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| fairwarningtoya |
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Posted: 2/21/2010 12:33 AM |
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Subject: Dont s**t where you eat... |
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1st post- I really need some ideas, please...So I work with a girl at a care center, she is 3rd shift. Her background- i believe she is a small town girl, very naive, inexperienced and obviously gullible. She is also a virgin, who says she "doesn‘t trust men". ( I am not certain as to why she confided in me) He is married, w/ 3 kids, and has a side business as a kareoke dj. He also works 3rd shift. With her. He has been "working on her" for over a year, last spring mngmt. had a "talk" with him about his pursuit of her, (I don‘t know all the details about it) he slowed down, then really put it on her heavy. The typical lies "were only together for the kids" "wife insists on an open marriage" and he really really cared about 3rd shift girl. She recently had been working alot of hours, her Grandmother was passing away, and he poured it on THICK. met her after work w/ some booze, "lets talk". He took her as far as she would let him (not completely, she is still a virgin) and then dropped her like a hot potato. He was "just kidding" about the open marriage. She "deserved" a "good" man, he just wants someone to "talk to" about his "manwhore" activities etc. etc.
Typical scumbag stuff. she KNOWS she was in the wrong, she is very ashamed etc, and he happened to catch her at a very weak time in her life...
How to "make him pay"?
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| Rhiannon |
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Posted: 2/21/2010 10:29 AM |
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How to make him pay? I think the only one who is going to end up paying is the girl who‘s naive and gullible.
She knew he was married. Therefore, he was unavailable. If she slept with him, she walked into this with her eyes wide open. She may have been lonely, she may have been vulnerable, but she knew what she was getting into.
How would she make him pay? Tell his wife? Then she‘d be hurting an innocent woman (who I am pretty sure does not insist on an "open marriage") and the wife would certainly blame her, and brand her as a whore.
Yes, he‘s a lying scumbag, and those are the oldest lines in the book. And you can bet that when his wife confronted him, he‘d tell his wife that this girl was pyscho and obsessed with him, and making up lies. Either way, she loses.
I want to personally castrate married men who lie and cheat. However, women need to be savvy and smart about these things.
My best advice to her is to chalk it up to experience, add this item to a list of things she will never do again, and to find a job where she doesn‘t have to see him every day.
And then she should see a doctor to rule out pregnancy, and run an STD screen.
And finally, she should thank her lucky stars that she dodged a bullet, and didn‘t end up with a man like this for eternity. Or that she found out what he was about, and isn‘t married to him, or saddled with children.
I know you want to get even with this man, but trust me, "real life" will take care of it for him - eventually. What goes around always comes around.
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Posted: 2/21/2010 10:38 AM |
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She could tell his wife. Chances are, in his own time, he will hang himself.
Have her change her shift.
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Posted: 2/21/2010 10:46 AM |
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| fairwarningtoya wrote: | 1st post- I really need some ideas, please...So I work with a girl at a care center, she is 3rd shift. Her background- i believe she is a small town girl, very naive, inexperienced and obviously gullible. She is also a virgin, who says she "doesn‘t trust men". ( I am not certain as to why she confided in me) He is married, w/ 3 kids, and has a side business as a kareoke dj. He also works 3rd shift. With her. He has been "working on her" for over a year, last spring mngmt. had a "talk" with him about his pursuit of her, (I don‘t know all the details about it) he slowed down, then really put it on her heavy. The typical lies "were only together for the kids" "wife insists on an open marriage" and he really really cared about 3rd shift girl. She recently had been working alot of hours, her Grandmother was passing away, and he poured it on THICK. met her after work w/ some booze, "lets talk". He took her as far as she would let him (not completely, she is still a virgin) and then dropped her like a hot potato. He was "just kidding" about the open marriage. She "deserved" a "good" man, he just wants someone to "talk to" about his "manwhore" activities etc. etc.
Typical scumbag stuff. she KNOWS she was in the wrong, she is very ashamed etc, and he happened to catch her at a very weak time in her life...
How to "make him pay"? |
He‘s a man with no respect for his wife and children and no respect for any woman by the sounds of it...you think he‘s happy? You think he‘s gonna have a nice life? Don‘t count on it....you don‘t have to make him pay...he‘s paying already. He can‘t be happy if he needs to manipulate people, in fact I‘ll bet he‘s miserable. You don‘t know what people go through in their moments of solitude....but you need to assume here that what he goes through is not very positive. So, don‘t worry about making him pay, thats not your responsibility.
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Posted: 2/21/2010 11:19 AM |
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"‘Vengeance is mine.‘ Sayeth the Lord."
That or a good dose of itching powder in his panties....
Maybe some sugar in the gas tank...
Then theres the old standby of starting a rumor about his "erectile dysfunction" at work...
lol, These are all immature and considered illegal (physical assault, property damage, and slander) so don‘t take me seriously, totally joking....no... really.... just kidding...
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Posted: 2/21/2010 11:32 AM |
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Thanks to all for the advice...I already suggested that she request not to work the same hall, she can do that w/o raising suspicion, happens all the time. I think I will leave it be. It makes me angry, but what are ya gonna do, right? He already knows she has told a couple people at work, the fear alone should be punishing him alot already...Thanks for bringing me back to reality about it. I really feel bad for his wife, it sounds like he picks up a lot of drunk girls with his dj business...and he admitted to not always using a condom...I really do feel she should know, but you are all right...he will turn it around on her....thanks again!
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Posted: 2/21/2010 12:02 PM |
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: |
Then theres the old standby of starting a rumor about his "erectile dysfunction" at work...
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I have to say , I do like this one, lol!
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Posted: 2/21/2010 12:39 PM |
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| fairwarningtoya wrote: |
| moogleangelgirl wrote: |
Then theres the old standby of starting a rumor about his "erectile dysfunction" at work...
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I have to say , I do like this one, lol!
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 teehee!~
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Posted: 2/23/2010 12:58 PM |
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pdate-
He has been fired. Apparently, he had been warned before, so when she put in the request to not work w/him...that was all she wrote.
He is gone.
Feel sorry for his kids, tho...
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Posted: 2/26/2010 11:13 AM |
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| fairwarningtoya wrote: | |
pdate-
He has been fired. Apparently, he had been warned before, so when she put in the request to not work w/him...that was all she wrote.
He is gone.
Feel sorry for his kids, tho...
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See...you didn‘t even need to do anything.
Maybe now his wife will see sense, leave him and take the kids with her...he‘s made an awful mess and its unfair that his children suffer for it...some nice kind judge should have him on the streets and let his kids get whatever income he gets.
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Posted: 2/26/2010 2:35 PM |
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I am sorry , but I think this wife should be told, who knows she may not be happy in the marriage .And wouldn‘t you all want to know if your husband or boyfriends were doing what he is.
I think she should know so she can get checked for SDT and keep her self save ,and her kids save from getting something.
I would find a way to tell her and let her know everything you know.we all know he will lie about it all,but at least she can make her own choice.since he has made choice‘s it is her turn now.
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Posted: 2/27/2010 8:24 AM |
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| nstevens wrote: | I am sorry , but I think this wife should be told, who knows she may not be happy in the marriage .And wouldn‘t you all want to know if your husband or boyfriends were doing what he is.
I think she should know so she can get checked for SDT and keep her self save ,and her kids save from getting something.
I would find a way to tell her and let her know everything you know.we all know he will lie about it all,but at least she can make her own choice.since he has made choice‘s it is her turn now.
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I think she should know too. Who knows what kind of mess he gets into at the bar. I don‘t know how i would get ahold of his wife, tho...At some level she may already "know"...
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Posted: 2/27/2010 9:37 AM |
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As I said, he will hang himself and he did.
I agree that his wife may already “know.”
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Posted: 2/27/2010 10:12 AM |
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| fairwarningtoya wrote: | |
pdate-
He has been fired. Apparently, he had been warned before, so when she put in the request to not work w/him...that was all she wrote.
He is gone.
Feel sorry for his kids, tho...
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I just love a happy ending!
I‘m always in favor of telling the wife.
STD‘s are rampant, so is AIDS. She needs to know so she can protect herself.
Someway somehow she needs to be told. An anonymous call, from someone who knows. Kindly told not from the OW.
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Posted: 3/29/2010 4:13 AM |
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| fairwarningtoya wrote: |
1st post- I really need some ideas, please...So I work with a girl at a care center, she is 3rd shift. Her background- i believe she is a small town girl, very naive, inexperienced and obviously gullible. She is also a virgin, who says she "doesn‘t trust men". ( I am not certain as to why she confided in me) He is married, w/ 3 kids, and has a side business as a kareoke dj. He also works 3rd shift. With her. He has been "working on her" for over a year, last spring mngmt. had a "talk" with him about his pursuit of her, (I don‘t know all the details about it) he slowed down, then really put it on her heavy. The typical lies "were only together for the kids" "wife insists on an open marriage" and he really really cared about 3rd shift girl. She recently had been working alot of hours, her Grandmother was passing away, and he poured it on THICK. met her after work w/ some booze, "lets talk". He took her as far as she would let him (not completely, she is still a virgin) and then dropped her like a hot potato. He was "just kidding" about the open marriage. She "deserved" a "good" man, he just wants someone to "talk to" about his "manwhore" activities etc. etc.
Typical scumbag stuff. she KNOWS she was in the wrong, she is very ashamed etc, and he happened to catch her at a very weak time in her life...
How to "make him pay"? |
He‘s a man with no respect for his wife and children and no respect for any woman by the sounds of it...you think he‘s happy? You think he‘s gonna have a nice life? Don‘t count on it....you don‘t have to make him pay...he‘s paying already. He can‘t be happy if he needs to manipulate people, in fact I‘ll bet he‘s miserable. You don‘t know what people go through in their moments of solitude....but you need to assume here that what he goes through is not very positive. So, don‘t worry about making him pay, thats not your responsibility. |
Well said. The best revenge is a happy life.
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