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|FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
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1/26/2008 5:02:11 PM - i totally agree with you women. this man is the scum of the earth.he tries to pretend he is a good god fearing man. but he is nothing like he claims to be. PLEASE PLEASE BEWARE of him and stay away from him or you will lose more than your heart to him. H will also take your money and belongings.
1/29/2008 3:40:47 AM - This man even looks like a terrorist. I don't know what you women saw in him. He appears like he doesn't think the law can touch him. Could it be alcohol and drugs are involved? Or maybe an accomplice? A wife? Degenerate men like this deserve to spend their nights and days in prison. I hope that's where you see him next. He would make some con a wonderful girlfriend with that hair. More to grab on to. Good luck.
1/31/2008 8:23:26 AM - i know a few of us in ALASKA were sorry to see him leave - before they put him in jail for fraud. Good luck and watch your back girls.
1/31/2008 8:45:16 AM - why does the song RHIANNON keep going through my mind? oh yes... shes the only female he has ever loved and cared about. it's amazing how he treats animals better than human beings. i guess when you ARE an animal, you just naturally BECOME one and can disregard human feelings as nothing.
2/4/2008 7:25:52 AM - RANDY... OR GEORGE... OR HOODED ONE... OR MYSTICWARRIOR... OR SILENT RUNNING... OR WHATEVER YOU ARE GOING BY THESE DAYS... WE ALL HAD A CHAT ABOUT YOU LAST NIGHT.. OUR NUMBERS ARE GROWING.. OUR TEMPERS ARE FLARING... WE ARE NOT A HAPPY GROUP... BUT YOU KNOW THIS AS YOU GET IN TOUCH WITH EACH ONE OF US AND EXPRESS YOUR ANGER AND OUTRAGE. WHATS THE MATTER? TRUTH HURTS? GETTING TO YOU? YOUR HAREM IS GANGING UP AGAINST YOU AND NOT with YOU.. BUT OH WELL.. YOU GET WHAT YOU DESERVE. AND YOU DESERVE THE WORST. have a wonderful day my wolf... as always, your special lady.
2/4/2008 7:35:37 AM - by the way lambie chop... you are invited to be included in one of our chats at any time... do come in and express yourself. always great to hear from you...you know you love me.... xoxoxoxoxox
2/5/2008 8:24:13 PM - This man is devoid of a heart. He moves from one innocent victim to the next and leaves them heartbroken and just plan financially broke. Ask his wife .. she knows all about what he does .. and enjoys the spoils of his efforts.
2/5/2008 8:31:35 PM - amen sister... we almost have all states accounted for... or at least we KNOW about each other... RUN RANDY RUN...
2/7/2008 4:15:52 PM - And please dont think having your family contacting me fishing around for info on you and what i know and am going to do next affects me in any way. It is amusing me more than you will ever know. If you or they want to know something.. JUST ASK... you know i don't lie... I will tell them the truth. AS ALWAYS... YOU ARE A SCUMBAG, LOWLIFE, LYING, WHORING, CHEATING, ADULTERER, WHO STEALS AND USES WOMEN FOR MONEY AND POSESSIONS. if i forgot anything you KNOW i will type more later... LOVE YA SWEET PEA. !!!!!
2/7/2008 4:24:55 PM - by the way... you know this is me... the ONLY one not to share your 30 seconds of nonpassionate, nonloving, noncaring, intimacy... i cry every night thinking i never will... such a shame and such a pity...what am i missing??? NOT A DAMN THING FROM WHAT I HEAR...I guess men in PA are just naturally better lovers.. hell, i guess men in ANY other state are... oooops... did i say that out loud? MY BAD
2/7/2008 4:37:14 PM - 1036 REASONS I HATE YOU
Date Receiver Name Amount Trans Status Ref Number
Details 05-11-07 GEORGE R. HOPPER 214.00 Sent 32004612
Details 04-14-07 GEORGE R. HOPPER 114.00 Sent 29557973
Details 04-10-07 GEORGE R. HOPPER 69.00 Sent 86460977
Details 04-02-07 GEORGE R. HOPPER 214.00 Sent 81812688
Details 03-27-07 GEORGE R. HOPPER 425.00 Sent 90324549
2/9/2008 12:10:08 AM - LOLOL... YOU ARE SO SO RIGHT SISTER... HE NEEDS TO COME CLEAN AND FESS UP. THERE ARE MORE AND MORE WOMEN COMING FORWARD AND HE HAS NOOOOO CLUE. HE WILL BE SPENDING LOTS OF TIME IN JAIL WITH THAT PRETTY PRETTY LONG HAIR OF HIS... ALL THE BETTER TO PULL WHEN YOUR "GIRLFRIEND" WANTS YOU.
2/9/2008 10:45:05 AM - Baby you can run, but you sure as hell can't hide.We are EVERYWHERE.. and we know who you are, we know what you look like, and we know your routine. Not answering your e-mails? oh well... we STILL know where you are.. we arent as dumb as you would like us to think or believe. You've made us all wise up.. and that is a good thing. We are so much smarter now.. and we all know much better than to have you, or any man like you in our lives again.. WE ALL SO DESERVE SO MUCH MORE... AND INDEED WE HAVE FOUND IT... by the way... do you need directions to my house? You keep saying you are coming and laughing like an insane idiot. Just wanted to know.. keep me posted so I can clean up a little and have a real welcome party for you. LOVE YOU HON ..!!!!
2/9/2008 2:33:33 PM - HI ITS ME AGAIN... THE ONE YOU really LOVE.. BUT DON'T WORRY I WONT TELL ANY OF THE OTHER GIRLS. YOUR SECRET IS SAFE WITH ME....FROM ALASKA, TO VA, TO NORTH CAROLINA, TO PENNSYLVANIA, MARYLAND, AND NOW TO FLORIDA... OH AND DON'T FORGET SASKATCHEWAN.... ALL YOUR LOVELY LADIES STILL THINK ABOUT YOU.. BUT NOT IN A GOOD WAY... ONLY TO PLAN WHERE THEY SHOULD PROSECUTE YOU FIRST... WHERE YOU WILL GET THE MOST TIME... AND WHERE IT WILL BE THE MOST PAINFUL FOR YOU. BET YOU DIDNT THINK WE COULD ALLLLL LOVE YOU THIS MUCH DID YOU? SEE SWEETIE? YOU MADE YOUR BEDS... NOW LIE IN THEM.I DO SO GET A KICK OUT OF TALKING TO YOU LIKE THIS... CAN'T YOU TELL? SIGH... SLEEP WELL TONIGHT... WITH ONE EYE OPEN AS ALWAYS... FEEL ME BREATHING DOWN YOUR NECK? THAT'S ABOUT AS CLOSE AS I WOULD EVER GET TO YOU WHAT WITH ALL THE DISEASES YOU MUST HAVE... YOUR POOR WIFE ALLISON..... OH WAIT... SHE IS IN ON ALL OF THIS WITH YOU. OH MY... DID I SAY THAT OUT LOUD? AND I'M USUALLY SUCH AN ANGEL TOO.
2/12/2008 5:53:35 PM - whoever wrote that last entry, certainly has NOT dealt with Mr. Hopper! I agree with everyone else on here, except that last one, which was most certainly written by a man, possibly THE "man" of which we are commenting on.
One of the several things I would like to know, how many DIFFERNT women (who have had dealings with him) have posted here? I know of two and myself, shall we count off? How many states/cities have been represented so far?
ps. the two who wrote and gave him 1 star, as in totally disagree, I am sure they meant to give him the 5 star award, he is a 5-star conartist, and is VERY good at what he does, a professional for sure.
#? in AK
2/13/2008 6:40:12 PM - FIRST OFF LET ME SAY... I AM THE ONE WHO PUT MR. HOPPERS NAME ON THIS SITE. IT WASN'T FOR REVENGE, IT WASN'T FOR FUN, IT WASN'T FOR ANY OTHER REASON THAN TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS, LET OTHER WOMEN WHO KNOW THIS MAN AND HAVE HAD SIMILAR EXPERIENCES WITH HIM EXPRESS THEIR FEELINGS, AND TO BE A SUPPORT SYSTEM TO EACH OTHER.
THE FACT THAT YOU SAID YOU DON'T KNOW MR. HOPPER, OR ME, OR ANY OF THE OTHER WOMEN COMMENTING IS DISTURBING. WHY WOULD YOU HAVE ANY REASON TO COMMENT ABOUT ANYTHING WE HAVE TO SAY? YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT EACH AND EVERY ONE OF US HAVE GONE THROUGH AND TO WHAT EXTENT WE HAVE BEEN HURT. WE ARE DOING WHATEVER WE CAN TO TRY TO SUPPORT AND HELP EACH OTHER THROUGH. THE FACT THAT YOU COME ON HERE AND TRY TO TELL US WHAT WE NEED TO DO, OR HOW WE SHOULD FEEL, IS RUDE, INCONSIDERATE AND VERY UNCALLED FOR. MR. HOPPER AND ALSO HIS NEPHEW HAVE DEFINITELY BEEN INFORMED ABOUT THIS SITE AND WHAT HAS BEEN WRITTEN HERE. HE IS FREE TO, AND HAS EVERY OPPORTUNITY TO COME IN AND WRITE HIS OWN COMMENTS.THIS WOULD BE A GREAT TIME AND PLACE TO ASK FOR THE FORGIVENESS YOU TALK ABOUT. BUT HE HASN'T. AND THE REASON IS THAT MR. HOPPER FEELS HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG. HE FEELS THAT THIS IS HOW HIS LIFE SHOULD BE. HE HAS BEEN CONNING, USING, AND ABUSING WOMEN FOR SO LONG THAT IT IS SECOND NATURE TO HIM. WHETHER HIS FAMILY WOULD LIKE TO ADDRESS HIS ACTIONS OR NOT IS UP TO THEM. THEY ARE FREE TO COMMENT ON THIS SITE ALSO. MR. HOPPERS FRIENDS ARE ALSO WELCOME TO ADD THEIR COMMENTS. HIS NEW WOMEN ARE FREE AND WELCOME TO ADD THEIR COMMENTS ALSO. THE POINT IS NOBODY DOES. ONLY US WOMEN WHO FIND COMFORT IN THE WRITTEN WORD, AND THE ENCOURAGEMENT FROM EACH OTHER.
YOU HAVE HAD YOUR SAY. WE'VE READ WHAT YOU'VE HAD TO SAY. NOW PLEASE RESPECT OUR FEELINGS AND LET US HAVE THE TIME, SPACE, AND WRITTEN WORDS WE NEED TO FIND THE PEACE AND LOVE AND TRUST THAT WE WERE STRIPPED OF. THANK YOU.
2/24/2008 2:46:10 PM - Well Ladies i am another victim of Randy Hoppers . never meet just chatted on yahoo and on the phone . he also told me that he was divorced had kids but he never seen or talked to them . also told me that he loved me . but when i started asking question he sent me an email called me ever name in the book .he is a liar and a cheat i also think he's wife is part of the scam he has going . as far as praying for him .. no way he made this mess he needs to pay for it . in jail ,prison where ever it takes him to pay for all that he has done to woman out there . he is not all that . i dont like men with long hair or who smokes ..i am on your band wagon lets put him away ~~~~~~~
2/24/2008 10:03:14 PM - Dear "another victim" which state are you from? I think we have Alaska covered, Virginia, North Carolina and Pittsburg. What, he does not like the west coast/midwest? I am still trying to get in a chat room with as many of us as possible. How can we make that happen? Has he contacted you recently? If so, do you know what state he is "working" now? Lets try to keep his prey informed.
2/25/2008 6:42:25 PM - I live in florida . ladies bewear of the oh forgive him comments i would not put it passed him to log on here as if he is a woman tell us he is a good guy trying to make it all right ,, he is a liar , thief , cheat . that say it all ..
2/25/2008 7:44:53 PM - oh so true Miss Florida, as I suspect he already has, he and his family, and friends if he has any left. He has not asked for forgiveness, he does not think he has done anything wrong, he thinks HE is the one being mistreated. So he is trying his don in Florida these days, he sure gets around, just so long as he does not come back here (Alaska), looks like we are somewhat safe for now.
To the "lady"? who "loves him" I agree, that we should love all human kind, however, I am not sure this applies to this entity. No, I think I will save the love for the people who appreciate, need and deserve it.
2/26/2008 3:43:38 PM - I am not sure who in there right mind would belive any thing he says , are you crazy as hell . i dont want him i am not a cry baby its just time that men who use woman for sex and money need to pay the piper ...his wife is a fool for playing the part with him maybe she needs to go to jail also .. men like him who screw it up for the good guys .~ his trash burn in hell ~~~~
2/26/2008 3:45:42 PM - This jerk told me his family was rich but he didnt want there money he was a honest god fearing man who wanted to make his way in the world ,,laugh of the year ~~
2/26/2008 8:15:05 PM - Vivan you are a Nut has these man got you on drugs get a grip woman .i guess you have never had a real man ? your the one i feel sorry for so sad ~~~keep telling your self how wonderful he is maybe you will belive it ~~~
2/27/2008 3:43:03 PM - I cant speak for ever other woman out there . i know he lied to me about being married and other things . i cant belive some of the ladies here dont want us to bash him .. unless he has screwed you over you have nothing to say . walk away . i want to belive that there is some good in ever one . he has not shown the ladies here that side of him . so all they know is that he is a blood sucking liar . and Jerk ..have a good evening ladies Florida here ~~~
2/28/2008 1:09:14 PM - so your in love with him once again, the prince is chaming you and your falling for it.guess you will be here again when you fall.you will start your site up again about him and how he did you wrong... AGAIN... and you will went us to be there for you. this is all on you. so don't cry to us. we are TELLING YOU NOW THAT HE IS PLAYING YOU,BUT YOU DON'T WANT TO HERE IT... that he is taking you for a ride once again.
2/29/2008 5:26:25 AM - Hey you cornflack lady i have no idea who you are . dont play the pitty card on here . i am just here to let other woman know what a scum bag randy is , a liar ,cheat ,takes money from woman will never pay them back ,grow up your self . have a good weekend ~~~
2/29/2008 3:18:27 PM - Vivian thank you for the spell check . i have not said any thing about Randy that is not true . as far as my life its great i have a great job work for the us goverment make good money .live near the beach .have a great weekend and life .
3/2/2008 6:54:27 AM - he is scum ~ that is a fact .living in nc i was told last month ..
3/3/2008 3:07:01 PM - Move on ,He has that you can bet on ~~~
3/5/2008 5:58:03 PM - You need help if you think he dose not lie . belive in God or not but a liar and a cheat are still the same .i am sure he comes here ,reads what we have said adds his own comments !!
3/6/2008 3:01:18 PM - Leave florida out of the mix . i never meet him ~~~or any thing else !!!!
3/10/2008 4:15:19 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 4:19:49 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 4:20:01 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 4:20:13 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 4:20:25 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 4:20:38 AM - Saya sakit! Tumpang tanya... ah... Tiada!
3/10/2008 3:15:51 PM - Randy is a liar and a cheat , if any of you think thats he is going to do whats right .. might want to think again ..scum ~~~~~~~~~~
3/14/2008 6:00:48 PM - Just remember that some women will do and say anything to get Randy to trust them.. to make him think that they still love him and believe him.. just so they can get their revenge. Beware of these women.. you never know who you can trust.
3/15/2008 8:08:16 PM - That is so funny.. he told me the same thing a few years ago.. that he was moving from Alaska and take his wife back to Georgia to be with her family so he could divorce her. Get a clue... he will not divorce his wife. And if he did, would you really want a man that cant be trusted, a man that would be constantly on the prowl for food because the "wolf is hungry". He is a predator and will always be one.
3/20/2008 8:30:53 PM - SO VIV...
3/16/2008 7:49:15 PM - SO WE HAVE ALL HEARD, BUT STILL NO PROOF OF WHAT YOU ARE SAYING. BUT IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD TO SAY THESE THINGS ABOUT THIS MAN, SO BE IT. BUT WHAT I DON'T UNDERSTAND IS THAT ANYBODY CAN COME ON THIS SITE AND IF THEY ARE PISSED OFF AT A MAN THEY CAN START TRASHING HIM AND BLAME HIM FOR BEING A CHEAT A THIEF A CON WITHOUT ANY PROOF OF THIS. IT IS A WONDER THAT THIS SITE CAN CONTINUE LIKE THIS WITHOUT ANY LAW SUITS BUT AS FAR AS I KNOW THERE COULD BE, BEING SUED, WE WOULDN'T KNOW NOW WOULD WE. NO I DON'T KNOW THIS MAN BUT I DO KNOW A MAN THAT THIS HAPPENED TO AND HE DIDN'T DO ANYTHING TO ANYONE, HIS LIFE IS RUINED AND HE IS SUING, HE LOST HIS JOB HIS WIFE AND HIS KIDS. SO YOU SEE, IT IS HARD TO BELIEVE ANY OF THIS WHEN THERE ISN'T ANY PROOF SHOWN TO ANYONE HERE. THAT SHOULD BE THE FIRST THING YOU DO BEFORE TRASHING SOMEONES LIFE IS TO POST THE PROOF THEN START TRASHING THEM.
3/23/2008 11:40:19 AM - Psychopaths display a general lack of empathy. They are indifferent to the rights and suffering of family members and strangers alike. If they do maintain ties with their spouses or children it is only because they see their family members as possessions, much like their stereos or automobiles.
3/24/2008 7:27:43 PM - THE WOMAN THAT THINK SHE SLEEPING WITH RANDY IS A NUT. FOR WE ALL KNOW THAT YOUR NOT. IN LESS YOUR RANDY WIFE. OR CAN THIS BE V? DREAMING THAT SHE IS.
3/28/2008 9:18:03 PM - 2/7/2008 4:24:55 PM - by the way... you know this is me... the ONLY one not to share your 30 seconds of nonpassionate, nonloving, noncaring, intimacy... i cry every night thinking i never will... such a shame and such a pity...what am i missing??? NOT A DAMN THING FROM WHAT I HEAR...I guess men in PA are just naturally better lovers.. hell, i guess men in ANY other state are... oooops... did i say that out loud? MY BAD
3/29/2008 8:19:26 PM - Saya sakit! ( Saya sakit I'm sick )
Tumpang tanya ("May I ask...?" )
Tiada (Nothing )
Saya cinta awak Selamat jalan
3/29/2008 8:41:03 PM - I MUST SAY RANDY MUST BE GETTING A KICK AT ALL THIS. I THOUGHT WE WERE ALL HERE TO LET OTHER WOMAN KNOW WHAT HE HAS DONE TO ALL OF US.FOR I KNOW THAT HE STILL OWNS ME MONEY AND I JUST WISH HE WOULD START PAYING ME BACK.FOR HE ALWAYS TOLD ME NOT TO WORRY HE WOULD TAKE CARE OF ME AND PAY ME BACK.I BELIEVE IN HIM AND I KNOW THE REST OF YOU DID TOO.I JUST WANT ANY OTHER WOMAN THAT MEET HIM TO KNOW THAT HE IS A VERY NICE MAN BUT PLEASE DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY FOR HE WILL NOT PAY YOU BACK. THERE ALL WOMAN OUT THERE THAT HAS LENT HIM THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND EVEN THERE 401K. WATCH OUT FOR HIM IS ALL IM SAYING IN LESS YOU WANT TO END UP LIKE THE REST OF US.
4/3/2008 12:21:35 AM - The posters must agree to not post any personal identifying information such a social security, drivers license or passport numbers, date of birth, addresses, telephone/fax numbers, references to business or personal addresses or email addresses. If personally idenitifying information is posted, we will remove the identifying information upon notice.
4/3/2008 8:28:11 PM - Yea but he does not post it here for the world to see! He gave it voluntarily. Posting it here is not appropriate or allowed.
4/9/2008 7:40:30 PM - I would like to talk to you regarding this man, email me at journeythrulife@ the place that rhymes with ahh choo .com
4/10/2008 1:48:51 PM - I have known Randy for about 44 years now. He hasn’t changed one bit. NOT ONE BIT. He was doing the same thing as a teenager. Being a fellow MAN, I never felt what you women have been put thru but he has owed me $$$ for over 30 years. If I ever saw him near my sister I would have killed him, and that was in the 70s. I goggled him today and came up with pages after pages about my old friend. He stopped by a few months ago in Maryland but I wasn’t home. I would have liked to have gone riding with him. I know some ladies that he hurt as we were growing up and thank god they never hear from him. Good luck to all of you and all I can offer you is good luck if you think you can change him. Remember, I met him in kindergarten, he will never change!!!!
4/11/2008 8:29:07 AM - Did I read that Randy liked to tell every one that his DOB was Friday the 13th.
FYI.... January 13th 1959 was a Tuesday. He still kills me after all these years. Oh ya, he is not and has never been 6 foot tall.
4/11/2008 8:46:53 AM - When we were kids, (mid teens) Randy went to a park that rented horses by the hour. He was found many hrs later in an old country store, miles from the park, wearing cowboy boots, a poncho, sun glasses and a cowboy hat. The horse was tied to the wooden railing out front of the store.
He said that when he turned around, all he could see was the outline of the police officer in the light coming in the door. It was like a religious experience to him.
Now you can all add HORSE THIEF to your list.
We could never figure out what you women saw in him. He had more notches on his belt by the time he was 18 than I had in my life. Sorry about that symbolism. Many of the people here, that I have shown this forum to say that they are not surprised to see he has such a large anti-fan club. Friday the 13th, he cracks me up.
4/11/2008 10:05:46 AM - I would like to hear more about Randy from the gentleman that knew him 44 years, you seem like a good source of truth about him. It occurs to me that Randy is not really a very good or clever con man as he doesn't seem to borrow slash steal very large amounts, the largest I have heard anyone mention is $2000. Also he doesn't change his identity, so all of us connecting here are able to connect the dots. Thank God for the internet or this would not be possible to share notes and warn others.
4/11/2008 1:26:39 PM - oh ok, didn't know about the 64K, the motor coach, truck, harley. I see now he has scammed more than I thought. Has anyone gone on the record and filed charges against him?
4/11/2008 1:41:04 PM - Europe? Is that in Maryland? Ha Ha. I never thought of Randy as a con artist, more like a sponge. After thinking about it, it may not have been kindergarten, but it was first or second grade. Brookhaven elementary. I am still very close to people that he hurt. They would be amused about this web site but I don’t thing they would bother looking. We were in our teens then but it doesn’t sound like things have changed much. I remember when he started to pull away from us and become a bit of a loaner. It was in Jr high. We even went to his parents to let them know that we were worried about him. I guess that didn’t help much. You couldn’t get much closer as friend than Rand and I were but it was clear pretty early that he was going to take the road alone.
Be good you all, I would only recommend that you forgive him for your own benefit because he wouldn’t know what to do with your forgiveness.
Old FRIEND OF RANDY HOPPER.
4/11/2008 3:15:50 PM - First I want to state that not all of the women are man bashing. But some of the women are obviously very angry. Had I lost $64,000 to him I might be too, at least for a while. Second, I would like to personally thank his long time friend for sharing some stories of the real Randy and would love to hear more. I want to learn from this experience and encourage youread the Womansaver's article: http://www.womansavers.com/avoiding-dangerous-men.asp as it describes him to a tee. It also gives some advice on recognizing and avoiding dangerous men, but also states that this type of These are "men who not only do not ever change, but by virtue of what is wrong with them, cannot change, in or out of the relationship."
4/11/2008 7:50:50 PM - Fantasy Romantics have an active fantasy life. They embroider reality for the thrill of it. Often their imaginations take them on a wild gallop. Many times, they seek ideals rather than mates. someone we all know.WAKE UP VIV ~~~~~
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4/12/2008 6:25:51 AM - "Being beaten by his father, while his mother watched and didn't stop it wasn't what he needed" ARE YOU NUTS? His dad NEVER laid a hand on Randy! His mother would have killed his dad if he had. PLEASE.......
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4/12/2008 10:25:56 AM - Randy’s dad was the nicest man I knew. His mom was more likely to whack him on the back of his head than his dad. If anything, he was spoiled rotten.
His brother and all his sisters look too much like him to be a product of rape. Damn he still can crack me up after all these years. If there was a rape, it was his mom jumping his dad. He has two older sisters and one younger brother and sister. RAPE????
You must know by now that I will always welcome Randy to my home. It is just that I learned many many moons ago to watch him very closely while he is here.
Randys old friend.
4/14/2008 1:30:11 PM - Randy was a bit of loaner at 14 but he still lived at home. He was fed well and was very much loved by his family. I can’t remember if he ever went to jail. At least not while we hung out together. We got in trouble enough to have. He was once told he had to leave Maryland and not to come back before he was 21. It may have been 18 but I don’t think so. Either way, he came back a month early. He came to my graduation from high school. He dropped out a bit early. He had use of the PINTO almost whenever he wanted. I miss those days. He dipped his sisters feet in Indian ink and walked her up the wall. Now that was funny. That may have been the time his mom whacked him in the back of his head.
RANDY’S OLD FRIEND
4/15/2008 12:58:15 PM - "Yeah. We know. You think everything about Randy is funny. Seems you would condone anything he did and think it is funny."
I wouldn’t know, he never told me that he love me. Someone asked me to tell about life as I know it. It wasn’t all bad when I new him well. I'm not blaming you for Randy being the way he is. Or should I?
4/15/2008 1:05:49 PM - If he ever read this, he will know who I am. The biggest male chovinists in high school??? LOL
4/15/2008 1:16:18 PM - As you can tell, I do think he does, and is reading this forum. How do any of you know that a person commenting isnt Randy?
4/15/2008 1:20:56 PM - "Randys Old Friend, tell me who was his first love?"
Is this a test? I would say that I dont kiss and tell but,,, I have never kissed her. She was better than both of us.
4/16/2008 11:20:50 AM - Thanks for checking in Randy, typical sociopathic behavior to blame the victim.
4/16/2008 6:36:20 PM - THIS REALLY SOUND LIKE VIV, NOT RANDY~~~ (I think the bottom line to all the animosity is he failed to fulfill a dream that she had created about what she fantasized her life was supposed to be like.) I believe VIV worte the short story. And to let you know he had also ask me to marry him, and i have not moved on for I want him to take care of me as he told me he would. AND WHAT I MEAN BY THAT IS I WANT HIM TO PAY ME BACK ALL THE MONEY HE BORROW, AND SAID HE WOULD PAY BACK~~~~~ The woman in the essay was con like the rest of us, it is not her FAULT that randy con her.She fell in love with a man that ask for her hand in marriage. How can you put the blame on her. You have no HEART~~~ RANDY HAS YOUR HEART THAT IS HOW YOU CAN SAY ALL THAT CRAP YOU DID IN YOUR ESSAY.~~~
4/16/2008 7:04:15 PM - Why don't all of you either do something or get on with your life. My god, don't you have anything better to do than continue to harrass this poor man. You know he has to be sick to think he can treat people the way you say he treated you. If you have proof then find him and sue him, if not just know that you are smarter now and it will not happen to you again. But get on with your life. Life is too short to live stressed out about something that you cannot change. You made a mistake and gave someone money that you did not know very well. What did you think was going to happen. Wouldn't you continue to take as long as the someone was readily giving? My only advise is get over it and start a new life more aware of the world as it is today.
4/16/2008 9:38:03 PM - "harass this poor man"!?! Oh yes lets feel sorry for "poor Randy", hmmm someone still buys into his story. Poor Randy he won't be able to con these women anymore. Poor Randy he is going to have to come up with another way to meet women somewhere that there is no internet. Poor Randy no one is going to lend him any money. Poor Randy no one is going to co-sign any loans. Poor Randy he might have to reap the consequences of his actions. It seems to me that it didn't matter how long you knew him he still conned you, it has nothing to do with the length of time one knew him the result is still the same and a loan became a theft. And even if you didn't give him money, he still hurt you with lies, and made promises he didn't keep. So much so that you question if anything he ever said had even one bit of truth. And all these women did is love him and back up their feelings with trust.
4/16/2008 9:45:03 PM - I do have proof and I have sued him for the money he owes me. Unfortunatly, he is nowhere to be found. I have started a letter to his mother, and will print and send some of the stories about her and the family that he has told to most of us. To "Randys old friend", if you are for real, you would know most of all how he treats people, women especailly, you sound like a decent guy. To all who have made the comment to "move on" most of us have, we just want what is owed to us. Many of the women he has contacted to try to "get back together with" want nothing to do with him, he has burned that bridge and the saying "burn me once shame on you, burn me twice, shame on me" applies, most, unfortunatly not all, will not repeat our mistakes when it comes to this "man". And to those argueing about how tall he is, who the hell cares? Wanting to know about his first love, or in his case "mark" again, who the hell cares. To those that think we are "bashing poor Randy" I had to lol on that one, first of all he is only "poor" when he is not getting money from women and as far as bashing, no, not bashing, telling the truth, he is a manipulating, charming, lier, cheat, and I do believe he is a sociopath that does not know how to care about anyone but himself. How many of your birthdays did he remember? send a card? how about Christmas? when a family memeber died, did you get a call or card? Yea, I didn't think so. But you my dear(s) are suppose to remember him on his special or sad days. As far as the woman and I know who she is, who cosigned for loans for his toys, I STRONGLY encourage her to take him to court, unmarried "couples" do it all the time, you can repo the stuff, sell it and he will have to make up the difference, granted with someone elses money, but at least you would be clear of him and get a little something + the satisfaction of righting a wrong. I hope you take him to court, but first we must find him!
4/17/2008 4:28:17 PM - THIS WOULD BE A GREAT FICTION. MAYBE YOU SHOULD WRITE A BOOK. HA, YOU COULD RECOP YOUR MONEY THAT WAY.
4/17/2008 7:14:18 PM - I know of at least 10 woman he has con, has broken there hearts and took there money. All we want is the money he borrowed.
4/24/2008 5:56:08 AM - I just thought that it was doing no one any good, having me throw gas on your fires.
Randy’s old friend
4/25/2008 1:09:43 PM - Any property would have happened many years after we went our separate ways.
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5/2/2008 12:01:18 PM - If Randy does post those pictures that the women that trusted him gave him he will even more anger those women and demonstrate what a low life scum he really is. I doubt any of the women will deny they are imperfect, and not always wonderful, no one ever claimed to be. But if that is what he is threatening then blackmail and extortion charges will follow along with what ever internet crime that posting nude photos of women without their consent falls under. It will only further prove that he is a conning user and abuser for all the world to see, not a nice guy at all further publicly proving everthing these women have said about him and that he belongs on these sites. So have at it Randy and you'll end up in prison.
5/3/2008 10:13:47 AM - Or maybe she had money to loan him and was as loving, trusting and giving as the other women he said he loved.
5/4/2008 8:28:06 PM - I totally agree with the last person, she will be crying her heart out again.But this time she will not have her real friend's to cry to. For she let them down and turn on them, when Randy said he love her again. So I will tell you now. We told you so!
5/5/2008 10:05:13 AM - I don't think she can delete this as she would have done it already. I don't even see posts from her anymore so I think she was kicked off the site, at least from leaving comments.
5/5/2008 3:18:57 PM - No we don't know what they talk about, but we all have seen the pattern. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. He has told all of us he loved us at some time, how much truth could it hold now, if it was just something he said to all the women? Not much!
5/8/2008 7:08:27 AM - i would love to read her blogs. What website?
5/8/2008 8:16:35 AM - I totally do not agree with anything any of the blogs are saying. He is the most kind, loving, and honest person I have ever known. He has never borrowed money or even asked for any. Maybe you willingly give him gifts and when he wanted out of the relationships you blackmailed him to stay. I think this is mean and you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to degrade this wonderful man.
5/8/2008 11:04:52 AM - Who in their right mind would send him pictures like that in the first place. You women are really the crazy ones. I cannot imagine being so lonely that I would send someone I don't know pictures. Also sending him money or buying him items like motorcycles and trucks and RV's. All I can say is wake up ladies. There is enough media coverage about con men to know when you are being scammed. Maybe you should get off these single sights and find a man the conventional way...
5/16/2008 6:44:39 AM - Questions for all you Past Hopper Honeys... Tell if you will, just HOW you came to find out about all the rest of us. This should be an interesting way to show others HOW to keep warning. I was contacted by V, through yahoo 360, after she'd read my blog on Randy seeing someone else and lying to us both. S
5/18/2008 12:06:30 AM - V contacted me, funny how she found all of us. She must really love him.
5/18/2008 6:24:28 PM - I have never done so with anyone I met on a dating site before, I googled him twice. The first time I found nothing. But the suspicious feeling lingered and a couple of months later - although at the time I asked myself why I was googling him a second time I still did and the second time I found this site and the ladies who had been conned by him.
5/20/2008 11:40:38 AM - Fortunately for me no I was not conned, yes I know him, but cut off contact with him. - googled him twice
5/21/2008 2:22:58 PM - How I met Randy, thru a friend to do some handyman work for me, now a former friend as,unbeknownst to me, he was still "dating" her, I asked several times what he felt for her, she replied, well, I am not going to say what he said, but I was reasured there were not seeing eachother. Then I googled him and found one of the "others" and she was contacted by another "other" and so on and so on. Randys mom, if she does not know, she will soon, as I DO have a letter almost ready to send to her, with the judgement I won last week in small claims court. Yes, I filed a small claims against him and won, no surprise there. I realize it is a moral victory only, but a victory all the same. IF he were ever to get a real job, one that he has to pay income tax, or if he were ever to step foot back in AK, I could go about getting repaid. I just do not see that happening, so will just have to be happy with the moral victory and to let you all know, you CAN do it too!! Go get him girls!
5/21/2008 9:31:56 PM - Not real sure who S.H. is, I do know that I have encouraged everyone on here to take it to court I did try to get one of the others to join, however she was not ready and mine is done, I won!!
5/23/2008 3:45:44 PM - "V" and you tell us you don't come to this site any more, Sure sound like you on the last comment.Stand by your man.
5/24/2008 6:00:34 AM - I havent posted on here, because this site has caused pain and heartache to so many people. Maybe some have deserved it but there are others that have been open and honest about their feelings and in return they are called names, degraded in public, and receive threats.
However since a certain person in AK feels that she needs to keep whining about how much she has been hurt I felt that it was necessary that I post my thoughts on here. Get on with your life JT or at least go out and get a life.
As far as us being friends.. I doubt you know what friendship really means. You were never my friend. A friend would not have been so HATEFUL and have treated me the way you did.
You knew how I felt about Randy, you knew I was seeing him, you knew that I cared about him.. you lied to me over and over and then you treated me so hateful I ended up crying because I couldn’t understand why you were treating me in such a manner, especially after I had come over – and may I add - when NO ONE ELSE would help you paint your deck, I spent several hours, on more than one occasion to help you prime your desk so it could be painted. Then you had the audacity, after being so hateful towards me to offer me $20!! Was that guilt money?? Maybe I should take you to small claims court and try to get paid for all the time I spent helping you. $20 doesn’t even come close to what you owe me for the time I spent and then for you to be so hateful and rude towards me and then turn around and tell lies about me. If that is what you consider to be “friendship” then I want no part of you.
I told you Randy was married, I told you that I was having relations with Randy, and if you had been honest with me in the first place I would have told you other circumstances.. but instead you treated me like I was the offender and treated me so hatefully to the point I cried.. You lied to me, someone that was your friend, over and over, so what does that make you?? You have told lies to Randy and others, about me, and here you are calling Randy and other people names, calling them liars and cheaters?? Well you should look in the mirror before you start playing the victim.
By the way.. no one even told me there was a court case. I would have shown up and told the judge how it really was. I take it that you failed to mention the work that Randy did do for you, did you account for that? Did you happen to tell the judge about the emotional harm you caused to me and how you treated me? I doubt it because you just love playing the victim and want everyone to feel sorry for you. Grow up.. get over it.. and move on with your life.
It really hit a nerve that day when you were driving by trying to figure out where I lived.. after knowing you for over a year, you had never even been a friend enough to come to my apartment.. not until it suited your purpose. You couldn’t be honest with me, you treated me with hate, and yet you accuse others of treating you the same way and want to sue them. And you wonder why I refuse to have anything to do with you.. Don’t you DARE blame the loss of our so called “friendship” on Randy. You had a choice to be honest and open with me, and you weren’t. That was your choice so I feel that the consequenses are what you deserved.
I have noted that you have failed to mention all the illegal acts you have committed.. having someone elses mail forwarded (a federal offense), stealing the title to the RV, stalking people, lying in court, and I am sure there is much more. Are you still plotting to have Randy maimed and killed? Now I am sure that is illegal. How does that make you any better than anyone else? You have taken advantage of others when you had the chance. Why is Randy such a bad person when you have done just as much to hurt others? Maybe I should send a letter to your mother and tell her some of the things that you have done.
Stay away from me and where I work. I have already notified management and I have a witness that will testify that I did not try to talk to you when you came in the store that day, but you are the one that came back into the store to contact me. I want NOTHING to do with you, your lies, your deceit, your hatefulness and your illegal actions. You use people and hurt them when it suits you, but yet - you are so victimized. How many years are you going to go on with this poor me story.
I am not afraid to sign this - my name is Lynn. It is sad to see how many cowards that are posting on this site. Some of you insist on calling other women names, sending them rude and hateful messages, and then you wonder why you are so sad and miserable. What really saddens me is that most of you claim to be Christian but you are just as guilty as hurting other people. What gives you the right to come on here trying to crucify Randy, especially when most of you are just as guilty as what you are accusing Randy of doing.
5/24/2008 7:51:16 PM - Sounds to me that HIS Watch DOG needs to be tied out back and muzzled! Her slanderous remarks could land her Fat Stained Ass in the pound!(Her man's favorite thing to call her)... So Missy, realize I do not want your man, I have more pride in myself than to try to take a married man from his wife...I do not need someone who does not respect me... GOT IT? So lay off me.. and any money I have or don't have is really none of your business now is it? The dealings he has with me will be settled in due time...and no dearest, I am not forgiving him the loans, he made them.. he'll repay them. So get over yourself and ONCE AGAIN LEAVE ME OUT OF YOUR GAMES!
5/24/2008 9:28:44 PM - I was accused of being on this site and writing comments. so cent i was accused of it i though i would just write one. i have told people that i don't go here for i really don't want to get caught up in what is being said here about him.now i know some of it is true and some of it isn't. as for who i am im sure most of u know by now. Randy is a friend of mine and always will be. I do see the good side of him and he has always been nice to me. we meet when i need a friend. he was there for me as i have been there for him. and like some of u, yes i did lend him money,which some of it he has pay ed me back. i have no doubts that he will pay the rest in due time. we have had are bad times, but that is only because of one person. that person is now out of my life and i will have no more to do with this person.(His watch dog as i would call it) for this person likes to make trouble between us and others. (with there lies.) I know alot of u on this site wonder how i can still be a friend to him, and the answer is simply he is a friend and always will be. I don't want u to think that im like the person who likes to cause trouble for im not. this person lives in a fantasy world. I wrote this person an e-mail and about how i felt about them and this person though it was pretty mean of me. i told this person i was only telling them the truth of how i felt.this person put it on there yahoo 360 to share with all of u. I would have to say that this person is mean and not happy. to tell me thing that are not true and try to cause problems. im sure that i will here about this comment but as i said i was accused of being on here so im leaving one.
5/29/2008 9:19:05 PM - KEEP HIM ON THE TOP 10 GIRLS,YOUR DOING A GOOD JOB.NOW OTHER WOMAN CAN KNOW JUST WHAT KIND OF A CON HE IS.
6/4/2008 7:40:40 PM - Do you think he has change his ways? For there are no new woman with comments.
6/11/2008 8:37:42 AM - Thank God he isn't a Leopard. Anyone can change if they have the determination and will.
6/13/2008 8:59:20 AM - Randy Hopper is a saint in his eyes. He never does wrong, he never deceives, he has never lied. He has never told the truth would be the more truthful statement. He is making a perfect point on the type of man he is, a very good darn con artist. When the man has NO money, needs it for food, yet shows up decked in a leather jacket, chaps, and has the gumption to say he bought the chaps on sale at the Harley Store for $20 bucks, yeah, he's the idiot! He's been found out, and that is the ONLY reason he is reading and commenting... he needs his FIX of unsuspecting women once again, and doesn't want to run the risk of more finding out! Way to GO! Keep spreading the NEWS!!!!!
6/13/2008 12:29:04 PM - Randy, if you ever look at this site, a Private Detective is looking into Kathy Beatty's murder. He came by my house and talked to Donna for a long time but I wasn’t home. He said that he is talking to as many of us a possible. He wants to talk to you and Dennis. And to me too but he will have to call me or come back. If you look up KathyBeatty.com you will be able to see more.
Be good and stay safe. Randys old chum.
6/25/2008 11:18:43 AM - Anyone who has been with this man knows of his "dark side" that he is constantly warning you about. He will tell you to your face that he doesn't want anyone to see him when he is there, if he tells you of his extreme anger, is it a warning? or is he scared of what he does, he has said he blacks out, he has said he was in anger management classes in prison, then his wife has said that he's broken her arm, and that his mom paid for anger management classes, not sure if any of this is true, but it came from his and her mouth.
6/25/2008 5:28:10 PM - HE HAS SPOKEN OF THE DARK SIDE, AND I THOUGH USES THAT AS EXCUSES TO NOT TALK TO ME. AFTER LEARNING OF THE OTHER WOMEN, I THOUGHT IT WAS AN EXCUSE TO NOT TALK TO ME IF HE WAS BUSY ~CAMING~ WITH SOMEONE, BUT WHO KNOWS?
6/25/2008 7:52:58 PM - The wolf likes to bite too, how many of you were marked with his bite?
6/26/2008 4:48:47 AM - Randy has threatened me, to not push him to his dark side. Said that he has a hard time controling his anger. I've seen him mad, not sure it was as bad as he'd like anyone to believe, he didn't scare me, but then, I'd learned by then that he was mostly all lies. He would disappear for days, and he would say that he was in a dark place mentally, he was sparing me from having to see him in this state of mind. However, now I just look back and assumed it was HIS excuse to be with another woman, and of course he never wanted any of us to know about the others.
6/26/2008 5:57:45 PM - Randy-This is Steve, the Private Detective investigating the Kathy Beatty murder. I was one year behind you at Peary, in Kathy's class. I would like you to contact me. All the information you need is at www.kathybeatty.com. We are offering a $5,000.00 reward for information which leads to the identitiy of Kathy's assailant(s). I believe you may be able to help us with the information you have. Thanks!
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6/30/2008 11:44:30 AM - Since Advengingangel has been discovered to be Mrs Hopper, and posing as her husband as well, seems life has not been nearly as "stirred up"... Kinda miss the drama huh? Living a lie never pays, the truth will always win... think on that one! When you lie, you need to remember the names you've given yourself and stick by them. And now I suppose you want us all to believe YOU had no knowledge of all the "cons" Randy was pulling? Yeah right, what bridge was that you wanted to sell us?
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7/6/2008 8:48:40 PM - 6/26/2008 7:38:16 PM - Allison ~ thank you so much for the conversation tonight. It gave us everything we needed to prove that you and Randy do this together as a team and it is all premeditated.Our attorney's loved it said it was the final nail in your coffins! OK TO THIS PERSON THIS IS ALLISON I DON'T KNOW WHO YOU ARE AND I DON'T REALLY CARE, THE ONLY REASON I AM HERE IS BECAUSE OF A FRIEND WHO INFORMED ME OF THIS CRAP BEING SAID ABOUT ME. NO I HAVEN'T TALK TO ANYONE SINCE 2007 OCT. SO WHO EVER THIS IS, JUST LEAVE ME ALONE AND STOP SAYING ANYTHING ABOUT ME, I HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH THIS SO STOP SAY THESE THINGS....... 6/30/2008 11:44:30 AM - Since Advengingangel has been discovered to be Mrs Hopper, and posing as her husband as well, seems life has not been nearly as "stirred up"... Kinda miss the drama huh? Living a lie never pays, the truth will always win... think on that one! When you lie, you need to remember the names you've given yourself and stick by them. And now I suppose you want us all to believe YOU had no knowledge of all the "cons" Randy was pulling? Yeah right, what bridge was that you wanted to sell us? NOW TO THIS PERSON PROBABLY THE SAME ONE I AM NOT THIS SCREEN NAME HAVE ONLY ONE AND YOU PROBABLY ALREADY KNOW WHAT IT AS. THIS PROBLEM IS YOURS NOT MINE SO JUST LEAVE ME ALONE AND STOP SAYING THESE THINGS ABOUT ME. I NEVER DID ANYTHING TO ANY OF YOU.
7/7/2008 5:29:11 PM - How do you Trust someone when you have heard from so many that he's unfaithful to you? I hope he's found out and the law makes sure he is punished for the things he has done.
7/8/2008 11:24:41 AM - lol....................................................................
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7/8/2008 10:03:47 PM - Now that is funny!.............
7/9/2008 8:49:07 AM - Proof positive that he finds someone he believes he can con and he does his work. Thanks for sharing his way of getting to women. Sounds to me YOU know his pattern quiet well. What upstanding HONEST man would have taken advantage of such a woman? Ask yourself that?
~~~~~and here's what this is in reference to, in case YOU decide to delete the comment ONCE again. Slander will get your hands slapped! ~~~~~~NOT ALL OF US AGREE WITH WHAT IS BEING SAID ABOUT RANDY. HENSE THE FOLLOWING IS BEING REPOSTED FOR YOUR ENJOYMENT! I come back to this site every few days to see how the saga of Randy Hopper is unfolding. I have to say that it seems that the seeds of insanity sown by all this have taken root in one person. She has rowed her boat into deep water with no hope of land in sight. Day in and day out, her comments make it obvious that this has turned into more than a way for her to make women aware of who and what Randy Hopper is. This is a place of retaliation; a means for her to seek vengeance on a person she feels has harmed her. How did he harm her you would ask? She claims that he conned her into signing loans for various things such as a RV, truck and Harley Davidson motorcycles. How does one con someone into doing this? She claims with the promise of marriage. This seems quite farfetched, but maybe not to the irrational mind. I think the bottom line to all the animosity is he failed to fulfill a dream that she had created about what she fantasized her life was supposed to be like. She depended on him to be her happiness and when that didn’t happen, he then became her enemy. When someone is happy with their life: then no man or woman, for that matter, is going to become the very existence of their happiness. Their happiness existed before they came on the scene. When he failed to bring her the happiness that she felt was his obligation to fulfillment in her life, he then became her obsession. If he didn’t make her dream come true of totally happiness and bliss, then she will not allow him to have it with someone else. Therefore she will continue with the public forum; the public humiliation, because she herself feels he humiliated her, shattered her dream. However, more information regarding the so- called victim needs to brought into focus in this drama. This woman is not as emotionally strong as she makes herself out to be for the sake of being the mighty warrior of cause that she claims. No emotionally strong woman would enter into a physical relationship with a man that she met online within less than a month of meeting him. She knew only of him by talking with him online and via the phone. Her emotional attachment began with well thought out words, physical attraction, and promised intentions of this man. Within less than a month of their first words online he was having sex with her in her bed, in her home. Having never ever met before this. She brought this man into the sanctity of her own home. Now that is common sense and rational thinking. She knew nothing of him but what he told her online. Then within a few months she was co-signing loans for an RV, GMC truck, and not one, but three Harley Davidson motorcycles. Her defense is that he promised to be with her the rest of her life, marry her. Later she finds out the man is still married, has had several other past relationships of the same nature. He wasn’t anything he portrayed himself to be to her at all. He has used her, physically, emotionally, financially, and left her to wallow in her self- pity.Try as she might, she has no one to blame but herself for the condition her life is in. She really needs to do a self- examination as to why she allowed someone she barely knew to come into her life and make this mockery of her. This man’s only fault was that he was able to break through the shallow shell of a woman with low self- esteem by using flattery and promises she was starving to hear. Her fault lies within the fact that she was willing to do anything for the sake of a love that she had dreamed or read about in a fairy tale or romance novel. It’s time to move on or get counseling to be able to resolve the issues that she is so obviously trying to deal with. She needs to realize that there were others that were victims to. They have moved on, they somehow have managed to move past this and allowed their wounds to heal. If you are going to do all the things that have been threatened to this man, then its time to piss or get off the pot as it is said. Because this story line in this drama is getting old and needs to be done away with.
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8/2/2008 10:07:17 PM - SIGNS THAT YOU'RE DATING A LOSER,which perfectly describes this a-hole: 1. Rough Treatment "The Loser" will hurt you on purpose. If hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property EVEN ONCE, drop them. Losers often begin with behaviors that move you physically or hit the wall. 2. Quick Attachment and Expression "The Loser" has very shallow emotions and connections with others. One of the things that might attract you to "The Loser" is how quickly he or she says "I Love You" or wants to marry or commit to you. Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you'll hear that you're the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. You'll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. This is the "honeymoon phase" - where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Remember the business saying "If it's too good to be true it probably is (too good to be true)!" You may be so overwhelmed by this display of instant attraction, instant commitment, and instant planning for the future that you'll miss the major point - it doesn't make sense!! Normal, healthy individuals require a long process to develop a relationship because there is so much at stake. Healthy individuals will wait for a lot of information before offering a commitment - not three weeks. It's true that we can become infatuated with others quickly - but not make such unrealistic promises and have the future planned after three dates. The rapid warm-up is always a sign of shallow emotions which later cause "The Loser" to detach from you as quickly as they committed. "The Loser" typically wants to move in with you or marry you in less than four weeks or very early in the relationship. 3. Frightening Temper "The Loser" has a scary temper. If your boyfriend blows up and does dangerous things, like driving too fast because they're mad, breaking/throwing things, getting into fights, or threatening others - that temper will soon be turned in your direction. In the beginning of the relationship, you will be exposed to "witnessed violence" - fights with others, threats toward others, angry outbursts at others, etc. You will also hear of violence in their life. You will see and witness this temper - throwing things, yelling, cursing, driving fast, hitting the walls, and kicking things. That quickly serves to intimidate you and fear their potential for violence, although "The Loser" quickly assures you that they are angry at others or situations, not at you. At first, you will be assured that they will never direct the hostility and violence at you - but they are clearly letting you know that they have that ability and capability - and that it might come your way. Later, you fear challenging or confronting them - fearing that same temper and violence will be turned in your direction
8/2/2008 10:08:38 PM - 4. Killing Your Self-Confidence "The Loser" repeatedly puts you down. They constantly correct your slight mistakes, making you feel "on guard", unintelligent, and leaving you with the feeling that you are always doing something wrong. They tell you that you're too fat, too unattractive, or don't talk correctly or look well. This gradual chipping away at your confidence and self-esteem allows them to later treat you badly - as though you deserved it. In public, you will be "walking on eggshells" - always fearing you are doing or saying something that will later create a temper outburst or verbal argument. 5. Cutting Off Your Support In order to control someone completely, you must cut off their supportive friends - sometimes even their family. "The Loser" feels your friends and family might influence you or offer negative opinions about their behavior. "The Loser" begins by telling you these friends treat you badly, take advantage of you, and don't understand the special nature of the love you share with them. In some cases, if they can't get rid of your best same-sex friend, "The Loser" will claim he or she made a pass at them. If you talk to your friends or family, "The Loser" will punish you by asking multiple questions or making nasty accusations. Eventually, rather than face the verbal punishment, interrogation, and abuse, you'll develop the feeling that it's better not to talk to family and friends. You will withdraw from friends and family, prompting them to become upset with you. "The Loser" then tells you they are treating you badly again and you'd be better to keep your distance from them. Once you are isolated and alone, without support, their control over you can increase 6. The Mean and Sweet Cycle "The Loser" cycles from mean to sweet and back again. The cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean. You may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor. Suddenly, the next day they become sweet, doing all those little things they did when you started dating. You hang on, hoping each mean-then-sweet cycle is the last one. The other purpose of the mean cycle is to allow "The Loser" to say very nasty things about you or those you care about, again chipping away at your self-esteem and self-confidence. "The Loser" often apologizes but the damage to your self-esteem is already done - exactly as planned. 7. It's Always Your Fault "The Loser" blames you for their anger as well as any other behavior that is incorrect. When they cheat on you, yell at you, treat you badly, damage your property, or embarrass you publicly - it's somehow your fault. If you are ten minutes late for a date, it's your fault that the male loser drives 80 miles per hour, runs people off the road, and pouts the rest of the evening. "The Loser" tells you their anger and misbehavior would not have happened if you had not made some simple mistake, had loved them more, or had not questioned their behavior. "The Loser" never, repeat "never", takes personal responsibility for their behavior - it's always the fault of someone else. If they drive like a maniac and try to pull an innocent driver off the highway to assault them - it's actually the fault of the other driver (not his) as they didn't use a turn signal when they changed lanes. They give you the impression that you had it (anger, yelling, assault) coming and deserved the anger, violence, pouting, or physical display of aggression
8/2/2008 10:09:42 PM - 8. Breakup Panic "The Loser" panics at the idea of breaking up - unless it's totally their idea - then you're dropped like a hot rock. Abusive boyfriends often break down and cry, they plead, they promise to change, and they offer marriage/trips/gifts when you threaten ending the relationship. Both male and female losers may threaten suicide, threaten to return to old sweethearts (who feel lucky they're gone!), or threaten to quit their job and leave the area - as though you will be responsible for those decisions. "The Loser" offers a multitude of "deals" and halfway measures, like "Let's just date one more month!" They shower you with phone calls, often every five minutes, hoping that you will make an agreement or see them just to stop the telephone harassment. Some call your relatives, your friends, their friends, and anyone else they can think of - telling those people to call you and tell you how much they love you. Creative losers often create so much social pressure that the victim agrees to go back to the bad relationship rather than continue under the social pressure. Imagine trying to end a relationship and receiving tearful calls from all his or her relatives (they secretly hope you'll keep them so they don't have to), seeing a plea for your return in the newspaper or even on a local billboard, receiving flowers at work each day, or having them arrive at your place of work and offer you a wedding ring (male loser technique) or inform you that they might be pregnant (female loser technique) in front of your coworkers! Their reaction is emotionally intense, a behavior they use to keep you an emotional prisoner. If you go back to them, you actually fear a worse reaction if you threaten to leave again (making you a prisoner) and they later frequently recall the incident to you as further evidence of what a bad person you are. Remember, if your prize dog jumps the fence and escapes, if you get him back you build a higher fence. Once back in the grasp of "The Loser" - escape will be three times as difficult the next time. 9. No Outside Interests "The Loser" will encourage you to drop your hobbies, interests, and involvement with others. If you have an individual activity, they demand that they accompany you, making you feel miserable during the entire activity. The idea behind this is to prevent you from having fun or interests other than those which they totally control. 10. Paranoid Control "The Loser" will check up on you and keep track of where you are and who you are with. If you speak to a member of the opposite sex, you receive twenty questions about how you know them. If you don't answer their phone call, you are ask where you were, what were you doing, who you were talking to, etc. They will notice the type of mud on your car, question why you shop certain places, and question why you called a friend, why the friend called you, and so forth. Some losers follow you to the grocery, then later ask if you've been there in an attempt to catch you in a lie. In severe cases, they go through your mail, look through your purse/wallet, hit your redial on the phone when they arrive, or search through your garbage for evidence. High-tech losers may encourage you to make "private" calls to friends from their residence, calls that are being secretly taped for later reference. They may begin to tell you what to wear, what to listen to in music, and how to behave in public. Eventually, they tell you that you can not talk to certain friends or acquaintances, go certain places, or talk about certain issues in public. If no date is present on Friday night - "The Loser" will inform you that they will call you that night - sometime. That effectively keeps you home, awaiting the call, fearing the verbal abuse and questions you might receive if you weren't home for the call. This technique allows "The Loser" to do what they want socially, at the same time controlling your behavior from a distance or a local bar. 11. Public Embarrassment In an effort to keep you under control while in public, "The Loser" will lash out at you, call you names, or say cruel or embarrassing things about you in private or in front of people. When in public, you quickly learn that any opinion you express may cause them to verbally attack you, either at the time or later. If you stay with "The Loser" too long, you'll soon find yourself politely smiling, saying nothing, and holding on to their arm when in public. You'll also find yourself walking with your head down, fearful of seeing a friend who might speak to you and create an angry reaction in "The Loser
8/2/2008 10:10:48 PM - 12. It's Never Enough "The Loser" convinces you that you are never quite good enough. You don't say "I love you" enough, you don't stand close enough, you don't do enough for them after all their sacrifices, and your behavior always falls short of what is expected. This is another method of destroying your self-esteem and confidence. After months of this technique, they begin telling you how lucky you are to have them - somebody who tolerates someone so inadequate and worthless as you. 13. Entitlement "The Loser" has a tremendous sense of entitlement, the attitude that they have a perfectly logical right to do whatever they desire. If cut off in traffic, "The Loser" feels they have the right to run the other driver off the road, assault them, and endanger the lives of other drivers with their temper tantrum. Keep in mind, this same sense of entitlement will be used against you. If you disobey their desires or demands, or violate one of their rules, they feel they are entitled to punish you in any manner they see fit. 14. Your Friends and Family Dislike Him As the relationship continues, your friends and family will see what "The Loser" is doing to you. They will notice a change in your personality or your withdrawal. They will protest. "The Loser" will tell you they are jealous of the "special love" you have and then use their protest and opinion as further evidence that they are against you - not him. The mention of your family members or friends will spark an angry response from them - eventually placing you in the situation where you stop talking about those you care about, even your own family members. "The Loser" will be jealous and threatened by anyone you are close to - even your children. In some cases, your parents or brothers/sisters will not be allowed to visit your home. 15. Bad Stories People often let you know about their personality by the stories they tell about themselves. It's the old story about giving a person enough rope and they'll hang themselves. The stories a person tells informs us of how they see themselves, what they think is interesting, and what they think will impress you. A humorous individual will tell funny stories on himself. "The Loser" tells stories of violence, aggression, being insensitive to others, rejecting others, etc. They may tell you about past relationships and in every case, they assure you that they were treated horribly despite how wonderful they were to that person. They brag about their temper and outbursts because they don't see anything wrong with violence and actually take pride in the "I don't take nothing from nobody" attitude. People define themselves with their stories, much like a culture is described by it's folklore and legends. Listen to these stories - they tell you how you will eventually be treated and what's coming your way
8/2/2008 10:12:22 PM - 16. The Waitress Test It's been said that when dating, the way an individual treats a waitress or other neutral person of the opposite sex is the way they will treat you in six months. During the "honeymoon phase" of a relationship, you will be treated like a king or queen. However, during that time "The Loser" has not forgotten how he or she basically feels about the opposite sex. Waitresses, clerks, or other neutral individuals will be treated badly. If they are cheap - you'll never receive anything once the honeymoon is over. If they whine, complain, criticize, and torment - that's how they'll treat you in six months. A mentally healthy person is consistent, they treat almost all people the same way all the time. If you find yourself dating a man who treats you like a queen and other females like dirt - hit the road. 17. The Reputation As mentioned, mentally healthy individuals are consistent in their personality and their behavior. "The Loser" may have two distinct reputations - a group of individuals who will give you glowing reports and a group that will warn you that they are serious trouble. If you ask ten people about a new restaurant - five say it's wonderful and five say it's a hog pit - you clearly understand that there's some risk involved in eating there. "The Loser" may actually brag about their reputation as a "butt kicker", "womanizer", "hot temper" or "being crazy". They may tell you stories where other's have called them crazy or suggested that they receive professional help. Pay attention to the reputation. Reputation is the public perception of an individual's behavior. If the reputation has two sides, good and bad, your risk is high. You will be dealing with the bad side once the honeymoon is over in the relationship. With severe behavior problems, "The Loser" will be found to have almost no friends, just acquaintances. Emotionally healthy and moral individuals will not tolerate friendships with losers that treat others so badly. If you find yourself disliking the friends of "The Loser", it's because they operate the same way he or she does and you can see it in them. 18. Walking on Eggshells As a relationship with "The Loser" continues, you will gradually be exposed to verbal intimidation, temper tantrums, lengthy interrogations about trivial matters, violence/threats directed at others but witnessed by you, paranoid preoccupation with your activities, and a variety of put-downs on your character. You will quickly find yourself "walking on eggshells" in their presence - fearful to bring up topics, fearful to mention that you spoke to or saw a friend, and fearful to question or criticize the behavior of "The Loser". Instead of experiencing the warmth and comfort of love, you will be constantly on edge, tense when talking to others (they might say something that you'll have to explain later), and fearful that you'll see someone you'll have to greet in public. Dates and times together will be more comfortable and less threatening when totally alone - exactly what "The Loser" wants - no interference with their control or dominance.
8/2/2008 10:13:43 PM - 19. Discounted Feelings/Opinions "The Loser" is so self-involved and self-worshiping that the feelings and opinions of others are considered worthless. As the relationship continues and you begin to question what you are feeling or seeing in their behavior, you will be told that your feelings and opinions don't make sense, they're silly, and that you are emotionally disturbed to even think of such things. "The Loser" has no interest in your opinion or your feelings - but they will be disturbed and upset that you dare question their behavior. "The Loser" is extremely hostile toward criticism and often reacts with anger or rage when their behavior is questioned. 20. They Make You "Crazy" "The Loser" operates in such a damaging way that you find yourself doing "crazy" things in self-defense. If "The Loser" is scheduled to arrive at 8:00 pm - you call Time & Temperature to cover the redial, check your garbage for anything that might get you in trouble, and call your family and friends to tell them not to call you that night. You warn family/friends not to bring up certain topics, avoid locations in the community where you might see co-workers or friends, and not speak to others for fear of the 20 questions. You become paranoid as well - being careful what you wear and say. Nonviolent males find themselves in physical fights with female losers. Nonviolent females find themselves yelling and screaming when they can no longer take the verbal abuse or intimidation. In emotional and physical self-defense, we behave differently and oddly. While we think we are "going crazy" - it's important to remember that there is no such thing as "normal behavior" in a combat situation. Rest assured that your behavior will return to normal if you detach from "The Loser" before permanent psychological damage is done. **********************I promise you that he is all this************************, I just couldn't believe it myself how to the exact these signs describe him and wished I had the opportunity to have had read these signs in him before and paid attention because all of the red flags are there ladies. But now I'm wiser thanks to this experience and will ever again be with another man like him now that I know the warning signs from experience and literature. We women stupidly blind ourselves with "love" with the "wrong" man and tolerate so much BS from them and this is our major "error" that's why these kind of men keep existing, if we all put a stop to them by rejecting them early before it's too late then we can accomplish something great as to having these kind of men not being what they are. Let's stick together and fight these "losers". Take care Ladies and hope my posting of these signs will help you as it's helping me from now on. Please I don't want for you to go through what I did and others have
8/2/2008 10:15:20 PM - How to Spot a Dangerous Man BEFORE You Get Involved ~ Does not respect your need for alone time ~ Pushes to see you even when you don’t want to ~ Discourages your outside interests, family, friends, and career relationships ~ Tries to isolate you from other relationships ~ Asks you to do things you are uncomfortable doing (ie, lying, loaning him money, sex, etc.) ~ Uses drugs or uses alcohol too frequently or abundantly ~ Frequent unemployment which he claims is never his fault ~ Frequent job changes due to being fired or dismissed that he explains away ~ Wants to control your hair, dress, behavior, friends, or job ~ Wants you to quit or change jobs/friends/relationships for him because HE is uncomfortable with them ~ Has had multiple unsuccessful relationships ~ Known by others that he lies ~ You find out information you should have known about him ~ Physically, emotionally, verbally, or sexually ‘rough’ or ‘weird’ ~ Too charming—has all the right lines and appears excessively smooth ~ History or previous diagnosis of mental illness especially: * Untreated depression * Un-medicated bipolar (previously manic depression) * Conduct Disorder or Anti-Social Personality Disorder * Schizophrenia * Narcissistic or Borderline Personality Disorder * Unsuccessful treatment of substance abuse or PTSD ~ Has a criminal record of which these should be noteworthy: * Recurrent speeding violations * DUI * Assault on a female * Battery of any kind * Other assaults * Any sexual offense * Forgery/bad checks * Dead-beat dad issues ~ He is inflexible and cannot change to meet a spontaneous request ~ The rules are for everyone else except him ~ Has problems with authority figure
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8/15/2008 10:32:08 AM - You want to know why you have so much anger inside? This is the TRUTH, are you ready for the answer? The reason is, you are not happy with yourself and the things that you do. You are angry at the person you have become. You are disappointed in yourself. If you had any self worth at all, you would not be doing the things that you do. At this point, I'm not sure counseling, God, or any one person in this world can help you. You have to be the man you say you are, and help yourself! Until you do, you will always have this anger you can't control. You will continue to lose people who would give their last breath so you could live. People who suffer so you don't have to. God will never bless you with good things as long as you continue on this destructive path you have set for yourself. It is understandable how hard it can be to live with someone you hate, yourself! It doesn't matter where you go on this earth. You cannot escape yourself. May God give you the strength to be the person you have the potential to be. (Don't forget to add a star below so we know you read this).
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9/6/2008 4:09:53 PM - Hey teach, GRAMMAR, not grammor, remember 4 fingers back at YOU!
11/24/2008 1:26:55 PM - I have read many books, participated in blogs and message boards, have corresponded with professionals and have had therapy with a wonderful doctor who understands sociopathy and personality disorders. Still there is no logic and there is no closure. It must be found through realizing:
1. I was targeted at a vulnerable time.
2. I was targeted because of the good qualities about me.
3. He is not a good man. He is disordered and will never heal or improve.
4. He did this to others and will continue to do this.
5. My good standards will not be lowered again and I have a zero tolerance for what I have learned is the definition of abuse.
6. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME.
Abuse is not just verbal or physical. It comes in many forms. At a minimum I require respect, honesty, integrity and it must be displayed by way of actions, not words. This man was not able to follow through on anything. His actions were almost never consistent with his words. He is simply a fake, a phony, a con man, who conned me into giving him my heart, my love and almost my mind and soul. Not one thing was real about him, not his body, or his being. I don’t think I will ever forgive him and I certainly will never forget. I have, however, forgiven myself, as I have learned that this can happen to ANYONE. None of us is free from the grasp of the sociopath.
(Forgiving yourself for believing in him is tough, but it can be done)
12/17/2008 10:08:40 PM - ravenswind27 on pof... check him out, says he's in lenoir nc now... 30 minutes from the statesville area, chances are he is still in harmony.. all is well! check out the pictures, the captions are worth a good laugh! Non smoker with a cigarette in his hand...but that's our Babe!
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12/19/2008 2:55:57 PM - darkraven27 on pof has disappeared. poof
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12/19/2008 8:48:31 PM - WRONG, it is there, look for Darkraven27 you'll find it
12/21/2008 8:52:31 PM - The Darkraven27 account has been deleted.
12/21/2008 8:56:17 PM - http://www.plentyoffish.com/basicusersearch.aspx
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1/6/2009 1:34:03 AM - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vf7P2zKu-Yk&feature=related
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2/5/2009 6:54:42 PM - FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
2/5/2009 6:55:25 PM - IF HIS MOUTH IS OPENING AND MOVING, HE''S LYING!
2/5/2009 6:55:41 PM - FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
2/5/2009 6:56:20 PM - HE CONNED ME TOO, AND THIS WOMAN AND THIS ONE AND THAT ONE OVER THERE TO NAME A FEW.
2/5/2009 6:56:38 PM - FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
2/5/2009 6:57:37 PM - WOW 2000 FROM THIS ONE, 5000 FROM THAT ONE, 10000 FROM HER, AND HOW MUCH MORE? GUESS IT WAS A GOOD GAME HE HAD GOING!
2/5/2009 6:58:44 PM - FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
2/5/2009 6:59:46 PM - AWWW BUT HE''S STILL MARRIED, STILL WITH HIS WIFE OF OVER 20 YEARS, BUT YOU KNOW ON PROFILES HE ALWAYS PUTS SINGLE, DIVORCED, WHY NOT JUST PUT THAT HE HAS AN OPEN MARRIAGE AND NOT DECIEVE?
2/5/2009 7:01:17 PM - MAYBE PUT A SWINGER, HEY I DID FIND A PROFILE HE HAD IN AK THAT STATED THAT, MAYBE THAT APPROACH DIDN''T WORK SO WELL WOOING WOMEN INTO THAT FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY? HE NEEDS SECURITY, ALRIGHT
2/5/2009 7:01:51 PM - FOR YEARS THIS MAN WOOED ME INTO A FALSE SENSE OF SECURITY AND LOVE. CONNING ME OUT OF $2000 WITH HIS TALES OF WOE AND DESPAIR. AFTER BEING TOLD OVER AND OVER THAT HE WAS UNMARRIED WITH NO CHILDREN.... I FIND OUT HE HAS BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20 YEARS AND HAS BEEN SCAMMING AND CONNING OTHER WOMEN OVER THE YEARS IN DIFFERENT STATES ALSO. ALASKA, NORTH CAROLINA, VIRGINIA, AND PENNSYLVANIA, AND GEORGIA TO NAME A FEW. THIS MAN IS A DESPICABLE HUMAN BEING WHO WILL PLAY ON YOUR INSECURITES FOR HIS OWN GAIN.
2/5/2009 7:02:53 PM - IF YOU DON''T TRY TO STOP HIS DESPICABLE BEHAVIOR, YOU MUST THINK IT''S OKAY TO ''STEAL'' UNDER THE PRETENSE OF LOANS?
2/5/2009 7:09:49 PM - HE DOESN''T FEEL BADLY ABOUT THIS, IF SO HE''D BE TRYING TO TALK TO THE WOMEN CALMLY WIHTOUT CALLING THEM NAMES NONE OF THEM DESERVE TO BE CALLED. HE''D NOT BE ABLE TO LOOK THEM IN THE EYES WITHOUT FEELING THE PAIN HE HAS CAUSED. WHAT YOU SEEM TO NOT BE ABLE TO UNDERSTAND IS, HE WAS ENJOYING TAKING MONEY FROM WOMEN, WHILE THEY STRUGGLED TO PAY THEIR BILLS... I HEARD ONE POOR SOUL HAD ONLY CRACKERS TO EAT, BECAUSE HE TOOK HER MONEY AND HE KNEW SHE DIDN''T HAVE MUCH, BUT DID THAT MATTER?
NOOOOO SHE WAS A ''SAINT'' TO SACRIFICE HER FOOD SO HE COULD PLAY XBOX GAMES, PAY FOR DATING SITES, RIDE HIS HARLEY, BUY HIS LEATHERS. AWWWW SAD, SOUL HE IS!
2/6/2009 1:41:28 PM - and the poor lady who was eating crackers is still talking to him, dumb fool she is, thinking she is going to be with him..........dream on he's going to jail
2/10/2009 9:18:30 AM - For any of you who have been down the Randy Hopper Highway, I feel you can relate to the article below. I did. Thank each of you for all your help in allowing me to know I was not on this highway alone.
2/10/2009 9:18:57 AM - Are We There Yet? Tuesday, 10 February 2009 @ 5:00am • My Weblog By OxDrover I remember when I was a little kid, driving with my parents, sitting in the back seat sans seatbelt there were no such things in those days and leaning over the front seat, repeatedly asking my parents, “Are we there yet?” or “How long til we get there?” Of course there had been no reasonable way for my parents to convey to me “how long” since I didn’t tell time when I was four, so there was no use saying “one hour” because I wouldn’t be able to comprehend what an “hour” was. Time is sort of fluid anyway, relative to what is going on. If you are bored, an hour is forever. If you are interested in something, an hour is very short. To a bored child in the back seat of a car, the trip seems to take forever with no end in sight. The trip is a price to be paid for arriving at the destination. When I started the journey toward Healing from my prior experiences with the psychopaths in my life and family, I was in pain. I wanted the journey to be over I wanted to get to being healed quickly. The journey itself didn’t interest me any more than the passing countryside had interested me when I was riding in the back seat of my parents’ car. I was tired of that trip before it even started. I wanted to be there!
2/10/2009 9:19:21 AM - Unlike the smooth ride in the backseat of my parents’ car, which required no effort on my part, this journey to Healing required me to steer and power the vehicle. I had to make sure I didn’t run out of fuel, and that the equipment was in order. Some days my tires went flat and I had to get out and fix them. Other days my emotional radiator boiled over and I sat feeling helpless on the side of the road with smoke boiling out from under my hood. Some days I was simply out of gas with no refueling station anywhere in sight as far as the eye could see. The road to Healing was a terrible road, with huge potholes that seemed to appear out of nowhere, and sometimes my wheels would hit these potholes. My tires would sink to the axle and I would have to get out and dig and dig until I could get enough dirt pushed under them to get the car out. Other times, the road would be slimed with mud and I would skid into the ditches of despair. From time to time I would see someone else along the road, and occasionally someone would come along when I needed help the most and offer me a very welcome hand.
2/10/2009 9:19:43 AM - I became so tired from this journey that I just wondered if I would ever get there. What I really wanted was someone to come along and offer me a magic carpet so I could just fly over all this terrible barren terrain and I could just get there to Healing! Often times the signposts along the road were unclear and I wasn’t even sure I was even on the right road. Other times, some prankster must have turned the signs around because I would take a turn, certain I was reading the sign correctly, and wind up down a dead end trail with barely enough room to turn my vehicle around. At times like these I felt so utterly alone and stupid for not being more careful and allowing myself to get off the correct road. One day when I felt that I just couldn’t go on any longer, that it was too much work to keep my old vehicle going with broken springs that seemed to make each rut, each pot hole, and each rock in the road jar my back teeth loose, I discovered I was no longer on the road alone. I looked around me and I saw other people on the road. Where had they come from? Had they been there before and I was too self absorbed, too weighted down with my own woes, to even notice them? I also noticed that some of these people were riding bicycles, some were on scooters, some were walking. Some of the others on the road were on crutches, or in wheel chairs, and some of these people were even crawling.
2/10/2009 9:20:06 AM - I looked around at these people and then back at my old vehicle with its rusting fenders, threadbare tires and leaking radiator, but I realized that it was not so “bad” after all. It might not have been a Cadillac, but I wasn’t having to walk or crawl. I realized there were others who were less fortunate than me. I felt shame in myself for being so self absorbed, for not realizing that I didn’t have it “so bad” after all. I recited the old saying about, “I cried because I had no shoes, until I saw a man who had no feet.” I thanked God for my old vehicle. As I restarted my journey I became acquainted with some of my fellow travelers, and we shared our stories, our pains, and our insights. When we would come to a crossroads that seemed confusing, we would help each other, and if one fell down, the others reached out to him to help him up. Having company on the journey made it seem less lonely. Though there was no magic carpet there to whisk me away to the destination of Healing, it was comforting to have company. Sometimes I would pause and rest a while with a fellow traveler. As we traveled down the road we would meet new travelers, freshly injured, also seeking Healing. Those of us on the road would call to them to join us in the journey, comforting and supporting each other on the way. Sometimes the newly injured would join us, but other times, those bleeding injured souls would wander off the road or fall in to the abyss and no matter how we would call to them, they would not answer and sorrowfully, we would have to move on down the road toward Healing without them.
2/10/2009 9:20:30 AM - No matter how far I traveled it never seemed I was any nearer to Healing than before. As I traveled the road, it became smoother and I was becoming stronger from my struggles to climb the hills, cover the hurdles, get out of the pot holes, but I never saw a sign that said “how long ’til we get there.” I never saw a sign that said, “Healing 50 miles.” I began to wonder if I would ever arrive at Healing. I even asked some of my fellow travelers, “Are we there yet? How long ’til we get there?” No one could answer me. No one could tell me “how long before we get there?” As I traveled and the road became smoother, and there were even stretches of pavement that I could roll across without the jarring rocks and ruts, and I began to enjoy the journey. I would gaze off into the distance and see mountains and vistas of incredible beauty that filled my heart with joy just to behold. I had passed out of the terrible salt flats of hell and reached a place where there was beauty and joy, and the road was smoother. Even my old vehicle started to run better and give me less trouble, and I found refueling stations on a regular basis and quit forgetting to check the oil and tire pressure, so I didn’t have flats and other problems so often any more. Along the road I had also seen some changes and growth in my traveling partners. They were becoming stronger and starting to sing as they walked or rode along. Even some of those in wheel chairs were beginning to walk again, and some that had used crutches had thrown them away and were walking straight and strong. It made me happy to see my new friends recovering and getting better and stronger it made me feel good to feel stronger myself.
2/10/2009 9:20:56 AM - At times my new friends and I would talk about our former lives before we started on the Healing road, and sometimes we even missed some of those people we had had to leave behind. Unkind people who had wounded us, yet we loved and missed, but even those memories of our former lives started to change as we sang along the road toward Healing. We started to make new plans and put together new lives. I would reach milestones from time to time, the milestone of setting boundaries, another one for forgiveness and a milestone for honesty. As I passed each milestone I felt renewed strength and stamina, but I wondered, “When will I get to Healing? When will I be there?” Then I came to a milestone that said, “Healing is a journey, not a destination.” I realized that there was no end to the Healing Road it would go on for the rest of my life. It isn’t about getting to some place and being there it is about enjoying the journey. It is about growth and learning and companionship with others on the same road. It is about comforting others who have fallen, as there were those that comforted you when you fell. It is the shared experiences of seeing the sun shining on the distant mountains, or reassuring each other during a storm. Healing is about life—living life, experiencing life, and sharing life.
2/10/2009 9:22:04 AM - Unfortunately part of the reason I''''ve made so many wrong turns is because he manages to lie so well. He has tried to make those of us that he''''s abused both emotionally and verbally believe that he loves us. Maybe in HIS own way he does, but then the next breath he takes is filled with more lies. So how do you truly know that he is capable of love? I have forgiven him, but will never forget the things he''''s said about me. He knows the truth, and he knows in his heart that NOT ONE OF US did this to him. He has brought this upon himself. He will learn to accept this, or he will continue to fight the demons within him that haunt him. Randy Please, go and get help... You know all of us couldn''''t be wrong. God forgives, even when you don''t believe you deserve it, and so will we, but first you have to forgive yourself. Never doubt that you aren''t in our prayers, after all we totally did love you. We never lied to you about that.
2/10/2009 9:23:54 AM - The road to recovery hasn''t been easy for us, and I doubt seriously it will be easy for anyone who believed in you...but you have to try. Try to be the man that you so wanted us to believe you to be, you asked us to believe in you, we tried, now it''s time for you to believe in yourself
2/11/2009 12:26:24 PM - When someone lies and keeps on lying about his intentions, why do we allow it? We can not continue to listen to his half truths and believe the man will change? Maybe he can, or maybe he can''''t, but he has to WANT to GROW UP and be a MAN. Right now all he''''s shown me is that he wants everything his way. He is not being responsible. Responsible MEN, Randy Hopper pay their bills and don''''t make loans they can not fulfill.
2/11/2009 12:26:47 PM - READ THIS AND READ IT CLOSELY......JUST MAYBE YOU''''LL SEE WHAT OR WHY HE IS GETTING BY WITH WHAT HE DOES. Sociopaths, cluster B personality disorders and psychopathy Friday, 6 February 2009 @ 11:56am • My Weblog A sociopath is someone who has a pervasive and persistent disregard for the rights and feelings of others. This disregard is manifested in the antisocial behavior sociopaths show. While we usually think of antisocial behavior as criminal, not all antisocial acts are illegal. A person who slips up once is not a sociopath. Sociopathy is a lifestyle.
2/11/2009 12:27:17 PM - Since humans are designed to live in society, a healthy personality has prosocial inclinations. Therefore, people who are pervasively antisocial are disordered in the sense that they are not the norm thank God. Although antisocial behaviors are observable actions like lying, stealing and assault, there are personality traits that cause antisocial behavior. It should come as no surprise that people who have a sense of entitlement, overrate their own greatness and have poor selfcontrol are more likely to hurt others and show pervasive antisocial behavior.
2/11/2009 12:27:47 PM - The American Psychiatric Association has defined a group of personality disorders it calls “cluster B”. According to a recent paper* by German psychiatrist, Christian Huchzermeier, M.D., “ The cluster includes disturbances of personality that go hand in hand with emotional dysregulation phenomena, a tendency towards aggressive—impulsive loss of control, egoistic exploitation of interpersonal relationships, and a tendency to overestimate one’s own importance.”
2/11/2009 12:28:19 PM - The disorders of “cluster B” go together because what underlies them is a disturbance in three developmentally acquired abilities I have called The Inner Triangle. These abilities are:
2/11/2009 12:28:52 PM - Ability to Love Impulse Control Moral Reasoning
2/11/2009 12:29:17 PM - These abilities that a child gains during development are a triangle because the development of each depends on the other two. A child begins to acquire ability to love in the first year of life, impulse control begins in the second year of life. At two years of age there is already a link between ability to love and impulse control. Children with the best impulse control also are the most loving/empathetic. Moral reasoning begins in the third year of life and its development depends on a loving nature and impulse control. Similarly the most moral kids are also the most loving and selfcontrolled.
2/11/2009 12:29:43 PM - ''''''''''''''''''''I think of the cluster B disorders as different manifestations of damage to the inner triangle. I think of sociopaths as individuals who completely lack ability to love and have impaired impulse control and moral reasoning.''''''''''''''''''''
2/11/2009 12:30:09 PM - Given the Inner Triangle, it should come as no surprise that it can be difficult to find people who have only one cluster B personality disorder. For that reason individuals with antisocial personality, narcissistic personality, borderline personality and histrionic personality often have symptoms of the other disorders. If someone gets a diagnosis of only one of these, it doesn’t mean that the person doesn’t also have one or all of the others. The person making the diagnosis simply thought that the one chosen best described the person. You should know there is a gender bias in diagnosis such that women are often labeled “borderline.” These women can also be sociopaths who leave a trail of victimized friends, lovers and children in their wakes.
2/11/2009 12:30:48 PM - A recent study reported in Behavioral Science and the Law, “The Relationship Between DSMIV Cluster B Personality Disorders and Psychopathy According to Hare’s Criteria: Clarification and Resolution of Previous Contradictions” examines the relationship between psychopathic personality traits as defined by the screening version of the PCL and Cluster B personality disorders. The authors of this study were careful to examine people who had only one cluster B disorder. They found psychopathy to be associated with all cluster B disorders.
2/11/2009 12:31:15 PM - The authors conclude: “One clinical implication of our results, nevertheless, is that in cases where a cluster B personality disorder is diagnosed a high psychopathy value is to be expected, especially where antisocial, borderline or narcissistic personality disorder is involved. The PCL score is a better predictor of subsequent events, such as problems during criminal custody or a relapse into delinquency, than a diagnosis of a DSMIV personality disorder, especially in forensic populations therefore, an additional investigation with the PCL should be carried out, if a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed.”
2/11/2009 12:31:45 PM - It is important for Lovefraud readers to be aware of this study especially if there is a divorce/custody proceeding or a cluster B personality disorder has been diagnosed. Many people might think that if the partner has been “diagnosed borderline” or “diagnosed narcissistic” that means the partner is not a psychopath/sociopath. This study suggests otherwise. IF YOU ARE INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS THESE YOU HAVE TO CONSIDER THEIR HARMFUL BEHAVIOR AS AN INDICATION OF PSYCHOPATHY/SOCIOPATHY. There are some people with cluster B, histrionic, borderline and narcissistic disorders who are not highly antisocial. ''''''''''''''''''''But if the person is lying, cheating and manipulating, that is antisocial behavior.'''''''''''''''''''' This behavior in the context of any cluster B means the person is potentially very dangerous.
2/11/2009 12:32:10 PM - As the authors state: “Screening for PCLbased psychopathy can also be important for general psychiatric patients with a DSMIV personality disorder, so that potential difficulties in the course of their treatment can be anticipated and this comorbidity can be targeted in the planning of therapy. Patients with both a DSMIV personality disorder and PCLbased psychopathy can exhibit behavior that is particularly dangerous to therapy Stafford & Cornell, 2003.”
2/11/2009 12:32:41 PM - If you have been diagnosed with borderline personality and reading this frightens you, I am sorry. You can improve by working on your inner triangle. Talk to your therapist about DBT a treatment that is very effective in improving the state of the Inner Triangle in people who are motivated to do it. *The reference for the paper discussed is Behav. Sci. Law 25: 901–911 2007.
2/11/2009 12:33:05 PM - He is perfectly happy with his life as he knows it, after all, he woos women into a false sense of security and tells them how special they are to him. That he has always cared for them, no matter what he''''s done in the past, he only asks that you forgive him. He is trying to do better, he''''s in therapy, BUT IF HE DOESN''''T WANT TO GET BETTER HE WON''''T... after all, he''''s getting money, or is managing to get the things he wants by the goodness of others. IF you allow him to keep coming back and playing on your mercies, then why should he stop? He won''''t. He''''ll laugh at all of us for once again being sucker punched into believing his sick lies.
2/11/2009 12:34:36 PM - And Kudos to Vivian for bringing to our attention this disorder over a year and a half ago. Makes me wonder if she wasn''t totally familiar with this from the start. Kudos to her also for setting up this site and making sure we were all aware of it and encouraging us to post to it. High 5 V!
2/11/2009 3:26:20 PM - who ever stated hi5 to v, did you know she stills talk to him, and tells him everything, sad isn''t it the one who started this, still wants to be wth him
2/11/2009 6:22:40 PM - Disillusional, bored with the postings, YET She can't keep herself away. She needs a life.
2/11/2009 6:23:31 PM - I think the ^5 person was being sarcastic. Everyone knows Vivian.
2/11/2009 6:24:40 PM - IF She was a friend, a true friend then she''d discourage him treating people the way he has. But then only true friends will call you out when you are wrong. Right?
2/11/2009 6:26:57 PM - So what does that tell all of us about the friendship? Could it be that she isn''t the best friend he could have ever had after all? She did set all this up, she was the one who started the ball rolling, and when it finally snowballed, she turn tail and ran.
2/11/2009 6:29:07 PM - Yes she tells him everything, like he isn''t capable of reading for himself. But then swears she never comes to these sites, they are silly, childish, and we should all grow up. These are all high school games. Clearing throat, tell another one V. We laugh at you too. Just let it be if you don''t like reading the truth.
2/11/2009 6:29:43 PM - STOP DROPPING BY AND COMPLAINING!
2/12/2009 10:47:02 AM - gee Randy come on tell us, we all no v is helping you, can she really??? be a man and own up for what you have been doing, oops forgot you hide when the going gets tough and cry, and cry, because you didn''t get your own way, where''s your dark side now
2/12/2009 2:06:33 PM - come on randy show us that famous dark side, oh it must be a myth, along with all the other lies
2/12/2009 3:40:18 PM - I would much rather read chapters of James Patterson than chapters of Love fraud. James Patterson deals in things that could and do happen. Love fraud is about stupid people who are naieve to believe everything they are told, and then to keep repeating themselves over and over and over and over and over and over again. Whether they are right or not. yawn...... boring. Vivian Cummings
2/12/2009 3:41:05 PM - NAIVE? Oh my dear, you are quiet wrong there. The postings are shared so that others who don''''t have their head so far up his ass, can see how and exactly what Randy does.
2/12/2009 3:41:59 PM - There are sometimes that NONfiction is necessary to read, but then when you''''ve never lived in a real world only a fantasy one, you would be bored! Oh Stupid people? Most of these articles are written by doctors and such, but then that would be like a low flying airplane, right over YOUR head.
2/12/2009 3:42:46 PM - And you talk about believing everything that someone is told? Look in the mirror, make sure it''''s full length too, so you can see all of yourself.
2/12/2009 3:43:29 PM - Tell it like it is V... you KNOW how he is. I have conversations where you''''ve said that you KNOW what he does, and YOU know he lies. So you are not doing YOUR FRIEND any justice by allowing him to keep on this downward spiral. Will you stop telling him he''''s doing a great job and you are proud of him stealing and cheating when he finally can''''t handle it any more and puts a GUN TO HIS HEAD? True friends are HONEST to each other, they don''''t condone actions that will hurt others or land them in jail.
2/12/2009 3:44:47 PM - OR could it be that YOU see yourself in the lovefraud posting? Maybe you realize the truth and you are trying desperately to hide it?
2/12/2009 3:45:35 PM - You know that he''''s wrong, you have admitted it time and time again, but as the sociopath believes he''''s entitled to anything he wants, gets angry when he''''s not given it, or it''''s as plain as the nose on your face that he can''''t genuninely love anyone, but keep on telling him you love him, keep on telling him he''''s doing the right thing, and when your warrior or raven ends up having to face a judge or jury for the wrong he''''s done then what?
2/12/2009 3:46:41 PM - VIVIAN IF YOU LOVE THE MAN YOU''''D HELP HIM GET HELP, NOT TELL THAT WE ARE ALL JEALOUS OF YOU, that the biggest joke of all. No one wants to be like YOU, you are a sad woman, with no life and only make believe friends who lie to her.
2/12/2009 3:47:21 PM - NIAVE IS WHAT YOU ARE TO BELIEVE HIM. HE''''LL STOP CALLING AGAIN, AND HE''''LL CALL YOU RUDE NAMES LIKE HE HAS ALL OF US. IN FACT I''''VE HEARD HIM PUT YOU DOWN, CALL YOU AWFUL NAMES AND POST UGLY THINGS ABOUT YOU.
2/12/2009 3:48:11 PM - BUT YOU''''VE FORGIVEN HIM, ALL IS FINE NOW, HE CALLS YOU ARE HAPPY AS A PIG IN MUD.
2/12/2009 3:49:33 PM - BY NOT FACING THE TRUTH, KEEP BELIEVING YOU ARE HELPING HIM.
2/12/2009 3:49:50 PM - IF AT ONE TIME WE BELIEVED HIS LIES AND WE WERE SMART ENOUGH TO REALIZE HE CAN NOT TELL THE TRUTH, WE''''VE PUT HIM BEHIND US, BUT DO TRY TO WARN OTHERS ABOUT HIS LIES....PRAYTELL, WHY DO YOU BELIEVE HIM? OR ARE YOU ONLY SAYING THAT?
2/12/2009 3:51:20 PM - And then ask yourself Vivian, IF he does love you, why has he never felt the need to meet you face to face? He''s USING YOU, and you are his doormat! HE''S STOMPING HIS FEET ON YOU, and you think we are the ones believing him? GO FIGURE!
2/12/2009 3:54:24 PM - Now put your sad little bleach blond head on a pillow and don''''t try straining your brain by trying to understand real life. Go back to Patterson, it''''s call FICTION!
2/12/2009 3:56:48 PM - Randy YOU know exacty what you are doing and have done. You are not a man, you are a sad excuse for the man you would have wanted us to have seen in you. GET help, and realize Vivian lies as well as you do. Your true friends are the ones asking YOU why you feel the need to lie about everything.
2/12/2009 3:59:38 PM - Randy realize too that there will be a breaking point where those true friends who are screaming out for you to get help, will have had enough of your lies. Then you''ll be stuck with HER, and your faithful wife, bless her soul. Where''s that genius IQ that you are always bragging about? Oh wait that was a lie too. Yeah we all realized you only believed yourself to be the genius. We didn''t believe everything like V does, but she really does make you feel smart.
2/13/2009 12:00:49 PM - Truth, you are. Chemicals could have permanently damaged you? If it didn''t matter you''d not check back so often to see what''s said. He''s a liar, and a con. You know it.
2/14/2009 7:45:13 AM - oh now we are coven, watch out, i might cast my spell, oh by the way, watch out, i don''''t have to come in and read, i feel, see and hear everything, and randy you know who i am, just check in time to time to see if i''''m right, see you in court love, BLESSED BE
2/14/2009 12:57:13 PM - Vivian, I am not nor have I ever practiced witchcraft, so knock off the crap. You are IN your element there, not mine. So IF you consider yourself a witch, good for you. But I don''t believe you have the right to call anyone else one. See the silly games YOU stoop to?
2/14/2009 12:58:33 PM - If I were a witch, I''d cast a spell upon the man a long time ago that would render him useless, so that he wouldn''t be able to attract another woman to con, scam and hurt!
2/14/2009 12:59:00 PM - Instead of ONE missing front tooth, he''d not have a one!
2/14/2009 12:59:37 PM - His long flowing locks would have been turning loose and falling out as well...
2/14/2009 5:34:55 PM - You say you would like to help me, yet in the same breath you attack and embarrass me with that question about money? And you wonder why I will never ask nor take any thing from you ever. I''''m on my way back to Alaska. I''''ve had enough of the bullshit down here. As for how I''''m doing? I''''ve told you over an over again. I lost my truck due to non payment, my r.v. I sold for almost nothing. 2 of 3 sons I had to tell them to go due to drug use. I had to have my dog put down, due to misdiagnosed medical problems from an incompitent vet who even now i could kill with my bare hands. Unable to work due to sever back problems. I think that about sums it up. But don''''t you worry. When I can I''''ll get back to you what you helped me with. From this point on I''''m shutting down. I''''ll be on the road.
2/14/2009 5:36:58 PM - What was it your 2000 tax return that you sent him? Out of the goodness of your heart? But he would never take anything from you? Which is it, you lying or him?
2/14/2009 5:37:45 PM - Shall we tear this apart and find the truth? He told me to never tell that he was in NC, IF anyone found out he was in NC still he would know it me. Well who cares?
2/14/2009 5:39:21 PM - Lost his truck, noooo he had an 08 Harley, and an 03 Truck and the Explorer as well. He''d not lost anything.
2/14/2009 5:42:36 PM - The RV, true he may have sold the one he drove down from AK, but he''d promised to repay the ladies who''d helped him get it as well. DID HE? In the meantime, he was living in a much nicer one and disassembling it piece by piece. Not making any attempt to keep the agreement he signed and we had notorized. And of course hiding his wife in it, the ONE he''d told me he''d been separated from for over six years... by the way he was DIVORCED when we first met. Getting the picture any clearer?
2/14/2009 5:45:24 PM - 2 out of 3 sons, he said Pat and John were HIS sons, yeah I got that lie too. John belongs to his sister is his nephew and Pat was John''s best friend. Corey is Allison''s son which he adopted and he has treated like crap. I''ve witnessed him thowing a hammer and hitting the kid, and did I like it NO I did NOT, and told him so. No reason to physically hurt Corey, Randy was being a jerk.
2/14/2009 5:48:04 PM - He did have to have the dog put down, I paid for the medical expenses. They are on my credit card which he promised to repay every dime IF I''d help him. Then I found out from Cheryl and Deb and God knows how many more who he played his poor pitiful me card on to get funds. See what a sick man this is? Would you have played up something you cared for that much to get MONEY? It isn''t like Rhiannon''s care wasn''t already on my card... the MAN made money on his sick and dying dog.
2/14/2009 5:49:49 PM - Unable to work due to severe back problems... laughing my butt off, yeah and he had surgery too, so he said to keep you from coming to NC. His wife even found out and arranged to take vacation so that you''d not be coming. Kinda tells us all how much you are loved. His back seemed to be just dandy, but then he did complain of severe depression, and meds that left his dick limp.
2/14/2009 5:51:46 PM - But don''''t you worry. When I can I''''ll get back to you what you helped me with. From this point on I''''m shutting down. I''''ll be on the road. HE WASN''T ON THE ROAD, HE WAS BUSY SETTING UP HOUSE WITH HIS WIFE, THEY CLOSED HALLOWEEN OF 07! So whose the idiot?
2/14/2009 6:45:46 PM - COMPANY???... IN YOUR DREAMS.. CLOSE YOUR EYES.. HE''LL APPEAR... ARE WE IN KANSAS DOR0THY, CLICK THOSE HEELS!.. NOOO WAIT, YOU''LL HAVE TO KEEP THOSE LEGS TOGETHER!!!!!
2/14/2009 6:56:50 PM - As I have said before, YOU can have Georgie Porgie, I don''t want a man who lies, I also could care less what you and he have, because you seem to lie as well if not better than him. You want everyone to believe that you are so sought after, Vivian, you aren''t. You only believe you are beautiful in your own mind. You are fading and fading fast, there was a time that I would have done anything to have helped you, but you showed me the type of woman you were. You betrayed any friendship that could have been. Now you resort to calling me a bitch and a witch, and KNOW my dear that my emotional state and mental health are above average, no depression, no problems, and above average intelligence, My mistake in this was believing in people who have never told the truth in their lives. So IF you choose to play, then know that I will not hesitate to prove my point, as you copied and pasted yours and my conversations to Randy, and you so sweetly supplied me with emails to prove you and he talked,... I have plenty, of YOUR words to show the lies you have told.
2/14/2009 7:01:03 PM - As far as idiots? Politically correct it is Learning Differently...But being mentally or emotionally challenged doesn''t mean you are an idiot...not accepting the truth when it''s written in front of you, and constantly lying.. now that my constitute one.
2/15/2009 4:39:15 AM - Laughing... it''s nice to see that you can finally admit it. You''ve always said that I was the one lying about what he did! So you''ve been spreading rumors and such for him. As far as continuing to make sure this site is going, you do your fair share of posting don''t you think? YOU Call us NAMES, always have to comment about US having him, which most of us have, but how many relationships HAVE you been in let''s say in in 6 months, 6, 7 or 8? I slept with him because I believed him to be genuine. When I found out differently I broke it off, NOT Randy, I pushed HIM away, he came on to me afterward, though maybe if he had me again, I''d continue. Wrong. There''s no need to LOWER myself to accepting someone who lies. Period.
2/15/2009 4:42:43 AM - I certainly hope you aren''t still stringing Michael on and hurting him once again. The man always seemed to be genuine, but you used him when no ONE else was interested. AS I have said, YOU TOLD ME YOU DON''T FEEL VALIDATED UNLESS YOU HAVE A MAN. WOMAN, HONESTLY THINK ABOUT THAT.
2/15/2009 5:31:54 AM - Vivian what you don''t get is what he did is a crime a FEDERAL CRIME, and just you being friends in him could put you in trouble also, this what we are trying to tell you, can you get that through your head, if nothing else.
2/15/2009 2:57:50 PM - COURT WOULD BE THE LEAST OF YOUR WORRIES, OH FAIR MAIDEN that is a joke ARE YOU SO WILLING TO GO BEYOND A COURT ROOM TO SUPPORT SOMEONE WHO WOULD ALLOW YOU TO EAT CRACKERS SO THAT HE HAS HIS TOYS? THINK REAL HARD.
2/15/2009 5:57:36 PM - No dear you don''t think, you are incapable of thinking. IF you did, you''d know that you''ve double talked the whole time. Don''t worry no one will find it necessary to call you into court for you to get the chance to finally meet the great man face to face. He''ll have to do that for you, or you for him. IF he wanted to meet you, he''d found a way. Keep that in the back of your mind burning.
2/16/2009 9:43:45 PM - Thank you for removing all your rude and crude remarks Vivian, I'll take it that you had a change of heart.
2/17/2009 4:22:17 PM - Randy why have someone else call me, if you want to talk, be a man and call yourself, don''t hide behind other people
2/18/2009 11:50:28 AM - gee randy your new look makes you like a grease ball, with cheap hair dye
2/19/2009 8:09:00 AM - I love it. I think it looks great.
2/19/2009 11:32:48 AM - Changing the outside to hide? Would be nice if the INSIDE would change and you'd become a man.
2/19/2009 1:23:46 PM - he''ll never be a man, and the inside will never change, no matter how much help he gets, it''s the only way he knows how to live and he won''t really change till he chooses to, and ladies that will never happen, he thinks he''s above the law, Randy your world of scamming is coming to end and you''ll pay for what you have done to all of us women you preyed upon....and one more thing we are brave beautiful women inside and out.......can you say that about you and your wife, i think not or you would not have done this to us, and i''m sorry for turning you in, i think not, you both deserve to be put in prison
2/19/2009 5:48:56 PM - whoever said he looks great has no taste at all
2/20/2009 4:52:04 PM - gee Randy what do you have to say, anything, what can you say everything being said about you and your wife are true.......and i''m making sure it never happens again to another woman, i told you alot of times i''m not afraid to stand up to you, you wanted to get in my face here i am....this is one lady who will not back down, i will make sure you and Allison go to prison for your crimes....and i will make sure you spend the whole sentence, for will make it that i will be at every parole hearing, just think how many women you conned that will be about how many years you get, you will be an old man by the time you get out jail
2/20/2009 4:55:28 PM - gee Randy what do you have to say, anything, what can you say everything being said about you and your wife are true.......and i''m making sure it never happens again to another woman, i told you alot of times i''m not afraid to stand up to you, you wanted to get in my face here i am....this is one lady who will not back down, i will make sure you and Allison go to prison for your crimes....and i will make sure you spend the whole sentence, for will make it that i will be at every parole hearing, just think how many women you conned that will be about how many years you get, you will be an old man by the time you get out jail
2/20/2009 5:01:40 PM - gee Randy what do you have to say, anything, what can you say everything being said about you and your wife are true.......and i''m making sure it never happens again to another woman, i told you alot of times i''m not afraid to stand up to you, you wanted to get in my face here i am....this is one lady who will not back down, i will make sure you and Allison go to prison for your crimes....and i will make sure you spend the whole sentence, for will make it that i will be at every parole hearing, just think how many women you conned that will be about how many years you get, you will be an old man by the time you get out jail
2/20/2009 5:52:09 PM - Randy, a bit of bad news among all this love. Lindas husband passed away on the 4th. Donna''s birthday no less. just thought you would want to know. Linda is doing fine all things considered. Lots of family, lots of love. B
2/21/2009 6:30:00 AM - Randy do your pay checks come Western Union or Money Grams? Must be nice to walk up to the service desk at wally world and be handed cash.
2/21/2009 7:14:16 AM - since his wife works for them, she knows when they come in
2/21/2009 10:15:21 AM - Allison no comment on that, we all know that you have been in with his scam from the beginning......awww the 2 of you will be separated in different prisons, have no pity for you, you can try and sue me for saying it, you can''t sue a person for telling the truth, it''s not slander
2/21/2009 2:03:09 PM - What you are doing here is no better than what he has done to you
2/21/2009 2:51:54 PM - THE TRUTH WILL SET ME FREE. THE HONEST TO GOD TRUTH, NOT ONE TAINTED BY SOMEONE WHO HASN''T A CLUE WHAT IS RIGHT OR WRONG AND CONTINUES TO MAKE UP MORE LIES TO COVER PREVIOUS LIES. TRUTH IS NOT SLANDER... THIS ISN''T SLANDER, BUT WHEN YOU BORROW FROM ALL THAT HE''S BORROWED FROM WITHOUT THINKING HE''D EVER REPAY, IT SOON BECOMES EVIDENT TO THOSE WITH HALF A BRAIN THE MAN IS GOOD AT GETTING SOMETHING FOR NOTHING. OH I DON''T HAVE THE MONEY TO BUY THIS, BUT IF I TALK SWEET TO TOM, DICK OR HARRY AND GET THEM TO BELIEVE THAT I LOVE THEM, I JUST BETCHA THEY''LL LOAN ME MONEY. AND I BETCHA TOO THAT IF I CONTINUE TO KEEP THEM BELIEVING THAT I LOVE THEM, THEY''LL NEVER ASK FOR THE MONEY BACK. WORKS WELL UNTIL YOU GET CAUGHT... THEN WHEN THE TRUTH IS TOLD, THE GAME IS EXPOSED, IT''S NOT SO NICE. FACE IT, HE LIED. PERIOD
2/21/2009 5:32:20 PM - maybe to you. but not to me. i didnt loan him any money.
2/21/2009 6:05:29 PM - So why do you find fault with those of us that tell the truth? Do you tell the truth? Or did you just change your mind about the money he got from you? Did you decide to call it a GIFT?
2/21/2009 7:12:46 PM - gee did you call it a gift then he should reported on his feneral income tax that recieved gifts of money....bad boy Randy irs doesn''t like when your income tax isn''t done right.....could be more charges on you and allison
2/22/2009 6:12:58 AM - what he has done cheat women out of money, lied to them, what we have done to him is tell the truth about him....if you don''t like it stop coming in and looking.....there is nothing really in here for you to go back and tell him, which we know you do
2/22/2009 6:46:26 AM - Randy can come and read for himself, unless of course he's lost his reading glasses. Tooo bad we can't make the fonts really big for him to match his ego! The truth HURTS when you know in your heart it is the truth. Maybe having to face the facts that YOU know he's lying and still lying is what hurts the most. HE'S not CHANGED.
3/6/2009 9:37:39 AM - Randy will not change....he feels everything he''s done isn''t wrong........such a sick coward....i can''t believe some of you ladies are scared of a whimp like him.....so what if he says he''s going to blackmail you, blackmail is illegal also.....
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3/7/2009 3:01:36 AM - I don''t believe it''s hatred, I believe it''s justice. So for anyone who is too blinded by actual truth to see past the LIES that seem to flow so freely from fingertips, I pity you. Are you all too weak that you can''t do without a man in your life to stand up for yourselves? Randy Hopper, lied and stole from women. Accept that, and IF Vivian would ever tell the truth and stop trying to act like a Christian YES I said ACT, she knows he''s lied, as well as she has. She says to get over it, yet she is all about coming her reading, she said she removed the site, but she get notifications when she gets messages? Uh huh..... she wants to remove it but can''t? Something is wrong there. She is messed up too, but that''s okay, because she''s happy in her own little mind. There are some very sick minded humans in this world, I am sad to say that I''ve met a few. I do hope Randy is brought to justice, because he''ll continue to take from eveyone he meets until he is forced to realize this is WRONG.
3/7/2009 3:23:45 AM - AFTER WHAT YOU DID TO ME! LAUGHING OUT LOUD, AFTER WE DID THIS TO HIM!
3/7/2009 3:25:08 AM - You have to ask, what is IT? What did any of US do? Can HE not see HE did this to HIMSELF?
3/7/2009 9:48:17 AM - Vivian i don''t need your help and i haven''t asked for your help since you are so wrapped up in him. I have enough on him....gee did he finally tell you i''m a real person....and yes he has plenty to worry about.....defend him all you want to, in the end i''ll be nice and hand you a towel to wipe the egg off your face
3/7/2009 10:08:11 AM - Hey Vivian Sweetiekins? You say that you have known Randy at least ten years, but you have only been divorced six years. Does that mean you messed around on your hubby with Randy on cam those threefour years prior to your divorce? Tsk.. Tsk.. you aren''t looking so virginal and lily white pure like you make yourself out to be. Another thing does Randy know that you''re the one that feed us his address in NC? Nope.. I''m sure you didn''t disclose that to your wonderful camfellow. If he only knew you have plenty more to apologize to him about that you will never own up to. Oh yes, and have a happy and wonderfully blissful day. I know I am, and always will.
3/7/2009 5:02:36 PM - Why shouldn't a woman be entitled to be angry and any of us that were duped as you put it should be able to prosecute if we please, just because YOU won't doesn't mean that the rest of us can not.
3/7/2009 5:04:05 PM - A stranger? so you''ve never met him? but he''s a friend? NOT a stranger? What he is, is a man who figured out a way to get money from women. He uses his looks, his charm and his ability to BS.
3/7/2009 5:04:43 PM - He never means anything he''s said. His words are just that words, he is not a man of his word. RANDY DID WRONG.
3/7/2009 5:05:47 PM - IF you read the top portion of this... it was all about YOU wanting your money back, as he''d told you he''d return it to you. Then out of the blue he calls and says... let''s forget about this, and go back to being friends. That''s great IF you can walk away from the money he owes you. Some of us can not and will not.
3/7/2009 5:06:46 PM - He''s counted on too many women forgiving him or he scared them with is threats, or he took so much they didn’t have anything to fight back with and now????? could be he''s overplayed his hand.
3/7/2009 5:07:22 PM - We trusted him to be the man he said he was, he quoted God''s word, so tell me what kind of a sick human would do such a thing then try to put it back on us women?
3/7/2009 5:07:44 PM - He needs to wake up smell the coffee and realize... enough is enough.. .. Maybe he’s shocked that us idiot women were smart enough to figure out his Game?
3/7/2009 5:09:12 PM - And as far as that “towel”… cover your head with it… it’s easier than sticking your head in the sand!
3/7/2009 5:25:51 PM - And Vivian, why is it that NO ONE can be YOUR friend? Maybe YOU are the reason? You are so perfect no one can hold a candle to you?
3/8/2009 1:23:55 PM - oh by the way vivian, he has been under investigtion long before he was ever put on womens savers......i don''t need help from a bimbo like you, yes i called you a bimbo, and that''s being nice
3/9/2009 5:07:11 PM - I could not find a profile up here for Raymond Strain of Canton, Ohio. Neither could I find one for him on DDHG dontdatehimgirl.com. Where should we look for a profile on him? See my profiles on EVERETT RAYMOND BROWN JR, aka JAY BROWN, for comparison. I have him profiled up here, on datingpsychos.com, on psychosandplayers.com, and on DDHG. Jay advertised on a swingers'' site for casual sex with men, in my last year with him. Altogether, I lived with him for 8.5 years. He also had an affair with my married friend with whom he later lived, so, I think, broke up her marriage. It wasn''t the first time he cheated with a married woman he told me so..that he cheated on his second wife.
3/9/2009 5:09:04 PM - Someone needs to post him onto dontdatehimgirl.com
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3/10/2009 10:09:54 AM - Oh Dear Someone likes typing Loser! Must be a child! Randy is posted on DDHG, has been for a while, psychosandplayers and wherever ELSE V was able to find and pass on the information. By all means if you find another site to post him on ... just do it! The more women who are warned, the less that will be taken by him... so be it!
3/11/2009 8:33:59 AM - Randy come out where ever you are, oh so afraid to talk to me, come on mouse, you are only showing us how much a loser you really are. oops snap another pic of you, you should smile more often
3/15/2009 6:07:40 AM - come on Randy your ladies are waiting for you, tells us how much you loves us, tell us how much you need us, without us you are nothing but scum, and person who can't even bother to take care of himself, a greedy wanting person, i want, i need, please i'm begging you i need your help, i'll pay you back, give me time, babe every thing is good between us, love you more, we'll be together soon, come one Randy, do you have a place big enough for all of us
3/15/2009 12:41:43 PM - we will all be with you soon, you would love that all your women in one place, poor allison will have to learn to share......oh wait you are suppose to be divorced, no wait separated, make up your mind which lie you would like to tell
3/15/2009 12:42:41 PM - we all know you don''t know how to tell the truth
3/16/2009 3:36:42 PM - Someone KNOWS you well Mr. Hopper! She''s right you don''t seem to know how to breathe and not lie
3/16/2009 3:37:55 PM - Maybe we should get a judge from Australia.... check out this link.
3/18/2009 7:26:56 AM - yea that nigerian scam was from plentyoffish, the woman scammed a guy from pa of 18,000.00.....you see Randy scammers are being picked up all the time your time is near, so much evidence against you, blackmail won''t work either that will be just aonther charge hanging over you and your wife
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3/19/2009 4:32:33 PM - Hey V, have your babe wasn''t that the name for a cute little pig to get my address off of his truck, so that I don''t have to see his name in MY mailbox..
3/20/2009 9:00:55 AM - Hey, v at least her blogs have purpose and sense, your''s were sounding childish and a knockoff.....still wanting that loser v.....still waiting for him to show up at your door step.....he''s laughing at you because all the little tricks you do for him, such a puppet you are, shame on you randy, you really shouldn''t treat her that way.....and randy, why don''t you put things in your own name, you want to say say you have things, well you don''t really when they are in someone elses name, gee more problems for you my dear man, still living in your trailer trash world
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3/22/2009 4:09:57 PM - Thanks for clarifying that! Have you noticed that she''s at least keeping her clothes on now in the pictures? Maybe BABE told her she shouldn''t quote scriptures and pose semi nude, or leading men to believe she was. Jr High drama, yeppers, that''s our Ms V! Quick to Judge, but she''s HAPPY! oh so HAPPY!
3/24/2009 4:57:02 PM - miss v doesn''t like me she''s blocked me again, oh well don''t need to listen to or read her child like feelings for a piece of scum. that''s ok i know where the bum is and will have my day in court with him
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3/25/2009 12:09:20 PM - Ms V doesn''t come here.. so she''ll NEVER know how you feel!
3/25/2009 12:10:09 PM - Can YOU imagine how tough it''s been for her to LIE? She''s commented here so many times, yet she continues to lie about it.... sooo very sad!
3/25/2009 12:11:06 PM - OH BUT WAIT! She is informed every time someone posts here, so she gets someone else to come here an sign in so she knows what is said without coming.
3/25/2009 12:11:58 PM - Wondering how it feels to use a friend to do your Dirty WORK!?! Sooo SAD.
3/26/2009 7:37:29 AM - i don't think he really trusts her anymore, so much doubt in her, he won't go near her, he doesn't trust anyone, he's a scared rabbit, with no place to hide, even a fence can't hide him, he needs to be out to strut his stuff, like he has any, losing your touch old man
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3/26/2009 2:43:36 PM - Oh Buttttt, St V doesn''t come here! She is strong and forgiving and gosh darn it even made several spelling mistakes which I wish I had my red pencil to correct since she was always the one correcting everyone! She is able to see the error of everyone''s ways except her own... tabbing the tears from my eyes. To thine own self be true Vivian, look at the wrong you''ve done and said about each of us, then ASK us to forgive you.
3/26/2009 2:45:11 PM - You are what you are, a sad woman who accepts none of the wrong SHE does, but points it out to everyone else to forgive Randy. He''s never asked for forgiveness, he''s not tried to make good on any thing he promised he''d do. He''s a liar just like you.
3/27/2009 9:49:55 AM - just because you forgave him doesn''t mean we should, V you are just a middle age woman trying to get a piece, i''m so glad i didn''t do it with him.......i''ve done nothing to be a shamed of, even though he ask me to, the answer was always no.....he can''t blackmail you, you have no money
3/27/2009 4:58:48 PM - Recovering... not from HIM, he only lasts a mere 30 seconds!
3/28/2009 12:59:18 PM - only 30 seconds not worth it
3/28/2009 4:41:07 PM -
3/28/2009 4:42:37 PM - I may owe Randy an apology after all. He told me that she was nuts and a stalker, he may have actually spoken the truth for once. He told me to sit and watch and sooner or later she''d prove herself. It''s refreshing to find something that the man didn''t lie about.
3/28/2009 5:17:18 PM - she''s in her dream world, just like randy is, is she trying to be like him to be with him then she needs to be in a psych ward
3/29/2009 6:57:52 AM - this area is not about an aging ho like miss v, this is about a man that has conned and scammed alot of women, if miss v wants to live in her dream world let her, ladies just beware of what mr hopper can do and take. he has hurt and lied to so many. as for paying back what he has taken, you should take it as a bad investment, you can''t get blood out of a turnip, the only way for him to pay is to do time in jail
3/29/2009 4:07:40 PM - oh but what fun trying!
3/29/2009 6:45:40 PM - Jail time? Why not put his lazy good for nuthing butt to work and let him earn money, learn that this is not acceptable behavior for a fifty year old man. I am sure garnished wages would help any one of us struggling with the money we believed in HIS word that he'd repay.
3/30/2009 1:04:46 PM - his wages will never be garnished, he can''t keep a job long enough, doubt if he ever had a steady job besides scamming and conning women, by putting him in jail he has to work and pay restitution to all
3/30/2009 4:18:36 PM - Then do it, put him away so that he isn''t able to do this any more. He''s good at this game he plays or he''d not be doing it
3/30/2009 4:51:45 PM - i''m trying to have him put away, some of you woman need to report him also to the your local authorities and the fbi, he is already reported to their fraud division, more times he is reported, he would be picked up sooner, and of course who will be willing to testify against him
3/30/2009 4:56:45 PM - woman come in and complain how much he took from him, well it''s time to work together to have him put away, there is nothing he can do to you if you press charges, we all have proof against him, and he tells woman the same line time and time again, if you wamt your money back you have to press charges.
3/31/2009 5:48:00 AM - Things between a man and a woman that you want to remain private should not be shared with the world in a public blog, anyone with any sense at all should know that. Finally Ms V has figured out that all her blogs and blast comments that alluted to that she's talking to a man should be kept private! Well Duh... a rocket scientist you aren't. In fact, you loved the attention and would say things to keep the witches as YOU referred to us stirred up. Imagine that V, just maybe You've graduated from grade school into middle. Keep YOUR business to yourself sister!
3/31/2009 5:53:44 AM - AS far as banding together to alert the world to the tactics of Randy Hopper, I agree, however it seems that he manages to call, and promise that he''ll do better and he''s easily forgiven. Women are so readily able to once again accept what he says as the truth. BUT ask yourself this one question**** Has he done anything he promised? Do you really believe he and his wife aren''t still living in perfect harmony? Do you honestly believe him? You did once and where did it get you? Wake up girls! Respect yourselves and realize that he will continue to use you as long as you allow it.
3/31/2009 12:15:59 PM - and yes ladies his wife is up to her neck in his scamming, she is as guilty as he is
3/31/2009 12:18:44 PM - 1800 i need help... call V, it''s a lifeline to sanity!
3/31/2009 12:20:27 PM - Do you trust him V? Does he tell you the truth? ARE you sure?
3/31/2009 12:44:55 PM - either way... he is still living with his wife in perfect harmony! Just believe what you will
4/1/2009 5:55:59 PM - oh vivian i just read your lovely comment about me, listen her lady, i have tried so hard to try and be nice to you the time is comimg that i will be in pittsburgh and i will see you face to face and i will knock you down a few pegs so watch out i will be in your face vivian, this is not a joke tell that to your dear sweet randy, he knows my temper, and vivian you may not have much nhow , you''ll have less after i''m done sueing you, have printed out everything you have said, so don''t try getting out of this by lying, we all know you do
4/1/2009 5:56:53 PM - Vivian i don''t play games
4/2/2009 8:45:21 AM - where''s your big mouth now vivian
4/2/2009 8:47:04 AM - It would appear that someone removed some dang comments! Because I can't find anywhere where anyone was commented that would have a reason to sue? But to have comments disappear are fairly common here. Guess there was a change of heart? Keep it to the truth and you won't have a reason to worry... although I am sure some will never open their eyes to the truth.
4/2/2009 9:13:34 AM - we all know who won''t tell the truth in here.
4/4/2009 12:03:36 PM - so many comments have disappeared we all know who took theirs off
4/4/2009 4:09:46 PM - oh he doesn''t invade my spirit i live a wonderful life, just making sure nobody gets caught up with him, they don''t need to go through the pain he causeed women, this guy actually belongs in jail... if makes you gag then don''t bother to come here and comment.....and we don''t hybernate here...seemd you must if you are in here
4/6/2009 7:00:29 AM - your little friend Randy will be arrested soon
4/6/2009 9:04:37 AM - Imagine being Randy and knowing all the women you''ve wronged. Imagine having to look over your shoulder, change your appearence so that you aren''t easily recognized, imagine having to stand face to face with your maker one day and account for all the wrong you''ve done! Imagine standing in front of a judge, and facing the women you''ve wronged as well. Will he continue to threaten to make us all to be whores? Well, you know I was never paid a dime for sleeping with him, but since he was asking for loans which he''d repay every dime of, what does that make him? Looks to me that he''s pointing a finger at us, yet the majority are back at him. He''s made this mess himself... he''s involved us, I daresay found the majority of us, while posing as a divorced man. His lies are catching up with him. And if this is not the truth, the forgive me, but this is HOW I see the truth. His lies have gotten him into this mess. HIS LIES, not yours, or mine, but HIS.
4/7/2009 7:18:57 AM - AMEN, AMEN, HIS LIES DID GET HIM, HE WILL BE CHARGED SOON
4/7/2009 8:12:55 AM - Ladies realize that socopaths will always try to place the blame upon everyone and anyone but themselves. They try to transfer the guilt they want YOU to feel for not helping them more. They want you to believe that it was all YOUR fault that the relationship didn''t work out. It''s not, so don''t own the blame, hand it back to HIM. When you realize that it is NOT you, but all HIM, then you will begin to heal, and see the man for the pitiful excuse of a human he is. His actions are his to own, not yours.
4/9/2009 6:03:34 AM - oh please get a grip he''ll never be there for you, only when he wants something and that''s your money
4/9/2009 2:29:10 PM - well get it while you can he will be going to jail, and will be there for along time
4/10/2009 4:32:55 AM - Looking into my crystal ball, I see a sad excuse for a man, would that be a gentleman wannabee? A man who covers lies with more lies to appear to be someone that he''s not? If you think about this, if he''s talking, then be leary of what comes out of his mouth, chances are, it is his version of a lie he calls truth.
4/10/2009 4:35:40 AM - Randy Babe, Go TO HER!!!!! Toothless or NOT, she''s waited, is it a decade now for you? Get it gummed... you may like it! Stop dangling that carrot in front of her via cam... let her experience your thirty second fuse!
4/10/2009 4:37:33 AM - Then she''ll KNOW once in for all that you aren''t nearly as good as her fantasy of you babe. You are much better as a make believe lover than the REAL thing.
4/10/2009 4:53:32 AM - he wasn''t really good as make beleive either,
4/15/2009 7:15:52 AM - YEAH... ANOTHER PIECE OF SHIT....................... HE''S GOT HERPES TOO
4/15/2009 10:18:17 AM - Oh dear! Must have gotten that recently since he assured everyone of us that he was STD free. I had myself tested for any and all after I ended it with him. And I am sure most anyone would. Too bad!
4/15/2009 10:20:43 AM - Oh dear! Must have gotten that recently since he assured everyone of us that he was STD free. I had myself tested for any and all after I ended it with him. And I am sure most anyone would. Too bad!
4/15/2009 10:54:34 AM - wow did he give you herpes too bad, should of insisted on condoms, practice save sex, how did you like the 30 seconds
4/18/2009 6:56:40 AM - we don't dwell, if you are family get the man help he surely needs it, can't you get that through your thick head, or could it be you are involved with him also and not raking in the money like you use to, well then too bad this place is serving it's purpose....and it will be here till he either stops what he is doing or he is in jail......and he knows he's under investigation
4/18/2009 8:08:05 AM - Dwelling? Seems you must find this a fancinating place to come DWELL, lift the rug, sweep him under it and forget that he was once convicted and served time for felony bank robbery, has he now found a way to rob without consequences? What he''s done is wrong.
4/18/2009 8:10:44 AM - You can argue that he served his time and that should be forgotten, but when he continues to ~~ROB~~ women of money, under the pretense of ~~Borrowing~~ and doesnt make amends or an effort to repay then I''d say he''s not learned from the time served.
4/18/2009 9:40:49 AM - I don't see that you were attacking anyone, and you shouldn't have felt that you were being attacked. But as you said, and I quote ~ Reading these comments daily, I see psychosis, compulsive disorders and neurotic tendencies in the writers as well. When are you going to understand that your excuse of trying to protect someone else from being taken by this man is a lie to justify your compulsion to seek vengence for your own unresolved personal issues? I'm not trying to insult anyone, but no one will ever heal or move past the pain associated with this trauma if you keep dwelling on it like this~~~ You have a compulsion to come here daily to see what has been written? Why? When you heal you get it OUT... YES he hurt us. He is continuing to deny that he has done wrong. Maybe he needs to be the one who faces what he's done. He hasn't apologized now has he?
4/18/2009 5:42:27 PM - then my dear why are you here you must not be healed also since you come in here or is he blackmailing you, he has a court hearing soon, and he might be picked up soon after for federal charges of scamming and fraud, and he will be facing what he has done....not everyone heals same way
4/19/2009 5:03:59 AM - Oh I agree wholeheartedly, no one heals the same, and unless you've walked with him and know him personally then you are making a group assessment which means you are not taking each individualsituattion separately. You have yourself made the assumptions that we want him. YOU ARE WRONG. HE'S BEEN TOLD NO, HE'D BEEN PUSHED ASIDE, EVEN WHEN HE CALLED BEGGING TO COME BACK AND FORGET ALL THIS.
4/19/2009 5:06:20 AM - BUT DING DING DING... WHY WOULD HE WANT ~~~A CANCEROUS PITY POOR LITTLE ME ATTITUDE WOMAN~~~~ Why because he can control her, he can''t handle one that thinks on her own and stands up to him.
4/19/2009 5:07:14 AM - Because he can not CONTROL HER! Randy loves the control he has over his women, so IF he has you believing this, then you are the pot calling the kettle black.
4/19/2009 5:09:44 AM - Ask Vivian, he has control her mentally and emotionally for years...see what it''s done to her? She''s just desperate to have a man in her life, any man, and would prefer HIM, but has he gone to her? NOOOOO, she''s his CYBER Bud, Phone Pal, whatever but she''ll never be his love, he uses her. She, bless her heart won''t open her eyes. He hates stronger women, because most are smarter than he is. Are you?
4/19/2009 7:19:35 AM - Oh Sugar... here is your comment from above... maybe YOU have learned from Randy as well?
4/17/2009 6:13:53 PM 4/17/2009 6:11:55 PM When is enough enough? This site has been droning on for what now? Two years? Even if someone wanted to heal from the pain this man caused they couldn''t because someone is constantly keeping the partially healed wound ripped open. I really don''t care that you keep saying that this is a means to warn other women about Randy Hopper, this is a way for some to continue to relive their hurt over and over again, day after day. If it wasn''t Randy, they would find someone else to crucify on here. To forgive someone means you don''t keep bringing it up. You remember the deed, but you don''t keep reminding the person what a lousy human being they are day in and day out. I suggest that all of you take a step back and ask yourself what if this was your brother, your father, your uncle, your nephew, your cousin, your son? Would you be so quick to continually assinate someones character? You say to read this and that continually. One can read many things and find things that you can associate with someone if you search hard enough. *****Reading these comments daily,***** I see psychosis, compulsive disorders and neurotic tendencies in the writers as well. When are you going to understand that your excuse of trying to protect someone else from being taken by this man is a lie to justify your compulsion to seek vengence for your own unresolved personal issues? I''m not trying to insult anyone, but no one will ever heal or move past the pain associated with this trauma if you keep dwelling on it like this. NOW WANT TO BACK PADDLE A BIT?
4/19/2009 4:20:53 PM - there is a complaint against with the fraud unit of the fbi, and don''t ever compare me to that scum bag.....if you don''t like what is being said don''t bother coming in......or are you related to him if you are get the man some help he surely needs it
4/21/2009 12:38:15 PM - and gee our own unresolved personal issues with this man is none of your business, like we said if you don''t like what is being said keep yourself out, or if your so into him get him help, he''ll never change once a theif always a theif, and he needs to pay for his crimes.....he knows what he has been doing is illegal
5/3/2009 9:00:06 AM - Don't pick on victim. Hoper must be very bad man to do bad things as this. I pray for everyone and I pray for justice. So many bad men, I cry to read them.
5/4/2009 7:03:44 PM - yes hopper is a very bad man he hurt and stoled from alot of women, and yes he should be stopped, we are trying hard to have that done
5/16/2009 6:32:00 PM - it''s funny how many view you Randy or do you come in here to read about yourself, between both accounts it''s getting close to 500,000, we must not be wrong about you, i know you are still scamming, that is something you'll never try to quit, it's a sickness in you, you have hurt so many, and taken from many, soon you will be paying for what you have done. it could be from the law or by other means... you''ll never know when it's going to happen
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5/26/2009 10:38:47 AM - I found randy on here purely by accident and I must say I am shocked. I have known him for about six years now and have never experience anything that is being said about him. Maybe he did these things, maybe he didn''''t. I don''''t know and I don''''t care. Maybe taking money without paying back is wrong, but it is not stealing if you gave it to him. He never asked me for money, or anything. Although we have not talked in a long time, I would talk to him again. Calling him names and trashing him here is not very godly at all. You blame him because you feel you got played by him. Well take the blame for your own actions. Face the truth, you tried to buy his affection and it did not work. Shame on you. I find it all hard to believe because it does not sound like the randy I know. He never took from me, only gave. He was there for me when my life was very dark and kept me on the right track. I will always be grateful for his friendship. Move on ladies, find another outlet for your anger. All this anger and revenge seeking will only constipate you.
5/27/2009 5:13:14 PM - honey i''m glad you weren''t taken by him, this site has been set up for women who have been and yes all is true about him, some have in writing he will pay them back and some have receipts and some have the loans notarized, he has been to court a few times from being sued and yes the way he trashed some of the women, he deserves the same back, does he belong in prison he surely does....if he gave to you then he must have felt sorry for ya.....and has he spoken to you lately, if he hasn''t he has blocked you. does it constipate me , yea right i sleep very well at night......he wants these sites taken down and we women who have put the sites up will not take them down, they will remain up
5/28/2009 7:10:55 AM - No, I am not blocked. As far as feeling sorry for me, that is not how it was and by saying he felt sorry for me contradicts what is being said about him because that would mean he DOES have feelings. Like I said before, he never took from me, never asked for anything but my frendship. I gave him my friendship and I will never take it back. Randy, if you do visit this site I hope you are doing ok. Its been a while but you are never far from my thoughts. Always here for you if ever you need to talk. By the way, this is Lisa.
5/28/2009 9:32:32 AM - the last person was right he saw you had nothing there for didn''t bother to ask you or honey you would be putting you story on this site or others how he took from you.......randy only cares for himself. he doesn''t give a dam about his wife or any other woman........his wife is in on the con and scams with him. she opened up her big mouth and said so herself to couple of the women.....so go ahead and beleive in him just don''t go crying to us when he calls you every name in the book or you have nothing left to give or help him with....even your freindship has no meaning to him
5/28/2009 10:43:15 AM - calling me a twit? why?
I talked with him for 6 years, if he wanted something from me, he would have asked and if I was draining on him, don''t you think he would have stopped talking to me. We talked...alot, and never in any of our conversations did he ask me for anything. I''m sorry for whatever happened to you, but it is not my fault and I am sorry if I don''t hate randy like you do. But that is no reason to call names.
5/28/2009 12:45:24 PM - actually, I said anger and revenge seeking causes constipation, I did not call anyone names. I do not have blinders on, I know that no one is above doing bad things. I am sure no one writing on this site is above doing bad. I am sure some of you cheated, stole, lied, used someone and even hurt someone. He never did anything wrong to me so I don''t hate him. Bash me if it makes you feel better, I can take it.
5/28/2009 12:59:09 PM - the only person i know who uses the word constipation is Hopper himself, he has used that word plenty of times in conversations.....Randy you know the rules, i can find out easily where the remarks are coming from
5/28/2009 1:04:10 PM - i don''t think she is lisa,,,,,, hi allison did randy tell you to come in here to try to get the site down it won''t work
5/28/2009 1:05:55 PM - It was not randy, my name is Lisa AKA Yellowjunerose@yahoo.com Randy does not own the word constipation.
5/28/2009 1:56:50 PM - I am not looking to get anywhere, I am where I want and need to be in New York with my family. I am just saying he never asked anything of me, at all. He was only my friend and if he sized me up like was stated and knew he could not get anything from me, then why did he continue to talk to me for six years? Seems it would have been a waste of his time if all he wanted to do was scam me.
5/28/2009 2:20:44 PM - so where was he living 6 yrs ago when you started talking to him
5/28/2009 2:22:09 PM - He was in Alaska and I met him on aol, not yahoo
5/28/2009 3:08:25 PM - under what screen name in aol, i know all his screen names have for the past 6 yrs, in aol yahoo, etc
5/28/2009 4:55:35 PM - well lisa if randy is such a good friend of yours tell him he needs to pay back all the women he borrowed money from since he promised to do that when he asked to borrow, then maybe just maybe these sites will come down, and let us know how he treats you when you ask him that. oh by the way he says he never is on line anymore which we all know is a lie
5/28/2009 6:15:43 PM - gee lisa not back with a reply, another phony, must be allison again
5/28/2009 6:17:23 PM - or is it Randy posing as a woman
5/29/2009 6:27:23 AM - To the person that said I am a phoney, I did not reply because I left for work. His name was Poetsdream on aol. As I said in my first post, I have not talked to him for some time. If he did the things you said he did, I feel bad for you. I never said he didn''t, I only said he did not do any of that to me. This is not allison or even randy. I am on yahoo, facebook and myspace under yellowjunerose. I am who I say I am and you are free to check me out. I am not trying to make light of anything that has happened to anyone, it is just all shocking to me and hard to believe this is the same person I was talking to.
5/29/2009 9:01:15 AM - well believe it, this man has done it to alot of women, from many different states, including the one he lives in now......he''s been taken to court a few times.....i know more suits are about to happen.....he is a sociopath......the man is sick
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6/15/2009 10:55:54 AM - any woman who has sent mr. hopper any money western union...please fill out the form 3949A for the irs, since mr. hopper didn''t report this money to the irs
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6/19/2009 12:01:41 PM - if you fill out the form this will get the irs to investigte for tax fraud
6/22/2009 6:38:33 PM - Any women that gives to Randy and then cries about it deserves what she gets. I can see your mostly angry at yourself. You should be. Your the idiot. Take it as a learning experience, there are a lot of men out there and shall I add women that take advantage of others. You are just showing your ass in your stupidity. When are you going to go by your so holy choir that you sing to? you dont know Christ and what he died for. Give it up. You need help chick. you think this is your personal journal. It''s not. The way you write says to me that you are in need of a therapist.
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7/17/2009 9:10:17 AM - you can also get through federal taxes, complaints have been sent about him there, he seems to forget to claim all the money he's received, irs has people like him for lunch
7/17/2009 9:14:30 AM - allison tries to play dumb, she has known all along what he has been doing, she''s just as bad as he is, they both need to be in jail, they have been running this scam for years......
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7/18/2009 2:18:56 PM - allison is just trying to save her own neck, because too many women have been seeing him for what he is and he is so close to being put in jail and she will be right along with him
7/20/2009 8:42:26 AM - they don't talk because they know things are coming to an end and we are fighting for what they took from us, Randy you just don't get it do you, you play you pay and it's costing you your freedom, and you wife is just as dirty as you are..........guilt by association and she has tripped herself up by opening her mouth
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7/24/2009 5:20:20 PM - they are worse than trailer trash
7/27/2009 6:10:59 PM - very quiet in here
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7/31/2009 2:35:17 PM - you have that right, it does really start to smell, i was told that they are very unclean to begin with
8/7/2009 6:52:57 PM - you have that right, what cory has gone through no child should be put through , it's pure abuse, from what i know randy has been very hard on the boy
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10/4/2009 10:06:15 PM - his mother should change her number so randy doesn't bother her anymore with his woes, as for him changing his, you always know he dumped another woman, that's the way he runs his cons
10/9/2009 10:28:33 PM - Randy, do you remember that one time in the woods? Do you know who this is?
10/26/2009 8:31:14 AM - i met him last yr. on yearbook...then to yahoo chat, then phone callseveryday,5&6 yrs on phone then the Big Meeting.........i feel so stupid!
can women contact thru email to talk or yahoo messenger...how do you all get together & talk??
10/26/2009 8:32:08 AM - btw, i have his new cell #
10/26/2009 12:25:06 PM - you can contact me at sweetlittlewoman812 at achoo, mostly through here we communicate or through im's in aol or yahoo
11/4/2009 8:37:01 AM - Randy someone must know you inside an out, see it's all catching up to ya told you that several times you wouldn't believe me, called me such loving names for going against you pay backs are hell and we would all love to see you in jail for along time...the rest of your life
11/8/2009 3:29:02 PM - yea he's angry again now, he left such lovely names on an im to me, he's trying to show that so called darkside, doesn't work randy, i never have been scared of you and i have never backed down, just showing me want an ass you are and that at the age of 50 you still haven't grownup.....i feel much sympathy for your mother to have to put up with a son like you
11/12/2009 10:45:43 AM - who wants to help in this man belong in jail, and made to pay restitution to all the women he took from, every last dime, plus interest on the money they lost, this man is lower than low
11/16/2009 4:45:15 PM - well ladies, our buddy is back up on plenty of fish, check it out, he still is peddling the same bs
11/18/2009 6:10:27 PM - would you want a man who lies, cheats on his wife steals from the women he befriends with false promises.....i wouldn''t even call him a man
11/23/2009 11:25:57 AM - whoever wrote that comeback on his profile i applaud you, nailed him perfectly
12/5/2009 9:02:06 PM - what is allisons name on her myspace profile?
12/23/2009 3:14:27 PM -
12/24/2009 10:13:02 PM - Oh yeah! Merry Christmas! Lol
12/28/2009 8:27:47 PM - i don''t think she is on myspace anymore unless she is going under a different name
1/1/2010 5:12:20 AM - I was taken in..words are great but actions spoke sociopath. I marked him under favorites...he kept dissapearing. wow....his email is still the at yahoo! Unless thats gone too. I am no friend of his damn it I hurt too.
1/1/2010 7:56:50 PM - is he still on pof i can''t find him there, or did he delete that one to find another dating site
1/4/2010 7:29:22 PM - he was on Pof....thats how I met him: along with a few dozen laddies. he may have been removed. I wrote PoF and reported him.
1/4/2010 7:52:57 PM - as far as I know he is still in NC. and I wrote a large post here today...it''''''''s gone now two. I not the enemy. I a hurt woman who ventured my heart and got hurt too.last incarnation as of NYE was Ravenswing27
Now, I was crying tonight, NOT over him....but over someone who's recently passed in my life a good friend. So got up to add an addendum: I was listening to acustical Gituar By Craig Chaquico...There's a Navie American for ya! I am Part Navitive as well. Regardless he Craig puts words to his acustical music...he used to play for Jefferson Starship.that good lookin gitarist? So I was reading lyrics.and listening to music. Ladies, we can be Irish, english any race...or creed....banding together makes a match stronger and it will not break.
We are a tribe of sorts are we not?
Here is one courus from the song:
The Gathering of the Tribes
Somewhere between Karma and Coincidence
Between Science and Spirituality
Is a place were we must sit down
and face a banguet of consequences
Among the Gathering of the Tribes
Think about it! why can't we come together in a band of tribes. Any state ge or she goes...I can get ID on them. Licence....etc.From my police friend.
I'm from NC, I know others must be. We from each state...BTW a friend of mine is running all crimminal info we can get on mr hopper.
I think my Karma just ran over his dogma...LOL woof woof.
1/5/2010 5:07:10 PM - Im sitting here looking at the pathetic texts he is leaving me. God how galling it must be to lose another mark. I only had contact with this man for 4 days. He underestimated my cynicism. Plus I run a foster home and have access to law enforcement sites. I didn''t mention to him I was running a background check on him these past couple of days. Girls steer clear of this one he is a predator. He swore his love to me and told me how me must have met in a different lifetime, that we would grow old together and he was a man of his word and a hard worker and he was going to take care of me. I don''t need a man to take care of me you stupid fool. He knows I have seen this site and says it''s nothing but lies and if I would only let him explain. How Im making a horrible mistake because we were made for one another. He told me how he misses his long locks of hair but it was so worth it when he donated it to locks of love. He is pathetic to think he could have someone like me. Your not man enough Randy Hopper for this women. I hope when other women read this site they will remember there inner strength and not bow to the lies and deceit this man carry''s with him. Ravenkiller
1/5/2010 5:59:28 PM - I am in agreement on both counts On the first comment...I am lucky as can be he didn''t hit my wallet. You''ve been hit hard. I do feel for you because I got hit by a preditor in 1985. he bankrupted me. on the last comment girl, can''t you block him from Iming you? He called today, saying baby I am coming to get cha. then he said my first and last name...and listened,i didn''t answer. I had my service block at least his cell. Darkravenkiller...blacksoul, deadraven....the hole thing is sad...when do you ladies get together and chat? may I ask?
1/5/2010 6:46:51 PM - i have only chatted on line with one other lady, we still talk from time to time, and also i reported him on pof also a couple of times....he'll be back on there enventually with another screen name
1/6/2010 7:59:29 PM - I have had enough of Mr Hopper myself.... I am angry and hurt I was played.I feel fortunate to have not gotten my heart hit too hard. Seriously Saddens me. I sincerely thought he was a nice guy.I know, was told the same stuff. Thank you ladies for enlightening me, before he really got to me. Funny thing is I have nothing of value, except my heart.
1/7/2010 12:08:32 PM - It is so sad to know after all this time he is still doing these things. How I feel like such a fool to have thought he had remorse and tried to change to be a better person. I sincerely believed he wanted to stop taking advantage of kind hearted women. Maybe he just is not capable of earning income in any other way because for some reason, he cannot and does not hold a real job for very long. I wonder if it is because once they do a background check or reference check, it doesn''t come back in his favor. Whatever the case, it is very disappointing to have had the faith he had it in him to be a better person. I guess he doesn''t, the devil must have him tightly in his grip. I don''t see any reason to go on believing he might be sincere with his words or that he could or would ever change. Does anyone actually have an estimated number of women this has happened to?
1/7/2010 6:54:51 PM - what would be better is to have this man stand in front of a judge and all of us testifying against him....he has destroyed and taken from so many of us and believe me i have all the receipts to prove what he has taken from me all the emails telling he will pay me back, pleading with me to give him more time.....it''s time for him to pay his dues.....with all of us there telling all the same thing who will the judge and jury believe
1/7/2010 9:09:33 PM - he was arrested in Mecklenburg county NC here are charges. thats why he''s silent. ladies now is your time to bring charges:
HOPPER,GEORGE RANDOLPH Case Number
2010CR 700008 County Code
590 County Name
709 BUNKER GLASS LN Address 2
M Date of Birth
Jan 13 1959
735E521 Trial Date
Feb 3 2010 District Court Case Process Type
C Superior Court Case Type
Defendant State Identifier
Defendant InJail Indicator
Date Case Served on Defendant
Jan 1 2010 Check Digit Number
Local Identification Number
Originating Agency Routing Identifier
Case Office Location Code
Criminal District Court
Date of Update
Jan 5 2010 Domestic Violence Charged Flag
Victims Rights Act Flag
2010CR 700008 County Code
590 Offense Sequence Number
01 Charged Offense Code
Charged Offense Type
Traffic Misdemeanor Charged Offense Description
OPERATE VEH NO INS Charged Offense Statute Number
20313A Arraigned Offense Code
Arraigned Offense Type
Traffic Misdemeanor Arraigned Offense Description
OPERATE VEH NO INS Arraigned Offense Statute Number
20313A Convicted Offense Code
Convicted Offense Type
none found Convicted Offense Description
Convicted Offense Statute Number
Called and Failed Date
Failure to Appear Date
Order for Arrest Date
Convicted Offense Class
Method of Disposition Code
Offense Disposition Date
Fine Amount whole dollars
Court Costs Amount whole dollars
Monies Paid Indicator
Monies ToBePaid Date
NonMotor Vehicle FailToComply Date
ShowCause Order Date
Probation Violation Date
MotorVehicle FailureToComply Date
Charged Offense Date
Jan 0 2 Blood Alcohol >= 0.16
1 Prior Points
District Attorney Initials
Domestic Violence Convicted Flag
ROBERTS,J,R Case Number
2010CR 700008 County Code
590 Agency Code
1/8/2010 7:17:53 PM - at least he is not near a computer have no sympathy for him either, for sure his mother will bail him out
1/10/2010 7:01:15 AM - Ladies i know you are happy he was arrested by putting this up on ws is also violating the privacy of another person and it should be taken off ws, please delete it
1/10/2010 9:23:08 AM - no i''m not talking about randy, it''s another person, the address is not his and this is invading their privacy and a court action that the person has filed against him
1/10/2010 9:25:30 AM - so please watch what you post.... we all want him stopped....
1/10/2010 7:44:32 PM - his mommy bailed him out
1/12/2010 1:10:01 PM - She did what most any Mother would do. I can't say that I fault her for that.
1/13/2010 2:15:29 PM - randy closed his account on pof jan 10th he is no longer on there
1/19/2010 8:57:19 AM - I will submit more information about my experience with this piece of **** soon, but as of this morning, says he is on the road to Colorado but at the same time told me to watch my back...kept calling me a **** over and over...think I hit a nerve..watch out you women in Colorado! P.S. Update: says it's a short trip and he'll be back...threatening me...should I report this to the police??? Sounds like more of you have more experience with him...what is he really capable of???
1/19/2010 3:11:19 PM - He obviously is not a man of his word and a compulsive lier, so why would you believe his threat? It's just a scare tactic. Best suggestion is to just stop all communication with him.
1/19/2010 4:35:54 PM - I will report to the police, although he has my home address...why do you think he''s with his wife...heard she hasn''t had contact with him in 3 months and trying to get away from him? Is someone watchin him ... I hope!!
1/19/2010 4:51:37 PM - and who on 18 is offering help to him? He deserves NOTHING from ANY woman...Get your selfesteem together woman...he doesn''t give a crap about you or anyhone but himself!!!
1/20/2010 11:43:53 AM - I know at one point and time he was offered the same help by many who truly cared about him, but after time goes on years, it is clear he has no intension of changing!! If he ever stops what he is doing, it will be a miracle! I believe he has made an effort to change, but he always slips back into his old decietful ways. I guess it is easier to take advantage of good caring people than to actually find legitimate ways to earn income. For a long time I offered help until all my financial means of helping were depleted. I had plenty of love and caring left to offer, but that is not as valuable as monetary help to him. I thought I knew him. I hoped what I read was wrong about him, but over time, I can see he is exactly as he is being protrayed here. I thought, if he is like this, then maybe my love and caring would help him change. I hoped I was important enough to him, he could and would change with my love and understanding. I am sad to say I was wrong. Obviously I was nothing special to him and certainly not worth changing for, and the same probably goes for anyone else who is not his wife. I wish I could believe otherwise, but I think the last bit of Faith I had left, has slipped through my hands. It is pretty apparent, he won''t change. I don''t know there will be anyone, or anything, besides God, who would give him the Will within himself to be a giver instead of a taker! I don''t think when he stands before God, he will hear Him say, Well done my fine warrior.... if he doesn''t change his ways, he may hear those words from satan. It is good he is still being offered help by less than a few, but don''t count on it! I think he is too far gone to actually change before his time on this earth is through.
1/21/2010 12:55:48 PM - I think he is too far gone...luckily we never met in person. He sent me videos of songs by Staind, Tangled Up in you and Believe from the CD entitled Illusion of Passion...isn''t that the truth!!! Ruined those songs for me!! I am so glad I was curious enough to google him after he said he was done, not just with me but with all women....things just didn''t add up. Even tho I consider myself a good judge of character, he''s a pro at what he does. My bad for getting suckered in, but since i am a widow, maybe he thought I was vulnerable. So happy it ended before he found out about the settlement I was about to receive. But, it would''ve been a deal breaker when i met him in person..call it the yankee in me, but i like my men with their front teeth!!! LOL. Thanks girls for keepin on his ass....he needs to go back to jail for a while sure it''s just a matter of time.
1/26/2010 10:49:23 AM - OMG...I TRULY need to listen to my sixth sense better!! It didn''''t take long for him to INSIST we meet in person...all of 2 days of emails, texts and phone calls. What he didn''''t count on???? My heart wasn''''t available for him to squash, nor my money for him to take. All I wanted from him was sex...hahahaha...joke was on me...30 seconds is NOT enough. Good luck ladies...NAIL HIS ASS TO THE WALL!!!! Allison...the wife...you let him put his hands on you & you stay??? You deserve it!!
PS....any of you hear Enigma, dance or techno...it's from me. Good Luck!!
1/26/2010 11:27:22 PM - funny....i knew randy from 1993 through 1999.....we got together, talked a lot, had intimacy, etc. he never once asked to borrow anything from me. he was mysterious about his personal life, so i can see how this all makes sense....i am glad i wasn''t victimized, though. i''d love to talk to him, just to ask a few questions. i do remember getting a call with a death threat about him. he said it was an exgirlfriend....if it was his wife, how could she be in on things? or did he really have feelings for me and she was upset about it? oh, to know the truth....this was all in virginia, by the way.
1/27/2010 9:25:33 PM - listed on yearbook.com as living in boone, nc
1/28/2010 9:54:48 AM - He may have listed Boone, but he is still in Harmony @ the same trailer.
1/28/2010 10:41:08 PM - When I first met Randy he said he lived in Lenoir, NC. He hasn''t asked me for money yet but I''m sure that request will be coming. I have suspected for some time there was something not quite right about him but I couldn''t put my finger on it. He has told me many of the things he has told all of you. I''m still talking to him but it is mostly to see if he trips himself up.
1/29/2010 12:48:31 AM - Yes,but be careful not to deny what he asks or he will make you feel you are the one with a problem, and he will drop you, or that is my experience. When I confronted him about this site and the drama he has created I saw the real Randy..oh yea, george! has he sent you poems or youtube videos yet? or pics of him, lets say ready to go, askin if you''re hungry? Say no to webcam too. Did you first meet on POF as well?
1/29/2010 11:07:16 AM - ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? DUMP HIM NOW!!!! But be prepared for the name calling...just remember...sticks & stones!! I stayed involved longer than I should have,for the same reason. He won''t trip up...he''ll just continue to use you until he''s finished. YOU be the first to end it! PS...He is STILL with his wife, regardless of what he says!!
2/1/2010 7:28:03 PM - How many different women have posted on this website? Don't think he is capable of falling in love...he's just interested in the game....how many women can he get to fall for him? Such a pathetic creature. Hope he is helping his boy celebrate his 23rd bday today..that would be a good thing.
2/3/2010 11:58:57 AM - Corey is not his son. He is Allison's child by someone else.
Randy said that she didn't really know who his Father is. The best thing Randy could ever do for Corey is to get out of his life. Corey knows nothing but abuse from him.
2/4/2010 6:33:19 PM - randy love anyone, he is only interested in taking money from women, as for corey i hope randy didn't ruin cory's birthday, happy birthday cory hope your day was filled with happiness
2/5/2010 10:52:14 AM - Does corey know anything about this whole mess? He is probably staying bc of his mother..Randy was scheduled for court on Weds., don''t think he probably showed up...hopefully he''ll screw up again and they will put his nasty ass in jail!!
2/10/2010 8:01:10 PM - you know it is so funny reading this crap. The last person who wrote that comment really has a mental problem. So baby girl what did he do to you to cause so much anger dump you, or didn''t want to have anything to do with that stinky thing you have, because first off who looks for a man on the internet pretty sad, what being face to face with a real man was hard for you. Whatever keep on slamming him and his whore wife lmao, so sad that you have to lower your self to name calling oh but you are at that lower level so go right ahead and continue, it only make you look stupid, this site is so entertaining, it is better then reading about Brad and Jolie, keep it up.
2/11/2010 5:52:06 PM - I find it hysterical that one OBVIOUS sociopath would assume that this was or is Allison. Get a life not all comments that put you in your place is Allison. But if you want to think that it is Allison, then go right ahead and think that. Yes he is a piece of s*** but to think that any woman would put up with his crap, I can''t see it. And yes I met him on line but as soon as he ask to see my breast and I said no he changed. But by what I have read you must of showed yours quite a bit for him to want to do you, lord knows how many others you have done this with. So sweetie I wouldn''t go calling people names because you are no better.
2/11/2010 10:34:11 PM - LMAO, You have no imagination, why do you always think that it is Allison on here. Do you know what would be really funny is if she has never been on this site, now that would be funny. Don''t you think. Also you people keep saying that you have all this proof of their crimes and that you know where he lives so if you have all this proof why hasn''t he been arrested yet. Sounds like a lot of crap but isn''t that what Alison would say lol.
2/14/2010 10:45:34 AM - This is getting to be too much drama at first I got so sucked into this site, but now its too much! Everyone taking hits at allison as women we should stick together and if nothing else, pray for her. Isn''t Randy the bad guy in all of this??? That is what needs to be focused on yes it has been quiet on here makes you wonder what Mr. Hopper is up to these days!!
3/5/2010 6:25:25 AM - anyone know how court went or if he showed up? since he''s still online, he can''t be in jail
3/5/2010 9:08:56 PM - A few days ago Raven One his nic on yearbook approached me, after only a few minutes of chatting with him the red flags were waving all over the place. Yeah, okay, I''m kinda pretty for a 46 year old but no one''s heart has actually stopped beating when they looked at me lol.
Then another woman messaged me indicating he''d asked to come meet her after some financial things were taken care of and why was I trying to interfere in their relationship. I had NO idea what she was talking about but after we chatted for a few minutes, it became obvious that he was trying to scam her. We decided that I''d keep talking to him a little longer and so I did throw in subtle warnings to others through ''stickers'' and comments on his profile trying to show other women he was saying the same things to who knows how many women.
Anyway, after a bit I figured it had gone on long enough and subtly wasn''t going to work so I came right out and posted a pic of Randy and his wife, Allison posted on another site along with his real name and that women should google him before talking with him. There were no accusations, no insults, nothing of the sort. The information was there if anyone wanted to look at it.
Minutes ago, I got a message from Randy on yahoo calling me the ''c'' word. really? thought he was so in love with me that he couldn''t live without his ''lil one'' and he was ''hungry'' Hey, he can call me anything he likes if it saves more women from being his prey.
3/6/2010 2:29:42 PM - There was apparently several of us in the um, hopper, all at once. Fantasies feel so amazing when they are happening but its good to pay heed to those little nagging urges. If something seems too good to be true, it usually is. Lesson learned. I''m so sorry for all the pain you guys have felt. I feel it too. Also feeling gullible. That''s my fault. I should have known better. But, I won''t let it ruin a beautiful day.
3/9/2010 8:54:56 AM - He loves the c word, actually, seems like that''s all he knows when one of us pisses him off. So lame.. Anyways, that shows me that Allison is not helping out Randy if she is warning other women about him. He needs to get a life so sad.
3/9/2010 9:36:38 PM - I wonder why he does it. If you think about it, there must be more strike outs and more unpaid effort than gain. The return on investment has got to be pretty low. There must be a psychological fix going on here...addicted to weaving stories and lies...addiction to energy...a vampire of sorts. An empty soul that feeds on others. The more he feeds, the worse it actually gets for him. Its unfortunate he does not know this. It is really Sad. Not as sad as the pain of the poor unsuspecting women who fall for him. That''''s tragic. But they did nothing wrong!!!! They will recover and move on and he will be left behind repeating a miserable cycle. Keep visiting this site and keep it in the top 10.
3/10/2010 9:30:11 PM - You poor women need to get a life and move on.For as much hate as you all possess towards this man, you could have been channeling it to happier things, like your families. Contention breeds contention. You want this in your home, your own sickness of revenge is as bad as what you accuse him of....think about it ladies. VIVIAN, grab a life or you are going to die a bitter old woman.
3/12/2010 8:32:39 AM - Yes, I believe we should all move on, but we need to keep posting to let other women out there know what he is up to. I do not think that the majority of us are out for revenge, but want to warn others what Randy is capable of. I do not hate him, but just feel sorry for such a pathetic creature...
3/12/2010 11:12:21 AM - To the 3/10/2010 9:30:11 PM poster: In recent posts, I see no hatred. The fact that you do seems to be quite telling. It is my wish that you should heal as well as all those associated in any way with this site. No one likes to be made a fool of and anger is not an inappropriate emotion. Pain and sadness caused by a man who gathers several women at once, lies to them, tells them that he loves them to manipulate them...well heck, drama begets drama. He gets only what he gives. The law of Karma will not be denied. What he gave to each in contempt, hatred and lies, he will gain 10-fold. It's just the way it is. So be it. Many blessings to you and yours.
7/27/2010 8:36:07 AM - To the comment of 531 .. wishing anybody dead is an awful thing. I can understand being hurt, but resorting to being uncaring and unfeeling is stooping to this mans level. And I know you''re much better than that.
7/28/2010 1:17:47 PM -
7/29/2010 9:31:06 AM - I have to agree with the women on this site. I to was contacted by Raven On on Myyearbook. He is still on and contacting people. Though I am smart enough now once I have an email or anything on the person I use the internet to do searches and sure enough came up with a site that gave me information on him since his email now is email@example.com. Never tried to con me. Had only spoken a few times and was totally offended that I deleted him from my friends list. lol ! But I am not done with him. I am very good a tracking and finding people and now after reading what he has done to others. I am just going to f*** with him as much as he has done to the other women.. Yes, we woman can be just as devious and mean as them and I have successfully done it several times to scum. To the point they disappear for a long time. So I have already located him on several sites and started my path of destruction on him. Don''t care if he reads this.. Now is he always going to wonder if the person he is friend requesting is me... in SHEEP CLOTHING instead. And I will make it a habit to contact every women on the site he is friends with and point them in the right direction so that they are aware of the Piece of S*** that he is. And everyone else should do the same. We can''t let these idiots just go around doing this. Damn I hate STUPID !! And he is on the TOP OF MY LIST !! Have a great day ladies !! Be careful out there and even smarter then they are and we are by far way smarter : Keep your tail tucked Randy.. Here I come..
8/9/2010 1:42:30 PM -
9/1/2012 5:21:42 PM - Randy is now on meetme.com under the name of Ravens Wing saying his real name is Randolph Burgess. He is a sick, sick man who will always use women and toss them aside once he has no further need for them. He needs to be stopped!
9/1/2012 5:23:22 PM - He''s also on MySpace.com indicating he is in Yadkinville, NC. Also using the screename Raven Wing.
1/13/2013 9:21:28 AM - totally bogus bull**** from a woman scorned...get a life hag!
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