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Posted: 12/8/2009 11:27 AM |
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Hi everyone.
Well, turns out the EX got married a couple of weeks ago. Do I care? I don‘t know. Should I care? Probably not. Should I feel bad for the lady he married? I do.
She has little kids, and I know what they will go through, as well as her. I would like to think that he is changed and would be nice to her, but that‘s very far fetched. They married within a month or so of meeting... He‘s never been married before.
There was a period of a few months a couple of years ago where he was nagging me to drive out of state to get married on a whim.
He knew that I wanted to get married one day, did he get married now just to rub it in my face? I dunno. Should I care? Probably not.
It‘s just in the front of my mind, since I just found out. I am wondering, after reading up on all the abusive toxic men... I wonder if he married her so that it would be harder for her to leave? I know he wasn‘t ready for me to leave yet, when I did go. Well, I guess the least I can hope for is that now that he‘s busy with his new family, he won‘t bother doing bad stuff to me.
It‘s been 3 months since the breakup.
Ok, I wrote about it, and talked about it, now it‘s time to move on. Thanks for listening.
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Posted: 12/8/2009 6:12 PM |
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| nowthatiseethetruth wrote: | Hi everyone.
Well, turns out the EX got married a couple of weeks ago. Do I care? I don‘t know. Should I care? Probably not. Should I feel bad for the lady he married? I do.
She has little kids, and I know what they will go through, as well as her. I would like to think that he is changed and would be nice to her, but that‘s very far fetched. They married within a month or so of meeting... He‘s never been married before.
There was a period of a few months a couple of years ago where he was nagging me to drive out of state to get married on a whim.
He knew that I wanted to get married one day, did he get married now just to rub it in my face? I dunno. Should I care? Probably not.
It‘s just in the front of my mind, since I just found out. I am wondering, after reading up on all the abusive toxic men... I wonder if he married her so that it would be harder for her to leave? I know he wasn‘t ready for me to leave yet, when I did go. Well, I guess the least I can hope for is that now that he‘s busy with his new family, he won‘t bother doing bad stuff to me.
It‘s been 3 months since the breakup.
Ok, I wrote about it, and talked about it, now it‘s time to move on. Thanks for listening.
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that is what we are here for.
that poor girl has no clue when she is in for! move on girly and make yourself proud
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Posted: 12/8/2009 11:06 PM |
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I am doing fine with this news. I don‘t know if I expected myself not to be, but I‘m ok with it.
My mom said something funny, when I told her.. she said, "Oh, he probably needed a place to live. He can‘t keep living at his mom‘s." haha!
Not giving it more thought than this.. Thanks guys for listening.
Now, looking forward to spending the weekend with my child!!
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Posted: 12/9/2009 12:17 PM |
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I think its natural to feel a little something when this happens.
It reminds me of that show two and a half men.
The woman said her ex was getting re married, she didn‘t love him anymore and the only reason she was upset was because she now realized he was over her.
When my ex moved in with his Wh*re I was upset, but I realized it was because he was happy, I wanted him to suffer longer. (hahaha) Now if he married her tomorrow I would say have a great life!!!
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Posted: 12/10/2009 7:08 PM |
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I know it has to bother you. it‘s so soon. I‘m sorry. it would bother me too. right now, my husband is living with his W#ore and it‘s difficult. today he told me he is filing for divorce. knew it was coming but here I sit, terribly upset stomach, trying to calm myself.
when they move on, we have to have some sort of reaction. I think once we finally get completely untangled, we can feel fine with their mistakes.
and, sounds like he has made one, doesn‘t it? and the woman too. sounds like he is wanting to be married for all the wrong reasons.
as someone once said to me on this board, "she just took out the trash for you".
it fits.
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Posted: 12/15/2009 9:04 AM |
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Awww! Sweetie!
Of course you are going to feel something. The first day I found out that my ex had moved in with his girlfriend it didn‘t really hit me. It took a few days. Then I bawled like a baby for about a week.
It was more the hurt that MY KIDS were spending the night there. And to make matters worse she already had rooms done up for them. Now doesn‘t that seem a little odd since they had supposedly just met the month before? Yeah, that‘s what he told his family.
Well she doesn‘t realize it, but your ex is using her. For a place to live just like your mom said. I Do feel sorry for her kids. He didn‘t just fall head over heels in love hon. He just wanted to make sure this one couldn‘t get away so easily. She must have some money or property to sell and he wants to cash in. He will leave her high and dry and broke with kids to support and he will have broken her when he is done.
She thinks that she just lucked out and married the most romantic man possible. That will soon change.
I would probably write her an anonymous letter. At least telling her NOT to give him any money because he is using her, and to ask for a pre-nup. This will at least give her a heads up and it will be in the back of her mind. It could save the kids from years of heart ache.
You could write that you are an aquaintance at work, the gym etc. anywhere that he goes, and that you (pass yourself off as a man) can‘t stand other men that use women like that and had to say something.
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Posted: 12/15/2009 9:58 PM |
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Thanks for the support, ladies.
I don‘t feel comfortable with the idea of sending out letters, at least not at this time. Mostly, I feel sorry for the lady he married, because I know what‘s in store for her. I have been there, I thought I was in heaven when I first started going out with him. He sure knows how to talk and is a charmer. When he wants to be. I don‘t understand why people get married after knowing someone for only a month or so?? That‘s crazy!!
I have been going out with my guy for a little over a month and a half, and I won‘t even call him my bf yet! There is nothing wrong with taking things slow, to get to know the person you are dating, to see if they are truly who they say they are, and if you‘re compatible. If he‘s worth it, he will wait.
I think mainly they got married because it will make it a lot harder for her to leave him... that is his thinking, I believe. And she has a nice house, so he can move out of his mom‘s.
I‘m ok with it all, just feel bad for her, because I know what I went through with him, and it‘s hard, you just suffer, and by the time you realize it, you are in way deep.. and she‘s already in deeper because now they are married.
I want to shout from the roof tops about what type of person he is. I want to go tell his daughter‘s mom that she should keep her child away from him. I want everyone to know what a sociopath he is. But, then I think about it, and it really isn‘t my place to tell them. I will look like the crazy one. They will find out, eventually.. and unfortunately, they will find out too late.
Thanks again for the support.
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Posted: 12/18/2009 2:59 PM |
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I think it‘s better than you move on and get on with your life and he has his. that will be for the other woman he married to find out whats wrong with him. it‘s healthier and better now that you are moving on and will be happier with someone else and who will love you . good luck sweety
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