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| dirtlovntreehugr |
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Posted: 11/4/2007 12:51 PM |
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Subject: Orgasms?? |
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New WomanSaver
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style="text-align: left;">I have a question and I‘m hoping someone here can help me! I am 21 years old, sexually active for 5 years. I was never able to have an orgasm from anything but my vibrator until about 2 years ago. Only oral sex though. I CANNOT have an orgasm from sex...I dont even come close. Is there something I‘m not doing right? I don‘t know what to do. I try to keep my head in it the whole time but it gets difficult when I‘m just waiting for him to finish. Ya know? I don‘t know anymore maybe someone can give me some helpful tips. Thanks!!
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| TT29 |
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Posted: 11/9/2007 8:14 PM |
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Have you tried using a mini-vibrator to stimulate your clit while he‘s inside you?
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| dirtlovntreehugr |
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Posted: 11/10/2007 1:59 PM |
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yeah i have, and that works and all but i just wanted some tips on how i could maybe get off without using any tools or my hands..
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| Sunny fl |
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Posted: 11/13/2007 10:55 AM |
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| dirtlovntreehugr wrote: | | yeah i have, and that works and all but i just wanted some tips on how i could maybe get off without using any tools or my hands.. |
You are not alone here, I was reading that 70 percent of women can not reach orgasm with out stimulating the clit in one way or the other. Unless there is a position that you can stimulate your clit, they also said that most women that do reach orgasm with intercourse only do so when they are on top. I will look for the artical and send you a link.
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Posted: 11/13/2007 10:55 AM |
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| dirtlovntreehugr wrote: | | yeah i have, and that works and all but i just wanted some tips on how i could maybe get off without using any tools or my hands.. |
You are not alone here, I was reading that 70 percent of women can not reach orgasm with out stimulating the clit in one way or the other. Unless there is a position that you can stimulate your clit, they also said that most women that do reach orgasm with intercourse only do so when they are on top. I will look for the artical and send you a link.
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Posted: 11/13/2007 3:11 PM |
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yeah I‘ve heard that too. It sucks haha. I just want to be able to have as much enjoyment from sex as he does but i can‘t because it gets to the point where I‘m just waiting for him to finish
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Posted: 12/10/2007 3:37 PM |
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have you tryed new ways and changing things.
You could also talk to you doctor about it and see what he or she has to say.
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Posted: 12/13/2007 8:37 AM |
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You just have to remember that EVERY woman is different. Some people need this while others need that. Neither way is wrong or right. Just is. As long as you know what it is that you need to get to that point and communicate that with your partner you should feel comfortable about it.
At least you can have an orgasm..some women are so unfortunate to never get one..ever....
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Posted: 1/15/2008 7:41 AM |
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Be selfish girl! Do it the way you wanted it. Men like to be guided anyway so just take advantage of it. For me I make sure that his pelvic bone touches my clit and I push him on me. He is not complaining so I think its okay. And 1 position I like is the down dog. It is like doggystyle but you‘re lying on your stomach and lifting your butt a bit, it will surely it your g-spot. concentrate on your own satisfaction this time.
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Posted: 1/25/2008 10:15 AM |
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| dirtlovntreehugr wrote: | I have a question and I‘m hoping someone here can help me! I am 21 years old, sexually active for 5 years. I was never able to have an orgasm from anything but my vibrator until about 2 years ago. Only oral sex though. I CANNOT have an orgasm from sex...I dont even come close. Is there something I‘m not doing right? I don‘t know what to do. I try to keep my head in it the whole time but it gets difficult when I‘m just waiting for him to finish. Ya know? I don‘t know anymore maybe someone can give me some helpful tips. Thanks!!
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I know how you feel, I started to have sex at the age of 16 and had a couple of different partners was even married once but I never had an orgasm. It was always just waiting for him to finish. It wasnt untill 5 months ago that I had my first real orgasm. Now I dont get them all the time (even though he thinks I do) Its still nice to have every once in awhile. See, your lucky because I couldnt even pleasure myself. I personally think you have not found the right person yet. Have you actually been in love? I found that that worked for me
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Posted: 1/27/2008 1:08 PM |
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Yes i am deffinitely in love. I‘ve been with him for over 2 years he is the only one to ever give me an orgasm. We try real hard like new positions and everything and he does whatever he can to help me try to have one but it just never works out. sometimes its close.. but thats rare. he is very open to trying out new things and doing whatever he can but it just never seems to get there for me. i dont know maybe someday ha
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:20 PM |
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| dirtlovntreehugr wrote: |
| Yes i am deffinitely in love. I‘ve been with him for over 2 years he is the only one to ever give me an orgasm. We try real hard like new positions and everything and he does whatever he can to help me try to have one but it just never works out. sometimes its close.. but thats rare. he is very open to trying out new things and doing whatever he can but it just never seems to get there for me. i dont know maybe someday ha |
your young and have a lot of time to figure things out; relax, its not the be all end all or a conquest of sensual love making. On the bright note; sex in your 20‘s is hot and fun, sex in your 30‘s you get to fine tune things, dicovery find out what turns you on and what you want, and sex in your 40‘s (as far as im concerned) is the BEST! cause you finally figured out what makes you happy, and your confident, and not afraid to let go and express yourself.. Am I wrong 40+ gals? Ha!!!!!!!! Try watching sex in the city...
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Posted: 1/28/2008 2:26 PM |
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| dirtlovntreehugr wrote: | | Yes i am deffinitely in love. I‘ve been with him for over 2 years he is the only one to ever give me an orgasm. We try real hard like new positions and everything and he does whatever he can to help me try to have one but it just never works out. sometimes its close.. but thats rare. he is very open to trying out new things and doing whatever he can but it just never seems to get there for me. i dont know maybe someday ha |
Does it seem like sometimes you are concentrating too hard on having one? If you do just try to relax and not worry about when its going to happen. Have you tried using you kegal excercises during sex? That may work for you. Try hat and get back to me
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Posted: 1/31/2008 11:22 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Cool thread..I would highly recommend tantric sex. Here is the thing you have to be able to connect with your partner emotionaly, physicaly, spritually making your body insync. Tantric takes practice and there are books and dvds that teach couples how to do it. Tantric sex only works well if you are either in love with the person or satisfied with who they are as a person. Tantric sex consists of breathing relaxing and slow movements. Its pretty cool I tried it before and its pretty deep. Oragasms gained through tantric sex are usually quite intense.
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Posted: 2/15/2008 12:07 AM |
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just to share my experience.....I never was able to have an orgasm during intercourse. Always thought that I was one of the few who couldn‘t . Over the years, I read a lot and learned that MOST women couldn‘t have one that way. It usually took a lot of oral and/or manual stimulation to get us there. The guys sometimes didn‘t help much by thinking we only needed 3or 4 minutes of oral and should be there. Sometimes , it took 20 min. or longer. Depending on how nervous or stressed I was, and how worried about his comfort and fatigue level I was.....
Once I finally became comfortable with my husband, I just do what I need to do and try not to think about him. If I need to be on top and ride him in a certain way for a long time, then so be it. ( THat worked!!!First time ever!!!)
Same with oral....just find a position that you‘ll be comfortable in for a while. And relax and let yourself really get into it. Fantasize about anything that makes you hot, no matter what it is. I did this recently ,too. .and it happened for me!!Yeah!!!
Before that , my vibrator was my true lover. I could come with my husband behind me if I held the vib against me.
Good luck! P.S. Porn tapes showing women having a great time may help. Not all women like this, but it‘s worth a try. don‘t knock it til you do try it. .
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Posted: 3/24/2008 9:52 AM |
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here is somthing eles you could try.if you dont have the egg get one and have him you this on you for a bit before the two of you have sex together.thou you might have one with the egg and he can try and give you another one durning sex.
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