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| sadliz |
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Posted: 1/18/2010 9:47 AM |
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Subject: Abusive Ex moved in w my neighbor |
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New WomanSaver
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I found out my STBXH was sleeping w/my neighbor and threw him out Dec. 21. I filed for divorce Jan. 4. He called at work in disbelief that I had filed. I said, "You slept with the neighbor there‘s nothing to say" and hung up. Now he‘s living at my neighbor‘s house- literally 3 apartments down from mine. I am at my wit‘s end. I cannot believe this. I have been so vigilant about no contact w/him. I have sought help through an abused women‘s group in town. He is on parole and when I called his parole officer she was absolutely no help. My counselor was shocked that the parole officer was so unconcerned. At any rate, word of wisdom or advice as to how to get through these next 3 months until my lease is up. I‘m really having a hard time with this. Thanks!
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Posted: 1/18/2010 2:26 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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If I can stay two more weeks with my ex, you can make it three doors down. I wish mine was out of this house. Be thank ful he is gone. And in twelve weeks your have a new place without having to see him. At least he is not in your home. Be careful. Mine keys my car when he goes out to smoke . I caught him doing that, but unfortunately we are still living in the same house for the next two weeks.
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| Miss Luvly1 |
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Posted: 1/18/2010 10:58 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Dear sadliz,
I am sorry to hear about all the hurts. The good news is that the one he cheated on you with is the one who will have to deal with his abusive behavior.
He will still try to be a bully. I am willing to bet the landlord of your apartment buildingt won‘t be to keen on him living down the hall. It sounds like trouble to me!
Go to the landlord, ask him to change the locks and tell him why and what is going on. I bet he will go and tell her that either she has to move out or he has to!
I hope this works!
MissL
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Posted: 1/19/2010 7:39 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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It sounds like a horrible situation. I agree with Busty‘s advice about talking to the landlord aboutchanging the locks. Really watch your back . I am sorry you have to go through this.
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Posted: 3/1/2010 4:43 PM |
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LOL!!! Now get back in the kitchen and get me a sammich. Kthx
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Posted: 3/2/2010 2:57 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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It‘s not a sandwich you need, it‘s a banana.
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Posted: 3/2/2010 5:26 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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I found out my STBXH was sleeping w/my neighbor and threw him out Dec. 21. I filed for divorce Jan. 4. He called at work in disbelief that I had filed. I said, "You slept with the neighbor there‘s nothing to say" and hung up. Now he‘s living at my neighbor‘s house- literally 3 apartments down from mine. I am at my wit‘s end. I cannot believe this. I have been so vigilant about no contact w/him. I have sought help through an abused women‘s group in town. He is on parole and when I called his parole officer she was absolutely no help. My counselor was shocked that the parole officer was so unconcerned. At any rate, word of wisdom or advice as to how to get through these next 3 months until my lease is up. I‘m really having a hard time with this. Thanks!
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He sounds like a nasty piece of work. You can still hve no contact, just ignore him, go about your business...if he is threatening or verbally abusive even once, get a protection order.
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Posted: 3/2/2010 10:25 AM |
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| sadliz wrote: | | I found out my STBXH was sleeping w/my neighbor and threw him out Dec. 21. I filed for divorce Jan. 4. He called at work in disbelief that I had filed. I said, "You slept with the neighbor there‘s nothing to say" and hung up. Now he‘s living at my neighbor‘s house- literally 3 apartments down from mine. I am at my wit‘s end. I cannot believe this. I have been so vigilant about no contact w/him. I have sought help through an abused women‘s group in town. He is on parole and when I called his parole officer she was absolutely no help. My counselor was shocked that the parole officer was so unconcerned. At any rate, word of wisdom or advice as to how to get through these next 3 months until my lease is up. I‘m really having a hard time with this. Thanks! |
Keep yourself busy.
Things you can do to occupy your time:
Go to a movie~.
Go out with friends~.
Go window shopping at the mall or hit up flea markets and yard sales.~
Go for a walk anywhere but around the apartment complex~
Take out a gym membership and go to the gym everyday (that will also be good for your health, even if you are in great shape)~
Volunteer at a hospital and help ppl.~
Volunteer at a shelter and help ppl~
Rearrange everything and go through old boxes of junk. Donate unwanted items~
See if your church needs help with anything~
See if your family needs help with anything~
Go fishing. If you dont fish, teach yourself to fish. If you don‘t have a place to fish, go sit out at a park in the early morning and just enjoy nature. ~
Take up Yoga~
Hit up a library and wipe them out of books by your favorite author and read~
Work on a full makeover~
Sign up for a martial arts class. You don‘t have to start young. I took Aikido for 3 years and I started at 21. There was a 58 year old man that was also a new student when I went. It‘s a form of martial arts that uses a persons own force against them. Check the area and see which dojos take adults.~
ANYTHING to get you away from seeing him or her. Out of sight, out of mind (well not always but it would help)
I agree with the others on going to the landlord. If he isn‘t on her lease she might have a thing or two to say to them and they might even get fined.
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