WomanSavers.com Forum / WOMEN'S HEALTH AND SEX ISSUES / Husband needs overstimulation to get aroused!

Hi,

Is it normal for a guy to want to see porn or overstimulation to have sex,  I mean all the time! just to get in the mood.  My husband finds it very hard to get a good solid errection because he has weak ones, if he dont see a porno in the backround! Even when theres a porn on he seems to still not be able to get it......  I think he needs a therapist if you ask me,or testosterone. Hes only 35!

tell me your thoughts.

Andrea

shally wrote:

I say get him to the doctor for a complete physical. No that isn‘t normal for a 35 year old man. Do you think he has a porn addiction?

Hi,

Yes, he may have a problem with porn addiction!  But he lies about it and makes all kind of excuses to  not have sex, that hes not in the mood or its stress related.  I know he now has a very low sex drive and also became impotent at 35!  Its very strange, and Im gonna get to the bottom of this and , make him get a physical and or if there isnt anything wrong with his health then that only means he needs to talk to someone about his mental problems......

thanks

Andrea,

no this is not normal at all,I think he is hiding somthing from you and you need to find out what it is.

and the one thing I wouldn‘t put up with is his watching porn.

I know I myslef would worry that he was cheating or would cheat after watching and hiding the fact that he is watching  porn and some belive that it can lead people to having affirs.this may not be the case with you.So please be upset by this,just keep your eyes and ears open.

Hello,

thanks for the reply!  Yes, I know watching porn may lead to cheating.  I will keep watch.

thanks

Hello there,

I have the same problem with my bf.  It‘s upsetting to me that he can‘t get aroused enough with me and always has to have some other sort of stimulation.

I wanted to try therapy, but unfortunately I am just so busy and money so tight these days.

Did you go to therapy>  curious

How‘s it going ?

Hi

well my husband isnt interested in getting counseling!  He says its all mental when it comes to him. So, I really cant help him since he  has alot of mental issues and dont want counseling.  I think he may be mentally ill and I dont know about it, and its untreated.  I know that people with mental illness have problems with sex, and impotence.

I will just wait it out and see what happends.

Andrea,