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Navy wife cheats with my husband
Article submitted by: san diego
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About 7 years ago I cheated on my husband and came clean. We have tried to work it out. There are no excuses for an affair, but the taken forgranted and the abuse was the reason. A month ago he admitted to haven a 5 year relationship with a manager from one of his buildings. Her name is Claudia. He did it as to find out why I did mine or why woman have affairs. At the beggining he says that the first three years it was just sex, no emotions. But she ended falling in love and wanted more time from him. The last two years she was cutting him loose, they would not see each other as often. He said that in 2005 February he took her to Huntington Beach for a weekend, I was out of town. It was the first time he had an alnighter with her and just this recent November she met up with him in Vegas. The Valentines trip devasted me, because he told me he was on business and I left to visit family cuz I was angry. The Vegas trip was not good because they did not sleep together because she wanted to be friends and he kicked her out and she slept at the airport. She sent me a letter to investigate my husband, I did not act on it. My husband says that he loves her and i try to clarify that if it was really love they would be together at this moment. That a relationship that starts as a lie will end up wrong. Love is not the word, he must care for her and is used to having her at any time. She saw the light and started walking away a little earlier. My husband says that she listened and never judged and that she was not physically attractive as me or even as sexual as myself. But I feel he wanted to control and feel what it was like to have an affair. Do you think he is in love? I am trying to wake up from this nightmare. I have been on both sides now and I am trying to get him through this. I feel he feels betrayed by two women. I love my husband very much, we have a lot of history together. And I thank Claudia for making him the considerate husband I have now. I tell him that we need to take the good from the two relationships and incorporate it in ours to make it stronger. He wants to work it out and I do too, but I am also hurting alot and I have to be the strong one for us and our kids(they dont know) I ask a lot of questions that BOTHER him, but I need to, I spend hours at the park they met, or drive by the hotel. But that is how i feel i need to heal. I dig for more clues and information. She left to Massachussettes with her family and since it ended he wanted to come clean with me. they made a promise to act as if it never happened, but my husband could not live with the guilt. I need healing and grieving time also, but I always think I started this so i need to just get over it and put it behind us......Help give me your insights please!
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