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Ok, gotta speak my mind here.  I am sick and tired of seeing healthy people sit at home and have babies and live off of me!  When I am struggling to keep food in my house for my son!  I have no damn money, work my ass off and can‘t get any type of assistance whatsoever because I work and make too much money!  Nice! 

That is all.........thank you!   

Hillary is a stupid idiotic bitch that can‘t even sexually please her husband, more less run a country!   

Oh I will put them to work alright!

I hate to be picky but next time can you send naked men that are over 5‘6"?  Them short ones are a little stubby for my taste.

I dont care if someone thinks I am overreacting. He has already cheated on her and robbed her of money. I think of all the women that has been killed because people felt they should stay out of it. I wont.

Yasmina

"Is she a good mother?"  !!?!!!
What the hell has that got to do with anything?! Seriously, does anyone really believe that being a good parent has anything to do with someone‘s capacity for fidelity?
Further more, who‘s to judge what a ‘good parent‘ is? Personally, I‘d say that being a good parent MUST include teaching your kids that there is no god, & that all people who believe in a god - ANY god - is mentally weak, & should be regarded as generally inferior.
However I‘m sure that there are plenty of people who‘d strongly disagree with my viewpoint.

So, clearly parenting (as with EVERYTING) is entirely a matter of subjective oppinion.

Being a good parent is as relevant to fidelity as driving a yellow car is to paying your taxes!


Oh, & Gordon...? If you feel she‘s cheated on you in the past, chances are that’s because you‘re aware of the way that cheating works & you’ve probably screwed around on her yourself. But yes, she‘s probably either doing it, has done it, or will do it, because MONOGAMY IS THE SECOND MOST OVER-RATED & RIDICULOUS CONCEPT KNOWN TO MAN (the first being religion).

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Off your meds again homie?

I was told by the two law students working on my case that I could get sued and I might even loose the case if the judge decides in his favour. The attorney supervising them backed this viewpoint.

My ex has written the two letters himself, so I was told it is really about who has the bigger balls financially. I need to see if he is willing to pay a lawyer to pursue this. It has to do with seeing how far he will take it.

Im really scared.

Yasmina

There‘s a chance I might meet the OW face to face soon (if she‘s brave enough to attend, that is).
The urge to yell out loud at her in public will be hard to resist.

Of course she‘s already denied it, by sending me a stupid letter, and I‘ve had months of silent calls since then. So she‘s got nothing to SAY, clearly.

Did anybody ever confront the OW in public? What did you say?
I know I‘d be thinking about what I SHOULD have said instead of what would probably burst out of my mouth!

(My friend suggested saying nothing and just poking her in both eyes!)

I think some women just feel they have to have a man and couldn‘t make it on their own.  To them even having a bad man is better than having no man.  I think people also learn to accept what little scraps of attention or love they are given and after awhile just don‘t expect anything more than what they get.  The bad one is not always bad.  Maybe he or she is bad 99 times out of 100 but it is that one time they are nice or good or thoughtful or loving or even just normal that makes the other person hold on to hope and stay.  And there are people like me who felt they made a commitment before God and everyone else and were damned determined to make it work even when it was obvious it wouldn‘t or couldn‘t or shouldn‘t work out.  I always thought we would work through the hard spot and get over the hump and things would have to be better 6 months or a year from now.  Some people will see divorce as a failure.  I thought that way too at first.  Now I realize it was an escape for me.  I lived with a mean sarcastic son of a bitch who did not appreciate me at all.  Now I can really appreciate that he is gone.

Just my thoughts.  I am sorry you have been hurt.  Not all women are trash like your former spouse.  I hope you find a special lady soon who will be good to you and appreciate you.

SAM

If he‘s got a key logger on your ‘puter, check all of your accounts - especially under ‘options‘.  Any changes to your accounts, (hotmail, myspace, etc.) especially passwords, can generate a confirmation email to another email address, not yours.

Check that first, before you change any passwords.

And girl, you need a new mobile phone.

Any guy that thinks that he‘s got half a leg to stand on in a Courtroom wouldn‘t be playing these kind of games.  He‘s losing control, and he doesn‘t like it.

Fuck him.

I know I know.  Being a lady is always the best approach.  But can‘t I dream?!?!?!

"I got a meeting in the lady‘s room.  I‘ll be back real soon." 

One thing to remember, if she is there and you lock eyes it is going to be a huge trigger.  Hubby is gonna have a hell of a ride home!!!!

oh hell yeah..click on www.realdoll.com for a laugh.

thing is i wish people like most of our exes went to these little stepford style wives rather than us. that way at least no damage done, except to their bank account.. purrrfect.

; p

I went and registered Boo for Kindergarten. 

   OR   

It is bittersweet.  I am soo excited for him but I am a bit aphrensive (sp) at the same time.  I must of looked like a fool.  "How will he get to gym for after shool care??  Will someone be with him?"  "Who will help him to find the potty?"  Oh boy!  Little man is growing up and Mommy is having a minor problem with letting go. 

Let‘s hope I don‘t totally humilate him his first day!

Does anyone have any stories of their little ones first day? 

Let me spell it out for you. 

DEAD BEAT DAD SYNDROME. 

He does nothing with Boo..........NOTHING.

Ya‘all are making me out to be some sort of booze-hag!

Here‘s to booze-hags.

I guess I am bugging today along with you Sass.  I asked H to get new tires and a oil change on my car before we head out of town.  I asked him 2 weeks ago before he found a job.  I told him I knew he was going to put it back on me like always.  Well guess who is getting new tires put on tomarrow as well as an oil change?  Yup ME.  I don‘t care what anyone says.......I AM HIS MOTHER!  AND I am going to punish his ass for being soo lazy.

What was that cake recipe???  The special one that gives a long lasting after taste????  Lorrie was that you??

If his lawsuit is successful, does that mean his wife is entitled to 250K?

Ever been to sea, Billy?  No, no, Captain Hindgrinder!

Yea hes got another video called super gangster where he attemps to rap, it seems he thinks of himself as a gangsta. I would love to see him come to my city and rap for some of the real Crips and Bloods, I think he would be done with the whole gangsta thing after that one lol.

i have told him how i feel but he said he really likes the job.. 

and i dont know how i feel asking him to quit a job for me

If he was smart, and depending on his situation, he would do what I did and get rid of child support altogether and be in more control of the situation by taking custody of the child.  Of course, not everybody has the same sort of resources, resolve, and circumstances as I do to accomplish this.

But getting a child support check that I don‘t really need, that she knows I don‘t really need, from my ex-wife is a nice bit of misery.  But that‘s what she gets for daring to try to make me a part of the femisist legal system and listening to her family when they told her she had a chance in court against me.

It took me two years.  I would have continued past that If I had to. I am a living example to my lost brothers of how it is possible to win a battle fought within a woman‘s strongest fortress. . .Family Court.

Amen.

Modern morality can only mask instintive behavior, not eliminate it.  Women struggle just as much with their nature as men do.  Those who have weaker minds of either sex will fall prey to natural desires easier than those with stronger minds.  As an animal, no human should ever truly be trusted to be monogamous, any more than a polar bear can ever be considered "tame".

Monogamy for humans is simply a social construct that goes against instinct.

I left home at 18. Spend some time abroad then came back - got an apartment went to college while working two jobs and eating not much besides Ramen Noodles and fresh fruit.

Later I shared an apartment for 4 years with my BF - we had no heater in winter ( Electricity was to darn expensive to try and heat the apartment up lol). When we broke up I DID move home with my parents till I could find a place of my own. However I DID pay rent to my parents - I payed for my phoneline - I cooked 4 days a week and did all the laundry except ironing my dads shirts - screw that.

I could no imagine living with them now, as much as I love them it would drive me bonkers.

At 35 living home.. unless you are sick or let‘s say recently divocred/broke up . a guy or girl is utterly lazy and dependant in a very odd way.

TM

I am not reading your garbage.  I read enough of your dribble on your blog.  Any man who thinks women are mere cum collectors doesn‘t get any respect from me.  Your opinions mean sqwat here!

All men who are in contention with women are my brothers.  Some of them are of aware of this. . .most are not.

I said I have full custody of my child.  Not that I was raising a child.  It is my belief that 80% of all women are worthless.  But there is the 20% that I concede are valuable for anything other than childbearing and providing sex.  The woman I have raising my child is one of these rare 20%.  A child needs a mother,  I simply had to find the right mother for my child.  They want for nothing.. . .and I don‘t have to be forced under pain of punishment by law by a feminist family court to provide for their needs. 

As far as the court knowing how insane I am.  My ex-wife tried her best to convince them.  The harder she tried. . .the more irrational she herself seemed.  I used her own ammunition against her by turning around and pointing out her behavior and obsession with proving to the court that I was crazy.  As I shot down each of her attempts one by one, each remaining attempt looked more and more ludicrous in the eyes of the court.  In the end, she had to be restrained and taken from the courtroom screaming when the judge gave me custody. . .Her behavior reinforcing my strategy that she herself provided to me.

Amen.

Women overvalue their sexuality because it is really the only thing of worth that they have.  Even the fact that they can provide children is tied directly to their sexuality.

Only in modern, technologically advanced societies are women valued as anything other than childbearing sex providers.

Amen.

OMG!

We are married to friggin twins!

I don‘t see a problem with some one playing the devils advocate. Fun debates can evolve after that. Then again I don‘t know this poster.

I personally do NOT believe sex is "just" a basic instinct. Yes people get excited by looking at attractive members of the other sex. But a couple of thousands years of "civilisation" HAVE changed humans views. Views on many things, sex being one of them.

Why do you think sex sell?

That you think explaining adultery away by saying that sex is jsut a need - and humans are still so animalistic that all they can think of is gratification is sad to me. You should read up on things like tantric sex......

But if debating is what you really want... Use the Agree to disagree section perhaps?

TM

As a matter of fact I just got back from a fantasic vacation filled with adventure parks, water parks, movies and eating out every night with my boys

 I took them and my parents and we had a blast.

that‘s why I have not been on these last few days.

Sunny, you realize that this guy has all the elements of a troll. As a troll myself I‘ll give him an A for the imagination and attention to detail in the make up of the character. However, he gets an F- for his choice of sites to post this shit on.

Even I don‘t think it‘s appropriate or funny and I think everything is funny

Ife he thinks reading a goodnight story for the kids  is stupid.............

He is an Asshole

"Since 2002 I have had sex with 90 bitches (not including girlfriends or whores I have paid for) thanks to my proven method, which I will share with you because, in my opinion, losers like us deserve pussy just as much as the next guy!"

 (taken from Preacher Creatures blog)

Self proclaimed loser has to pay for it! 

You sure did.

You know, you could catch him on top of her, and he‘d still deny even knowing her.

Fucking bastards.

Do I think 80% of women are evil? No. the number is way to low.. should be like 98% *sarcastic grin*

Ok let me be serious a second. No I don‘t believe in evil in human beings. I believe in evil behavior and evil deeds. No one comes into the world evil. I do believe that many things in the enviroments and heck maybe even genes ( not cromozones) can make human being less then humans and they will do unspeakable acts.

I think women are more passive agressive - cause that is what we are taught from an early age, but I don‘t think that makes us evil.

I think women have a higher sense of empathy them men, again cause that is what we are taught from and early again.

I think women are less driven by instincts and more by interlect. Like a 5 year old. A boy is mad at another boy - he hits him and it‘s over. A girl is mad at another kids and she verbalizes her anger. Like my mom used to say. Give a boy a cannon and he will fire it. Give a girl a cannon and she will spend some time figuring out what the best use there is for said cannon.

Women have always been the physically weaker sex, but often they used it to their advangtage. Is that considered being evil? If so well, lets look and see who taught them that. Dads and moms. I was the smallest girl on the soccer team but also the fastest, my dad taught me to use my strong point - it was what won us A LOT of games.

Anyone claiming that a sex makes you evil is sad.

Or maybe cause I‘m a woman myself I can not recognize evil? I doubt that. I have done some "mean" thing in my life, but the good things, the love, understanding, teaching, nurturing outweight it by far. And most of the mean things I did to myself - not others.

If women are so evil how come most criminals doing Horrible crimes - serial killer - child molesters - physically & mental abusers, rapists, cruelty to animals are mostly men?

And NO I don‘t believe taking away a child from his/her parent in order to punish the other half of the parental unit is right. That is just twisted. Where is the frigging logic in that?

TM

I‘ve been dating my guy for a little over a year.  I had a "gut feeling" several months ago he was cheating.  This led me to look at his cell phone bill.  There was one telephone number he called and received calls (and text messages) from more than me.  I called the number hoping to find out from voicemail who it belonged too.  Low and behold, it was a woman.  I didn‘t tell him what I had done, but asked him if he new anyone by the name on the voicemail (he deals with many different folks on a daily basis, so I was hoping it was a client).  He said he had dated someone with that name in the past, but doesn‘t talk to them currently.  He didn‘t know anyone else with that name.  Ever since this, I‘ve been asking questions here and there, never revealing I looked at his phone bill, trying to elicit more information.  He swears he doesn‘t talk to this person.  Most recently he said he had talked to her 3 times in the past (she owed him money), but that her number was disconnected.  I know this is true because I called the number - disconnected.  I could go on more; however, what I‘m really struggling with is what do I do?  It‘s eating me up?  Do I tell him I looked at his phone bill and I know this woman is someone he talks to often?  He‘s loving and will do anything I ask him to do.  He‘s more communicative than anyone else I know.  He swears, with passion, he‘s never cheated on anyone and would never cheat on me.  We‘re due to move in together at the end of the month and I‘m lost.  I would love any insight anyone has.  My fear is that I‘ll tell him I looked at the phone bill and there will be some reasonable explanation as to who it is.  Then he won‘t trust me???  Ugh!

She has already seriously damaged her chances of getting her child back by trying to hire someone to kill me after I was given custody.  Heh.  Turned out to be an undercover deputy working on a drug sting posing as a Tampa gang member.  She ended up with an 8 year sentence for conspiracy.  She‘s out now after serving 3.  While she was in prison I took the opportunity presented to completely terminate her parental rights.

Poor dear went right over the edge

She‘s been in and out of institutions ever since.

Anyway, my real first name is Atom.  I live in the Orlando area and with a name like that,  I‘m not very hard to find. 

Hopefully, that will be enough information to find me, yet vague enough to not twist any mods by posting RL information.

 Do your worst.  You won‘t be the first to try.  I go to court 3 or 4 times a year. . .well, actually mediation.  My lawyer and I usually own anybody who tries in mediation.  I enjoy the challenge, but I enjoy humiliating my opponents even more.

You cannot be the voice of The Fuck™ without a damn good lawyer well versed in constitutional law.

Amen.

I did run a check actually before I called the number and received the same name as on the voicemail.  I just can‘t seem to piece together why he would say the only S he knew was an Ex girlfriend who he had a 9 month fling with and then broke up.  I know he‘s been talking to an S for some time now and often.  After I started asking questions, he started shredding his phone bills.  Could be coincidence?  I‘m afraid my only route it to tell him I looked at his phone bill and tell him what I found.  For an innocent person, however, this is often an unforgivable violation. 

Why would he try and get you arrested?

TM

Auch! Why would anyone find that erotic to get kicked in the nuts? Sad.. so sad. I so don‘t understand degredation sex.

TM

And Preacher - do you judge all women the same way? Have you never met one you actually respected? Or does that go against your teachings?

meandnotyou wrote:

TxCowboy wrote: meandnotyou wrote: TxCowboy wrote: meandnotyou wrote: TxCowboy wrote: yasmina wrote: ...if he falls asleep right after sex, he´s an asshole next If he falls asleep while having sex, then he is a TOTAL asshole.  (Yep!  I‘m a guy!  I know lots of these guys you are talking about!  LOL!  But, I am not one of ‘em!) Ok Tex, what‘s the most asshole-ish thing you‘ve ever done? Me, I can‘t think of anything I have ever done to anyone to hurt them.  And, I am serious.   I wasn‘t reared that way by my mom.  She would come back from the grave and hit me up the side of the head if I every hurt anyone.  My dad was a cheater.  I have a 1/2 brother somewhere in this world.  Never saw him.  The values I have are ingraned me from my mother.  She was a great lady and a great friend.  I miss her every day that I live.  I will always be indebtted (sp) to her for what she taught me. I guess the worst thing I have ever done was loosen the girth on a guy‘s saddle when we were competing in a playday.  I didn‘t like him.  BUT, my mother found out it was me and boxed me up the side of the head.  Made me apologize and give the prize money back. This is for your Mom. And girls, I‘m moving to Texas! Me, I love ya, but I am seeing someone.  :)  His name is Carl and he is a good man.  He isn‘t married, faithful, we spend all of our time together except for when we are work.  We "Rideshare", which means, we use one car for the both of us. Carl is 36 and I am 59, soon to be 60.  There is a pic in my profile somewhere on here.  I was the one who‘s manfriend was married but he had told me his wife was dead.  She isn‘t.  Pissed me off, so I told her and took the emails, etc. to her.  Now, she and Carl and I are friends.  Carl had a hip surgery (left hip since right hip had already been replaced) and she was so good to us.  I could go on and on.  But, in these 59 5/6 years, I have met some real losers and assholes. Me, Lorrie, and Yas.  You women are the tops and I admire you all so much and love you all, too.  (Hope that is too out of line!)  Love Lorrie‘s pic in her posting with the martini glass.  Personally, I drink Southern Comfort and Hurricanes and Singapore Slings.  but, there is nothing wrong with a good dry Gibson made with Gilbey‘s. Now on to the assholes! Well Tex, I‘ve given it some long, hard thought... Carl can stay.  He can make my Slingapore Sings.  Oh look, I‘ve had too many already!  Hiccup!

Listen, anytime you all are in Texas (Dallas-Fort Worth area), let me know you are on your way.  Would love to show you all the cities. 

I love Carl with all my heart.  He had two bad relationships and was skeptical about another.  Carl told me that no one has ever shown him respect and love like I have.  He feels that God brought us together.  We met on a campout with 150 other men.  Out of all those men there, we two saw each other and it was inseparable for us.

Seriously,  you gals come on to Texas.  It‘s hotter than hell right now, but come October, it was begin to be really pleasant.  Also, the Great State Fair of Texas will be going on in October.  Lots of good ole junk food.  Might even find you all a real cowboy to have all for your very own and he will be straight!  HAHAHHAH!

Funny you should ask...there‘s a bunch of drunken sailors on the lookout for her.

Now, if they can figure out how to unhook the seatbelts from the barstools, they‘ll have her back here in no time.

I don‘t usually bitch about things (I think, LOL), but I‘ll give it a go:

Unit #2, the most responsible one, left for vacation on the 3rd with my ex and won‘t be back until the 25th.  You know what that means?  Nobody to cut the grass, take out the garbage, carry groceries, help with the kids, blah, blah, blah.  Most of all, nobody to laugh with that understands more than bathroom humor.  Sigh.

My Weiner dog has had the shits and vomiting since Aug 5 and so far, 3 vets haven‘t been able to tell me what‘s wrong with her.  Mind you, they‘ve still managed to tool through $600.00 in my bank account, the fockers.

I woke up yesterday am thinking that I had 3 little mosquito bites on my forearm.  I started feeling really crappy yesterday afternoon, so I went to the doctor.  As it turns out, I have an allergy.  I guess the thing that tipped off the doctor was the fact that my arm was swollen to 3 times it‘s normal size, and hotter than hell.  I was advised to buy some Reactin, which isn‘t helping at all.  He can‘t explain why the mosquito bite on the opposite wrist isn‘t swollen at all.

But what really pisses me off the most is the fact that I now have to hoist a pint with my left hand.  I have yet to get that ‘bottle to mouth‘ coordination thing down pat, so now everyone thinks that I have a hole in my bottom lip.

So, how‘d I do?!

That‘s not true.  A Judge can order termination of parental rights due to extenuating circumstances. . .such as percieved danger to the child, which I made sure to heap on.  I might have even summoned up a tear or two.  It was temporary, with judicial hearings every 6 months, then as she dropped farther and farther down (drug arrest, suicide attempt, so on and so on). I eventually campaigned to have it made permanent.  Her visits are now at my discretion and supervised.  She‘s such a miserable wretch now.

But some good came of it all.  My first wife, who I also have a child with, saw what I did to my second wife and was smart enough to make peace with me.  We have a very nice relationship, where she knows that if she tries to do anything against me with the law, I will crush her like I did to my second wife.  We amended the divorce so that any child support and visitation issues will be a joint decision.  I also do not pay court-ordered child support, instead I willingly pay her a very generous amount, more than the court ordered in the first place.  In exchange, I have promised not to try to take custody of her daughter.

At least my first wife has the good sense to know the kind of opponent she faces because of the example I made of my second.  It‘s too bad my second wife didn‘t have the same insight or forewarning.

Amen.

No, its the second important PM I know of that has dissapeared into thin air. LMWS also send me at least one about becoming a WS rep. Didnt get that one either. As I said to LMWS I do fear that my Ex has physical keylogger installed and he is watching me on this forum.

Yas.

OK .. I got it now. This site is so that you all can slam and defame the men who were smart enough to simply end a relationship because it was just not right. Not that they were seeing another woman or abusing you. Just that they wanted to get out of a realtionship with you. And rather than just accept that you were not what they were looking for, you do all you can to exact e-venge making it difficult for them to put you behind them. Interestingly, there is no site for men to warn other guys about how petty you are and that you refuse to take responsibility for your shortcomings.Maybe that is because the site would have few postings from those who do not wallow in self-pitty and have the pride and ability to move on.

And here I thought the site was to actually protect women .... No one on this site needs protection .. the threats are made up for sympathy and mental health counseling is what is needed.

Hi, I am better right now, and I just wanted to make something clear,  it hurts, and I am crying and it hurts to see that he made his choice of being with the other, and I think in my case this is the only reason he has not being abusive, which is a case very different to abusive husbands out there,  last night that I had a breakdown he would say

Are you trying too make me loose it so u can call the police and kick me out? so that is why I believe these guys are very smart and not crazy,,,,I was not trying for him to loose it just to be honest and stop lying to her and me...but with his answer I thought, My God before just for me saying a instead of b that would be it....a remote control would be flying across the room....

I am crying and it hurts but at the same time I know I need to go forward with my life,,,,get out of this dragging......I need to re start my life,,,that is why I feel everything is so strange,,,you do not want to be with them but at the same time it hurts to know they defend and are with somebody else   I am going to get out of this unhealthy relationship, and many of u have told me that is normal to cry for days....I just do not understand why the crying when he has hurted me so much, but it is there, that is what worries me,,,,how much have I fell  in this deep whole...I should be grateful about this Biatch,,,but I am a fighter so I know at the end of the tunnel even if I am feeling like this today, I will wake up,,,is just that I do get very depress now....but i will post my progress and hopefully with this help someone in my same situation. because I am going forward with my divorce, it is the only healthy  way to go on.

I‘m telling you.... THIS SITE HAS BEEN AWESOME for me.  My personal email address is ArmyMom12803@aol.com

I‘ve got all of my correspondence with HER saved on my computer.  And it seems like everytime I go back and read something, I see something I missed or I have more questions I‘d love to ask her.  But for some reason she just stopped talking to me. 

Email me if you‘d like.  My husband isn‘t due home till later this evening, so I‘m off to spend his $$$!

(I‘m due)

thanks for making me understand the meaning some...

I used to think a soulmate is was your lover, partner for life that includes being your best friend.  You know puts your total thoughts at heart and considers all your needs.  Sometimes I think that is still true.  I believe that some fairy tales can be lived.  It is like that song by Martina Mcbride..I have been blessed..that feeling of knowing what the other is thinking without saying the word. 

I know every relationship is hard work..good or bad..but some people really are blessed with the unconditional love of that soulmate..that is hopeful

  I thought i was getting it together. But I keep falling down.  What is wrong with me?

My husband left me for a younger woman. They share a child now and he wants to come home. I have told him no but want to let him come home. Im having a hard time with this.     He calls crying like today. Regrets.   I seem to be helping other folks with theirs but cant help myself. 

Im confused

I don‘t know if anyone has read the book "The five people you meet in heaven" It‘s a really good book.  I forget the author.

It makes you stop and wonder........it‘s a good read.  :)

Well I feel like a total blonde! (Not that I don‘t love blondes!)  I don‘t even remember the name of the restaurant Sunny, but it was the best steak I‘ve had in a long time! Somewhere between Pelican Beach and the Outlet mall.

As for those old emails... I‘ve read and re-read your suggestion about getting rid of them.  I know thats exactly what I NEED to do, so WHY CAN‘T I?

WOW is all I can say.  Still don‘t know wether or not the frame is bent on my car.  But we are very lucky to be alive.  We were hit in the left rear by a semi truck, spinning us out of control on the freeway doing about 65.  We we in a full spin when I looked and saw a pole in the median.  I thought we were going to die.  Thank gawd H manuevered and missed it but threw us into a spin in the opposite direction and we went into the oncoming freeway traffic.  All together we did about 5 to 6 doughnuts.  We are sore but are all fine. 

The wedding was wonderful and they are going to be happy together.  Was nice to see everyone.

I had a violent allergy attack on Friday night and I am still suffering  nasally are bronchially now.   Joy!

Boo and I saved a kitten that was wedged under a air conditioning unit at the hotel.  Little guy was about 4 or 5 weeks old and was covered in fleas.  I gave him to the night auditor who called his girlfriend and I think they will keep it.

I am glad to be home but I am soo tired.  We were up at 4am to get the airport. 

Oh we did go to the Shlitterbaum water park and spent the day having fun.  Well I guess fun since I think I drank at least a gallon of pee infested nasty water!  UHG!

I will be happy not to return to Texas, land of the the most Moronic drivers in the world!  (Sorry people from Texas)  I have never seen so many shitty drivers in my life! 

I am GLAD to see Kaboom around!!!

TOW must have a new lady on the line. hehe  He usually checks in on weekends but not in a awhile.........has to be a woman!

What‘s the word from Pandora?

OK you all know about my neighbor skoochie that showed herself. hehehhe dance a jig. Anyhow, Her H wanted a date. He‘s a great guy. So I proceed to hook him up with a good friend of mine. She had to cancell because she had to go the er and had surgery. Anywho, his W started talking to me about it. Saying he was disapointed because it didn‘t happen. Ok is it just me or is that kinda f***ed up? She is staying the night at her bfs house all the time and I go to set him up and they discuss it? That to me is just weird the whole thing is anyway. SO I am going to just not do anything. Freaks me out!!! LMAO!!!!

that too

speaking of peaches I just joined a vegan forum

I think I am going to describe, in enormous detail, the best way to eat a peach.

let‘s see how long it takes for them to figure out what I‘m talking about and ban me.. this should be fun

You make me SICK!

Trying to make money out of other peoples misery. Let two people get at each other like dogs and put it on TV.

You are the lowest of the lowest. And dont even start with crap about "helping" or the "legal claim". Christ!!!!!

Yasmina

hey, that‘s my line.

I do understand peoples feelings of hurt and need to get even, but thats not what I am talking about.

Im talking about people making money on other peoples need to get even.

These people are enabling conflicts and high-fiving in the editing room if a person falls apart.

Yasmina

I agree with Yas

just saying

meandnotyou wrote:

little_sassy wrote: meandnotyou wrote: little_sassy wrote: shally wrote: So what day will you be on? Wear something pretty, we‘ll all be watching... We need to make up a secret wave. So you can wave to all of us.... Oh hell I‘m not going I‘m going to call them in! I swear they find the most redneck backwards people for that show. Gee, you mean all Americans aren‘t like that?! Well you know what?!?! I went to a little festival in a small town and I swear I have never seen that many people with so little teeth. A Redneck compliment: "Nice tooth!"

The sad thing is I use to live around there. OMG I think my D was scared. hehehe She can‘t even pee in the woods. LMAO

Thanks ladies. Yes i love him more than words can express.

But I have never cheated on him and i cant feel as if he did come home that i could trust him.   I believe in action not words. So ill just stay alone and move on.  To painful to LOVE.

Thank you again for all your comments and help.

  I have went through a lot with my man. I found out about him cheating. There are so many men out there who do it, its unreal. I have been in my relashionship for a long time, since we where teenagers. We have a 6 year old. Trying to decide to make this work or not is so hard.

  Mine didn‘t have a long term affair, just sex.

I know most of these stories are about long term affairs, and I guess that makes it harder in some ways. But either way it hurts.

  I noticed a lot of the women writting on here are older then I am. I just sit and ask myself is this going to get worse as I get older. Im young now, but I wont be beautiful forever lol.

  The next relashionship could be the same, so do I continue trying to make this work or move on?

  Theres so many men that I know that have cheated on thier wives, of G/f‘s. Its happening evrywhere.

   Maybe some advice from more expierenced women will help me.

didn‘t you post this already?

btw, can I sue my ex for being a dumbass?

Agreed!

Until Harlan owns his mistakes and realizes that his wifes actions are reactions he will not make any progress here. 

I‘m off to S.F. on Thursday so I won‘t be on til next week. Wish me luck! I‘m checking places in Menlo Park!!

H is giving me a bad time about moving. I‘m asking for more spousal support since it‘s more exspensive in S.F. ($4,000.00 per month for ten years). I‘m also asking for $3,000,00 per month in child support for D. I know I‘ll get it. He‘s  squirming! Right where I want him!

Well, my goodness, that explains it!

And all this time, I thought that it was me.

What if you inhaled one of those things?

I found this on you tube, I have seen some freaky shit but god damn. This guy walks in on his girl friend in a rather, odd position.

http://youtube.com/watch?v=oflOvGLofnU

oh well my name is something he would be able to tell is mine..used my nickname I have in real life and just did it without thinking really..I really don‘t care and he can‘t figure out what site it is now..has emailed me to ask me what that site was again..

I told him another..lol

So he is looking at another one..

He even said that I need mental help..haha..I wonder the F why?  I hate him..u have no idea.

Wow, your lips look so good that even I‘d kiss them, and I don‘t even have homo milk in the house.

Yes mam he did...what are those..i am website dumb

how about the ihatemen.com..

I told him about that too..I said there are several ..take your pick..

So you want to know the latest..thinks I am messing around online..now I am the one who is deceiving..haha..wtfe

please sunny, tell me you had drawers on of SOME kind? wus it just a tank top, and thats it??!!

whew! what a relief.

i was seriously picturing you driving down the road with your son in the car, wearing nothing but a white tank top and a smile.

i was gonna tell you, if that was the case, to start saving for your sons therapy now.

It‘s been almost 3 months since I walked in on my husband and my best friend having sex in our home.  Getting up every day since then has been a huge effort.  I cry just about every day, I‘ve lost weight, I hardly sleep, I can‘t work.  The usual, I guess for someone in my situation.  

My husband and I have been together for almost ten years.  I thought he was a wonderful person.  I trusted my best friend completely. 

There‘s so much wrong with this situation and I just don‘t know what to do anymore.  My husband and I are going to couples counseling and we are both going to individual counseling.  I talk to my friends.  I read books about infidelity, journal, but I just feel like I‘m sinking.  I can‘t stop thinking about what happened and what I saw.  My husband admitted that this was the 5th time.  It had been going on for a month right under my nose.   

I don‘t know if it‘s worth working on.   I don‘t know how I can ever forgive him.  I moved away from my home, my friends, my family, my job, and supported him for 3 years while he attended law school.  To say this was a slap in the face would be a vast understatement.  I thought we had a good marriage.  It wasn‘t perfect, but I loved him and I still do, but I have no idea what to do.

We‘re already married, and I‘m already ‘old hat‘ to her...OMG, what did I do wrong?!

well im not sure on what im doing here but i feel like a slut not that this happens to much but when im making love to my husban my ex pops up in my head yes right in the middle of it im not sure why but it does can someone tell me why im thinking about him while im in the middle of making love to my new husban of 6 years this has been going on now for about a year and i can understand it  i was think ing about telling my hubby but im scared he would be pissed off and call be a hore what can i do??? some one pleas help

starlett68 wrote:

Fifi Larue wrote: hey starlett! well, i understand the CS thing. my ex husband is a real peach when it comes to that. and school supplies and clothes??! its SO expensive! just go to the Dollar store and get the pens, notebooks, and stuff there. who cares if they are off-brands? my kid loses all the pens i buy him in the beginning of the year by the end of first semester anyway!   Thats what we did , went to the dollar store. Got her enough to get started. I‘ ll figure something out for clothes. Thanks so much.

we lived at good-will when i was growing up. there were four of us. the church had st. vincent de paul‘s also. well the catholics anyway.

call the catholics and explain, just say your are in a bind and your child needs help. couldn‘t hurt. and beleive me, they get plenty of money going thru there.

oh, don‘t get me started about the catholics, momo will clobber me.

what the hell does that mean? (ok I got what it means)

how does my 13 year daughter think it is funny that someone posted it on my myspace..she tried to cover it up though..I just deleted it..I wanted to just die..

my mom told me paybacks were going to suck and oh does it..we never had cyber space when I was young..I want to ban her..I would just be the meanest mom on the planet..

Anyone have a young teenager online and what do u consider the limt of what they do?

Discovered my b/f of 2+ years was cheating.

So I went my separate way, met another guy and am involved with this other man.

The old b/f just can‘t let it go.  Claims he has changed and that since losing me he has realized what a jerk he was and how much he loved me.....bla bla bla 

He has changed drastically.  All of the things he did that bothered me have disappeared - OR - maybe not and he has just learned what he needs to do or say to get my attention.

My trouble is I dont‘ know whats real or whats fake.  For two years he showed almost no emotion and now he is filled with emotion toward me.

Too bad all these feelings came out too late.  But my issue is after longing for this emotional stuff, now that he is finally giving it to me HE HAS MY ATTENTION.

He is a handsome charmer type and I‘m feeling like its all a game to win me back or steal me from my new guy.

I‘ve tried losing contact with him, but he just won‘t go away.  I‘ve blocked his s/n, ignored his calls but he always finds an excuse to be connected with me.

Mind you, this is putting a strain on my new relationship.

PS a short time ago he was prowling around looking for other woman and now all he talks about is wanting to spend the rest of his life with me.  It just seems so fake but I have to say he could win an Academy Award for this performance.

I need to hear some of your thoughts on this, please.........  

little_sassy wrote:

Hehehe! Or I just keep my money and go buy my own ticket. hehehe Cause Lorrie said No!!!

Greedy isn‘t she?!?!?!

that funny..They would not approve me 2..why is that anyway?

and there was something I saw on there so I didn‘t go back..it is trash to say the least.

why cause my face any wrinkles..thats just what they want..

I don‘t know about you ladies...but I want to hold out on aging as long possible..

LittleMissWomansaver wrote:

Persona Non Grata wrote: Can I sue you LMWS for telling people here that I was "Abby Normal" when you knew fine well that I wasn‘t?    You defamed me and you know it!! Since you are the Queen of Multiple Personalities, I was never sure who you were until I actually started phoning people.  Do whatever floats your boat.  I‘d love to see what you really look like, LadyBoy.

just replying again for emphasis on the total pwnage!!!!!!

PNG = OWNED

FACT

If he flirts with other women in front of you, he‘s an asshole.

If he borrows money from you and never pays it back, he‘s an asshole.

If he brags about all the women he dated before you, he‘s an asshole.

If he brags about his prowess in the sack, he is definitely an asshole.

If he‘s rude, thoughtless and inconsiderate, he‘s an asshole.

If he‘s rude to your friends, family, or embarrasses you in front of others, he‘s an asshole.

If he doesn‘t pay child support or honor his obligations, he‘s an asshole.

If he cheated on another woman to be with you, or cheats on you, he‘s an asshole.

If he‘s moody and grouchy all the time - no it isn‘t just stress or overwork - he‘s an asshole.

If he has ever hit a woman - for any reason - he‘s an asshole - even if she hit him first.

If he says "Can I get a blow job?" but never returns the favor, he‘s definitely an asshole.

If he lies to you, refuses to wear a condom, or expects you to be 100% responsible for preventing disease and pregnancy, he is an asshole.

Gee...I could go on and on!

He just blew off another school event for the kids.  He has promised for TWO weeks to be at their open house with us. Today, of course he HAD to go all the way back to the office to pick up his jeep (he was driving the company van that he usually drives for weeks at a time, and has no problem with it)  Then of course, He had to stop by his dads to pick up his daughter........ I tried to be nice and ask why he always breaks his promises to us, I got cussed out.......I WILL get a job, and I WILL either break his freakin neck or leave him!!!

Cash out option is 140,000,000.  Then the govenerment will take around 35-40%.

I think I could live with that!

"Modern American statutes define assault as:

1. an attempt to cause or purposely, knowingly, or recklessly causing bodily injury to another; or,
2. negligently causing bodily injury to another with a deadly weapon.

Some states also define assault as an attempt to menace (or actual menacing) by placing another person in fear of imminent serious bodily injury.

States vary whether it is possible to commit an "attempted assault" since it can be considered a double inchoate offense."

shally wrote:

Hey PNG, you can delete your posts now, thanks....

10 bucks says they‘ll vanish before next week

fucking post ghost

I know someone who stayed in a bad marraige for 27 year‘s.She was hit and her cloth her torn .She went to get help years ago and her h never did.She now is finaly had enough even thou he has not hit her in year‘s.But he still dont treat her the way she would like.

Well now her kids are all grown up and she told him she would be leaving and he said that is fine do what you have to do.She told me today he said she has to leave the house right away thou the house is in both there name.

One thing that make‘s her mad is that her best frined that she has always been there for thing‘s she is wrong because she is giving up a nice house.

shally wrote:

Sassy every time I think of small ones I think of what ellen called them...buttons!!!! When I was young I loved older men. I dated one that I swear had a button, I just thought it had shrunk with age, he said no. I think it pissed him off....

I have just always said Oh isn‘t it cute an extra belly button.

Oh I have always like older men too! My H isn‘t too much older then me just 4years.

just let me ask you this: are there really women that enjoy that? are they all lying?

i just don‘t do it, have no desire, don‘t want to know.

Don‘t like the term ‘damaged goods‘ either.

AND why is it always usually used to describe women?????

lorrie wrote:

shally wrote: Hey Sassy girl! Back at ‘cha! Love the new avatar! hey that black cat looks irish.

I thought the red one looked more Irish and mean!

No who‘s slaying who?!?!?!

Disappointed Again.....

You just posted 2 more of my Husbands asshole traits.........

Does something wrong (like have an affair) and then he thinks he‘s the victim?  Yep, thats him.

oh ....and

If he watches YOU lug the garbage to the curb........(mine never once took out the trash.

And another one mine used to do............

If he always makes YOU lug in his 30 pack of beer, even when your 9 months pregnant & high risk...............

HE‘S AN ASSHOLE..........

Thanks everyone for your responses. Iam really looking for an answer on what to do. I understand the Karma thing now and its interesting and quite scary!

Yes I did cheat on first husband but straight away ended it with him as i didnt want to be two timing. I have very good reasons to have left him amyway.

I have had my ass bitten I agree and just cant understand how john did all that while pursuing me so intently. I believed in him and to this day would never have suspected anything of him "back then" if I hadnt found that stuff.

hey sunny..ever done that..the voice recorder

ok say they cheat..you stay with him..would you do it as a check up?  could be my ticket outta here.

Well, being new here I don‘t want to exacerbate the situation and call anyone out, but a long established member here is accusing me of being some troll named "Red".

I told her that if she really thinks I‘m a troll that she ought to contact a mod to have them match up the IP‘s or confirm it, otherwise she should keep her suspicious nature in check and stop making wild accusations.

Thanks for your help Shelly.

not that easy for me sunny..

I have asked him to leave several times and he goes and cries to my family..

they will not support me in leaving him..

nothing to do with money..i would be fine but if my family locks me out of family business then i would be screwed..and that to me is bullshit since i have worked my ass off all my life.

I then would be called selfish and all kinds of things..not easy when you from a different heritage and everyone blames you you know.

I will wait until they are older and just want to be able for my parents to enjoy their last years without adding my pain..I just have to vent this off somewhere..and its here ..sorry if I unloaded on you..

Hi everyone.I am beginning to think that I may suffer from pms or pmdd.I noticed that I have a lot of water gain 2 weeks before my period and at this time I feel very angry [mostly at my husband].The things that have happened in the past really bother me at this time.Can anyone give me some advice on treatment both natural or medical.

but sunny1 we would only kill then because we LOVE them!

remember, nothing says "i love you" better than a restraining order!

Has Researcher asked you, via pm, if you were an OW (other woman)?

Researcher has asked me.  Researcher is claiming that I‘m the only one she‘s asked.

Hi Ladies,

I love to be naked and exposed and woud like to know if seeing a nude guy is pleasant or not for females.  I have read and seen articles about Ladies Night events where strippers get touched and even more by a public of horny ladies who are apparently enjoying playing with nacked man.

I just finished my myspace account. I was kinda worried about it but I didn‘t not know you could make your profile private. That is cool.

 Anyone have any advice or anything. I am sure a lot of my friends are on it but when I search it brings up 10000 people. lol No! Thanks!

i have pretty miserable periods, as well. i do take a little cocktail of vitamins and i try and eat pretty healthy. i exercise at least 4 times a week, and they are still pretty bad.

i keep asking my husband to perform a home hysterectomy, but he keeps blah-blahing about infection and the fact that he didnt go to medical school.

he can be pretty selfish sometimes.

I‘m sorry for being gone so long.  Have had many things going on.  I‘ve been settled in my apartment and working on a new life.  The divorce was final July 20th.  I‘ve been awarded my house back and am in the process of moving back home.  I‘ve changed jobs and absolutely love the new job.  And lastly, I think I may have met the love of my life   All the time I was searching on the dating sites there was some one here, close to me, that was just waiting.  We‘ve been seeing each other a month and he has completely caputered my heart. He‘s kind, gentle, loving, and thoughtful.   He listens when I speak.  He looks me in the face.  He is interested in what I think and feel.  He values me as a person. 

There is hope in life after an abusive relationship.  You just need to get away.  Draw from your inner strength.  Formulate a plan, then put it in to action.  Always look forward, never backwards.  It‘s too easy to go back to what is familiar when you get out on your own.  The first month for me was awful.  I cried myself to sleep every night and just wanted to go home.  I worked past that.  It wasn‘t always easy, but I never ever gave up.

I hated being alone, but loneliness was my friend as there was no fighting or fear there.  Just me and an empty heart.  Being alone is far better than being with some one who abuses you.  You need to put your own heart in order before you can move on.  Accept being alone.  Become your best friend.  Your heart will begin to heal.  When it does it will be open to the right person.  Accept nothing less than the best. 

Psssssst.......Sunny..........don‘t tell H!

Oh Starlet, I‘m sorry you are going through this.  I would hope he would dig his balls out of her purse very quickly before, because it sounds as though she is trying to make him make a choice - her or his kids.  My exhusband‘s wife has done that on numerous occasions (just as recently as a month ago....and I bitched him out royally for the treatment.  He has been peachy sweet since then).  Funny thing is that my younger son came home from his dad‘s this weekend and swears he thinks they are going to divorce because he is entirely fed up with her (from my son‘s perspective....he could be wrong....I hope he isn‘t).  He said "I think Dad is realizing that his kids mean more to him than that and he wants us more than he wants her."  Well, if she‘s making him make a choice, then I guess she may get her answer.

As for your problem, keep me posted.  I wonder how he will handle that situation after he comes home from the hospital.  Does he know that she hung up on his kids?  I‘m a stepmom and I have to say I love my stepkids.  Furthermore, if they EVER called their dad (hell, even if their mom calls him to check up on him) I would never ever hang up on them.  It‘s nothing but wrong to do that. 

Much love to you.  Hope things work out for you and your children.  (I missed what your ex is in the hospital for so I‘ll have to go back and read I think....I‘ve been MIA.  LOL)