WomanSavers.com Forum / ABUSE HELP / stalker problems

Stalking is, unfortunately, a very difficult thing to prove.

However...you must file a police report each and every time it happens.  You have to be really diligent.

I recommend carrying a camera, or taking pictures with your cell phone.  If you can attach a date and time to the photo, even better.

Notes on your door should be copied, and also submitted to the police as evidence. 

If you have a protection order, the evidence and history of incidents are grounds to have him arrested.

If you don‘t have a protection order, all of the above is enough to get a no-contact order.

It‘s very frustrating.  Have the police ever visited him?

yeah they have been to his house the only time he got arrested was when he said he was going to kill me we went to court got a 500 ft saying he has to stay away from me but he just dont care if he goes to jail or if he gets stopped by the law.

 he gets away with everything i had pictures emails a love letter he sent to me phone calls he made to me and a video of him and they did nothing lately though i moved and he goes up and down the road like a crazy man i havent talked to him since july of last year and he still wants to be around i never even gave the idea i wanted him he lived next door to me some people says they would see him watch me get in my pool his own family member called me and told me watch out he was watching every move i made

 .people dont think it will happen to them but it does i dont talk to no one no more except family and just stay in my house unless i need food or my kids need something this is how my life has turned out everytime i go out side i am afraid he will be there with a gun what makes men and women do this to people and why dont the law do anything about it i use to have a happy life long hair i cut it off like a mans thinking he wouldnt still want me that didnt help started to dress in big shirts and jogging pants and he still wants me .someday i hope and pray my nightmare will be over until then i will fight him and this  to the end .why does it bother me he drives by all the time i dont know in part on my mind i dont care its his gas he‘s wasting no mine but then the other part of my mind there is always that little voice asking what will he do next give up move on or kill me i use to image me becoming a grandmother and dieing old with my husband and know i wonder every day is this my last .all who reads this please keep me in your prays and be careful and watch for the people you talk to .

Sorry to hear about that.  I had a stalker kid in high school, but it didn‘t go to that length. 

I don‘t think its legal for him to come onto your property, personally, I‘d definately call the police and talk with them and tell them the situation.  Make sure you try to keep legal proof of everything.  Do you have pepper spray at least - hope so.