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I‘m putting this over here too, cuz I haven‘t Dr. WS around much lately. I‘m sure she‘s busy with her real-life practice. If any of you have knowledge about HPV & can answer my questions, thank you! UB

I‘m 47 y.o. & been having bad paps for nearly 2 years now. 1st ASCUS with inflammation in 4/07, now my last 2 (8/08 & 12/08) were CIN1 with inflammation. They did HPV typing, and my GP said I have HPV for sure.

I‘ve never had a wart that I know of, no doc has ever mentioned seeing a wart IN me, and I‘ve never SEEN a wart on anyone I‘ve been with, but I‘ve had some risky partners. I know not all strains cause warts.

Who knows when I was exposed to it? I have it now & I have to deal with it. I‘m waiting for the results to come in the mail so I can see which strains of HPV I have. I‘m pretty sure I have some that are cancer-causing, due to the negative changes in my cervical cels. I‘ll be seeing a gyno in mid-February to discuss treatment options.

I‘m worried about my health, and I‘m also worried about my future relationships.

I‘m not in a relationship now, but I understand that I will need to tell any future partners that I have it. I also need to tell my last long-term guy that he might have it. We did have unprotected sex. for several years. I understand there is no test for men, and that at this point, many MANY sexually active men already have it & just don‘t know it.

I‘ve been reading on the Internet about it, and I saw that regular, PERFECT condom use can help prevent its spread vaginally & anally. What about oral sex? Can I receive oral sex from a man & not pass it to him?

I‘m gonna get pretty graphic here:

What if he keeps his mouth away from my vagina, and just concentrates on the clitoris? Could he still be exposed to HPV?

Am I destined to live like a nun the rest of my life?

UB

Last march my b/f told me his ex wife gave him something.....and that he had to have warts removed..yet he didnt tell me until the day he had the procedure done and I had already heard messages on his answering maching from his urologist about appointments.....which made me wonder until he told me.....and he told me non chalantly on our way to play pool with our league in the truck going to league...

He didnt say it was HPV...just said he had some warts down there and around his anus...i wondered why we werent having sex hardly....ya that was his first comment to me...havent you wondered why we havent been having sex.....and then he‘s like when it clears he cant wait to have some serious sex.....

I‘ve also found out this last oct that he‘s been seeing another woman but does not have vaginal sex with her....just titty f#$%#.......I know his password so I read their messages in the archieve......ya bad me i know.....now I‘m wondering if he really did get it from his ex wife......years back like he says......I‘ve never been tested though he said his dr told him to tell me to.....I cant afford to......he said his medication cost him over 600 bucks (though his insurance paid for it mostly) and I have no clue what the urologist cost him...or his insurance...but he said he didnt have cancer.....oh yippee huh....and I know he‘s still looking for other "adventures" with woman online.....yet he says he wont have real sex just titty F#$%#$ with them......yet he also says he‘s married....and were NOT. I‘m not one to go to any dr and havent in 17 yrs since my last child was born.....ya I know....cant afford it so dont.

Info online sucks too......I‘ve read ALOT! 

you need a pap smear pronto. call planned parenthood, they have a sliding fee scale based on your income. go there, tell them what you have told us.

he‘s gay honey, he has warts in his ass. he exposed you to warts, which are a known cause of cervical cancer. you need a pap smear every 4 to 6 months now. and condoms, lots of condoms, should you be dumb enough to stay with him.

move it!! call the clinic.

Actually, the types of HPV that cause warts are LOW RISK for cervical or other cancers.

The HIGH RISK HPV‘s are the types that don‘t create warts. They are visually undetectable. You won‘t know you have them until you start having bad paps, like me.

However, if the guy has warts in his ass, then most likely he‘s had some unprotected dicks in there. If he‘s had unprotected dicks in there, them most likely he‘s been exposed to HPV & maybe other STD‘s.

Like MM said, go get a pap, quick! Dump this guy too!

Update on my situation: I had cryosurgery in August 2009 to remove layers of abnormal cels from my cervix. Had my follow up pap in December 2009. Got a letter from my Dr. stating the pap was NORMAL, but I have INFLAMMATION. HOW can inflammation be normal???

I am waiting to receive the actual lab report. This whole sh!t started with inflammation & then abnormal cels. Will update you later.

In the meantime - I‘m not living like a nun! I have a nice BF who is very careful "down there," always uses condoms, and never complains.  :)  I am happy in that respect.

UB