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Posted: 10/14/2009 9:51 PM |
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Subject: nowthatiseethetruth |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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You were in my thoughts today...
Doing/feeling any better?
Kitty
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Posted: 10/19/2009 10:33 PM |
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Hello,
I missed this message, so sorry!
I rarely signed in this past week or so.
I am doing, I guess, as good as can be expected. I had some downgrades this past week (see my earlier post in Has Your Ex Ever..), but am doing a lot better and am more optimistic now. I got through the blow OK!
I started filling out paperwork for school, I want to go back and finish my degree. It will better occupy my time at this time. I am spending wayyy too much alone time at home.
I did cry once this past week. One of the ex‘s friends saw my post, and apologized to me after seeing the truth. We got to talking about hers and mine abusive past relationships, and got on the subject of dying relatives. How, when my grandfather passed away this past summer, and the Ex kept demeaning me and throwing it in my face that I was crying solely for the purpose of getting sympathy, and didn‘t really allow me to grieve properly. I started crying when it came back, the stuff I kept myself from thinking about, when he was in the hospital and dying. So, I cried and got some of that stuff out. That felt better, I think.
I have got to try doing that more.
Thank you for asking, btw.
How have you been?
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Posted: 10/19/2009 10:58 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| nowthatiseethetruth wrote: | and the Ex kept demeaning me and throwing it in my face that I was crying solely for the purpose of getting sympathy, and didn‘t really allow me to grieve properly. I started crying when it came back, the stuff I kept myself from thinking about, when he was in the hospital and dying. So, I cried and got some of that stuff out. That felt better, I think.
I have got to try doing that more.
Thank you for asking, btw.
How have you been?
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What a Jack Ass he is! I wish I could come down there and beat him up for you!
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Posted: 10/20/2009 3:23 AM |
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| Miss Luvly1 wrote: |
| nowthatiseethetruth wrote: |
and the Ex kept demeaning me and throwing it in my face that I was crying solely for the purpose of getting sympathy, and didn‘t really allow me to grieve properly. I started crying when it came back, the stuff I kept myself from thinking about, when he was in the hospital and dying. So, I cried and got some of that stuff out. That felt better, I think.
I have got to try doing that more.
Thank you for asking, btw.
How have you been?
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What a Jack Ass he is! I wish I could come down there and beat him up for you!
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 Lets get him girls.... its unbelievable how men can belittle us like that! You are so much better off without him hun.
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:02 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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School is a great way to keep yourself busy! Good for you!
Sometimes having a good old pitty party and crying is the best way to get things out.
I use to do it often and the shop don‘t fix my car this time, I may have another one. hahaha
I think I have pissed of the car gods in my past life.
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:24 AM |
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Thanks guys!
Now that I look back, I cannot believe what I let him get away with, how I allowed him to treat me. NEVER again! Never.
This past summer (with grandpa passing, and my mom moving back to this state, etc,) I think it was time for us to go our separate ways for good. I am lucky for the friends that I have, not in numbers, but the quality. They call or text or msg me all the time, and one friend texted me every day for a month to see how I was doing. She was here for me. Another friend keeps congratulating me (they knew he was bad for me). My sister, who just happened to call me on the day he was moving out, and threatening me, just to chat. She wasn‘t aware of what was going on, but I broke down and told her, I coudln‘t keep hiding it. She was very supportive of me, never judgemental. She called me twice a day every for a long time. She has a very busy career and two little babies, but she still made time for me.
My mom, who is always checking up on me, and tries to be protective of me. But, she understands where I am coming from, she has been there.
And you guys here, where I can come and vent and share my feelings, and it‘s encouraged. Helping me heal one small step at a time.
I guess, I would not be able to do it alone. Having a support system like really helped me get through the most of it. It can only get better from here, as I keep telling myself.
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Posted: 10/20/2009 7:27 AM |
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Yes, I think school will be a good thing right now. I am also looking for a part time job. I was exercising every day, but got a cold late last week, I have to pick it back up tonight, I have to! It helps to keep my mind off things.
I‘ve lost some weight, too, which is always good to hear people ask me if I am losing weight! I think I gained around 50-60 lbs in the duration of this relationship. I am 24 lbs down, working on the rest.
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Posted: 10/20/2009 9:27 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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That is so great you‘re going to school...It‘s a positive way to use your energy!! we waste so much energy on people who aren‘t worth it...and not enough on ourselves...
also..It‘s ok to cry...actually I find it healthy...and you‘re allowed...and it‘s good you have someone to talk to.
Just checking on you...
I‘m good thanks...work too hard...play too hard...laugh too hard...Life‘s too short not to!!
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Posted: 10/21/2009 3:37 AM |
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So proud of you babe
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