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Unfortunately this affair started out as "just sex" because I was married and did not want anything else. I even told the guy not to get emotionally attached to me... but he did. We did. Things were great in the beginning. I knew he just got out of jail just a few months before he and I met. (FOR DOMESTIC VIOLENCE) and of course he said "it was her fault, she lied, she cheated" and I believed him.

 

We met by text and then arranged a day to meet in person. We hit it off right away. I would sneak out late at night to see him as we started to like each other more and more. Well long story short a few months rolled by and before I knew it my life was spinning out of control. I lost my home...my husband and my children were torn apart. All because I thought I loved this man. I should have stopped this guy from tearing my family apart but when I wanted to end our fling he started saying things to me like "Im going to tell your husband" So I thought I had no other choice. He made me file for divorce.

 

He started showing signs of an abuser ...had I known what to look for I would have started running right then and there. But I didn‘t. I was 40 years old and thought that something like this could NEVER happen to me. I was so stupid. I moved out of my home into a 2 bedroom crappy apartment. It only took him a few weeks before he actually got physically violent with me. I didn‘t know what to do. The first time he got mad at me for a joke I made, he choked me. He left red bruises on my neck and it hurt when I swallowed several weeks after. Of course he felt bad afterwards and apologized and said he would never do it again. But it kept happening again. Little by little. day by day. week by week... the next time he was mad at me for something that never happened but he punched me in the stomach and knocked the wind out of me for refusing to talk to him.

 

I told him it was over after that but he wouldn‘t leave. He kept telling me that it was not over and that I had made a commitment to him and we were staying together FOREVER! (he was f‘n crazy) We continued to argue and fight over the smallest things. Probably because my gut feeling was right about him and I wanted him out of my life. After a couple more times of the choking and the hair pulling, the push shoving... the big fight night had finally came to a head. I moved into my apartment on Sept 8th 2009 and by Dec. 27th our relationship was finally over. At my expense.

 

This is what I posted on his facebook page after he beat the living hell out of me. "I have a bruised esophagus and trachea from being choked. I also have sprained hands with bite marks all over them. I may have some nerve damage due to you biting my hands so hard, My left eye is bruised, hemorrhaged, and I have lost a little vision from you trying to gouge out my eye. Tomorrow I will have a CT scan from the beating you gave me. I hope everyone reads this and realizes what a monster you are. You aren‘t going to get help you are just running away because of the gulit you feel. Do not ever contact me again"

 

He left the state of California two days after he gave me a beating I will never forget. He knew he would go right back to prison if I pressed charges. The first thing I did the very next day was file a restraining order against him. And then I had to find him. With a little help from HIS family I got him served and he now has a warrant out for his arrest.

 

He just got off of parole in August 2009. I am not sure if he was on any kind of probation. I assume he was because the warrant is for violating his probation. My case is being reviewed by the DA‘s office in Modesto California. I hope they bring him back here and put him back in prison for what he did to me and two of his other wives. (he had 3) He is a monster and he is never going to stop.
I made a web site about him and sent out warning letters to some of the neighbors where he is currently living

to see the web site just google DONDI WOODROW WHITTAKER

 

I will never forget being pinned on the floor and being punched, slapped, bitten and having my eyes gouged by his thumbs.