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I recently ran into the girl who cheated with my husband. I was walking into a store as she was walking out.  She glared and laughed with her friend at me.

I never did anything to this girl except be her friend, when I thought she was my friend.  Now I just want to do something to her to make her pay.

I know where she works and I know she has a drug record in her home state.  She cannot work in the field we work in and have any kind of record, so I know she lied on her application.

I want to anonymously send all of her records to her employer. 

Is this a bad idea?  I have all the paperwork ready to go.  I just want her out of my life.  The bi$ch lives 2 miles away.  I dread the next time we run into each other.  I don‘t know what I might do.  She‘s just lucky I had my kids with me.

First, I am so sorry that you have been put in the middle of this mess! Second, DO NOT SEND THOSE RECORDS!!! The slut will know that it was you and she may come after you. Shame on the employer for not doing a thorough back ground check. (Most places do that now)

My gut says that she is trying her very best to bait you into doing something that she can use against you. Do not give her that opportunity. Live your life just as you have. Please do not stoop to this sluts level of behavior. Let karma handle the situation.

Are you still with your husband?

She is laughing at you  to make herself feel better,  she knows that she is scum for sleeping with a married man. 

She knows that you are better then her,  so she laughs because she can‘t cry in public.

Let karma take care of her.  She will get hers.

The best thing you can do is forget that she is alive.

She isn‘t worth your anger,  she isn‘t worth the time it takes to send that letter.

I agree with this,  but sometimes the whore is just as guilty!

I find a friend that will sleep with your man,  just as discusting as the husband.

I know it would feel good to do this but I‘m going to agree with the girls..

she laughed at you because it‘s the only way she can feel better about being the nasty person she is...Believe me, she knows exactly what she is...and is punishing herself...and to do something like that to you, her friend...part of that was jealousy...wanting what you had.  Realize she is/was jealous...

Wouldn‘t this just be the best time to tell you that living well is the best revenge...Not only will she see your living well (and be jealous of that alone) but also that you didn‘t need to be a homerecking, bad friend, skank to do it...

Believe me if you send those records she‘ll know it was you and may start a back and forth war that you don‘t need in your life. Don‘t just move on, move up!!

Thanks for your replies ladies.  Yes I am still with my husband.  We are trying to repair our marriage. 

I know everyone says living well and ignoring her is the best revenge but I still feel the need to make her pay.

She walks around as if she did nothng wrong and that I‘m so stupid to stay with him.  Well isn‘t she the one who wanted him soo badly that she was willing to be available for 15 minutes here and there? 

I can‘t believe that she felt the need to move 2 miles away from us.  She used to live 25 miles away.  She is just trying to get to me and it is working.  She knew she would be running into me.  She knows the stores I like to go to.

I really want her to lose her job so she can go back to her Aunt‘s house 25 miles away or back to the state she came from. 

Thanks for listening.

the thing with background checks is that information can and does pop up at anytime.  We had a guy working for us for 6 years before his past caught up with him.

It might be someone else down the track that reveals this information to her boss.  If you can live with yourself for doing it and never tell a soul, then is say DO IT.

not much of a friend is she. you dont have to be either.

You‘re going to do what you want in the end. Just be careful she doesn‘t get you back in a way that will damage your work, rep, relationship, etc...

I have a feeling she‘ll know who was responsable. Just be careful if that‘s what you decide.

Okay, I‘ve tried not to respond to this for long enough.  What would I do??  I would walk right up to the snickering little cum depository and poke my boney hard finger in her slutty chest and ask if there was something she wanted to say to me???  Probably wouldn‘t be the most lady like of moves but I know myself. 

Know this, anyone with half a brain sees her for what she is.  She is going to live with everyone knowing what she is and what she does.  She knows this, trust me.  That is why her self respect is zilch. 

Karma will catch up with her.  You don‘t need to do a thing but sit back and wait for it to bite her in the ass!

     Why the HELL wouldn‘t you NOT send those records? I think you should DO IT!  She should pay because I know for a fact that you ‘ll never see karma when karma hits. DO IT!

     The girl that gave my husband oral, sees me at the grocery store, the ball field where I take my dogs to walk while her kids are at little legue, and coming out of a resturaunt while I‘m going in. I will NEVER see karma if it even exists! If  I knew I had some way of doing this I would. It‘s been five years since, and knowing she did me a favor (my a-hole husband is one stupid jerk) still doesn‘t help me see the KARMA.

     EFFIN DO IT GIRL! (YOU GOT MY GO AHEAD!)

Wow....well I have to agree with Busty about the confrontation part. I am a big fat Byatch and would definitely be all up in her SHIT if I ran into her.

As far as the ratting her out....hmmmm....I am not opposed to doing it at all, I‘m just wondering if having a male friend make a phone call to her job might be a better idea. I don‘t know what field you are in... so could a male person make a call as a concerned parent or a unhappy customer?? Say something like she appeared to be high on something or some such thing. Or do you know any of her old disgruntled boyfriend‘s names?? Maybe you could have a male friend call using an old boyfriend‘s name to her employer spilling all her dirty drug record secrets.....I think that way she would place the blame on someone else, and you get your satisfaction....

Just some thoughts.....

change stores. don‘t let her in your life.

you focus on your own life and YOUR husband. she‘s a piece of **** on the street. scrap that bitch off and move on.

never talk to them or think about them. it brings them into your life. which they love.

move forward. best of luck.