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Posted: 1/16/2010 8:58 AM |
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Subject: Ex GF coming up to visit today. No idea why |
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My ex gf is coming to visit me this weekend and I have no idea how to act or read into this. Some real quick background: we broke up in March of 2009 after a year long relationship. She did some things she regrets in May i.e. sleeping with her ex and also this guy who just used her. So June rolls around and we are both interning in DC, her for the whole summer, myself for the first 6 weeks. We are both seniors in college. It starts slow but pretty soon we are kissing all the time, she‘s sleeping over, going out to dinner together, etc. At one point about 5 weeks into it she says maybe we should consider getting back together in the fall. I tried to sound positive yet somewhat indifferent about it.
The 6 weeks of me working there ends, and I head home. A week later we are talking on the phone and she says that she thinks the past 6 weeks were kind of a mistake and all that kind of stuff. She then gets an offer later that summer to stay and work in DC instead of going back to our college, so she takes the offer. So long story short, I end up semi-dating this kind of girl I worked with in DC over the summer and I date her through the fall. Problem is, she has to leave the country because her visa is up (she is British/Australian) and has no idea if she‘ll be back or when etc. so we have since broken up. My ex finds out about this like 3-4 weeks ago and all the sudden within the past 2 weeks she is calling me after work and at night all the time, texting me a bunch, and asked if she could come visit me at home over this weekend since I‘m on college winter break. We also had a big convo a couple days ago about the girl just dated and the summer as a whole in which I felt we really didn‘t establish anything.
So now she is coming to see me on Saturday until Monday and I have no idea how to read into this or how to act around her. I feel like there is the possibility that she is just pulling the typical ex thing where they want you to be hung up on them, especially once they found out you dated someone(s) since them. But I also don‘t know if she might be genuinely interested in me? I feel like it‘s a pretty accurate assumption that this all began when she found out about my most recent girlfriend, but idk what her intentions are with all the sudden wanting to come see me.
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Posted: 1/16/2010 11:59 AM |
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She cheated on you and you give a **** if she may be genuinely interested in you because you may want to start something up again? How can you seriously believe she genuinely wants you and is sorry and would never cheat again? You can‘t trust her and she doesn‘t deserve you. Take your head out of your ass now.
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Posted: 1/16/2010 12:58 PM |
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| PACT wrote: |
My ex gf is coming to visit me this weekend and I have no idea how to act or read into this. Some real quick background: we broke up in March of 2009 after a year long relationship. She did some things she regrets in May i.e. sleeping with her ex and also this guy who just used her. So June rolls around and we are both interning in DC, her for the whole summer, myself for the first 6 weeks. We are both seniors in college. It starts slow but pretty soon we are kissing all the time, she‘s sleeping over, going out to dinner together, etc. At one point about 5 weeks into it she says maybe we should consider getting back together in the fall. I tried to sound positive yet somewhat indifferent about it.
The 6 weeks of me working there ends, and I head home. A week later we are talking on the phone and she says that she thinks the past 6 weeks were kind of a mistake and all that kind of stuff. She then gets an offer later that summer to stay and work in DC instead of going back to our college, so she takes the offer. So long story short, I end up semi-dating this kind of girl I worked with in DC over the summer and I date her through the fall. Problem is, she has to leave the country because her visa is up (she is British/Australian) and has no idea if she‘ll be back or when etc. so we have since broken up. My ex finds out about this like 3-4 weeks ago and all the sudden within the past 2 weeks she is calling me after work and at night all the time, texting me a bunch, and asked if she could come visit me at home over this weekend since I‘m on college winter break. We also had a big convo a couple days ago about the girl just dated and the summer as a whole in which I felt we really didn‘t establish anything.
So now she is coming to see me on Saturday until Monday and I have no idea how to read into this or how to act around her. I feel like there is the possibility that she is just pulling the typical ex thing where they want you to be hung up on them, especially once they found out you dated someone(s) since them. But I also don‘t know if she might be genuinely interested in me? I feel like it‘s a pretty accurate assumption that this all began when she found out about my most recent girlfriend, but idk what her intentions are with all the sudden wanting to come see me.
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Be yourself but be careful with your heart. You are vulnerable right now, and she‘s already proven herself to be 1. Manipulative 2. Untrustworthy and 3. Unreliable, so take everything she says with a pinch of salt and DO NOT sleep with her.
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Posted: 1/17/2010 10:28 AM |
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She will be genuinely interested in you from Saturday to Monday.
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Posted: 1/30/2010 10:40 AM |
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| Drew J wrote: |
| She cheated on you and you give a **** if she may be genuinely interested in you because you may want to start something up again? How can you seriously believe she genuinely wants you and is sorry and would never cheat again? You can‘t trust her and she doesn‘t deserve you. Take your head out of your ass now. |
The poster never said she cheated on him. They broke up in March ‘09, she slept with an ex in May and someone else who used her, which she regrets. Then they started spending time together again which she thought was also a mistake. She may be giving PACT the runaround but she didn‘t cheat if they were already BROKEN up.
Drew, perhaps you are the one that needs to take the head out of YOUR ass by actually reading the original post!
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| Drew J |
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Posted: 2/2/2010 1:35 AM |
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Yeah it looks like I got the months mixed up while typing; nevertheless having by and large correctly assessed that she is trouble. Especially as other female posters admit that she is sketchy. So I guess I‘m only batting 900 instead of 1000. No big deal.
I can‘t help but wonder if she screwed any ex‘s behind his back while they were a couple - her and the original poster. The fact that she went back to the ex, and then did a guy who used her, means that she will likely stray if the original poster takes her back. Because either she‘s real dumb and likes being abused, or they were both pretty damn good lays she‘ll never forget and never stop craving. If he takes her back, this is definetly what he has to look forward to.
http://www.womansavers.com/forum-for-women/mens-area/76/23245.html
What intrigues me is he never really tells why they broke up? Wonder what he is hiding? Did she cheat on him and he knows it but won‘t say it because he doesn‘t want to be told the truth that it would be best to avoid her? Because he‘s a brainwashed niceguy who think all women are all sugar and spice and that all cheating, no matter by whom, is always the man‘s responsibility?
Who says women hate jerks? This proposition would be more credible if more women stopped spreading for them. Pure and simple.
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Posted: 2/2/2010 9:19 AM |
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To the original poster:
I would say that if a relationship didn‘t work out the first time, it probably won‘t work out the second time. I would ask why she broke up with you before, and what has changed since the last time. There is usually a reason for why an "ex" is an "ex."
I think she sees that you could actually be interested in someone else and she is now worried that you‘re getting away. You are no longer pining away for her. The challenge is now to get you back - all for her ego - so that she knows she still "has it." In her eyes, it is all about her, not about you. I wouldn‘t trust that she wouldn‘t do it to you again.
I wouldn‘t set myself up for any more disappointment from this girl. You could end up being someone she just passes the time with until someone better comes along. You deserve more.
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