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| faetsa |
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Posted: 5/5/2010 4:28 PM |
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Subject: How to approach a certain girl |
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There‘s a girl I really like but I‘m not sure how to
approach her. The thing is she works in a bank and there are 5 tellers in the
department she works in so I‘m worried that she might be negative if I speak to
her as her colleagues are right next to her. The thing is I don‘t even have an
account with that bank, I don‘t know the girl at all. I‘m not scared of talking
to her, it‘s just that I‘m not sure how to approach her and besides how would
we have a private conversation in a bank? I don‘t know where else I could
possibly see her. I‘d appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance.
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Posted: 5/5/2010 5:19 PM |
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| faetsa wrote: | |
There‘s a girl I really like but I‘m not sure how to approach her. The thing is she works in a bank and there are 5 tellers in the department she works in so I‘m worried that she might be negative if I speak to her as her colleagues are right next to her. The thing is I don‘t even have an account with that bank, I don‘t know the girl at all. I‘m not scared of talking to her, it‘s just that I‘m not sure how to approach her and besides how would we have a private conversation in a bank? I don‘t know where else I could possibly see her. I‘d appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance. |
If you like her, then you ask her out...if she likes you she‘ll say yes, if she says no then she‘s not interested, whether her colleagues are there or not. If she says no, then leave it be. If the bank is the only place you see her, then the bank is where you ask her out. Don‘t wait for her after work or try to find out where she lives...that‘s called stalking and is illegal.
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Posted: 5/6/2010 3:07 AM |
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| bubblecropper wrote: |
| faetsa wrote: | | There‘s a girl I really like but I‘m not sure how to approach her. The thing is she works in a bank and there are 5 tellers in the department she works in so I‘m worried that she might be negative if I speak to her as her colleagues are right next to her. The thing is I don‘t even have an account with that bank, I don‘t know the girl at all. I‘m not scared of talking to her, it‘s just that I‘m not sure how to approach her and besides how would we have a private conversation in a bank? I don‘t know where else I could possibly see her. I‘d appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance. |
If you like her, then you ask her out...if she likes you she‘ll say yes, if she says no then she‘s not interested, whether her colleagues are there or not. If she says no, then leave it be. If the bank is the only place you see her, then the bank is where you ask her out. Don‘t wait for her after work or try to find out where she lives...that‘s called stalking and is illegal.
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Thank you for the advice. Maybe I didn‘t write my post clear. What I meant was that I‘m not afraid talking to her, the questions is how do I stand on the queue and out of 5 tellers I don‘t get to her when it‘s my turn? And besides I don‘t have an account with that bank lol... so what am I going to say? Thanks again, much appreciated.
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Posted: 5/6/2010 3:51 AM |
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I‘d write her a letter saying how she blew my mind away and give it to her with a smile :)
Keep it short, witty and romantic. No need to write a novel! Include your number, or your e-mail address and say how much you‘d love to hear from her!
I‘m sure you can come up with something nice! Let us know!
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Posted: 5/7/2010 5:22 AM |
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| bubblecropper wrote: | | faetsa wrote: | | There‘s a girl I really like but I‘m not sure how to approach her. The thing is she works in a bank and there are 5 tellers in the department she works in so I‘m worried that she might be negative if I speak to her as her colleagues are right next to her. The thing is I don‘t even have an account with that bank, I don‘t know the girl at all. I‘m not scared of talking to her, it‘s just that I‘m not sure how to approach her and besides how would we have a private conversation in a bank? I don‘t know where else I could possibly see her. I‘d appreciate any advice. Thanks in advance. |
If you like her, then you ask her out...if she likes you she‘ll say yes, if she says no then she‘s not interested, whether her colleagues are there or not. If she says no, then leave it be. If the bank is the only place you see her, then the bank is where you ask her out. Don‘t wait for her after work or try to find out where she lives...that‘s called stalking and is illegal. |
Thank you for the advice. Maybe I didn‘t write my post clear. What I meant was that I‘m not afraid talking to her, the questions is how do I stand on the queue and out of 5 tellers I don‘t get to her when it‘s my turn? And besides I don‘t have an account with that bank lol... so what am I going to say? Thanks again, much appreciated.
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Let the person behind you go ahead of you until you get to her hatch? And you don‘t want an account in the bank...you are going there with the sole purpose of asking her out...don‘t start up some bull**** pretense of "I want to open an account" be up front and honest...no games.
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Posted: 5/7/2010 7:33 AM |
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Well funny enough, I just went to the bank, I let 3 people in front of me and she wasn‘t available yet, there were no more people waiting on the queue so I couldn‘t stay :((( While I was waiting I spoke to people and made jokes, I smiled at her and she smiled back at me a few times so now I‘m even more hooked, if I carry on going to the bank without been able to get to her, people will think I‘m suspiciouse lol...
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Posted: 5/7/2010 2:45 PM |
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Well funny enough, I just went to the bank, I let 3 people in front of me and she wasn‘t available yet, there were no more people waiting on the queue so I couldn‘t stay :((( While I was waiting I spoke to people and made jokes, I smiled at her and she smiled back at me a few times so now I‘m even more hooked, if I carry on going to the bank without been able to get to her, people will think I‘m suspiciouse lol...
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I‘m sorry I think you are looking for someone to give you the magic answer...if the bank is the only place you see her and you REALLY want to ask her out...then the bank is where you have to ask her out. If that means risking humiliation and embaressment, well you‘ve got to weigh one against the other...how much do you want to ask her out? Are you willing to risk being humiliated and rejected? If the answer is yes...then go for it. GO ASK HER OUT. In the bank. if you couldn‘t get to her hatch today, try again tomorrow. Not sure what the problem is.
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Posted: 5/10/2010 8:12 AM |
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Open an account (sounds like you have already) and make frequent transactions so that you have an excuse to go there a lot. If you‘re a "regular" you‘ll come to know the tellers by their first names before long.
Be friendly. Make small talk. Crack little jokes, as long as the jokes are funny and not obnoxious. You know - low key flirting. If you aren‘t good with humor, then don‘t go there. You can ask questions, like about money market accounts or CDs, or long term savings plans.
I would engage like that - several times - before asking her out. See if she makes eye contact, smiles, or laughs. You‘ll know if she likes you by her response. If she banters back, you‘re on to something. Then you work on more conversation, and finding common ground.
Keep in mind that she may have a boyfriend. The smile could just mean "good customer service."
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Posted: 5/10/2010 11:45 PM |
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Just ask her out. If you get turned down, tough nuggys.
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Posted: 5/11/2010 12:47 AM |
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All is sorted, going on a date with her. Thank you for all the advice.
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Posted: 5/11/2010 2:43 AM |
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YAY!!! 
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Posted: 5/11/2010 1:34 PM |
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Good for you...you took a chance and it paid off! I hope that date is fantastic!
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