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| one_broken_heart |
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Posted: 1/19/2005 10:14 AM |
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Anyone by chance happen to know of a web site where I can post her name at?? Just wondering
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Posted: 1/19/2005 4:11 PM |
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| one_broken_heart wrote: | | Anyone by chance happen to know of a web site where I can post her name at?? Just wondering |
You can post it on this site. There are several women in the database already. Just go to guy search and take it from there. What's the story?
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Posted: 1/20/2005 4:49 AM |
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Well I am 29 he is 30 been married since I was 16... He was working downtown this past summer, and at the end of August two women spotted him, and one sent the whore over to see if he was married he told her he was happily married, and she left well then she came around everyday talking to him telling him if he could not get a blow job at home or sex at home he could get it there. I dont understand because we had a great sex life, everyday!!!!! Well for some reason she gave him her phone number, and he called... This went on for two weeks behind my back.... Then on Sept 9th he was having a bad day, and she came around once her told her to go on then that afternoon she came by again and told him to get in and he did asked him if he wanted to go have some fun, and he went with her, to the hotel, wnet in and she did oral on him, and then he fucked her, but stopped before he cum... He told me on Sept 27th what he had done... I am having a really really hard time dealing with all of this, I have confronted her, but she is such a coward that she denies everything, even though I had the phone records and several witnesses that seen him go with her....I just dont know what to do anymore.... In some MAJOR DEPRESSION.gif) I just dont know if I will ever be the same again..... I have so much anger and bitterness, lack of trust , he is remorseful, and tells me how sorry he is but that wont make it go away, what do I do now??
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Posted: 1/20/2005 11:05 AM |
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Well he talked to her for 2 weeks, but he only went sexually with her the one time. I am do not depend on him, I can financially support myself and my children.. He used to say really mean things to me but not anymore.... Because I will not tolerate any more shit from him and he knows it... He cant give me a reason why he did what he did says it was like it was not even him. I seen a change in him for the time he was talking to her, and now I see the old him I feel in love with.... He tells me we could never have sex again, and it would not matter to him.. I just worry if it is possible for someone to change that much.... I worry if I will ever be the same again, we have been thru marriage counseling they tell me it just takes time, but I wonder how long....
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Posted: 1/20/2005 11:30 AM |
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| one_broken_heart wrote: | | Well he talked to her for 2 weeks, but he only went sexually with her the one time. I am do not depend on him, I can financially support myself and my children.. He used to say really mean things to me but not anymore.... Because I will not tolerate any more shit from him and he knows it... He cant give me a reason why he did what he did says it was like it was not even him. I seen a change in him for the time he was talking to her, and now I see the old him I feel in love with.... He tells me we could never have sex again, and it would not matter to him.. I just worry if it is possible for someone to change that much.... I worry if I will ever be the same again, we have been thru marriage counseling they tell me it just takes time, but I wonder how long.... |
So, how long has it been since this started? Sept? He sounds as if he is feeling some level of shame, but its not enough to leave you without an explanation of why? I feel he may still be hiding emotions he is unwilling or unable to talk about. Did counseling seem to go well? Too well? Youre right to tap into your Sixth Sense, if you still suspect something is wrong, the likely youre right. Does the time he "changed" seem a bit too quick?
He still owes you answer,. this may happen over time. You know him best, is this change just too wierd for you? You wont be the same again, you will be looking at when he may do this again, if he will, why he will...? What do you want to happen thru all this? For things to get back to normal? He has to meet you equally, with an open heart and mind. Get some answers, or trust just cannot be rebuilt.
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Posted: 1/20/2005 12:37 PM |
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Well I discussed it with him, and he says that he came so close to losing everything that it made him realize what was important. He finally realized the whole world did not revolve around him.... He says he will never do it again, and should not have even talked to her let alone went with her.... I dont know I have so many emotions going thru me from despair to rage!!!! I hope things will be better than they ever were... Maybe he has realized a few things I dont know .... She started coming around him August 25th, and He went to the hotel On Sept 9th, and he told me on Sept 27th because he could not live with himself. He has had no more contact with her other than when I called and he was on the other line and he told her to stay away from him, was the worst mistake he ever made. And I knew everything, which of course she denies it all... Why do women persue married men??? He told her he was happy, and on the way to the hotel, that he loved me more than anything, she asked him why he was doing this and he said I dont know???
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Posted: 1/20/2005 3:05 PM |
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| one_broken_heart wrote: | | Well I discussed it with him, and he says that he came so close to losing everything that it made him realize what was important. He finally realized the whole world did not revolve around him.... He says he will never do it again, and should not have even talked to her let alone went with her.... I dont know I have so many emotions going thru me from despair to rage!!!! I hope things will be better than they ever were... Maybe he has realized a few things I dont know .... She started coming around him August 25th, and He went to the hotel On Sept 9th, and he told me on Sept 27th because he could not live with himself. He has had no more contact with her other than when I called and he was on the other line and he told her to stay away from him, was the worst mistake he ever made. And I knew everything, which of course she denies it all... Why do women persue married men??? He told her he was happy, and on the way to the hotel, that he loved me more than anything, she asked him why he was doing this and he said I dont know??? |
Good! Feel rage if you want to! Youre allowed! I dont know why some Women pursue married men. something they see in the relationship that they themselves dont have? Well, he fessed up, and feels bad about it. I am so used to doubting the believability of what men say about cheating...other than "he will never do it again" What else has he done/said to convince you? He, from what you wrote, sounds sincere about his mistake, and wants to correct/forget the whole thing, by george, Maybe so! But you have to be convinced yourself, are you suspicious at all? How have things improved? Do you feel his sincerity?
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Posted: 1/20/2005 3:47 PM |
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I do believe his sincerity, he has begged on his hands and knees for me to forgive him, but seriously he aggreed to do whatever it takes to fix this, marriage counseling was a big part, we both started going to church, he helps me now when before he would be downloading porn on the computer or playing video games on it, and leave everything up to me. He goes everywhere with me, and has stopped drinking.... That was one of my demands... No More PORN Or Drinking... He listens to everything that I dish out and he says I am so sorry for hurting you I wish I could go back in time but I cant. And after he listens to what I have to say he just comforts me and tells me how sorry he is for hurting me, and how ashamed he is of what he did... He promises no more secrets from me ever again, wears his wedding ring now, and will not even look at or speak to women. I have seen him cry more now than I have in the past 16 years we have been together... He tells me that if I will just let him back into my heart he will show me how good things will be, and how much he loves me, but I am so afraid of getting hurt again... I wish it were so easy .... He is also afraid of me finding someone else, because I am not an ugly woman unlike the whore he went with, she was older and just plain out ugly and trashy and just disguisting, thats something else that bothers me... She is just nasty......
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Posted: 1/20/2005 4:27 PM |
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Wow, a complete turnaround! He has to stick with it! It has only been how long since this occured? I am impressed. He has exhibited all the qualities and feelings I would expect him to, in order to make amends with you. but its still going to be time for you to heal on your own. If he continues to stay the course, you two should turn out okay. Remember it should always be about two people who chose to share in an equal partnership. Remind him that you made a choice to be with him, and it can be revoked if need be!
Feel free to post in the General section anytime, there are lots of issues relavent to this thread!
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Posted: 1/20/2005 4:34 PM |
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It happened on Sept 9th.... I hope so..... Oh yeah I have made it very clear that I can make it on my own, any kinda SHI* from him and he is gone.gif) And he knows I will do it ... lol
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