rosie the rivitor

The girl said: ‘NO!‘

And the girl lived happily ever after and went shopping, dancing,
> camping, drank martinis, ate chocolate, always had a clean house, never
> had to cook, did whatever the hell she wanted, never argued, didn‘t have
> to worry about her weight, traveled more, had many lovers, didn‘t save
> money, and had all the hot water to herself. She went to the theater,
> never watched sports, never wore uncomfortable lacy lingerie, had high
> self esteem, never cried or yelled, felt and looked fabulous in sweat
> pants and was pleasant all the time.

> The End.  

Narcisisstic Personality Disorder

I just found out that Jack Handey is a real person. (whoda thunk?)
in honor of that discovery, here are some quotes for your laughing pleasure!


So are we so different? Of course, we are, and you will be even more different if I ever finish my homemade flame thrower.


Consider the daffodil. And while you‘re doing that, I‘ll be over here, looking through your stuff.


Before insulting a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets mad, you‘re a mile away - and you have his shoes.


If you ever drop your keys in a river of molten lava, let them go because man they‘re gone.


To me, clowns aren‘t funny. In fact, they‘re kind of scary. I‘ve wondered where this started and I think it goes back to the time I went to the circus, and a clown killed my dad.


If you‘re a cowboy and you‘re dragging a guy behind your horse, I bet it would really make you mad if you looked back and the guy was reading a magazine.


If you saw two guys named Hambone and Flippy, which one would you think liked dolphins most? I‘d say Flippy, wouldn‘t you? You‘d be wrong though. It‘s Hambone.


If you ever fall off the Sears Tower, just go real limp, because maybe you‘ll look like a dummy and people will try to catch you because, hey, free dummy.


Anytime I see something screech across a room and latch onto someone‘s neck and the guy screams and tries to get it off, I have to laugh because, what IS that thing?


The face of a child can say it all, especially the mouth part of the face.


If you get invited to your first orgy, don‘t just show up nude. That‘s a common mistake. You have to let nudity "happen."


If I live in the Wild West days, instead of carrying a six-gun in my holster, I‘d carry a soldering iron. That was if some smart-aleck cowboy said something like, "Hey look. He‘s carrying a soldering iron!" and started laughing, and everybody else started laughing, I could just say, "That‘s right, it‘s a soldering iron. The soldering iron of justice." Then everyone would get real quiet and ashamed, because they made fun of the soldering iron of justice, and I could probably hit them up for a free drink.


If trees could scream, would we be so cavalier about cutting them down? We might, if they screamed all the time, for no good reason.


I wish a robot would get elected president. That way, when he came to town, we could all take a shot at him and not feel too bad.


One thing kids like is to be tricked. For instance, I was going to
take my nephew to Disneyland, but instead I drove him to an old
burned-out warehouse. "Oh no," I said, "Disneyland burned down." He
cried and cried, but I think that deep down he thought it was a
pretty good joke. I started to drive over to the real Disneyland,
but it was getting pretty late.


Maybe in order to understand mankind we have to look at that word itself. MANKIND. Basically, it‘s made up of two separate words: "mank" and "ind." What do these words mean? It‘s a mystery and that‘s why so is mankind.


If your friend is already dead, and being eaten by vultures, I think it‘s okay to feed some bits of your friend to one of the vultures, to teach him to do some tricks. But only if you‘re serious about adopting the vulture.


Is there anything more beautiful than a beautiful, beautiful flamingo, flying across in front of a beautiful sunset? And he‘s carrying a beautiful rose in his beak, and also he‘s carrying a very beautiful painting with his feet. And also, you‘re drunk.


If a kid asks where rain comes from, I think a cute thing to tell him is, "God is crying." And if he asks why God is crying, another cute thing to tell him is, "Probably because of something you did."


Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I‘ll go over to the persons house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I‘m gone, but you know what I‘ve left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of it‘s head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done.


It takes a big man to cry, but it takes an even bigger man to laugh at that man.


As the evening sky faded from a salmon color to a sort of flint gray, I
thought back to the salmon I caught that morning, and how gray he was, and how
I named him Flint.


To me, it‘s always a good idea to always carry two sacks of something when you walk around. That way, if anybody says, ‘Hey, can you give me a hand?,‘ you can say, ‘Sorry, got these sacks."


Children need encouragement. If a kid gets an answer right, tell him it was a lucky guess. That way he develops a good, lucky feeling.


You know what‘s probably a good thing to hang on your porch in the summertime, to keep mosquitoes away from you and your guests? Just a big bag of blood.


I hope life isn‘t a big joke, because I don‘t get it.


Dad always thought laughter was the best medicine, which I guess is why several of us died of tuberculosis.


If you‘re in the war, instead of throwing a hand grenade at some guys, throw one of those little baby-type pumpkins. Maybe it‘ll make everyone think of how crazy war is, and while they‘re thinking, you can throw a real grenade.


I remember that one fateful day when Coach took me aside. I knew what was coming. "You don‘t have to tell me," I said. "I‘m off the team, aren‘t I?" "Well," said Coach, "you never were really ON the team. You made that uniform you‘re wearing out of rags and towels, and your helmet is a toy space helmet. You show up at practice and then either steal the ball and make us chase you to get it back, or you try to tackle people at inappropriate times." It was all true what he was saying. And yet, I thought something is brewing inside the head of this Coach. He sees something in me, some kind of raw talent that he can mold. But that‘s when I felt the handcuffs go on.


Probably the earliest flyswatters were nothing more than some sort of striking surface attached to the end of a long stick.


There‘s nothing so tragic as seeing a family pulled apart by something as simple as a pack of wolves.


When you go in for a job interview, I think a good thing to ask is if they ever press charges.


For me, the worst thing about having King Kong walk down your street is that kids could look up and see the giant genitalia.


If God dwells inside us, like some people say, I sure hope he likes enchiladas, because that‘s what he‘s getting.


I remember as a boy watching my grandfather get up early every Saturday morning, put on his fishing gear and go down to the river to fish. He‘d come home in the afternoon and we‘d all laugh at him. However we weren‘t laughing when he came back one day with a hooker he picked up in town.


If you ever build a time machine, don‘t stick your arm out of the window or it‘ll turn into a fossil.


If you ever go flying backwards in time, and you come across someone flying forward into the future, it‘s probably best to avoid eye contact.


I can picture in my mind a world without war, a world without hate. And I can picture us attacking that world, because they‘d never expect it.


One good thing about hell, at least, is that you can probably pee wherever you want to.


The crows seemed to be calling his name, thought Caa.


As the light changed from red to green to yellow and back to red again, I sat there thinking about life. Was it nothing more than a bunch of honking and yelling? Sometimes it seemed that way.


Even though I was their captive, the Indians allowed me quite a bit of freedom. I could walk freely, make my own meals, and even hurl large rocks at their heads. It was only later that I discovered that they were not Indians at all but only dirty-clothes hampers.


We tend to scoff at the beliefs of the ancients. But we can‘t scoff at them personally, to their faces, and this is what annoys me.


Here‘s a good trick: get a job as a judge at the Olympics. Then, if some guy sets a world record, pretend that you didn‘t see it and go, "Okay, is everybody ready to start now?"


If I ever get real rich, I hope I‘m not real mean to poor people, like I am now.


I believe in making the world safe for our children, but not our children‘s children...because I don‘t believe children should be having sex.


Blow ye winds, like the trumpet blows, but without that noise.


I think the monkeys at the zoo should have to wear sunglasses so they can‘t hypnotize you.


As a young boy, when you get splashed by a mud puddle on the way to school, you wonder if you should go home and change, but be late for school, or go to school the way you are; dirty and soaking wet. Well, while he tried to decide, I drove by and splashed him again


With some coral and wood screws, small children can be made to look like raindeer.


Whenever I see an old lady slip and fall on a wet sidewalk, my first instinct is to laugh. But then I think, what is I was an ant, and she fell on me. Then it wouldn‘t seem quite so funny.


The memories of my family outings are still a source of strength to me. I remember we‘d all pile into the car - I forget what kind it was - and drive and drive. I‘m not sure where we‘d go, but I think there were some trees there. The smell of something was strong in the air as we played whatever sport we played. I remember a bigger, older guy we called "Dad." We‘d eat some stuff, or not, and then I think we went home. I guess some things never leave you.


Boxing is alot like ballet except there‘s no music, no choreography and the dancers hit each other.

hey I got your a raido interview on my ipod and I finally got around to listening to it on my last trip (interesting timing)

I posted in 2006... not so new

still don‘t know what I‘d have done without you guys. I know I am not on here a lot now, but all of ya‘ll have been so great

man who is this???

when i got this reply I was like "what?!?!?!"

I can post wherever I want to

move it to the joke section if you want to

Hey lorrie :)

ahhh... now I know

yeha i go tthe blue in it. I actually honnied  ti making it a redish color but it‘s starting to lighten up some

WASHINGTON (CNN) -- Senate Republicans blocked a bill Wednesday that would make it easier for people to sue over pay discrimination, an effort to roll back a 2007 Supreme Court ruling that limited such cases.

The Supreme Court ruled unequal pay claims must be filed within 180 days of the first discriminatory paycheck.

Republicans complained that the bill would produce a flood of lawsuits and criticized the chamber‘s Democratic leaders for putting off the vote until the party‘s two presidential candidates, Sens. Hillary Clinton and Barack Obama, returned from the campaign trail.

"Here we are, shut down on a Wednesday afternoon, no action in the Senate, in order to accommodate the Democratic candidates for president‘s schedule," Minority Leader Mitch McConnell of Kentucky said Wednesday.

Though several Republicans joined Democrats in voting to break the filibuster, the 56-42 vote was four short of the needed 60.

McConnell urged senators to block the bill and stick with a debate on a veterans benefits bill pending in the Senate. But Majority Leader Harry Reid of Nevada blamed Republicans for stalling action on that bill to complain about the equal pay bill.

"I have trouble understanding how my friend would have the gall to stand on the floor and make the comment he did, but he did," Reid said. He joined Republicans on the vote, a tactical move that allowed him to request the measure be reconsidered.

The bill, dubbed the Fair Pay Restoration Act, is a response to a 2007 Supreme Court decision that ruled a person who claims pay discrimination must file a complaint within 180 days of that discrimination taking place.

That deadline is specified in Equal Employment Opportunity Commission guidelines, and it "protects employers from the burden of defending claims arising from employment decisions long past," Justice Samuel Alito wrote for the majority in the 5-4 decision.

The bill that stalled Wednesday would have reset the clock with every paycheck, with supporters arguing that each paycheck was a discriminatory act. But Sen. Johnny Isakson, a Georgia Republican, said the bill would allow retirees drawing pensions to sue their old companies over allegations of discrimination that happened decades ago.

"We‘re about having integrity in the system, so we have timely complaints, we have timely evidence, and the parties that are there can quickly be remedied," Isakson said.

The case was brought by an Alabama woman, Lilly Ledbetter, who claimed that her employer, Goodyear Tire and Rubber Co., paid men doing similar work 15 to 40 percent more. Ledbetter said she discovered the discrepancy late in her career -- too late, the court ruled, to go to court. Watch woman who found out too late she was paid less »

Clinton and Obama spent most of the day in Indiana, one of the two states in the next round of Democratic contests, but both returned to the Senate in time to vote for the bill.

"I‘m hoping this chamber will stand up for fundamental fairness for women in the workplace," said Clinton, of New York. "I‘m hoping you will stand up and vote to make it clear that women who get up every single day and go to work deserve to be paid equally to their male counterparts."

And Obama, of Illinois, added, "If you work hard and do a good job, you should be rewarded no matter what you look like, where you come from or what gender you are."

Sen. Barbara Mikulski, a Maryland Democrat, called Wednesday‘s vote "a call to arms" for the women of America.

"We will take it out to the voting booths. We will go on the Internet. We are going to go on TV. We are going to go on the blogs. We‘re going to tell everybody about this ignominious vote that just occurred," she said. E-mail to a friend

hey shally!!!

http://youtube.com/watch?v=42OmsmKiJgM 

I haven‘t really been on here since the case slosed.. I miss ya‘ll so much, but it‘s a little hard to come here. I still am having a hard time with my friend who‘s in an abusive relationship now so although comming here helpped me before it just reminds me of how much i can‘t do for her.

I hate the place she‘s in and she thinks that I don‘t knowwhat she‘s going through because I don‘t have kids... I can‘t help her understand that kids or not i get what she‘s going through. I have been there through out the last 8 years watching it get worse and it‘s not just her. It‘s those kids, it‘s her disabeled mom...

Her boyfriend jacks off in front of her mom. When she goes to work her mom is scared to be there alone with him.. but she doesn‘t care. She doesnn‘t want to make him mad, but I can‘t tell you what I woulds do if someone even thought about acting like that in front of my momma.

He‘s allowed by officials in our town to get away with it all the time! when they take him from the property for domestic violence, no reports are taken. The only reason they arrested him last time is because someone else beat him up and they took that guy to jail too. they never interviewed the other members of the house and in 4 hours he was home like nothing happened. When I came home from maine, I though what she needed was a friend to help her get through it. now it seems I am supposed to take up for her when they fight, help her with the kids, and her mom, but she‘s not going to get rid of him because it‘s too hard. She can‘t afford to take care of everyone as he sit‘s around all day watching her. he doesn‘t work but can‘t even watch the kids while she‘s at work. he‘s either jacking off to the computer in the living room or sitting up at the bar where we work running up a tab he can‘t pay for, asking her if every guy she waits on is her new boyfriend.

I am just sick to my stomach seeing him. And her mom, god bless her mom having to live like this. Everytime she gets up the courage to go to adult protective services, cindy promisses she‘ll leave him, so her mom waits then nothing.

I know that if I take her there it‘s most likely going to be the end of us as friends but.... I hope that one day she‘ll get it

I don‘t know, I just hate that she won‘t do, not just for herself then but for her family.

yeah dad knows. this girl is like my sister. Her own father died when she was in her early teens and although he left everything to her, including the house where she lives, her father choose not to be in her life when she was younger becauase of her mother being an alcholic and he uses that saying that he‘ll never pay a dime of support and he‘ll fight her tooth and nail for custody and she believes that with his family (both parents cops, one a former chief) that he can get whatever he wants. His point is backed up when he gets out of everything.

He was charged this last time with CDV but then the judge offered him Pre Trial Intervention (PTI). When he completes this program he can expunge the charge from his record so no one else will ever have to know about it.

but I can‘t make anymore excuses for her. I just can‘t stand sitting here and knowing that even though she‘ll allowing this, her mom and kids suffer too! My ex was nuts, I know this, but she doesn‘t seem to understand that my ex was cracked out when he sexually assaulted and murdered the old lady, her boyfriend pulls back the curtain on her mother in the shower just because cindy‘s not putting out. He offers this girl  we know, a recovering coke head, drugs for a blow job... But because she‘s been in rehab cindy doesn‘t believe her. this girl has been friends of ours for years. I even told her about how he came on to me right after the murder. I was a nut case and he would say things like "can I come over tonight" and "you‘re going to be alone later on" I lived right around the corner from them before i left to go to maine and he followed me over there one night. i didn‘t know what to do so I lied and told him I was leaving to meet a boy.

I am not afraid of him and it‘s like she wants me there cause she knows I can stop him from being a nut or at least take the heat off of her but I don‘t be want to be that... that person that makes him being there less scary. I want him gone. I want her to learn to live.

She‘s told him to leave, but she hasn‘t sent him a letter telling him when he has to be out. That‘s all she has to do, send a letter with someone, my cop friends have all volunteered, but she doesn‘t want to do that. She just wants him to leave. Why would he. She pays all the bills, He doesn‘t work, he doesn‘t have to listen to her, he won‘t leave unless she makes that one step and she won‘t..

yeah, I am not going there for her. I took her mom to the adult protective service department in our department of socical services. That‘s where I found out that the "adult" that they are talking about is one who is mentally incompetent.

This woman is on disability and walks on a walker. She‘s lived in this house for 29 years, she‘s just asking for someone to help her find alternate housing. She went over a year ago to housing and they tell her they are not accepting aplications. Who doesn‘t accept applications! It‘s a bunch of people that turn you away and hope you don‘t come back.

This woman didn‘t listen to a thing we said. When we walked out of there she sent us to a girl that helps with bills when you can‘t afford to pay them. She said that she is allowing it, we were asking her for help so it‘s not like she‘s allowing it. I am not her daughter, she‘s in a walker and it‘s her daughter and her boyfriend who live with her are the ones who she was trying to make a report about.

So anyways I told mom and dad over dinner and they gave me some names to help me tomorrow. I also went to the office of a lawyer who was featured in this article http://dwb.beaufortgazette.com/local_news/story/5157478p-4691032c.html I dropped off the article from licoln county news http://www.mainelincolncountynews.com/index.cfm?ID=28143 and my phone number and told him I‘d love to chat.

The reason I thought about him today was because I got Shannon Erickson‘s name and number to contact instead of the other people who haven‘t bothered to return my emails.

Anyways, back on the road tomorrow... I‘ll be back soon :)

Night guys

Oh my god check this **** out!!!!

http://www.felonspy.com/

try this one if you can‘t
http://youtube.com/watch?v=vvBbBQOifx4

also, we were looking at this one today from way back...
http://youtube.com/watch?v=I0PVV5wrz2I

oh my goodness!!!!

How was the job going before this? Sorry I don‘t get on to much anymore, but I hate to hear about this!

When my friends mom got out of the hospital the only place that had room for her to be in a temparary assisted living home was a nut house in savannah (about 1 hour drive from here)

One visit; there was a guy that was standing in the hall as we were going through... he reached over to my friend‘s mom who was in a wheelchair at the time and grabbed a huge patch of hair out of her head. There was nothing we could do. the people that worked there responded very quickly, but... you know what can you do. He is crazy :(

I cried for her the whole way home. Luckily she only spent a couple months there. unfortunatly the home she came from isn‘t any better (but I‘m wokring on that one)   

I got this in an email and I figured I‘d share it :)

NURSE‘S HEART ATTACK EXPERIENCE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yWZEENsMUrA

she‘s so funny!!

the last one there I know.. He‘s my neighbor and basket ball buddy!

this is crazy! I went out with him and his bro last week in the same neighborhood!

Hey I get it... it‘s so hard. I see my friend at work and I see her abusive boyfriend come into work everyday... They get in fights I know he‘s hit her. I know he beats her mother and sexually assaults the both of them. I am working on getting her mom out cause her mom‘s ready. She‘s not. Last week I got an email after my friend‘s boyfriend pissed on her. She said she wanted to get out and she needed my help. She‘s done it before but when I went to pick her up this time like all others, she wasn‘t at the house... she was off playing house with him.

I stopped promoting her to leave (find other conversations) but ti kills me to even think about her situation. It makes me SICK to think about her kids and her mother being in that house and having to live with it. I have to limit my time with her because it sets off triggers for me from trauma I suffered that was very similar to what she‘s living through. (and that‘s the same house where the body was at) If you can be a friend to her that‘s great, but don‘t drag yourself down trying to work on someone elses life. With my friend, I‘ll come a running the next time she calls for help, and probably the next time too.... but, I have a therapist in the house so I can deal with tthe hole I fall into when she stays. sometimes it sucks to be a superhero

it‘s sad because now when I want to go out... i don‘t! I love this town, but since my ex did the murder I have had trouble making my usual rounds, but not ever before have I been scared to go to the courts at night!!! Mostly I hang in the better side of town but rodrick lives right up the road and is the guy that everyone likes. I have never gone anywhere with him where he didn‘t have people saying hey and asking him about his family...

Then there‘s the family....they‘re devistated! the neices and nephew he lives with are scared to go out in the yard and if you drive up in a car they don‘t know forget about it... They are a wreck!

so the other night I quit and then... i dyed my hair!!!! it‘s purple. My dad hasn‘t seen it... noone‘s really seen it. I‘ve been without car all week :) my best friend totaled mine out backing into it... and her car :)

sounds bad but the car was going to cost about 900 to fix before the wreck now they are giving me well over 3000 for it. i bought it last year for 1800!

I found another jeep, automatic, this one has a hitch and 4wd :)

air works... i get the saftey check tomorrow (before I buy of course) but I think by monday I will have a new car and a little over 2000 for my trouble. yay!

I signed up with the unitedway today to paint this place in batesburg... and I kinda hoped I‘d have enough money for travel to this and all the sccadvasa stuff I want to do... and now I have a new car and money! God loves me :) it‘s that kharma bus i guess

kellyboo wrote:

OMG!!! It has been 2 years since I posted the orgional post about him. So long ago that I changed emails and can not remember what is was back then. I do not come on here much, sorry. But his mommy went off on her blog, so I assumed that he had found it. He is a lair, abusive and every thing I said and more. He kicked me in the stomach while I was expecting, and my son was born premature. He later died. Nathan should be in prison for his life. If this little blog, ticked him off then GOOD!

glad you got away from that one.

thanks for warning others

so my knee ripped apart yesterday morning and I am dying in pain now!!!!

I twisted my right ankle and my left knee just ripped all the ligiments

the  meds they gave me aren‘t working so well but.... I think I"ll be able to manage :) actually what they gave me we turnned in to the pharmacy, but they closed before we could pick them up, but I had some of the same pain meds at home... I don‘t have the inflamatory meds at all yet

I did go with daddy to check out some other cars and we found a really nice dodge durango fully loaded, limited waranty (but a warranty no the less) great condition... all the things I wanted; air, roof rack, seats 7, tow package.... $7000... more than I was getting, but daddy helpped me cause he really likes it too. He‘s actually driving it this week since his own car went into the shop today... he called and offered to trade with me after he drove it... maybe, I like his truck too!

so I quit my job, my car got totaled out, and I blew my knee out...

but I did quit a job i hated, dyed my hair a great color, and got a really nice new car :) it‘ll just be 3-4 weeks till I can drive it

so harm and I signed up voters at our local Piggly Wiggly today. it was fun... good bonding time :)

I hope you all had a good labor day

shally wrote:

where is wee willy winky notpissed you are so so pretty and have the most beautiful smile. I miss seeing you around here. littlemiss if you would stop being so wicked and be more like me......you wouldn‘t be working so much.

hey I didn‘t realize I was going to get the pic so big... how do you like the ahir? I am going to do deep purple at the tips in Oct.

oh the hurricane is comming so I think they might cancel our confrence on friday, but I am going to take my mom sis and grandma to the mountain house in NC. And it‘s mom‘s b-day on monday so that‘s not too bad. A couple other families have houses on the same mountain so we‘ll all travel together. I think I‘ll just dose up on pain killers and sleep the ride up. I have to go to charleston tomorrow :) I love Charleston! I just went on Sunday too. $60 a trip for gas each trip to help a mom go visit her incarcerated son who is only 16. extra cash, fun lady to travel with and it helps since I can‘t really work. Anyways it‘s so good to stop in and see all ya‘ll too!

well the blonde... I gave myself natural tips by not dying some sections so they turned out pretty good. i was thinking I‘d only do a quick wash in for the purple one that says only a 3 day thing.. cause I have to find a real job.

We signed up about 8 new voters and 6 change of adress... and I was asked to do it again this weekend at a cooswa community gathering.. (everyones trying to do something at the comunity centers on the weekends now with all the shootings. On the 7th I am going to help with a community fourm a friend and former teacher is throwing to get ideas from other community leaders and some citizens. That‘s not going to be a great subject, but I am sure going to have fun eating cheese with the sherrif, solicitor, and select members of the county council...

I love a party no matter if it‘s a brithday or a funeral, you gotta have fun right?

lorrie I missed you too!

sure you can lorrie :P

I don‘t think I‘ll need it for a while.

So another of my friends got shot. he was killed. His girlfriend‘s ex did it. it‘s so sad.

16 shootings since july 5th now :(

Dad will die if I become a cop and after struggeling through "police in trouble" the latest read of mine.. I don‘t think I could do it

but I really want to start working witht the GAL program in administration... something that pays enough to get health care

oh my god all f  and the new midnight sunset on line!!! they were great!!! I loved them!!!

Happy thanksgiving everyone! god I have no internet at my home now so I am so glad we‘re back online so I can see ya‘ll today! YAY!!!!

I will post later but I am taking a break from saving the world and going to brunson to a great holiday with friends and family so I really shouldn‘t even be waisting time, but this isn‘t waisting time!! I missed you guys so much!!!

quck taste though-

my best friend totaled my car

quit my job

ruined my knee... ouch (wheelchair/ cane)

got a NEW car

best friend finally (after being attacked by boyfriend) left the sorry son of a bitch

I moved in with her family to watch the kids (she works nights)

she got OP, citizen‘s opposed to domestic abuse is taking care of all her legal fees, questions, problems...

the guys parent are police so getting records is still a problem. especially since he‘s already had one arrrest that was expunged and he‘s on PTI for one now. But I think with no help at all from the cops that I may have taken care of that one.

But, while I‘ve had time durring the day I have been doing volunteer work with the gurdian at litem program hoping to get a job (a friend of my mothers took over after she left and just passed away, but I have to go through the state even though my mom started it... ugh

Also I went through the training and job or no job, I am going to do the volunteer GAL program. And I made so many friends in class. Our teacher, my friend robin, said she‘s never had a class bond like ours. They almost attacked me the first day and wanted to take me to lunch. One couple grabbed my arm and insisted I think about meeting their son! he he, but... mY hearts some where else riht now. I‘ll get into that later. I really got to go! You‘re all in my prayers

So I see little kinks now, but I can‘t tell you how glad i am to see the site up an running again.

LMWS- I have been passing out cards like crazy (I might have to get more soon) that was of course before I realized you were hacked, but now that I have an appointment with some SC law makers I am stoked the site is up an running so i can use it as an example.(I‘m still amazed that presenting our cards seeem to make people perk up and do their job)

I am still trying/ talking/ screaming at times... trying to get the website the courts have have a list like ours with those convicted of domestic abuse... I‘ve met one lady who writes technology grants and she‘s so interested! As far as a stepping stone, I still plan on using daddy‘s department... He‘s cool with the idea, but I got to sell it to the town manager... the mayor loves the idea, but he‘d love anything I suggest :)

I went to my old high school after seeing one of my teachers this summer at lunch... we exchanged stories of our lives to date and when I told her about womansavers and the fourm I hostessed in Maine, she wanted me to come to the high school. The weeks before I went to the school, before the site went down, we were having some very hard times in the low country. We had almost 20 shooting- most unrelated- in our town. Our councilman, Mr. Glaze, organized CAVE (citizens against violence everywhere) He‘s aslo the principal of the school that the teacher, who had solicited my help, had been from. Mrs. Holloway is the living skills leader, a program she developed herself. She‘s also very religious and we‘ve always shared conversations since my high school years about our faiths.

When I went to meet her, I was escorted by Mr. Glaze (he carried my file box as managing a cane and file box- for me at least- is more than a task. I used my time to talk to him about his new public task force and thank him for his part... I explained that I was there to talk to Mrs. Holloway about a primary prevention circulum and I probed him for any information on circulum that they already have in pace... He confirmed that they weren‘t currently working with Hope haven or CODA (Citizen opposed to domestic abuse) Since I had gone to a confrence put on by SCCADVASA (yep, you get to look that one up) and talked to the community outreach leaders from those programs,  I already knew that.

When I got to Mr. Holloway, I was so organized I hardly recognized myself. We talked only for a while, but I gave her some numbers and got her permission to give her number out to those organizations to act as their liason to introduce... whatever it is they do with the kids these days.

I called the women I‘d met at the confrences and they were glorified when I told them I got Beaufot High; they had been trying, but since the school had a series of principals that didn‘t work out in the last five years, they neer could get calls back.

Since then they have set up this school as a test group. They picked 15 boys to choose the guys program and did the same for the girls!  

The program picked, won‘t start till next year, but I am glad they will now have something.

Other than that, now that I am a block away from the Shelter, I have gotten a chance to help some other women. It‘s hard getting rides organized through the schools when kids get moved into the shelter so I have offered my services so they won‘t have to pay cab fare for the kids to get back and fourth (the shelter workers can‘t give rides... too much liability I guess) Gives me extra gas money, and I really like doing it

I did have my heart broken a little when one victim I had spent a day with, going to victim‘s advocate, housing athourity, solicitor, parent teacher confrence.. about two days after our outting, she got caught (by me)... her kids and her sneaking out behind the parkinglot of the shelter from her abuser‘s car. She‘s had an order of protection before, but reconciled... they have four kids, and it just hurt really bad to not see her make it.

 I am glad the vic i live with now is doing good. She drags her feet a little, but I don‘t let her slack too much ;P You can‘t imagine how it feels to hear her tell me how strong I make her feel. I try hard to help and not to enable, so I just point and she‘s the one really doing everything, I remind her of that.

it‘s been great to watch her turn instantly into the woman I knew could be once out from under that ass hole‘s thumb. She‘s so much happier! She‘s nicer to her kids, but she‘s actually having them on a schedual... not having to come home at midnight after working and the kids still up like their dad had. The kids are great too! one little boy 2 1/2 and a little girl 5. they are so cute! great birth control, but nothing works like a pulled acl :(

still can‘t believe the site was down so long! I could have used ya‘ll recently, but I am just glad everything worked out and we‘re back up.

lor the last book was great! it wraps it up perfectly! harmony calls stephaine the austin of our time :)

I like the book that she didn‘t finish the best though... you get so much more time with edward and the cullens... they‘re awesome!

http://www.stepheniemeyer.com/midnightsun.html

then go to partial draft....it‘s the first book so if you‘re not done with the rest.... it‘s okay, but I read it after the rest and it was cool cause you remember the rest!

Harmony and I read to each other.... it‘s gotten the kids that I live with pulling out their own books too

hey gal!

hope all is well. thank you

All the cops think I am just a busy body with no life... they haven‘t figured out that I do have one... it‘s just designed at this point to annoy them in to getting off their asses and doing their jobs!

slowly the different deparments are starting to listen to me and I hope with the different ventures... between the GAL, working with the schools, helpping the shelter victims with transportation andlearning about local services,  and now getting into beaufort helpline and acting as a liason with victims and local churches... I can meet more helpful people to help me help others... if that makes any sence.

heck yeah!!!

 I think little miss should hold it at burnningman!

I just had the retirement party for my favorite victim‘s advocate :(

I am soooo sad, but I love the new one daddy hired! we got to talking about the website (I didn‘t have any cards on me)

I told him what I wanted with the website like the sex offender one we have in the states and he got all excited about the idea and said that if I could help him a little he would help me start a petition and get it out there!

We‘re going to go to lunch one day this week and talk somemore but.... I need to write this thing up so it‘s presentable and all so any volunteers????

what I want is the website to be set up like our as far as finding someone, but to get it sold, I can probably only have the guys with convictions for domestic violence. And when I say domestic violence I am wanting even guys that beat their mommas on there... but, truley would be happy if they did one with just intimate partner violence (IPV) I want it as accessible and as promoted as the sexoffender‘s site.

the petition should be in layman‘s terms so everyone can understand it. Anyone?!?!?!?

I brouth this up in another thread but just incase you missed it and want to help me :)

I just had the retirement party for my favorite victim‘s advocate :(

I am soooo sad, but I love the new one daddy hired! we got to talking about the website (I didn‘t have any cards on me)

I told him what I wanted with the website like the sex offender one we have in the states and he got all excited about the idea and said that if I could help him a little he would help me start a petition and get it out there!

We‘re going to go to lunch one day this week and talk somemore but.... I need to write this thing up so it‘s presentable and all so any volunteers????

what I want is the website to be set up like our as far as finding someone, but to get it sold, I can probably only have the guys with convictions for domestic violence. And when I say domestic violence I am wanting even guys that beat their mommas on there... but, truley would be happy if they did one with just intimate partner violence (IPV) I want it as accessible and as promoted as the sexoffender‘s site.

the petition should be in layman‘s terms so everyone can understand it. Anyone?!?!?!?

the reason I joined this website is because I wanted to warn women about my abusive ex. I have been promoting this site since the day I found it. one thing I run into with people is they don‘t trust this site because anyone can post. They think some might come here to put on guys they just didn‘t get along with... then there are those guys that might cheat, but have never been physically abusive.

I think the guys that  get arrested for it, and for legal purposes gets convicted to be on a site like this would be great for everyone! Single women, moms and dads, hell, single guys...  but I want the federal government to make all the states do it not just SC where I live

this is an article I found with some of the same ideas but I do want pictures

Domestic violence database may protect victims

Batch Data Processor | Wednesday, Jan 30 2008 6:20 PM

Last Updated: Wednesday, Jan 30 2008 6:22 PM

A new bill that would make it easier for Californians to check whether acquaintances -- including potential romantic partners -- have a history of domestic violence has some merit.

But we want to know more.

Assemblywoman Fiona Ma, D-San Francisco, introduced a bill that, if approved, would create an online database of men and women convicted of domestic violence in California, the first such list to be made available to the public.

Under Ma‘s proposal, the state attorney general‘s office would register the names of domestic violence offenders convicted of a felony or two misdemeanors. It would include dates of birth, locations of convictions and other details, but would not list addresses or display photographs.

More than 17,300 people were convicted in California on felony spousal charges in 2006. National statistics suggest that crimes of that nature have a high recidivism rate.

Ma‘s bill -- which would create a system that operates much like the Megan‘s Law online list of convicted sex offenders -- would also offer instructions on how to obtain a restraining order.

The bill would help people in the sometimes-dangerous world of dating -- and the friends and relatives who often worry about them -- find a tool that would either confirm or tentatively allay suspicions. Not everyone can hire a private investigator or take the time to visit courthouses and ask for documents.

The bill would authorize higher fines on domestic violence offenders to finance the Web site, which the attorney general‘s office would operate and maintain. Offenders would remain listed on the Web site for 10 years, as long as they are not convicted of a similar crime within that time span.

Local advocates for anti-domestic violence programs say the bill needed more scrutiny.

"Do we have guarantees it can be done without dipping into other domestic violence programs?" asked Diana Campbell Rice, associate director of the Bakersfield-based Alliance Against Family Violence and Sexual Assault. "And what are the chances people could have their names listed by mistake?"

What if a violent person were left off the database because previous offenses have gone unreported or victims changed their minds about reporting them? Could that create a false sense of security?

And, critics will ask, what about people convicted of DUI? Burglary? Excessive parking tickets? Could society benefit from seeing their names listed too? Where would it stop? Fair enough.

But the issue at hand is all that matters. Domestic abuse is rampant in our society, and the Legislature is offering a tool to help potential victims protect themselves. But it must be a reliable tool that minimizes the chance for error.

It‘s possible Assembly Bill 1771 does not go far enough. Perhaps the database should include information on individuals against whom spouses and others have successfully taken out court-authorized restraining orders. Names appearing for that reason should remain in the public database for a much shorter period of time, however, perhaps six months after the expiration of the restraining order.

Case in point: The perpetrator in one of the more heinous domestic-abuse cases in recent local memory would not have qualified for posting on the Web site despite a clear history of abuse and intimidation.

The case involved Erika Meza, who was shot and killed by the father of four of her five children in front of east Bakersfield‘s Casa Loma Market Dec. 14. Asencion Garcia, 52, shot Meza, 33, before killing himself.

Court records show Meza took out a restraining order against Asencion Garcia in December 2006. At least one previous restraining order involving domestic violence was filed in 2003, but dissolved in 2004. And in April 2007, a spousal battery charge against Garcia -- filed in conjunction with an unrelated charge -- was dismissed.

Would such a law have made a difference for Meza? It‘s hard to say. But had a friend or neighbor unfamiliar with Garcia‘s history of abuse spotted him in a state-maintained database, might that person have persuaded Meza to remove herself to a safer location? We‘ll never know. But surely Meza deserved that chance.

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So one of my girls that I have been helpping for a couple years is doing really well. Shes got a nice little farm right down the road from me on this little island near my parents. She‘s been living there over 3 years now and her, her husband and her four kids have been watching the animals next door starve. They have called animal controll over a half a dozen times and visitors, like myself have also called to no avail.

this horse that the have is so sick looking now that were not sure what to do. Their dogs have also started hunting food. My friend who has chickens, turkeys, and goats... not to mention small children, has started to feed the animals to keep them from killing more of her own animals and tearing throuhg her trash.

So yesterday, my sis and I (always on community projects) took pictures of the horse and it‘s showing hips and ribs

where should we go now? I thought about calling animal planet, but wonder if that might be blowing it out of porportion. I hate to do anything around christmas time because the people that own the horse and dogs have young children, but can‘t stand to watch things get worse. I‘ll uplload pictures tonight to show ya‘ll, but anyone got any ideas?

so i know it‘s late but here they are.. notice my stylish haircut :)

so I just left a message with PETA thank you for the numbers. I also left an email for a local vet in town with pic attached, but this was his response

so i posted a sec ago that I called PETA... They have already called me back!!!!

I wish all services were this well run

see now I was delivering a pizza... God I must have been 18... maybe 19 and this guy who‘s house I went to opened the door.. it was cold outside and this little rott puppy came running to the house to get in. as he was getting the pizza he punted the little dog accross the porch making it fall down the stairs and into the yard. I bit my tounge... later that night I took a friend to the house called the dog and it got righ tin the car with us. We took the house to another friend with young kids... I see the dog now and am pleased with what we did.

Now... I could probably have gone to jail, but you see I never did have much faith in the animal controll around here. They once answered a free kittens add when I was a child that my grandparents had put in the paper (my grands rehabilitate animals and find homes for them... they also take in injured squierls raccoons possums... anythign but snakes realy)

an animal control dressed in regular clothes came to the house and offered to take all the cats from a litter including the mother. My grandfather got the lady‘s number and called after a week to see how they were. It was animal control and they had put all the kittens and mother down. they said they were "sick"

the girl who lives next to the horse above went to work for animal control about 10 years ago and on her first day that killed 65 animals. She never went back.

I have had my share of problems with AC I don‘t know if ya‘ll remember my post from oa couple years ago about my charges of cruelty to animals. just so you know it‘s not a good idea to get into a pissing contest with a animal control officer who usually doesn‘t do anything because they will sit in front of your home and make up things to charge you with. I got it dropped eventually but it was 3 years and 3 judges. hell it was so long my lawyer became a judge while we were waiting

that‘s beautiful! I love epso churches... even the small ones are exquisite! never tacky

so this is from a couple months ago, but here‘s fron‘t page news in our town :)

we went to a domestic violence vigil in bft and there was no bathroom so when harmony and I went to the bar for the 3rd time we grabbed a jello shot and then this reporter got us...

LOS ANGELES, California (CNN) -- A pipe bomb exploded Thursday night in a rental car used a day earlier by a man suspected in a Christmas Eve attack that left at least eight people dead, police said.

A car exploded outside the home of Bruce Jeffrey Pardo, who was suspected in the deaths of eight people.

The car was parked outside a Sylmar, California, home where Bruce Jeffrey Pardo, 45, committed suicide hours after he allegedly -- dressed as Santa Claus -- opened fire at a holiday party and then started a raging blaze inside a Covina, California, home, police said.

Investigators have yet to identify eight charred bodies recovered from the burned house, which belonged to the parents of Pardo‘s ex-wife. A ninth person is counted as missing.

A police bomb squad was attempting to render safe a suspicious device in the rental car when it erupted in flames Thursday night, Los Angeles Police Sgt. James Bender told the Los Angeles Times.

The incident prompted police to evacuate houses near Pardo‘s Montrose, California home out of concern he may have left bombs behind there. The street was reopened late Thursday.

According to CNN affiliate KABC, no one was injured in the explosion. KABC also reports the bomb squad did not turn up anything at Pardo‘s home.

Pardo‘s neighbors talked to KABC Thursday as they watched police search his home.

"He‘s very nice, very sociable," Cindy Keenan said. She said Pardo always decorated his home for the holidays.

Patrick Guzman said when he encountered Pardo in his yard about two hours before the attack, "He seemed normal."

"He said ‘Merry Christmas‘ to me," Guzman said.

Police said the holiday party was attended by about 25 people. The gunman, dressed in a full Santa Claus outfit, came in the front door and then moved through the house, firing two semi-automatic handguns and using an apparently homemade pressurized device to spread some kind of accelerant.

The first victim was an 8-year-old girl who ran to the door after hearing a knock, police said. She was shot in the face but survived.

"She has a very, very severe injury to her face. It‘s not life-threatening, but she‘s got a very tough road ahead of her," Lt. Pat Buchanan of the Covina Police Department said at a news conference Thursday. Watch police describe girl‘s injuries »

Covina Police Chief Kim Raney said people at the party were jumping out of windows on both floors of the house trying to escape the gunfire and flames.

"The information we have so far is that Mr. Pardo was married to the daughter of the resident of the house," Raney said. "They‘d been married for possibly one year, had recently divorced and a settlement was reached apparently last week. It sounds like that might have been a very contentious divorce."

Police said Thursday afternoon that six bodies had been recovered, but the woman who had been married to Pardo and her parents were unaccounted for. The Los Angeles County coroner‘s office later said two more bodies had been recovered.

Police have not yet released the identities of the victims.

In addition to the nine people killed or unaccounted for, police said three people were injured, including the 8-year-old girl. A 16-year-old girl was wounded by gunfire and was hospitalized with non-life-threatening injuries, police said, and a woman who jumped out of a second-floor window suffered a broken leg and was hospitalized.

Ed Winter, assistant chief Los Angeles County coroner, said the bodies recovered were "severely burned and charred" and dental and medical records and X-rays will be necessary to establish identities.

Winter said the intense fire caused the top floor of the two-story house to collapse onto the first floor.

Pardo‘s body was discovered about 30 miles from the shooting scene at his brother‘s house in the Los Angeles suburb of Sylmar, dead from "a self-inflicted gunshot wound," police said. Relatives returning to the house found Pardo‘s body, police said.

Buchanan said police received several 911 calls at 11:27 p.m. ET Wednesday. When officers arrived at the house three to four minutes after the first call, the dwelling was engulfed in flames. Watch firefighters respond to house fire »

The fire was so intense that firefighters battled the blaze for an hour and a half before knocking the flames down so that officers "were able to look into the house from the outside, and initially saw three bodies in the front portion of the house," he said.

Buchanan said people who were able to flee the building reported that once the gunman was in the house, "he fired multiple rounds into the people attending the party and multiple people were struck."

People hid under furniture and tried to flee by whatever exits they could find, including windows, he said.

As uninjured people were trying to escape, Buchanan said "that‘s when he (Pardo) lit the accelerant in some manner -- we do not know how at this point -- and he fled the scene."

Buchanan said the device that spread accelerant was "nothing that we or the arson-explosives unit has ever seen before. It appears to be homemade."

A Christmas Eve party at the house was a family tradition, Raney said, and the party had often featured a visit from a neighbor who was dressed as Santa Claus. He said that neighbor has moved out of the neighborhood and was not at the party Wednesday night.

Referring to Pardo, Buchanan said, "We don‘t know at this point whether he was aware that there was a Santa Claus in years past. We‘re assuming that he did, and that‘s the reason for the outfit."

probably just like most of ours. I am going to meet with sc legislator shannon erickson this month about our laws.

I do warn you that what you think  is untracable... isn‘t. If you‘ve used this phone to dial friends or family... it can be  traced. It wouldn‘t even take that much... but then you think... would he bring more attention to it?!?!? really I don‘t think any of mine would have (as I‘ve said before I don‘t think anyone of my ex‘s could/would use a computer for anything other than porn if they had one)

but you might want to read ruby tuesday‘s story. It‘s not like the guy didn‘t deserve it, but she got in real trouble for posting true information about a guy.

http://www.news24.com/News24/Technology/Infotech/0,,2-13-45_1123537,00.html

I am going to visit law maker shannon erickson about legislation in SC for victims of domestic violence. Anything you want to tell her, please post and I will certainly bring it up :)

any questions, expirences, or suggestions you want to share... if you want to include your name or number or you don‘t feel like posting publicly, please just send an in house messsage to me and I‘ll only show it to mrs. erickson

thank you

must be submitted by jan 4, 2009

that‘s so sad honey :(

What happened with the kids?

the sad thing is I am one of three people who has called on them. I skipped right over animal control... I know they have been contacted, I lived with the girl about a year ago when she was calling for the thrid time about the horse. Her father in law took pics to animal control but they said they‘d get a vet to check out the horse.

I owned horses when i was a kid.. I‘m not all smart about them, my mom and dad were with me whenever we went there and they stayed in a stable so someone else cared for them. but I know that this is gross and I don‘t like animal control myself. I was glad to see your response. Thanks for looking at  it and offering me such kind praise.

I think if they had more than one neighbor, they live at the end of the road,  they‘d get more complants.

I hope to see something done soon but last I saw the horse was still there... maybe the holidays are holding it up on their end. They did call me in such a timely fasion... well, we‘ll see

if they are anything like our social services keep up on the case. kids slip through all the time :(

I‘d also keep a diary entry of each event you see... just for the kid‘s protection

I got an iguana onw time. I moved in a house and about the second week I was there i went to clean the porch and the poor thing scared the **** outta me. We moved in the house after someone got evicited... I took him into the bathroom and started the shower let him go in the tub.. He scaled the shower curtain while i was peeing and we totally bonded :)

He only lived for about two years after that but we had moved and our friends who moved in after took good care of him. He never really bonded with anyone else. I felt bad about leaving him, but he used to try and attack my ex ol‘ man when he would pass. He hated him. Guess I should have realized something then. Bureaucracy does get in the way of help!

that‘s what i am going to our legislator about :)

I think you‘re right about the

 I haven‘t quit shouting!

and I agree with the compliment... Yas you‘re super hot!

by the way shally, I left you a pm...

that‘s why I‘m meeting with our SC rep this coming week!

got lots of stuff to... express concern about

that‘s a good idea

uber I sent you a pm did you get it?

so I got to talk to our sc rep. today the meeting went great. Though she still hasn‘t visited our site she has passed the cards out to other and heard nothing but good things... Thank you all for behaving :)

So I gave her a little booklet with a print out of what our seach page looks like. I  also incuded litlle case sumaries about the victim‘s i have delt with and our expirecnce with the different services, cops all that. I included SCCADVASA‘s reopt from the Moxie (their news letter) about victim‘s review about the services.

I showed her the law changes in Maine and suggested we take steps similar to theirs to detail the crimes more by having multible charges thean can pick from other instead of using CDV to cover holes in the wall to knocking someone around

I brought up my concerns about grandparent‘s visitation and my concerns about that, I asked to be kept informed.

after finishing up there I went to CODA and got to talk to the girls about doing a program in Bft high school. She called the teacher I‘ve been working with while I was there, but of course got the answer machine.. At least she has the right name now.

I hope to make it to the highschool this week... I still want the yellow dress thingy :)

well, done for today... I feel so acomplished

thank you I just got done talking to mom and dad who both contributed lots of information and suggestions to me and they are both excited that it went well and glad I didn‘t get hauled outta there. But I used to work at thte preschool where I had the meeting. Shannon owns it and that‘s where we met.

of course I was early cause a girlfriend had to use my car for erranmds so she dropped me off, but then she was late and our meeting got out as my girlfriend was coming back and then had to be at work... perfect. I‘d like to say the whole day went as well, but...

anyways, I am glad to talk to her, she seemed interested in what I said and... well, I guess we will just have to see what happens.

As far as the database... If she doesn‘t do anything, I am going to contact Biden :)

he did that whole international violence against women act... play on previous acomplishments...

now... harmony and I are going out for dinner.I just had half a bottle of champange while talking with the folks so... food is a must

shally wrote:

I went through and answered all my pm‘s this morning and I don‘t have one from you. Would you re-send it please.   You ok? Look at you in that cute new picture, you lil doll!

hit you back on the pm... it‘s a little... confusing

:~)

shally wrote:

Hope you realize just how special you are. May many blessings touch your life.

ahhh... it‘s all good genes :)

and support, I don‘t know where I‘d be without my friends

I‘d probably still be making boys cry for fun...

so I am going to go to an interview this Friday for the GAL admin job. wish me luck... Since I applied for the job, I got my sccadvassa membership and did the Stewards for children class.

Fingers crossed

can‘t wait1!!!  I went in once this week and filed for them and then went in today to work on one of my projects (they have a huge waterfront confrence room with sliding glass doors... beautiful) and I‘m working on a BIG new projects... I am going to create a list... not unlike the information provided at the front of the phonebook with services organized and there contact info listed... then I am going to highlight the different services in colors that identify their county coverage... I want to list low cost respite care, and the numbers of low cost childcare facilities. the new mom support numbers put in there... it‘s the same number as DSS but who the heck knows about it.

anyways I think I can do a really cool looking one with the info I got in my "little Box" and now exchanging info with the local neighborhood outreach connection http://noc-sc.org/

I hope to get what they are planning on doing online put... hard copy. Then I‘ll have lots printed up at the local printer so I can put them up in areas that they might be useful. court house, walmart bathroom, clinics...

so anyways... wish me luck tomorrow!

hey uber just sent you a voice mail on your phone and called the guy from the feed and seed place to give him my number. He also is supposed to be calling the animal control people and having them call me back. I know the lady he‘s calling... not in a good way, she really really doesn‘t like me and well... i got issues with her too, but I hope his call will make her do something.....

ha ha I should have known better! I just got off the phone with animal control and they said that we SHOULD NOT get the animal food, they know what animal I‘m talking about and they have seen the horse... the horse is fine, for it‘s age. It‘s also under vet care and though they couldn‘t tell me who that vet was... it‘s being cared for the best they can.

thye said the horse is 32 that‘s why it‘s skinny.... when I asked if they should be riding it then... they said if the vet says so... but they won‘t tell me who the vet is.

so thanks for all your concern.... but I guess nevermind.

so this blows! I won‘t know anything till monday!

but the interview went really well. I‘m sure I am going to be the recomendation from the staff in the office and I liked the state lady and I‘m sure she liked me :)

we‘ll see though

uber... so before we talked I had called my old stables... the one that boarded my horses when I was younger. they called back after listening to my half crying message and I was able to talk to them this morning and take them to see the horse. They were horrified but said that they do this alot, get involved and help horses.  they hate animal control too and understood exactly how I felt but said they could take over from here on out.

I‘m so glad!!! the woman, who was a girl I used to ride with when I was a kid, was apauled by the conditions... she also said the horse doesn‘t look as old as they said it was. she noticed that it has rain rot and some absesses from untreated wounds.

I am glad that I was able to show it to someone who will help it

so here‘s another pic

yeah... I have a post on our local paper blog and everyone there says call animal control

ha

I‘ll certainly keep you informed

oh yeah... after I posted the blog on my paper ( yesterdayhttp://www2.beaufortgazette.com/blogs/post/24624#comment-69989 )... after the guy called  animal control and they had my name and number for me... the sherriff‘s department drove by my house! (It‘s in the middle of the woods on an Island that has ZERO crime.... 15 houses) then after I left for my interview the cops called the house and wanted my "information"

my mom answered the phone and when she told the lady it was me she wanted to talk to and not her... the lady asked her what my adress and all that was...my mom said "let me get your information and I‘ll ask her to give you a call if she wants"

I love my mommma

she‘s seen the horse and my sister, who took the original pictures was freaking out and telling both mom and dad when we got home how bad the horse looked.

well anyways

Beaufort woman attacks fiancee‘s car with sword

Submitted by pdonohue on Mon, 2009-01-26 15:38.

A Beaufort man told a Beaufort County Sheriff’s deputy that his fiancee attacked his car with a sword Monday morning after he told her he wanted to move out of their home on Polk Street, according to a Sheriff’s Office incident report.

The 42-year-old man told deputies that he’d been sharing the home with his 28-year-old bride-to-be and her sister for two years, and when he told her he wanted to move out Monday, she became angry, went into their bedroom and picked up a sword, the report said.

The report said the woman chased the man out of the home and around his 2002 GMC Envoy before she started hacking at the car with the sword.

The deputy noted a shattered passenger side mirror and “two narrow dents on the hood, approximately 18 inches long.”

Damage to the SUV was estimated at $1,000. The sword was seized by the Sheriff’s Office.

The man was not injured in the attack and opted not to press charges, according to the report.

The report did not indicate why he wanted to move out of the home.

 

 

 

 

they ever think he might have wanted to move out cause she‘s crazy?!?!?

now I don‘t care if it‘s a man or a woman.... someone like this needs help. What if she kills the next guy? I hate this towns attitude about domestic violence! Of course the rule of thumb is still legal here so arg! 

this is like every case up here! If they do arrest the guy it‘s because they have another reason to... warrants, or whatever. If a guy backhands his wifr in the car and the police come accross it, they only do something if the tags are suspended.

They are lazy cops, and since we don‘t have DAs in SC we have the arresting officer prosucute the cases... those with a lawyer get off... and if you don‘t carry in a lawyer you go to jail. unless you‘re a cop, emt, fireman, woman, or child of any listed.

Or realistate agent.. don‘t ask me why

I just wanted ya‘ll to see the story and see what ya‘ll thought

The family court case that started out as a probate case... I do‘nt know if most of you will remember it was way back before the trial so I‘ve cleaned my post since then, but...

A couple friends of mine were dating. Karen had two kids from her ex husband and her and tommy had just had their first child together when Tommy died in a horrible car crash. He was on his way home from work with their roommate and they bothe died instantly. Since the couple was together but not married they had to have letters from his family sayint that they lived togetrher as man and wife in order for her to get social security... his son got it automatically, but the wait for the first check was from feb to may for anything.

In the later part of 2001when the probate hearing came up his parents showed up and said that they had lied about Karen she was not like a wife and Tommy had planned on leaving her.  They wanted to be the executer of his estate. The judge said he was going to continue the caswe and most likely the parent of his only child did seem to have the most claim to the estate. Probate never setteled, it got pushed out to colleton county where no one has/will touch it. Meanwhile, Tommy‘s parents filed a lawsuit against SCDOT, and a local construction company... They also filed for custody of Karen and tommy‘s son.

She called her Bio dad who she didn‘t know much about at the time and asked him for help. He came down met the kids and promised to help her. She took her kids to Virginia where he lived and he said settle this matter in court and get on you feet. We‘ll take care of the kids till then. So Karen came home and got ready for court over her youngest son. About a week went by while they were up in VA when she, on one her nighlt phone calls, hears her son say "Grandpa said we ain‘t going back to Beaufort, We‘re going to ive here from now on"

She got on the phone with Bio dad only to find out that he had gone as soon as she left and filed papers with tthe court there saying she left her kids there and he was granted him "emergency custody" based on abandonment. Somehow they had the same lawyer in SC as the other grandparents.

so she showed up to family court here and with her other two children gone, the family court here took her youngest son too... this order blamed a "signifigant number of red flags" for her child‘s removal.

She spent the next two years jumpping through hoops, complying with everything, not getting to see her kids until they were ready for the final hearing.

The day of the final hearing, Tommy‘s parents said we‘ll give you custody back, now if you agree to visitation for us... if not we‘ll drag the case out. Karen agreed. When the court order was written up her lawyer never responded and she was stuck with a court ordered visitation that was more than the FATHER gets, had stipulations for her to keep her son in a private pre-school ($120 per week) She also had to "encourage the kid to call the grandparents mama and papa.

Karen‘s bio dad never showed up to court and she got her two sons from him back without stipulations. The oldest when he returned didn‘t understand why she "left" them there for 2 years. It took him a while to understand that she didn‘t.

So the grandparents that had the visitation, John and Debbie Gillies use to run a family orentated nuddist colony in SC,  http://www.cedarcreekpark.com/ They have had custody of another grand kid before this whole case who lived there with them, then got taken away. They continued to practice their nudism while they had their grandson and it made the mom uncomfortable, but she wasn‘t allowed to do anyhting. In the order it said no contact between her and them when they had the child.

About 3 times a year they would take her to court for some violation of her court order then settle before it went to court.

The school that her son was in reported a suspician of sexual abuse between the child and his grandfater. No evidence, just based on his behaviour. after that we took the kids and moved to georgia. Her husband stayed behind and tried to talk to the courts, but to no avail. she had to return.

When the child finally came out and said he wasn‘t going back because his grand fater was doing things to him Karen didn‘t take him. She made the reports to the police, but they said a polygraph cleared him of any suspician and her and her new husband were put in jail for 2 days and given a fine for contempt of court.

When I was doing my event in Maine, I got a call that she had been in touch with a reporter about her story. Since the story had been done that summer, 2007, there were other kids he molested comming forward. These kids were children of a lady that John Gillies married. The children were adopted by him while he was married to the lady, then he left and fought for custody. Their accounts of abuse were the same things that his grandson now was accusing him of.

I guess after one of the kids heard the story, http://www.wistv.com/global/story.asp?s=7123071  she flew to SC and filed charges against Gillies. He failed this polygraph and they were able to press charges.

http://dwb.beaufortgazette.com/developing_stories/story/6700714p-5973918c.html

Right after this arrest happened they granted Karen an "emergency hearing" and allowed her to put their current action, a claim for custody, and their current visitation aside until he went to court over this whole lewd act molestation thingy. The court on that day also issued a gag order about the whole thing.

That was in Oct he was arrested. The grand jury  true billed it on 11/29/2007 and he has only spent 4 hours in jail before he was released on OR.

Well, now for a little good news. The other day there was a court hearing. The lawyer for the grandparents wanted to be removed. The final hearing for the custody they filed for was supposed to be feb 2nd. They went to the hearing and EVERYTHING GOT DISMISSED!!!! the visitation, their pleas for custody, the GAG order... Lifted!

Karen and her son are ready to change laws now to help keep this from happening to anyone else‘s child. Her son said he wants to press charges against his grandfateher for what happened. Karen had been in touch with other parents suffering through "Grandparent visitation" and has been working with this reporter... who I love, Kara from WIS in Columbia... and I can‘t wait to see her move in the next couple of months!!!!

YAY! it‘s been 8 years since this started! I‘m so glad it‘s over, the kid is safe... and I hope that the sherriff‘s department takes her seriously.

if I had to bet... I‘d say probation and time served... though he only did four hours

just a guess. I think he might get put on the sex offenders list, but not with out a fight. But gloves are off! Karen‘s so ready to scream on the mountian tops at anyone who will listen and louder at those who won‘t. (this is why we get along so well)

I gave her the activist‘s handbook the other day. I am going to have to post on a new topic because in her fight to end grandparent visitation I think anyone who‘s suffered domestic violence and had problems with inlaws might be able to make a difference.

In SC if you have a child with someone and they go to jail or die... the grandparents can step in and get court ordered visitation. This means your husband goes to jail for assaulting you and his parents could possibly take you children and open you up to litigation... whenever!

It also makes keeping your information from an abuser impossible when grandparents get everything from your medical to financial when going through the court discovery process.

What happened to Karen‘s son was bad. If it only happens in one out of 100 cases you can‘t take that chance. It‘s takes away a mother‘s ability to protect her children. They can take the child to the hospital don‘t have to contact you but then you‘re responsible for the bill. They can raise you child 170 days out of the year and when he acts out in life the parents are the one responsible.

I too love the name

Kinda a wild bunch here

welcome!

yay! it sounds like you‘re doing really well! I‘m glad to catch this topic.  

Take care doll!

you ever really listen to the words of songs... I was sitting around singing this song when it cam on this morning and then I was like... What?!?!?

My friends feel it‘s their appointed duty
They keep trying to tell me all you want to do is use me
But my answer yeah to all that use me stuff
Is I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good getting used
Oh you just keep on using me until you use me up
Until you use me up

My brother sit me right down and he talked to me
He told me that I ought not to let you just walk on me
And I‘m sure he meant well yeah but when our talk was through
I said brother if you only knew you‘d wish that you were in my shoes
You just keep on using me until you use me up
Until you use me up

Oh sometimes yeah it‘s true you really do abuse me
You get in a crowd of high class people and then you act real rude to me
But oh baby baby baby baby when you love me I can‘t get enough
I and I wanna spread the news that if it feels this good getting used
Oh you just keep on using me until you use me up
Until you use me up

Talking about you using me but it all depends on what you do
It ain‘t too bad the way you‘re using me
Cause I sure am using you to do the things you do
Ah ha to do the things you do

Current mood:  breezy

Hi, my name is:
who are you?!? JK... Nicki... to my friends :)
 

Never​ in my life have I been :
afraid of anything
 
 

I hate it when:​
the cheese on the top of the pizza burns the roof of my mouth
 
 
 

Right​ now, I am liste​ning to:
American Idol on TV.... not my choice, but I‘m enjoying it enough to not argue
 
 
If you‘​re gonna​ talk smack​ about​ me:
Join the club. From what I hear they pass out a bi-annual news letter and an oyster roast with door prizes
 
 
 
 
The one perso​n who can drive​ me nuts:​
is myself   
 
 

When I‘m nervo​us:​
I get on the road. So buckle up!     
 
 
 

The last song I liste​ned to was:
freaking over an hour ago... I can‘t remember!
 
If you were to get marri​ed today​ your maid of honor​/​best man would​ be:
commiting a crime! I ain‘t getting married!
 
 

My hair is:
interesting right now
 
When I was 4:
younger than 5
 
Last Chris​tmas:​
I tazed a fat guy for requesting I sit down and tell him what I wanted. Then I had to kick his little pointy eared kid cause he came after me with a giant candy cane!
 
 
 
I shoul​d be:
 
 
When I look down:​
I see my key board
 
 

The happi​est recen​t event​ was?
Everyday is a happy event, but a case closed and a little boy‘s safe!!! I‘m super happy about that!
 
 
My curre​nt annoy​ance is:
the way the blanket is cramping up my right shoulder... hold on....that‘s better.
 
 

I have a hard time under​stand​ing:​
cajun people    
 
​
The thing​ I want to buy is:
socks... somehow I never have socks!
 
 
 
Most recen​t thing​ I‘ve bough​t mysel​f:​
Socks!!!  Isn‘t that insane! And I can‘t ever find them!
 
 
 

Most recen​t thing​ someo​ne else bough​t me was:
Harmony! Right on time with a tank of gas!
 
 
 
 

Last night​ I was:
ummm... Oh yeah, watching CSI with harmony. Wild night though we almost stayed up late enough to catch Colbert
 
 
 
If I was an anima​l I‘d be:
Close to my grandma‘s house so I could get loved on :)
 
 
Tomor​row I am going​ to:
Save the world?!?!? who knows... "I won‘t think about it today..."
 
 
Tonig​ht I am:
Going to watch tv... eat some ice cream and go to bed... Oh my god, all I need now is a cat or 12  

In my case the child‘s father died. They didn‘t need to prove she was guilty of anything. I think this case was really messed up. Lots of people were in positions to help this child.

We found out late late late in the case that the step grandad has had allegations made against him previously, but since no charges were filed... we didn‘t have access to that information. We didn‘t even know to ask for that!

My mom knew Karen when she was growing up in the foster care system. I moved near karen after Tommy died. These people skeezed me out from day one! But Karen tried hard to include them in her kid‘s life. We were all blown away with how well they were able to play this situation. 

Prolonged litigation is never good on kids. The money Karen had to come up with to  pay lawyers, GALs, court fees and fines... She was never able to file anything against them!

I am so glad she ended up with the lawyer she did. It was so far into the case, he‘s a doll for taking it... And winning! We had no idea that this was going to be the end.

My thoughts: the judge knew that all of the improprities that the court ignored before were going to be documented with this case going to a final hearing. 

well if you get a half assed lawyer and just judges... troxel vs. Granville deems it unconstitutional! goes against a parent‘s fundamental rights to raise the child the way they want to.

She just had shady, shady **** going on. Since she was foster kid... i think people judged her. And by all statics she should be cutting her self in prison with  10 kids. Heck I think I‘m pretty hard and... I think a year of her life... any year in her life, and I‘d‘ve killed someone. from day one this girl‘s been fighting, and I‘m just so happy for this!

She was happy. When I was 18 I used to hang out with her and her two sons and the love of her life, tommy. I remember her 6 months pregnaunt on the couch in a tiny HOT trailer (sitting in a bathing suit so hot) but she was so happy and so much fun and a total mom! Like, I‘m an only child so my first expirence with a baby baby... was her little boys... and now the oldest one‘s freaking 11!

Alright... I‘ve been drinking so no more bloging.. Night ladies :)

yay! So I am the administrative assistant for the guardian at litem of sc 14 judicial district

Who‘s your daddy!

 for all the wishes and prayers! I am so excited!

health insurance... but if I didn‘t have to pay for that I‘d be just above the poverty line... with it, I‘m just below... but I‘ve survived on about 5 grand a year for the last decade so this will be way better!

oh congratz busty! and thanks everyone. I start tomorrow. Wednsday I got to go to columbia for orentation for the state.then thursday I go to COSY training with my mom. they are doing animal training with horses... weird timing don‘t you think? :)

wish me luck!!!!

hey second day on the job today. I am loving it. I also took another volunteer GAL case... so I have 2 now.

I moved out of the home I was living at and moved in with my granny and papa yesterday. We‘re hooking up the hot tub this weekend  (granny‘s b-day present from 2004 she never used.)

I only work 30 hours a week so it works 9-3 and I‘m lining up apointments with my "mom friends" whose going to make me coffee int he mornings. Granny‘s got a coffee machine that looks like a space ship... I don‘t know how to use it.

Life‘s good. Can‘t complain at all. I have to go to columbia tomorrow but they pay me .50 a mile and it‘s $130 they reimburse me for the trip and I get a day‘s pay out it so that‘s not bad.

I promise to get on more... it‘s just been a little wild.

love ya‘ll

I am so sorry your family is going through this. How did the "false satement" get written up in the report? I don‘t know how they do it there... but in a divorce there is a lawyer assigned to kids in custody cases, a private GAL. They can talk to the kids and can tell the judge the kids request.

My prayers are with you guys. I hope everything turns out all right.

just something I‘ve been working on... part of a bigger project. I thinkI am going to try and expand on it. I wanted to do a big poster, but now... I think the family services might better be distrubuted in a tri-fold pamplet

anyways...

I think I might try, if I do a pamplet, giving a one or two line description of each to help show what they have

Lowcountry Elder Services

Agape Hospice of the Lowcountry

P.O. Box 718 / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 645-2290/ Website: www.agapesenior.com

Alzheimer’s Family Services of Greater Beaufort

P.O. Box 1514 / Beaufort , SC 29901-1514

(843) 521-9190

Alzheimer’s Respite and Resources

3001 Meeting Street / Hilton Head Island , Sc 29926

(843) 842-6688/ Website: www.alzheimersrr.org

American Parkinson Disease Association

135 Parkinson Avenue / Staten Island , NY 10305

1-800-223-2732/ Website: www.apdaparkinson.org

Beaufort County Department of Social Services (DSS)

1905 Duke Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 470-4600

Beaufort County Health Department (Beaufort)

601 Wilmington Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 525-7615/ Website: www.scdhec.gov/region8

Beaufort County Health Department (Bluffton)

4819 Bluffton Parkway / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 757-2251/ Website: www.scdhec.gov/region8

Beaufort County Veteran’s Affairs

P.O. Drawer 1228/ Beaufort , SC 29901

(843) 470-4740/ Website: www.bcgov.net   

Beaufort Jasper Hampton Comprehensive Health Services

Chelsea (987-7400); Sheldon (846-2086); St. Helena (838-2086);

Beaufort (986-0900); Hardeeville (784-2181); Ridgeland (726-3939);

Hampton (943-2233); and Estill (625-2548)

Website: www.bjchs.com

Beaufort Memorial Hospital – Main

955 Ribaut Road / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 522-5200/ Website: www.bmhsc.org

Beaufort Memorial Hospital – Diabetes Care Center

Beaufort Medical Plaza / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843)522-5600/ Website: www.bmhsc.org (go to services)

Beaufort Memorial Hospital – Keyserling Cancer Center

1680 Ribaut Road / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 522-7800/ Website: www.bmhsc.org  

Beaufort Memorial Hospital – Rehabilitative Services

989 Ribaut Road, #330 / Beaufort , SC 29901  

(843) 522-5630

Care One Home Health

23 Plantation Park Dr. Suite 503 / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 815-8088

Coastal Carolina Medical Center

1000 Medical Center Drive / Hardeeville , SC 29927

(843) 784-8000/ Website: www.ccmc-cares.com

Comfort Keepers

P.O. Box 1019 / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 757-7731/ Website: www.comfortkeepers.com

Community Health Improvement Program (CHIP)

955 Ribaut Road / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 522-5568/ Website: www.bmhsc.org (under services)

Commun-I-Care, Inc

P.O. Box 186 / Columbia , SC 29202-0186

(803) 933-9183, 1-800-763-0059/ Website: www.communicare.us

Community Long Term Care

P.O. Box 2065 / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 726-5353

Diabetes Initiative of South Carolina

P.O. Box 250565 , Room 273/ Rutledge Towers / Charleston , SC 29403

(843) 876-0968

Epilepsy Foundation of South Carolina

625 Bush River Road / Columbia , SC 29210

(803) 798-8502/ Website: www.epilepsisc.org

Family Services, Inc

4925 Lacross Road Ste. 215 / North Charleston , SC 29406

1-800-232-6489/ Website: www.familyserviceschassc.com

Francois Community House

99 Possum Hill/ Beaufort , SC 29906

(843) 846-1579

Friends of Caroline Hospice

1110 13^th Street / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 525-6257/ Website: www.carolinehospice.org

Gullah Church Nurses Association

P.O. Box 113 / St. Helena Island , SC 29920

(843) 838-5826

Hilton Head Regional Medical Center

25 Hospital Center Blvd. / Hilton Head Island , SC 29926

(843) 681-6122/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com

Hilton Head Regional – Mid Island Primary Care Center

Medical Pavilion, Suite 300 / 25 Hospital Center Blvd / Hilton Head Island , SC 29926

(843) 681-2074/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com

Hilton Head Regional – Bluffton / Okatie

40 Okatie Center Blvd. S. / Okatie , SC 29909

(843) 705-8800, (843) 705-8888/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com

Hilton Head Regional – Burnt Church Primary & Urgent Care Center

1 Burnt Church Road/ Bluffton , SC 29910       

(843) 705-8915/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com

Home Instead

7505 Waters Ave. F-2/ Savannah , GA 31412

(843) 842-3372

Hospice Care Of America

21 Professional Village Circle / Beaufort , SC 29907

(843) 322-0063, 1-800-762-8568

Hospice Care of the Lowcountry

P.O. Box 3872 / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 706-2296

Island Health Care of Beaufort

1211 Newcastle Road , Suite D/ Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 522-0296/ Website: www.thagroup.org

Jasper County Council on Aging

P.O. Box 641 , 30 Main St. / Hardeeville , SC 20036

(843) 726-5601

Jasper County Veteran’s Affairs

7554 West Main St. / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 726-7727

Lifeline Monitoring Service

P.O. Box 2117 / Hilton Head Island , SC 29925

1-800-543-3546

Lowcountry Council of Governments – Area Agency on Aging

P.O. Box 98 / Yemmassee , SC 29945

(843) 726-5536

Medic Alert International

2323 Colorado Avenue / Turlock , CA 95382

1-800-ID-ALERT (432-5378)

Palmetto Animal League

P.O. Box 539 / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 227-2691/ Website: www.palmettoanimalleague.org

Senior Services of Beaufort County

1408 Paris Avenue / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 254-1787/ Website: www.seniorservicesofbeaufort.org

S.H.A.R.E Senior Center

6 Office Way Suite 915 / Hilton Head Island , SC 29928

(843) 785-6444

Social Security Administration

2212 Mossy Oaks Road / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 524-5795

South Carolina State OMBUDSMAN Office

(803) 734-5049/ Website: www.oepp.sc.gov/ombudsman

South Carolina Veteran’s Services

1205 Pendleton Street, Suite 369 / Columbia , SC 29201          

(803) 734-0200/ Website: www.govoepp.state.sc.us/va

United Way of Bamberg, Colleton and Hampton Counties

P.O. Box 200 / Walterboro , SC 29488

(843) 549-9594/ Website: www.unitedwayofbch.org

United Way of the Lowcountry, Inc – Helpline

2266 Boundary Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 524-4357, (843) 686-4357, (843) 757-4357/ Website: www.uwlowcountry.org

Volunteer Medical Transportation

P.O. Box 531 / Allendale , SC 29810

(803) 584-3477, 1-866-735-6919/ Website: www.gotohiltonheadisland.com/bus  

Volunteers In Medicine

15 Northridge Drive / Hilton Head Island , SC 29926

(843) 681-6612/ Website: www.vimclinic.org

Volunteers Outreach in Community Effort

City of Beaufort Police Department/ 990 Ribaut Rd. / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 322-7913

Babynet

1407 King Street / Beaufort SC 29902

(843) 525-4085

Beaufort County Department of Social Services

1905 Duke Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 470-4600

Beaufort County Disabilities and Special needs

P.O. Box 129 / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843)470-6300, (843) 470-6282

Beaufort County First Steps

P.O. Box 6421 / Beaufort , SC 29903

(843) 379-7840

Beaufort County Health Department (Beaufort)

601 Wilmington Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 525-7615 

Beaufort County Health Department (Bluffton)

4819 Bluffton Parkway / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843) 757-2251

Beaufort County Library

311 Scott Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 525-4071/ Website: www.beaufortcountylibrary.org  

Beaufort County School District

P.O. Box 309 / Beaufort , SC 29901

(843) 322-2371

BJEOC – Headstart Program

P.O. Box 2296 / Beaufort , SC 29901

(843) 470-4512

Beaufort Memorial Hospital – Healthlink for Children

1100 Ribeaut Road / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 522-5900/ Website: www.bmhsc.org  

Born to Read

2266 Boundary Street Ste. 202 / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 379-3350

Boy Scouts – Costal Carolina Council

1025 Sam Rittenberg Blvd/ Charleston, SC 29407

(843)763-0305/ Website: www.coastalcarolinabsa.org  

Boys & Girls Club of the Lowcountry

17b Marshellen Drive / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843)575-5430

Child Abuse Prevention Association (CAPA)

P.O. Box 531 / Beaufort , SC 29901

(843) 524-4350/ Website: www.islc.net/capa  

Children’s Relief Fund

P.O. Box 22574 / Hilton Head Island , SC 29925

(843) 681-7668

Collaborative Organization of Services for Youths (COSY)

P.O. Box Drawer 1228/ Beaufort , SC 29901

(843) 322-5414

Disabled Children’s Relief Fund

P.O. Box 89 Freeport , New York 11520

Website: www.dcrf.com  

DNA diagnostics Center

205 Corporate Court/ Fairfield , Ohio 45014

Toll Free: 1-800-362-2368 Ext. 614

Easter Seals – South Carolina

P.O. Box 5715 / Columbia , SC 29250

1-800-951-4090, (803) 466-4099/ Website: www.eastersealssc.org  

Epilepsy Foundation of South Carolina

625 Bush River Road / Columbia , SC 29210

(803) 798-8502 

Epworth Children’s Home

P.O. Box 50466 / Columbia , SC 29250-0455

(803) 256-7349/ Website: www.epworthchildrenshome.org  

Family Connection of South Carolina, Inc

2712 Middleburn Drive Ste. 103B / Columbia , SC 29204

1-800-578-8750/ Website: www.familyconnection.org  

Family, Adult &Children’s Education Services (FACES)

P.O. Drawer 309/ Beaufort , SC 29901-0309

(843) 521-2399/ Website: www.beaufort.school.net.com  

Girl Scouts of Eastern South Carolina

P.O. Box 7503 / Hilton Head Island , SC 29928

(843) 842-3444/ Website: www.girlscoutsesc.org  

Hardeeville Community Library

37 Main Street / Hardeeville , SC 29927

(843)784-3426

Heroes on Horseback

P.O. Box 3678 / Bluffton , SC 29910

(843)757-5607/ Website: www.heroesonhorseback.org  

Hilton Head Island Recreation Association, Inc

20 Wilborn Road / Hilton Head Island , SC 29925

(843) 681-7273/ Website: www.islandreccenter.org  

Hilton Head Regional Medical Center

25 Hospital Center Blvd. / Hilton Head Island , SC 29926

(843) 689-8302/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com  

Hilton Head Regional – Bluffton / Okatie

40 Okatie Center Blvd. S. / Okatie , SC 29909

(843) 705-8800, (843) 705-8888/ Website: www.hiltonheadregional.com  

Hope Haven of the Lowcountry

P.O. Box 2502 / Beaufort , SC 29906

(843) 524-2256, (843) 524-6699

Toll Free: 1-800-637-7273/ Website: www.hopehavenlc.org  

Jasper County Board of Disabilities and Special Needs

1512 Grays Hwy. / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 726-4499

Jasper County Department of Health and Human Services

204 North Jacob Smart Blvd. / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 726-7747

Jasper County Department of Social Services

204 North Jacob Smart Blvd. / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 726-7747

Jasper County Health Department

359 E. Wilson Street / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843)726-7788

Jasper County School District

P.O. Box 848 / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843) 717-1100

Low Country Health District Children’s Rehabilitative Services

1407 King Street / Beaufort SC 29902

(843) 525-4075

Make a Wish Foundation of South Carolina

3520 Meeks Farm Road , Suite C/ John’s Island , SC 29455

1-800-293-9474

Penn Center

P.O. Box 126 / St. Helena Island , SC 29920

(843) 838-2432

Pratt Memorial Library

451-A Wilson Street / Ridgeland , SC 29936

(843)470-5087

S.C. Department of Social Services – Child Support Enforcement Division

3346 Rivers Avenue , Suite E/ North Charleston , SC 29405

1-800-768-5858/ Website: www.state.sc.us/dss/csed

Social Security Administration

2212 Mossy Oaks Road / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 524-5795

South Carolina Autism Society

806 12^th Street, Suite 203 / W. Columbia , SC 29169

(803) 750-6988, 1-800-438-4790

South Carolina School for the Deaf and Blind

355 Cedar Springs Road / Spartanburg , SC 29302-4699

1-888-447-2732 (voice/TTY) / Website: http://www.scsdb.org/

Special Olympics – South Carolina

Dutch Plaza ; 810 Dutch Square Blvd, Suite 204 / Columbia , SC 29210

(803)772-1555/ Website: www.so-sc.org   

Specialized Alternative for Families and Youth of America

10100 Elida Road / Delphos , Ohio 45833

1-800-532-7239/ Website: www.safy.org  

Thornwell Home and School for Children

P.O. Box 60 / Clinton , SC 29325-0060

(864) 938-2100

Thumbs Up, Inc

P.O. Box 325 / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 986-5437

Unitedway of Bamberg, Hampton and Colleton Counties

P.O. Box 200 / Walterboro , SC 29488

(843) 549-9594/ Website: www.unitedwayofbch.org  

Untiedway of the Lowcountry, Inc –Helpline

2266 Boundary Street / Beaufort , SC 29902

(843) 524-4357, (843) 686-4357, (843) 757-4357/ Website: www.uwlowcountry.org  

Unitedway – Success By 6 Family Learning Center

62 New Orleans Road / Hilton Head Island , SC 29938

(843)686-4304/ Website: www.uwlowcountry.org  

Wil Lou Gray Opportunity School – Youth Challenge Academy

3300 West campus Road/ West Columbia , SC 29170

(803) 896-6480

YMCA of Beaufort County

1801 Richmond Ave. / Port Royal , SC 29935

(843) 251-1861

john Gillies

plead guilty for "Assault / Assault and battery of a high and aggravated nature" according to bcgov.net

he recieved this at the sentance  "18 months suspended, probation 18 months. NO CONTACT WITH VICTIM, counseling/Credit Time Served (4 hours) /Jail Suspended."

I am so disapointed! I have been waiting.... I wanted to go see the hearing; I figured he‘d plead, but I thought he‘d get listed as a sex offender at least. grrr...

Man who ran nudist resort in Pelion charged with child sexual assault

Updated: Oct 22, 2007 03:50 PM EDT

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it‘s also volunteer month in South Carolina. I wanted to protote the guardian ad litem program for those of you who have extra time to help a child who is involved in litigation.

you could be the person who looks out for the best interest of kids where case workers are over worked and overwhelmed, as a GAL you have on one or two families to work for at a time making sure you aren‘t overwhelmed. You aren‘t switched around, so when you get to know you kids- you go from start to finish with that child. 

Please give it some thought. If you would like to help, but don‘t have time to become a volunteer GAL, there are organizations/ non-profits  that help abused children in you area that are always looking for donations of any sort.

April 17, 2009- Columbia though SCCADVASA

http://www.sccadvasa.org/conference.aspx

I‘m doing this and meeting with Bud Ferillo the director of corridor of shame- I signed up to do petitions for http://goodbyeminimallyadequate.com/

Yesterday I went to the press confrence and volunteer voices presentation for the GALs

I had fun, but I am never wearing those damned heels I did yesterday again!

 WeaR bLue RibboNs!

I thought this was nice... This is part of an email sent from my boss to the rest of our Guardians  :)

"Most of you have already met or talked to Nicki Cadien.  She is the new member of the office staff.  Nicki trained to be a volunteer in October and was hired in February.  Between October and February she volunteered in the office and really helped us keep everything from getting completely out of control.  She will never replace Peggy who had so many years of experience and wisdom but Nicki is a bright and energetic life force.  Nicki is no stranger to the GAL program, her mother Toy Cadien was the original circuit coordinator for our office.  We will have to share her with the Hampton, Allendale and Colleton offices but she will be here the majority of the time."

I love my job here. I have to travel a bunch... but ya‘ll know me :p That‘s probably the funnest part, besides meeting new people. I have been helpping a new domestic violence victim who had to move qicker than expected when her child reported the abuse to the school. It‘s interesting learning 1st hand how the DSS child abuse cases are handeled. This job has introduced me to many of the people working on the new DV case... I don‘t know if that helps us or not, but... we‘ll see.

It‘s nice- this girl has always come with me to help others move, or clean their homes. This new victim has opened her own home for others she barley knew if they had children, and now that she‘s going through this- EVERY VICTIM I have helpped in the Bft area has brought her furniture, kids clothes, dishes- helpped her moved or babysat for her to go to work. I love the strength and heart my girls have.

I know I promised I‘d be on more but I‘ve been traveling and sick

Miss you all

peace

CHECKLIST FOR ASSESSING CHANGE

IN MEN WHO ABUSE WOMEN

Admitting fully to what he has done

Stopping excuses

Stopping all blaming of her

Making amends

Accepting responsibility (recognizing that abuse is a choice)

Identifying patterns of controlling behavior, admitting their wrongness

Identifying the attitudes that drive his abuse

Accepting that overcoming abusiveness will be a decades-long process, not declaring himself cured

Not starting to say, “so now it’s your turn to do your work”, not using change as a bargaining chip

Not demanding credit for improvements he has made

Not treating improvements as chips or vouchers to be spent on occasional acts of abuse (e.g. “I haven’t done anything like this in a long time, so why are you making such a big deal about it?”)

Developing respectful, kind, supportive behaviors

Carrying his weight

Sharing power

Changing how he is in highly heated conflicts

Changing how he responds to his partner’s (or former partner’s) anger and grievances

Changing his parenting / Changing his treatment of her as a parent

Changing his attitudes towards females in general

Accepting the consequences of his actions (including not feeling sorry for himself about those consequences, and not blaming her or the children for them)

Domestic violence is a pattern

together. The following are some things that you

Help a friend who is being abused. Let her

Speak up about abuse. Let abusers know their

Educate yourself and others. Call your local

Set an example. Make a committment to work

http://www.emergedv.com/abuserfaq.html#2)%20DOES%20BATTERER%20INTERVENTION%20WORK?

2) DOES ABUSER EDUCATION WORK?

This question is commonly asked, but does not have a simple answer. Abuser education programs may work for those people who take the information and use it to stop harming others.

A comparable question might be ‘Does education and treatment for drinking and driving offenders really work?‘ The answer would also be similar: someone who truly wants to stop drinking will work to do so. Someone who doesn‘t take such services seriously is at greater risk to re-offend.

Ongoing studies continue to look for a definitive answer to this question, researcher  Edward Gondolf has conducted a study comparing different Abuser Education Program formats (For more information on this study CLICK HERE). Another resource for this question is Jeffrey Edelson‘s work (for more information CLICK HERE). 

so when a guy is posted on the rate a guy and you google his name... it‘s not showing up

I‘m wanting to see if I post it in the fourm, if google will catch the name then

man my bells are shaping up pretty tough now too! I swear, they get meaner and more active every new victim we get. it‘s nice to see them all pull together to help someone else in need out though.

love you girls. Hope all is well and happy mother‘s day!

I went to a networking luncheon the other day for work. My boss said, as I was walking out the door- not to foget to advertise for womansavers since I was going to put stuff out for the Guardian Ad Litem program... So I brought out the business card and some bumper stickers and everyone there LOVED the concept of this site. One guy runs another website (I have to wait till I‘m in the office with the card there) but he asked me if he could post a link to this site and if I could get a little paragraph about the site so he can run an article about it and share with his email listing. It‘s a behavioural health center on Hilton Head Island... 

Anyways, I told him I‘d contact you.. I don‘t know nothing about this computer stuff :) but I‘m sure you have some way.

I hope all is well.

so I am at the sc victims assistance academy! I will have the next 5 days here in columbia doing an intense training to learn about the services and advocacy here in SC. The networking is great! I brought the rest of my womansaver‘s parfanilia to pass out. Tonight was the opening night with introductions and diner. It‘s mostly victim‘s advocates (LE) 39 women, 2 men... so far I‘ve only seen one guy but everyone seems very nice.
Anyways, I haven‘t been on in a while so I just wanted to say hey.

Been busy with my latest vic in beaufort. Actually MUSC institute of psycharity is getting behind her and they‘‘ve assessed her husband and wrote a beautiful letter to the Guardian ad Litem saying that he won‘t listen to their suggestions on alernatives to corpral punishment with the children and that he needs counseling that turns into family counseling before he has unsupervised visitation. Now that won‘t help for the next 30 days... the judge ordered joint custody while the guardian ad litem does an investigation, but I can‘t imagine her not listening to MUSC when writing her report to the court. I am so glad they are going the extra mile! So is the mother!

alright, till next time :)

hope everyone has a great, safe 4th of July!

Thanks to all who fight to keep our country safe!

Hope your night is fun!

so i have a little time to talk now that i‘m down with a knee sprain. It wasn‘t that bad until I went to the doctor yesterday and they drained it and put cortizone in it. There wasn‘t a lot of fluid on it to begin with, but the doc made it sound like the shot was going to take it all away. it didn‘t. My leg hurts now just to stand up!

Before when I put weight on it it hurt, but now there‘s more swelling than there was even when I tore the ligiments last year!

I had a dream I tried to amputate it myself, and they gave me the surgery... I think in reality I‘d get a trip to the hospital alright..

But I wish it wasn‘t so annoying. My birthdady‘s on the 14th and my first party starts this saturday. pool party, but no no no... I‘ll be in the imobilizer.

And I did the watermelon festival parade 3 days after it happened. I don‘t know what I would have done with out my friends. They drove and decorated... it was nice, but then I got the waterfestival parade for not only the Guardian ad Litem, but I am also going to have the child abuse prevention association (CAPA) material on our float. They aren‘t going to be able to do one and I really like the staff and volunteers so... they‘ll buy the decorations and I got a truck from Dukes with a driver. Dukes Towing is the ones that moved my things from when Tim and I split. I‘m excited, but I have the first day of physical therapy tomorrow and that scares me.

Well, I am sorry I haven‘t been on alot, but I am putting together a couple different projects... I have an old victim I found out has just gotten assaulted by her new boyfriend, a guy that told me not 2 weeks ago that her 6 year old "knows all about blog jobs" then winked. Sorry bastards... see this leg thing just gets in the way. If i haddn‘t had been on a tramploine sitting with the little girl, my shoes and cane on the ground benieth where the guy was standing.... ohhhh.....

but he‘s got it comming. I‘m sad that this girl doesn‘t get it. She‘s so touchy, she ask for help, but has trouble letting people help her instead of rescusing her. I can‘t rescue anyone. I can barely get the things done I need to and I am not going to stand by when she dates a guy that out of jail for conspiring to murder one of my "olds" and his girlfriend at the time. And while the cops were investigating he went to the funeral and signed the guest book; evil son of a bi tch!

anyways, her moms getting a hair cut tonight, I wonder if i‘ll see her. I told her the last time I saw her, I‘d help her with anything she needed after he was gone and I haven‘t seen her since; 2 weeks ago. This morning was when I heard about the bruises and she‘s not staying at her house because he‘s there... i hope she gets into therapy after this one. I hope she presses charges against this one.

anyways, I hope you are all doing alright. I miss you guys! Please keep my knee, and me in your prayers, ya‘ll are always in mine

i went to the pt today and they want me to come 3x/ week for the next 6 weeks starting on my birthday. and I had to cry to get them to schedule it after 3pm. all of them are different days of the week some of them are at 3:15 some at 4:30 one is even 8 am! grrrr....

I hate this doctor thing :(

so I‘m add. The guys name is David Diana and he runs Palmetto Lowcountry Behavioral Health. www.palmettobehavioralhealth.com

it‘s located out of Charleston, SC

hey no problem, I don‘t know what I would have done without you guys... I want others to know how empowered the other women, info and place to post their ex can be! When I do my LEO training I want to print the list from SC out and see how many cops recognize names from around here :)

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hey this was the parade float I put together with help from Duke‘s towing and CAPA and lots of wonderful friends and or their children.

I had a blast!

http://www.slide.com/r/iH8PMmLOwD-CgfQx1PAVf84lJ9PsK4Br

hey this was the parade float I put together with help from Duke‘s towing and CAPA and lots of wonderful friends and or their children.

I had a blast!

this one is from 1984 from when my mom did it for Foster care and CAPAs open arms shelter. Iam sitting in her lap and the blonde up front is harmony my sister... don‘t know who anyone else is :) I couldn‘t get the photo‘s to load from this parade but my boss lady made a show

call it what you will, I am just glad it works.

how do you feel now that this new charge is there?

It hurt when my ex murdered that lady. i think I was more mad that I did try to tell everyone about him and people were like "let it go"... "get on with your life"... "why worry about him?" well, I knew what he was capable of. I didn‘t think it‘s be with a 78 year old woman, but I knew he was dangerous.

Then came the relief that I wasn‘t hurt more than I was.

I‘m still a little angry, It might say "not pissed"... but, everytime I hear how cops treat victim, or when I see them tell victims there‘s nothing they can do and I know they are WRONG that‘s what keeps me advocating. I don‘t want someone who wants to press charges or to have their story told not be able to... like me. (except for here and domestic violence awareness events) 

It must have been satisfying to see him in that state. a question though... how are you doing as far as moving on? Your hopefully not having anyone accuse you of rape, but are you living?