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| jen jen |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 2:22 AM |
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Subject: addictive habit |
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hobart
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my man has a habit....i met him with that habit and i always sed i wud not try and change him but when you havnt eaten for 2 days you get $10 and he wud rather buy drugs than feed us both it really PISSES ME OFF hes had this habit since he was....12-13 i need him to ease off or get some help...is there anybody else out there who has had to deal with someone you love soo much pushing themselves further down the black whole?
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| Momof4 |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 9:30 AM |
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Tell him. He needs to get help, or you need to get out. No food for days and he‘s buying drugs? You are not going to live very long when it comes down to food or drugs and he chooses drugs.
Be strong, give it to him straight, and of he doesn‘t get help-you say goodbye.
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| uberbeotch |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 12:21 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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If he‘s addicted to drugs, he has to want to stop for himself, you can‘t make him.
You need to walk away from this loser. You are only 18 y.o. Why are you wasting time with someone like this?
I‘m a recovering addict/alcoholic myself, so I know WTF I‘m talking about. This guy may SAY he loves you, but he deosn‘t give a sh!t about you. All he cares about is getting high, as you illustrated in your original post.
No one can make an addict stop. They won‘t stop until they are ready, in jail or dead. Then they need to go to NA or AA or some 12-step program to help them stay clean. A rehab center won‘t hurt either, but an addict can‘t stay sober alone. They need to be around other recovering addicts, working the 12 steps.
I know this because I have almost 17 years clean & sober, by the grace of God and programs like AA & NA.
My advice to you - get the fvck out now. Finish school, go to community college or a trade school, get your life together & a job. Don‘t date anyone who is actively using drugs.
And if you are using, get some help. Go to Al-Anon too, it helped me, and it can help you.
http://www.na.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
http://www.aa.org/?Media=PlayFlash
Good luck & God bless you,
UB
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| sweet&simple |
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Posted: 8/22/2008 12:31 PM |
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This is the same guy who is controlling, flirting with other girls, and hitting you right? It just keeps getting worse.
You are way too young for this.
Seriously, get out.
You have no reason to stay. I‘m assuming you don‘t have financial obligations with him, you‘re not married, I‘m assuming you don‘t have children, so what‘s stopping you?
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Posted: 8/23/2008 7:20 PM |
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| jen jen wrote: | | my man has a habit....i met him with that habit and i always sed i wud not try and change him but when you havnt eaten for 2 days you get $10 and he wud rather buy drugs than feed us both it really PISSES ME OFF hes had this habit since he was....12-13 i need him to ease off or get some help...is there anybody else out there who has had to deal with someone you love soo much pushing themselves further down the black whole? |
Oh sweetie, you way to young to be dealing with this load of crap. You really need to leave. You can not continue to eat only every two days. Get out. He is not going to change for you. He has to want to change for himself and if he is buying drugs before food then he has not hit rock bottom yet.
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Posted: 8/25/2008 6:51 PM |
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Hey...he is still being nice lol. Things stopping me......well we both own the car live in the same house and bcoz of him i cant go live at my mumz n the fact i love him makes me stay......i had a abortion 2 months ago...he was acting really funny he didnt really wana talk to me and didnt even come on the first day (he came the second day...early) around that time maybe he thinks i made the wrong decision and is taking it out on me girls.....i hate boys......someone give me something to look forward to tomorrow
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| CaliforniaGirl |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 7:02 PM |
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| jen jen wrote: | | someone give me something to look forward to tomorrow |
Him not being there because you left him.
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| uberbeotch |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 7:26 PM |
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| CaliforniaGirl wrote: |
| jen jen wrote: |
| someone give me something to look forward to tomorrow |
Him not being there because you left him. |
The rest of your life....without him fvcking it up.
Freedom to see your family, and live with your mom if you want or need to.
Education, career, travel, friends, fun.
Being yourself, learning & growing.
Meeting your future mate some day - a good man who has no active addictions. A safe, trustworthy man who will cherish you above all others, who will gladly provide for you & protect you.
Settling down, having a home & a family if that‘s your wish.
Life without the knots in the stomach, the drama, the fear or the pain you have now.
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Posted: 8/25/2008 8:50 PM |
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What do you want to be Jen when you grow up? A drug user, a punching bag? Your choice. Oh, please use protection for pregnancy and STD’s.
Why do you think this is love?
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