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Posted: 8/19/2009 10:23 AM |
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Subject: Separated for 3 months |
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Age: 61
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hi.
first, I‘m so sorry you are going through this. most of us have been there. it‘s gut wrenching pain to realize the man you trusted most, lied, cheated, and had a life you knew nothing about. I‘m sorry.
please don‘t have sex yet. you would put yourself in a position of letting him tell people YOU had affairs. you can manage this. I bought a nice little ‘toy‘ in case my hand got hurt.
take the high road. wait until you are divorced.
if you have a legal sep, you probably have the right to freeze his accounts until the divorce. that would prevent him from having much ‘fun money‘ and would also help w/the mtg, since he will get half. I think once accts are frozen this way, he has to help with the mtg. depends on the state. check on that, ok?
meanwhile, hang out here. it saved my life. I thought I would never stop crying. made promise after promise but missed him so much and loved him with my whole heart. he lives with his mistress (former friend) and it is painful. but, when this is over, I will never have to deal with him again. when they split (and of course they will) he will have to search pretty hard to find someone who gives a crap because of what he put everyone through. just hang in there. be here. it helps with the healing.
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Posted: 8/22/2009 2:13 PM |
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Subject: Separated for 3 months |
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My husband came over this morning right after I got off work. I wasn‘t going to let him in but he said he just wanted to get a box of stuff he left in the bedroom closet. When he got in he started trying to kiss me and I pushed him away. He kept it up and something took over in me and I stopped resisting him. When he took me in the bedroom I kept saying no, at this point he was raping me but they I couldn‘t help myself. I just let him have his way and heard myself begging him for more.
I was in bed crying and heard the TV in the other room. He was there watching TV, he asked me if this meant we could get back together. I really wanted to say yes but I kept thinking about the other women so I said no, it only meant I had a moment of weakness. A part of me really wanted to say yes, forgive him and join his harem but I managed to ask him to please leave. After he was gone I called my mother and told her everything and asked her if I could stay with her for a while. I‘ll be staying with her until the divorce is final, it will be hard because my house is only a 10 minute drive to work and hers is 30 minutes or more. I‘m going to try to be strong because I don‘t want my mother to see me crying but I can‘t stop crying and hating myself right now.
Andree
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Posted: 8/22/2009 5:44 PM |
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Subject: Separated for 3 months |
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Please, please, please don‘t beat yourself up over a moment of weakness. The same thing happened to me even after my divorce was final from my 1st husband. I would bet money on it that others have done this same exact thing. It happens. You need to look on the bright side of things. He still finds you irresistable! You are human hun. Shit happens and we learn from it. I just wish you would have slapped him on the ass afterwards and escorted him to the door with his little box. Oh well, next time!
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Posted: 8/23/2009 1:44 AM |
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| Busty Spumonte wrote: | | Please, please, please don‘t beat yourself up over a moment of weakness. The same thing happened to me even after my divorce was final from my 1st husband. I would bet money on it that others have done this same exact thing. It happens. You need to look on the bright side of things. He still finds you irresistable! You are human hun. Shit happens and we learn from it. I just wish you would have slapped him on the ass afterwards and escorted him to the door with his little box. Oh well, next time! |
He finds almost all women irresistible, that certainly don‘t make me feel special.
There won‘t be a next time, if there is I would hate myself enough to kill myself.
Andree
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Posted: 8/23/2009 2:27 PM |
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Andree, you are not the first person and you will not be the last person to have a moment of weakness. I have been there as well. Please do not beat yourself up over it and do not hate yourself for it. You were strong enough to say no on the getting back together part.
I am glad you told your mom. I am sure she will be a great support for you. Who cares if she sees you cry. Cry away!
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