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I‘ve already been around that mountain.  My husband (when I was married) did the same thing.  Having no idea what to do...  I came up with this. 

Told my husband I wanted to be friends with her to and wanted to meet her - he let us meet.  I was very nice to this woman and when he turned his back & gave me some time with her...  ha ha hahahah    I told her that he was available & I wanted her to have the first shot with him.  Boy, was she startled and it caused her to asked me why?????  I played her like a fiddle....  I told her all about him, how he played with himself, was a drunk, liked guys on the side, had a debt of over $200,000 and was being treated for a sexually transmitted disease and anything else that would make her eyes open wider and wider...  I told her it was confidential and was only telling her this about him as a friend, and she gave me her oath she wouldn‘t tell a soul.  ha ha hha. 

 I told her I wanted out of the marriage and even offered her $1000.00 cash to take him.  I even told her I would be so grateful to her that I would stand up for her when they got married.  

When she found out that I really didn‘t want him & was trying to dump him off on her, we never heard from her again.  That BIG DUNCE (ex-husband) of mine never figured it out either.

That BIG LOSER is now out of my life and I couldn‘t be happier.

I met a man on Yahool peronsonals last year.  We dated for about 6 months, my job closed down so I moved in with him.  He lived in a Green Acres type area and the only job I could find was one of low pay.  A friend from a big city called & offered me a job @ $20 an hour, so I accepted it & explained this to the guy I was living with.  He told me he would never leave his Green Acres type of living.

After 6 months of the silent treatment from him, he text messaged me that he got a job in the same big city as I did.   We went out & he said he wanted forever with me and couldn‘t wait to set up house together.  I accepted his sincerity.  After 3 weeks he never mentioned it again.  Just talking one nite I mentioned that we were just friends, because this is how I was always introduced by his mother & him.  This time he got real mad, so mad that he said he wanted to call it quits & that I was trying to set him up for marriage?  He told me to get out, so I left.

I still call him periodically because he has no friends and never did.  He keeps his profile on Yahoo and seems so lonely.  I feel sorry for him so I do call him once a month or so.   Our last conversation, he told me he bought a house about 10 minutes from where I live and told me what street it was on.  I could care less, because he treated me so bad that I will never trust or date him again. 

I‘m not sure what I‘m feeling about this deal & would welcome some theories from you guys on what is going on here?

You are on the front line battleground, striving to make a better living for your family.  As your wife it is her duty to stand by you, which she has chosen not to.  Marriage is built on trust and trust is like a an expensive vase, which once it is broken will never hold water the same... there will always be leaks.  She is also jeopardizing your health, with all the STD‘s alive today, not to mention the ones that kill or never go away!

I divorced my husband over the same reasons here.  He wanted to have his cake & eat it to.  I just had enough and let him go.  You sound like a great guy

Hi Waffle,

Gosh!  I heard about this same thing so many times & if you only knew what this guy was doing to himself while he chatted with you.  YUK!  

When I was new on the internet and began chatting with a guy, he was distant and played the divorced game with me.  I checked out other dating sites & there he was on at least 7 of them.  We had met and were dating and when I approached him about being on so many dating sites, he admitted that he like to jack himself while looking at womans pictures and chatting with them on the internet.  

That was when I became leary of men on the dating sites.  Now I keep my picture off the dating site & have a standard that they must email chat with me for 3 months before I will meet any of them. 

I‘m just glad you found out when you did...  this guy is looney.

I just want to say "thank you" to all of you.  This has been a big help to me.  I‘m taking the stear clear of him advice and will no longer contact him.  He‘ s a boy... who still tells lies, cheats and is internet dating perverted.  I was hoping he was a man... which is none of the things above.

Thank you all & I just love this site.  The people are great to.  I have alot of laughs at the Featured Losers on the Home page 

God Bless all of you,

Riplets

I was married once & my husband was tall, dark hair, big blue eyes and very handsome.  After 10 years of marriage, he began hanging out in bars and the flirtation began.  Then, when I would come home from work I would see him and another woman in my home (fully clothed) & I believed he was just friends with them.  It was not long after that I began questioning my marriage with him...  so I said nothing. 

I followed him to a bar one Friday nite to make sure he was there first.  Then I went home and dressed sleezily, then went right back to that crowded bar.  I made eye contact with bar flys & got their attention fast.  Then I made sure to ease my way over so my husband could see me flirting with men, while he was flirting with women.  1 year later I divorced him & got a restaining order. 

Watch him closely and don‘t let him play you like my ex-husband played me.  He wanted the security of marriage but refused me the peace of mind marriage that we once shared. 

I‘m sorry to hear that this boy has put you through this!  Boy is correct because they lie, cheat, sneak around, like to play, don‘t understand love or just don‘t want to, they are undependable, cowards who run at a disagreement with a Woman and most of the time far to immature to commit to a relationship, often confused and always looking for a mother figure and this is acceptable of a boys behavior.

Mentally Stable Boys that leave these type of childish behaviors behind them (along with their toy trucks and toy guns) then transform into a Man.  If he chooses to keep his childish ways then he remains a Boy, regardless of his age! 

Should the Boy desire to become a Man, he will forget about his toy trucks and toy guns, telling lies, sneaking around and quit being a coward, running from their problems, pouting instead of talking and stop trying to replace their mother in their relationships, most of all their word is stable and they are trustworthy!  So should you find a Man....  do not let him go and treat him well, he will stick by you for life. 

Since my divorce I have dated several boys (most of them in their 40‘s) and doubt any of them will ever become MEN.  They are just older sissy boys and I don‘t date boys.

Do you want to live with a boy for the rest of your life?  Is it fair to you?  When you got married did the preacher say "Do you forever take this (so-called)Man to be your loyal wedded  Son?  I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers.

Come here and let me give you a  .

What she has done is irrepairable.  Consider your marriage a fine vase which has been broken.  Once it is broken, it is never fully repaired and will always leak water.   She knew what she was doing and played risk with you as you could have possibly contacted a STD and there are some that don‘t go away. 

Unless you are a highly trained psychiatrist, I recommend divorce proceedings immediatly!  She is not going to change.  She may get better at being a liar, but will not change!  Your daughters deserve better than to witness her acts of perversion, so get them away from her. 

It‘s never easy being alone...  But it is safer and healthier than being with a lowlife who could possibly endanger you & your family due to her perversion.

Take care & I will be saying prayers..

I once met a man & dated him for 6 months.  He had a great 7 inches but never initiated sex.  When I asked him why he never initiated sex with me he replied, "he‘s only been able to have sex with 1 woman in his life."  I think this woman was his x-wife. Now when he‘s with another woman & he gets ready it just goes limp.  He said he stopped trying years ago.  Were still friends, but I don‘t date him. 

Anyone got a clue what this guys problem is?

Let him get married again.  Now it‘s that girl‘s turn to be abused, physically and emotionally.  Monsters prey on the kind, sweet, caring types in our society and all they do is use them.  Then it‘s over.

I won‘t get deeply involved again unless I run a criminal and background check.  I‘ll also look for them on sleezed out dating sites. 

I‘ve found that "boys" are intimated by "strong woman" because boys are under-mentally deveoped, that is why they have always needed their mother for everything.  Some "boys" get older and older and never mature to the point of desiring to become a man, so they don‘t!  These older boys (20 yrs to ??) are sissy‘s which are irresponsible, physically and mentally abusive, liars, get their feelings hurt, pout (have alot of female hormones about them) just like they are still in grade school.  But when they are scared or in trouble, they run to the mothers. Today‘s society is 80% boys and 20% men... no wonder I cant find a man, they are getting to scarce.

A man is not intimated by a woman because both are mentally developed.  So, if any one finds a "man" hang on to him and he will treat you like a queen. 

To all Sissy Boys who are afraid of a strong woman  --     June Cleaver‘s era is over & woman today do not desire older "boys" looking for a replacement mother in their life.  Woman today need a man.

Thanks for the replies and laughs all

No doubt he has ED, but I do believe he is & will always be obsessed with his x-wife.  The unlikable bast*rd was out of town working and came home to surprise her one nite. After he walked into his home, he found her in their bed with another man.   He suffered a nervous breakdown, even went into a coma due to this event.  While he was in the hospital, she and her lover stole his credit cards and ran them up over $20,000 and  he paid on it because he was to stupid to look at how much he really owed.  He paid up to $6,000 when it dawned on him that he hadn‘t made any purchases   She asked him what he was doing home?   Then, she told him he picked a really bad time.  From what he told me she was often came home  from work with her clothes on inside out, smudged make-up, missing 1 earring quite often from where ever she had been. Yet, the poor bast*ard always believed anything she told him. 

The poor b*stard left, filed for divorce and when met her for the last time in court... she was 4-5 months pregnant.  She claimed it was his & he was going to pay for 3 children‘s child support, and he almost did.  His lawyer thought it would be a good idea for her to get a test to see if it was really his.  The test proved it was not his and that devastated him that much more.  I‘ve never told him but he supposedly has 2 children by this woman and the oldest is definitely his and looks just like him.  But the 2nd is questionable, this one looks nothing at all like him, but he‘s to dumb to figure it out.  

Meanwhile, his x-wife hit the jackpot and he had to pay childsupport.  He pays enough for the 2 kids that she can easily provide for the 3rd child as well and that just kills him.  Plus, she quit being a nurse because what he had to pay her amounted to the same and hasn‘t worked in over 15 years.   He hates the 3rd child, though I‘ve told him not to blame that child.  The 3rd is fatherless, but yet he plans on flaunting what he will do for the other 2 like buy them cars, pay for expensive trips for them, etc... It‘s almost like he wants to hurt this 3rd child and this innocent child is not even his! 

As a friend, I told him to try & forgive this woman because deep down he still loves her, not matter what she has or hasn‘t done to him yet.   He should try to get back with her, since that is where his heart is.   

Great answer DefyAnt,

You said it!  The myth is alive and most all women get accused of this behavior, but most of us are not low-lifes like that.  It seems like men are attracted to whore‘ish women and I can‘t understand why?  It‘s like some men just don‘t want a nice, caring, honest woman.   This is one wierd world we live in.

thx1138,

Eat Your Words Loser -  "OK, I don‘t get it. For years I‘ve fantasized about setting up a Web site dedicated to defaming one ex-girlfriend or another."

Your words above indicate that you are unable to hold a healthy, stable relationship, therefore, you have probably been posted at least once (probably more).  You are just another "boy" in a mans body,  like some many other  males - you are just incapable of mentally crossing over into manhood or you choose not to.   You still like to play games, lie, cheat, etc...  and thats what "boys" do.  Listen up!  You "boys" (especially 20-60 year olds) gamble with STD‘s by participating in any sex you can get and this site is great for warning respectable women about your  type.   My advice to you is "grow up and be a man, not a coward" and work at getting your Truthful Loser Profile profile removed from the Worlds Biggest Loser Site.

Plenty of "boys" think and live as you do.   You‘ve earned this award so enjoy!

Hey Bubble,

Don‘t you wish someone before you would have already posted his profile, giving you the opportunity of finding out the truth about him?  If you had known,  I‘m sure you wouldn‘t have gotten involved with him.  He sounds like he played on your sympathy alot at one time and he still is.  This is still a form of control Bubble and he is the controller.  You owe him nothing.  You are doing a public service by keeping his profile posted. Don‘t let him manipulate you ever again & if you have to feel sorry for someone who never felt sorry for you then give him a kleenex and tell him to get lost!

My X has no idea that he is posted and will never find out from me.  I‘ll let that be somebody else‘s job.   You have to reason to feel guilty.

 (this one is for males and females, all comments and postings will be appreciated)

My X-fiance and I broke up 4 months ago.  Since then, I posted a profile on a dating site, (without a picture) just to talk to people.  Low and behold if my X-fiance didn‘t send me an email saying he would like to get to know me and wants to see a picture? He constantly sends me messages and I‘m not real sure how to handle this.  I do know that I don‘t want him back.  He is a cheater, liar, etc... and I have posted his profile on this website; which, he has no idea and I have no plans on ever disclosing.

Revenge sounds so sweet.  I have a golden opportunity to play "hangman" with this creeps mind.  

  Any ideas?  I‘m open to hear how to play, a player? 

Thank you all!

I‘ve taken your advice and delete anything I see from him.  The "boy" is bad news and will never cross over into manhood (even thou he is 47).  He will always be a liar, cheater, play with womens emotions, etc.   Posting the "boy" on this website will hopefully serve as a fair warning to all other respectable women, who are struggling to meet a real man.  

I played the "I wont sign the divorce papers" with my x over 3 years, and he just used 1 excuse after the other.  Desperate as I was, I  made a plan, and here is what I did.

Had new papers ready for him to sign only when he was drunk.  Yes, I took advantage of him and told him that I wanted to start over to forget the past with him and the only way I knew how to let go was divorce, then get remarried.  He bought it, hook, line, and sinker.  Signed the papers, even had them notorized the next day.  I filed them with my lawyer and the divorce went through.  However, he did try to take me back to court over his signing the papers under false pretenses.  I told his lawyer that he was drunk that nite and I had no idea what he was talking about.  Never heard a thing about it again.

It was done! 

Hi Susan,

I got over mine at a rapid pace.  Each morning or whenever I would think about it, I would always "Thank God, for taking that demon out of my life." Sometimes I thanked God several times a day for his blessing.  I have reason to believe that this may be a blessing in your life to...  so just thank God for it.  I became happy and free.  

You could have a private dance by "Tater Tot" 

There is a school for almost every professional.  Wouldn‘t it be nice if a University or even an Area College offered a course on becoming a "Professional Man" with a degree, graduation and all.   So many (lets call them boys) only want sex, lie, cheat, etc.  The U.S.A. could definitely use education to combat the boys who never become men by teaching courses/skills such as: "Stop being a liar!", "How to be honest?", "Stop Cheating", "How to treat your spouse", "How to treat your kids", "Sexually Transmitted Diseases", "Abuse verbal/mental", "Committment", "Prioritizing", etc...   Of coure, the college would need a staff of psychiartrists to assist.  I do believe this would be the hardest degree to obtain by any boys!  I wonder just what percentage of boys in the U.S.A. could pass this course? 

With so much internet dating this would be a good thing for a guy to post that he has a degree proclaiming that he is a "Professional Man."  The first thing I would ask him for would be his transcripts. 

Your thoughts on my idea are open. Please add to or feel free to revise as your feedback is very important to me. 

Have someone call his job (but make sure he is not  there when they call) and say they met "Jon Doe" at a strip club on drag queen nite and "Jon Doe" gave him his number and said call him.  But since "Jon Doe" isn‘t there, leave a message that he will see "Jon Doe" same time, same place, next week.  (Don‘t laugh, this has to be serious...  laugh like crazy after the phone is hung up)  That guy will be the talk of the office and no telling how far the gossip will spread.    ha   hahha hha

Contact the "Depends" Company and request his name and work address be added to their mailers.  

Take a long drive, buy a gay magazine and re-relab it to be mailed directly to his job. Just don‘t repackage it, so the mail person can see what "Jon Doe" got.  Just mail it from a distance, so it can‘t be traced back to you. 

Have fun while he‘s busy trying to explain himself.   ha hahh ahha hah ha

Whoops!  I almost forgot the best one of all.

Get some heavy gloves and find some poison ivy or poison oak.   Lightly rub the leaves into his underwear crotch area, just enough to not show green marks.   I did this to 1 weeks worth of my x-husbands underwear before I kicked him out!  It was funny... watching him scratch himself on that one spot... his penis was so red, swollen and scratched up.

He deserved it!

Take all your dollar bills. Write down his name, work and home number on all the dollar bills you use. Write something like "free phone sex",  "to attend a  KKK meeting", "porn for sale", "dial a thief", "gay male seeks same", "learn a new masturbation technique".  Use your imagination and have fun!   You can bet his phone will be ringing and how will the poor b*astard ever explain this to his boss and why he needs a new work number.    LOL 

Tell him that you would like him to get a penis implant, even if he doesn‘t need one.

 Oh! What a blow to his ego... works every time... 

Hi Lovey and Welcome!

You‘ve taken the first step by finding the truth and not ignoring it.  I had a similiar experience about a year ago when I found my fiance on Plenty Of Fish‘s website and I was so hurt, I couldn‘t even explain it.  The first thing I did was find a job, then I left him and moved.  Eight months later the bast*ard found a job and moved less than 5 minutes from where I live now and I still don‘t talk to him either.   I have no regrets for leaving the internet pervert as quickly as I did, because it was my only option.  The Aids epidemic is growing and anyone willing to play "sexual russian roulette" with it deserves it.  Lovey, get away from him..  and live.   You will love the peace in your new life.  I had trouble when I divorced and started over, but I just kept praying to God for devine direction, and he gave it to me as he will you.

Great ideas await you if you vist the "Post your revenge ideas" also on the womans forum.  I come here often and its a great place to vent and just type whats on your mind.  So many of us have been thru hell & back with these "demons" and you‘ll so much very quickly.  

Bravo Bubblecropper!

Excellent communication here and may that you perfectly described one of my past relationships.  I wish your post could be read by everyone, it was great! 

Apparently, alot of us have made mistakes.  I think my biggest mistake was wanting to believe something that really didn‘t exist.  My past experiences have made me stronger and this website has really toughened me up.  Now I know the difference between males.  The "boy loser" who lives in a mans body, but behaves like puberty is just starting to kick in. Then there is the "professional loser" who refuses to grow into manhood and be responsible for his words and actions. 

God Bless all of  you,

Riplets

Hello WVchick,

This sounds so amazingly familiar.  Only I am the youngest and my oldest sister did the same thing to me for years.  I tried distancing myself from her and only seeing her on holidays or when I had to and that only made it worse!  She never had anything nice to say to me and my mother and the rest of the family just accepted the way she was.  She would say things like "your wierd" or "look how much weight you put on" or where were you when (something would happen in our family).  I lived 20 miles from home and worked 12-14 hours a day back then, but she just wouldn‘t let up. Always wanting to fight!  So after several years of her abuse on one Thanksgiving she said something ignorant to me and I told her to stop behaving like "white trash" since everyone knew she was anyway, and I left.  Truth was, she was jealous of me because I had a huge ranch, 3 vehicles and an awesome paying job.  About 6 months later I began calling her and told her to treat me as one of her "friends" and we would get along fine.  But if she treated me like an enemy I would treat her as my "enemy."  Since my family never intervened I had to take a stand.  I was tired of being her personal doormat and she knows better than ever treat me like that again because I‘m to old to tolerate it any longer.

Sounds like shes pushing you to see just what your made of.  So go to your familys and show her.  Just make sure you eat first, before you leave or you‘ll go away hungry as I did.

Good luck Tiger!

Hello Bubble,

I swear by my gut feeling about alot of matters, that‘s why God gave us one.  I would talk to your nieces and ask them (or have someone they are close to ask them) and have the  b*astard picked up,  if he is guilty.  It‘s the only way your ever gonna know the truth because he isn‘t going to tell you.  And please, please post the information on his profile on this site as to warn other woman with children that he cannot be trusted.

God be with you and your family

Bubble,

Your answer was so right on target that I‘ve printed it out and made copies.  I‘m going to include them in my Christmas cards this year to all my divorced friends. 

Thx again, Riplets

Hi All,

Surfing the internet, I found this site: http://www.getrevengeonyourex.com  and it is annonymous.  Not everything is free but it pretty much explains itself. 

An even better site is:  www.makehimpay.com.  I understand this is one of the nastiest and best.

Have fun  (I‘m so bad!)

Riplets

You‘ve made a wise decision and just speaking to your nieces in general about such a matter without mentioning any names is definitely the way I would work it.   Please let me know what happens. 

Keeping you & your family in my prayers,

Riplets

2knowhim....

I used to be lonely when I left my marriage and spent far to much time and energy looking for friends and a new man.  Dating used to be a high priority on my list, but not anymore.  Everytime I look around my house I find something to do or needs to be done.  When is the last time you sorted through everything you owned and took a detailed inventory of what you have in every closet, dresser, file cabinet, etc..  Toss or donate anything useless and shred all obsolete paperwork.  This put me in control of my house again.  Go get your hair done, do your nails, shave, make your life all about you and put dating somewhere below everything that needs done or what you have to do. MAKE YOURSELF FIRST and SMILE!  Gosh, for some reason this really helped me.  My friends all work and the guys I‘ve met (in the St. Louis, MO area are just out for booty call).  Sure I‘ll meet a guy, allow him to buy me dinner and get everything I can out of him.  Then, I tell him that I don‘t kiss on the 1st date.  If they dont call me back, then I‘ve lost nothing.. LOL!  That is my way of finding out immediately if they are just after sex and it‘s been over 4 years now and thats the only type of "losers" I‘ve met, but that doesn‘t mean I‘ve given up!  I figure they were just out to USE ME, so I TOOK CONTROL and used them, ha ha. 

Meet these guys & test them for "Loser Disease" by dating them several times and if he fares the storm, they you‘ve caught a big fish.  If he disappears than he had "Loser Disease" and he was just a slimy worm on a hook, who fell off.   TAKE CONTROL next time and "Don‘t kiss them", instead tell them you will when your ready.  Tell them that when your ready you will let them know.  If you don‘t hear from them, then you‘ve lost nothing, right? This works for me. 

Go to the local supermarket or supermarkets.. LOL.   Normally, the first thing you see is the real estate books and a wall for advertising, along with the 3 x 4 cards.  Get a blank card & write "FREE CHRISTMAS TREE DISPOSAL" along with his address but no phone number.  A sample is below. 

                              "FREE CHRISTMAS TREE DISPOSAL"    

                         " DROP OFF IN FRONT YARD ONLY"    

                          "ANYTIME BETWEEN 11 PM - 4 AM"

                      5453 Sunnydale Court, Carrolling Springs, KY

                       " MERRY CHRISTMAS & HAPPY NEW YEAR! "

TIP:  Disguise your handwriting & drive by before New Years. LOL

A rose for you.  Were here for you!  My heart still droops when I hear of these horrible but true stories.  Your trying to raise your children, take care of your husband and household and what do you get in return.  You have to deal with the truth in knowing that he is "no good" and a manipulater.  The thing that scares me is he could give you a STD?  Ask yourself, "Is he worth it?"

It was hard but I survived a similar situation, I remember how unhappy I was being married to my ex at the time.  I wised up and cried for a week because I knew there was no talking to him and he was not going to change, he was only concerned about his own happiness & not mine.  The first thing I did was open my own secret checking account, claiming I needed the cash for whatever and built it up.  He had no idea I was stashing money away.  Hired a lawyer for advice on how to divorce him and followed his advice.  The final blow came when he went out drinking or whatever he was doing and I knew he was drunk.  Then, I called the police and reported a drunk driver on the road and he was picked up by police and did jailtime for 2 weeks.  During this time I packed up the house, kids and moved.  My restraining order was in effect & I had him picked up for that to.  Set his possessions outside for his family or whoever to come pick up, since he was in jail.  Whatever you do, don‘t give him a clue about how his life will be changing in the very near future! This should be your final contribution to the marriage that he chose to destroy.

My only regret to this day is not doing it sooner!  Sure, it wasn‘t easy but I was not happy so I had to make a path to get out and I did.  My first 2 months were a little rocky but it was all worth it.  Today, I am no longer beat-down, insulted, abused or taken advantage of and I‘ve learned to love myself first.  I even have my self-esteem back.  Pray alot to because God made all this possible for me.  Can‘t go into detail here but I was big-time trapped! 

Isn‘t it time you look out for yourself?  You can do it!

Mental Retardation is the brand name for so many under developed males today?   His physical body grew up after puberty but his mentality and emotions were stunted and/or began dying off  and never grew into manhood, therefore, they are still "boys."

I‘ve put some heavy thought into this and this could be the answer for alot of us.  We should not attempt a relationship with mentally retarded boys, period.  As proven over and over again, they only hurt us.  Dating one of these "boys" is o.k., but believe nothing from them, ever.  Committment is something none of them are interested in so don‘t waste your time. Mentally retarded boys only want sex....  So go ahead and let them wine & dine you, spend their money & after they don‘t get sex after the 2nd or 3rd date, it‘ll be over and you‘ll remain disease free.  You already know they were a loser anyway, so have fun!  Then just find another (there a dime a dozen) and keep having fun!  The hell with them.  Who knows, after dating so many mentally retarded "boys" you‘ll know through instinct when a real "MAN" comes along. "MEN" are such a rare gem to find these days.  Seems like the male population consists of  "90% boys," thus, leaving only 10% MEN.  Good luck & please share your feedback on how you handled your mentally retarded date. 

Mentally and emotionally he still acts like a 13 year old boy, who still plays games, cannot handle a relationship, lies, cheats, unable to commit to a relationship, no concious,  indulges in acts of outright stupidity, throws fits, steals, plays the silent treatment, refuses to pay child support, sees a stud when he looks in the mirror and not really himself,  (and only God knows how many more could be added onto this sentence, so please feel free to add on anything I may have missed, this is a good defining tool)

Hi Curtlid,

I‘m glad you enjoyed the post.  This was just my way of warning so many of what I‘ve viewed alot of my past dates like.  Since were dealing with mentally underdeveloped males it could get scary if were not careful. So far, I‘ve been lucky dating "losers" since my divorce.     

Chadeowsai,

Oh, you have a way with words...  LOL.     I enjoyed your response and you summed it up so nicely.  Your absolutely right...  "Why buy the pig?"   I‘ve surrendered into going into a relationship with a positive focus.  It‘s much more fun & healthier to go into it with ZERO expectations.  It‘s his place to impress me, not mine to impress him!  If I stopped dating these "boys aka losers" there is a good chance a "REAL MAN" could slip by me!!!

My last "boy" date was with a male who was 49 years old.  He wasn‘t handsome but he was nice.  I let him take me out to eat, bowling then for coffee.  He was clueless, but I talked to him like he was a 3rd grade boy and he really liked me.  On the other hand, I felt like I was babysitting.  My goal for my next "boy" date is to find one on the 4th or 5th grade level!  Hope I‘m not asking for the impossible or getting my hopes up to high!  

You may want to try whitepages.com, but like all the rest it will cost approximately 15.00.  Just click on the tab "reverse phone lookup".  Sorry, I was not able to provide a freebie.  Good luck!

Cheer up!

Most of us on this site have been jaded by at least one of these insincere, untrusting, conniving b*stards.  But the good news is we all survived.  Sure your going to feel hurt and you may never be certain why he behaved the way he did and your going to think about it from time to time, just like most of us.  I‘ve been in your shoes twice now and it does hurt.  I‘ve figured out a way to remedy my situation & would like to share it with you.

Here is your prescription:  Get up out of bed, get dressed and make yourself presentable.  Enjoy your breakfast.  Never say you never have nothing to do!  Keep busy.  Clean out your cabinets, wash clothes, sweep, plant flowers, wash your car & wax it, paint a room, do your nails, play on the computer or email heartfelt advice to another WomanSaver who is hurting.  These are just a few examples that give you a feeling of accomplishment and you‘ll feel better knowing that things are getting done.  Then, move on to a post called "Revenge Ideas" on this website which is a wonderful post and see what other jaded woman have done. 

Your 40 & I‘m 45, so there is no guarantee that this horrible thing won‘t happen again.  So round up your hurt feelings and put them away.  Pray to God to intervene & feel your pain & deal with your ex.  You know the old saying "what comes around goes around."

Have a great weekend,

Riplets

Hi again Jaded,

I was married for 15 years to Satans brother and it was rough.  People can be downright EVIL these days and draw their strength from others by suckering and using them, so WATCH OUT for these kinds of people.  They could even be in your family! 

It wasnt until after my divorce that I realized the verbal, physical, emotional & psychological damage had been done and was instilled in me.  They say love is blind and it must be true in my case.  It wasnt until I moved out and cried my eyes out and prayed to God for help to forgive me and ease my pain.  I also prayed that God intervene in his wrongdoings to me.  God got him good to... he lost his job, health went bad and almost died and his life is still in disarray.  Jaded, just lift up you hands and let the Lord fight your battles.  When you cry, tell God about it and let him be the judge and jury and something will happen.  It works for me everytime! Ask God to remove this demon from your heart & soul and he will.

Hows the job search going?  I‘m looking for a job myself.

Riplets

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God didn‘t go wrong, it was man that chose wrong.  God made men in his image, but many men don‘t follow God.  They want to be their own gods and find souls to serve and worship them.  They can be sly with manipulation, use love as their power, liars, cheaters, drunks, drug users, theives, and willing participants of most evil...  They feed off the souls of righteous woman and are never fulfilled so they continue preying on the souls of any woman that pays attention to them and they will never stop!  These are the offspring of Lucifer living in our world today and almost 40,000 of these demons are posted on this website alone. 

One day I hope to meet a man who is the offspring of God. Until then, I will be patient and just keep waiting. 

 You have learned the same way all of the rest of us have, so take care of yourself and that baby.

Riplets

My mother has 2 grandsons.  My sister chose to live a life of partying and drugs so my mother raised them, like her own.

Today, they are grown men 24 & 27 and still live off of my mother.  The 27 year old won‘t work, sleeps all day, does nothing around her house, steals from her, outright lies to her, does nothing for her and runs her bills up.   The 24 year old works, brings home over $1,000 a week and refuses to contribute a dime to her household, he is also a liar, will do nothing for her and goes out drinking and brings in restauant food for him and his brother and they eat in front of her and if they get hungry later they go and eat up her food.  After all of this bullsh*t she makes excuses why they can‘t contribute or do a dam thing! 

I moved back to my moms house after losing my job.  I‘m her youngest daughter and I am surviving on unemployment benefits, trying to buy food and necessity items.  I inquired about them helping out by doing some chores and contributing money for groceries.  It caused my mom and my sister to turn on me and they told me never to ask them to do anything or say anything to them again. 

This is abusive to me and I just can‘t get through to my mother.  She has cancer and I offered to help her by staying with her but she is making it to difficult for me.  I‘ve learned that she goes right along with  the mother and grandsons and believes anything they tell her.  On the other hand, she stops me dead in my tracks if I try to say anything about any of them.  Therefore, they have painted me up to be some villian when I‘m the one doing all the work, keep food in the house and take care of her.  I‘ve decided to get a job quick an leave.  If my mother needs help she will have to depend on them because I‘ve had enough, but I would still like to know... "What is wrong with this picture?"

Thank you for your intelligent reply Rambleon!   It sure does help me with my confidence level in making the decision to leave her with the 3 of them aka narcissistic Pigs, as your description definitely fits!  Dysfunctional is the word that describes them best.  I‘ve cried, got mad and even fought with the 3 of them verbally over her while she lay in the hospital last week due to their sickening GREED!  My sister & her kids aka narcisstic PIGS, want her to die so they can collect what little money she has and her house and that is their only interest in her!  Those 3 PIGS have made my life at my mothers house intolerable and want me gone, but my mother does not care enough about me to even hear my side - she only listens to them.  My sister keeps saying that I need to call moms attorney and tell them that she is incompetent, place her in a cheap nursing home and sell everything the woman has!  I REFUSED!  My sister is sick!!!!    Mom made me her Power of Attorney because she knows they will steal her blind.  I had to speak and make decisions for her last week, plus deal with those 3 PIGS!  All I heard was "how much do I get", my sister threatening me that she will get Power of Attorney pulled from me since she knows how to manipulate mom.   I tried to tell my mom but she waived her hand at me with the same old line that "I don‘t want to hear it." 

NOW ITS MY TURN....   I‘VE HAD ENOUGH!  Its bad enough to have those 3 PIGS, which my friends describe as the devils triangle threatening me, but when my mother got a little better and joined their bandwagon and became the 4th PIG, I was done.  I found an efficiency apt. today and am looking at it tomorrow.  I‘ve silently packed up what few belongings I have and plan on vacating tomorrow.  I‘m still unemployed but cutting the strings on someone who could care less about me will allow me the time to concentrate on myself and get back to work.  This is the only way I will get peace and preseverance.    My sister wants power of attorney, so she can have it.  Let her make the 1-1/2 drive to her house daily and take her to her medical appointments daily, cook for her and stay with her at nite time. I think she deserves it!

My mother passed away in June 2007.  Reflecting back on my life has been hard.  Since my childhood she told me she hated me because I looked like my father... but so did my older sister.  My older sister was lavished upon with new clothes, nice bedroom sets and just about everything she wanted.  Christmas was hard.. I would get about 4-5 small gifts, while I watched he open 20-25 gifts.  I would not dare say anything in fear of being whipped!  My older sister treated me badly as well.. hitting me in my head until seizures began when I was 8 years old.  I was told to "get out" of my parents house at 13 years old because my older sister threatened to move if I didn‘t.. so I did.  I began hitch hiking and some nice people picked me up & let me stay with them for over a year.  During that year there was a time I was very hungry so I went back to my parents house & my dad verbally assaulted me because I was so skinny... I told him that I didn‘t have any food.  He let me eat 2 donuts & 2 small bags of chips and sent me on my way.  It was cold and windy and I didn‘t have a coat either, but I went to the highway and hitch hiked back to where I had been staying.  I failed that grade in school because I couldn‘t always find a ride to and from.  Shortly after a nice policeman picked me up & took me to a restaurant & bought me a steak and asked me some questions... I dont even remember what I told him.  All I know is that 2-3 weeks later my parents & I were at the police station & they told them that they were responsible for me until 16 yrs. and if they didn‘t change their ways they would sit behind bars!  This allowed me to go back home where I had food, a bed and was able to get back in school.  You have a general idea of my childhood so please explain to me why my parents only loved my older sister?

Hey Skis,

I‘ve been there & done that & its not easy! I had even considered taking my own life!  Then, I found a church that was closed & the cleaning people let me in.  I cried to GOD with all my heart, fearing for my life & turned everything over to him, because it was to much for me to handle.  1 week later GOD made a way...  My husband went to jail and it gave me time to get out.  He told me where the checkbook was so I told him I would come & get him out... but never did.  I left him in jail, went to the bank the next day and opened my own large account.  When he got out, I was gone and had a restraining order put against him while he was in jail.  I did end up filing a Chapter 7, but the loss far outweighed the relationship I was in.  I‘ve been single and alone every since and am real careful about men these days and always will be.  You can do it to Skis!