Infidelity Stories

    I dated a man for several years...he was a real charmer, sweet, considerate, a gentleman and everything a woman could ever want. Slowly, I was falling for him....and I thought he would be "the ONE". Several months into the relationship (a relationship that blossomed really quickly) ...little red flags started popping up but I was blindsighted by what I thought was love. He slowly started to belittle me and when I would get frustrated  he said it was a "joke" or that I needed to "lighten up and be less sensitive". I noticed the "jokes" slowly made their way from insults to my intellegence, to physically being picked on from head to toe.! It started to get worse. His temper manifested itself also. He was never happy with the food I cooked or the way I did laundry and would just look at the negative in most situations. He would say really mean things to me during an arguement that my worst enemy wouldn't even say to me. He would say things like "go F&%$ myself", or I should never be with you" or that he would rather be with another person that could do his "household" chores better than I! He is very materialistic too. While he liked to treat me to nice things and places he does not have any control of his finances. Don't be mistaken by a budget! Holding a budget and spending money endlessly due to an insatiable appetite are two different things. This man is never happy with what he has and will always look for more.! I thought at first it was ambition but then I started realizing that he is never happy and wants whatever is on the "other side". This person is wishy-washy. He will tell you one thing and do another OR do one thing then tell you something else, then make it seem like it was your fault. He is very manipulative, cruel, tempermental and will ALWAYS come back with an apology or promise to change. I kept going back because he kept apologizing and I saw his remorse... the problem was that it kept getting into the same awful cycle. It just got worse until I was left with nothing--- no identity, self esteem, morals, no love, energy or desire. He is a leech that feeds off your happiness because he is dead and blackened from the inside out. No matter how good looking , sexy or handsome this man can be the internal structure was rotten to the core! Thank god I did not go any further with him and finally woke up!