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Guy Details for Joseph Lee Burchell

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Joseph aka Tommy is quite simply a scam artist of the worst kind, one who completely draws you in, expecting complete loyalty and fidelity on your part, all the while he's doing anything and everything that moves, whether it wears a skirt or not, and then questions YOU when you finally get that sick, sinking feeling that something is very wrong with this man and you need to get as far away from him as possible. Oh yea, and that's AFTER he has taken you for every penny he can possibly squeeze out of you, and hopefully hasn't also left you pregnant (like the approximately 8 others he has done over this last 2 years, none of which he is supporting either emotionally or financially,,,seriously, I was as shocked as you!). And he has not just left you to go to work, he has left to be with someone else he is also scamming, where do you think the money for the harley, the jewelry, the numerous trips around the globe to abuse other unsuspecting women/men, has all come from. The man has not worked an honest job in his life, it has all been yours and my hard earned money he is laying around on. He has been arrested and deported from the phillipines for selling nude pictures over the internet, pictures which he has probably demanded from you also, as well as being a suspected pedophile. He will tell you he is half Cajun, half Hawaiian, however, the truth is not even close. He spends every waking hour working over his next victim over the internet, or texting all the other irons he has in the fire over his 3-4 cell phones, all at once. If you know this man then you know all of what I say here is simple truth, his favorite phrase for all us that have been freed of this so called man's grip, is "bitter", so when you hear that word, just know that you are now among the many of us who have returned from the dark side, and can now move on with our lives, as joseph so sweetly likes to tell you to do also.

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7/21/2006 11:00:01 AM - And just another note, due to the fact that Joseph aka Tommy likes to impersonate his victims and try to obtain information from them to use against them, anyone is free to contact me, however, you will need to somehow prove who you are, and that you are in fact, NOT him, we know your games Joseph, and will not be taken in by them, and you can no longer blackmail us. Your victims will finally have a safe place to turn so that in working together, we will move mountains.

7/23/2006 2:37:56 AM - If he is so bad, why is everyone trying to track him down?? Surely you should be thanking your lucky stars that you no longer have anything to do with him. If you have a baby by him, you should have considered if you were in a permanent, loving, stable relationship before you brought a child into this world. Clearly you were not.

7/24/2006 6:34:19 PM - Joseph Burchell, aka tommyjraye, makes his victims believe that he wants to marry them and that they are in a "permanent, loving, stable relationship". He also claims not to have any children and says he only wants children with YOU. It's only after you have a child with him and he has sucked all the money he can out of you that he disappears. FYI...if women are looking for him, it's because he hits the road suddenly, leaving you with a mountain of diapers and a shit-load of debt.

7/25/2006 2:17:50 AM - This has been posted by a vindictive, sour woman - how are you Shannon? Everything said here is her point of view, and cannot be substaniated. He does not, and never has had, a criminal record in any country. If he had he would be on the sex offenders register, which anyone can check online. In point of fact, he was arrested for WORKING without the proper papers, but the charges were dropped. If he was not working while he was with you, perhaps it was because you were stupid enough to support him!! I know which I'd rather do, work or not work, given a choice. I'd be interested to know what mountains you are trying to move?

7/25/2006 4:45:24 AM - Tommy is the love of my life, we have a baby together and I know his done wrong as he has left me all alone to hold our daughter for a year but he still texts me and says he loves me and that he's coming to visit me. But he said he wanted a baby and we tried for 2 years to get me pregnant as we were engaged but as soon as i got pregnnant he convinced me to keep the baby until it was too late to change my mind. He missed the birth and i've had a breakdown

7/25/2006 2:31:09 PM - WE, and I empasize WE, Joseph, are not one woman, but many, who have supported you financially, had your babies, and, so sorry to disappoint, we are not having a breakdown. In fact, we are quite lucid, not bitter.

7/25/2006 9:22:13 PM - "He will choose you, disarm you with his words, and control you with his presence. He will delight you with his wit and his plans. He will show you a good time, but YOU will always get the bill. He will smile and deceive you, and he will scare you with his eyes. And when he is through with you, and he WILL be through with you, he will desert you and take with him your innocence and your pride. For a long time you will wonder what happened and what YOU did wrong, and if his kind comes knocking at your door, will you open it?" . . . . Without Conscience - The disturbing world of the Psychopaths among us - by Robert Hare, PhD

7/26/2006 1:11:59 PM - For goodness sake get a grip. If you were stupic enough to loose money that is your fault and your problem.... no one can make you spend money, you always have the ability to say no and the option to walk away. Your stupidity and lack of judgement hardly makes Joseph a psychopath

7/26/2006 8:32:39 PM - psychopath-sociopath, tomato-tomato,,, it goes much deeper than anything monetary joseph (aka emhamm),,, as far as us having the ability to say no, then get this straight here and now, this is all of us, your no longer victims, saying once and for all, NO ! ! The jig is up joseph

7/27/2006 8:56:16 AM - If you have sent me a message, please note the sign in name: emmhamm; there are 2 m's. If you only put one, I will not receive the message.

7/27/2006 6:17:21 PM - ok... here goes... are you currently married/engaged/living with Joseph? If so, are you supposed to be exclusive?

7/29/2006 4:54:12 PM - to emmhamm, in your previous messages, you used in fact one m in emhamm, now you're using two m's in emmhamm. Which is really which? your doings and points of view are very much like joseph's. Now THAT! is what is really interesting.

8/1/2006 9:12:16 AM - I heard a prolific statement from a well-known doctor - "We bring into our lives the kind of man we believe we deserve." Harsh as it sounds, there rings some truth. From whathas been said, this man stepped in and portrayed the idea of the man we felt we wanted. Disillusionment ensued when his true nature became apparent. I have known such a man as this - and while initially I beat myself up over my stupidity and thinking I had done something wrong - truth be told, it was never me - nor you, ladies. Bad things happen to good people all of the time. If you were/are involved wth this man - you are a victim. But you can choose not to be. By remaining emotionally connected to him - whether it be in blogs. forming 'support' groups against him, etc., you are giving him power. Make the conscious choice to not be a victim. See him for what he is, acknowledge what he has done. Forgive yourself and let go. The best revenge is to move forward in your own lives and be happy.

8/1/2006 10:07:59 AM - Dear Carami/Joseph, don't you just wish.

8/1/2006 10:19:17 AM - seeking justice and seeking revenge are oh so different joseph. revenge is what you seek when you impersonate women who dare to tell the truth about you, threaten to send compromising pictures to their work, etc, etc. the best medicine for US, is knowing that we have taken some action to let others know that you are the criminal that you are.

8/1/2006 10:20:54 AM - and one last note, joseph. i want to emphasize the US, the WE. our numbers are growing and we aren't going away.

8/1/2006 2:33:47 PM - For the record, I am not Joseph - and somewhat insulted this has been suggested. I was only making an observation - not attemtping to direct you actions. While he may be the criminal you say, you cannot change what he has done - and he obviously has no conscience. From my own experience -pain continues to fester if you keep picking at it. He is his own worste enemy already.

8/1/2006 2:56:01 PM - i'm insulted that you think what i feel is pain. you don't know me at all. you think you know who i am, but you are making an assumption. many women maintain this site and even log on to the same usernames. Furthermore, every woman's experience with this man is different. some of us are victims here, and i'm not using that term loosely. what you are suggesting is like telling a crime victims not to pursue justice and let criminals run rampant. IF YOU ARE NOT JOSEPH, then you simply don't know what you are talking about.

8/2/2006 6:41:37 AM - Contrary to what you think Carami, some of us have moved on and living happy lives now with other partners. But I do appreciate and understand where you're comeing from. I can't remember the last time pain was there but it was forgotten but the deed and events are not forgotten. I am here now because I want to know if he is stil on the loose. I think it is worse if you just let other people or women exerience the same ordeal when you know what this person is capable of doing. It's the same as turning your back on someone who needs help on the street. And I think this is the very essence of this site. He needs to learn his lesson the hard way be it behind bars or whatever. He is unconscientiously bringing out innocent children that doesnt deserve him as a father. The vicious cycle has to stop now.

8/2/2006 7:13:51 AM - I have read all the comments posted here and have to say I am a bit confused. Is this guy a criminal, if so then why aren't the police involved?

8/2/2006 8:59:12 AM - I guess I am misunderstanding too, because from what has been stated, he has indeed done some terrible things - and probably capable of doing them again, but what exactly is the crime he has committed (not morally) but punishable by law? Did he force anyone to give him money? Did he sign his name on birth certificates? Fail to show up for his own wedding ceremony? And what provoked him to blackmail from these women? Like crystalclear - why aren't he police involved if his crimes are legally punishable?

8/2/2006 9:44:01 AM - Well he has been arrested. Do an advanced search in yahoo under Joseph L Burchell. It will bring up the american Intelligence Operations, click on Cached. There it says he was actually arrested for his involvement in pornography and for being a suspected pedophile and subsequently deported. That is so serious.

8/2/2006 9:47:33 AM - So emhamm, who believes his story that he was 'actually' arrested for having the wrong papers(!) How have the intelligince operations got it so wrong...who looks silly now, it's there in black and white. Maybe everything else on here is actually TRUE!

8/2/2006 11:17:32 AM - Umm, correct me if I'm wrong, but being arrested is not the same as being tried and found guilty is it? The Phillipines is the third world, not quite the same justice system we are used to.

8/2/2006 11:20:41 AM - He was arrested inthe Philippines (i do not beleive that is american intelligence ops btw) - and deported... but not imprisoned? Not extradited by the US for prosecution? Something doesnt fit. So back to my other questions - can you sue him for abandonment of his child(ren)? Oh wait, he was? or wasn't married to the mother. Can you arrest him for accepting money from women? Did he force them to pay the bills and buy him things? ** And I really have to ask - if he is a slob, a slut, and pathetic sexually - why in the hell would anyone be involved with this guy? Now I am by no means defending this guy, but what were any of you thinking? I have dated jerks, losers, players before, but as I like to say - 'if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck...'

8/2/2006 11:28:57 AM - And I understand the intent to 'warn other women' but unless you have reason/cause to have him arrested, I don't see what this other stuff is really about. Has anyone filed charges agaisnt this man or contacted the authorities?

8/2/2006 11:49:24 AM - I have to say I agree with carami, why would anyone want to be involved with this guy if he is as bad as you say? I think that is what worries me about sites such as this... anyone can say whatever they like, and it may or may not be true

8/2/2006 12:54:49 PM - The truth is when you meet someone they don't tell you all the bad things they have done, so you get involved with someone and then find out. If these women knew at the time I'm doubtful they would have persued the relationship

8/2/2006 12:56:28 PM - And it seems to be dismissing the fact he was actually arrested. And some people are saying 'but he was never arrested'.

8/2/2006 5:13:49 PM - what's interesting to me, is that carami has now proven to be joseph burchell. we knew we could draw you out from under your rock, joseph, with a little patience. and this is hardly the forum we would choose to discuss legal issues.

8/2/2006 5:16:21 PM - oh, and being deported.... well, i think just about anybody understands that when a country throws you off their soil forever, it's kinda serious.

8/2/2006 7:58:19 PM - That's hilarious youthink I am 'Joseph Burchell.' That shows how really inane all of this has proven to be. I am not Joseph Burchell - don't even know this person. Saw the spotlight and read the comments made by whoever created the profile. I couldn't believe one man? could create such apparent havoc and apparently force half of the world population into relationships with him. Whatever happend to protected sex or saying NO to premarital sex. Were these women too young to have taken sex ed in school? This is too amusing - and sadly, at your expense.

8/2/2006 11:38:27 PM - Carami - don't worry too much that you are being accused of being "Joseph Burchell", you aren't the first, and I will probably be the next! That in itself makes the author of the comments look a little unbalanced. I look at this site from time to time because a bitter ex posted a profile of my partner which was grossly exaggerated. I understand the need to 'let off steam' when a break up happens, but am not sure this is the way. I do not understand how this guy could have done all the things he is accused of, given that he is lousy sexually, a complete slob and someone who would never do anything to help anyone. Why would anyone continue to date such a man, if all the things are true? Sadly I feel, as with many profiles on this site, that many of the things which are being said here are not represented fairly.

8/3/2006 7:30:49 AM - I'm not worried about her thinking I am 'Joseph,' I just find it interesting that anyone who posts a comment contrary to what the profile has stated or asks poignant questions which apparently cannot be answered - then they MUST BE JOSEPH!!! (Funny, I thought REBUTTAL meant this was the forum for stating a differnece of opinion...) Amusing, really. ** I might add that being 'arrested' is no the same as being 'convicted' of a crime. I don't seem to see anything documenting this aspect of 'Joseph's' incident in the philippines. As for discussing legal issues - you have addressed just about everything else from hygiene to his sexual ineptness. You are actually going to draw the line at legal issues? Really now. You need to get a life. And I am going to get back to my own as this is all becoming redundant.

8/3/2006 9:39:27 AM - First of, let me state that I am not this 'Joseph'... not that that is going to do any good by the looks of things... I followed the suggestion of doing some research and came up with an article dated November 12, 2002 by CanWest Interactive, a division of CanWest Global Communications Corp, which clearly states why this man has been deported from the Philippines. I quote: 'Domingo said Burchell would be deported for being an overstaying tourist, noting that the foreigner has not extended his visa since he arrived in October 1996'. While this is indeed a violation of immigration law it is hardly in the same league as being tried and convicted of the heinous crimes this man has been so eagerly accused of on this site. Whatever happened to 'innocent until proven guilty'!?

8/3/2006 9:42:23 AM - and by 'proven' I mean the kind of proof that would hold up in a court of law... not mere hearsay

8/3/2006 4:16:41 PM - you are right mayia/carami/crystalclear. what was i thinking? joseph burchell could never pull off talking to himself on the internet. why, he's only A PROFESSIONAL INTERNET ROMANCE SCAM ARTIST. then, there's something else. joseph just doesn't use such good grammar. maybe he needs a "literary assistant"...someone like ALLISON JAYNE WILDING. NOW, THERE'S A THOUGHT!

8/3/2006 4:22:07 PM - oneofsomany? If you are talking of Allison, then whilst i was in a relationship with joseph I found her number on his phone, he tried to tell me she was really old like 40 and he didn't find her attractive and she had kids the same age as me.

8/3/2006 4:28:45 PM - Let me do a quote now: 'Intelligience Operations': "Joseph L Burchell, an American International, who was arrested on November 11th 2002, for involvement in pornography and peddling sex through the internet as well as being a suspected pedophille was deported on February 24th 2003.

8/4/2006 12:30:00 AM - OOOh - first I'm Joseph, now I'm Allison, who will I be tomorrow, I wonder?

8/4/2006 6:58:22 AM - No, apparently I'm Joseph! (although I just checked and I haven't grown a penis...). And Allison is my favorite writer.. uhm... writer of english literature..? What the FX?

8/4/2006 7:05:53 AM - I have to say my boyfriend and I are thinking os submitting this to Hollywood. This is becoming insanely funny. Terribly sad - for those of you (obviously 'oneofsomany' being his largest fan) - who have been hurt(?)or rather 'victimized' by this man. But I have to ask -- he demanded nude pics? Really? And you didn't say 'Hell No?' what is a matter with you women. You posed for nude pics (you have to be kidding me), engaged in unprotected sex (need I point out that you have each slept with everyone he ever has...), became pregnant - and made the choice to keep the child - based on promises from a man - who asked you to pose nude? Is a slob and lousy in bed? What the hell were you thinking. And you gave him money too?

8/4/2006 7:06:31 AM - From what has been said - He was an opportunist, but given that you succumbed to this man's every whim with little in return - need I say more? Except you need to stop whining. Really. The desperation is beginning to appear pathetic. And no, this isn't Joseph - but I am sure whatever you want to believe. Just like you apparently believe everything you read without questioning it. Idiots.

8/4/2006 9:59:56 AM - This is such an amusing site. Chill everyone. Knowing joseph, I'm sure he's rolling in laughter for the intensity of emotions poured out in this rebuttal. As for me, I rest my case. One can only comprehend better and understand what one person went through if you were actually in their shoes at that time. Have good lives everyone.

8/4/2006 10:36:46 AM - let me say for those of you who can't read that oneofohsomany is more than one woman and carami is probably joseph burchell. joseph burchell is a professional con artist and loves to impersonate women in an attempt to make those women who dare stand up against him and proclaim who he really is feel crazy. the thing that he just can't seem to get a grasp of is that he no longer controls us and it just won't work. no rebuttal joseph will deter US, and i want to again emphasize the US. also for the record, notice that this site has been viewed 555 times. most of that has been Joseph Burchell, which reveals his controlling nature and how he reacts to being out of control. i'm sure, joseph, that you will have some remark to make, but please, make it pithy. oh, "pithy" is in the dictionary in case you don't know the meaning.

8/4/2006 1:49:58 PM - Hey make up your mind, first I'm Joseph, then I'm Allison (whoever she is... where did she come in???) Now Carami is Joseph! I think the number of times this site has been viewed is down to me - this is great.... better than daytime TV!

8/7/2006 4:31:15 AM - As my friend stated earlier, there are more than one of us using the sign on of oneofohsomany, hence, the name, and I am one of the many also and have something I would like to add. First off, you, joseph and/or jayne, using whichever sign ons you are using, need to stop trying to re-victimize these people, you have put them through enough and those of us that have the power over you now are doing everything possible to make sure you are stopped. For whoever is saying that people need to get on with their lives, if you are so tough and so over it all, then why in the world are you even looking this persons name up and getting involved in the first place, morbid curiosity?

8/7/2006 4:33:20 AM - If you don't have something positive to contibute, then go crawl back in your hole, right where joseph likes all his victims to hide. Those of us who have come up for aire are "moving on" as you say (funny, one of his favorite lines, ironic? I doubt it), we refuse to stand by and watch one more innocent person be taken in by this monster, so deal with it!

8/7/2006 4:34:29 AM - **since you can only enter a few words at a time here, please bear with me as there will be many entries, but this is important**

8/7/2006 4:37:23 AM - Since joseph obviously monitors this on a more than regualr basis, I have something to say to him also . . . You think you are the big bad wolf, but just like him, allyou are is full of hot air. Just an overgrown school yard bully who likes to bow out his chest and bark demands at the other kids. Well guess what? You've finally met some new kids who aren't scared by your bullying, we are not going away just because all the past ones did because you counted on thier shame in not telling their stories, and that is how you have succeeded, till now that is. This is it joseph, YOUR TIME HAS COME.

8/7/2006 4:40:47 AM - The only reason you are such a bully is because you yourself are so weak, so deeply scarred and scared of your own shadow that you have to puff yourself up and act like the big man, to build yourself up because you are in reality, simply an empty shell, a nothing, a soul-less being, looking to suck the life and spirit out of those around you because you have none of these qualities, and with absolutely no regard for the cost to your victims.

8/7/2006 4:43:25 AM - Something went terribly wrong with you a long time ago and now your entire existance is spent preying on the innocent, whose only error was to trust, sucking all you can from everyone else because you have CHOSEN to remain a victim yourself. Refusing to be a real man by acknowledging whatever has happened to you, facing it head on, as we are you, and living an honest, decent, non-predatory life, like any real man would do.

8/7/2006 4:46:21 AM - It may not be too late joseph, the choice is yours, continue your leacherous existance, or finally become a real man, the man you tried to sell to all of us, the man you've always so desperately dreamt of being, but never bothered to work at becoming. With all the effort you put into your scams, you've proven you have the skills and drive, but do you have the want to be that man? Stop pointing fingers at the rest of the world for what you have become. You have the power to be a real man, why don't you do something right for once?

8/7/2006 4:48:01 AM - Maybe then you can sleep peacefully at night as the rest of us are now able to do since we erased you from our worlds. The world owes you nothing joseph, it is YOU that now owes the world for what you have wrought and the world will exact it's justice, mark my words.

8/7/2006 3:14:43 PM - me and tommy were together for a very long time. we we're engaged. i loved him. he was everything. i was faithful and loyal to him. i trusted him. in the early stages he was wonderful, loving and thoughtful. that soon changed. months and months down the line. i don't know why i stayed with him for so long. he started to turn into a monster. be inconsiderate, arragont, selfish, cruel. i thought i could change him. he knew how to play with my emotions. he surprised me when he wanted us to try for a baby. i felt special. i realise now that was just an excuse for him not to wear a condom. we have a child now. and it saddens that my child is missing out on having their father. he doesn't support our child. im so hurt to learn that he lied. finding all this out is so hard to swallow. im in shock. i can't believe what he has done to me. i should have have got out while i could when i caught an STI from him. i was in denial. im so thankful that our child was born healthy.

8/7/2006 3:59:59 PM - toffeepie, I'm extremley concerned about what you have said, as I have had unprotected sex with this man also(we were in a longterm relationship)but have never had a checkup. So it's likely now that I have got what he has passed around and now i'm terrified it's really serious, what exactly did he pass on? I hope you find the strentgh and I know it must be very hard for you. What's your age? I hope you have family and friends around to support you. If not we are all here, god bless

8/7/2006 5:20:32 PM - i also have a child with this man and to my knowledge he has at least 6 others, several born within this year. he supports none of them. i used to think he was just selfish. now i realize that he can't even support himself. he has women doing that for him. and for the idiot who keeps coming on here saying "why didn't you use a condom" and "no one forced you" etc, etc, i say to you that joseph burchell led me to believe that he has no children and wanted me to be his wife and that he wanted us to have a child. he refused to wear a condom and was insulted by the idea of birth control.

8/7/2006 7:02:57 PM - Ladies, please take my word for it, have yourself checked! Have you heard of HPV? It is the only sexually transmitted virus that can turn into cancer if you don't have yourself checked on a regular basis, at least once every 6 months. I am having to go in for surgery as we speak to try to cut out the cells that wil not go away that will eventually turn to cervical cancer. This is after being with joseph, unprotected because HE refused to use protection, offended at even the thought because he was SOenn love with me, how could I even question his intentions and/or sexual history. I KNOW this disease was given to me from him since I had not had any problems like this before in my life, and had not been with another man for years prior to being with him, so don't fool yourself, don't hide your head in the sand, go get yourselves checked, you have ALL been exposed to this!

8/8/2006 1:08:24 AM - i caught genitial herpes from tommy. im clean now. and so thankful. could babes please contact me. we both have children by tommy. and its doubtful that he supports your baby too. your baby and my baby are brother and sister or sisters. that is important. for them to know who there family is and stick together. especialy when their father doesn't give a toss. its very doubtful that both our babies will get to know their dad. and his side of the family as we all know he likes to keep hidden. siblings should come strong and look out for one another.

8/8/2006 1:15:26 AM - now i realise. we've all had unprotected sex with tommy. he refuses to always wear a condom. he only cares about his sexual needs. he'll come up with the line, i want to try for a baby. or if not that, he loves you and only you and sees no need for protection. or if you really love him, you'll have unprotected sex with him. he has his one liners and his ways of drawing you in. he's a dreamer. all talk. i would get yourself checked out. and don't have sex with him again.

8/8/2006 1:25:22 AM - also now i realise. i don't want to specify my age on here. i don't want you to think im a slut or anything cause i've dated and slept with a guy so much older than me. but i'll tell you im under 25. my family have been a great support in helping me raise my baby. friends too. i wish tommy would support his baby too. and be in our babies life but i don't seem it happening. it brakes my heart from all the things he told me and how he planned our future. it was meant to be perfect. he is so evil. a devious creature. for what he has done. not just to me. but to many others too. its the children that he is bringing into the world who are the ones who suffer. its mentally damaging to not have your father around. amongst other things. all of our babies from him should unite and love on another.

8/8/2006 11:47:24 AM - Uhm, 'toffiepie,' you might want to do some reading on genital herpes - but if you indeed contract this disease - THERE IS NO CURE. Herpes can be treated and managed, but never cured. You carry the risk of transmitting to any partners you may come in sexual contact with so you may want to re-address this with your physician if you have actually contracted this disease.

8/8/2006 11:52:23 AM - And I might be considered the 'idiot' who keeps saying "why didn't you use a condom," but please note that I do not have a child by this man nor do I have an STD. So who - exaactly - is the idiot? Youladies need to get a grip and accept some responsibility for your own choices - albeit made under 'extenuating circumstances - love, was it? - but nonetheless choices made by YOU.

8/8/2006 3:32:59 PM - no offense carami. but you are an idiot!! if you was involved with this guy. and he did to you what he has done to us. you wouldn't be talking like you are. you are clueless and don't know nothing!! here's an idea. why don't you date him. lets see how smug you are when he fucks off with your money, leaves you in debt and holding the baby!

8/8/2006 4:15:51 PM - Dear "carami" also know as Jayne his so called "business manager" but in actuality his literal partner in crime, the reason you speak as you do is because he refuses to touch you in the first place, I beleive the words I heard him say about you are that you are in fact, (excuse the language but these are HIS words)"completely unfuckable", and actually, that makes you one of the lucky ones here, so back the hell off and stop trying to tell these people how they feel and what they've experienced. The damm has burst and no finger in your little dyke can fix the mess you and he have created now, so brace yourselves, because you are in this as deep as him, just remember, where you two are heading, don't bend over for the soap!

8/8/2006 4:33:06 PM - yes, i agree with toffeepie. you are an idiot carami. either you are joseph burchell or you are the stupidist woman on the face of the earth. go to www.fraudaid.com girls and you will read all about con artists. the description fits joseph burchell perfectly. and what carami is doing is exactly what joseph burchell would want: trying to make us all believe that it's OUR fault. FUCK OFF CARAMI.

8/9/2006 2:38:16 AM - To Carami fuck off and go back where you came from...run back to daddy joseph and get more lessons from the asshole on rebutts. I'm sure you're getting plenty of lessons from him...Joseph is the most callous, foul-mouthed good-for- nothing scum of the scum of this earth...that I've ever had the misfortune of meeting. And accept that wether you like it or not.

8/9/2006 4:43:17 AM - tommy aka joseph is a stinking filthy liar. he'll make you believe you are the only one and picture with you how brilliant your future will be. once he knows what you want out of life and the relationship. he'll use that to draw you in. once he's got you right where he wants you he'll start to slowly introduce other plans he has for you. sexual involvement. first it'l start out innocent, involving just the two of you then he'll make you into to his personal whore and make a prostitute out of you, make you do things for other men without protection. he'll led you to believe that you'd be doing it for the both of you. then when things go wrong in the relationship, he'll blackmail you somehow and make you feel worthless and crazy.

8/9/2006 5:02:54 AM - tommys dick to should be cut off!! sorry to be so vague and blunt. but he is only passing around STD's and making babies who he'll won't have anything to do with. he is an abuser. in all forms imaginable. he goes on about how great he is and how he is the best at everything. but the truth is tommy. your a piece of shit! lowest of the low. you can't even be classed as a man! even a dog is so much better than you. your the one who'll never ever be happy!! at least we have our babies. that is so much more precious than your stinking money! and your so called great life. your missing out big time. your not good enough to be anyone's father. the more i think about it. the more i know thats true. you can't handle anything. you can't handle a stable relationship and you can't handle raising your own babies. you can't even handle making your own money. i hope you realise where you heading. you'll feel it. you'll know what its like to suffer. just you wait.

8/9/2006 5:12:19 AM - just face it. tommy. your a crap boyfriend. a rubbist fiance. shit in bed and a lousy father. be warned anyone if your currently in a so called relationship with this man. get out while you can! and if you think if you have baby with him he'll change. think again! you'll only catch something. he DOESN'T CARE ABOUT NOONE BUT HIMSELF AND WHAT HE WANTS. he is a disease. don't believe anything that comes from his filthy diseased invested mouth. he is a liar. he'll lie and lie again. its what he's good at. he isn't a nice person. your dreams will turn into nightmares.

8/9/2006 6:25:11 AM - i can't stress enough how big a LOSER this guy is. it is revolting what he does to women. and to children. he's a sex freak! sex mad. sex lunatic. he spends all of his time on the internet or texting. he's a pervert. and he is not right in the head. he is a weirdo. and i can't believe this is what my child has for a father. im so ashamed that i was ever involved with him. being with him was the worst mistake i've ever made.

8/9/2006 7:37:01 AM - Ladies (?) - you can keep calling me Joseph or Jayne or John Wayne for that matter but it doesn't alter the fact that all I have asked is whether or not you acknowledged your own responsibility in what happened. A relationship involves at least two people. One of you stated that all of you had 'erased' him from your worlds, but apparently this is not true and the vehemence continues - rather forcefully I might add. Every relationship involves great risk and apparently this one cost each of you more emotionally and financially than you may have bargained for (hence the word 'rick') but it's called life.

8/9/2006 8:41:28 AM - um. yeah its our fault too. our fault for lieing to ourselves. cheating on ourselves. getting ourselves pregnant. leaving ourselves to be with someone else. running off with our money. its all down to us! we are to blame. of course we are. tommy is a saint and can't do no wrong! he's just absolutely fantastic. isn't he, just! our king tommy. oh great thou art tommy.

8/9/2006 8:50:25 AM - listen to this and listen good carami. life isn't about being abused my the person you love and who you thought loved you. idiot. life is about getting through it. working and earning. living. looking after yourself and your loved ones. yes life can be hard and we all make mistakes. but that gives no one the right to treat people how tommy has treated people. can't you see or are you simply thick! tommy is a monster. you are clueless. you obviously don't know the real tommy and what he is capable of cause if you did you wouldn't have a leg to stand on. trying to justify his sick actions. theres no excuse. he is pitiful. a joke of the human race. and when you realise that shut up and accept that he is a bastard and a filthy one and that.

8/9/2006 8:50:39 AM - listen to this and listen good carami. life isn't about being abused my the person you love and who you thought loved you. idiot. life is about getting through it. working and earning. living. looking after yourself and your loved ones. yes life can be hard and we all make mistakes. but that gives no one the right to treat people how tommy has treated people. can't you see or are you simply thick! tommy is a monster. you are clueless. you obviously don't know the real tommy and what he is capable of cause if you did you wouldn't have a leg to stand on. trying to justify his sick actions. theres no excuse. he is pitiful. a joke of the human race. and when you realise that shut up and accept that he is a bastard and a filthy one at that.

8/9/2006 8:50:42 AM - listen to this and listen good carami. life isn't about being abused my the person you love and who you thought loved you. idiot. life is about getting through it. working and earning. living. looking after yourself and your loved ones. yes life can be hard and we all make mistakes. but that gives no one the right to treat people how tommy has treated people. can't you see or are you simply thick! tommy is a monster. you are clueless. you obviously don't know the real tommy and what he is capable of cause if you did you wouldn't have a leg to stand on. trying to justify his sick actions. theres no excuse. he is pitiful. a joke of the human race. and when you realise that shut up and accept that he is a bastard and a filthy one at that.

8/9/2006 9:01:57 AM - what are you carami. his mother. is that why you think your so right. tommy's right and we are to blame for what he has done to us. your making a fool out of yourself. you don't know what its like to feel pain, hurt in so many ways. relationship is a two way thing. its a shame tommy never knew that. he doesn't work at a relationship. once he's bored he fucks off. or once he's got your money. and slept with you. its all good on his part. he doesn't have a brain and by the looks of things neither do you. you both need your head examined. heartless the pair of you. and you are only looking at what we've apparenlty done wrong. take a look at the facts to what he has done. and look again. when are you going to realise tommy raye aka joseph burchell is a scumbag!

8/9/2006 9:17:11 AM - Toffeepie- what are you? A teenager? Had you read my previous comments you might have actually taken note that I am not defending anyone nor am I assigning blame. I don't know this man nor do I have to know him to understand betrayal and disappointment. It happens to everybody, I mean everybody. He is of questionable character and has apparently managed to hurt many, many people. (Yes, I can read, too.) But you - along with all these women - made conscious decisions to do things and now have to live with the result of those decisions. You are not going to be happy nor complete in your life until you get past your issues with this person. You shouldn't allow it to affect your child's life. There are single mothers, single parents, all over the world. As for the financial loss - I have been there too. It's all part of life - people aren't always what they appear to be. Rise above all of this and be the best person you can be for yourself and your baby.

8/9/2006 10:20:27 AM - i have read your previous comments carami. why else would i have to say what i did. if you hadn't said the things you did then there would be no need to say something. and you did point your finger and stick up for tommy. read what you wrote again. and no im not a teenager. im between 18 and 25. but you do need to realise that i've been hurt, broken hearted. and messed with. and has for putting this behind me. i can't just drop it like that! i have a child with this man. and i have a constant reminder of what he has done to both me and my child. its not acceptable. he needs a taste of his own medicine. he thinks he can do this to me. to mine and his child. he can think again.

8/9/2006 10:32:50 AM - i'd never ever in a million years thought he was capable of doing things like this. you'd have thought that his bad relations with his father would have made him to want to be the opposite, prove and be determined to do a better job than his father did. he can't even do the simplest thing and give his children the decent upbringing they deserve by giving us mothers some of his earnings to put towards our babies lives. and no tommy we aren't JUST after yours and or your families money. like you constantly like to remind us of. its what every father does for there offspring. they provide for them and are supposed to help in raising them too.

8/9/2006 10:39:42 AM - but you see. tommy only cares about his dick. and money. sex and money. thats all he'll ever know. and if there was any special woman in his life, it'd be betty boop. she is the true one that tommy loves. shame she's a fictional character. but poor poor her if she was alive and was dating tommy. if she had any sense which im she would have. she'd have the abiltiy to smell a rat and wouldn't give him a second glance. which im sure we all should have done when we first met him. if only we knew what was to come. if only.

8/9/2006 10:48:37 AM - Dear(?)carami, if as you say you don't even know this man,then why in the HELL are you here harassing those of us who do know this clown? Stop trying to change the subject, turn things around on the actual victims here, and act all high and mighty, you OBVIOUSLY know or are this man, so either contribute something positive, or stay the hell off this site as we are here to support one another, and especially ALL the children this man has sired, note I say sired, because father doesn't even enter the picture here, his 12 seconds worth of contribution (read-sperm donor, no more) do not qualify as fatherhood in any way shape or form.

8/9/2006 11:04:34 AM - My name is Shannon, and I am assuming I am the same Shannon Joseph named early on in this site, even though, with the number of women this guy has scammed, there are more than likely numerous by my name out there. What prompted me to this site was the fact that after 4 blissful months of not having to hear from this whack job, I started getting harassing/threatening phone calls from him out of the blue (I will be HAPPY to share the tapes of his calls with anyone who would like to hear his TRUE nature, just contact me and I will gladly give you my phone number).

8/9/2006 11:09:14 AM - Despite the fact the I feel incredibly fortunate to have not have gotten pregnant by this ego-maniacal, mentally unstable jerk, I was still scammed for 10's of thousands of dollars, money I didn't have to give in the first place, but money he was happy to take from me AND my mother, and then have to nerve to demand more and more. He will NEVER be satisfied, either sexually, mentally, and especially financially, it is NEVER enough for him. He is nothing more than a man-whore, and not even a good one at that!

8/9/2006 11:19:48 AM - I WILL NOT be terrorized by you joseph/tommy/whothehellever, you hold no power over me or any of these other women any more.Karma is a powerful thing. We all went into this with the best of intentions, and that is what we will eventually get back from life. You on the other hand, well, we all know what fate you have created for yourself hun, may god have mercy on your soul, heaven knows you are going to need all the help you can get where you are going.

8/9/2006 11:28:10 AM - shannonb. i'd be glad to listen. not sure what i'd do once i've listened to them. but seeing as he is the biolical (i think thats how you spell it) father of my baby. i think its important to know on all levels he is capable off. after all my baby will want to look for him one day. i need to know whether i should or not.

8/9/2006 12:22:16 PM - and i have to say amen! to where tommy is heading. tommy may think he's the best man. great even. but under the surface he is pure evil. and evil people end up somewhere torturous and can't escape. you need help. tommy. this is serious. look at how many women you've let down. i was stupid for trusting you. but you are more stupid. more stupid for being a simple jerk. its true. your nothing more than a male slut.

8/9/2006 5:12:36 PM - Carami is joseph burchell. he has no conscience. he is a sociopath and a pedophile. do not let your children near him.

8/10/2006 2:18:38 AM - id just like to make a correction. it wasn't genital herpes i caught from tommy. it was genital warts. i got confused to which one was which. and i am clean now. i know for certain that i caught them from tommy cause he was the only person i was sleeping with when we were together. but as i said i was in denial at the time. but i was stupid enough to believe his lies and continue in having unprotected sex with him. once they had cleared.

8/10/2006 4:27:00 AM - babes? are you positive that tommy is a pedophile? i know he isn't a nice person and does bad things. but a pedophile is one thing i'd never imagine him to be? it can't be true. can it?

8/10/2006 5:22:55 AM - and on another note. when i first met tommy. and we started dating. i couldn't believe my luck. i thought i had struck gold and was the luckiest girl alive to find such a wonderful man. who really cared about me. i thought he was all that. good looking, great body. he had the car, a good job, his own place. he was sweet and charming. he made me feel really special. a bit confused to when he could of had any woman he wanted and he chose to be with me. little did i know what he really had in store. and now his true colours have shown through.

8/10/2006 5:35:45 AM - i suppose you can never trust a guy who goes commando (doesn't wear boxers or any form of underpants). and has so many phone numbers. moves from country to country and uses several names. his only form of communication is through text. or email. he'l lie about how he can't afford to call. and what not. but thinking about it now. the signs were there. that he isn't trust worthy. i don't know what it is. but there is definelty something about him that keeps you hooked. then we all know what happens next. once he's got what he wants. he'll leave you standing in the rain. without a coat.

8/10/2006 1:58:41 PM - and thats another thing tommy what exactly are you apart from the fact that your a selfish inconsiderate low life dirt bag. you told me you was half cajun and half hawaiian. and i actually believed you. man. i bet you don't even know what race you are. what you just woke up and decided to be hawaiian. because you can't face the fact what you really are? which i believe in actuality is half black and half creole! you are a hyporite!

8/14/2006 3:25:30 AM - i cannot believe this. he has disappeared again. i do know that.

8/14/2006 11:06:53 AM - joseph lee collins burchell is indeed the lowest of the lowest scum of scums on this earth. i too was his victim and i only realized this after i had him deported and deportation was the tactic we employed just to get him out of the Bicutan (Philippines) detention center where he stayed for since november 11, 2002 up to february 25, 2006. He has sweet-talked me into believing that he was serious in the relationship he had with me. All the while he was having 2 or 3 other relationships at the same time. One girl even had the gall and audacity to introduce herself as his bestfriend of 3 yrs., then i found out they have a kid. This girl worked with me on his release from detention, i rode in her car and told her stories about joseph and me. i even asked her point blank if they have or had a relationship and she flat out denied. To think we were both Filipinas. To say that i was used and duped and milked for my money is an understatement for what Joseph and this girl did to me.

8/14/2006 11:09:14 AM - i'm sorry there was a mistake in my earlier comment... joseph stayed in Bicutan from november 11, 2002 to february 25, 2003. Actually his first week was in the Intramuros detention center, then he was transferred to Bicutan. my apologies...

8/15/2006 6:47:14 AM - justtosee. you should believe this. tommy as i knew him by. joseph by what everybody else seemed to know him by. is a nasty revolting disgusting piece of shit. and raspberry_glace04, that fowl mouthed diseased so called (man??) left me without notice! one minute he was here. the next nothing. then he was there. but in another country. he lied to me. about everything. as im recently finding out. he wanted a baby with me. he has a baby with me and now where the heck is he?? no one seems to know. and now im a single mother. when we we're supposed to get married and have more babies. the selfish lieing cunt. he's a deciever. a mind game player. and so up his own ass. i hate him! hate him with all my heart! how dare he abuse my emotions, my future like this. i've never ever been so hurt, so betrayed and so used in my entire life by anyone and as especially by the one person i trusted and loved i can't believe there are still more women coming from under the rock.

8/15/2006 6:57:01 AM - he must have an army of babies and children. my baby being apart of that army. i wouldn't have a clue what to tell her when she ask's after daddy. thats one moment im not looking forward to. he's left me to pick up the pieces. all the while he's all merry and grand and without a care in the world. he has no concincous and thinks he is the victim. he told me all his ex girlfriends are only after his and his families money. i realise that its not his money but their money and they want it back. no wander he changes his names and moves from country to country weeks at a time. what a life. he must feel so low and shit deep inside he has to make sure other people have ruined lives too

8/15/2006 7:02:53 AM - i suggest anyone trying to search for him or look for him. give up. he is not worth it. he's not worthy of your time or your effort. as i have just told myself recently. you'll find that it is always you who does the work, does the chasing. and when you don't bother with him thats when you here from him. cause he likes to be in control and its you who has to make the effort for him. what a waste of space. someone who blatantly doesn't give a shit about you. probably shagging the next unaware poor poor girl/woman.

8/15/2006 7:10:06 AM - i suggest shut him off. and out of your life. if he comes back looking for more. it'll only end up worse the second/third/forth/fifth/hundreth time. believe me on that one. if only someone had warned me about the real him in the beggining. i would have done things alot differently. but i suppose one thing good did come good out of our relationship and that was our baby. she don't need that scunk! she has me! and i'll be a heck of a lot better parent then he ever could. at least i can handle that job! she is better off without him. he'll only abuse her. and damage her mentally. i'm protecting her from that monster!

8/15/2006 12:52:26 PM - Yes, he introduces himself as "Tommy J. Raye". Unfortunately for him i saw his passport with his real name on it. Yes, he has a lot of kids here in the Philippines, around 4 that i know of at that time. Yes, he even gave me trichomonas vaginitis, an STD, he got from the girl who had him arrested by the immigration agent thru entrapment. He also got money from this girl, had her buy him foodstuff and medication, "borrowed" her cellphone then refused to return it by saying he lost it. We had to give money to this girl and a new cellphone so he'd get into an amicable settlement, so we could have him deported. All these offenses he denies vehemently, saying all these girls are just "BITTER" because he doesnt want to marry then anymore. What a scoundrel!!! your babies are better off not knowing about it because there is nothing they would be prove of with this man.

8/15/2006 12:56:08 PM - if you want to know more, do a google or yahoo search for joseph burchell and you'll see an open letter to a newspaper here sent by another unknowing girl named julie, who met him at eharmony.com, with whom he has another kid and who he just left for naught and contacted only now to deny all that she has found out about him. yes, this girl is still under his spell. pity her.

8/15/2006 3:10:27 PM - Raspberry_glace04 can you explain further what you mean. Why was he deported, you say this was the tactic you went for, was this to prevent him going to prison? If so what exactly were the charges

8/15/2006 5:43:56 PM - of course he'll deny. he does no wrong. according to him. i found out things, asked him, he'd tell me a story and the fact is that it was all untrue! why would julie take him back? he told me she was a mad hatter and that she was just after his and his families money. and that teh baby wasn't his. he said she claims that three other men are the father too. so whats wrong with that picture. why say all those bad things only to go back to that person. and julie should learn from the first time, once he's left you once. he'll leave you again. and maybe holding another baby.

8/15/2006 5:56:17 PM - i've taken him back too many times to count. but no more. i'll never let him back in. my heart is already shattered to pieces. im an emotional wreak. i should of never NEVER have listened to a word that tommy said. not one word. all this is extremely upsetting. too much to bare. i feel down and cold and blue. and heartbroken. why has he done this to me? i can't stop crying until my eyes are red roar. and all i feel like doing is laying down. which i can't with mini me about crawling. i feel lost.

8/15/2006 6:42:59 PM - it is really unfornate that some of YOU are still living under the spell of Joseph Burchell. I am not after joseph's money. in fact, i gave joseph money because like all of you, we were engaged to be married and he was supposed to move back to the states to live with me. joseph burchell gave me hell after that letter and now, thanks to the fact that you girls still don't get it and have brought my name up on this site and forced me to reply,he will probably start giving me hell again. it would be a good idea from now on for everyone to stick with user names and pleas don't use the names of other victims on this site again.

8/16/2006 4:20:15 AM - julie. me personally. i shouldn't have wrote what tommy said about you. i should have kept that to myself. and im sorry. i apolise from my heart. tommy is a liar and i know for a fact that all the things he said about you was plain lies. just like the rest of us. you are a victim. and we should stick together. i don't want to shame anyone but tommy himself. im sure you were left heartbroken just like the rest of us. i've been trying to contact you myself. because we both have babies with tommy. hopefully our babies will get to know one another as they are family.

8/16/2006 4:50:50 AM - also julie. please don't feel like we are attacking you. well at least im not. im just saying from personal experience i wouldn't take tommy back! not even now we have a baby. he's broken my heart too many times. and you, me, all of us are too good for him. he shoudn't have a girlfriend, fiance, wife because he hasn't a clue how to look after one. and has for babies he deserves none. i know he is the father of your baby as he is the father of mine but we will both find a loving man who will look after both you and baby. like you deserve. i know it won't be the man who we would all like it to be. but tommy will never settle down and be faithful. and i want to say that im here for you.

8/16/2006 4:51:14 AM - also julie. please don't feel like we are attacking you. well at least im not. im just saying from personal experience i wouldn't take tommy back! not even now we have a baby. he's broken my heart too many times. and you, me, all of us are too good for him. he shoudn't have a girlfriend, fiance, wife because he hasn't a clue how to look after one. and has for babies he deserves none. i know he is the father of your baby as he is the father of mine but we will both find a loving man who will look after both you and baby. like you deserve. i know it won't be the man who we would all like it to be. but tommy will never settle down and be faithful. and i want to say that im here for you.

8/16/2006 5:16:10 AM - to julie, i'm sorry i mentioned your first name, but it was the name in the letter printed in the newspaper. i didn't even know if it was your real name at that time. i also want to make it clear that i am not attacking you, there is no need to attack anyone, even those still under joseph's spell. he is really good at what he does, fooling women and asking them for money! heck that's how he makes his living! so the women still under his spell, are to be pitied, to say the least because i'm sure their families and friends who can see through joseph have already warned them sufficiently, just like what mine did, but like me back then, those women still under his spell, refuse adamantly to believe.

8/16/2006 5:24:23 AM - to "now i realize". he was charged with giving the girl STD and for being an illegal alien. Since he was an illegal alien, he was entrapped at the Heritage Hotel then brought to Intramuros. We had him enter into an amicable settlement with the girl to prevent the legal proceedings and so he could be deported. As an illegal alien, he will definitely be deported but because he had a pending case against him, he was supposed to stay in detention at Bicutan. and cases in the Philippines unsually take years before they are decided on. We (me and that girl he kept introducing as his best friend) naturally didn't want that because we so in love with him and want to be with him (that's all crap for me now that i know better!), that's why we had him deported. I had to pull a lot of strings and connections to make that happen, but i did. the day after i learned the truth from the other detainees themselves.

8/16/2006 6:31:44 AM - i was too warned by friends and family. but did not listen. tommy being deported, accused of being a pedophile. scamming, abusing, using women, abandoning his babies. all those things in one man. i can't believe it. a shock to my system. he seemed so manly when i first met him. im not 100% entirely sure but i think tommy was deported from this country too.

8/16/2006 10:32:25 AM - Ok, one thing that's been worrying me for a long time, has anyone that slept with this man had an hiv test. I can't bring myself to go for one, i'm shit scared. I know that when you have a baby they don't test for this so unless anyone's been tested...i don't know. I'm just worried. really worried. As that would possibly explain his actions towards women. Also please note this is JUST me worrying, it's not a fact or anything, i'm just a worrier.

8/16/2006 12:00:39 PM - to "now i realise"... yes, i too am very worried, especially soon after i found out about all the shitty things he has been doing, but like you i could get myself to go. i just prayed hard that God would have pity on me and spare me from that deadly disease because i have suffered a lot already from my association with joseph burchell. i know a lot of his victims feel the same way too, especially those with whom he has kids.

8/16/2006 12:06:33 PM - if there is one brave woman out there who has been with joseph burchell and has had an hiv test, please speak up and give us the details, like when you and joseph were together, when you had yourself tested and what was the result. we couldn't get ourselves to go, i know we have to individually, that time will come, but for now please give us some peace of mind.

8/16/2006 12:41:40 PM - raspberry_glace04. if you have had unprotected sex with tommy then you seriously need to get yourself checked out. i know your worried but these things are serious and can be life threatening. ask a friend or a female family member who you are close to, to go with you to the clinic. you may be lucky and be perfectly fine. if not. god forbid. we are here for you. as im sure your family and friends will be too! don't fight this alone and don't leave it. get tested as soon as possible.

8/16/2006 12:51:11 PM - please honey (raspberry_glace04) don't worry about this. just get to the clinic soon as you can. im sure it won't take long. at least when you know the results you'll have your mind at rest. i pray you are healthy. all the best. xxx

8/16/2006 1:35:48 PM - toffeepie. You have a baby with him, so you too have had unprotected sex and are at risk, as is your baby. have you had a hiv test then, or do you not know like the rest of us?x

8/16/2006 1:42:01 PM - It worries me cos Joe told me he goes for HIV tests every year and is not infected. I asked why he went for tests and he said that's what every man does, just to be sure and what every man should do

8/16/2006 2:11:00 PM - toffeepie, have you gotten yourself tested? if so, please give details. i'm really scared of getting myself tested. i've been with joseph only 2x in 2002, but i know i'm still at risk, but i just don't have the courage to go get that test. like with now i realise, joseph did tell me that he has himself tested every year. but i was not able to see any of the results when i cleaned up his place after he was detained.

8/17/2006 12:59:28 AM - i haven't had a test for HIV. but i did catch gential warts from him before we had our baby. my baby was born healthy. i thought they would have found out if she had it when she was born. im uncertain if she has to take a seperate test. i last saw tommy in person christmas 2005. we had unprotected sexual intercourse then. so i could be at risk, now that i think about it. i suppose i have had only one period since my baby was born. does it effect your periods? or is that normal when you have a baby? but rasperberry_glace04 and now i realise seriously get yourself tested. we're all in the same boat. lets just pray and hope we are all healthy and clean.

8/17/2006 1:18:08 AM - when i first met tommy. he was a personal fitness trainer. so i just asumed he'd be extra careful to look after himself. he was so strong and fit and seemed at that time like he had a good head on his shoulders. plus he said he hadn't many girlfriends before me and assured me he was clean. plus he wanted me pregnant and was so against using protection. once he mention the baby thing i kinda didn't think about the other effects having unprotected sex brings. being young and him so much older i trusted him. i still can't get my head around what is going on here. we may all be infected, god forbid. he's left me feeling so dirty and unpure. i pray we are all clean and free of that disease.

8/17/2006 1:30:05 AM - and that goes for anyone else who has had unprotected sex or oral sex with tommy/joseph. if your currently seeing him or are involved with him get out while you can. he'll end up disapointing you. he will leave you either pregnant, in debt and or diseased. as well as emotionally damaged.

8/17/2006 1:36:24 AM - those of us who have been with tommy sexually. and haven't been tested. get tested soon as possible.

8/17/2006 3:08:35 AM - yes toffeepie, i had the same thoughts as you had when i met him. he introduced himself as a fitness trainer and a nurse in hawaii. he didn't want to use protection and that's when he said he has himself tested every year. when i cleaned out his house, i found a lot of condoms & asked him about it. he said it was just given to him. i think he impregnates women to bind them to him, so he could twirl them in little finger.

8/17/2006 3:11:47 AM - i just hope common or curable STD is the most he has, with the many children he has produced, i really hope he doesnt have hiv. otherwise even those babies are at risk. i hope there is still some sanity left in him to think about the future of those children, even if he doesnt support them, the most he could do is not ruin their future before they have even a chance to start it.

8/17/2006 12:40:38 PM - I have spoken with a friend of mine who is a midwife and she saysalmost every women is tested in the several blood tests they have when they are pregnant but not told it'd a test for hiv unless they have it. She said if you contact your hospital/ midwife they will be able to tell you what blood tests you have had, so hopefully toffepie if you contact them, you will have had it and therefor are clear. I know this is the system here in the states.

8/18/2006 12:05:46 AM - thanks now i realise. i will contact the hospital. i don't want to specify where i live on here incase that psycho gives me hassle and tries to blackmail me again. but i don't live in the states so not too sure about the system over here. but will check it out. and raspberry_glace04 if it helps i personally don't think he has HIV, well at least im telling myself he hasn't, hoping he hasn't. but i do think he has some form of STI. cause i caught one from him. but i think he has several more.

8/18/2006 8:47:13 AM - Ok. So let's see if I am getting this right. "Toffeepie' enaged in unprotected sex, got genital warts from this man, had a baby with him, was left by him for an extended period, has not received any financial assistance from him. Hears from him again apparently. Sees him just six months ago at Christmas and has unprotected sex AGAIN with this same man. What the *&%$$ were you thinking? Is he coming back to you to make everything alright? Is he sending you money for your child or offering emotional support - or do you just not know how to say 'no.' You need to go get a complete physical and testing - and check on getting some psychiatrict help too. This is pathetic.

8/18/2006 10:30:28 AM - carami, carami, carami!! you seriously think im bothered by what the hell you think about me? you actually think by your comments you can draw information out of me. i don't think so. who you? who do you think you are! you don't know nothing about me or my relationship. your the one who needs physchatric help!! or even better why don't you do what you do best, and thats suck tommy's ass, go back to sucking his ass! i think i hear him calling you. woof, woof!

8/18/2006 10:30:29 AM - carami, carami, carami!! you seriously think im bothered by what the hell you think about me? you actually think by your comments you can draw information out of me. i don't think so. who you? who do you think you are! you don't know nothing about me or my relationship. your the one who needs physchatric help!! or even better why don't you do what you do best, and thats suck tommy's ass, go back to sucking his ass! i think i hear him calling you. woof, woof!

8/18/2006 10:49:54 AM - carami. you are thick stupid! how dare you imply that i can't think for myself. tommy put you up to this?? or as everyone says are you tommy. pathetic is one of his favourite words. don't try to put the guilt trip on me. you need to think about your actions and how you are. at least i stuck around for my baby! where the hell are you? tramp! im raising your baby on my own!! now that (you leaving and not supporting your child) is pathetic!

8/18/2006 12:10:08 PM - Toffeepie, I am not thick. Not the slightest. You are showing your level of immaturity. A man treast you badly and uses you like a doormat. And you let him wipe his dirty feet on you again. Considering you sleep with anyone - and engage in unprotected sex, you will probably be blessed with many fatherless children.

8/18/2006 2:05:55 PM - oh! is that so! you see i don't sleep around! unlike tommy (you?) i have self respect and dignity! and i only slept with tommy when i was with him. and at least i was and am faithful. that's something tommy knows nothing about! and you've gotta nerve saying i'll end up with fatherless children! what the fuck! look at you! your the one making babies and abandoning them. tommy thinks he's a father! he's no where close. he just impregnated me and many others. but he is not a father to any of our babies! he is clueless and brainless and thick! and me im not planning to have sex until i meet my husband and am married! that way i won't get hurt like how tommy (you) hurt me!

8/18/2006 2:19:47 PM - immaturity. you've got a cheek! please! don't make me laugh! im immature? you say that im immature! back up a minute. now tell me. who is the immature one. the person who goes round the world lusting after women, lieing to them. proposing to everything that moves. tricking women, fooling them for money. impregnating women then leaving them to raise the baby on there own. not one woman, not two women not even three women but an army load and more women! or the one who gets pregnant by her supposedly fiance, keeps her baby cause she thought her soon to be fiance was gonna be around.

8/18/2006 2:27:01 PM - soon to be husband (i meant) was gonna be around to raise that baby. when all of a sudden he disappers! and leaves me to raise the baby on my own and this is after i last saw him last christmas. i can't do nothing but cry then get on my feet. and get support from friends and family around me! and take care of the baby on my own. without any fiancial help from that deadbeat (the childs bioligcal father)! can't you see what you've done wrong? or do you always just have to be right? thats immaturity. you can't settle your life. stay in one place and do the right thing. whats the matter with you? you are mentally unstable!

8/18/2006 2:35:38 PM - Toffeepie - let me make this clear - I am not Joesph Burchell. You can rant on and on about that, but you are sadly mistaken. You should bear in mind that this website is public domain and a public forum. Anyone - I mean anyone - can read what you have to say and post a comment. As I have also stated that just because I post a comment contrary to your views - it does not make me this man. You do not know your audience.

8/18/2006 3:21:24 PM - carami you can testify all you like about not being tommy/joseph. you sure talk like him. with no concionius and no guilt and self absorbed and if you are not tommy/joseph then who exactly do you think you are. trying to talk down to me and trying to put me in my "place" so to speak. you don't know me. heck you claim you don't even know this person. so in actualality your views are not valid. wait let me guess im narrow minded? well no im not! you don't know him, don't know me. so you haven't any idea of the intimate details of mine

8/18/2006 3:37:45 PM - and his relationship. you don't know behind the scenes. you know nothing. so how can you stand there acting all "im right, im right" when you don't know nothing about him. who you? NOONE! SO GO BACK to your own life and stay out of things you know nothing about! and you think im pathetic. hyprocrite springs to mind.

8/19/2006 9:05:16 AM - i just want to remind everyone that "carami" is joseph burchell. i'm starting to wonder, joseph, if, among the many issues you have, one of them is gender identity. anyway, girls, don't bother with carami. joseph is just pissed because he has lost control over yet another one. piss of, "carami".

8/19/2006 10:46:22 AM - i also want to put everything back into perspective for everyone. joseph burchell, aka tommy raye, aka carami, is an internet romance scam artist. he is also a sexual predator who likes to take advantage of teenage girls. he preys on them, controlling them by making them feel they are "immature" for questioning him. can anyone say "GOD COMPLEX". he also preys on older women, whom he likes to refer to as old, fat, bitter, and, my personal favorite, afraid to die alone. when you get down to it, joseph burchell is just a two bit con artist who preys on women's weaknesses and likes to shop at WAL-MART. HA! get some class you stupid mother fucker. only god knows what else he is. we are not scorned women. we are victims of a very sick man. we must not let joseph burchell or carami or anyone else revictimize us.

8/19/2006 1:17:36 PM - halleilujah! sister! (oneofohsomany) amen! amen! girl you got tommy/joseph/carami right down to a T. its taken me a long time to realise this but tommy is not only a stupid mother fucker but he's a dumb wit pervert who can't handle any woman! we're either too old. or too immature. make up your mind prick. you think your God's gift. your more like the Devil's gift. and its not us who'll end up dieing sad and alone. by the time we're done the whole worlds will know about your nasty ways and noone will want you. you'll be sad, alone and hated by every woman and every child you have produced! you are a loser! with no taste.

8/19/2006 1:29:59 PM - and we're the ones who DOUBT (tommy's much loved word) that you'll find happiness. you sick physcho. you disgust me! and the two earring thing is sooooo Gay! and your tatoo's are tacky. your an Ugly person! Ugly to the bone marrow. your soul is dark! and your heart is made of stone. your the biggest jerk on the face of the earth and beyond.

8/20/2006 12:12:18 AM - A question for toffeepie: in your rebut dated Aug 9 4:43AM you state that he "made you do things for other men without protection", making you his personal whore... so how do you know he is the one who gave you genital warts? And, more importantly, how do you know he is the father of your child? Just curious because something doesn't add up here! Like the contradiction in the one where you claim that he does unspeakable things to women AND children and then later on you doubt him being a pedophile. Sounds to me like you're just making these allegations up as you go along. And no, I most definitely am not Joseph... I just checked and I haven't grown a penis just yet

8/20/2006 2:59:44 AM - I DON'T TELL LIES! i believe and love God. and i don't mess with his commandments! and lies is one thing i do NOT do! i was simply warning women that he'll TRY to get you to sleep with other men without protection. like he TRIED to get me to sleep with other men but I NEVER EVER DID IT. he was always out of the country and he suggested this after we had OUR baby. I DON'T SLEEP AROUND! for the whole year me and tommy was trying for a baby, he was the ONLY man i SLEPT with! he knows he's the father and i know he is and thats all that MATTERS. not only does my baby look like tommy but my baby looks like tommy's son too! and the fact that he blew his load in me when we had sex so so so many times also justifys that he is the father! you don't know nothing!

8/20/2006 3:06:06 AM - and i said he does unspeakable things to women by cheating on them, lieing to them and stealing there money! and as for doing unspeakable things to children i never mentioned anything sexual! i meant by him leaving his children and not supporting them is dispictable! and that i myself find it hard to believe that he is in fact a pedophile! so maiya GET IT RIGHT! it DOES add up what i have been saying! i am not making things up as i go along! i speak of truth!

8/20/2006 3:12:43 AM - and you think by coming on here under a different name we won't be able to suss you out! we KNOW you are carami and you got SHAMED UP! so now you come on as maiya! we are not fooled! only a pure DUMB ASS! would come to tommy's defence!

8/20/2006 3:22:14 AM - and seeing that i ONLY SLEPT WITH TOMMY! i KNOW I CAUGHT GENITAL WARTS FROM TOMMY! but i was in denial when i caught them! but it couldn't have been from anyone else! because he was my ONLY SEXUAL PARTNER! he's the whore! he's sleeps with every women he manages to trap in a relationship. i now realise that! he's a cheat! a DIRTY FILTY DISEASED MAN-WHORE!

8/20/2006 3:28:46 AM - i remained FAITHFUL! through out our relationship! i know the meaning of what its like to love a person! i loved tommy! and you'll never understand how i felt about him! tommy uses the word love without a thought or care in the world! he has serious issues! he is mentally unstable! and needs help!

8/20/2006 5:58:50 AM - i think this is the most widely read posting for a male cheater in the entire site - just goes to show the number of women that this man has worked/fooled on - maybe he's moved on to different states or country by now to prey on new innocent females.

8/20/2006 6:17:32 AM - I don't think the number of times this site has been viewed is only a reflection on how entertaining the comments that are being posted are! It better than Jerry Springer, and nearly as belivable!

8/20/2006 7:17:42 AM - these rebuttals are, to be believed! by the ones who are telling the truth! who know what tommy is really like. who have experienced being decieved, broken hearted and let down by him.

8/20/2006 12:32:12 PM - there are only two possibilities here. carami, mayia, crystalclear, and any other rebuttal made on this site that favors joseph burchell is either the stupidist individual on the face of the earth or is joseph burchell himself. and let me say for the record, this is not "shannon", joseph. also, i am curious. did any of you women out there find tommy/joseph to be a little, well, feminine? he walks a bit like he's had a dick up his ass.

8/20/2006 3:30:42 PM - For the record let me state again, very clearly, that I am not Joseph. I have read all the comments here with interest, and it has provided me with considerable entertainment! However, on a slightly more serious note, I do have some concerns about what has been said. Some have said they have been conned out of money, I think one mentioned '10s of thousands'. I can understand you would loan someone money once even twice. But why would you continue to do so?

8/20/2006 3:32:33 PM - As for having a baby with this guy, I would have thought that a suitable relationship to consider bringing a child into the world was one where both parents are in the same household. No one here has claimed to be married or to have lived with this guy. If you were engaged, why not wait until you were married and together permanently before having a child?

8/20/2006 3:33:57 PM - I can understand that this guy has hurt people. However, I would also suggest that those people should also accept some responsibility for what has happened to them also, as it seems to me they have been extremely naive.

8/20/2006 3:45:51 PM - crystalclear, things just really aren't crystal clear for you are they. joseph burchell and i were engaged to be married. he is the one who proposed. i was in love and he said he was too. he wanted a baby. i gave him money to help him move from the uk to the states and then he conveniently disappeared. that's called fraud.

8/20/2006 3:47:42 PM - and i agree with oneofohsomany. i'm wondering if the reason he wants women to be with other men is that he actually is getting off on the men. maybe he is a closet homosexual amongst all the other things he is.

8/20/2006 4:19:06 PM - and as far as responsibility goes, well i will be responsible for my child forever. joseph on the other hand runs from his responsibility. i realize now why though. he has no money of his own. it's all money he has fraudulently acquired from telling women that he's going to marry them and needs money to get to them. and of course if he starts being responsible for one baby then i guess he would become responsible for 50 or so others he has so carelessly, irresponsibly fathered.

8/21/2006 10:00:26 AM - Toffeepie - you need to look up the word 'rebuttal' online to understand it more clearly. A rebuttal is to rebut - to contradict or oppose (as in an argument.) My statements contradict/oppose the original posting -- offering a counterpoint view. So therefore - in your posted comment on 8/20 - 'these rebuttals are to be believed', then you have just undermined your own statements. Really now - please don't use big words if you don't really know what they mean. All you are doing is giving lip service to the issue. (No pun intended.)

8/21/2006 11:44:26 AM - I have a question in general - if everyone has been engaged to this man - have you sold the engagement rings to get a little money at least? Toffeepie is sayong how she needs financial support - why not sell your ring? He obviously isn't coming back and at least you would have some money for the baby.

8/21/2006 1:39:30 PM - to all those giving their "rebuttals" (read: contrary opinions)to this issue, i would suggest you count your blessings and thank God that you are not one of those victimized by this man. Since you were not or have not been victimized by this scumbag, then don't pretend to be able to gauge the depth of hurt or pain or damage that this guy has inflicted on our lives. Yes you are entitled to your opinion as this is a public forum, but don't you think we deserve a little more sympathy and understanding than what you are very willing to give to a lying son of a bithc like joseph burchell?

8/21/2006 1:45:25 PM - to toffeepie and all others who know the real truth (BECAUSE WE HAVE EXPERIENCED IT ALL), you don't need to explain yourselves. we have once been victimized and what we are doing here is merely telling our story, hoping that other women will learn from it, but if they choose to ignore it then just let them be. that con artist will NEVER change and that truth will hit them sooner than they expect, like a solid brick hurled directly at their faces.

8/21/2006 5:18:20 PM - girls, doesn't strike you as odd that any person, (including friends, family, lovers, coworkers, etc), that you have shared your story with about how joseph burchell aka tommy raye has treated you responds with "WHAT A LITTLE PRICK". and doesn't it strike you as odd that carami, and crystalclear have chosen THIS SITE to defend a man they don't even know. it is clear to me that joseph burchell is carami and crystalclear because i have personal experience with his need to defend himself by creating people who don't exist. furthermore, why is hard to believe that joseph burchell would create fake ids when the man has an alias and is basically a pathological liar. ignore him and maybe he will go away. after all, the thing joseph loves the most is attention. and i want to hear from women about this gay issue. i really believe the man has sugar in his blood. come on ladies. i can't believe that i am the only one that ever thought the man is gay.

8/22/2006 7:36:26 AM - Please note that I have not defended anyone - and ncertainly not this man. This entire scenario reads like a bad novel. Seriously. I keep reading everyone's comments because - like a bad novel - you keep hoping it might better. I have asked some questions - and some pointed ones with all of the insults and accusations flying around about this man and what he has done/is doing. That's all. Looking at ths photo posted - well, honestly, I don't get it. He isn't attractive. Not really. The fact of what everyone has added as to his character - and I understand it all surfaced later so it was not immediately apparent, what is it about him that you found attractive? Ladies, I think anyone could do better.

8/22/2006 8:35:41 AM - whoaa! now it's you i find amusing carami. despite everything that these ladies have said about joseph's character, their experience and his tactics in getting his way and twirl them in his fingers - play with them like pawns, why do you adamantly insist that their claims are questionable? now i'm not saying you're joseph or you're joseph's great protector, you just sound like such a broken record. look, suffice it to say that this man is a smooth operator, he has studied women and what makes them click for a very long time, and he has a time and tested formula to pin an unsuspecting woman - a slick tongue, sweet words, coupled with oozing confidence, and lethal charisma - now if you were joseph - which you claim you're not, i would say you're just "fishing", otherwise just lay off, take a hike and find another site to amuse yourself. capisce?

8/22/2006 4:51:36 PM - i want to warn everyone that joseph burchell has been trying to talk to me on yahoo messenger, pretending to be toffeepie. i can not believe how low this man will stoop. he also is trying to intimidate me by saying he is going to get me fired from my job. he has done this to others i have talked to. he has also created another site with his name. i really think you are cracking up joseph.

8/22/2006 5:30:41 PM - Don't worry Julie, Joe's just beggining to pannick as he can not stop this, he has lost complete control. Any future woman he meets off the internet will come accross this site in his name search and will therefore run a mile. Poor poor Joe, maybe now he'll have to get a job!!

8/22/2006 5:36:56 PM - What other site has Joe created?! Not another one where he makes out his good in bed etc etc?! surely not!! What actually amazes me is when i first slept with this guy, who was big and muscly up top.I was somewhat disheartend when his 'package downstairs' didn'tquite match! I thought he was quite sweet and insecure and would be shy to go around sleeping with a lot of people because of this reason, just goes to show how full of himself he really is! I'm never going on internet dating sites again!

8/23/2006 12:33:18 PM - i am not tommy/joseph! im a young female. who's been hurt and treated badly by tommy. i loved him with all my heart. i would have done anything for him. but i wasn't good enough. he has chosen to be with someone else. he doesn't want me and he doesn't love and dosen't want our daughter. or at least be there for her. im devestated and crushed to the core. my heart has been ripped out and stamped on, run over and bashed with a metal spade. i've lost all self value and worth. my eyes fill with water at the thought of what happened between us. he was my everything. the only man for me. he was perfect. but he has no feelings for me. and that hurts more than anything.

8/26/2006 6:35:11 PM - are you ok toffeepie? I don't think thats what was meant

8/29/2006 10:01:32 AM - Toffeepie - why are you beating yourself up over this man? You just spent the last weeks venting on him and listening to/reading the comments made by the other women whose lives he has touched. And yes, please feel free to tell me to SHUT THE FUCK UP' as you have stated previously - but on a serious note, why would you ever determine your own value based on a relationship with another person? This man wasn't perfect and certainly not the man for you for anyone else. Your own value and self-esteem come from within - no one can give that to you nor canthey atake it from you. You indicated that you have a young child. If you can't be strong for yourself - be strong for her.

8/29/2006 10:03:24 AM - And also note that there are good men - really good, sincere men out there who will value you for yourself. Not for the person they want for you to be.

8/31/2006 5:10:51 AM - Just a heads up from this point on***joseph/tommy/whothe$%#%ever,has conned toffeepie out of her id and password on this site, so if you are recieving any messages from that id, know for a fact that it is him, doing his usual, unoriginal attempt at gaining power and information from anyone he can by pretending to be someone else, so just ignore him and anything else "toffeepie" may post from now on. Funny, he's always taking on the persona of other women, and doing it quite well,,,,hmmmmmm,,, you can fill in the rest of that one,,, but it also proves what a predatory lowlife he is, attacking and overpowering this young, naive, sweet, defenseless little girl, the mother of one of his many babies, what a small, small person he truly is,,,,

9/8/2006 1:16:17 AM - Yea yea, I know ladies, this latest picture posted looks nothing like him now, it is obviously from a time when he was big into the 'roids usage! It is only to show one of the MANY looks this guy has had over the last several years, his looks change along with his names, on a daily basis (unlike his frequency in keeping up on his laundry and housework, phew!). But now that all you ladies are being brave and coming forward, and we're finding more pix, we will try to keep changing them in case anyone else out there still doubts this is the same guy. This, as my mother so aptly calls him, boil on the butt of humanity, will continue be exposed for what and who he truly is. Please feel free to contact us with any more pix or stories you would like to share. This is about US, not him, and as they say the best revenge is living well.

9/9/2006 5:44:18 AM - Is that the miniture picture he carries round of himself in his wallet. I always thought that was a bit weird.

9/9/2006 7:50:13 AM - OH MY GOD!!!!!!!! HOW EMBARRASING!!!!!!!!!!!!

9/11/2006 9:09:26 AM - That is the scariest photo I have ever seen. Looks like a poster boy for the Louisiana Correctional facility. btw - his address is posted on the 'kettering' site where others have been looking for him also.

9/11/2006 12:13:05 PM - Yes, just checked that out, yet another poor woman who was with him recently and has caught an STD. GET A LIFE Joseph before you catch something that TAKES IT AWAY! Ps: You're HUNG LIKE A FIELD MOUSE!

9/11/2006 3:49:10 PM - I need to clarify something here ladies. I did not get herpes from Tommy I got them from my exhusband but thought that you should be aware of it since we had uprotected sex. I plan on going to the clinic this week and getting checked out and if I have ANYTHING else it will have come from him becasue I have been faithful. I will post the rusults as soon as I get them because I am concerened for our health. I can be contacted on yahoo instant messenger as needsfaith and you can e-mail me at needsfaith@yahoo.com. Tommy has been trying to convince me all week that I just need to have faith in him and that this site is actually only 2 bitter women that are mad because he doesnt want them. Well I just got through talking to 2 more of us and have been contacted this week by a few more so my question is? How many of us are there?

9/12/2006 7:49:06 AM - Small prick has a small dick due to all the 'roids...

9/15/2006 8:19:42 AM - Has anyone considered that perhaps it is his own insecurity based on the smallness of his penis that prompts him to seek and seduce women all the time. He continually is feeding his ego and plying them with promises of love and happiness while moving from one to another -- in an effort to escape? Escape his own ineptness as a man. It is a perpetual game ofmental masturbation with this man (excuse me, boy.)

9/16/2006 8:18:10 AM - having a small dick does not a sociopath make.

9/21/2006 3:28:22 AM - Oh the amount of clueless comments here from women who are quite worryingly prime targets for guys like joey-no-dick!!! He's quite obviously an extremely dangerous abusive man, thank god this site has outed him, it may help the next potential victim to steer clear. To all the women who wrote comments like "Its your fault for trusting him" and "Why would anyone want to be involved with such a man" go to the "abuse" section of the message board and read up on how abusers very cleverly target their prey, abusers are not easily spotted, they are usually quite adept at hiding their nature until you are hooked...which is why this site is so essential.

9/22/2006 5:06:28 AM - wow! that's a young pic...he's got hair! looks like a 'studio portrait'-'to send to my grandmother to show her my fiancee...' anyone else hear THAT line?!?

9/22/2006 5:16:28 AM - So does that mean you had a photo taken with him, so he could send it to his grandmother?

9/22/2006 7:09:42 AM - So does anyone know who Philipa Harris is...?

9/22/2006 9:01:37 AM - She is someone who knew him in the UK. Her email address is on the kettering site

9/22/2006 9:47:12 AM - I saw her on that site but she has also been on yahoo answers looking for information on him too. Interesting.

9/22/2006 10:22:45 AM - Well she's not alone - there's a lot of people looking for him!

9/24/2006 12:32:12 PM - anyone here with him very recently ...as in the last month or so?what is this kettering site?

9/24/2006 8:28:01 PM - 'Just to see', you are have posted rebuttals on the other site listing here for Joseph Burchell basically saying you and Joseph find this site highly ammusing etc etc, so I am at a loss as to your last posting. However, just type 'tommy j raye' in the search engine and it will bring up the Kettering site. There are two other girls on that site currently pregnant by him, one of which is adament he is moving to the UK to be with her and two/three others who state they have had sex with him within recent weeks, one of which has an STD

9/25/2006 8:30:05 AM - Joseph is currently involved with several women at this time. He is also online seeking new relationships. He continues to move forward, discarding relationships as new one develops and curent ones see what he is really about.

9/25/2006 2:06:09 PM - and you know this how?

9/25/2006 8:34:51 PM - to know why it is a laugh...no one has said the exact dates of when the were with Joseph...as far as i can tell he has supposedly been with three who have posted here either the same day or week. For all to be pregnant...within the same time frame also....sex rating low ...due to roids....then how is so fertile to produce so many children in one year....quite contradictory dont you think....so if you are going to say you have been with him...give the date, the time, the place.....in other words paint a true picture not one that contradicts each person who comments....

9/25/2006 8:37:34 PM - to my knowledge he is in a committed relationship. do any of you know her, how long they have been together & if they reside in the US or elsewhere. doesnt appear that she has commented here. Do you think it impossible for this to be true? why if you do?

9/26/2006 6:59:45 AM - 'Justtosee' - from what you wrote on the other site for Joseph Burchell here on womansavers - "9/3/2006 12:23:43 AM - Posted by: justtosee - Oh and forgot.....if you rate sex at a 5...then you know what....my guess is you never really even had sex with him....blows his load and doesnt care about you....whatever.....i repeat ....u obviously have not "made love" .....he makes sure i am first.....so i will repeat....you are just tapping to create a laugh for us...so feel free ...tap away... " Aren't YOU HIS GIRLFRIEND? You imply that YOU are the one in a committed relationship with him. Yes? And if so, why would YOU be asking about another woman...? Let's try to keep the story straight. Or maybe he has just 'moved on' from you too.

9/26/2006 7:47:46 AM - Let's all be reminded that Joseph Burchell, aka Tommy Raye, is an internet romance scam artist who likes to play games by pretending to be women on this site.

9/26/2006 8:09:04 AM - I have no doubt that 'justtosee' is Joseph fishing for more information to see what everyone knows or suspects. But I nailed it on the head - he is and will continue to be a PREDATOR - and his tactics will not change. He will IM, text and email numerous women at any given time - old lovers, current ones, potential ones, etc., and continue playing his games. His pattern of behavior is evident and he will not change. It's his nature.

9/29/2006 11:02:31 AM - According to the kettering site, there is another woman (or it's Joseph) who is a current fiance'. Has anyone taken a headcount on how many women he has proposed to within the past two years. He must buy engagement rings in BULK. It might be amusing if so many women were not continually hurt by this man. He really has no conscience about the damage he does. If only he would use his talent for good and not evil.

9/30/2006 8:07:07 AM - If anyone has information on the id's that Joseph Burchell has used to impersonate me, Julie Ezernack, please contact me at julie_ezernack1967@yahoo.com. I am already aware that Joseph Burchell was impersonating me using the id of julie_ezernack1970@yahoo.com. I had that id removed.

9/30/2006 12:07:47 PM - Julie I posted my response to this on Kettering site, I am J.E and if you read all of my rebuttals I am certainly not him, infact I do not respond to any internal messages you guys send me as I am wary it is him, ask onofsomany

9/30/2006 12:08:03 PM - Julie I posted my response to this on Kettering site, I am J.E and if you read all of my rebuttals I am certainly not him, infact I do not respond to any internal messages you guys send me as I am wary it is him, ask onofsomany

9/30/2006 12:28:09 PM - I'm sorry, Now I realize. I don't see where you have contacted me at all behind the scenes. Do you have another ID that you use?

9/30/2006 12:31:52 PM - ok, now i realize. i see where we sent you a message and you didn't return it. SOrry, Thank you.

9/30/2006 3:07:53 PM - I want to make a correction. The id that Joseph Burchell was using when he was impersonating me is julie_ezernack1969@yahoo.com.

10/1/2006 12:14:27 AM - How can this creep be contacted? I'd love to play him back, since I now know his game. What dating sites can he be found on?

10/3/2006 2:02:26 PM - I think it would be a waste of your time and energy to 'play' his game. He likes the attention - negative or otherwise - and no one really wins when playing with him. The intent should remain focused on alerting women to his pattern of behavior and to beware of anuy involvement with him.

10/4/2006 9:18:21 AM - yeah,you are really in uk.so incredibly true.only if your using your brains.i know you are acting up,as if heartbroken,to get symphaty,from who??from him??is this another crack up from a wardrobe friend.

10/4/2006 9:18:49 AM - yeah,you are really in uk.so incredibly true.only if your using your brains.i know you are acting up,as if heartbroken,to get symphaty,from who??from him??is this another crack up from a wardrobe friend.

10/4/2006 9:21:14 AM - yeah,you are really in uk.so incredibly true.only if your using your brains.i know you are acting up,as if heartbroken,to get symphaty,from who??from him??is this another crack up from a wardrobe friend.

10/4/2006 9:46:24 AM - why will you expect much from him,where in, you already been put down so many times.do you think your child will do the trick??well,you are living in a fantasy world.promising words had been said to all women.for god sake,wake up girl.and don't play as an underdog.you are one of them,as in one of them.if you are not joseph,who is checking who is going to reply,to chat up.and get information.live your life,,he's never been yours..never will be..you're just like the other girls in here.grow up.

10/4/2006 9:49:50 AM - why will you expect much from him,where in, you already been put down so many times.do you think your child will do the trick??well,you are living in a fantasy world.promising words had been said to all women.for god sake,wake up girl.and don't play as an underdog.you are one of them,as in one of them.if you are not joseph,who is checking who is going to reply,to chat up.and get information.live your life,,he's never been yours..never will be..you're just like the other girls in here.grow up.

10/4/2006 10:56:35 AM - I don't see as this really comes as any surprise, toffeepie/sobrokenhearted. He will never show you his true colors as he wants you to believe only that which he tells you. I see where you were with him at Christmas, but did he spend time with you in the spring while here? after all you had posted he got to you again to get you to stop - he told you whatever he thought you wanted to hear to end your comments. And in relinquishing your ID to him he started using that to contact the other women. You gave him power again.

10/4/2006 11:01:46 AM - I seem to recall another young woman who was looking? or asking about him on yahoo answers a few months ago. She went on about how he 'upt and left her...' and that she was 18 when she met him. He was a bouncer... etc. I'm guessing that was you. I also seem to recall many women and men commented on this scenario and also advised on how to get on with your life. How many people have to tell you what this man is capable of doing - and what he has done - to get the big picture here? Of course it hurts to be lied to and betrayed. And it happens to everyone at some point. But MOST people don't continually invite it back into their lives. You need to find the strength to let go of this man and his games and get on with your life and your children.

10/4/2006 11:03:20 AM - ok,if you are really that down.you can check if you really want to know if he is coming or not.thru jayne wilding,she's in canterbury.look at the phone directory or council list,whatever,she's just a few miles away.with grown up kids,who hates her. she's got the same opinion as you got.maybe you can share your views.and share him also.she might agree,why not try.she always does anyway.she's wearing a very thick head gear,same as you got.you both can't say no..why???

10/4/2006 11:06:57 AM - ok,if you are really that down.you can check if you really want to know if he is coming or not.thru jayne wilding,she's in canterbury.look at the phone directory or council list,whatever,she's just a few miles away.with grown up kids,who hates her. she's got the same opinion as you got.maybe you can share your views.and share him also.she might agree,why not try.she always does anyway.she's wearing a very thick head gear,same as you got.you both can't say no..why???

10/4/2006 11:08:47 AM - And by the way, since you dropped off this site back in August, this man has been continually hooking up with other women in Texas, denying you and making them false promises as well. So you are kidding yourself if you ever think you got 'back together.' ('Oh, but he text me and IMd me and emailed every day.... it must be true love.') Get a clue, he does that with everyone he is either sleeping with or wants something from. In your case, he wanted you to shut up. He has never been with you emotionally. He is incapable of connecting with any woman at that level. Once you accept this, you might actually get a life. ** And you also might want to converse with beastieslayer as she apparently knows him quite well and has managed to get past him and build a better life.

10/4/2006 11:14:05 AM - That's true about asking Jayne. They are very tight. She often does his bidding and will aceept anything he tells her as true. A real admirer, that one.

10/4/2006 11:19:25 AM - that is a very good advise,comefullcircle.its really hard to tell people to stop dreaming.there's no truth on things that were promised.its all an act.its like a moviee,whether you get carried away or you solve the end part and give the ending,whatever you want to think.its good you have a very broad mind. some aren't.we can only give advise,but still its up to them,whether they want a crap life with him or a better future without him,they got a kid,whatelse can they ask for.he won't give you money.he can only give semens,,for god sake..excuse my wordings..

10/4/2006 11:20:45 AM - that is a very good advise,comefullcircle.its really hard to tell people to stop dreaming.there's no truth on things that were promised.its all an act.its like a moviee,whether you get carried away or you solve the end part and give the ending,whatever you want to think.its good you have a very broad mind. some aren't.we can only give advise,but still its up to them,whether they want a crap life with him or a better future without him,they got a kid,whatelse can they ask for.he won't give you money.he can only give semens,,for god sake..excuse my wordings..

10/4/2006 11:22:29 AM - that is a very good advise,comefullcircle.its really hard to tell people to stop dreaming.there's no truth on things that were promised.its all an act.its like a moviee,whether you get carried away or you solve the end part and give the ending,whatever you want to think.its good you have a very broad mind. some aren't.we can only give advise,but still its up to them,whether they want a crap life with him or a better future without him,they got a kid,whatelse can they ask for.he won't give you money.he can only give semens,,for god sake..excuse my wordings..

10/4/2006 11:31:07 AM - I am not trying to hurt anyone's feelings - and I empathize with tofffeepie in the sense that it is easy tobe seduced by this man into believing what what he tells us (as this is what we are wanting to hear) - but she had been advised as to his nature and if she chose to believe him inspite of being warned, that is her choice. But by hanging on to that idea that he will ever really love you - you are causing yourself more damage than what he can do.

10/4/2006 11:58:36 AM - soheartbroken,you will be broke more,if you will not stop.think about your chld,you can apply for a council house,since you are young and you might not be working at this time.i feel for your family.i'm sure your family feels more hurt seeing you like that.you've put yourself in trash,have the courage to start again.""There's a light at the end of the tunnel"" just keep going..don't look at him.stay away..take it from me..he will never marry you,if thats what you are hoping for.being a single mum,isn't something to be ashame of.instead,you have to proud and strong,and people will admire you courage.stop chasing..it will just exhaust you..live your life,,start again..and be happy..

10/4/2006 11:59:16 AM - soheartbroken,you will be broke more,if you will not stop.think about your chld,you can apply for a council house,since you are young and you might not be working at this time.i feel for your family.i'm sure your family feels more hurt seeing you like that.you've put yourself in trash,have the courage to start again.""There's a light at the end of the tunnel"" just keep going..don't look at him.stay away..take it from me..he will never marry you,if thats what you are hoping for.being a single mum,isn't something to be ashame of.instead,you have to proud and strong,and people will admire you courage.stop chasing..it will just exhaust you..live your life,,start again..and be happy..

10/4/2006 12:03:13 PM - Tofeepie/sobrokenhearted - wasn't this YOUR OWN POSTING? /16/2006 4:51:14 AM - Posted by: toffeepie - also julie. please don't feel like we are attacking you. well at least im not. im just saying from personal experience i wouldn't take tommy back! not even now we have a baby. he's broken my heart too many times. and you, me, all of us are too good for him. he shoudn't have a girlfriend, fiance, wife because he hasn't a clue how to look after one. and has for babies he deserves none. i know he is the father of your baby as he is the father of mine but we will both find a loving man who will look after both you and baby. like you deserve. i know it won't be the man who we would all like it to be. but tommy will never settle down and be faithful. and i want to say that im here for you. ** DO YOU NOT EVEN TAK EYOUR OWN ADVISE. WISE UP.

10/4/2006 12:06:52 PM - soheartbroken,you have kept your silence.did he called you again and told you to shut up.??read between the lines..you should rule your life don't let others run it.it's only you,who can put back the pieces..believe me you'll be very proud of yourself once you get thru this mess..don't wait for your child to grow and tell you "mum stop" it's not worthit.

10/4/2006 12:08:21 PM - soheartbroken,you have kept your silence.did he called you again and told you to shut up.??read between the lines..you should rule your life don't let others run it.it's only you,who can put back the pieces..believe me you'll be very proud of yourself once you get thru this mess..don't wait for your child to grow and tell you "mum stop" it's not worthit.

10/4/2006 12:13:09 PM - No, he would have said 'shut up.' He might have text her - 'I love you to.'(note the grammatical error) 'Have faith!' 'Believe in me.' 'I want us.' 'I am coming. Believe.' etc etc. We all hang on those text words he cranks out so casually. ** Translation - calm her down. Shut her up. She is stirringit up again, I need it to stop..... He is too smooth to outright tell her to shut up - and he knows if he threatens her she'll just go ballistica gain and start rambling on about what a man-whore he is.... like we don't already know that.

10/4/2006 12:16:41 PM - And sadly, I think she'll fall for his bullshit lies again. She wants to believe he is actually coming back to be a father to her baby and to marry her (I get choked up on that idea.) She will shut up and sit there thinking he will actually be coming back and she should go ahead and make those wedding plans. Yes sir, you can count on Tommy to do the right thing. Why - a man is only as good as his word isn't he....?

10/4/2006 12:25:00 PM - ok,soheartbroken,if its really your child b-day this week.tell me the date.and where abouts are you in u.k.i might send a gift to your child,since the father can't be bothered.he never been there when you gave birth,what will you expect??to cme over and had a photo with your child as a proof of him being the dad??sorry,but i think he is wiser than that..your child same as the others will grow only with the mum.and joseph is just a donor in history.. he might let you carry on with the wedding plan etc,let me know if he shows up.

10/4/2006 12:25:11 PM - Here's a tip toffeepie - have your counseling group and friends and family lined up to pick you up again...and again.... for the next time he drops you. Because he will disappoint you. He will make you promises again and again - nothing more than words, relaly, to him. And once you are placated into believing your little fairy tale with a happy ending, he will have already been involved with another (or several) other women - the UK, the states - the supply is endless. Because he knows that vulnerable women - ones he seduces and they fall for him - are easy prey to go back to. Their inability to tell him no is their weakness,a ndthey ultimately pay the price.

10/4/2006 12:25:36 PM - ok,soheartbroken,if its really your child b-day this week.tell me the date.and where abouts are you in u.k.i might send a gift to your child,since the father can't be bothered.he never been there when you gave birth,what will you expect??to cme over and had a photo with your child as a proof of him being the dad??sorry,but i think he is wiser than that..your child same as the others will grow only with the mum.and joseph is just a donor in history.. he might let you carry on with the wedding plan etc,let me know if he shows up.

10/4/2006 12:43:37 PM - But he gave her a good poke at Christmas! It must be true love!! And despite the lies? everyone has told about this dear man, he is coming to marry her. Pick out your dress, get the family gathered 'round, line up the reception - Tommy is going to make it right. Isn't he? Andof cours ehis family in Louisiana will be flying over to attend... Isn't that what he keeps telling you - 'believe in me, in us.' 'You are the one.' (Oh wait, he told me that too.....)

10/4/2006 1:32:07 PM - If you are content with accepting that he may come see you, sleep with you, probably impregnate you and share an STD and then the moment you are out of his sight, he will scope in on another women, or be contacting them arranging his next hook-up, leaving you home with the kids, and tellingher how much he lovers her and will be with her and moving on. If this is the life you want for yourself then I am not judging you at all. Pitying you, yes. And the issue isn't that youa re forgicing and 'in love' with him - he isn't IN LOVE WITH YOU or any other woman. He likes fucking you, spending your money, eating your food and letting you wait on him (while he is busy seeking his next conquest.) Good luck to you on that.

10/4/2006 1:56:07 PM - The point lavern ei s not that he has been with other women - thepoint is tahgt he will be screwing them while living with youa nd telling them he loves them and sharing those tender moments with THEM, then coming back in the door and asking you to fix him dinner. If you don't mind that his hands and mouth are penis are all over and inside every inch of another woman and then he can come right back and stick his tongue (which had been inside a woman's vagina minutes before) into your mouth - then he is the one for you. That he will ask you to suck him off only hours after another woman has given him the same pleasure - then he is the one. That he is laughing, touching, kissing, enjoying her - and then coming home to you. Yes, he is the one. You may be committed, but he certainly won't be - ever. Itjust isn't his nature. Youa re compromising yourself and your life with this man.

10/4/2006 2:03:51 PM - Unfortunately for you, several women are engaed to him and think tey are the one also. He aslo told them he has been faithful.

10/4/2006 2:06:23 PM - Isn't this YOUR OWN POSTING? (do you evenlisten to yourself...) 8/9/2006 4:43:17 AM - Posted by: toffeepie - tommy aka joseph is a stinking filthy liar. he'll make you believe you are the only one and picture with you how brilliant your future will be. once he knows what you want out of life and the relationship. he'll use that to draw you in. once he's got you right where he wants you he'll start to slowly introduce other plans he has for you. sexual involvement. first it'l start out innocent, involving just the two of you then he'll make you into to his personal whore and make a prostitute out of you, make you do things for other men without protection. he'll led you to believe that you'd be doing it for the both of you. then when things go wrong in the relationship, he'll blackmail you somehow and make you feel worthless and crazy.

10/4/2006 2:19:56 PM - And certainly youw ould know his new surname since you are going to be the future Mrs.

10/4/2006 2:43:07 PM - Last November? Really? He was in the states at that time - somewhere in the US and did not come back to the UK until early December. And you had sex with im in December (according to your previous postings....). So your physician actually approved of you engaging in sex after having a c-section in November? Amazing, really.

10/4/2006 2:45:56 PM - Threaten you? Why, didn't you say he was coming to the Uk to marry you and raise his ONLY child with you? Why would a man who is so deeply in love with you - willing to leave all his wordly possessions back in the states to return here to you - consider threatening you?? (and didn't he just move ALL his possessions to the United States just a year or so ago...?)

10/4/2006 3:00:00 PM - Laverne, any man who would give you an ultimatum to either engage in a sexual activity which makes you feel uncomfortable or you find humilitating or he will leave you is not someone who will ever commit completely to you. He is a control freak and becasue you are younger he is pushing even harder. He may be coming back to the UK. Who knows what he is going to do next. I just pray that any woman who is involved with him has the strength to see through his lies and say no - as in 'no more.'

10/4/2006 3:01:52 PM - You need to check you calendar as he was in the states over Thanksgiving.

10/4/2006 4:14:06 PM - I am in the same position as other women who have posted here, despite what some people have written about me and Joseph. We were close. We are no longer close. I have, until this point, simply chosen not to join in with this discussion but to keep my feelings to myself.

10/4/2006 4:18:11 PM - I am in the same position as other women who have posted here, despite what some people have written about me and Joseph. We were close. We are no longer close. I have, until this point, simply chosen not to join in with this discussion but to keep my feelings to myself.

10/4/2006 4:18:59 PM - I am in the same position as other women who have posted here, despite what some people have written about me and Joseph. We were close. We are no longer close. I have, until this point, simply chosen not to join in with this discussion but to keep my feelings to myself.

10/4/2006 11:17:33 PM - For those of you who have said I am 'tight' with Tommy, please note that is no longer the case. He has scammed and played me just like everyone else on this and other sites. Just like everyone else, I thought he was genuine, that I was 'the one' and closed my eyes to what I did not want to hear or see. And yes, I have been extremely naive and stupid.

10/5/2006 7:48:39 AM - laverne you say that now but he'll show up again and you'll take him back. bet on it. he likes to control everything and your vulnerability makes you an easy target. just don't ask everyone to empathasize the next time he disappoints you - and he will. you have been told what he is and what he is about.

10/5/2006 11:17:07 AM - I have heard he is already here. Seems Laverne may be in a bit of a mess for stirring it up again online as he told her to stay off these sites.

10/5/2006 2:15:19 PM - Comefullcircle - how come you seem to know where he is? No one else seems to have a clue!

10/5/2006 4:16:28 PM - laverne-if he's threatened you, why not get a restraining order against him?!? especially since 'comefullcircle' seems to think he's there! that'd show him. bullies like him are such cowards!!!

10/5/2006 4:50:20 PM - she believes it will be her word against his. you have to consider the fact that joseph burchell starting manipulating this girl at the young, vulnerable age of 18. joseph burchell has a history of using young teenage girls, dating back to the 90's when he was still in the philippines. i'm sure he has made soheartbroken feel quite helpless in this situation. unlike some other extremely irresponsible women, who have been fully aware of joseph burchell's activities for years. activities which include scamming "full grown women" out of thousands of dollars. let's all be patient. and i want to remind everyone that it really doesn't matter where joseph is. what matters is that he has been exposed for who and what he really is.

10/6/2006 5:11:21 AM - omg. b4 he came to america spring05, he sent me the same pic too. told me it'd been taken directly from his phone from work as a bouncer. i believed it was 'that' night, ha. of course i saved it, added it to the collection we ALL seem to have. if anyone is still having doubts about this predator, hopefully every shred of info we are sharing will sink in.

10/6/2006 7:11:36 AM - Goodness Laverne. Just 2 months ago you were on yahoo answers with the following: by different prophets that l could n't sustain my marriage.l refused to accept that and prayed for a change.my man already has a 6yr old boy whom l have taken on.l just heard from my sister that he has another boy who is 18yrs just 5yrs my junior l had already asked him 3times before who the boy was bcos he has sponsored the guy to join him from Africa.He lied to me saying the boy was his brother.now he has confirmed it's his son.l feel so hurt and just can't trust him .why wouldhe lie about his own son and can only guess he's got other secrets. l love him but feel l can,t trust and beginning to believe the prophets were right. lam confused & don't know what to say to him now as he apologised and want me to give him a 2nd chance. Do l end this by recalling what l was told earlier about my marriage with him or what?

10/6/2006 7:12:57 AM - Now you say he told you that your daughter was his ONLY child -a nd yet here you stated that you are helping? with his 6 year old son and know about another son just a few years younger than you.... why does the story keep changing...?

10/6/2006 7:20:47 AM - From yahoo answers - .my man already has a 6yr old boy whom l have taken on.l just heard from my sister that he has another boy who is 18yrs just 5yrs my junior l had already asked him 3times before who the boy was bcos he has sponsored the guy to join him from Africa.He lied to me saying the boy was his brother.now he has confirmed it's his son.l feel so hurt and just can't trust him .why wouldhe lie about his own son and can only guess he's got other secrets. l love him but feel l can,t trust and beginning to believe the prophets were right. lam confused & don't know what to say to him now as he apologised and want me to give him a 2nd chance. Do l end this by recalling what l was told earlier about my marriage with him or what?

10/6/2006 7:24:30 AM - I have only heard he is here. I could be wrong as he changes plans frequently it seems. I have no doubt he has contacted Laverne? Ester? whomever and told her to stop listening to everyone - that she is the 'one' and he will be coming for her and the baby. Moving to Canada seems extreme but if you have overstayed your welcome? in the states and here, where else to go? (Here's a tip, Laverne - pack really warm clothes. Lots of cashmere and wool. Gets very chilly in Canada. Although I hear Ontario is really beautiful.)

10/6/2006 8:01:53 AM - laverne,i think you need to keep your head together and focus right NOW on being a good mother to your daughter. and being one means you need to have a clear head and a lot of drive to get past with JB. you say it's hard to forget him and you're hurting, but seeing your daughter each day, isnt that enough motivation for you to be the best mother she can ever ask for? she needs you now 101% more than you need to "baby" your heartbreak. it's not a crime to forgive and that's not taken against you, but set it aside now and give your daughter your focus and attention since it's gonna be just you and her now by yourselves - she's gonna be loyal and loving to you if you give her that.

10/6/2006 8:16:58 AM - what ever happened to him moving 'back' to hawaii...oh, yea. it's still the states. definitely warmer than canada tho. lavern, THINK ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER. DO NOT LET HIM SUCKER YOU BACK IN!!!

10/6/2006 8:39:25 AM - I don't think they could afford to live in Hawaii unless Laverne gets a really good paying job. I think we all know that Tommy won't be working (legitimately, that is...). And they'll need a nanny, too, since we know he'll be working the women while Laverne's at work. Any one who thinks he will ever change is either incredibly stupid or just not paying attention. There is no 'one' for this man. He likes his women by the dozens.

10/6/2006 8:42:36 AM - That being said, Laverne has been very quiet. No doubt he's reached out to her. Even if he couldn't make the baby's birthday - I'm sure he has a really good reason - he'll be here for the nuptials! Yes, Laverne, listen to all his tales and promises. Because he always keeps his promises. Right?

10/6/2006 8:50:56 AM - So Laverne, do tell! Is he here as I heard or is he playing games again. As ofr games, why Jayne, I think you are Joseph trying to get more information. Just a hunch.

10/6/2006 10:34:39 AM - Lavern hunnie, I am finding what your saying hard to read, you keep going on and on about how you had a three year relationship with this man, you were engaged, he was the love of your life etc, etc, but surely do you not realise that you have actually not had a relationship at all. It's just the same as getting pregnant by a sex buddie, on yahoo answers you said he missed the birth, has never met your daughter and she's what ..one year old already? plus the fact his been living in another country for nearly two years! omg! he's also expecting new babies this year by two more girls in the uk, who he was also engaged to. I think you ought to realise that you've been a single woman for the past few years with a few shags thrown in here and there by a player

10/6/2006 11:03:21 AM - from yahoo answers: I remember two years ago when i really wanted a baby. we tried everything. me and my boyfriend. not using a condom. no contraception of any kind. different positions. oral sex (he told me to get pregnant i needed to swallow) which i dont know if that was true i was a bit unsure because that wasnt my kind of thing. but anyway we had sex eeverytime we saw each other. and we wouldnt stop until he cummed and cummed the whole lot. (LAVERN THIS IS WAHT YOU WROTE. didn't it occur to you he just wanted sex from you. he told you to get pregnant you had to swallow his spunk, no wonder it took a year of trying! seriously babe, I think you should talk with a professional and take on board what they have to say and LISTEN. I'm not being mean, I'm just trying to make you see how naive you are

10/6/2006 11:23:17 AM - And I do hate to seem mean, but really now, after all that has been said and stated by so many women - even if you think it may be just a few - the point still stands out that this man sleeps with everyone. He makes the same promises over and over again playing to our vulnerability to want to be loved and love by him. And sadlt, I can see him saying that about swallowing as he so does love having his dick sucked. That's all it is really about - him getting off. Unfortunately at everyone's expense.

10/6/2006 1:30:12 PM - I do believe that he did seduce her and continually led her on since he left the UK with false promises. For goodness sake, if she really was only 18 and only 4'11" - she's practically a child herself. And it would seem he has a penchant for the children. If she really believes he will marry her she is in for tremendous disappointment. He might marry her to shut her up - but the committment would be false. He will engage her in his twisted sexual fantasies and ultimately be prostituting her. Its about control and she has already said she has told him what he wants to hear for fear of losing him. Its sorry to see that she doesn't think better of herslef and what she will be doing to her daughter by allwoing him in her life.

10/6/2006 2:24:16 PM - comefullcircle - no I am not Joseph.

10/7/2006 7:20:25 AM - I am sorry for your loss, i am just saying you know, you said previously that he never spoke with you on the phone, he would only text you or email etc. I am actually engaged with a daughter, I just choose to keep my name private because that is my right. And I'm just trying to make you feel better and gain strength, there are tons of us who have had 'relationships' with this man over the period you have had, I was living with him! I don't class my involvement with this guy as a relationship, a relationship is where two people are failthful to each over.

10/7/2006 2:16:58 PM - Laverne, toffeepie - whoever you are - you have the intelligence of a 12 year old. You came on this sight months ago crying and venting and raging on this jerka nd then you dropped off suddenly because he said he loved you and would marry you. Rubbish. You are emotionally and intellectually a child. You say he saw you in the psych ward in November then you jumped in bed with him in December - yet he still hadn't seen his own child. Obviously your priorities are intact. You said you believed that your daughter is his only child and yet you had already spokenw ith Julie and others. Apparently everyone lies to you but him. You need to grow up. Really. And you are the IDIOT.

10/7/2006 7:23:18 PM - Dear "comefullcircle", there is absolutely no need for name calling among the women here, the only one to blame for any of this is joseph/tommy, and no one else! We were all idiots/fools/naive, for a time, but we have come out on the other side of this and are here to support each other, not tear each other down, this situation we have all been placed in has done enough damage, there is no need to continue the negativity towards one another. If you want to direct your anger/frustration/energy anywhere, then point it directly where it belongs, at HIM! And it's time to do so in a positive direction, meaning, what we are all doing behind the scenes here, making sure he is put where he belongs, in prison, far far away from any of us and any future victims.

10/7/2006 7:37:22 PM - And as for you joe/tom, you can rest assured that the wheels of justice are in full-on motion against you, try as you may to bully us into telling you just what it is that entails, do you really beleive we would jeopardize a criminal investigation? And especially me?? You knew my law enforcement background when you chose to scam me, what is it you were always saying..."I hate all F***ing cops", etc. etc., gee, big wonder why, eh? You can run all you want, you can even try to hide, but we know who, what and WHERE you are at all times... Now who's the idiot/fool/naive? Ahhh karma, it's a beautiful thing, ain't it?

10/8/2006 12:47:31 AM - For those of you who wished me luck and said I would need it.... you were right, my luck has run out. I was expecting to be moving to the States this month in order to get married to Joseph. Like many, many others we had talked endlessly, made loads of plans and now, of course, as predicted he has disappeared.

10/8/2006 12:51:59 AM - I am guessing that he now has someone, or many someones, else and therefore doesn't need me. I word of warning to anyone who may still be with him.... I was with him for nearly 4 years. Because of the plans we had made I have given up my job and sold my house. Since I have known him I have lost approximately 200,000 british pounds, which is around $360,000. So please, learn by my mistake.... if you read this and you are still involved with him, please be very, very careful. Your luck will run out eventually too.

10/8/2006 12:57:07 AM - I am sure there are people who will say I was stupid and should have known better, and you would be right. However, he is plausible and charming and so I believed him, and closed my eyes to the inconsistencies. Legally, he has done absolutely nothing wrong, it was my choice to support him, to spend that money. Morally is another story. I feel incredibly sad that things did not work out between us and I am trying to pick up the pieces of my life and move on. I do, of course, also feel extremely stupid for having got myself into this position.

10/8/2006 10:39:08 AM - i feel for you jayne,despite the fact that i hated you all those years....you must have known why...its nice to reflect once in awhile.and see how much i've gained now by moving on by myself.all i can say is god never left me.he help me wake up at the right time,and gave me loads of courage to move on.you can e-mail me.if you want to know who i am.chitty1chitty@yahoo.co.uk

10/9/2006 6:47:56 AM - Laverne - just so we are clear, I am only questioning what youhave already stated. You say you beleived him when he told you your daughter was the only ONE - yet YOU wrote the following: 8/20/2006 2:59:44 AM - Posted by: toffeepie - I DON'T TELL LIES! i believe and love God. and i don't mess with his commandments! and lies is one thing i do NOT do! i was simply warning women that he'll TRY to get you to sleep with other men without protection. like he TRIED to get me to sleep with other men but I NEVER EVER DID IT. he was always out of the country and he suggested this after we had OUR baby. I DON'T SLEEP AROUND! for the whole year me and tommy was trying for a baby, he was the ONLY man i SLEPT with! he knows he's the father and i know he is and thats all that MATTERS. not only does my baby look like tommy but my baby looks like tommy's son too! and the fact that he blew his load in me when we had sex so so so many times also justifys that he is the father! you don't know nothing!

10/9/2006 6:50:11 AM - YOU stated that your baby looked like Tommy's son. SON. Now why would you be claiming that or thinking he had a son...? You do notmake any sense. And as for sense, in case your mum didn't tell you - you can't get pregnant by swallowing a bloke's cum. (Whatever happened to secondary educaiton around here?) I am sorry for your situation but you obviously knew the truth and continued to fall for his crap.

10/9/2006 9:01:35 AM - comefullcircle, i told soheartbroken about joseph's 17 year old son recently. she was not aware of this until a few weeks ago. soheartbroken is young and has been manipulated and victimized by joseph burchell. i'm not sure why you are launching a personal attack on her, but you are only making yourself look bad to the rest of us who monitor this site. either get a grip or we will edit your comments off of this site.

10/9/2006 9:23:32 AM - I apologise if it would seem I am attacking her but she has made some stupid choices (as we all have concerning this man) and when questioned she calls me an idiot. This isn't a battle amongst us by any means but I certainly hope she listens this time. I also feel badly for Jayne - I hope that you have not actually relocated to Hawaii for this man - as he misleads everyone. As I have previously said, he is a Predator. Age and nationality mean nothing to him. Your financial means and how he can benefit from you is all he takes into consideration. I truly feel for all of us.

10/9/2006 11:55:00 PM - "comefullcircle", it's ok if Jayne has actually moved to Hawaii already, then we can all visit her on our annual trek there some of us have been planning since this all came out! I fell in love with Hawaii, it's history, people, land and culture long before "he" every came into the picture, and he can never take that part of my life away. It also helps to now know that he actually doesn't have one drop of Hawaiian blood in him, despite his lies about being polynesian. So girls, start saving your money (should be much easier now that you've dumped his sorry a**!)and vacation time, we'll let you know when we confirm the dates.... seriously! I'm thinking long about the time of his sentencing, as a little celebration of our triumph... what do you think?!

10/10/2006 6:36:26 AM - Actually, if what Jayne has said is true and he is expecting her to send the proceeds of her house sale to him, no doubt he will find the means to contact her. He always spoke of wanting to live in Hawaii. and we all know he is never tied to any one woman or place too long.

10/11/2006 6:56:31 AM - Well ladies, Jayne has removed her question/comment regarding Joseph/Tommy on yahoo answers she recently posted, so we can guess he has contacted her and the plans are on again. And although she has known of this site and what has been said, she chose to relocate - she even posted an inquiry a month back on yahoo answers about locating a doberman pup for him. No doubt he has found his golden goose this time. And teenage children? Playmates for him. Well, at least we know where he'll be hiding.

10/11/2006 7:30:01 AM - comefullcircle - fyi the question on yahoo answers was not removed by me, it was removed by Yahoo Customer Care. As for my relocating - thats nothing new, you yourself mentioned it in a previous posting. It seems to me that you have nothing postive to say to anyone, all you seem to do is attack other people.

10/11/2006 7:48:15 AM - Actually Jayne, I wish you the best if you have relocated. A new start can sometimes make a world of difference.

10/11/2006 7:51:24 AM - As for attacking others - you were aware of the things being said about him and chose to protect this man for 4 years. What about accountability? You must have known where he has been this entire time. If he would confide in anyone, I would guess it would be you since he claimed all along you were his accountant.

10/11/2006 11:57:56 AM - Laverne, despite the fact hat I may come off as mean at times, I can actually empathise with everyone. I must remind you thoughh that you cannot take anything this man may say or do to heart. This man uses women as a source of amusement for his twisted mind and a means of financial gain. He does not possess the ability to truly become emotionally attached to anyone. You have done nothing wrong other than to be in the wrong place at the wrong time to have met him. Do not continue to allow yourself to be hurt by his cruel words as he is nothing. You and your child deserve a better life and a better man. And he will get his just rewards in time.

10/12/2006 7:03:11 AM - ohsobrokenhearted - this has never been about you or any other woman with him. Joseph, Tommy, whatever he is calling himself now - it is always about him and what he wants for HIMSELF. Jayne apparently has the financial means to move him to Hawaii - where he has repeatedly said he wants to be - and he has a price on his soul. He has been for sale for some time. Jayne is apparently the highest bidder. But she, like any of us, is only kidding herself if she believes him to be in love with her - he is only in love with what she can do for him. And when the money runs out he will find another enabler as that is what he does best.

10/12/2006 9:40:43 AM - hey, maybe he wants to start a commune or a cult in Hawaii. i know he asked me to move there with him as well, oh just about a month or so ago (even tho i'd not been with him in over a year). oh right!!! that was when he was clueless as to MY plans of NEVER being involved with him again. poor dumb, stupid boy. god help jayne too, for she's just as pitiful as he!!! ps jayne-loved all of your BS, you ALMOST had me convinced...

10/12/2006 9:56:59 AM - Well, it can't be too surprising as now he has the cash cow supporting him financially - he needs, uhm, 'playmates.' No one ever eally thought he would take any type of commitment seriously. Other than to his Betty B's and his Harley. Speaking of, Jayne dear, along with finding the boy a puppy, has he had you arrange transport of his toys too? The boy needs his toys. Lots of them.

10/12/2006 2:39:43 PM - I seriously question Joseph/Tommy turning down an opportunity to have someone support him and his leisure lifestyle. Given that Jayne has already indicated she has relocated to Hawaii to start her life with him, it would seem as if she is backpeddling at this point. No doubt he is in need of her 'assistance' to relocate to the island, so why would he burn this bridge now?

10/13/2006 7:25:47 AM - Jayne, now you are lying. You told your realtor that you and Joseph are married and that the two of you are selling your house to immigrate to the states together. In fact, your house was for sale in the summer. Now you are saying that you sold your house because you can't afford it????? Could it be, Jayne, that you assist Joseph Burchell in scamming women? After all, you have known about All the women all along. You have known that he takes money from women under false pretenses. Maybe he really has left you now after all the promises that he would share the loot. If that's so, you certainly had it coming.

10/13/2006 7:44:16 AM - I would also like to warn women that if you believe Joseph Burchell was not in any way USING you, think again. If you have ever given this man nude pictures or put on a show for him via webcam, you better believe that he was broadcasting it, making money off of You, under the false belief that it was just between the two of you. Anyone who has made a "video" for him should also be aware that he has probably sold it to some pornographer. Joseph Burchell exploits women of all ages for profit, so he can have his toys. GO to your local law enforcement if he has exploited you or taken money from you under false pretenses. At least report him. He has already been reported, so the more local law enforcement has to go on, the better.

10/13/2006 7:51:47 AM - Why Jayne - you posted on yahoo answers the following: Relocating to Hawaii? I am relocating to Oahu from the UK in order to marry my fiance, who has lived there most of his life. My 2 teenage children are also moving with us. As money will be a little tight for a year or two we are considering buying a property in Waianae. Do you think my english children will be ok living in this area? And not much thereafter this one : Where can I buy a doberman puppy in Hawaii? Additional Details 1 month ago I live in Honolulu, and the quarantine rules make it impossible to import a puppy from the mainland.

10/13/2006 7:53:44 AM - Now onemight note you originally had your 'nickname' on yahoo answers as 'JW14' and now you show it as 'ele.' Why did you change your nickname? There seems to be a goo ddeal of inconsistency as to the hings you are now telling us - the things you have written and inquired about.

10/13/2006 8:11:44 AM - Yes, all good points comefullcircle, but since jayne's children live with their father and hate her guts, i doubt they will be relocating. i also want to jayne why you claim to be a lesbian. could that by to throw people off about your true relationship with this man? and while we are on the subject of hawaii, i want to set the record straight. joseph burchell is now from hawaii. he is from louisiana. he is creole, which is a mixture of black and french. his parents are alive and well and his family thinks he is "shady", but not sure if they know the full extent of his illegal activities. and all of you who think he is visiting his family at christmas and such, well, no, they don't get along and did not hear from him for years.

10/13/2006 8:14:09 AM - joseph burchell is NOT from hawaii. and come on people. the man has NO Friends. only women that he scams. what a pathetic excuse for a human being.

10/13/2006 8:40:09 AM - He obviously still has women who claim everyone lies and he is a poor, innocent man who is a victim of many bitrter women (or does he continue to stick with the story it's only 2 bitter women..????) I have seen correspondence from women who feel has done nothing to deserve any of this - he is misunderstand and now he is 'alone.' Poor, poor Joseph. We all know how engaging and charming and believable he can be, but really now, considering how much has been said about him and his activities, how can anyone honestly say they never wondered about the numerous cellphones, laptops, webcam, videocamera... etc etc. He is a regular posterboy that one. He is EXACTLY the type of man your mother warned you about.

10/14/2006 2:10:38 PM - Sobrokenhearted - just be thankful that although it is painful, the reality of what this man is and what he is capable of doing is finally coming home to you. You are one of so many victims, and any one whom he has ever touched will be a scar from it. He is a diseased individual with no morals nor remorse, so save your words of sadness and loss as they mean nothing to him. He truly is an island unto himself - and he will use anyone who crosses his path for his own means. His agenda is not hidden anymore.

10/14/2006 2:24:31 PM - And whether joseph/tommy runs to canada, hawaii or wherever, he will eventually be found. He is obsessed with women and controlling and manipulating them. He can't control his impulse to contact former lovers as well, so he continually leaves a trail. And he will never commit to any one woman as he has never been honest with himself.

10/16/2006 7:58:16 AM - He is a complete liar and cheat.

10/17/2006 7:29:57 AM - Laverne I have never said this was about ME nor have I ever elaborated about my relationship with this man. YOU brought up the ring and the other things YOU don't have from him. Just empty promises. I wish you the best in your future relationships and am genuinely sorry for all you have lost during your involvement with him. Everyone pays a price.

10/17/2006 8:00:45 AM - It's okay to be angry and frustrated and sad and disillusioned and heartbroken all at the same time. He is completely believable and he makes youw ant things for him and with him. He paints a life of happiness and promise and he appeals to every woman and what she wants in her own life. And as Julie put it so succintly, he is an internet romance scam artist. But the most important thing to remember is that you didn't do anything wrong. Belief and trust are the premise of any relationship. He is at fault - not you. Raise above this entire scenario and be a better person for it. Show your daughter the good things in life. You have never needed him to be a good parent.

10/25/2006 3:12:58 AM - HELLO.laverne how are you doing??i hope things for you didn't go wrong.Are you still around??i just wonder why all of the sudden you gone quiet,same as the others on this site.

10/25/2006 9:02:25 AM - Tommy is still keeping a low profile no doubt. He is most likely working a woman (or several) for money and such. I think it highly likely he has convinced someone he is wonderful and passionate and everyone who cannot have him is bitter.. etc. She will buy him things and tell him she loves him and wants the wolrd with him -- and he will thank her with his lies and deceit. Some stories never change. How does the saying go - 'a leopard never changes its spots.' And no, they never do.

10/25/2006 9:04:42 AM - And Laverne, the best I can hope for you is that you get to experience real, genuine love with your new boyfriend. What Tommy offered you - offered everyone - is false hope. He doesn't even know who he is so how could he be real and genuine in any other person's life. He is a complete joke.

10/28/2006 8:25:18 AM - Laverne has gone from being hospitalized, suffering from depression induced by joseph/tommy, to being a young woman in love with a younger man? why am i not bying that story? could it be that she has once again bought joseph's crap? only days ago she was talking on the kettering site about having joseph's penis chopped off and how he has been screwing 12 year old girls. i hope to God that she really has met someone who is taking her mind off all of this, but i fear that he has done something to her or that the snake has slithered his way in again.

10/30/2006 7:00:09 AM - What's amusing here is that tommy absolutley DETESTS having bad things said about him or his character and no doubt her comments in the Ketttering site infuriated him. I would notbe surprised if he contacted her on these remarks/allegations. ** The amusing part is that he brings all of this onto himself withhis own actions. Lies and deceit beget loss. He will never learn that only the truth - about himself and honsety in his relationships will set him free.

11/2/2006 2:01:54 PM - So what has happened to Jayne? Did she move to Dallas after all?

11/4/2006 2:17:51 AM - what happen to those ladies that were worried and went to the doctor for test if they're clear or not.they seemed to settle down.nobody seem to say much lately.are you all alright?gemma,has he done his promises to you???did anybody got what was promised to them,speak out if anyone got it.

11/5/2006 4:22:49 PM - well, i started a posting, and am not sure what happened, everything disappeared to i'm starting over. Oh! I meant to mention, i have had the e-mail address BLMNIDT@aol.com for over 10 years...when i went to register for this site, it said that e-mail address was already registered. Hhhhmmmmmm... anyway... I met Joseph on eHarmony.com...i'm hoping the other post shows up so i'm just going to continue. He bought an Xbox in the fall of 2005 at the Blockbuster near my house, (I live in Oklahoma City) I'm sure they could look that purchase up if anyone wanted specific dates. I also have spoken to Jayne on the telephone, I helped him sell his VRod on eBay (the one in England) I also know the girl that helped him buy his VRod in Dallas. I'm not sure she would want to be exposed, she called me a couple of months ago crying. she met him a week or two before me and it seems she is still seeing him. I'm not sure at this point. It was so easy to tell early on that he was a womanizer so i never took him seriously...therefore, his early promises of "life together" soon stopped as i kept shrugging them off. Something everyone should remember is that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!

11/5/2006 4:30:36 PM - It looks like my first post isn't going to show up... I met him in Spring 2005 on eHarmony. I believe it was May, but again, I am not sure. I never knew the details might be important for others to help put pieces together. I met him for the first time the weekend before the 4th of July, 2005. I had suspicion immediately because he acted like a man of means, yet was staying at a Motel 6. When I came down he changed rooms, supposedly to get a larger bed (yes, he expected me to stay the night and was very upset when i said i had friends to stay with) I later checked with the motel and found out the previous room number he had been in had the same bed, it was a duplicate room. (I knew the previous room number because i called his room several times) Anyway, everything was always suspicious, again, actions speak louder than words. I helped him buy the rust colored furniture (I NEVER bought anything for him, it was his money, or maybe i should say it was money he got from someone else)

11/5/2006 4:37:52 PM - Oh, i forgot to mention, my name is Shawn. Jayne, i'm sure you remember me. Anyway, i kept all my yahoo messenger conversations with him. I keep them on everyone. If you all really are wondering about dates on his whereabouts, i'm sure i could help provide some. I think the fact that i wasn't "taken" by him made it easier to see right through him. For me, I'd just been through a break up and he was just "fun", although not THAT much fun. And when i received a phone call from the girl that bought the VRod in Dallas for him, I ended communication with him. I hate to think that so many women have felt loved by him and tried to do for him only to find themselves pregnant and abandoned. I can say, that he did borrow money from me one time, he said he was flat broke, etc. etc. I'm sure you all know what i mean. He said he needed hotel, gas and food money for the weekend until Jayne, his accountant, had money wired to him. I told him i would send him enough money to get to my house from Dallas, gas money to get here, but that was all. As i keep saying, actions speak...if he truly "loved" me, he would jump at the chance to come and see me. I told him all he had to do is drive up, he's have a roof over his head, food, and my company. Of course, he never showed up. He did however pay me back my money plus the cost of wiring it to him a few weeks later.

11/5/2006 4:42:03 PM - The only items he has that are mine are two down pillows, a sheet set that is a green stripe (light green and medium green stripe) and the one thing I SO wanted back, my favorite blanket. An expensive blanket. I always had the promise of getting it back from him, but of course it never happened. It was cream colored, heavy egyptian cotton, a Nobel Excellence blanket. If anyone ever gets their hands on it, please let me know.

11/5/2006 4:47:13 PM - I know that alot of you are accusing others on here of being Joseph or whatever, and maybe he is here. What matters is that everyone look into theirselves, look at his actions, think about what constitutes a man of morals and character, then compare that to the man you know. I have talked quite a few times to the girl that bought the VRod in Dallas, it seems he looks for women of any age that are "needy". I hate to use that word, it seems harsh, but that is the easiest way for a man to "prey" on woman. Remember, i had just been through a break up and was feeling needy myself. Thankfully it didn't take me long to get over that and see through his games. I only wish I had realized how serious the situation was last summer and tried to do something to help others.

11/5/2006 4:50:56 PM - For those of you that are pregnant here in the states, you need to file something against him for child support, eventually i'm sure they'll require a DNA test, but that shouldn't be a problem. If he refused to pay, if he has debt for child support in excess of a certain amount, he will be imprisoned. If memory serves me correctly, they can even find him and arrest him if he is in another country and bring him back. Ask your attorney about your rights.

11/5/2006 4:58:47 PM - Again, I truly feel for those of you that were taken by him. He talked about buying me a ring, FROM WAL MART!!! Yes, he loves that place. But he told me he knew that wouldn't do for me... (I have a career, an MBA, my previous husband was fairly wealthy and my tastes can be quite expensive. :-) I am 37 years old now, so I hope none of you think your age is a factor in his "selection"...again, i think he just looks for needy women that are nurturers...someone to take care of him.

11/5/2006 5:09:42 PM - I truly feel for him in one sense, i think his actions are a result of some kind of childhood trauma, maybe abuse, I'm not sure. All i know is he obviously started treating women a particular way and now it is getting out of control. I feel he needs some serious psychiatric help. No human can remain "inside" themselves, they all need to interact on an intimate level with other humans. I feel I sometimes saw that in him, i'm sure he uses each girl for some kind of intimacy...he reveals a small piece of who he really is to different girls. I know that it must be theraputic for all of you to "vent" on this site, but what really needs to happen is, as hard as it is to do, is to become strong and try not to make the same mistake again. File paperwork for him to be a responsible father, even if it's only financial. Realize that you all acted in faith, you felt you were showing, that you were returning love that you thought was being given to you. It is not your fault that he misled you and you cannot do anything to keep from continuing to mislead you. As I have told the girl in Dallas many times, heck, I'll just say her name, Suzy, as long as he can use her for something, a place to stay, money, sex, etc. he will stick around and keep her misled, keep her guessing. I refused to do anything for him. I wasn't mean about it, obviously i wasn't because he stuck around for almost 6 months, i just let him know that whether i had the means or not wasn't the point. The point is that he needs to be responsible for himself and treat me with the same respect he wants, and with the respect we deserve. I just remembered someone mentioning that he complained about a phone bill or something. He mentioned that to me also, he wanted me to help him pay his bill. I said to him, "You want me to help you with your phone bill because the calls and texts were to me? Well, I'll do that as soon as you pay my phone bill". I wasn't mean, it was just matter of fact.

11/5/2006 6:16:04 PM - well, if anyone has any questions feel free to ask. I'll check back a time or two, but really do not wish to spend much time on this. The only reason I even found this is because of Suzy's call a couple of months ago, combined with all the pieces that didn't "fit" last year...I had found the letter by Julie, some conversations i overhead or messages i saw between he and Jayne, (I saw her cussing him out a couple of times. Of course, he loves to play games with people that he thinks are "hooked". How many times have you all been on webcam with him, you think you're having a conversation, but it's obvious he isn't answering...it's like he just wants you to see him sitting there, he wants to know that he's pushing your buttons. Just my opinion...) Anyway, I was just curious to see what was up with him now, if anything. I certainly never expected all of this. Oh, BTW, if he has used to internet to for purposed of fraud, theft, etc. For example, if he asked you for something, say money, and promised you something in return but you never received it. You may have a case against him. According to law, a contract consists of an offer and an acceptance. If you save YM messages or anything, and can prove this information, you could sue him. You might never get anything out of him because he never seems to work, but at least everyone would have cases against him just in case he ever did have some money. I don't know...again, ask an attorney. I guess what i'm trying to say with all these lengthy messages, is to turn your anger and hurt into action. Act to retrieve what you can that he took from you (only if you were promised payback, etc.) Act to do what is best for your child. Act to move on and find someone that deserves what you all so obviously have to give, lots of love and patience.

11/5/2006 6:22:05 PM - Something I have decided to do given the last few "relationships" i've had is to ask them a simple question, and ask it on the FIRST date. "What do they have to offer me?" I don't mean material items, although that can sometimes be a factor is they aren't employed...appear to not have a career or steady work history. What i mean by what they have to offer, is what can they offer you emotionally or romantically. Are they dependable? Are they stable? It's really something where as women we have to stop and think about what we have to offer to be supportive of a potential life's partner and/or a family. I am all about doing little things to make a man happy, cooking a favorite food, a back rub, etc. A man should be able to come up with these "offerings". Really think about it, and if you ever ask a man that, really stand back and ask yourself if it's genuine or just something he's saying to appease you. Obviously, some of what he'll say may not be your taste, after all, he doesn't know you very well yet, but it shouldn't be difficult for a mature, grounded man to answer that question intelligently and with thoughtfulness.

11/5/2006 6:27:16 PM - Something else I've learned, if they say they're an asshole, BELIVE IT!!! Run for the hills!!! Anything negative he says about himself, BELIEVE IT!!! Don't try to analyze it, just believe it. That is one thing he'll say where his actions will always confirm what he's told you. Of course, when they're saying nice things, and the actions aren't backing them up, that's just as bad. Think about men who take advantage of women, they're going to be sneaky, but you'll always see the red flags, the things that just don't make sense, the excuses. It's just like people that make counterfeit money, they make it as close to the real thing as possible.

11/5/2006 6:42:01 PM - I sincerely hope i have not offended anyone. I would just like to see everyone be strong and hang in there. If you feel he is using you, he most likely is! Go with your gut!! Examine your feelings, are you really wanting him or are you just lonely? I just recently tried to be in a relationship with someone out of loneliness...what a waste of time. I'm just like everyone else, it can be so difficult to make the right decisions...let your friends and family help. Try to date several men at a time rather than one at a time. Then you feel like you have a choice instead of feeling you have to try and "hang onto" the one you have. When the right one comes along, you'll know it! You'll be HAPPY!!!! The right man would go out of his way to keep from hurting your feelings, or missing important events in your life. He'll be interested in YOU, in your daily life. He'll want to be a part of your life, involved with your life. He'll ASK to meet your friends and family. He'll want to spend time with you, not just a text message or e-mail. He'll call and have conversations. He will uplift you and support you. Of course fusses will happen, but they certainly won't be the norm... If any of you don't have the book, "He's Just Not That Into You", you really should buy it and read it. You do have the strength to not let him control your emotions and make you miserable. Go get on some anti-depressants if you have to...start exercising regularly, ask your friends and family to be supportive and positive and PATIENT! It's going to take time to get over your situation, but you all can do it. You'll start having more good days than bad, and you'll slowly realize you have better things to do than mess with someone that is not treating you like a princess! If he is the father of a child you have, then go out and find a man that will be a proper father and a good example so you end up with a happy healthy child. They are so precious and learn so much by example. The majority of a child's personality is developed and set by the time they are five! That is no joke! So, really think about that every day and use those few years to show them a happy healthy person, a positive well-balanced role model, with or without a man.

11/5/2006 6:56:59 PM - Joseph, I do know you create aliases to "disguise" yourself. So, if you are reading this, please, stop the chaos. I know you have it in you to be a good person. All you are doing is creating a situation that you will never be able to dig out of. Given the numbers of women that you seem to have impregnated, I can easily see you on a "Most Wanted Dead Beat Dads" list. They are seriously out there and states take that VERY seriously. I know a man going through that right now. They have tracked him down, frozen all his accounts, garnished his wages, or else he was going to end up imprisoned. If it is as you say, or as some of the girls have said, and you aren't the father, then step up to the plate and get DNA testing to prove you aren't the father. I am quite certain the mothers or their families would be more than happy to pay for the testing. If you aren't the pedophile from the Phillipines, like you told me and others, find a way to prove that. Ask that government to publish a picture of the person that is the Joseph they refer to... Just come clean with everything. You'll feel so much better when you do. It will take time to straighten everything out, but will be worth it in the long run. I see it this way, it's very simple, people that strive to do the right things, treat people right, be responsible for their lives and the lives of those they are associated with, don't end up on web sites like this and cause this much of a stir. This is not a couple of disgruntled girls, it is a growing group of women that have, by comparing "notes", discovered all the lies you tell and your habit of being a financial leech. Someday you are going to anger the wrong person if you don't change your ways... Is that really what you want for yourself? You're old enough that you'll never change unless you make a very conscious and decisive effort to be a better person. Why not step up and be that person?

11/5/2006 7:00:44 PM - If anyone wants to contact me on Yahoo, i have two ID's. sassybrunetteinok and peanuts4na. Shawn

11/5/2006 7:11:57 PM - someone wrote and said he was in new mexico and his number was a 718 area code...well, that area code is in New York, not New Mexico.

11/6/2006 7:07:25 AM - Dear blmnidt, thanks so much for your infinite wisdom. Do you think if i get an MBA instead of a Phd I will be as smart as you??? If you are sassybrunetteinuk then you will remember attacking me on the internet when I first wrote the infamous "letter", an attack that suggests you are Joseph Burchell himself. You will also remember my statement in the "letter" that I have already contacted the authorities. I want to bring everyone's focus back where it belongs. Joseph Burchell is not just a player or a user as "blmnidt" asserts, and his victims are not pathetic and needy women just waiting to be taken. Joseph Burchell is an internet romance scam artist, a deportee, and a suspected pedophile who needs to be brought to justice. Any time I see an attempt to revictimize the women Joseph Burchell has harmed, I have to question who you are, and in your case, "blmnidt", I seriously question you.

11/6/2006 7:26:54 AM - Julie, I am NOT sassybrunetteinUK I am sassybrunetteinOK. I promise i am real. My name is Shawn Szewczak, my number is XXX-XXX-XXXX. Feel free to call me. I am a real person that DOES know Joseph. I in no way have wanted to downplay what you all are going through. I was only trying to be positive. I feel fortunate to have circumstances that kept me from getting more involved with him. I, just like you all, want to do what i can to keep him from harming more women. Seriously, feel free to call me. I am very open and honest, I have nothing to hide. For anyone that calls me, please know that I will not tolerate being "attacked". I also do not want to ever have to change my number, but will do so if anyone tries to cause problems for me. I feel the women on this site, and anyone else he has conned, need to be united.

11/6/2006 8:15:58 AM - I don't believe that Shawn was suggesting that she was more intelligent than anyone - only that she was asserting that she is an intelligent, independent woman who was also manipulated (albeit briefly) by Joseph. Joseph is attracted to all woman - and their vulnerability is the one common factor they share. I appreciate Shawn taking the time to share her story with everyone. I also applaud her for being positive about the way she came through her encounter. She has managed to fill in more of the gaps and illuminate more of his lies.

11/6/2006 9:27:24 AM - And yes, Suzy is still involved with him and refuses to take your advice - no doubt the same offered by others she has been in contact with outside these sites. She is willing to forgive all of his transgressions as long as he maintains that he loves only her. We have all been there at one time, most of us got a clue and realized what he is - WAKE UP SUZY!

11/6/2006 9:46:15 AM - If you have useful information shawn, then please provide a number and address to julie_ezernack1967@yahoo.com, so that law enforcement can interview you.

11/6/2006 12:57:31 PM - this is a bit late, but in response to the previously posted comments made on 10/25 and 11/4 by 'chitty' regarding the ceasing of the chatter. HELLO i think we're all trying to pick up the pieces and lead as healthy lives as we possibly can. that means not thinking about 'it' (tjr/jb/) and finding strength within ourselves and amongst each other. also, why do we want to play into the hands of someone who gloats on attention?!? personally, 'it' is no longer worth my time and effort. but i do take comfort knowing that i'm not alone in this mess. if my comments can ever be helpful in any way, it's worth it. and, not that i'd like to spend any more time on something that i've already put to rest, but...shawn: our situations and dealings with 'it' were very similar. i was also a 2005 eH 'babe'. would love to get from you the timeline from last year activities in more detail. might help complete more of the puzzle, too. please contact me at gracielv2@yahoo

11/6/2006 2:42:47 PM - a red flag went up when shawn mentioned that her email address of many years had been mysteriously used to register on this site. got curious and checked mine, too...just found out that 'someone' used BOTH of MY private email addresses to register!!! hmm... that SOB!

11/7/2006 7:27:41 AM - Yes, laverne, you are crazy. After you claim this man completely rejected you and your child, said he called the baby a bastard -- and numerous other things -- you 'forgive' him? I think that is incredibly generous of you - and no doubt, when your daughter asks about her father and you explain how he abandoned you and her, you will feel so much joy in knowing you FORGAVE him. **Realitycheckplease - I think you were on to something when you suggested he got to her AGAIN.

11/7/2006 7:29:10 AM - And so you are clear on the laverne - you are not going to ruin tommy's life. He is quite capable of doing that all on his own. He is on a path to self destruction - and we are just trying to prevent him from taking any more women down that path with him.

11/7/2006 10:52:54 AM - amazingly, blmnidt has not emailed me with her phone number and address, so that the authorities can interview her. and even more astonishing is the fact that i asked laverne for her information so that the authorities can interview her in the UK... haven't heard from her either. could it be that joseph has now taken over laverne's id as he did once before? and could it be that he is blmnidt? it 's just too coincidental that the person who attacked me on yahoo messenger for writing the manilla times was sassybrunetteinuk and now blmnidt is using the id sassybrunetteinok. puh leez........ joseph "get a grip" babes.

11/7/2006 11:12:29 AM - Julie- Shawn provided her phone# already so why not just call her. There was nothing to be gained by her offering her story so it might worth be pursuing. I can also attest that 'Suzy' contacted several of us by email over the past months and IMing. She is quite real and still with him.

11/7/2006 11:13:04 AM - Shawn Szewczak, my number is XXX-XXX-XXXX

11/7/2006 11:15:55 AM - And Suzy is S. Cross in Dallas, TX - formerly contacting women at tobethe_1_4u@yahoo.com (she - or Joseph have cancelled this account.)

11/7/2006 11:31:20 AM - i also have heard from suzy, or atleast she claimed to be suzy cross. i do not contact anyone because it usually ends up being joseph. i got tired of playing games with him. if someone wants to contact me with a name, phone number, and address, i assure you that the authorities will be in contact.

11/7/2006 11:58:21 AM - Well Suzy is real - 37 years old, resides in Dallas and has pretty much contacted everyone at some point. She is adamant that Joseph is a 'victim' and we are all only adding insult to injury. It would seem her only concern is to whether he is still involved with any other women at this time. She doesn't seem to comprehend the depth of his deception or how he has hurt others. It's amazing really. But then again, perhaps as Shawn indicated, she is someone so 'needy' that she can not see past the persona he portrays. Or simply doesn't care to acknowledge what he really is about.

11/7/2006 12:15:54 PM - And despite everyone being honest with her about their dealings with Joseph, she continues to see him. So what exactly is it she really wants from everyone I wonder. She told me wouldn't believe any of it until he told her it was true himself. Yes - incredible but true - he actually said that. Talk about wearing blinders.

11/8/2006 8:17:22 AM - I hate to point out the obvious but from my count, but it seems Joseph has been involved with at least a dozen women over the past 2 years, seeing many at the same time. Is it possible that he never has a real job because he is so busy spending his time working over women to serve as his benefactors so he can afford his lifestyle? Whenever would he find time to really work like the rest of us? It must be completely exhausting keeping up with all the women while pursuing new conquests. And I might surmise that although many women on here have indicated they offered Joseph a home at some point and yet it fell through that he must still maintain his own place (which affords him the privacy needed to pursue his 'work.') He must not be living with 'Suzy' or she would not be contacting everyone about him. In truth, it is doubtful that he will ever actually live with any one woman as this would hinder his activities - so Suzy, or whomever else is currently involved with him, you might take note that although Joseph might be with you at times, he will really never be with just you. And as he has given out many engagement rings, it is doubtful he will ever follow through on this either. Commitment to this man would be like a prison.

11/8/2006 8:37:17 AM - let's also keep in mind that 'it's'(tjr/jb) diseased! isn't knowingly passing it on some sort of crime?!? what can we do about that???

11/10/2006 2:57:37 PM - julie, i have been in Las Vegas since monday afternoon and just arrived home. I see no reason to e-mail a strange address, for all i know, YOU are joseph or suzy or who knows! Give law enforcement my number and they can call me... they don't have to have my address. On another note, Suzy first contacted me via YM and i asked her to call just so i knew it was for real. We've exchanged pics, etc. She told me that she contacted all the women she could in the hopes that they would disappear and she'd have joseph all to herself.

11/10/2006 3:01:45 PM - comefullcircle - thank you for your comments. Your summary is exactly what i was trying to say.

11/11/2006 7:33:03 AM - ok, blmnidt, i will have them call you next week.

11/12/2006 2:02:35 AM - Julie, Just out of curiosity, why wouldn't you call me?

11/12/2006 2:03:34 AM - Someone on here asked for more information, and asked that i e-mail them. I'd prefer for you to call. Thanks.

11/12/2006 7:31:23 AM - blmndit, as i explained to joseph, i wrote a reporter from the manilla times when i found out that an american named joseph burchell had been deported from the philippines. i wanted the reporter to confirm for me that the father of my child is the same joseph burchell that was deported. after that letter was published, i heard from many women in the US, Europe, and the Philippines and it was eventually confirmed that he was deported. in the process, i discovered that he is also a scam artist. i really don't feel like speaking to anyone else, because it is very emotionally draining, especially when Joseph is able to get back into the head of one of the women he has taken advantage of, which is the case now with "soheartbroken". as i said before, if you have useful information and you are not joseph burchell, then the authorities will handle it.

11/12/2006 12:11:30 PM - I'm sorry but I am a bit confused.... I have read the comments here from time to time. This guy is scamming people, using them and is generally a louse. But, what has he done which is illegal? So what authorities are involved and why? If you genuinely want to warn other women, then it would be helpful to make that clear.

11/12/2006 2:10:01 PM - wow. now crystalclear who's always a bit confused has appeared out of the woodwork. let me have Your number crystalclear and maybe the authorities can call and clarify that for YOU.

11/12/2006 2:40:01 PM - crystalclear, obviously you are not crystal clear. I, as well as alot of other women, wanted to believe his lies. If he made promises to pay back money that he borrowed, that is a verbal agreement and possibly more than verbal if their is e-mail or messages on that type of content. And, the last time I checked, the states take child support VERY seriously, serious offenders can do jail time for not paying. Also, for many of these women, they need information to show that he is a dead beat dad in order to receive help from the state (if they are in need). I for one have personal experience with him talking to me about having a child. He can be very convincing. As I have said before, if you're going to make a fake dollar bill, you're going to make it look as real as possible. So, until you've been through an experience, don't come around and judge those of us that have been there. Our only fault was that we were good people trying to help out someone we thought was a friend/lover/fiancee, etc. To close these out, PLEASE, if you cannot say positive supporting comments, leave this site and leave these women alone. Many of them are still dealing with the "aftermath" of being with him, and do not need any negative comments, comments that appear to talk down to them, etc. People make mistakes, we all make mistakes, even you! The only mistake these women made was to be a good person. THAT IS IT!!! I am quite certain they will know what to look for the next time they meet someone like this, I know I learned quite a bit from my short time with him. So, please leave them alone. If you still feel the need to post abusive comments, please feel free to send all you want to my yahoo address peanuts4na@yahoo.com. Say all you want to me, but leave the others alone!

11/12/2006 2:44:39 PM - Julie, I apologize and do understand. Just so you know, you are free to call me any time. I will do anything I can to help you all out with any information i have. Also, I do have some information that I have not posted on this site, that I think the authorities would find helpful. I work 8 - 5 but will keep my phone with me and answer unless i'm in a meeting. Please ask them to leave a return number if I am unable to answer. I WILL call back. Shawn

11/16/2006 8:54:55 AM - I am going to imply that 'crystalclear' is actually Suzy, joseph's current benefactor. She has some legal knowledge and I believe she is trying to get more clarification as to his 'activities' from a legal standpoint so she may better assist him. Obviously, she has no concern for the welfare of any of the other women that he has used or harmed in any manner as she is solely out for her own purpose. As stated by 'blmnidt,' she would like for everyone to disappear.... unfortunately for her his past is not going to go away so easily.

11/21/2006 2:42:40 PM - What are you hoping to gain by posting your previous comments Laverne? You obviously have not learned that rarely is any thing in life is 'perfect' and that is a complete misconception of reality. Life is not 'perfect' it is what you choose to make of it. Your continual tirades and then contrite statements do not speak well of you or your ability to manage your emotions. You must suffer from a complete lack of self-esteem to beg this man's forgiveness in hopes he will return to you. You might consider what kind of example you are setting for your daughter.

11/26/2006 3:26:08 PM - has a good heart? jealousy? you have to be joking soheartbroken!!! no one wants this pathetic excuse for a man lavern. he tells you that women are just jealous because they can't have him. who is claiming to want him? any woman with any dignity would not touch him with a ten foot pole now that we all know what a loser he is. THINK LAVERN. who is telling you these things. only Joseph. and by believing his lies you have allowed yourself to become as sick as he is. WAKE UP AND SEE THE TRUTH!!!!

12/14/2006 6:53:18 AM - so, laverne, has joseph forgiven you yet? did you have to have sex with other men to win him back? did that gain his trust? is he pimping out your daughter yet? please do tell. we ALL envy you sooooooooo much. LOL.

12/15/2006 12:01:00 PM - Laverne cannot win him back since she never had him to begin with. Sleeping with him doesn't make him 'yours,' it is just a means of amusement for him. She can continue wasting her time and life waiting for him to be with her but that's all she is doing. He doesn't want the children he has fathered much less to raise the one he is sleeping with. (And you really do have so much growing up to do little girl.)

1/8/2007 8:30:55 PM - This sounds like my ex, and the one before it.. in the aftermath you may want to go here because it is a long recovery after living through such deception and wanting to believe our dreams came true these guys are masters of the art of deception and could care less about the destruction they left behind... its all about whats in it for them? http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/20traitsofmalignantnarcissism1.msnw http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/whoget Who gets Targeted? Below are RED FLAGS SITE http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/unusualredflagsofourps.msnw Don�t take this lightly! http://groups.msn.com/PSYCHOPATH/linksl2 / / Terri.... liveandletlive_2001@hotmail.com

3/20/2007 9:27:09 AM - soheartbroken, you really do go in circles. You haven't seen this man in ages yet you chose to believe him, over and over again, despite what we have all shared with you. You were offered empathy and support by all and you chose to believe his lies. You need to get up off the floor, wipe your tears, and get some backbone. Show a little respect for yourself and be someone your child can look up to and not pity.

3/21/2007 6:59:35 AM - I have seen this man before. He visits an inmate at the Murray Correctional Facility in Gatesville. Beverly Shinn. He comes infrequently but my cousin says she is being released soon and she has plans with this man.

3/23/2007 7:00:32 PM - why do you have so many horrible stories about this guy? so what happen to him now? what about his kids? he look quite cute and angelic but with all your comments...all i can say is OH MY GOD!

3/23/2007 7:00:35 PM - why do you have so many horrible stories about this guy? so what happen to him now? what about his kids? he look quite cute and angelic but with all your comments...all i can say is OH MY GOD!

3/26/2007 4:52:23 PM - He is alive and well, living in Louisiana with his wife and daughter

3/26/2007 7:53:58 PM - don't be so ignorant. joseph burchell has no wife in louisiana or elsewhere for that matter. he only has stupid women, who ,in spite of all the information on this site and others, refuse to get their heads out of their asses. and the latest, Beverly Shinn, I'm sure the parole board would like to hear about the man she is consorting with.

3/26/2007 10:36:12 PM - Oh really? And what makes you so knowledgeable? When was the last time you saw/spoke/had contact with him?

3/27/2007 8:54:07 AM - Honeybaby and passionateRN look like joseph to me. He is so obvious.

3/27/2007 12:15:14 PM - He may be obvious, but you have no idea what you are talking about! None of you have seen or spoken to him recently, so have no idea what he is doing, where he is, or who he is with.

3/27/2007 1:36:31 PM - what we don't have is our heads up our asses;therefore, we know that joseph burchell will never marry anyone, because it would jeapordize his career as an internet romance scam artist. and who are you honeymay? are you the lady from louisiana whom he has married? what is your name? LOL.

3/27/2007 1:37:28 PM - oh, excuse me, i mean honeybaby.

3/27/2007 1:40:08 PM - We've been married for several years. Its ok for him to have his little diversions. Always good for a guy to have a way of passing the time. Why should I give my name? You're hiding behind an alias, it allows you to attack other people

3/27/2007 4:58:20 PM - lmao!!! can you say DELUSIONAL?

3/27/2007 10:32:00 PM - I don't need to. You're the one that needs the reality check.

4/24/2007 7:21:21 AM - Good lord Laverne, you need to get some help. You are obviously reinvolved with this man and he has you twisted up again. You need to seek some counseling or psychiatric help to work through this and by no means ever consider taking your life. His entire game has been spelled out repeatedly for you and others, so stop thinking he is anything more than exactly that and get some help. You have others to think about.

6/1/2007 8:26:57 AM - You fucking women need to grow the fuck up! your fucking pathetic! you are wasting your fucking time! i doubt this guy even reads this pile of bullshit! this whole fucking site is pathetic! some guys have played around big fucking deal! grow up and move on everybody else manages too! you women need a fucking life seriously! sad old lonely women who sit at the computers over ex boyfriends...this is the kinda women u want to remain?? you all need fucking help!

6/6/2007 6:40:19 PM - none of us are sad or lonely. we are all thankful that we are no longer in the dark about this monster. the only pathetic person in all of this is joseph burchell. really, i don't think he even has enough human qualities to be called a person.

6/8/2007 11:35:25 AM - Speaking of help - I hope that Laverne has managed to get some serious help. Her mental instability is a danger to her child and herself. And honestly, I don't think anyone wants to witness any more of her self-destructive behavior posted here or eslewhere. If she continues to be involved with this man, then she is asking for the hell she continually experiences.

6/11/2007 1:14:12 PM - he conned over 50,000 dollars out of one woman in less than a year. i'm sorry, but i don't feel sorry for anyone who stays with this man, long term or short one, when you all have had information about him since 2006.

6/11/2007 1:24:55 PM - and please, you were planning for "your future". do any of you women who stay with this man ever stop and think about the future of the children he has brought into this world, and yea, it was HIS IDEA. but wait, you are probably the same stupid women who still think this site is only by "two, bitter fat" women or, no, wait "a gold digger". i'm sorry. but i can no longer contain my angry words. you are all so fucking stupid.

6/11/2007 1:30:41 PM - i'm being too easy on those of you who still are involved with this man, even in the last year, if you have been involved with him, and have known about this site, you are not just stupid, you have morally compromised yourself and your values, if you had any to begin with. Joseph Burchell fathered over 4 children in the year 2005 alone. i would not doubt if there were more, and only God knows how many before that and after. he refuses to support any of them, even though he told all of us that he had no children and wanted one with us. you are not just stupid. you are as guilty as he is.

6/11/2007 1:32:51 PM - i see you now erased your comment. you cowardly bitch.

6/11/2007 1:49:29 PM - in case any one is interested in the comment that was erased, it was for Darby, Suzy, and Elizabeth. The person making the comment wanted to warn everyone that in spite of being in a relationship with Joseph for over 4 years, he has taken about 20,000 american dollars from her, which was supposed to be for "their future". if I had to guess who's making that comment, it would be good ol' Jayne. Joseph's most dedicated and loyal supporter. I consider you more of a business partner Jayne, since you've known first hand about Joseph's con jobs since early 2006, probably sooner. and i feel the least sorry for you Jayne. if joseph took money from you, you really had it coming sister.

6/17/2007 9:40:58 AM - HAPPY FATHER'S DAY JOSEPH BURCHELL, AKA TOMMY J RAYE!!!!! FROM THE DOZENS OF CHILDREN YOU HAVE BROUGHT INTO THIS WORLD THAT YOU WILL NEVER KNOW, BECAUSE YOU ARE A SICK SON OF A BITCH!!!!!

9/21/2007 10:37:06 PM - seriously, who cares? if it happened a few years back, does it matter now?

10/4/2007 2:52:45 PM - I have current information for those of you ladies who have children Joseph Burchell has abandoned. You can email me at margointexas at hotmail dot com for information.

10/6/2007 2:11:45 PM - Don't bother contacting margointexas. She does not reply. It is probably just Tommy trying to manipulate something again.

10/7/2007 12:12:25 PM - probably just checking who is still following up on this (thru IP tracking of whoever emails that addy)

10/26/2007 4:13:50 AM - I see a previous comment regarding Tommy/Joseph's arrest in the UK a few years ago has been deleted. He was arrested, charged and found guilty of resisting arrest. For those of you who may still be believing in this guy, he was definately married to someone in the UK, had a child with her,and had gone through the preliminary stages of getting a US visa for her. He may or may not be divorced by now but if he is suggesting marriage to you, I suggest you check thoroughly first. He may be adding bigamy to his list.

11/3/2007 3:37:46 PM - If you are still involved and believing in this person, please be assured that he will do and say anything in order to get whatever he can from you

11/16/2007 4:16:05 PM - your the fucking man holla!fuck these dumb bitches

11/17/2007 11:38:38 PM - Is that even english?

11/30/2007 11:33:33 AM - Not sure anyone is looking for him in particular. Just trying to make sure that he does not use and abuse any other women because they are uninformed about the type of person he is. I think most of us feel that if someone knows about this site and still chooses to believe his lies that is her responsibility, but this is about raising awareness amongst new victims.

11/30/2007 10:37:26 PM - Why do people write comments and ask questions and then delete them when they get an answer???

12/3/2007 8:09:58 AM - Obviously you don't know Joseph very well.

12/5/2007 10:35:16 PM - Don't think even Joseph/Tommy is stupid enough to fall for this!!!

12/6/2007 7:09:53 AM - He isn't the sharpest tool in the shed though.

12/7/2007 10:34:55 PM - True. He looks quite pretty, which is fine until you want to have an intelligent conversation!!

12/19/2007 11:21:55 PM - He is a liar, player, manipulator, narcissist, self absorbed, stupid, psycho, small dicked guy. Please take a shower and brush your teeth! You know really if you want someone to suck your dick make sure it's clean and doesn't stink. And really running water is for showers and brushing your teeth. You have horrible hygeine and again, your dick stinks! While you think you are smooth, you should really watch your back. You never know who you are messing with and you could be f'ed over and sent to the pig farm - where nothing ever is found. For all you know I'm with the FBI/CIA or police dept., you should really think twice before making threats as we ("me and my army") all know about you! If anyone wants to know where Joseph is reach out and I'll we'll unite. Fear all as God does not like ugly! He knows all and kharma is a real B***H JOSEPH!

1/3/2008 8:45:48 AM - whatever happened to the chick who needed to be on medication?

1/26/2008 10:37:01 AM - Hi ladies, I'm Ayeshah and I never meet this man, But i wanted to know how many of you have kids with him? how many kids does he have that you ALL know of and yes you all can take legal actions depending on the laws in your state and depending on how long you was with him if you had a verbal agreement about him paying back moneys he took from you or any other kid of IOU also if he is the children(S) father you can not noly get him for abandoment but for childsupport and if he fails to pay he will be put in jail, verbal abuse is arder to prove more than anything but if you have witnesses who were there and arent tesifying just to be mean(jude/junry)normally can tell than you have a case, If you spent thousands of dollars on him and he said I'll pay you back and took off yes you can sue for that too. also if you've ever been hurt by him phy. you can press charged depending on when and where this has happend if he is a child molester i say its best he isnt around your childrena nd if you ever supect him of hurting them do something , take legal action there are ways and if you all patition your goverment in you alls town than there might be something you can do about what he's done to you. if any of you were with him longer or just about 7 years its consider common law marriage which in some states is bynding same as saying I do's. for give my sspelling and i hope you all over come this!

2/3/2008 3:14:20 PM - You should check out the profile of Raymond Strain of Canton, Ohio...he makes this guy seem like a boyscout!

2/12/2008 11:23:15 AM - I might redirect attention to the man for whom this post is aimed at - Joseph Burchell. This is not a competition to see who is the worste man alive or who has been hurt the most by any one man's actions but rather to enlighten all women as to the existence of such an individual and his capabilities.

2/14/2008 9:41:52 AM - The problem is he seeks you out just as he seeks out all women. A predator. You don't realize there is a shark in the water until you've had your leg bitten off.

2/16/2008 1:13:55 PM - Is this the same guy who lives at XXXXX XXXXXXX XX in Dallas? He screwed my friend Jennifer over big time last summer!

2/17/2008 3:55:43 PM - Maybe you could give a few more details? It might be helpful for anyone who is stil searching for info on this guy

2/18/2008 8:48:00 AM - Did your friend, Jennifer, ever go to his place on Preston?

2/19/2008 4:20:21 AM - She'd find that difficult - the preston address is a mailbox

2/20/2008 10:08:09 AM - Actually she is somewhat confined at this time so doubtful she ever left Hobby.

3/4/2008 12:08:10 AM - I am sorry for your pain, this man is beautiful on the outside and apparently so ugly inside. Karma will get him in the end. Men like him should rot in hell

3/9/2008 12:58:45 PM - It�s in the struggling eyes Where truth can be told The message inside Of the pain that we hold. It�s in the tears that fall So silent, never heard When we know we can�t speak Not even one word. It's in each day Awakened by night Then the morning brings hope Shrouding the fight. It's in our hearts Where reality sets in For grief, and it's torment Is really our friend. The Lord has a place For each of us in life Like the pearl within Exposed only by a knife.

3/17/2008 8:51:16 AM - Interesting, but I don't think anyone mentioned that Hobby is where a Texas Correctional Facility is located. As for inmates not dating - that is a relative term. Inmates can and do have friends and relatives set up internet websites for them where they solicit correspondence and contact from men and women. They develop relationships through letters and visits.

4/6/2008 1:47:31 PM - Yes ... inmates do *date* to try to date via internet sites. Check out Patrick Stephen McGrath (three listings - the middle post of Monroe was first before the guy was released from Prison)... Anyway - Patrick is BACK in state prison on a Parole violation in New York State and due to be released June 3 2008 back to Ulster County NY (or somewhere in that vicinity. BEWARE OF THIS GUY!! VERY CHARMING * BABY FACE * BLUE EYES * BLONDE HAIR * REPEAT FELONY OFFENDER * MULTIPLE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CONVICTIONS (Felony and Misdemeanor). Need I say more - look him up... read all three listings -same guy.

4/6/2008 2:09:44 PM - Patrick Stephen McGrath is located in Monroe - *New York*. Forgot to put the state in the previous post. Currently incarcerated - New York State Department of Correctional Services. Open Date of Parole: June 3 2008.

5/13/2008 7:55:13 AM - How did this string get focused on this McGrath character?

5/16/2008 4:51:23 AM - Bottom line. He wasn't there for the child. He didn't step up to the plate. Now people need to know that. Now a very tired and overworked mother has to raise a baby. It is a 2 person job. He didn't do his job! Some of you may have found other partners now...it doesn't change the fact that he did not step up and take care of his child. Men like this are cowards and will burn in hell!

5/21/2008 11:00:41 AM - Unfortunately, men like this are rampant and in reality mere children themselves. Relationships for them equivocate to a 'game' and once they grow bored they move on to another woman. They cannot and will not accept the responsibility of their actions for they refuse to acknowledge any wrong-doing on their part.

5/31/2008 2:35:57 PM - For some reason a picture of this guy sitting in a motel room, his face pasted with the smile like a cheshire cat, seems fitting.

6/28/2008 12:05:30 AM - I knew this guy for awhile. He didn't seem all that special. And his emotions seemed too patented - almost plastic - so no surprise after reading the various comments. His 'game' is very well scripted.

7/8/2008 11:20:13 AM - you go dude fuck these whores they get what they deserve, cut em'

7/8/2008 11:22:11 AM - burn in hell? oh brother, all saints please stand. all perfect humans please rise. no? didn't think so

7/11/2008 12:40:32 AM - This isn't about sainthood nor absolution. It puts to question integrity and intent. Moral fiber. Apparently this man puts himself before all others, and more importantly, at the expense of others. He may not get what he is owed in this lifetime, but he will eventually reap what he has sewn.

9/10/2008 1:30:19 PM - You need to chill, on this guy. You are giving him way too much attention and what goes around comes around and it does not look like you need the karma. Leave him alone live a good life and good things will happen. No matter what you say on here your still the one saying it, so stop talking shit!!!

1/6/2009 1:32:14 AM - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vf7P2zKu-Yk&feature=related

1/7/2009 12:57:06 AM - Interesting clip on youtube but not certain how it pertains to this man and his complete denial of his actions. A sociopath has no conscience.

1/29/2009 5:16:01 PM - Ok...here''s my story...I met a man by the name of Li Kapalani around September of 2008. Oh yes, he was hot to look at, not bad in bed. He suddenly asked me to marry him. I was taken aback when the first conversation with him became very intent. I explained my reasons why marriage was not nor will ever be in the cards for me. He did every thing in his power to pursue me. I really didn�t know why. Hell, the site we met on was Fling.com. That is a site to find a fling, not a husband. I gave him time�sometimes too much of my time. We were starting to become close, at least in his eyes. I have been played and was not willing to lose my heart again. I continued dating others and really didn�t get too carried away with him. He actually figured he was being played and gave me a ring. Lol�not something I wanted to show to my mother. I refused it. I would continue seeing him until I was on a chat line one day and some chick sent me a message. She threatened me stating that I had broken up their relationship, and I would pay. She gave me his name and where he lived. I questioned him and he claimed she was a psycho ex he had last year. I really started thinking about some of what she said. So when I had disappeared on him, he started wondering. He kept asking me to come visit him. I always had an excuse for him. Finally, when I had everything figured out, I had him come to my house, pick me up, and take me to his apartment in Addison, TX. Holy crap, when I walked it, it was nasty. I couldn�t believe someone would actually live like that. So when he left for work that evening, I began my investigation. I found nothing in that apartment with his name on it. Yes, there were 79 cell phones. I looked every where for something. Finally, I found a check stub. Whoa�Gold Mine!!! Not only did I find his real name, but his employer and rate of pay. LOL�too funny. His name was Joseph L. Burchell. Rate of pay�a measly $7.00 per hour. Not only is this idiot a liar�he has no money. I confronted him when he arrived home and he tried to continue to lie to me. I asked for proof by seeing his Texas Driver�s License and he refused. Well, that idiot ended up with a .357 pointed at his dick and was instructed to drive me home right then. Low and behold�he continues to text and call�getting no response from me. He has toys that all boys want. He has the bikes, the car, the IPod, the Garmin, etc. Where did all that come from on a $7.00 job? I do know, I never paid for shit. He tried once to have me pay for the hotel. Hell, I�m 40. If the guy wants sex�you will pay. I�m not a hooker, but like hell I�m paying for a hotel room Now he knows he was played like he played everyone�it doesn�t feel too good to him now�and all the ladies on Fling.com along with the owners know about him. He won�t have that place too much longer. Lol�too funny�Ladies�if you were his victim�laugh at him and give him nothing. He will pay for what he did to each of us. I guess I was the lucky one�I didn�t give him a dime.

1/30/2009 9:25:46 AM - shoulda pulled the trigger . . .

2/3/2009 8:31:53 PM - now the idiot wants my password to change this...doubt imma let him. he threatens to sue me...good luck...nothing in here that i lied about, just everything that he lied to me about. good luck sueing me, im not an idiot just really smart.

2/3/2009 10:55:55 PM - It isn''t slander. Especially since ''Li Kapalani'' denies he is Joseph Burchell..LOL. This entire scenario should not surprise anyone. Especially the women who know and have known him. Same man. Same game. Just using a different name rather than tommy j raye and hitting a different market. Apparently his habits haven''t changed much. The toys, the nasty apartment. The complete denial. That would be him. A leopard doesn''t change his spots. He might be hunting in a different jungle these days, but same cat altogether.

2/4/2009 9:36:59 AM - This guy always makes threats when he doesn''''t get his way. He has extreme control issues. I was seeing him in 2007 and 2008, on and off. We''''d hook up at a motel in Addison he said he didn''''t like having women over to his place and I didn''''t want him over at mine. We''''d barely be out of bed when he''''d grab one of his phones and start texting like crazy. Obviously off to another hookup no doubt. I stopped messing with him altogether when I met a descent guy.

2/5/2009 9:34:40 AM - Not only is this page amusing, it is also full of contradictions. Postings from one participant, who formed a phantom army consisting of people who do not exist, other postings from people out there just looking to cause mischief. Still there are postings from others who do not know the situation and who haven�t the slightest clue to the whole story. Still from some people who have seen me in passing, then gone through the trouble to get my name, then thought enough about me so much as to look me up internet stalking, why not follow me home to. I must really have sparked some desire in these women. Most scary are the ones from women I just plain out rejected and walked away from then got their feeling hurt. But, have twisted the truth as to make it appear they got away, when in truth they were left. No woman wants to feel there is something wrong with them to warrant rejection and then abandoned. Even worse that it will know she was undesired and deemed unattractive, by the type of man I am portrayed. So to cover up the rejection, they lie, stretching the truth to the farthest extent to protect their sensitive feelings and egos. Posting a lie that they left, or got away. When in fact they were not wanted. Refusing accept they were discarded because they were undesired. If they were met off a dating site they were there to play to start with. Instead of complaining about played, they need to be asking what was lacking. Clearly they were not the woman needed to fully satisfy the man. I simply moved on to seek a woman that is woman enough to be the �everything� needed and desired. One thing that shocks me is the charter of a recent poster. On her internet profile on a sex site she clear states she just wanted to meet for sex and is a well known �slut�. I admit this with great embarrassment. It bemuses me why she is so hurt when she got just what she asked for. A sexual connection without any emotions. Now she is hurt? She is poorer then dirt living in a house with her brother. At the time not even a job. So she could never be a candidate to help me financially. It amazes me at the number of negative people who ignore that facts and believe pure fiction. Small negative minds do as negative minds do. This is my first and will be my only posting. If somehow it�s removed like a lot of the positive/truthful posts were this site earns off controversy not truth, I attempt to will repost. Anyone wishing to see more photos or who wish to contact me can do so at myspace or the email listed below. You may have to search under international uk for myspace link. These are the facts. For those who want to know the truth, verify them. I was never trailed or convicted of any sexual offense. Not even in the Philippines, that came down to blackmail/extortion from their immigration office a common practice there, which resulted in me losing my work visa 2000/01 eight years ago. I have no criminal record as can be verified with their NBI nation Bureau of Investigation. All police and criminal checks remain clear. As well as Japan, Thailand and any other country I have visited. In England I was fined for a section 4 public order SPO4 offense an act of intimidation, less than a misdemeanor 2003, five years ago. Nothing more. For those who want the truth, this can be verified by a real and proper background check...Similar to the one done by any employer. As far as me posting anyone�s pictures, I have not, not for free or even for a profit. I keep and will continue to keep them private. That�s if I even still have them. Although I, haven�t been given this courtesy. The things I''m accused of here are based solely on here say, over imagination, and exaggeration, not fact. The fact is that I have no criminal record anywhere in the world. Any background checks of mine returns clean and clear.

2/5/2009 9:35:26 AM - Many women need to stop that victim thinking and blaming. Nobody forced them into anything. Choices made were of free will. They need to have some personal accountability. They need to stop blaming someone else for the bad choices and mistakes made by them. I have always been straight forward and clear about my wants and desires, if I was not fulfilled, I looked elsewhere. These women are expecting me to take responsibility for their actions, and their inabilities. I accept responsibility for the things that I have actually done, but not the things I''m wrongly accused of. I have taken the proper steps to be a better partner. Making sure I communicate my wants, desires, and needs most clearly. Others now need to take steps to better themselves. Some women have a way of ignoring what I expressed as being my desires, believing they could convert those things to their own desires. Then when, it does not happen. They are hurt. Blaming me because I would not settle for less. Clearly if I did not want to have sex with you then, it�s you not me, that does not make me gay, you were just not attractive to me. It is my right to say no. If anyone gave me that kind of money why did they not have a contract for repayment? No fool would give money out without verification of repayment in writing. Anyone who may have a child by me knows how to contact me. If this not the case I offer anyone who believes I have fathered their child to contact me at josephlburchell, yahoo.fr Any supposed hurt or broken hearted, please move on with your lives as I have. Accept the rejection. I am sincerely sorry those who were genuinely hurt by me and/or by my actions. I am not sure what the purpose of this site was, or the intention of those involved. If it was to keep me alone. It has not kept women away from me it has actually generated a whole new flood of women contacting me. There is no shortage. My friends and coworks are also aware thanks to a recent posting. Although it was very embarrassing they just tease me as being �Player Player� and �Pimp Daddy�. For there is no criminal record in my background as stated above, so this site has been disregarded? I know that the woman who started this could care less about saving other women. She is extremely vindictive. Wanting only to use people for her own agenda without caring what happens to them, her and those like her feel they need a man to make their lives okay guess it�s the age, demanding unconditional love at no matter what cost. Guess the site is mainly to allow one to vent or in at least one case to attempt to extract revenge. I can''t understand why one made up this fantasy. Undoubtedly there is some truth as there is in most tall tales and legends, but mostly this is fabricated and exaggerated. It�s been years, but still there are those who cling to those memories, and to me. I''m a bad boy, but I am a real good man, for the right women who has real sincere love and care. Someone who cares does not try to destroy the one they care about. Lastly: I am sincerely sorry for those who were genuinely hurt by me, and/or by my actions. I offer amends to anyone who earnestly wants it. I ask for forgiveness. I can�t change the past, not going to try any longer, I had tried its gone and behind me. I no longer give a damn about my PAST bad boy player reputation. Embracing it with pride It�s what makes Rap songs. Post how you were played, it builds my Player credit. However, now I am making changes in the present to be a better partner and look forward to the future. I�ve had to come to terms with the skeletons of my past I am completely ok with a nasty past embracing it with love and care respecting it as a learning experience. I have come to have some regrets. I am finally at peace with that past and myself. I am no longer a prisoner of the past. Will not be blackmailed or bullied with it. Dealing with this site and those who use it, will never allow me to change. But, I have changed, changed for the better. I accept that for myself even if there are those who don�t. Maybe one day they will learn to forgive me, maybe not. Either way I�m ok. I have forgiven myself and will not remain in the past. If you have serious grievances, contact my email.

2/5/2009 9:37:17 AM - there was no gun, if there was i''ll had her arrested soon as she got out the car,

2/5/2009 4:13:17 PM - Lol�yes I am actually on several sites. Lol�the one ur ass found me on. I have the conversations we had�all of them. Shall I post the one that you kept telling me you loved me and asked me to marry you. Hell as late as Wednesday, you were all up my ass on my damn phone. Look, I was sleeping with others at the same time I was you. I didn�t fall for you�you just got used as you have used other people. Oh and let me tell you, I do have a job and money. Isn�t that what you texted me yesterday�You will be suing me for everything I have? Yes, I have never denied living with my brother. I have 2 brothers and we all own the house we live in. You were the scared one and never wanted to come in to meet my brother. You knew at the time you weren�t who you claimed to be and you knew I was an avid hunter, therefore, I owned guns and would take your head off if it came down to it. There is no way I can be arrested for having a weapon�I have a license to carry a concealed gun. So�as far as you go, you suck. I didn�t care about you nor did I love you. You got used for what I wanted and that was about it. As soon as I get around to it, other aspects of your life will come out on here too. I despise men that think they are everything. How is it that you can afford your apartment, bills, and all those toys on a $7.00 per hour job? You can�t. You take from the women that are not wise enough to catch you. You realized that you couldn�t get a dime from me the night we went to the hotel to have sex and you asked me to go check us in�lol�my response and the look on your face said it all�you met your match dude. I�m out to tell the world what kind of a trashy person you actually are. All Li, Joseph, Tommy, or what name he wants to go by these days is a slut. He wants to pimp you out. Watch you suck other men�s dick. Lol�I didn�t have a problem with it�I didn�t plan on being your woman. Hell, if you got off watching your date suck off another man, that�s your problem. I could care less. Yes, I am a slut and damn proud of it. Hell, the tattoo on my ass states I�m a �Li�l Slut��lol�not what you thought it said dumb ass. btw...this isnt the past...this continues to go on. I have had contact with him this very week. now who looks dumb?

2/6/2009 1:42:32 PM - ok...anyone wanting information about Tommy, Li, Joseph, which happens to be the same person, contact me here. I will give you my personal email and we can exchange information. The information I have is not intended to have this man stalked, harassed or hurt in any way. This information should be used to file the proper paperwork for child support if you have a child with him or to take him to court for repayment of any loans you lent him. I strongly suggest if you have or are having a child by this man to notify your local Department of Human Services and your states Attorney General''s office with the information you obtain from me. I hope this idiot pays for all that he has crossed and hurt. Oh, I am not hurt at all. I am doing this on my free time to help all the women he did hurt and treat like crap. He claims to not have loved each of you after you found out about him. Same thing with me. I could care less. I haven''t loved him. I used him for a good time. He could lick me good, but as far as the sex...he needs help. Guess he''s been using his right hand too much and can''t get it up. Or if he does get it up, doesn''t stay up for long. LOL...oops, did I say that out loud? Good luck Li, Tommy or Joseph...better get ya a new name buddy. I have all the information I need. And everyone that needs it, will get it.

2/7/2009 4:32:34 AM - Some women have a way of ignoring what I express as being my desires, believing they could convert those things to their own desires. Changing my desires to the desires they have. Then when, it does not happen. They are hurt. If I feel our needs, wants, desires, sexual chemistry, are not a match, I walk away. There is no point wasting time with someone who is not a total match. I will not settle for less, and shocked that anyone else would. I admit in the past I may not have walked away the best ways. I failed to provide proper closure. Something I am working on. However I feel that if I do not return calls and messages, then it�s clear I�m not interested. If I start texting after sex, clearly I was not satisfied. I should want to sleep being totally relaxed I should not have the desire to find the next assumed sexual connection. There are those who feel I promised them things and did not deliver. Let me be upfront, any promises are/were conditional, based on if there was a match and satisfaction of the connection. Talking to someone and expressing the desire for any kind of a relationship, does not make it a promise. If there was not a match, and/or a continued connection, I�m not going fake it because some woman feels it was promised to her. I will not continue a relationship with anyone who is not a total fit, because I talked about wanting any kind of a relationship. I have given only one woman a ring. She was/is well worth it, and deserving. The biggest contradiction is that the man described here, who is selfish and a player, would go through the time and effort of choosing a ring, and then spend the money, that could be better spent for things for himself. I am not hiding. I have bills in my name car, and motorcycle all registered in my name. I am not hard to find. Surprise surprise, I have a li'l dick, its impotent, etc...... I have the im's to(i am sure there is a way you can edit those. I also have the pictures of the tattoo I put on you. You must had had it changed from "Li's slut", but you will always know, it did say"li's slut".

2/7/2009 7:09:20 AM - You both sure do go on and on but from what it looks like, you both need to take it offline. You both appear to be a perfect match. You were having sex with other guys while screwing him, he has been sleeping with other women while screwing and pursuing you. It's not a new game to him, you just added in the element of other men and firearms...lol... He's a twisted fuck. No doubt that makes it all the more exciting to him.

2/21/2009 5:29:44 AM - If you wish to pursue legal action against this man you do not need to contact this woman. Clearly, he resides in the State of Texas. Clearly, he resides in the Dallas metropolitan area. File your complaint with necessary authorities in the State of Texas. You need no information she can provide. That is only a ploy to see who will contact her which is a ploy to see who will contact him. Meaning who is going to contact the authorities. Careful. They will run together. Merely a mask for another disappearance.

4/15/2009 6:52:14 AM - TURN THE ASSHOLE IN FOR PORN YOU IDIOTS.. HED GO TO JAIL FAST......

4/16/2009 3:04:21 PM - It''s interesting how many women or their friends post comments or stories on this site about Joseph Burchell, only to change their minds or allow him to change their minds and then come back onto this sight and delete their comments. He is truly a master of manipulation and deceit. The last posting said the woman lived with him and was pregnant. Considering she is an IT Windows specialist, she might have been smart enough to do a little research before moving in with him at all. And then the woman before her said that she had been at his place not too long ago. And she also knew about his many relationships and tangled lies. Does anyone see and actually acknowledge the pattern here? Did any one actually think he would ever change his habits or his games? He tosses out a proposal of marriage as easily as he discards the wrapper from a McDonald''s hamburger.

4/16/2009 7:42:24 PM - Anyone who may have a child by me knows how to contact me. If this not the case, I offer anyone who believes I have fathered their child to contact me at josephlburchell, yahoo.fr, i'm even on myspace my name joseph Burchell Dallas texas, I do not eat at McDonalds, and there is no porn to turn me in for, get a life

4/16/2009 7:50:18 PM - Some women have a way of ignoring what I express as being my desires, believing they could convert those things to their own desires. Changing my desires to the desires they have. Then when, it does not happen. They are hurt. If I feel our needs, wants, desires, sexual chemistry, are not a match, I walk away. There is no point wasting time with someone who is not a total match. I will not settle for less, and shocked that anyone else would. I admit in the past I may not have walked away the best ways. I failed to provide proper closure. Something I am working on. However I feel that if I do not return calls and messages, then it�s clear I�m not interested. If I start texting after sex, clearly I was not satisfied. I should want to sleep being totally relaxed I should not have the desire to find the next assumed sexual connection. There are those who feel I promised them things and did not deliver. Let me be upfront, any promises are/were conditional, based on if there was a match and satisfaction of the connection. Talking to someone and expressing the desire for any kind of a relationship, does not make it a promise. If there was not a match, and/or a continued connection, I�m not going fake it because some woman feels it was promised to her. I will not continue a relationship with anyone who is not a total fit, because I talked about wanting any kind of a relationship. .... I have given only one woman a ring. She was/is well worth it, and deserving. The biggest contradiction is that the man i am described as, who is selfish and a player, would go through the time and effort of choosing rings, and then spend the money on something for multiple women. He would never do that, he would spend the money on himself. .. ..

4/16/2009 7:51:00 PM - No woman wants to feel there is something wrong with them to warrant rejection and then abandoned, even worse, that others will know she was undesired and unattractive, by the type of man I am portrayed to be. So to cover up the rejection, they lie or stretching the truth to the farthest extent to protect their sensitive feeling and egos. Posting a lie that they left, or got away. When in fact they were not wanted. Refusing accept they were abandoned and undesired. .... One thing that shocks me is the charter of a recent poster. On her internet profile on a sex site she clear states she just wanted to meet for sex and is a well known �slut�. I admit this with great embarrassment. It bemuses me why she is so hurt when she got just what she asked for. A sexual connection without any emotions. Now she is hurt? She is poorer then dirt living in a house with her brother. At the time not even a job. So she could never be a candidate to help me financially. It�s amazing me at the number of people who ignore that facts and believe pure fiction. But small negative minds do as they do. This is my first and will be my only posting. If somehow it�s removed like a lot of the positive/truthful posts were this site earns off controversy not truth, I attempt to will repost. Anyone wishing to see more photos or who wish to contact can do so at my space or the email listed below. You may have to search under international for my space link.

4/16/2009 7:51:42 PM - The truth Current mood: annoyed Category: Life No woman wants to feel there is something wrong with them to warrant rejection and then abandoned, even worse, that others will know she was undesired and unattractive, by the type of man I am portrayed to be. So to cover up the rejection, they lie or stretching the truth to the farthest extent to protect their sensitive feeling and egos. Posting a lie that they left, or got away. When in fact they were not wanted. Refusing accept they were abandoned and undesired. .... One thing that shocks me is the charter of a recent poster. On her internet profile on a sex site she clear states she just wanted to meet for sex and is a well known �slut�. I admit this with great embarrassment. It bemuses me why she is so hurt when she got just what she asked for. A sexual connection without any emotions. Now she is hurt? She is poorer then dirt living in a house with her brother. At the time not even a job. So she could never be a candidate to help me financially. It�s amazing me at the number of people who ignore that facts and believe pure fiction. But small negative minds do as they do. This is my first and will be my only posting. If somehow it�s removed like a lot of the positive/truthful posts were this site earns off controversy not truth, I attempt to will repost. Anyone wishing to see more photos or who wish to contact can do so at my space or the email listed below. You may have to search under international for my space link. These are the facts. For those who want to know the truth, verify them. I was never trailed or convicted of any sexual offense. Not even in the Philippines, that came down to blackmail/extortion from their immigration office common practice there, which resulted in me losing my work visa 2000/01 eight years ago. I have no criminal record as can be verified with their NBI nation Bureau of Investigation. All police and criminal checks remain clear. As well as Japan, Thailand and any other country I have visited. In England I was fined for a section 4 public order SPO4 offense an act of intimidation, less than a misdemeanor 2003, five years ago. Nothing more. For those who want the truth, this can be verified by a real and proper background check...Similar to the one done by any employer. .. ...... As far as me posting anyone�s pictures, I have not, not for free or even for a profit. I keep and will continue to keep them private. That�s if I even still have them. Although I, haven�t been given this courtesy. .... The things I''m accused of here are based on solely on here say, not fact. The fact is that I have no criminal record anywhere in the world. Any background checks of mine returns clean and clear. Many need to stop the victim thinking and blaming. Nobody forced anyone into anything. Choices made were of free will. Have some personal accountability. Stop blaming someone else for the bad choices and mistakes. I have always been straight forward and clear. Some expect me to take responsibility for their actions. I accept responsibility for the things that I have actually done, but not the things I''m wrongly accused of. I have taken the proper steps to be a better person. Now you also need to make yourselves better. I ask for faith, trust and to be believed in. Because those are some things I wanted and never gotten. And clearly if I did not want to have sex with you then, it�s you not me, that does not make me gay, you were just not attractive to me. It is my right to say no. If anyone gave me that kind of money why did they not have a contract for repayment? No fool would give money out without verification of repayment in writing. Also, anyone who may have a child by me knows how to contact me. If this not the case I offer anyone who believes I have fathered their child to contact me at josephlburchell, yahoo.... Any supposed hurt or broken hearted, please move on with your lives as I have. Accept the rejection. I am sincerely sorry those who were genuinely hurt by me and/or by my actions..... I am not sure what the purpose of this site was, or the intention of those involved. If it was to keep me alone. It has not kept women away from me it has actually generated a whole new flood of women contacting me. There is no shortage..... The person I am with is well aware of this site, and is not fazed by it. My friends and coworks are also aware thanks to a recent posting. Although it was very embarrassing they just tease me as being �Player Player� and �Pimp Daddy�. For there is no criminal record in my background as stated above, so this site has been disregarded?....

4/16/2009 7:52:11 PM - I know that the woman who started this could care less about saving other women. She is extremely vindictive. Wanting only to use people for her own agenda without caring what happens to them, her and those like her feel they need a man to make their lives okay guess it�s the age, demanding unconditional love at no matter what cost. Guess the site is mainly to allow one to vent or in at least one case to attempt to extract revenge. I can''t understand why one made up this fantasy. Understandably there is some truth as there is in most tall tales and legends, but mostly this is fiction, fabricated and exaggerated. If it was true and was so bad, why relive it? Why hold on to the memories of someone/something bad and painful? Why not try to forget it and move on? Things Must had not been so bad, and you enjoyed it so much, you want to remember and relive it as much and as often as possible. It�s been years, but still you cling to those memories, and to me. I''m a bad boy, but I am a real good man, for the right women who has real sincere love and care. Someone who cares does not try to destroy the one they care about..... Lastly: I am sincerely sorry for those who were genuinely hurt by me, and/or by my actions. I offer amends to anyone who earnestly wants it. I ask for forgiveness. I can�t change the past, not going to try any longer, I had tried its gone and behind me. I no longer give a damn about my PAST bad boy player reputation. However, now I am making changes in the present to be a better partner and look forward to the future. I�ve had to come to terms with the skeletons of my past I am completely ok with a nasty past that I come to regret. I am finally at peace with myself. I am no longer a prisoner of the past. Dealing with this site and those who use it, will never allow me to change. But, I have changed, changed for the better. I accept that for myself even if there are those who don�t. Maybe one day they will learn to forgive me, maybe not. Either way I�m ok. I have forgiven myself and will not remain in the past. If you have serious grievances, contact my email.....

4/16/2009 11:05:00 PM - Faith is the confident belief in the truth of or trustworthiness of a person, idea, or thing.[1] It is also used for a belief, characteristically without proof.[2] Informal usage of the word faith can be quite broad, and may be used standardly in place of trust, belief, or hope. For example, the word faith can refer to a religion itself or to religion in general. As with trust, faith involves a concept of future events or outcomes. The English word faith is dated from 1200�50, from the Latin fidem, or fidēs, meaning trust, akin to fīdere to trust.[3]

6/9/2009 2:35:13 PM - heard a rumour that laverne tried 2 kill herself anyone know if that true?

6/16/2009 12:12:43 PM - Please see my profile on Jay Brown, aka EVERETT RAYMOND BROWN JR, on http://datingpsychos.com/view_psycho.html?psycho_id=2586 Also see comments under that profile, where I�ve provided a partial list of other men alleged to be either: on the downlow, swingers, and/or �bisexual�. If you want the whole list, just ask me for it, I have it. PASS IT AROUND TO ALL YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS! WARN THEM! In fact, I have several profiles up there on him, and on DDHG, and a couple up here. The man you profiled? His name is on that list, so I brought more attention to it, in the comment section, under Jay Brown�s profile.

6/16/2009 12:12:44 PM - Please see my profile on Jay Brown, aka EVERETT RAYMOND BROWN JR, on http://datingpsychos.com/view_psycho.html?psycho_id=2586 Also see comments under that profile, where I�ve provided a partial list of other men alleged to be either: on the downlow, swingers, and/or �bisexual�. If you want the whole list, just ask me for it, I have it. PASS IT AROUND TO ALL YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS! WARN THEM! In fact, I have several profiles up there on him, and on DDHG, and a couple up here. The man you profiled? His name is on that list, so I brought more attention to it, in the comment section, under Jay Brown�s profile.

10/3/2009 6:23:36 PM -

11/16/2009 5:11:38 AM - this message is from lavern. this will be the last message posted from me on here. i wanted to remain a dignified silence, from everything that happened in the past as i simply wanted to move on and forget everything. to every other women involved and possible males too. you do not know me, you know absolutely nothing apart from that i knew joseph/tommy from the age of 18, we were engaged, we havea child together, he left us, i broke down and yes i tried to kill myself in 2007, i jumped in the river thames. you have no idea what i have been through, my life had been turned upside down, and destroyed thanks to this man. i dont care what he tells you, the truth will always remain the truth regardless. im 24 years old now and im mature enough to not care about all this anymore, and come to think of it, part of why im posting this on here now, is another step of closure to this saga. i never ever thought it would happen but im actually happy with my life now, and im happy he isnt in my life anymore. all he did was cause pain and suffering, our relationship was based on lies and fanasty and therefore wasnt a real one. its simply clear he didnt want to be with me from the start and yes, ive come to terms with that. i was deluded, i believed we had something special and that i was his, i accept i was nothing more than sex. im a single parent and im doing the job just fine without him. i've nothing to prove to anyone, i know what happened being us, and so does he, but that is all history. he fathered my child and chose to walk away from his responsibilities. and when our child comes of age and wanders what happened to her father, i just pray she doesnt have any mental health issues cause he walked out on her. but some men just simply dont care. but anyways, ive met some great people. and as everyone knows theres plenty of fish in the sea. im not bitter either, simply moved on, getting on with my life and enjoying it. what we had was the past, these websites is the past and everything else associated with this, it will remain in the past. to tommy/joseph, i wish him well regardless of how much a punk he is and to everybody else i wish you well too. but for me im free, im done with this and i have nothing further to say. my part in this has come to a final end

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0 BAD
(Low)

20 GOOD
(High)

FIDELITY/TRUST: 1

ABUSE: 0

COMMITMENT: 3

GENERAL CHARACTER: 0

CHEATING/TRUSTWORTHINESS/LYING

1. This man has

Had sex with escorts/hookers while involved with you

2. If he was ever caught cheating, he would

Deny, deny, deny and look you right in the eye and try to be sneakier next time

3. This man can be compared to

A lying, cheating scumbag and you can�t believe a word that comes out of his mouth

4. This man has lied to me

Too many times to count

5. Regarding trust

You can NOT trust him

ABUSE

1. Regarding verbal abuse, this man

Talks down to you, criticizes, patronizes and/or calls you names

2. With regards to jealousy and control, he

Accuses you, for no justifiable reason, of flirting and may get even by flirting with other women/men

3. This man�s temper can be described as

He acts out (i.e., hits objects, and/or throws things)

4. Does he ever apologize or admit when he is wrong

Never (i.e., he thinks he is always right)

5. Describe his selfishness

He always puts his needs before yours

MARRIAGE/COMMITTMENT

1. This man wants

A relationship with no substance (i.e., for outside appearance sake only)

2. This man wants

A slave, mother and slut

3. This man

Wants dependents and/or pets as long as YOU take care of them

4. He has been divorced

He is still currently married/heavily committed (i.e., involved with a partner who is kept in the dark)

5. Regarding marriage/life time commitment, this man

Will NEVER get married or commit fully to anyone

GENERAL CHARACTER QUESTIONS

1. Regarding this man�s ego

He�s extremely insecure and compensates by over inflating himself

2. This man

Is a complete slob who you have to pick up after

3. This man would help you: (i.e., fix your car, home repair, lift something heavy, etc�)

Never

4. Regarding companionship

He would rather spend his free time on the couch, on work, and/or on the computer, etc�

5. YOUR OVERALL OPINION OF THIS MAN IS

Don�t touch him with a 10 foot pole, he�s a complete waste of your time

Date Survey Submitted:	7/20/2006 11:40:03 PM
Last known residence:	Dallas Texas, United States
Dating Site Alias & Website it's on:	tommyjraye on
	joseph lee collins on

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