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| mysticden |
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Posted: 3/1/2010 7:19 PM |
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Subject: need help and advice plz |
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well,here it goes.i have been married for the third time for alittle over a year.what a year it has been.I beleive my husband is bipolar.he is fine one minute and then he gets down and he is nasty towards me.he says hurtful things and he does not trust me.he works and i have been looking for a job.my daughter is disabled and it is hard for me to work.anyways he accuses me of "having my b/f come over to house when he leaves for work.when he comes home for supper he checks any tracks in the snow for vehcles or foot prints to the house.well anyways,he does get groceries and pays for the bills.it is his house and i do my share of the work here ,and alot of poeple tell me i do ahell of alot more.today i spent over 200.00 on groceries(my daughter and i from her monthly income,she does get alot of things for herself along with her meds.now tonight my husband said that maybe we should separate and go our own ways.where do i and my daughter go?we are flat broke now and what do i do now?am scared and boy do i feel used. any advice?
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| Moogleangelgirl |
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Posted: 3/1/2010 10:45 PM |
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| mysticden wrote: | | well,here it goes.i have been married for the third time for alittle over a year.what a year it has been.I beleive my husband is bipolar.he is fine one minute and then he gets down and he is nasty towards me.he says hurtful things and he does not trust me.he works and i have been looking for a job.my daughter is disabled and it is hard for me to work.anyways he accuses me of "having my b/f come over to house when he leaves for work.when he comes home for supper he checks any tracks in the snow for vehcles or foot prints to the house.well anyways,he does get groceries and pays for the bills.it is his house and i do my share of the work here ,and alot of poeple tell me i do ahell of alot more.today i spent over 200.00 on groceries(my daughter and i from her monthly income,she does get alot of things for herself along with her meds.now tonight my husband said that maybe we should separate and go our own ways.where do i and my daughter go?we are flat broke now and what do i do now?am scared and boy do i feel used. any advice? |
http://www.otda.state.ny.us/main/programs.asp
That‘s a place to start. Please don‘t feel ashamed if you have to go on government assistance. As a taxpayer, I would much rather the assistance go to someone who needs it than someone who doesn‘t. Right now, you need to get back on your feet and the Government offers a hand up.
I would normally suggest you look into section 8 housing, but I know they have stopped processing vouchers in NY, NY because of lack of funds. Ask and make sure since you are in a different part of New York State. I know they also might process your application anyway because you have a disabled child. You don‘t have to live in a slum on section 8 either. HUD offers programs for those on section 8 to actually buy a house. They use your vouchers as part of the payments towards OWNING a home. Some are pretty nice! There are options. If you need help finding them PM me and I‘ll do my best to help you more.
As for your relationship falling apart, sweetie it sounds like it‘s for the best. You have to look out for your child too and seeing him act nasty towards you is no way to grow up.I‘m so sorry for your pain.
God never closes a door without opening a window. 
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| shally |
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Posted: 3/1/2010 10:54 PM |
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Excellent advice - as usual, moogie. What a true blessing you are!
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 I am so sorry you are hurting. Please take moogie‘s advice.
And please keep posting and let us know how you‘re doing. We may not have all the answers but we are here to listen and let you know, you are not alone.
If you are married, which I believe you said you are, he can‘t just kick you out of your house - yes YOUR house. Now if you are afraid he will do something to you or he becomes abusive please don‘t hesitate to call the police. They will also have a list of options for you. While he sits his ass in jail, you can come up with a plan.
Just stay safe.  Do whatever it takes to keep you and your precious daughter safe.
If he is acting erratically he can be committed for a short period of time. I believe it‘s 72 hours. Do you have joint checking? Take half.
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Posted: 3/1/2010 11:12 PM |
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| shally wrote: |
If you are married, which I believe you said you are, he can‘t just kick you out of your house - yes YOUR house. Now if you are afraid he will do something to you or he becomes abusive please don‘t hesitate to call the police. They will also have a list of options for you. While he sits his ass in jail, you can come up with a plan.
Just stay safe. Do whatever it takes to keep you and your precious daughter safe.
If he is acting erratically he can be committed for a short period of time. I believe it‘s 72 hours. Do you have joint checking? Take half.
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LOL also excellent advice, I didnt even think about the fact that because they are married he can‘t kick her out.
Much love to you shally!
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| bubblecropper |
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Posted: 3/2/2010 5:28 AM |
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If he wants to separate then why can‘t he move out?
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