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| notanymore |
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Posted: 8/17/2009 11:22 PM |
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Subject: It‘s almost 3 years - now he is "hitting" on me again... |
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Ok, so my ex-BF (a cheater to end all cheaters) used to work together - after we broke up we kept working together - we weren‘t really friends but we never became enemies - when I needed help I called him - when he needed help he called me (with work)...
We are both Chefs and we had started our own business and had bought a lot of catering equipment...any way - I always felt confident booking a big job knowing that I could count on his help - mentally and/or personally...
Now, after all these years we have moved on and I start getting texts from him wanting to know do I still love him and can he come over...
I know from friends that he is with another woman - he even proclaims that on his facebook.com page - my question is - do I tell her or not?
Knowing what I know I wish to God that one of the women he was cheating on me with had the heart to tell me - 2 of the 3 KNEW he had a "girlfriend"... But, having said that - would I have believed them? And if I had believed them - what would I have done with the information...
I am in a total quandry - I do not know this woman from Eve - but she is younger and a very compassionate person - a "reformed" social worker according to her facebook page - and she is really trying to do good...
Really - do I tell her or not? If I do, HOW & what do I tell her...
I am torn between what I wanted to know and what would have killed me...
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Posted: 8/18/2009 6:24 AM |
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| notanymore wrote: | Ok, so my ex-BF (a cheater to end all cheaters) used to work together - after we broke up we kept working together - we weren‘t really friends but we never became enemies - when I needed help I called him - when he needed help he called me (with work)...
We are both Chefs and we had started our own business and had bought a lot of catering equipment...any way - I always felt confident booking a big job knowing that I could count on his help - mentally and/or personally...
Now, after all these years we have moved on and I start getting texts from him wanting to know do I still love him and can he come over...
I know from friends that he is with another woman - he even proclaims that on his facebook.com page - my question is - do I tell her or not?
Knowing what I know I wish to God that one of the women he was cheating on me with had the heart to tell me - 2 of the 3 KNEW he had a "girlfriend"... But, having said that - would I have believed them? And if I had believed them - what would I have done with the information...
I am in a total quandry - I do not know this woman from Eve - but she is younger and a very compassionate person - a "reformed" social worker according to her facebook page - and she is really trying to do good...
Really - do I tell her or not? If I do, HOW & what do I tell her...
I am torn between what I wanted to know and what would have killed me...
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You could tell her but she probably will not believe you. If you do tell her make sure that you show her the text message that he sent you.
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Posted: 8/18/2009 7:09 AM |
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Coming from you she will think that its a lie.
I would stay out of it.
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:34 AM |
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i would post on his FB public wall to stop sending you romantic texts as you find it inappropriate taking into consideration the past you shared and the fact he is involved with another woman.
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Posted: 8/18/2009 10:58 AM |
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sorry for the double post, but i just feel outraged.
what is wrong with these men that they think its ok to make contact or try to win you over after everything they have done. they have no shame it seems, no insight or care for the damage and pain they inflict.
pisses me off.
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Posted: 8/18/2009 11:01 AM |
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| sunny fl wrote: | Coming from you she will think that its a lie.
I would stay out of it.
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I second that...She most likely already knows something‘s not right...she‘ll catch him being a dog one day...
Once a dirty dog...always a dirty dog..
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Posted: 8/18/2009 8:13 PM |
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You want him to stop bothering you, right?
Post this....
"Please stop texting. I am not interested in you."
That is it.
No long story.
Nothing.
Dull
bored
no hook.
too often a woman vents and the guy gets orgasm because he matters so much to her! When you in a very flat way...voice or
text say you are not interested...and then...ignore any further posts...not block...because that proves he is annoying you.
Indifference is the greatest weapon.
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Posted: 8/19/2009 5:09 AM |
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| sunny fl wrote: |
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Coming from you she will think that its a lie.
I would stay out of it.
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I agree with Sunny. Coming from you, it would seem like a revenge or jealousy thing. It needs to come from someone else. This is not your cross to bear. To put it in "chef" terms, this is not your fish to fry. (haha! i‘m so sorry i couldn‘t resist that!) Do tell him to back off, though. Been there, done that.
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Posted: 8/22/2009 10:47 PM |
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I would want to know if my partner was cheating.
I would always make up my on mind depending on how and what I was told.
There are so many ways to let her know and still remian anonmys... ie if you know her email address, set up a free email account and send from that address. If you don‘t, set up another FB account and email her that way. Obvioulsy you would secure the other FB account.
If your partner was cheating on you ... would you want to know?
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Posted: 9/7/2009 8:39 AM |
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| notanymore wrote: |
Now, after all these years we have moved on and I start getting texts from him wanting to know do I still love him and can he come over...
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forward all texts that he sends you to HER.
if he gets pissy, tell him OOPS.
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Posted: 9/7/2009 8:09 PM |
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This all sound sad..hhhmm..
Maybe you can just keep quiet and try to move on with your life too. I think having so much trouble with someone elses life is something that is not fun at all.
Try to change what you can just to avoid or get him out of your life as well and let that girly suffer with him one day and it‘ll make her realize as well....
Do something with your life first. 
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