WomanSavers.com Forum / ABUSE HELP / my husband won‘t let me take my dog to shelter

Alpha - Do you have a car or access to a car?  Just take the dog.  As far as leaving:  Has he threatened you, or threatened to do bodily harm?  Has he ever made good on his threats? 

Do you have family?  Friends?  Anyone with a pick-up truck?  Have them come over to move you out, and if he  threatens you, you will have witnesses, and then you call the police. 

Then you file a protection order with district court, the sheriff serves him, and it is illegal for him to call you, to talk to you, to write to you, or even to have third party contact.  You go to court in another 10 days, and the protection order either becomes permanent, or it doesn‘t.  By that time, you will be out of the house.

I won‘t say that leaving is easy, but you have to do it, and you need to erase those words "My husband won‘t let me" because you are not a child, and you‘re not powerless.  He‘s just making you feel that way.  As long as you feel powerless and afraid, you won‘t try to leave.

I know it‘s scary, but you need to face the fact that no one can do this for you.  Ask for help, and do something about it.  All the women on this board will be there for you.  A lot of us have been through this, and understand how terrified you feel.

Talk to the local women‘s shelter network.  They can really help you with strategy and pointers.  They also have trained legal advocates who will go to court with you. 

Thanks everybody.  It has gotten out of hand here.  We did get into a fight, but other folks get into arguments.  But there is no reason to involve my animals.  I draw the line at that, or him kicking me out at night anymore when I don‘t have anywhere to go, or him threatening to throw all my things out.  He is really mad that I am continuing to work on moving past him, and I have been working on moving.  He may also be bipolar, I‘m not sure.  The other option is, he‘s just mean to me, and an abuser, which is more painful to think about.  I asked for him to apologize and he hasn‘t, actually he is still yelling today.

I did call his parents.  He is lying about what all really happened now and saying it was all my fault.  This is the continual game he plays.  He also tries to call me crazy, to make me angry. I will call the police if he does any of this again.  I told him I would contact my family attorney if he does anything to me.  I have had to contact an attorney about my rights being in the house.  I told him I was contacting an attorney about the dog.  He says he‘s going to call the police on me if I try to take me on dog out, or if anybody came to help me move my books out, which we all know is just bull****, so I had to call him on it.  He got angry when I told him I wouldn‘t put up with it anymore, and that I had contacted the attorney, too.