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An Order of Protection is essentially the same as a Restraining Order. It‘s different for every state, but for Virginia the only damn way you can get them is:

1. You are prepared to see your abuser in court in front of a judge and are prepared to argue why you need one against him. Ugh---who the hell wants that? The judge might treat you like crap and say it‘s not enough info.

2. You have to have proof the guy physically abused you.

If I had a dime for everytime some ignorant male (in VA---including the dumb lawyers who apparently don‘t know the law too well) said for me to get a restraining order for harassment or an Order of Protection, I‘d have this damn computer paid off!

To find out the laws in YOUR area, look it up online. Virginia is in the dark ages regarding domestic abuse, even though it‘s close to the nation‘s capital where I live. Sad ain‘t it?  They‘ve even outlawed pepper spray here.

Oh...I think I also read that it‘s like three hundred bucks to get an Order of Protection too.

I guess it‘s just easier to be murdered is the way the state looks at it here.

Have someone call his job (but make sure he is not  there when they call) and say they met "Jon Doe" at a strip club on drag queen nite and "Jon Doe" gave him his number and said call him.  But since "Jon Doe" isn‘t there, leave a message that he will see "Jon Doe" same time, same place, next week.  (Don‘t laugh, this has to be serious...  laugh like crazy after the phone is hung up)  That guy will be the talk of the office and no telling how far the gossip will spread.    ha   hahha hha

Contact the "Depends" Company and request his name and work address be added to their mailers.  

Take a long drive, buy a gay magazine and re-relab it to be mailed directly to his job. Just don‘t repackage it, so the mail person can see what "Jon Doe" got.  Just mail it from a distance, so it can‘t be traced back to you. 

Have fun while he‘s busy trying to explain himself.   ha hahh ahha hah ha

Whoops!  I almost forgot the best one of all.

Get some heavy gloves and find some poison ivy or poison oak.   Lightly rub the leaves into his underwear crotch area, just enough to not show green marks.   I did this to 1 weeks worth of my x-husbands underwear before I kicked him out!  It was funny... watching him scratch himself on that one spot... his penis was so red, swollen and scratched up.

He deserved it!

Oh sweetie---my heart goes out to you. It‘s truly rough out there. I didn‘t want to be ‘that‘ woman that was single in her 30s, but here I am.  Men say they‘re easy to figure out, but if they‘re so easy, why are we so confused and they get away with raking is through the coals?

I think it‘s US that are easy to figure out. Here‘s the dialogue all men seem to have down-pat: ‘I love you‘, ‘I‘m sorry. I‘ll never do that again‘, ‘I love you‘, ‘I‘ll try harder‘, ‘I can change‘, ‘I love you‘, ‘I‘m trainable, see?‘, ‘You can‘t change anyone!‘, ‘I never loved you‘, ‘Everything was a lie‘, ‘Why were you stupid enough to believe I loved you?‘...and the cycle continues on with his next victim

Yes, I heard if you just put labels on the magazine it will be mailed to that person and they‘ll probably have to pay postage too!  Ha ha. 

INGENIOUS! 

HA HAAAAAAa

Take all your dollar bills. Write down his name, work and home number on all the dollar bills you use. Write something like "free phone sex",  "to attend a  KKK meeting", "porn for sale", "dial a thief", "gay male seeks same", "learn a new masturbation technique".  Use your imagination and have fun!   You can bet his phone will be ringing and how will the poor b*astard ever explain this to his boss and why he needs a new work number.    LOL 

Tell him that you would like him to get a penis implant, even if he doesn‘t need one.

 Oh! What a blow to his ego... works every time... 

Ladies I‘m here to say that there is a good man out there....all good pieces of SHIT!!

Manslaughter:  The problem with that attitude is that that will continue to be an issue in your life as long as you think that way.  Thoughts of revenge just keep you tied to this guy, and you won‘t move on or let go.  It isn‘t healthy either.  it can raise your blood pressure and cause all kinds of stress related disorders that end in illness. 

I felt much the way you did before, during, and after my divorce.  I lost my job, my home, my vehicle, an excellent credit rating, got stuck with 100% of the community property debt, and had an ex-husband who was not only abusive, but a butthead about paying child support.  God, I was angry.  I replaced my job, but took a huge demotion, and there were a lot of sleepless nights while I fretted whether to pay my mortgage, my car payment, or keep the lights going and food on the table for 3 teenagers.  It was bar none, the most challenging period of my life, and I was pissed. 

There are a lot of women out there who are in the same situation I was, and I know they can all relate.  It wasn‘t fair.

I had the attitude that "all men are bastards" for quite a while.

But you know - give it time - work through some things - don‘t date - figure yourself out - and own your part in some of it - and funny things happen.  You become less angry. 

All men are not alike.  Not all men are cut from the same cloth.  There are lots of them who are good people.  I had guys help me with my cars, help me with my plumbing, help me move, help me change a bad tire on the car, and even help me out at work. 

My best friend was a man for quite a few years.  He was there when I was in the hospital.  He let me stay with him when I was in trouble.  He gave me comic relief when I was in a relationship involving domestic violence.  He listened to me cry like a baby when I was really upset.  He graciously accepted my apologies when I acted like a butthead toward him when I was mad about something else.  He showed me that someone could love me just the way I was.

Not everybody is out to use you or take advantage of you.

And although I portrayed the story of "Lee Ann" - you know, I never heard what happened to Lee Ann after she did what she did to her ex.  She left town.  No one ever heard from her after she quit her job.  I wonder if she ever remarried or met anyone new.  I kind of think it might have taken her longer to recover from that divorce than the rest of us, because she went out of her way to get even.

I‘m not saying you aren‘t entitled to your feelings.  You are.  But be careful not to become bitter.  You will miss out on the good people if you do.

Society makes us feel bad when we‘re bitter, yet everyone blames us for trusting someone when we‘re naive and open-hearted. It‘s like there‘s no winning situation here. I say, screw society! Remain bitter and protect yourself. No one else will protect you anyway.

O.K. I see where you are at now.  Never blame yourself for being open hearted.  Naive...yes... to a point.  If a man cheats,lies...betrays you in someway.  That is a character flaw in him.  If he cant hold himself to a moral standard (respect for himself)...he "cant" show any respect to you either. He is responsible for his actions and what he did to you.  Hands down! 

What it takes to make the difference is setting boundries for what you will and will not tolerate.  Your responsiblity to yourself is to learn who these men are.  Trusting is not a fault.  Trusting the wrong man is. Yeah,I know it bites to hear that.  However,that is not to say you deserved what you got.  Let me say that again...HELL NO you didnt deserve it! 

You cant change the deed or the man that did it...you can only change yourself and in the people whom you trust.  You can win at that.  The jerk today is just going to find another victim tomorrow....let it go.  Yeah,I know you want to be the one to teach the sorry bastard a lesson.  We all want to be "That person". 

Look at it like this...even if you were to try and teach them a lesson.  Fools dont know they are fools.  They would never get it...its a waste of time! LOL!!

Focus on who you are as a person and how you want to be treated and kick the man to the curb who dosent meet YOUR standards!  Thats how you protect yourself without becoming bitter! 

Society blames you for being bitter for not having the insight to understand you are in control of your own happiness...and always have been.

I won‘t do it (I don‘t think) but it was my cheating boyfriend that told me the story about the woman who super glued her husband‘s dick to his leg for cheating.

I LOVE that idea - with one caveat - I want to get him as hard as possible and THEN glue his dick to his leg and watch the pain as he ‘softens‘.

Sometimes just the revenge thoughts are enough to get you through, then you live your life as the person you want to be.

You mean THIS story?:  http://www.thepittsburghchannel.com/news/5235856/detail.html

I‘m sure the jackoff deserved it.