Let‘s begin with the first category which is‘not really‘ adultery.
1.
I say ‘not really‘ because the husband is committed
to his wife but uses Slutina for particular activities
which he would never ever ask for or accept from
his Wife.
The best example is the Robert de Niro character in ‘Analyze This!" where he exclaims..."...do that with the mouth she uses to kiss my children?"
Although rare, there are men who will use Slutina
for these purposes. The best thing is not to notice.
I can think of one fellow who kicked up Slutina when he heard she had gone to the business his wife operated.
2. I‘m fixing you
This kind of adultery is often the end shot of
an argument. He marches out or she tosses
him out and he winds up in bed with some
gal, and she means nothing to him, and that
whole thing is forgotten.
3. I thought you were dead
There are various permutations of this adultery.
It happens when one person thinks the other is
dead or gone for good. It never would have
happened if there was any sign the spouse was
alive and/or returning...think Castaway, where
Tom Hanks is presumed dead and during the
intervening four years wife marries someone else.
These three are the only cases in which forgiving
makes sense.
In all other cases...
NO.
I say NO because....
a) the ‘first‘ time you catch him is highly unlikely
the ‘first‘ time he betrayed you.
b) men who cheat, cheat. Whomever is ‘their‘
wife (common or legal) at the moment, will be
cheated upon.
c) to be an adulterer one requires a wife. Hence
he doesn‘t want you to leave him because then
he will have no one to cheat on.
d) Tears, promises, vows, are meaningless. All
he needs is opportunity. If you must bring your
life to a dead halt to prevent him having an
opportunity; isn‘t that pathetic?
e) You don‘t have to do anything or not do anything for him to cheat. Men have cheated
on beauty queens with Molly Mud Turtle, they
have left women who put them through college,
left women who nursed them back from the
grave. If he‘s going to cheat, he‘s going to cheat.
f) It may be ‘wonderland‘ in your house for the
two or five or eight months after you‘ve taken
him back, but he‘s only marking time.
The fact of adultery is its dishonesty. This is a
man who you can not depend on. If you were
dying, would he act quickly in saving your life,
or let you die?
This is not melodramatics.
Women who live alone have ‘networks‘ so that
in case of anything one calls the other. Women
who think they have a husband do not have
networks. They depend on the man.
I can think of a woman whose car broke down on
a very dangerous street who called her husband
who said he was on his way, and he never showed
up....you can imagine the rest.
I can think of another whose husband was so hot to see his gal he ignored the signs that she was having a heart attack and left.
You can not risk your life with someone like this.
I can tell you cases in which gun men watch houses to see which husbands leave wifey home alone. You don‘t want to be that wifey.
If he let you down once, he‘ll do it again. I have a drawer where I keep the ‘hold‘ divorces...the ones where the wife comes back in and says to forget it, he‘s changed.
Some I hold for a year, some three years, but all of them get filed eventually.