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| jackyo |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 1:21 PM |
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I get harrassed alot due to my ex husband. My kids are great but they get really upset. They are good kids and I was told just to ignore it by CPS, if I yelled or confronted the person I would be putting my kids in danger. I walk away. My kids act up in the store, because of the way people treat us. But its not bad acting, its more like disobeying small things and attention getting , my attention. I tried to talk to them and they are ok once we leave and are home but its very hard on them. I don‘t yell at them, I told my son when we got to the car yesterday to pay attention to what he was doing, to concentrate and control himself. to think before he acts. A person getting into their car that had left yelled and said he can control himself your just a bad mother. My son yelled at him and said that wasn‘t true. Like I was treating him like he was stupid and I wasn‘t. Those words never came out of my mouth. I just told him to control himself and concentrate on what he was doing. He gets to where he will zone in the store. Zone everyone out and he doesn‘t listen. So I tell him three or four times not to do something. I‘m not a bad mother. I‘m a good parent . Should I do something else to correct him? My ex said alot of things and I‘m not trash, i‘m not bad and we get treated that way. My kids they have it hard too, but I can‘t let them zone like that, and I understand why they do it. I need to correct them. Any other better ideas? Please help me.
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| Funnysl |
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Posted: 9/10/2009 2:32 PM |
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| jackyo wrote: | | I get harrassed alot due to my ex husband. My kids are great but they get really upset. They are good kids and I was told just to ignore it by CPS, if I yelled or confronted the person I would be putting my kids in danger. I walk away. My kids act up in the store, because of the way people treat us. But its not bad acting, its more like disobeying small things and attention getting , my attention. I tried to talk to them and they are ok once we leave and are home but its very hard on them. I don‘t yell at them, I told my son when we got to the car yesterday to pay attention to what he was doing, to concentrate and control himself. to think before he acts. A person getting into their car that had left yelled and said he can control himself your just a bad mother. My son yelled at him and said that wasn‘t true. Like I was treating him like he was stupid and I wasn‘t. Those words never came out of my mouth. I just told him to control himself and concentrate on what he was doing. He gets to where he will zone in the store. Zone everyone out and he doesn‘t listen. So I tell him three or four times not to do something. I‘m not a bad mother. I‘m a good parent . Should I do something else to correct him? My ex said alot of things and I‘m not trash, i‘m not bad and we get treated that way. My kids they have it hard too, but I can‘t let them zone like that, and I understand why they do it. I need to correct them. Any other better ideas? Please help me. |
First a couple of questions
How old are the children?
Who is yelling at them? People you know or strangers?
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Posted: 9/11/2009 6:15 AM |
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My son doesn‘t always react the first time I ask him to do something, he is seven. If I have to repeat myself over and over and the situation becomes a problem there will be consequence for his decisions. He does know better at his age.
From what you‘ve said I am not getting the whole picture of what happened in the store and why other people would be yelling at YOUR son.
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Posted: 9/11/2009 8:32 AM |
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The people weren‘t yelling at him and neither was I, my exhusband went around town calling me all sorts of things, and its difficult. I asked him to stop touching , playing with a book and pen and I had to repeat myself. He is eight and he kept doing it till we left the store. So when I got out to the car I told him to that he needed to think about what he is doing, listen and control himself. He wasnt damaging anything or being loud he just was not listening to me. And I didn‘t yell I told him after we had left and he took some time in his room when we got home. But because he wasn‘t listening to me , they said I was a bad parent. He is not disruptive, he just zones and doesn‘t listen sometimes. And these people I don‘t know , they knew my exhusband. Which he doesn‘t knock on my door to visit his son anyway. To us he doesn‘t visit or hasn‘t tried to. I‘m a good mother and I‘m just trying to do the right things and i‘m tired of being treated like i‘m trash or garbage. I haven‘t done anything and i‘m correcting him in a proper way I believe and if you all can give me a different way then I might try it. My son is good but them yelling at us in the parking lot was uncalled for and if he was really concerned about his son he would knock on the door but he doesn‘t.
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Posted: 9/12/2009 8:32 AM |
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| jackyo wrote: | | The people weren‘t yelling at him and neither was I, my exhusband went around town calling me all sorts of things, and its difficult. I asked him to stop touching , playing with a book and pen and I had to repeat myself. He is eight and he kept doing it till we left the store. So when I got out to the car I told him to that he needed to think about what he is doing, listen and control himself. He wasnt damaging anything or being loud he just was not listening to me. And I didn‘t yell I told him after we had left and he took some time in his room when we got home. But because he wasn‘t listening to me , they said I was a bad parent. He is not disruptive, he just zones and doesn‘t listen sometimes. And these people I don‘t know , they knew my exhusband. Which he doesn‘t knock on my door to visit his son anyway. To us he doesn‘t visit or hasn‘t tried to. I‘m a good mother and I‘m just trying to do the right things and i‘m tired of being treated like i‘m trash or garbage. I haven‘t done anything and i‘m correcting him in a proper way I believe and if you all can give me a different way then I might try it. My son is good but them yelling at us in the parking lot was uncalled for and if he was really concerned about his son he would knock on the door but he doesn‘t. |
I‘m still confused. you start by saying the people werent‘ yellling then end with they were yelling in the parking lot.
You need to hold your head high and ignore these people or even move. You really need learn that it does not matter what other people think of you, it‘s important what you think of you.
Hell, I yell at my son. After 10 "stop that‘s" I have had enough!!
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Posted: 9/14/2009 5:51 PM |
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| Busty Spumonte wrote: |
| jackyo wrote: |
| The people weren‘t yelling at him and neither was I, my exhusband went around town calling me all sorts of things, and its difficult. I asked him to stop touching , playing with a book and pen and I had to repeat myself. He is eight and he kept doing it till we left the store. So when I got out to the car I told him to that he needed to think about what he is doing, listen and control himself. He wasnt damaging anything or being loud he just was not listening to me. And I didn‘t yell I told him after we had left and he took some time in his room when we got home. But because he wasn‘t listening to me , they said I was a bad parent. He is not disruptive, he just zones and doesn‘t listen sometimes. And these people I don‘t know , they knew my exhusband. Which he doesn‘t knock on my door to visit his son anyway. To us he doesn‘t visit or hasn‘t tried to. I‘m a good mother and I‘m just trying to do the right things and i‘m tired of being treated like i‘m trash or garbage. I haven‘t done anything and i‘m correcting him in a proper way I believe and if you all can give me a different way then I might try it. My son is good but them yelling at us in the parking lot was uncalled for and if he was really concerned about his son he would knock on the door but he doesn‘t. |
I‘m still confused. you start by saying the people werent‘ yellling then end with they were yelling in the parking lot.
You need to hold your head high and ignore these people or even move. You really need learn that it does not matter what other people think of you, it‘s important what you think of you.
Hell, I yell at my son. After 10 "stop that‘s" I have had enough!!
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Busty,
I could still yell my ass off at Spug aged 20.5 but hey ho!! Not sure it gets easier??
 to your post anyways!!!
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