed; and how she then doggedly pursued his killers for three years through the criminal justice system to an unsatisfactory and controversial end.  Today, she‘s thriving though and helping other traumatized police officers do the same.  You‘ve got to hear this fascinating, inspiring story.

 

Bullying Prevention:  The tragic suicide of NJ bullying victim Tyler Clementi brings the focus of the show to Bullying Prevention Awareness Month; so this week, I‘m speaking with Irene van der Zande, Director of the international self defense organization, Kidpower, about their new bullying prevention book:  How to Stop Bullying and Harassment:  Skills For Protecting Children, Teens and Adults.  You‘re going to want to run right out and buy it.

 

Rape as a Tactic of War:  UNIFEM‘s Iniatives to End Violence Against Women Worldwide:  Then I shift gears to speak about the use of rape as a tactic of war with Cheryl Benton, President of the NY Metro Chapter of the US National Committee for UNIFEM, which is part of UN Women.  Find out what UNIFEM is doing about this horrific situation, which has affected hundreds of thousands of women and girls, and it‘s iniatives to end violence against women all over the world.  And, find out how YOU can get involved in the effort too!   

We‘re loaded with woman-power this week…and it‘d be a crime NOT to listen!


Topic: WATCHing the Courts - & - Bullied for Religion - & - Convict Comedian: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: WATCHing the Courts - & - Bullied for Religion - & - Convict Comedian: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 11/8/2010 2:18:27 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 11/10/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

WATCHing the Courts:  After my experience almost serving on jury duty this past summer, I‘m convinced that public scrutiny of the courts is essential to ensure fairness and put a spotlight on racial, cultural or gender bias. 

 

Court monitoring groups exist all over the country to keep a watchful eye and create an informed and involved public, so I thought that this week I‘d talk about this.  I‘ll be interviewing Marna Anderson, Executive Director of the WATCH monitoring program in Minneapolis, MN, about what‘s involved in court monitoring.   Find out how you can get involved or start your own program. 

 

Bullied Because of Religion:  Next, I take another look at bullying; this week from the perspective of people who are bullied because of their religion. 

 

Religious attacks and religious bullying is a pertinent issue in NYC, particularly, right now because of a controversial proposal to build an Islamic cultural center and mosque in the shadow of Ground Zero; but this kind of bullying exists all over the country.  I‘m speaking with NYC Councilwoman Helen Diane Foster and a member of her African Muslim Teen Council about the problem and what‘s being done about it here in NYC. 

Convict Comedian:   speak with career criminal Felon O‘Reilly (yes, that‘s a stage  name),   who was arrested 73 times, incarcerated 7 times and who‘s now  doing standup   comedy routines at correctional facilities and drug treatment programs all over   the country.   

 

  He‘s extremely funny and very poignant and brings a message of hope that a life   of crime can be turned around -- mixed in with the humor.  Laugh a little with us   this week!

Topic: The Thrilling Detective - & - Shop Safely - Prevent ID Theft (Plus Shopping Mall Safety Tips and Great Gift Suggestions): Upcoming Crime Pr
Subject: The Thrilling Detective - & - Shop Safely - Prevent ID Theft (Plus Shopping Mall Safety Tips and Great Gift Suggestions): Upcoming Crime Pr - Posted: 11/23/2010 2:26:10 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 11/24/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

 

The Thrilling Detective.  To start us off, I visit with Kevin Burton Smith, creator of The Thrilling Detective (www.thrillingdetective.com) website, one of the largest, longest-running and most popular sites dedicated to detective fiction on the internet, where you can shop for that special person in your life who likes to read (or watch) good crime fiction.    My favorite kind of reading ... and this website had me drooling. 

Prevent ID Theft:  Shop Safely.  Next up, what do Oprah Winfrey, Paris Hilton, Tiger Woods, Ted Turner and even Franklin Delano Roosevelt have in common?  All these famous people (and many, many more) have had their identity stolen or been victims of credit card fraud. 

Identity theft is a huge and growing problem and since November is the start of the holiday shopping season--beginning with Black Friday and then Cyber Monday--I‘m speaking with Paige Pederson from LifeLock (www.lifelock.com), the identity theft prevention company, discussing what you can do to protect yourself from this scourge and what to do if you‘ve been victimized.  Now, you‘ll be able to buy all that crime fiction safely!

 

Shopping Mall Safety plus Great Gift Suggestions:  But wait, there‘s more:  Be sure to stick around for my safety tips for shopping in malls with young children.  I‘ve also got some great gift suggestions for you (crime prevention-oriented) that you‘re gonna love!

Topic: Former Criminals Who are Giving Back - & - Holiday Gift Suggestions: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Former Criminals Who are Giving Back - & - Holiday Gift Suggestions: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 12/7/2010 10:51:37 AM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 12 /08/10 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

December is the month for redemption and renewal, and tonight, I’m speaking with three former criminals who are now giving back to society.

A Street Soldier‘s March Towards Redemption.  To start us off, I visit with DaShaun Jiwe Morris, a top leader of the infamous Bloods gang.  Once known on the mean streets of Newark, NJ, as Machete, he now lectures nationally against gang violence and set up a foundation to help young members of the Bloods avoid a life of crime, incarceration and maybe even death. 

He’s the author of War of the Bloods in My Veins:  A Street Soldier‘s March Towards Redemption, one of the stars in the Reality TV show Brick City and has a fascinating story to tell. 

Reality Check Time.  Next up, I speak with Larry Lawton, who, in 1996, went into the criminal justice system a really bad guy, convicted of racketeering, armed robbery and jewel theft.   After spending 11 years later in some of the toughest federal prisons in the country, where he was tortured for speaking up about prison abuse, he came out a changed man.  

In 2007, he founded the Reality Check Program, based Palm Bay, FL, which give kids going down the wrong path a life-changing glimpse into prison life and has positively affected thousands of troubled youngsters.   Larry’s appeared on the Daily Show with Jon Stewart, the Huckabee show and many more and he’s been a guest on Crime Prevention 101 several times.

The True Meaning of Freedom:  And, last you‘ll meet Alan Gompers, a former Wall Street hotshot who betrayed family and friends in the process of making -- and losing -- several fortunes; and ended up serving 15 years for selling drugs.  While in a maximum security prison, he experienced a spiritual transformation that changed the course of his life.

Author of Maximum Security:  The True Meaning of Freedom, he now mentors at-risk youth, serves as an expert on criminal recidivism and is a highly sought after lecturer on  self actualization and how to find true peace and contentment. 

Great Holiday Gift Suggestions:  Be sure to stick around til the end of the show, because I‘ve got some great holiday gift suggestions for you—with a crime prevention point of view—to help you stuff those stockings.


Topic: Stalking: Resources, Tips and an Underused Tool that Saves Lives! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Stalking: Resources, Tips and an Underused Tool that Saves Lives! Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 1/12/2011 3:38:56 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 1/12/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

January is National Stalking Awareness Month.

The True Meaning of Freedom:  And, last you‘ll meet Alan Gompers, a former Wall Street hotshot who betrayed family and friends in the process of making -- and losing -- several fortunes; and ended up serving 15 years for selling drugs.  While in a maximum security prison, he experienced a spiritual transformation that changed the course of his life.

Author of Maximum Security:  The True Meaning of Freedom, he now mentors at-risk youth, serves as an expert on criminal recidivism and is a highly sought after lecturer on  self actualization and how to find true peace and contentment. 

National Stalking Resource Center.  Next up, I speak with Rebecca Dreke from the Stalking Resource Center about what stalking is, what resources are available for victims and ways to observe National Stalking Awareness Month.

Orders of Protection with GPS Enhancement.  Last up, I talk with Bonnie Russell, founder and director of the Family Law Courts organization about Orders of Protection that have a GPS enhancement--an underused, lifesaving tool that every stalking and domestic violence victim should know about. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qhOrh1_Oa3c

And be sure to stick around til the end, because I‘ve got some suggestions for you about what to do if you’re in a stalking situation to get help and to protect yourself. 

Topic: The Biggest Case of ID Theft in American History; The Biker Minister; and a Personal Safety Product You‘re Going to Love: Upcoming Crime Pr
Subject: The Biggest Case of ID Theft in American History; The Biker Minister; and a Personal Safety Product You‘re Going to Love: Upcoming Crime Pr - Posted: 1/24/2011 7:12:25 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 1/26/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

January is Personal Safety Awareness Month.

 

First up, I speak with reformed drug dealer Ron Kari, who‘s now an actor (you can currently see him on the Sons of Anarchy TV show on FX), a sober companion body guard to the stars and a biker minister!  

 

We‘re going to talk about his criminal past, his jailhouse religious conversion and his amazing prison "healing" ministries that have affected hundreds of hard core prisoners. 

 

It‘s an intriguing story of drugs, bikes and the Holy Spirit.  Don‘t miss this one!

Next:  Recently-convicted hacker Albert Gonzalez (known as Soupnazi, among other names) assembled a crew that was responsible for the theft of more than 130 million credit and debit card numbers--the largest case of identity theft in American history--all the while working as a government informant!  And, the government says that the full extent of his thefts is still unknown to them because the case is still unraveling. 

 

Tonight, I‘m speaking with Identity theft prevention specialist Paige Pederson, from the LifeLock company, about this shocking case and it‘s implications for all of us.   

 

Last up, in observance of Personal Safety Awareness Month, I speak with actress/stuntwoman/self defense teacher Spice Williams-Crosby about a really neat personal safety device -- the Kitty Kat Key Guard -- you‘re absolutely going to love. 

 

 We‘ve got somr simple self defense tips for you and you can find many more on her website www.ifightformylife.com as well as on her highly informative I FIGHT FOR MY LIFE! web TV show

Topic: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/8/2011 7:11:53 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 2/09/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

 

 

Surviving the Mob.  For a change of pace, I start us off by speaking with infamous mob informant  Andrew DiDonato, who began his career in the Mafia at the age of 17 and  walked away from it in 1996 as a despised informant and fugitive.  The story of his life is called Surviving the Mob:  A Street Soldier‘s Life in the Gambino Crime Family, co-authored with famous crime writer Dennis Griffin.  It‘s a fascinating but cautionary tale of the harsh realities of the life of a mob soldier who‘s been marked for death, but -- so far -- has lived to tell the tale.  

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.  The rate of date rape and dating violence among high school and college kids has skyrocketed nationwide and it‘s time to stop downplaying the issue because the consequences affect not only the young victims but their families, friends, schools and communities.  A recent study by the Liz Claiborne Foundation, which produced the free Love Is Not Abuse curriculum for schools, found that 1/3 of all teens have experienced physical, emotional or verbal abuse by a dating partner. 

February has been designated Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month and under this banner, organizations and individuals nationwide are calling attention to the devastation this abuse causes and to the directive that young people must be educated about unhealthy relationships and taught healthy relationship skills.  On tonight‘s show, I‘m exploring this incredibly important issue with Cristina Escobar from the National Resource Center for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.  

 

Safe Dating Tips.  I‘ll also be speaking with safe dating coach Dari Dyrness-Olsen, author  of Safe Dating for College Women, who is also NJ State Coordinator for  the Love Is  Not Abuse Teen Dating Violence Prevention Curriculum.  She recently testified before the New Jersey State Senate about the groundbreaking Safe Dating Law which would mandate the NJ Board of Education to address dating violence in the Health Curriculum at every level school of the NJ school system and develop dating violence training materials to be posted on its website.  Be sure to listen for the signs of dating violence every parent should know about and tips for how teens can get out of an abusive relationship safely. 

Topic: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/10/2011 2:43:13 PM
It‘s one of the points we brought up during the show.  However, they are dating -- earlier and earlier -- and not prepared for what "dating" really is.  Education is critically important because they are willing to accept unacceptable behavior and unhealthy behavior because they don‘t know any better.

Topic: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/11/2011 9:26:30 AM

I totally agree with you!  I‘m horrified at what I see teens (both girls and boys) exposed to and I do think it‘s the parents responsibility.  But, often enough, the parents don‘t know any better or don‘t care or are in unhealthy relationships themselves.  Ever see a reality TV show called Toddlers and Tiaras?  Horrifying!  And, it‘s the parents who are goading these little girls on.

 

Personally, I‘m NOT sure most teens really do know better.  Teachers who work with the healthy dating curriculums that ARE around (like Love is Not Abuse )give grave reports about what these kids don‘t know.  But, these curriculums do reach some kids; do save some kids -- despite what they see around them at home and in the media (movies, magazines etc).  That‘s why I keep doing these radio shows.

 

Did you happen to catch the show?  If not, I‘ll post the link.  And thanks for your very perceptive comments.


Topic: Link to Crime Prevention 101 Radio show on Teen Dating Violence
Subject: Link to Crime Prevention 101 Radio show on Teen Dating Violence - Posted: 2/11/2011 9:48:51 AM

This show has caused a lot of talk.  If you missed it live, you can check it out here:

 

http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306


Topic: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/14/2011 11:24:06 AM
My feelings exactly.  We MUST continue to provide guidance and information (perhaps to the parents as well!!)

Topic: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Teen Dating Violence Epidemic - & - Surviving the Mob: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/15/2011 8:51:58 AM
That is a really beautiful quote!  Parents should hang it on their bathroom mirrors or some place like that.

Topic: True Crime Writers and Bloggers - & - Support for Homicide Survivors: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: True Crime Writers and Bloggers - & - Support for Homicide Survivors: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/23/2011 3:16:03 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 2/23/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes 

Many, many people are interested in true crime stories.  Kind of like a car wreck, we don‘t want to see a tragedy but we can‘t look away.  It‘s human nature!  We watch crime shows and read books about murders and missing persons.  We sympathize with victims and maybe even try to solve the crimes ourselves. 

 

Tonight, Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone interviews one of the best crime writers around, Denny Griffin, author of Surviving the Mob, and then speaks with well-known statement analyst and crime blogger Peter Hyatt to find out about what‘s going on in the crime blogosphere. 

 

Then she speaks with Dora Larsen, co-founder of the Support for Survivors of Homicide advocacy group, an important resource for people who’ve suffered the loss of a family member. 

 

And, lastly, she’s got a great personal safety product to tell you about—a backpack equipped with a siren alarm and flashing lights to foil abductions, bullying attacks or even just getting lost in the mall. 


Topic: True Crime Writers and Bloggers - & - Support for Homicide Survivors: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: True Crime Writers and Bloggers - & - Support for Homicide Survivors: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 2/23/2011 6:03:52 PM

It‘s really a great item and there are designs for adults as well.  Here‘s a video of the product - you‘ll see why I like it so much.

 

http://hubpages.com/hub/iSafe-Backpacks-and-Bags


Topic: Susan on Tomatoes in the Trenches Radio Show - 3/2/11
Subject: Susan on Tomatoes in the Trenches Radio Show - 3/2/11 - Posted: 3/3/2011 10:50:12 AM

Had a great time appearing on the Tomatoes in the Trenches radio show  on BlogTalkRadio yesterday.  I talked about the top 10 things you can do to keep yourself safe and about how to head off catastrophic budget cuts to services for sexual assault and domestic violence survivors.

If you missed it, you can listen below:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/tomatoesinthetrenches/2011/03/02/tomatoes-in-the-trenches

 


Topic: Catching a Serial Killer - & - Eye Witness Testimony: How Reliable Is It? - & - True Crime Blogs: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Sho
Subject: Catching a Serial Killer - & - Eye Witness Testimony: How Reliable Is It? - & - True Crime Blogs: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Sho - Posted: 3/8/2011 12:26:09 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 3/09/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1306

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes

True Crime Blogs.  Tonight we dip once more into the true crime blogosphere as I speak with Bonnie Kernene, from Bonnie‘s Blog of Crime, to discuss some of the high profile cases everyone is buzzing about.  I love Bonnie‘s Blog because the posts are intelligent and well-thought out and very readable.  Think you will too.

Catching a Serial Killer:  Then I‘m talking with Jeannie McDonough, whose heroic story is told in the new book, Caught in the Act: A Courageous Family‘s Fight to Save Their Daughter from a Serial Killer, written by Paul Lonardo which was recently featured on CBS‘s 48 Hours.  This is an amazing story.  On July 30, 2007, Chelmsford, MA residents Jeannie and Kevin McDonough were awakened at 4:00AM by strange noises coming from their 15-year-old daughter Shea‘s bedroom.  When they went to check on her, they discovered a hulking figure dressed in black hovering over her, holding a knife to her throat.  The book tells the story what happened after that moment.  Can‘t wait for you to hear what they did!

 

 Eye Witness Testimony:  How Reliable Is It?  Then I‘m tackling the touchy subject of the reliability of eye witness testimony   and how it can be manipulated and what can be done to make sure it‘s   dependable.    I‘ve got nationally-known expert on eye witness testimony Jennifer Dysart   on the show to set the record straight on this ... and wait ‘til you hear about   the gorilla in the room that no one saw!  I was there and I still don‘t believe this.  .

Personal Safety Product:  The Storm Whistle.  Lastly, I‘ve got a great personal safety product to tell you about—the Storm Whistle, which is the loudest whistle in the world.   They say it‘s twice as loud as any whistle in the world, can be heard from 50 feet away through doors and walls and even under water.  On their website, they cite a young couple who was being beaten and robbed whose struggle was overheard by a nearby homeowner.  The homeowner blew the whistle WHILE INSIDE HER HOME and scared the muggers away.  Neighborhood Watch programs anyone!!! 

 

                        


Topic: Crime Victims, Know Your Rights & Electronic Pickpocketing: How to Protect Against It & Pepper Spray: Making Men Cry
Subject: Crime Victims, Know Your Rights & Electronic Pickpocketing: How to Protect Against It & Pepper Spray: Making Men Cry - Posted: 4/7/2011 2:48:46 PM

Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

Air Date: 4/06/11 @ 8pm eastern - VoiceAmerica.com talk radio network

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/53030/if-youve-been-a-victim-of-crime-know-your-rights-and-electronic-pickpocketing-how-to-protect-against

Also available as a podcast on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/CP101itunes

Crime Victims Have Rights…One Listener‘s Story.  An email from a listener prompted the main topic for this week‘s show.  It told how knowing your rights if you‘re a crime victim saved one man more than $100,000 in medical bills.  Since April 10-16 is Crime Victims‘ Rights Week, I knew I had to have her on the show, so tonight I‘m speaking with Forensic Nurse Bridget Maybury about how she helped her brother navigate the NYS Victim Compensation Program.  And, listen good, because all 50 states have similar programs!

 

State Victim Compensation Programs.  Then, I talk with Tina Stanford, Director of the NYS Office of Victim Services, the state department that oversees crime victim services.  We‘ll be speaking about how the New York State victim compensation program operates, what your rights are if you‘re a crime victim and what you‘re entitled to receive compensation for.  Use this information to get an idea of what your own state might offer.

 

Electronic Pickpocketing.  Next I talk with Identity Theft Prevention Specialist Paige Pederson, from LifeLock, about the new wrinkle in ID fraud--electronic pickpocketing.  Now, an electronically-savvy thief only has to pass next to you to steal your credit card numbers!  We‘re going to speak about that this is and how to protect yourself from it.

 

Pepper Spray:  Making Men Cry for Years.  And, last up, find out how pepper spray, an extremely effective personal safety product, really does help deter crime!  I‘m speaking with Aimee Johnson from SaberRed, one of the best brands out there.  Special Note:  Buy the Pink Pepper Spray and a portion of the purchase price is donated to breast cancer research.


Topic: Erin’s Law for Child Abuse Education - & - Crime Stoppers of Alaska: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Erin’s Law for Child Abuse Education - & - Crime Stoppers of Alaska: Upcoming Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 4/25/2011 2:57:34 PM

Hosted by Susan Bartelstone, Crime Prevention Specialist

 

To Listen:   http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/53259/child-abuse-and-erins-law-special-encore-presentation-in-observance-of-child-abuse-prevention-month

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes: http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

ENCORE PRESENTATION:  April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month, so this week I‘m speaking with Child Abuse Education Advocate Erin Merryn, author of Stolen Innocence, who survived terrible childhood sexual abuse but has gone on to thrive and inspire others.  She‘s going to tell us about Erin‘s Law*, which she‘s trying to get passed in IL and then nationally, so young children will get the kind of information they need to protect themselves from sexual predators while in school. 

 

Also with us is Jill Starishevsky, Assistant DA from the Bronx, NY and author of My Body Belongs to Me, who‘s helping Erin in her efforts and trying to get a similar law passed in NY. 

 

And, last but not least, we’ll try to "catch a criminal" for Anita Shell, from the Crime Stoppers of Anchorage.  Brrr!

 

Show Resources: 

www.anchoragecrimestoppers.com

www.erinmerryn.net

http://erinmerryn.hcibooks.com/

http://www.mybodybelongstome.com

http://www.apa.org/releases/sexabuse/protect.html 

http://www.preventchildabuse.org/index.shtml 

http://www.cfchildren.org/about/ Committee for Children

http://www.nca-online.org

 

*Note:  Since this show originally aired, the Erin‘s Law was passed in IL.  Now the rest of the US!

 

 


Topic: The Surprising Agnes Bermudez Case - & - Lie Detectors: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Surprising Agnes Bermudez Case - & - Lie Detectors: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 5/6/2011 2:05:51 PM

Air Date:  5/04/11 

 

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone

 

Lie Detectors:  How Reliable Are They?  Another piece in the puzzle of getting to the truth in the criminal justice system;  I‘ll be speaking about lie detectors (or polygraphs as they‘re known officially) with experts John Fitzgerald and Karen Colonnello, of The Fitzgerald Group, who‘ve worked on some very high profile cases here in the NY area.  We‘re going to talk about how reliable lie detectors really are in determining innocence or guilt...and how easy it is to "beat" the test!

 

To Listen: http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/53672/getting-to-the-truth-polygraphs-the-agnes-bermudez-case-national-police-week

Missed the live show? Available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

The Agnes Bermudez Case:  A Surprising Verdict.  In 2008, 47-year old Wall Street trader Agnes Bermudez was accused of dousing her 32-year-old carpet cleaner ex-boyfriend, William Salazar, with flammable liquid in a jealous rage and setting him--and the building--on fire.  Three other tenants in the building also died that day; and Bermudez, a beautiful woman, suffered severe, disfiguring burns to her face and upper body.  She claimed self defense and, in 2010, I ALMOST served on the jury that eventually acquitted her.  Tonight I‘m speaking with attorney David McGruder who won that acquittal for her despite overwhelming negative publicity from the media AND a deathbed declaration by the victim about Bermudez‘s guilt.  I‘m going to ask him what factors swayed the jury, despite the media trying the case and finding her guilty ... AND why he didn‘t pick me for the jury.  I mean who wouldn‘t want me on their jury!! 

 

National Police Week:  Remembering Our Fallen Heroes:  According to Concerns of Police Survivors (C.O.P.S.), between 140 and 160 officers are killed in the line of duty every year, leaving their grieving families and police co-workers behind to cope with the loss.  Next up, we‘ll talk about National Police Week, a time of honoring and remembering those brave fallen officers with Craig Floyd, CEO of the National Law Enforcement Officers Memorial Fund, which plays a major role in Police Week activities. 

 

The PortaPocket:  Great Personal Safety Product.  And, last but not least, I‘ve got a great personal safety product -- the PortaPocket -- for you.  No more hiding money in your bra or socks! 

 


Topic: Commemorating Missing Children‘s Day 5/25/11: The Jennifer Kesse Story - & - Bonnie‘s Blog of Crime: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Commemorating Missing Children‘s Day 5/25/11: The Jennifer Kesse Story - & - Bonnie‘s Blog of Crime: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 5/23/2011 1:45:34 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  5/18/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/53975/commemorating-missing-childrens-day-the-jennifer-kesse-story

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Drew Kesse and the Jennifer Kesse Story.  Jennifer Kesse was a beautiful, vibrant, 24-year-old when she vanished from her Orlando home on January 24, 2006.  Despite numerous searches and years of police work, no arrests have been made and Jennifer has never been found.   

 

Since May 25th is National Missing Children‘s Day, I‘m taking a look at this topic on the show and I‘ll be speaking with Drew Kesse, Jennifer‘s father, who said that even if the Florida police and the FBI have given up hope, he never will and he‘s never stopped searching.  He‘s now an influential activist for missing children and be sure to check out his website because it has lots of resources for those families in a similar situation (http://www.kesseonline.com). 

 

Finding the Missing.  Drew Kesse and I will also be talking about a controversial proposal sent to me by a fellow who claims that the US possesses -- RIGHT NOW -- the satellite technology that would watch us all 24/7 to find any missing person and solve most crimes.  Hmmm…what could go wrong with that!!!  I love the idea of finding the missing; but at what cost?  Should be an interesting conversation.

 

Bonnie‘s Blog of Crime:  How Missing Children‘s Day Came About.  Bonnie Kernene, from the informative Bonnie‘s Blog of Crime, is back with us; and we‘re going to talk about the case that inspired Missing Children‘s Day -- the Etan Patz case.  The FBI says there are 800,000 children reported missing each year and we need bloggers like Bonnie to shine a light on them and keep them in our line of sight. 

 

Neat Personal Safety Product; Special Offer for Listeners.  Cool personal safety product to tell you about -- a robot "security guard" billed as the way of the future.  Also, a special offer for Crime Prevention 101 listeners from the folks at DoorDevil

 

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For Resources mentioned on the show, go to www.crimeprevention101.com


Topic: Elder Abuse Awareness Day - & - Internet Safety Month - & - Child Abuse Case: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Elder Abuse Awareness Day - & - Internet Safety Month - & - Child Abuse Case: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 6/7/2011 4:13:25 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  6/01/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/54256/elder-abuse-awareness-day-and-internet-safety-month-child-abuse-case

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Spotlight on Elder Abuse.  The US Senate Special Committee on Aging recently held hearings on elder abuse.  A 90-year old man testified that his step-son withheld food and medicine from him and his wife, verbally abused them and terrorized them so severely that they were virtually prisoners in their own home.   Shockingly, the man testifying was well known actor Mickey Rooney and experts estimate that millions of elder Americans are victims of abuse and neglect every year--many, many, many of them mentally impaired and unable to speak up for themselves.  

 

Since June 17th is World Elder Abuse Awareness Day, I thought I‘d talk with the folks from the National Center on Elder Abuse about this scourge and what we can be do about it.   Important topic.

 

Child Sex Abuse Case.  I‘m also chatting with another of my favorite guests:  Former L.A. sex crimes prosecutor and nationally-known TV commentator Robin Sax drops by to speak about a child abuse case in FL she‘s involved in where everyone seems to have dropped the ball.  You‘ve got to hear about this case; you won‘t believe what happened. 

 

SONY PlayStation Hacked.  Then I chat with another frequent Crime Prevention 101 guest, Identity Theft Prevention Specialist Paige Hanson, from LifeLock, about the massive SONY  Playstation hacking--called the largest security breach in history--which affected possibly up to 100 million subscribers--and we also talk about Internet Safety Month. 

 

Personal Safety Products.  Got two personal safety products I want to tell you about that I think merit a look-see:  LoJack for Laptops from Absolute Software.  Just like for cars!  And, Let‘s B Safe:  A fun, rhyming book that helps parents teach vital safety rules to children about recognizing pedophiles and their lures.  Designed to promote literacy at the same time.  Plus:  When McGruff the Crime Dog‘s Safe Kids Total ID Program is presented in schools and childcare centers, the schools can earn free copies of Let‘s B Safe for classroom libraries and a free all-school safety assembly on either predators, internet safety or bullying.  Great idea!  Contact brenda@letsbsafe.com or call 973.800.3501 for more information on this.

 

SPECIAL OFFER FOR CRIME PREVENTION 101 LISTENERS: Our friends at DoorDevil have extended a special offer for you.  If you‘re in a stalking situation or a domestic violence situation; if your home has been broken into recently or whatever the reason you might have need of a really secure lock for your door, send your story to solutions@fightsafe.com and the folks at DoorDevil will send you a free lock. 

 

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For Resources mentioned on the show, go to www.crimeprevention101.com

 


Topic: Cop Rape Case; Hotel Sexual Assault Case - & - Prison Book Program: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Cop Rape Case; Hotel Sexual Assault Case - & - Prison Book Program: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 6/21/2011 3:41:00 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  6/15/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/54542/cop-rape-case-hotel-sexual-assault-case-and-prison-book-program

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Cop Rape Case; Dominique Strauss-Klein Sexual Assault Case.  The crime news is hotter than the temperature these days and rumors are flying like kites in the breeze, so on the show this week, I talk with my favorite defense attorney David McGruder about the so-called “Cop Rape Case” involving two police officers who were acquitted of raping a young fashion executive DESPITE being convicted of offenses that resulted in ruining their police career and being kicked off the police force.  This acquittal makes no sense AT ALL so David breaks it down for me! 

Then David and I talk about the sexual assault case involving the powerful and influential former head of the International Monetary Fund, Dominique Strauss-Klein, who’s accused of attacking a housekeeper at a very posh NYC hotel.  Boy does this case have some twists and turns and I‘m wondering if it‘s going to be an ATM case (amnesia through money)!

Prison Book Program.  And then, since I’m always looking to feature programs that are making a difference in the prison system I’m delighted to feature the Prison Book Program.  Such a great idea.  Wait til  you hear about this….

Personal Safety Product.  Got some neat personal safety products for you too including a GPS Wristwatch/Cellphone that‘s right out of Dick Tracy!

 

SPECIAL OFFER FOR CRIME PREVENTION 101 LISTENERS: Our friends at DoorDevil have extended a special offer for you.  If you‘re in a stalking situation or a domestic violence situation; if your home has been broken into recently or whatever the reason you might have need of a really secure lock for your door, send your story to solutions@fightsafe.com and the folks at DoorDevil will send you a free lock. 

 

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For Resources mentioned on the show, go to www.crimeprevention101.com


Topic: Crime @ the Beach: Solving Your Summer Reading Dilemma: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Crime @ the Beach: Solving Your Summer Reading Dilemma: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 7/5/2011 2:36:15 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  6/29/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/54856/crime-the-beach-solving-your-summer-reading-dilemma-2011

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Summer in the City.  It‘s summer and the weather is perfect for lounging on the beach with something great to read.  This week, I‘m getting ready for some serious down time but still don‘t know what books to take with me.  So, I‘ve invited some of my favorite authors to come by and maybe they can help us ALL put our summer reading list together.  It‘s hot outside, so let‘s take a refreshing dip in the LITERARY pool this week. 

 

Mob Rules.  First up, we‘ve got former Mafioso Lou Ferrante who writes about the life of a mob soldier in  Unlocked:  The Life and Crimes of a Mafia Insider; and about how businessmen can learn lessons in doing business from the Mob in his new book, Mob Rules: What the Mafia Can Teach the Legitimate Businessman.  Hmmmmm... 

 

Devils and Saints.  My next guest, Burl Barer, writes on his blog that he‘s an Edgar Award winning author, an investigative journalist, a famous broadcaster and television star and well known in movie theaters worldwide--because he puts his feet on the seat in front of him.   All true!

 

What impresses me particularly is that he writes both fiction and non-fiction; his books have been translated into seven languages; and he‘s a NY Times best seller.   He‘s a recurring guest here on Crime Prevention 101 (kinda like a rash), but we always love having him on the show because we never know what he‘s going to do or say.  He‘s also co-host of a true crime radio show, True Crime Uncensored, on OutlawRadio.  Make sure to check out this insanity!

 

Next I put some estrogen into the mix.  Diane Fanning has written 10 true crime books, her latest the the best-selling MOMMY‘S LITTLE GIRL about the Caylee Anthony murder case going on right now in Orlando, FL.  She‘s also written five mystery novels, including the very popular Lucinda Pierce series, and she‘s been featured on every major TV show there is including 48 Hours and 20/20.  I‘m totally jealous and totally a fan.

 

Personal Safety Product.  Got some tips about using wristbands on your young kids if you‘re traveling on vacation or simply going to amusement parks or other entertainment spots.

 

SPECIAL OFFER FOR CRIME PREVENTION 101 LISTENERS:  Our friends at DoorDevil have extended a special offer for you.  If you‘re in a stalking situation or a domestic violence situation; if your home has been broken into recently or whatever the reason you might have need of a really secure lock for your door, send your story to solutions@fightsafe.com and the folks at DoorDevil will send you a free lock. 

 

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For Resources mentioned on the show, go to www.crimeprevention101.com


Topic: Books & Burglars: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Books & Burglars: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 7/19/2011 4:19:58 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone

 

Aired 7/13/11   - To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/55110/are-you-dreaming-of-disneyland-a-luau-on-a-lanai-or-maybe-just-a-long-weekend-getaway-at-the-beach

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

Preventing Burglaries:  Alarms and Strategies.  Are you dreaming of Disneyland? A luau on a lanai?  Or, maybe just a long weekend getaway at the beach reading great books?  Well, according to the FBI, while you‘re at the beach or on vacation someone might very well be sizing up your home for a burglary.  Since July and August particularly are the months when the most burglaries and property crimes take place, this week, I’m talking about home safety and the different types of alarm systems you want to know about with Bob Tucker from ADT Home Security.  I’ve also got great burglary prevention tips for you such as the five best places to hide valuables that most burglars never think of and inexpensive psyche-out strategies that make burglars pause. 

Death Row Diner.  With the weather heating up, we‘re taking another refreshing dip in the literary pool this week, starting with Ty Treadwell and Michelle Vernon whose fascination with the culinary cravings of condemned prisoners led to a delicious book called Last Suppers:  Famous Final Meals from Death Row.  As the authors say:  Do you want fries with that execution?

True Tales of Mobsters, Gamblers, Hit Men and Drug Lords.  I’m also speaking with Ron Chepesiuk, investigative journalist and award-winning author of 25 books, who tells us all about Sgt. Smack and some of the other infamous criminals he’s written about.  He’s also the co-host of a radio show called Crime Beat which offers a front row seat to the comings and going of the Mob and the criminal underworld. 

Personal Safety Product.  Got a great personal safety product for you if you have elderly relatives living on their own.  Very innovative wireless monitoring system from LifeShield:  http://www.lifeshield.com/

 

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For Resources mentioned on the show, go to www.crimeprevention101.com


Topic: After the Lieby Kletzky Murder--Independence vs. Safety For Your Kids: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: After the Lieby Kletzky Murder--Independence vs. Safety For Your Kids: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 8/2/2011 2:17:26 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  7/27/11 

To Listen:  http://bit.ly/crimeprevention101

Also available as a podcast and on iTunes http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

Community Mobilizes to Find Missing Child!  What YOUR Community Can Do.  In mid-July, Lieby Kletzky, a sweet, trusting eight-year old, walking home alone from summer camp for the very first time, was abducted and murdered despite living in the tight-knit NYC Orthodox Jewish community of Borough Park, Brooklyn that‘s regarded as extremely safe. New York City and people all around the world are shocked and grieving, so tonight on Crime Prevention 101, I‘m talking with Rabbi Jack Meyer, of the NYPD‘s Clergy Liaison Unit, who was part of the massive community effort that actually found the clues that led to the arrest of Lieby’s murderer in one day...and before the police did!  Thousands mobilized to find this missing child and what they did in Borough Park is what we ALL want to do in our own communities should a child go missing!!! This is an amazing story.

What to Tell Children About a Tragedy and How to Tell Them.  And, while we’re grieving for Lieby’s family, caring parents everywhere are grappling with the issue of how to tell their young children about traumas of this nature and the many others that occur as part of life. We don‘t know how graphic and detailed we should be, especially when the details are horrific like in this case.   So, up next I talk with Dr. Norman Blumenthal, the Bereavement Director for Chai Lifeline, an authority on what and how to tell your children about a traumatic event who‘s been speaking all over New York City and the surrounding area  since mid-July.

Video of Dr. Blumenthal:    http://www.chailifeline.org/boroparktragedy.php  

Independence vs. Safety:  How to Raise Self-Sufficient Children in Difficult Times.  And, parents are also struggling with how protective to be of our kids.  How to let them grow up without smothering them with precautions.  Last up, Irene van der  Zande, from the fabulous Kidpower self defense organization, which has branches all over the US, drops by to talk about independence vs. safety and give us seven tips on how to prepare your youngsters to be self sufficient, unafraid and able to defend themselves from predators.   

 

Personal Safety Products To Keep Your Children Safe.  Here are a few that sounded very good to me:

 

GTU 10: GPS Clip On Tracking Device, Garmin International: GTU 10: GPS Clip On Tracking Device, Garmin International: www.garmin.com

  

Got 2 B Safe: http://www.got2bsafe.com/

Smile Safe: http://schoolportraits.lifetouch.com/justforschools/smilesafe/index.aspx

The Safe Side: http://www.thesafeside.com/

For full list of RESOURCES mentioned on the show, go to the show notes on www.crimeprevention101.com

 


Topic: Sexting and Politicians: Why Do They Risk It All to Bare It All? Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Sexting and Politicians: Why Do They Risk It All to Bare It All? Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 8/11/2011 4:00:43 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  8/10/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/55692/sexting-and-politicians-why-why-why

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

The only thing new about sexting is the word and the medium because people have been sending naked images of themselves to others in various ways for decades. Remember Polaroid instant cameras and photocopied butt cheeks!

 

Usually it‘s teens and young adults who do it, but when NY Congressman Anthony Weiner‘s political career petered out because he tweeted pictures of his wiener (one wiener joke is mandatory) to a young follower and NJ Congressman Louis Magazzu followed him down the same path, I just  had to know the reason. So, this week I speak with eminent psychiatrist Charles Sophy about why politicians and powerful people risk it all to bare it all!  Plus, he‘s got tips for you parents to help you monitor your kids‘ cell phone and computer behavior.

 

Continuing with my summer reading series, I‘ve got multi-award winning crime novelist David Corbett, whose books have been described as lyrical, muscular, elegant and thrilling,  to talk about his new book Do They Know I‘m Running? and also about neighborhood watch programs--so important in these days of cuts to police departments.

 

Then, an old friend of Crime Prevnetion 101, security expert Todd Morris, from Brickhouse Security, stops by to tell you about some great personal safety products that‘ll keep you up-to date on your kids texting and computer activities and help your home stay safe from burglars and home invasions (August is the prime month for burglaries).

 

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 

http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/55692/sexting-and-politicians-why-why-why 

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM

Topic: Safe Havens, After the Crown Heights Riots & Reformed Criminals Giving Back: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Safe Havens, After the Crown Heights Riots & Reformed Criminals Giving Back: Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 8/31/2011 3:18:05 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  8/24/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/55954/safe-havens-after-the-crown-heights-riots-and-reformed-criminals-giving-back

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

A month after 8-year-old Lieby Kletzy was murdered and 20 years after the Crown Heights riots, Brooklyn, NY has stepped up to create safe havens for kids and keep peace in the community between Hasidic Jews and African Americans.  This week, Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone talks with Brooklyn DA Joe Hynes about the extraordinary efforts the borough has taken to protect its citizens -- steps other communities can learn from!

Then Susan speaks with Pastor Joe D‘Agostino, former drug abuser, dealer and organized crime Consigliere, about how he turned his life around and has been operating a prison ministry that counts David Berkowitz, the infamous Son of Sam, among its numbers. He‘s got a proposal for a faith-based program to help teens in trouble that has been working wonders with hundreds of kids in the borough of Queens, NY ... and can be done everywhere.

Author Wayne Farquar, 28-year veteran police officer in San Jose, CA, also stops by to take us on a realistic and gritty tour of the underbelly of police and detective work from his first crime thriller Blood Over the Badge which has already been optioned for a TV series.  You can so tell in his authentic writing that this  author is a veteran cop and I can‘t wait to speak with him!

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 

http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/55954/safe-havens-after-the-crown-heights-riots-and-reformed-criminals-giving-back

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM


Topic: Campus Safety Awareness Month -- Tip #1 for 9/1/11: Be Mentally Prepared
Subject: Campus Safety Awareness Month -- Tip #1 for 9/1/11: Be Mentally Prepared - Posted: 9/1/2011 2:16:17 PM

September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month.  If you’re worried about your child staying safe–off campus, on campus and in your dorm room–I’ll be posting tips all month here and on my blog Crime Prevention 101 to put you (and your college student) at ease.   Crime Prevention 101

 

Tip #1 - Be Mentally Prepared with a Safety Plan

http://crimeprevention101.com/safety-tips/tip-1-campus-safety-awareness-month-9111/

Topic: September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month - on Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month - on Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:42:32 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  9/07/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56210/its-national-campus-safety-awareness-month

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

September is Campus Safety Awareness Month, but I think every month should be because the statistics on campus violence, and sexual assault particularly, are pretty alarming. And, sexual violence isn’t the only safety issue college campuses face: there’s fire prevention, emergency response procedures during a catastrophic event, new occurrences like flash mobs and much, much more. So this week on Crime Prevention 101, I aim to raise awareness about campus safety issues and give suggestions about what can be done to make campuses safer. 

 

To help me out, I’ll be speaking with Robin Gray, Executive Editor of Campus Safety Magazine, about some of the safety issues that campuses need to address. Then I’ve got Alison Kiss from the amazing organization Security on Campus (which was founded by Howard and Constance Clery after their coed daughter Jeanne was murdered on campus) to talk about the very important Clery Act.

 

Then I want to formally introduce you to my new sponsor, MY FORCE, an innovative personal safety service for any smart phone that I bet you’re going to want for yourself AND for your college student. And, they‘ve got a special offer for Crime Prevention 101 listeners.

 

Don‘t forget to check out my campus safety tips (one for each day of the month) on my blog CrimePrevention101.com, or on my Twitter @crimeprevent101 and, of course, on my Facebook page:  Susan Bartelstone.

 

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56210/its-national-campus-safety-awareness-month

 

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM

Topic: Tip #2 - Campus Safety Awareness Month: Pick Your Routes
Subject: Tip #2 - Campus Safety Awareness Month: Pick Your Routes - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:44:25 PM
Pick Your Routes.  Map out the safest (not necessarily the fastest) route between your residence hall, classes and other activities.  Note where emergency call boxes are located, if there‘s a "safe spot" you could run to if you were being chased or followed and what time the paths are heavily trafficked or empty.  Observe where the trees or other objects are that someone could hide behind and catch you unawares, so you can steer clear of them.  Report any areas that should be better lighted or have a Security Call Box to your dorm authority and the Campus Security Department.  They SHOULD thank you!  Crime Prevention 101

Topic: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #3 - Late Nights Out.
Subject: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #3 - Late Nights Out. - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:47:38 PM

Late Nights Out.  If you have to come back to your dorm or apartment late at night, find out if your campus provides shuttle busses or escort services.  Most do.  If they‘ve stopped running when you need them, try to find someone to walk with. 

If that‘s not possible, stay alert, get a loud whistle to blow into an assailant‘s ear and carry a canister of pepper spray (in your hand!).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #4: Tell Someone Your Schedule.
Subject: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #4: Tell Someone Your Schedule. - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:49:03 PM

Tell Someone Your Schedule.  Let friends, roommates and dorm personnel know your class and activity schedule if it involves late nights.  Also a good idea to tell them if you‘ll be out late on a date or at a party. 

This may seem very "high school" but you‘ll be glad you did if something does occur and they have to go looking for you.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #5: Cell Phones and Safety.
Subject: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #5: Cell Phones and Safety. - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:50:49 PM

Cell Phones and Safety.  Program your cell phone with campus emergency numbers and invest in a smart phone service like My Force, a concierge personal safety service that can locate you wherever you are and call for the appropriate help if you‘re in trouble. 

Then program your phone‘s speed dial with numbers for your family, friends or roommate.  A good way to designate them:   ICE1-Mother-Ruth; ICE2-Roommate-Sarah, etc.  ICE means In Case of Emergency and will alert emergency service personnel who you want called and in what order … ICE.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #6: Dorm Room Safety.
Subject: Campus Safety Awareness Month Tip #6: Dorm Room Safety. - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:56:07 PM

http://crimeprevention101.com/safety-tips/tip-6-campus-safety-awareness-month-9611/

Dorm room doors  (or off-campus apartment doors) should have angled peep holes and deadbolt locks.  Windows should have screens and locks.  If they don’t, advise your campus housing authority, resident advisor or student advisor immediately.  

Always verify who’s there before you open your door.   Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #7 – Off Campus Safety: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #7 – Off Campus Safety: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:57:39 PM

http://crimeprevention101.com/safety-tips/tip-7-campus-safety-awareness-month-9711/

If you live off-campus, keep your apartment door locked whether you’re there or not and don’t leave the door unlocked for your roommate if you have to go out or when you go to sleep.  Only give out your key to trusted friends (tell the roommate too!) and change locks immediately if your key is lost or stolen. 

Same goes for dorm rooms.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #8 – Get Early Warning: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #8 – Get Early Warning: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 1:59:16 PM

http://crimeprevention101.com/safety-tips/tip-8-get-early-warning-campus-safety-awareness-month-9811/

Get Early Warning.  Whether you live off-campus or on, close and lock your windows at night if you have no screens.  Hang wind chimes or other objects on the windows and put flower pots, statues or other breakable items on the sills–anything that will sound an alarm if someone tries to enter and catch you unawares. 

Early warning can save your life.  Crime Prevention 101

 


Topic: Tip #9 – ID Your Property: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #9 – ID Your Property: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:00:20 PM

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Mark your laptop, TV, audio equipment and other personal property with etched ID numbers — preferably BEFORE you leave for college — and have your parents keep an inventory of your property.  Your local police department can advise you how to do this. 

Keep checkbooks, credit cards and important papers that contain sensitive information like social security numbers out of sight and in a locked file to prevent identity theft.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #10 – Stay Alert: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #10 – Stay Alert: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:01:46 PM

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Stay alert when walking around on campus, even in the middle of the day.  Listening to music on your iPod or talking/texting on your cell phone can distract you and make you a good target for robbery or assault because your guard is down.    And, just like out in the street, don’t flash that cash (or expensive jewelry or fancy clothing).  Crime Prevention 101

 For more tips on Meeting Up with a Mugger.


Topic: Tip #11 – Campus Elevator Safety: Campus Safety Awareness
Subject: Tip #11 – Campus Elevator Safety: Campus Safety Awareness - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:02:43 PM

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Don’t get on a campus elevator (or any elevator for that matter) with someone you get a bad feeling about.  Always trust your instincts.   If you’re already in the elevator, get off at the next floor and take a different one. 

In an empty elevator, stand sideways by the button panel with your back to the wall so no one can get in front of you or behind you.  It there’s an emergency, hit all the floor buttons (NOT the STOP button) so the elevator will stop at every floor and afford an opportunity to attract attention to your plight or to escape.  

And please, report any suspicious persons to Security; maybe save someone else from a tragedy!   Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #12 – How Safe Is Your School? Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #12 – How Safe Is Your School? Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:03:49 PM

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Colleges and universities are mandated by law  to provide information about campus crime rates, statistics for off-campus areas relevant to student life, and, upon request, information about any registered sex offenders  enrolled in or employed at the institution. 

Schools are also supposed to offer personal safety orientation programs for new students at the beginning of the school year.   Know your rights and be sure to check on what’s offered at your college.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #13 – Great Programs for Students: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #13 – Great Programs for Students: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:05:01 PM

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Parents, suggest that your child’s school bring in a wonderful organization like Men Can Stop Rape or A Call To Men or Men Stopping Violence to do programs at orientation or during the year. 

You also want to have the folks from the Bringing in the Bystander program, which originated at the University of NH, come in to teach students how to intervene safely in cases where a sexual assault may be occurring or where there may be some risk to students.  You can find information on these  programs at the National Sexual Violence Resource Center.  Great for both male and female students.  Crime Prevention 101 


Topic: Tip #14 – Be Physically Prepared For Trouble: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #14 – Be Physically Prepared For Trouble: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:06:08 PM
It’s highly recommended that all students (female and male) take at least one self defense course a year.  It’ll give you confidence and ease your personal safety concerns. 

Most schools offer martial arts or self defense or rape awareness classes and there may be off-campus programs that are easy to get to as well.  Two good resources that will come to your college and do courses:  Girls Fight Back and Kidpower (for both girls and boys).   Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #15 – Know Your Risks and Options. Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #15 – Know Your Risks and Options. Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/15/2011 2:07:55 PM

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**College-age women are four times more likely to be sexually assaulted than any other age group and the most vulnerable population for college campus rape is freshman girls during the first few months of school. 

**The majority of rapes will be committed by someone the victim knows. 

**Date rape is when someone is forced to have sex by a person he/she is dating while acquaintance rape is when the rape is committed by someone the victim knows but isn’t dating, like the person who lives down the hall or the pizza delivery guy. 

**An estimated 5% to 10% of rapes committed in the US is same-sex rape involving male victims, but most colleges don’t include information on same-sex rape in their rape education programming. 

**Alcohol and/or drugs are involved in 90% of all campus crimes. 

Though no precautions are foolproof, being aware of potentially dangerous situations and pre-rehearsing options reduces the risk of becoming a crime or rape victim and maximizes your safety.   Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #16 – Personal Responsibility Increases Personal Safety! Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/16/11
Subject: Tip #16 – Personal Responsibility Increases Personal Safety! Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/16/11 - Posted: 9/16/2011 8:17:42 AM

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Drugs and/or alcohol are estimated to be involved in 90% of date/acquaintance rapes and are involved in many other types of campus crimes including hazing and hate crimes.  They affect your ability to make intelligent or life-saving decisions, such as identifying danger signs and finding ways to escape, and they relax your inhibitions about things you might not ordinarily do, like leaving a party with someone you don’t know or getting into a car with someone who’s drunk. 

Can’t say it enough:  Be responsible for what and how much you consume because personal responsibility increases personal safety.   Also can’t say it enough:  No one deserves to be raped, assaulted or abused, ever, no matter what the circumstances.  Even if you think you did something stupid that made you vulnerable, the blame ALWAYS falls squarely on the attacker.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #19 – Watch Out for Each Other: Campus Safety Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #19 – Watch Out for Each Other: Campus Safety Awareness Month - Posted: 9/19/2011 1:42:11 PM
If it’s just you and the gurls (or guys) going out on the town, make a pact to watch out for each other, so no one wakes up with regrets the morning after.  Come up with a sign or signal for when you should intervene if someone is in an uncomfortable situation and don’t be afraid to speak up or step in and investigate if a situation seems questionable to you.  By getting involved early, you could prevent someone from becoming the victim of sexual assault OR prevent someone you know from committing this crime! 

If you’re driving to the party or club, designate a sober driver for the evening and vow never to get into a vehicle with someone who’s drunk/high.  Agree to all leave together but always have a pre-planned way home (and spare cash in hand) just in case.  Program a few car service numbers into your cell phone speed dial or find out if there’s a ride service, like RightRides, in your area that gives women free rides home late at night.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #20 – Consenting Sex or Date Rape? Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/20/11
Subject: Tip #20 – Consenting Sex or Date Rape? Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/20/11 - Posted: 9/20/2011 10:37:16 AM
Clear verbal communication without intimidation or threats = consensual sex.  Both parties must be awake when the act occurs; and, many states have laws that a person must be sober or not mentally impaired in any way in order to give true consent.  

To help you communicate your feelings clearly, both girls and boys, think about how you’d respond to social pressures about drinking, doing drugs, having sex or anything else that might be difficult for you.  Try to clarify what role sex plays in your life, what role you want it to play and how important is it to you to be “popular.” 

Talk with your friends (they’re probably just as confused as you are) or school counselors or even (yikes) your parents to help you sort things out.  Maybe role playing how to express your desires and limits under difficult circumstances will be helpful.  Maybe ask a teacher, student group or counseling center on campus to present a program about how both boys and girls could handle themselves on a date.  Find an e-book on this subject; there are a lot of good ones available.  This is an ongoing process, even for adults, but trust your instincts and know that the clearer you are, the easier it gets over time.    Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #21 – Safe Dates: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/21/11
Subject: Tip #21 – Safe Dates: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/21/11 - Posted: 9/21/2011 2:54:06 PM
Most rapes are not committed by strangers but by someone you already know:  a boyfriend, ex-boyfriend, blind date, friend of the family, someone who lives nearby, works with you, delivers packages to your home.  Physical force may be involved or simply the threat of force.  There may only be emotional badgering or intimidation.  

Some pointers:  don’t go out alone with someone you don’t know well for several dates at least (not just one).  Go somewhere there are people around–a movie, a coffee shop or double date.  Always tell someone where you’re going, with whom, and what time you expect to be home.  If you’re feeling nervous or uneasy at any time, end the date and get out of there as soon as you can.  Have a pre-arranged plan for what to do if something goes wrong and keep your cell phone charged and handy.

And, those of you who think it’s kewl to dress like your favorite reality TV star or slut-ebrity when going out, listen up:  In a perfect world, yes, you have the right to wear whatever you want, but you can’t predict how other people will interpret your manner of dress, especially if they don’t know you well.  What someone wears is NEVER, NEVER, NEVER  justification for rape (or even disrespectful behavior); but, just like we shouldn’t have to put locks on our doors or bars on our windows; it’s, sadly, safer to do so.  Dress on the side of caution; you can still look great.    Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #22 – Date Rape Drugs: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/22/11
Subject: Tip #22 – Date Rape Drugs: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/22/11 - Posted: 9/22/2011 10:52:05 AM
Sometimes the bad guys put substances in the punch bowl or into a drink at a party, bar or club to make a the target of a sexual assault dazed, confused and unable to resist.  These are called date rape drugs and they can be odorless, colorless and tasteless, so you might not know if something has been added to your drink.  They can also be very dangerous.  Feeling woozy or drunk without having had too much to drink is one of the most common symptoms that you may have been slipped something.  If you’re with friends, find them immediately and have them take you to the hospital or call a cab and go on your own. 

To avoid this as much as possible, always try to get your own drink or watch it being poured.  Be careful about drinking from a communal punch bowl and don’t drink or taste anyone else’s drink, especially if you don’t know the person very well.  If your drink tastes odd for any reason, dispose of it and get another one that you are sure is untainted.  Try not to leave your drink unattended, but if you have to for some reason, carry a Date Rape Drink Coaster or a similar product and test it.  It’s simple to do.  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Sherlock Holmes - & - CSI Bootcamp - on Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Sherlock Holmes - & - CSI Bootcamp - on Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 9/23/2011 12:48:33 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Aired  9/21/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56497/sherlock-holmes-and-csi-bootcamp

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Sherlock Holmes was using forensic science before we even HAD the word forensic. From Baskerville Hall to the Valley of Fear, this week I’m exploring the real forensics behind the fictional detective’s greatest cases with crime-historian E. J. Wagner, Edgar award-winning author of The Science of Sherlock Holmes.  Her book uses Holmes‘s analytical  techniques, including his use of fingerprints, early photography, trace evidence, autopsies and even zoology, as a jumping-off point to discuss the growth of forensic science during the 19th and early 20th century.

And, if you‘re fascinated by TV shows like CSI and would like to explore your inner detective, I‘ll also be talking with Janine Vaccarello from the Museum of Crime and Punishment in Washington, D.C., about their CSI Boot Camps where participants learn to how CSI experts process a crime scene by working hands-on to gather evidence.

Got some great personal safety products for you too; and don‘t forget to check out my campus safety tips (one for each day of the month) on my blog CrimePrevention101.com, or on my Twitter @crimeprevent101 and, of course, my Facebook page:  Susan Bartelstone.

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM:  http://crimeprevention101.com/radio-show/sherlock-holmes-csi-bootcamp-air-date-92111/

 

 Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56497/sherlock-holmes-and-csi-bootcamp

 

 


Topic: Tip #23 – Abusive Relationships and Stalking: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/23/11
Subject: Tip #23 – Abusive Relationships and Stalking: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/23/11 - Posted: 9/23/2011 12:51:12 PM
Are you afraid to disagree with your boyfriend or partner or fear making him/her angry?  Has your boyfriend/partner hit, punched, pushed, shaken or choked you?  Or, are you afraid he/she will?  Are you afraid to breakup with him/her?  These are some of the signs of an abusive relationship.  Does your boyfriend/partner check up on you constantly; need to know your whereabouts at all times; check your phone messages or computer; text, email or call you excessively?  Do you need permission to do things or go places without him/her?  Are you afraid to breakup with him/her?  This is called stalking and these are some of the signs.

Abusive relationships and stalking often go hand in hand and are epidemic on college campuses these days.  If your answer is yes to more than one of the above questions, the relationship you’re is putting you at high risk of being abused, hurt or even killed.  And, abusive behavior escalates over time, so speak to a counselor on campus as soon as possible or check out some national resources for help on what to do.  A few personal safety products you want to know about:  the Bully Block app and the MyForce app and personal safety service for your smart phone.    Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #24 – Set Clear Boundaries: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/24/11
Subject: Tip #24 – Set Clear Boundaries: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/24/11 - Posted: 9/28/2011 1:34:54 PM
Communicate clearly  about how you want AND expect to be treated…and this applies to both girls and boys.  Acting sorry or unsure sends mixed messages and it can be difficult to know how a person feels without hearing it, assertively, from them.  Tell your date/partner what you want or don’t want and stick with your decisions.  Listen carefully and if you feel you’re getting mixed messages, ask for clarification rather than assume. 

If you’re feeling pressured, talk honestly about sex and what would be most enjoyable together–whether to a date or to your boy/girlfriend.  Don’t permit abusive or demeaning language, gestures or physical violence in a dating or long-term relationship.  This is a bad sign of things to come.  Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #25 – Pressing Charges Against Someone You Know: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/25/11
Subject: Tip #25 – Pressing Charges Against Someone You Know: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/25/11 - Posted: 9/28/2011 1:36:18 PM
If you were raped, assaulted, bullied or harassed by a date, boy/girlfriend, classmate, roommate, campus acquaintance or even someone you worked with, would you be emotionally able to report the incident to the police or the appropriate authorities? 

Prosecuting someone you know can be emotionally devastating, especially for a sexual assault, so you want to be aware of what you might face beforehand.  How would you handle adverse reactions from relatives, mutual friends, classmates or co-workers if you reported the incident, for example?  Don’t be surprised if you meet with disapproval regarding your decision or that those close to you aren’t supportive.  It happens.  If you’re in a stalking situation, be aware that taking action (legal or otherwise) to block a stalker can anger him/her and prompt them up the ante.  Also, laws vary from state to state.

To help you evaluate your situation clearly, get some counseling and support in order to determine your options.  Campus departments such as the dean’s office, security or campus police or a counseling center, are a good starting point.  National organizations, your local police and/or District Attorney’s Office or off-campus groups like a Family Justice Center are also available to give information and resources.  Bottom line:  it’s your decision to make and it’s ok to take a pass.  Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #26 – Resisting Sexual Assault: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/26/11
Subject: Tip #26 – Resisting Sexual Assault: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/26/11 - Posted: 9/30/2011 10:45:41 AM
Most rapes involve someone known to the victim, so consider these hard questions beforehand to help you act decisively, if necessary.  Under what circumstance(s) would physical resistance be called for?  Could I hurt someone I know and trust, if he was trying to assault me?  Could I treat a boyfriend or good friend who was trying to rape or assault me the same as I would treat a stranger? 

Physical resistance is not just kicking and punching.  Don’t be afraid to scream a loud “NO!” in a situation where you feel you’re being coerced.  The real purpose of giving out a loud yell is to break through fear and panic.  Don’t hesitate to be rude or make a noisy scene to attract attention to yourself if you can’t handle a situation.  Run away if there’s a close place to escape to, like a store, a building with a doorman, a club with a lot of people.  If you can’t get away directly, use a strategy like saying you have to go to the bathroom…and then leave.  Carry a canister of pepper spray and learn how to use it.  Take a self defense or rape prevention course (at least one a year!) to develop the physical skills to resist an attacker.  Want more tipshttp://www.susanbartelstone.com/2009/safetytips-success.html.

To Survivors:  Cooperating with an attacker, with or without resistance, is always a valid choice.  Do whatever you feel will save your life; there are no right or wrong responses.  Cooperation doesn’t equal consent and neither does asking a rapist to wear a condom so you don’t have to worry about pregnancy, HIV/AIDS or other STDs.  It’s customary to feel guilt or shame after a sexual assault, but the blame always falls on the attacker, not the victim, even if you did something you feel was stupid or made you vulnerable.  No one has to the right to rape, beat or abuse you ever, under any conceivable circumstances!  Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #27 – If You’ve Been Assaulted, Get Help: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/27/11
Subject: Tip #27 – If You’ve Been Assaulted, Get Help: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/27/11 - Posted: 9/30/2011 10:47:18 AM
Despite all your awareness, alertness and the other skills that have been proven to maximize safety, there’s no surefire way to prevent a crime.  If you’ve been raped, go immediately to a hospital emergency room (ideally with a friend) for an examination.  Going to a hospital doesn’t mean you have to report the crime to the police; they’ll keep everything confidential if you ask them to!  Make up a “just in case” list of facilities in your area that have specially trained staff who treat rape victims sensitively and know how to administer a rape kit (not all hospitals do!).  Your campus counseling center or a rape crisis hotline can give you local information.  Don’t shower, bathe, douche, or brush your teeth after a rape and keep anything with DNA samples on it, such as clothing, so you can preserve physical proof of the rape in case you decide, at a later date, to prosecute your attacker.   You never have to prosecute; but it’s wise to keep your options open.

The absolute best way to put a traumatic event into perspective and get on with your life is to talk to someone who understands what you’re going through.  Most campuses have counseling centers that won’t disclose what you tell them or call one of the national hotlines like RAINN (1-800-656-HOPE) or the National Center for Victims of Crime for immediate compassionate help and local referrals.  

And, hold onto this thought:  If you’ve been affected by sexual violence, it’s not your fault—even if you think you did something stupid that made you vulnerable—and, you’re not alone.  Please, please, please, men too, reach out and get help.  Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #28 – Helping a Friend in Need: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/28/11
Subject: Tip #28 – Helping a Friend in Need: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/28/11 - Posted: 9/30/2011 10:49:01 AM
A friend who’s been raped may confide in you after the attack (sometimes years after).  When someone tells you they’ve been sexually assaulted simply listen quietly and let the person express her/his feelings.  And, don’t ask probing or judgmental questions like “Why did you leave the party with someone you didn’t know?”  Remember it’s not the victim’s fault, even if they did something “stupid” that made them vulnerable.  That’s NEVER an excuse for a crime.

It’s important to seek help immediately if the attack just happened, because survivors of sexual violence, especially, experience a variety of emotional and physical symptoms.  Encourage your friend by presenting options, including emergency contraception (NOT-2-LATE.COM; 1-888-NOT2LATE), but let the person make her/his own choices; including doing nothing.  You also want to encourage your friend to seek counseling because no one should have to go through something like this alone.

Know your own limits.  Give as much emotional support as you can, but know when to cut the discussion and defer to professionals.  Helping your friend can be upsetting for you too and might even make you fearful, so you may want to seek counseling yourself for a bit to get a handle on your own feelings. Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #29 – Know Your Rights: On campus and Off: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/29/11
Subject: Tip #29 – Know Your Rights: On campus and Off: Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/29/11 - Posted: 9/30/2011 10:50:22 AM
On campus, there’s a Student Bill of Rights to help you navigate school, become productive citizens and functioning adults able to meet the challenges of the future.  Know your academic rights and hold your school accountable.

In life, you have Assertive Rights to be treated with respect and express who you are without being seen as being disrespectful to others (as long as you cause no harm to others).  You have the right, for example, to control your own behavior, thoughts and emotions, make your own mistakes and take full responsibility for your actions.  You have the right to be listened to, taken seriously, change your mind about pretty much anything and there are plenty more.  Embrace your assertive rights and they’ll liberate you.

As a human being, you have the right not to be picked on, bullied, stalked, beaten, abused, sexually assaulted or just plain afraid of someone…under any conceivable circumstances!  Learn your Crime Victims Rights, and the legal consequences for their violation, and they’ll strengthen you.  Crime Prevention 101

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Topic: Tip #30 – September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month but Every Month Should Be! Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/30/11
Subject: Tip #30 – September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month but Every Month Should Be! Campus Safety Awareness Month 9/30/11 - Posted: 9/30/2011 10:53:37 AM

September is National Campus Safety Awareness Month but every month should be!  Campus safety involves more than preventing sexual assault.  There’s the problem of high-risk drinking, Illegal or prescription drug abuse, relationship violence including stalking, hazing cruelty and hate crimes, to name only a few.

For helpful–and clickable–resources you can use all year round, check out all 30 of the Campus Safety Awareness Month tips posted on CrimePrevention101.com (Safety Tips page) and you can join the mailing list so you won‘t miss a single post in the future.

And, don’t forget to tune in to the Crime Prevention 101 radio show for information on just about every personal safety topic that might concern you.

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Topic: Hope for Domestic Violence Survivors - & - Cyber Security: On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Hope for Domestic Violence Survivors - & - Cyber Security: On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:18:59 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Air Date 10/05/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56783/domestic-violence-hopes-and-cyber-security-what-a-month

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

With an estimated 4 million victims a year, it‘s a good bet that domestic violence -- and it‘s devastating consequences to the women, men, children, relatives, friends and even co-workers of those involved -- will touch the life of every single American at some point in time. And, it‘s not just a problem here in the US, domestic violence has been called a worldwide epidemic! October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, a good time to recommit to ending violence within our homes, our communities, our country and wherever in the world our message can reach.

 

This week, I spoke with Angela Watson from the Empire Education Group chain of cosmetology schools, which supports CUT IT OUT, a program that teaches hair salon professionals to recognize signs of domestic abuse in their clients and refer them to community resources. They have their own Empire Gives Back program which is doing amazing work supporting shelters all over the country. I also talked with Dr. Harrison Putman, plastic surgeon and Chairman of the Face To Face program of the American Academy of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery. They’ve partnered with the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to offer individuals who’ve been maimed by domestic violence free reconstructive surgery so they can look normal again.

 

Last up, Identity Theft expert Paige Hanson from LifeLock drops by to talk about October being National Cyber Security Awareness Month and how you can keep your personal information safe not just on your computer, but on your smart phone, tablets and any other electronic devices you use on the internet.

Got some great personal safety products for you too; and don‘t forget to check out my domestic violence safety tips (one for each day of the month) on my blog CrimePrevention101.com, or on my Twitter @crimeprevent101 and, of course, my Facebook page:  Susan Bartelstone.

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/56783/domestic-violence-hopes-and-cyber-security-what-a-month

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES AND PRODUCTS MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM


Topic: October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month But Every Month Should Be!
Subject: October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month But Every Month Should Be! - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:24:14 PM

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Montha time to recommit to ending violence within our homes, our communities, our country and wherever in the world we can reach.

With an estimated 4 million victims a year, it’s a good bet that domestic violence–and its devastating consequences to the women, men, children, relatives, friends and even co-workers of those involved–will touch the life of every single American at some point in time.  And, it’s not just a problem here in the US, domestic violence has been called a worldwide social epidemic!  Though men are victims too, it is women who are its primary target and the statistics are grim.

Let’s raise our voices in remembrance of those who’ve died from this epidemic; reach out to those who are presently suffering abuse to tell them help IS out there, though it’s not an easy course to travel; try to inform those youngsters who may be heading down the rocky road to abuse right now that there’s safer path to take and we WANT you to find that path.  And finally, let’s celebrate the resilience of those domestic violence survivors who are leading the way for us all.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month but every month should be!  If you’re in an abusive relationship and need immediate help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Check out the Crime Prevention 101 radio show for more resources. 


Topic: Tip #1 – Know someone whose relationship concerns you? Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10111
Subject: Tip #1 – Know someone whose relationship concerns you? Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10111 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:25:44 PM

Know someone whose relationship concerns you?  Let them know you’re there and willing to listen.   Friends Against Abuse has guidelines for you.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #2 – Talk to Your Teen/Tween: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-02-11
Subject: Tip #2 – Talk to Your Teen/Tween: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-02-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:26:58 PM
Got a teenager or tweenager at home?  Talk to them as soon as possible about what a healthy, non-violent relationship is:  Check out Love Is Not-Abuse (www.loveisnotabuse.com) for resources.

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  If you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #3 – Faith-Based Discussions: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-03-11
Subject: Tip #3 – Faith-Based Discussions: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-03-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:28:03 PM
Ask your rabbi, minister or religious leader to speak out publicly about domestic violence.  See Faith Trust Institute (www.faithtrustinstitute.org) for resources, books and suggestions.

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #4 – Teach the Boys Young: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-04-11
Subject: Tip #4 – Teach the Boys Young: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-04-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:54:36 PM
Teach the boys in your life very early to respect women and use their strength to help not hurt:  Men Can Stop Rape, A Call To Men and Men Stopping Violence are great resources.

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  If you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #5 – Examine Your Relationships Honestly: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-05-11
Subject: Tip #5 – Examine Your Relationships Honestly: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-05-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:56:48 PM
Examine your own relationships honestly.  If there’s a pattern of abuse in your life, it’s harming you, your children and those around you who love you as well.  Take this quiz from the AARDVARC: An Abuse, Rape & Domestic Violence Aid & Resource Collection.  And, be honest! 

 Quiz: http://www.aardvarc.org/dv/abusequiz.shtml

 For more clues:  http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/am-i-being-abused-2/

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #6 – Domestic Violence and the Workplace: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-06-11
Subject: Tip #6 – Domestic Violence and the Workplace: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-06-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:58:08 PM
Does your employer have a policy for workplace safety?  Too many lives — and billions of dollars — are lost every year because of being unprepared.  The Future Without Violence organization has workplace resources that can help.  Also, check out Becky’s Fund (http://www.beckysfund.org/cms/) and the Partnership for Prevention (www.caepv.orgfor more information. 

Employers Against Domestic Violence, a non-profit coalition formed in MA in 1997, helps businesses, hospitals and large corporations (like Verizon) all over the country formulate workplace policies to deal with domestic violence issues. 

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #7 – Present a Domestic Violence Program to Your Group: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-07-11
Subject: Tip #7 – Present a Domestic Violence Program to Your Group: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-07-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 1:59:28 PM
Invite a speaker to your workplace, book group, neighborhood association, religious congregation, PTA, etc!  Some ideas: 

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence:  http://ncadv.org/

Asian/Pacific Islander Domestic Violence Resource Project:  http://www.dvrp.org/

Ayuda (for Spanish-speaking survivors):  http://www.ayudainc.org/template/index.cfm

Jewish Women International:  http://www.jwi.org

Break the Cycle (teens and young adults): www.breakthecycle.org

Men Can Stop Rape:  http://http://www.mencanstoprape.org

Yahoo Directory of DV Organizations:  http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Crime/Types_of_Crime/Domestic_Violence/Organizations/

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #8 – Adopt a Shelter: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-08-11
Subject: Tip #8 – Adopt a Shelter: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-08-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 2:00:32 PM
To make Domestic Violence Awareness Month more meaningful for you, give the gift of your time and/or money to a local shelter.  Go to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence to find a shelter near you and for suggestions as to ways you can help, such as donations of clothes, furniture, toiletries, children’s toys and books, school supplies, and so on. 

If you belong to a group or organization, get them to “adopt” too.  You could ask a local beauty salon or nail salon to sponsor a Day of Beauty, for example.  Or, ask a few local clothing stores to make donations.  There are lots of possibilities.  Pretty much everything is needed and will be gratefully appreciated by the women and children in need. 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #9 – Give the gift of your time and/or your money: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-09-11
Subject: Tip #9 – Give the gift of your time and/or your money: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-09-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 2:01:34 PM
To make Domestic Violence Awareness Month more meaningful for you, give the gift of your time and/or your money to an organization like the National Coalition to End Domestic Violence or CUT IT OUT (which teaches hairdressers to spot the signs of domestic violence among their clientele and safely point them to resources in their local community) or any group that’s actively advocating to end domestic violence and help it’s victims. 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  If you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #10 – Donate a Cell Phone: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-10-11
Subject: Tip #10 – Donate a Cell Phone: Domestic Violence Awareness Month 10-10-11 - Posted: 10/10/2011 2:02:33 PM
Observe Domestic Violence Awareness Month by donating old or unwanted cell phones to domestic violence organizations or shelters.  Better yet, even get your religious group, school or company to organize a phone drive.  Here’s how to go about it:

First step:  Go to eHow.com and find an article titled:  How to Donate Your Old Cell Phone to Help Victims of Domestic Violence for instructions on things like erasing your phone’s address book and texts. 

Next:  Where to donate?  You might look into the groups listed below as a start:

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Domestic Violence in the Latino Community; Bullying Prevention; Legal Website Where Crime Pays! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Domestic Violence in the Latino Community; Bullying Prevention; Legal Website Where Crime Pays! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 10/24/2011 4:54:37 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Air Date 10/19/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/57069/

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Domestic violence occurs in all cultures and on all socioeconomic levels, but Latino victims (overwhelmingly women) appear to be younger, poorer and less educated than other groups and a lot are undocumented immigrants. Formidable barriers exist that may discourage these women from seeking help despite severe abuse. Tonight, I speak with Cecilia Gastón from the Violence Intervention Project about what‘s being done in New York City to address these challenges; and this program is a model for what can be done in other communities.

 

Then, in addition to October being Domestic Violence Awareness Month, it‘s also National Bullying Prevention Month, so my buddy Irene van der Zande, from the worldwide self defense organization Kidpower, drops by to give us bullying prevention tips for parents and kids.

Last, but not least, want to know where you might buy a $2,700 ruby ring for only $150 or a $700 electric guitar for $60 and it‘s all legal? I‘m going to tell you about PropertyRoom.com, a cool online auction site where you can get amazing deals on stolen, seized or forfeited property recovered by the police--and how crime really does pay!

Got some great personal safety products for you too; and don‘t forget to check out my domestic violence safety tips (one for each day of the month) on my blog CrimePrevention101.com, or on my Twitter @crimeprevent101 and, of course, my Facebook page:  Susan Bartelstone.

 

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/57069/

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES AND PRODUCTS MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM

Tags:  Susan Bartelstone, Crime prevention, personal safety, Crime Prevention 101, crime prevention tips, personal safety tips, self defense, self defense for women, National Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Violence Intervention Project, Cecilia Gaston, Propertyroom.com, Thomas Lane, Kidpower, Irene van der Zande


Topic: Tip #11 – Promote Awareness: Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #11 – Promote Awareness: Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 4:56:54 PM
To promote awareness of domestic violence, wear an appropriate T-shirt, sweatshirt, bracelet, purple ribbon or an item with the logo of a domestic violence organization.  See the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (http://www.ncadv.org/) store for clothing, postures, brochures and other items: 

 The Clothesline Project features T-shirts decorated by survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault (and their families) to raise awareness of the issue and promote healing.  Bring a Clothesline display to your neighborhood or organize a Clothesline session in your community. http://www.clotheslineproject.org/

 Distribute brochures and other materials from national and local domestic violence programs for display anyplace women frequent:  libraries, supermarkets, chain restaurants, department stores, health clubs, health clinics, churches, mosques and synagogues and any place else you can think of.  Ask places with public restrooms if you can put brochures in the women’s room.  Great group project!

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #12 – Protest Offensive Media Coverage: Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #12 – Protest Offensive Media Coverage: Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 4:58:15 PM
Protest media coverage that excuses abusive behavior, blames the victim or trivializes abuse.  Speak out against magazines, TV shows, movies or online media  that glorifies violence against women.  The best way to make your voice heard is via the offending entity’s website, Facebook and/or Twitter page or other social media sites.  Organize a media protest by your group or organization via the group’s own social media sites. 

 If you are a survivor, speak out by writing an article about your experiences or a protest against something offensive in the media.

Some resources: 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD).  Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #13 – Not Just Physical. What Constitutes Abuse?
Subject: Tip #13 – Not Just Physical. What Constitutes Abuse? - Posted: 10/24/2011 4:59:27 PM

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Domestic violence is commonly defined by battering or physical abuse in most of our minds, characterized by behaviors ranging from shaking and shoving to beating and marital rape (yes! you can say no to a husband/partner) and everything up to murder.  But, legally domestic abuse may or may not include physical violence and most people don’t know that! 

Domestic abuse is about power and control.  The abuse can be solely emotional, with such behaviors as violent tantrums or intimidating the person with threats of violence; constant belittling and insults (when alone or with others); extreme possessiveness and accusations of unfaithfulness, especially if the person gets even minute attention from the opposite sex; stalking; torture like depriving the person of food or sleep, taking away their clothes, destroying property; harming beloved pets and isolating the person from family, friends and avenues for help. 

Domestic abuse can also be financial including controlling all finances (sometimes the person doesn’t even know how to balance a checkbook or pay bills) and making the person have to beg for money; not allowing the person to earn a living outside the home so the person is dependent on the abuser.

Drug/alcohol abuse exacerbate the abuse or violence in a relationship but they are not the cause, the reason or, in any way, an excuse for abuse or violence.  Batters batter because they can and can get away with it.  Bottom line.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101

 


Topic: Tip #14 – Why Doesn’t She Just Leave? Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #14 – Why Doesn’t She Just Leave? Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:00:36 PM

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Why do people (usually women, the primary victims of domestic violence) remain in dangerous, abusive relationships, often without seeking any help for years?  And, why do they repeatedly return to an abuser, over and over, after initially getting the courage to leave?  The family and friends of the battered women (and the police!) often give up in exasperation over this; but many barriers to “leaving,” real or perceived, do, in fact, exist.  Here are just three:

  1. Over time, after repeated verbal and/or physical abuse, the victim has become emotionally dependent on the abuser, blames herself for the abuse and feel she deserves it.  She might also deny the potential for severe abuse or death and rationalize or find excuses for the abuse. 
  2. The victim had been isolated by the abuser from friends, family and other sources of help and believes there’s no escape; particularly relevant if the victim lives in a rural area or is an immigrant (legal or illegal). 
  3. The victim fears that the abuser will become even more violent if she leaves, especially if he’s threatened to kill her in the past; and/or fears the abuser will harm the children if she leaves, especially if he’s granted joint custody (quite common).  

To help us all stop blaming the victim and gain more understanding of why people stay in abusive relationships, check out the website of the highly-praised documentary “POWER AND CONTROL:  DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN AMERICA“   for 10 powerful video answers to this simple-sounding question. 

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101

 


Topic: Tip #15 – Getting Help: The Family Justice Centers. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #15 – Getting Help: The Family Justice Centers. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:01:49 PM

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Why doesn’t she just leave?  That’s what most people ask when they talk about domestic violence.  A significant part of the answer is that it might require visits to more than 20 county, state, judicial, medical, social service agencies and schools (especially if children are involved).  Not to mention countless lost hours from work if the victim is employed (often leading to her getting fired); and countless, disheartening repetitions of the victim’s story to each new agency in order to “just leave.”  In 1999, to address this enormous problem, the first Family Justice Center came into existence. 

One of the most significant initiatives for domestic violence victims in the 20th century, a Family Justice Center is a one-stop shop that houses most of the services domestic violence victims might need in one location, including prosecutors, police, links to local Juvenile, Family and Criminal courts, social services, child protective workers, probation, parole and immigration officers, medical and health services, counseling services for victims and children and domestic violence advocates.   Each Center is slightly different, based on the needs of each individual community.

Family Justice Centers are located all over the US.  To find one near you, check with your local district attorney’s office, a domestic violence hotline or the National Family Justice Center Alliance.

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #16 – Getting Help: Orders of Protection with GPS Monitoring. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #16 – Getting Help: Orders of Protection with GPS Monitoring. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:03:06 PM

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The most powerful tool for stopping abuse is usually obtaining a restraining order (also called an order of protection in some states) against the abusive person.  While it’s been proven to reduce the violence in many cases, it’s been known to increase the violence in others, resulting in severe injury and/or death to the victim.  It’s only a piece of paper, after all, and it won’t stop a bullet or a psychotic/vindictive abuser who’s determined to get revenge. 

Orders of Protection with a GPS monitoring component.  The police can only get involved if an abuser violates a restraining order and, unfortunately, that might be waay to late.  Judges can increase the safety of people with very violent abusers, however, by granting a Restraining Order with a GPS monitoring component.  This requires that an abuser (or a stalker!) wear an unremoveable global positioning anklet that will send an alert to both the victim and the police if the boundaries or terms of the Order are being violated.  Early warning should enable the victim to take evasive action and, hopefully, enable the police to intercept the violator before any violence is committed.  About 12-15 states offer GPS monitoring now; and while it’s expensive to implement this program, especially in these days of austerity spending and budget cuts, it’s a critical life-saving option that must not be disregarded.

Should you or shouldn’t you?  Before filing for any kind of restraining order to protect yourself (and your family), get advice from a local or national domestic violence organization or a Family Justice Center to help you make up your mind.  Bottom line, though, you know your situation better than anyone else, so trust your instincts and do only what you feel is safest.  If you do decide to file for protection, work out a safety plan first.

Resources on Orders of Protection:

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101

 


Topic: Tip #17 – Financial Literacy for Domestic Violence Survivors. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #17 – Financial Literacy for Domestic Violence Survivors. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:04:04 PM

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It’s almost impossible for someone to leave an abusive relationship if they’re be jobless, skill-less and lacking the economic resources and know-how to survive and take care of their family.  Fear of losing health insurance and other benefits is another factor.  It’s also frightening for a working person whose family depends on two incomes to survive to figure out how to manage on one income, making them financially dependent on the abuser. 

By becoming financially independent, one huge block to safety has been removed.  Some resources:

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

 Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #18 – Leaving an Abuser? Make an Escape Plan. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #18 – Leaving an Abuser? Make an Escape Plan. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:05:34 PM

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Before you file for a restraining order or make any attempt to leave an abusive relationship, make an escape plan with places to go if you have to leave your home quickly, such as friends, relatives or a local domestic violence shelter and determine the best route to take.  Don’t go it alone; get help from a local domestic violence group or Family Justice Center

Draw up a checklist of items you’ll need and gather as many as you can and hide in an unobtrusive place (say a laundry bag in a child’s room) in case of a hasty departure:  cash, credit cards, keys, driver’s license and registration, medications, all identification and other important papers for everyone like birth certificates, green cards, passports and your Order of Protection.  Put as much important information you can on a flash drive that can be kept you on your key ring.  You can scan documents onto the drive at any Kinkos.  Use computers in libraries rather than at home.  Pack a favorite toy or blanket to help ease the trauma for your kids and, of course, grab the family pet.

Terrific resource to guide you through the process:  Time’s Up by Susan Murphy Milano, available in both paperback and e-book (which can ultimately be downloaded onto a flash drive so you won’t be discovered with the book).

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Tip #19 – After Leaving an Abuser: Stalking Tips. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #19 – After Leaving an Abuser: Stalking Tips. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:06:46 PM

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Stalking and domestic violence go hand in hand, unfortunately.  Once you’ve left an abusive relationship, it’s not uncommon for the abuser to become a harasser, perhaps a violent harasser.   Be prepared for it particularly in the first few months after you’ve left the relationship.  Stalking is a terrifying situation that involves such behaviors as persistent phone calls, text messages or emails (both at home and on the job), receiving unwanted or gruesome gifts, physical and/or technological surveillance and other frightening invasions of your home and privacy.

There’s also cyberstalking.  Without your knowledge, your cell phone can be tracked by your abuser’s cell phone, your text messages and emails can be monitored, any social media sites you may be on can be traced or trashed. Tracking devices can be placed on your vehicle.  Your home or work computer can be hacked and your online activities monitored.

Unfortunately, if you’re in a stalking situation, you are going to have to change your normal day to day routines and your way of life radically.  This is extremely unfair, but it’s critical in order to ensure your safety.  Some resources:

October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101

 


Topic: Tip #20 – After Leaving an Abuser: Identity Theft and Domestic Abuse. Domestic Violence Awareness Month
Subject: Tip #20 – After Leaving an Abuser: Identity Theft and Domestic Abuse. Domestic Violence Awareness Month - Posted: 10/24/2011 5:07:51 PM

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Identity theft, the fraudulent assumption of a person’s identity, is a form of abuse, a form of stalking, a means of control and, perhaps most importantly, a way of determining the whereabouts of a person trying to hide from a vengeful, violent abuser.  It’s a common form of retaliation and most abusive partners have full access to their wife, partner and children’s social security numbers, bank account and credit card numbers, passports and other personal information.  

 Once someone’s identity is stolen and the person’s credit is ruined, it can take years to reinstate and the victim may not be able to get credit, an apartment or a job — all critical for someone trying to escape an abusive situation.  In addition to the Safety Plan you make in preparation for leaving an abusive relationship (or as soon as possible afterwards), make an Identity Theft Safety Plan too.  Suggestions:

  • Obtain a credit report from all three major credit bureaus (you’re entitled to one free credit report annually).
  • Join an identity theft monitoring service.  It’s well worth the expense because if your identity becomes compromised, the service will spend the considerable time and money involved to reinstate your identity.  Become a member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and the identity theft company TrustedID will donate a year of free protection to a victim of domestic violence.   LifeLock is another good company to look into. 
  • Place fraud alerts on all your accounts and, in some states, credit freezes.  A good resource for this is Epic (Electronic Pricvacy Information Center).

More resources:  Consumer Protection Board; Identity Theft Resource Center; Federal Trade Commission Identity Theft Division; National Center for Victims of Crime; US Department of Justice/Identity Theft.

 October is Domestic Violence Awareness MonthIf you need immediate help, call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TDD). 

Crime Prevention 101


Topic: The Hunt for the Notorious D. B. Cooper & Keeping Communities Safe Despite Budget Cuts. On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: The Hunt for the Notorious D. B. Cooper & Keeping Communities Safe Despite Budget Cuts. On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 11/7/2011 12:50:11 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Air Date 11/02/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/57385/the-hunt-for-d-b-cooper-alive-or-dead-keeping-communities-safe-despite-budget-cuts

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

On November 24, 1971, a skyjacker and extortionist who became known as D. B. Cooper parachuted out of a Northwest airlines flight--and into infamy--somewhere over Ariel, WA with $200,000 of the airline‘s money, never to be seen or heard from again. This case has intrigued law enforcement and amateur sleuths alike, including me,  for more than 40 years, and tonight, I‘m speaking with journalist Geoffrey Gray, author of Skyjack: The Hunt for D. B. Cooper, who was the first person to have access to confidential FBI case files on this most enduring of cold cases.

 

Also on the show, Tracy Hobson, Executive Director of the Center for Anti-Violence Education, a non-profit self defense organization, talking about what communities can do to keep people safe in these days of tight budgets and police cuts.  Located in Brooklyn, NY, where there‘s been a rash of gropings and attacks, they‘ve stepped up and are doing free programs for the community.  A model for what can be done everywhere.

 

And, you better start making out your holiday shopping list, because I‘ve got lots of suggestions for personal safety products that will help keep your loved ones safe.  Don‘t forget to check out my shopping safety tips during the month of November (online and in malls!)  on my blog CrimePrevention101.com, or on my Twitter @crimeprevent101 and, of course, my Facebook page:  Susan Bartelstone.

 

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/57385/the-hunt-for-d-b-cooper-alive-or-dead-keeping-communities-safe-despite-budget-cuts

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

FOR FULL LIST OF RESOURCES AND PRODUCTS MENTIONED ON THE SHOW, GO TO THE SHOW NOTES ON WWW.CRIMEPREVENTION101.COM


Topic: Pick a Secure Online Site -- Online Shopping Safety Tip #1
Subject: Pick a Secure Online Site -- Online Shopping Safety Tip #1 - Posted: 11/7/2011 12:52:17 PM

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Look for signs a site is secure, such as a closed padlock on the browser’s status bar, before making your purchase.  When you put in your credit card information, make sure the website’s URL address changes from http to shttp or https.  That indicates the information is encrypted or secured.  Sadly, however, even the most secure website can be hacked, so you may want to use gift cards for online purchases rather than your own credit or debit cards.  If anything goes wrong your cards are safe.  Just save the gift cards you used in case of returns. 

For more *Shopping Safety Tips,* go to Crime Prevention 101


Topic: Surviving and Thriving - Pt 1: Crime Victims Give Back! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Surviving and Thriving - Pt 1: Crime Victims Give Back! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 1/18/2012 2:43:24 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Air Date 12/14/11 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/58313/surviving-and-thriving-pt-1

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

 

For an optimistic perspective on a sober subject, this week Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone speaks with two very courageous young women who‘ve been the victims of terrible crimes--the kind that are the stuff of nightmares. But, they‘ve survived and thrived and are now helping others do the same. Spend some time with us and be inspired! 

  

 Fifteen year old Jamie Isaacs endured years of bullying, starting at age 7, by more than 22 kids in her school. Today, she heads the Jamie Isaacs Foundation for Anti-Bullying that has already saved the lives of 8 kids.  

 

Ten years ago, Alicia Kozakiewicz, then 13, became the victim of an Internet luring by a 38 year old man who imprisoned, raped and tortured her. Today, she‘s a nationally-known crusader against child trafficking and pornography and started The Alicia Project to advocate for changes in the law.

  

Also, got travel safety tips for those who are going places and some great holiday gift suggestions with a crime prevention point of view for last minute shoppers.

 

 

Safe and Happy Holidays from Crime Prevention 101!

 

 

Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/58313/surviving-and-thriving-pt-1

 

Also available on iTunes 

http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Topic: Surviving and Thriving - Pt 2: Ex-Cons Give Back! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show
Subject: Surviving and Thriving - Pt 2: Ex-Cons Give Back! On Crime Prevention 101 Radio Show - Posted: 1/18/2012 2:44:53 PM

Hosted by Crime Prevention Specialist Susan Bartelstone; Air Date 01/11/12 

To Listen:  http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/58882/surviving-and-thriving-pt-2-ex-cons-give-back

Also available on iTunes:  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006

Sad but true:  two-thirds of ex-offenders relapse into crime within three years after they’ve been released from prison.  Against heavy odds, however, some DO turn their lives around and this week, I’ll be speaking with some former bad guys who are not only law-abiding citizens but are inspiring other ex-cons to do the same.  Spend some time with us and become hopeful.

 

Larry Lawton, convicted for armed robbery and extortion in 1996, who, after spending 11 years in some of the country’s toughest federal prisons, founded The Reality Check Program for at-risk kids that shows them what prison life is really like.  He’s affected thousands of troubled lives so far.  

 

Former drug abuser/dealer Randy Kearse, now the author of five motivational books based on his personal experiences, inspires other ex cons trying to go straight to find their own voice and transition back into society. 

 

And, Ryan Holly from Defy Ventures, the organization founded by former Wall Street venture capitalist Catherine Rohr, stops by.  Defy Ventures helps ex-cons with an entrepreneurial bent go into business for themselves.  Based on the highly successful Prison Entrepreneurship Program in Texas, where over 600 ex-cons graduated with a recidivism rates of less than 10%.  Defy Ventures also teaches good citizenship and family skills, provides business internships and even start-up capital to a lucky few!

 

 Missed the Live Show?  Listen Now! 
http://www.voiceamerica.com/episode/58882/surviving-and-thriving-pt-2-ex-cons-give-back

 

Also available on iTunes  http://itunes.apple.com/podcast/crime-prevention-101/id419406006


Topic: Pick a Reputable Online Site - Online Shopping Safety Tip
Subject: Pick a Reputable Online Site - Online Shopping Safety Tip - Posted: 1/18/2012 3:28:05 PM

By Susan Bartelstone

There are lots of bargains online but if you’re using an unfamiliar website call the contact phone number listed on the site first to make sure it’s a working number and that you can reach them if there are any problems with the order.  Then check them out on your favorite search engine or Yelp or a similar online resources.  If you don’t like what you read, take your business elsewhere. 

For more *Shopping Safety Tips,* go to Crime Prevention 101 


Topic: Protect Your Computer - Online Shopping Safety Tip
Subject: Protect Your Computer - Online Shopping Safety Tip - Posted: 1/18/2012 3:29:06 PM

By Susan Bartelstone

 

Turn your computer off after you finish shopping or when you’re not using it.  Leaving your computer on gives scammers the opportunity to install malicious software on your machine and control it remotely to commit identity fraud, Identity theft and other cyber crimes.

 

For more *Shopping Safety Tips,* go to Crime Prevention 101


Topic: I‘ve been quoted on Yahoo! : 5 Ways to Make Your Home Safer
Subject: I‘ve been quoted on Yahoo! : 5 Ways to Make Your Home Safer - Posted: 1/25/2012 2:37:56 PM

Check it out on Yahoo! http://realestate.yahoo.com/promo/5-ways-to-make-your-home-safer.html

*Beware of Dog*  You don‘t actually have to own a canine to scare a burglar into thinking you do.  Post a sign in your yard that says, "Attack Dogs Trained and Sold Here," says Susan Bartelstone, host of the radio show Crime Prevention 101 in New York City. "Extremely Vicious Doberman" works too, she says.  "Then get a recording of a fierce-sounding barking dog and set it on a timer to go off periodically when you aren‘t home," Bartelstone says.

To give a burglar pause, leave a large dog bowl by the front door with the name "Cujo" or "Killer."


Topic: Sweetheart Scams - Be Warned
Subject: Sweetheart Scams - Be Warned - Posted: 7/6/2012 3:11:58 PM

Saw this article in Kim Komando‘s website and it‘s a good one:

Sniff out a sweetheart scam

7/6/2012

Q. Kim, I have a friend who is having an Internet relationship with a woman - at least the person says she‘s a woman. He has sent her about $4,000 and has seen nothing for it. I believe he is being scammed, but he says he cares for her. Is there anything you can recommend for investigating this? Please let me know! Thank you!
-Raymond, from Sheridan, WY, listens to my weekly radio show on KROE 930 AM.

A. Scammers will stop at nothing to take a person‘s money, Raymond. We know to avoid tricksters offering fabulous wealth, so instead of greed they play with another runaway emotion - love.

This is called sweetheart scamming. The scammer presents himself or herself as a perfect match to a person online. Then, the scammer starts preying on victims‘ love and trust to bleed bank accounts dry.

READ MORE:  http://www.komando.com/toolbox.aspx?mode=print&id=12850

 

Thanks, Kim

 

 


Topic: Safeguard Your Pocketbook in the Supermarket
Subject: Safeguard Your Pocketbook in the Supermarket - Posted: 8/22/2012 12:52:38 PM

Visit CrimePrevention101.com:  http://crimeprevention101.com/safety-tips/safeguard-your-pocketbook-in-the-supermarket/

A friend of mine told me recently that she‘d been robbed while shopping in the supermarket.  She‘d put her pocketbook in the child seat compartment of the shopping cart (which is what most women do) and at one point turned her back to the cart for just a second to grab something off a shelf.  In that split second, someone grabbed her bag and ran out the door.  Security cameras got a really nice mug shot of him, but bag is still missing, along with all sorts of important papers and items. 

Supermarket robberies happen more often than you‘d think, so here‘s a great tip:  most shopping cart child seat partitions have a safety strap to secure the child so he doesn‘t reach for something and fall out of the cart.  Secure your pocketbook or tote bag through the handles with the strap and shop at ease.  This will stop the thieves who look for a quick hit and run.

No safety strap on the cart?  Tie or secure crossbody pocketbook straps to the push bar of the cart.  Bag have short handles?  Bring your own strap with you. 

And, please, keep your bag closed (and zipped, if there‘s a zipper) while in the cart.  Discourages the pickpockets.

  


Topic: I have a question regarding a few men I have been chatting with.
Subject: I have a question regarding a few men I have been chatting with. - Posted: 11/19/2012 9:26:29 AM
Sorry; just saw this post.  You are right to have red warning flags about these kinds of anomalies.  Never forget that predators, con artists and scammers prowl the internet looking for vulnerable victims.  More than we‘d like to believe.

Be careful about giving out personal details and confidential information to these men (and women Internet  "friends" as well).  Stay alert and protective.  For example, if a long distance  "romance" develops, be cautious about requests for money despite very compelling, sad tales about the need for it.  That‘s a sure sign of a scam. Google "internet scams" and "internet predators" and learn about mistakes others have made and take those lessons to heart. 

Bottom line:  If too many red flags appear on the flagpole, salute and move on!

Topic: If a guy told you he had a diaper fetish...
Subject: If a guy told you he had a diaper fetish... - Posted: 7/25/2014 5:53:53 AM
Manslaugher, there were so many red flags attached to this guy you could open a store with them.  It‘s wise to evaluate everything you know about someone (as much as you can) before you begin a relationship with them; and if several things are outside your comfort zone use your head not your heart or hormones.  That‘s hard advice to take many times but it saves much heartache in the end.

It doesn‘t surprise me that this fellow has involved you in litigation and other undesirable consequences.  He‘s far outside the norm in so many ways.

Good luck getting out of this mess.




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