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So you caught him...And he said it was over and did it again?

It‘s going to be hard to build back trust to someone who is continuing to lie to you.  If he wants to keep you in his life he needs to explain himself to you...Answering all your questions and telling you why he lied to you a second time...

My worry is for you, if he‘s lied to you on more than one occasion, then lied again when he knew he might loose you over it...what‘s going to make him have a truthful relationship? He was willing to risk you for the affair.

I know it hurts. And it‘s hard. You have every right to be worried and suspicious...because with his track record...sounds like you need to be..

To be honest with you, I couldn‘t take him back after that. BUT we all have to row our own boats and if you want to repair your marriage he‘s the one with work to do. You need to decide what he needs to do to make you willing to stay in the marriage.

Wow  this sounds like what happened to me.

Mine was 18 years and was a otr driver also. 

Okay first, if you ever trust him again,  it will take a long long time.  First things first,  he would have to get another job or a different route if he was mine.  There is no way to gain back trust when he is gone so much. 

You are in shock and hurt, you need to decided what you want,  do you want to work things out?  Do you want to move on? 

I tried and I couldn‘t forgive.  I loved mine too,  still do in someways,  I am sure I always will,  even though he is an asshole,  (he was my asshole)

Love wasn‘t enough for me,  I only have one life to live and it is to short to worry about some cheating a$$hole.   

if you are taking a plane for a dream vacation and crew came to you and told you that there is 50 percent chance that plane is going to crash in a deep ocean. whould you take your chances even you really want to go to your destination?

if you have old gold pot in your hand and wanted to deposit into a bank for more future benefits and bank manager told you that you have 50 percent chance that you would lose all your gold. Would you deposit and give away your gold pot?

So, it depends on us as every person where we draw the line and separate what is lie and what is true and fact.

wish you the best and dont let your emotions get your way to see what is real and what you can do for your own future in a honest way.

peace

summer

THIS!!!!!