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Posted: 8/29/2008 6:27 AM |
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Subject: Help please. Abusive Ex hiding bank accounts |
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New WomanSaver
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I really need some advice here please.
My abusive ex is still controlling and manipulative. I have restraining Order, and he assaulted me so he‘s under bail conditions to stay away from me. He‘s abusive, manipulative and controlling. I have put a stop to much of his ability to control me by leaving him, and getting Orders to stay away from me, etc.
But the only control he has left are two things: The children (3) and financial control. Children are all in counselling, they are doing the best they can with the love and support of myself and my wonderful fiance (there is hope out there ladies for those of you that are willing to take a second chance at a finding a healthy relationship!).
The financial control continues from my ex, and the form of abuse is now legal abuse. It‘s all he‘s got left to try to control me. He brings continued motions to reduce child support, although already a Final Order registered with the Courts.
He MUST be hiding bank accounts. The numbers do not add up. I have no way of proving this unless I get a bank account search done in Canada, and possibly one of the states in the US (virginia). Can anyone help here?
I was told that it is possible to do a bank account search, and that someone here would be able to help me do it.
Any suggestions?
Help is much needed. Our third trial is imminent, and very soon. I don‘t have the $ for a lawyer, so am doing this myself for the first time.
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Posted: 8/29/2008 5:02 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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My suggestion would be that you contact a law firm and ask about pro-bono work. All lawyers are required to log so many hpous of pro-bono work. It sounds like you really need a lawyer.
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Posted: 8/30/2008 3:37 PM |
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Subject: Help please. Abusive Ex hiding bank accounts |
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Please, what I really need is advice on how to do a bank account search. It will help me. The other questions are irrelevant at this point, and Legal Aid will not cover me, nor is duty counsel competent. I have been at this for 5 years now and well-versed.
Restraining Order is registered with CPIC; resulting in assault charges against me in short order (shortly after its registration). The only abuse left to do to me is financial/legal abuse. That‘s all he has left.
Please offer advice re: bank account search.
Thank you.
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Posted: 8/30/2008 5:26 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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You are asking for us to give you illegal advise. While I understand you pain, it‘s time to perhaps figure out how you can function with what little he is giving you.
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Posted: 8/31/2008 5:50 PM |
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I understand your dilemma. I am surprised that your prosecutors office or domestic relations can‘t find bank accounts if there is any. Pennsylvania found my husband‘s and garnished them. My husband, soon to be ex, has been running from child support for 18 years. He owes over $20,000.00 to a woman in PA for her son that just turned 18. I found out about it after I had my son 5 months ago. Anyway, PA domestic relations has found him and garnished a couple of bank accounts for a couple hundred dollars, so he just goes to a new bank. So, even if you find a bank account to garnish, there probably won‘t be much in there and he will just go somewhere else. If he doesn‘t want to pay, he isn‘t going to and will do anything he can to avoid it just like my husband. It is sad and pathetic, but my husband is already doing the same to me. He is already behind $625.00 and this is just the beginning. I will just spend my energy taking care of him without it and if and when I get some it is a bonus. I have a hard time getting my daughter‘s father to keep up with his so I have learned not to worry about it and let it control any aspect of my life. I wish you luck and I wish I knew how to help, but all I can offer is support. You and your fiance will be just fine taking care of your kids without the help from a jackass!
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Posted: 8/31/2008 6:56 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| sweetp828 wrote: | | I understand your dilemma. I am surprised that your prosecutors office or domestic relations can‘t find bank accounts if there is any. Pennsylvania found my husband‘s and garnished them. My husband, soon to be ex, has been running from child support for 18 years. He owes over $20,000.00 to a woman in PA for her son that just turned 18. I found out about it after I had my son 5 months ago. Anyway, PA domestic relations has found him and garnished a couple of bank accounts for a couple hundred dollars, so he just goes to a new bank. So, even if you find a bank account to garnish, there probably won‘t be much in there and he will just go somewhere else. If he doesn‘t want to pay, he isn‘t going to and will do anything he can to avoid it just like my husband. It is sad and pathetic, but my husband is already doing the same to me. He is already behind $625.00 and this is just the beginning. I will just spend my energy taking care of him without it and if and when I get some it is a bonus. I have a hard time getting my daughter‘s father to keep up with his so I have learned not to worry about it and let it control any aspect of my life. I wish you luck and I wish I knew how to help, but all I can offer is support. You and your fiance will be just fine taking care of your kids without the help from a jackass! |
You are a smart woman P! You have a good head on your shoulders! 
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Posted: 9/1/2008 6:52 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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I totally agree with whomever posted that you should fighure out a way to make it without the child support because the men that do pay it on time and consistently are rare. Do what you need to do to take care of your child. However, probably the quickest way to catch him would to be to put his child on Medicaid. You see when you do this and you have an order of support the state actually looks for him and will garnsih his wages for the Medicaid payments. so that would be one way to find the money buty then he is just goning to start working for cash or he will move to a foreign country like Mexico. (Yes Mexico is a foreign country). So the best advice you are going to get here is find a way to make things work without the child support and if by chance you do get a check then you can maybe splurge with it or put it aside for a rainy day.
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