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Posted: 3/2/2010 5:23 PM |
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You also would have saved 5 seconds of your life, if you didn‘t replied that post.
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Oh its no problem...my pleasure!
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| Drew J |
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Posted: 3/2/2010 11:24 PM |
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dg....thank you for your invitation to join the "discussion" and learn more about how men think. i know how men think thank you very much. 
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Thinking with their privates. Kinda like the ladies.
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Posted: 3/6/2010 3:52 PM |
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A man who:
Is honest
Knows his own mind when it comes to good morals and does not need to be "lead" by anyone
sticks to his beliefs
can admit when he is wrong
is strong enough to withstand temptation
tries to make things work in a difficult relationship
can compromise
will carry his part of the relationship and make sure his mate carries hers as well (shows strength of character)
is strong enough to walk away if his mate doesn‘t carry her part of the relationship to avoid being used.
has compassion for his mate and other human beings in general
knows how to show love to his mate and never lets her feel neglected
knows the meaning and honors his vows if he marries
knows how to manage his anger can have an adult conversation instead of a shouting match
is a good father, even if that means leaving the relationship to avoid his children growing up in a hostile environment. That goes with paying his child support or using the money he gets for child support (if he has custody) for what it is meant for.
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~I would say funny, intelligent, and takes care of his health, but really we are talking about what we consider to be a "good guy" and although those traits are nice, they don‘t necessarily make a guy good or bad. A man doesn‘t have to be book smart to have been brought up to be what I stated above.
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Posted: 3/7/2010 8:52 AM |
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| moogleangelgirl wrote: | A man who:
Is honest
Knows his own mind when it comes to good morals and does not need to be "lead" by anyone
sticks to his beliefs
can admit when he is wrong
is strong enough to withstand temptation
tries to make things work in a difficult relationship
can compromise
will carry his part of the relationship and make sure his mate carries hers as well (shows strength of character)
is strong enough to walk away if his mate doesn‘t carry her part of the relationship to avoid being used.
has compassion for his mate and other human beings in general
knows how to show love to his mate and never lets her feel neglected
knows the meaning and honors his vows if he marries
knows how to manage his anger can have an adult conversation instead of a shouting match
is a good father, even if that means leaving the relationship to avoid his children growing up in a hostile environment. That goes with paying his child support or using the money he gets for child support (if he has custody) for what it is meant for.
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~I would say funny, intelligent, and takes care of his health, but really we are talking about what we consider to be a "good guy" and although those traits are nice, they don‘t necessarily make a guy good or bad. A man doesn‘t have to be book smart to have been brought up to be what I stated above.
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Most excellent! 
You nearly have my exact list! :)
Im waiting to see if anyone has the same as mine. Personally,I dont think the guy Im looking for exists! LOL J/K
There‘s this one guy..........
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Posted: 3/7/2010 9:37 AM |
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| ToucheBaby wrote: |
| moogleangelgirl wrote: | A man who:
Is honest
Knows his own mind when it comes to good morals and does not need to be "lead" by anyone
sticks to his beliefs
can admit when he is wrong
is strong enough to withstand temptation
tries to make things work in a difficult relationship
can compromise
will carry his part of the relationship and make sure his mate carries hers as well (shows strength of character)
is strong enough to walk away if his mate doesn‘t carry her part of the relationship to avoid being used.
has compassion for his mate and other human beings in general
knows how to show love to his mate and never lets her feel neglected
knows the meaning and honors his vows if he marries
knows how to manage his anger can have an adult conversation instead of a shouting match
is a good father, even if that means leaving the relationship to avoid his children growing up in a hostile environment. That goes with paying his child support or using the money he gets for child support (if he has custody) for what it is meant for.
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~I would say funny, intelligent, and takes care of his health, but really we are talking about what we consider to be a "good guy" and although those traits are nice, they don‘t necessarily make a guy good or bad. A man doesn‘t have to be book smart to have been brought up to be what I stated above.
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Most excellent! You nearly have my exact list! :) Im waiting to see if anyone has the same as mine. Personally,I dont think the guy Im looking for exists! LOL J/K There‘s this one guy..........
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lol :) I envy and celebrate the woman that finds her exact idea of a good guy!
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Posted: 3/8/2010 8:20 AM |
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| ToucheBaby wrote: |
There‘s this one guy.......... |
There‘s this guy? Oh really? And we know nothing about him?
SPILL WOMAN! DETAILS! 
I really am curious as to what your answer will be concerning what a good guy is to you.
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Posted: 3/8/2010 4:26 PM |
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| shelbelle wrote: | dg....thank you for your invitation to join the "discussion" and learn more about how men think.
i know how men think thank you very much.
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no offense shell, but I‘d say you been picking the brains of the wrong men.
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Posted: 3/8/2010 9:22 PM |
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| ToucheBaby wrote: |
There‘s this one guy.......... |
There‘s this guy? Oh really? And we know nothing about him?
SPILL WOMAN! DETAILS!
I really am curious as to what your answer will be concerning what a good guy is to you.
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Nope. Better yet. Oh Hell no! LOL Not giving any details on anyone I might be interested it. Its a private matter. The only thing Ill say about this guy is hes as full sh!t as I am. So it makes matters complicated. lol Entering any relationship still sounds like the plague to me. Personally,I dont think thats a good thing to have in common. Sadly,thats a large part of the attraction. We throughly enjoy our freedom. Even for the sake of being alone. We‘re friends. We respect each other. Thats it. Why mess that up trying to have a relationship neither of us are prepared for nor really want at this time? I cant help it if hes adorable! How does anyone stop flirting with someone so fun? I just happen to be better equipped at saying no...than he or any man is! LOL
It will or it wont. Im in no hurry. :)
Ill define what I believe is a decent man at a later time. Eventually somebody will show up thinking on the same lines as me. Ill wait. :)
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Posted: 3/8/2010 9:26 PM |
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I will say my list is amazingly short. :)
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Posted: 3/9/2010 7:06 AM |
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| shally wrote: | | ToucheBaby wrote: |
There‘s this one guy.......... |
There‘s this guy? Oh really? And we know nothing about him?
SPILL WOMAN! DETAILS!
I really am curious as to what your answer will be concerning what a good guy is to you.
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Nope. Better yet. Oh Hell no! LOL Not giving any details on anyone I might be interested it. Its a private matter. The only thing Ill say about this guy is hes as full sh!t as I am. So it makes matters complicated. lol Entering any relationship still sounds like the plague to me. Personally,I dont think thats a good thing to have in common. Sadly,thats a large part of the attraction. We throughly enjoy our freedom. Even for the sake of being alone. We‘re friends. We respect each other. Thats it. Why mess that up trying to have a relationship neither of us are prepared for nor really want at this time? I cant help it if hes adorable! How does anyone stop flirting with someone so fun? I just happen to be better equipped at saying no...than he or any man is! LOL It will or it wont. Im in no hurry. :) Ill define what I believe is a decent man at a later time. Eventually somebody will show up thinking on the same lines as me. Ill wait. :)
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I understand.
As long as you‘re happy and having fun, that‘s all that matters.
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Posted: 3/9/2010 9:59 AM |
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| shally wrote: |
| ToucheBaby wrote: |
| shally wrote: |
| ToucheBaby wrote: |
There‘s this one guy.......... |
There‘s this guy? Oh really? And we know nothing about him?
SPILL WOMAN! DETAILS!
I really am curious as to what your answer will be concerning what a good guy is to you.
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Nope. Better yet. Oh Hell no! LOL Not giving any details on anyone I might be interested it. Its a private matter. The only thing Ill say about this guy is hes as full sh!t as I am. So it makes matters complicated. lol Entering any relationship still sounds like the plague to me. Personally,I dont think thats a good thing to have in common. Sadly,thats a large part of the attraction. We throughly enjoy our freedom. Even for the sake of being alone. We‘re friends. We respect each other. Thats it. Why mess that up trying to have a relationship neither of us are prepared for nor really want at this time? I cant help it if hes adorable! How does anyone stop flirting with someone so fun? I just happen to be better equipped at saying no...than he or any man is! LOL
It will or it wont. Im in no hurry. :)
Ill define what I believe is a decent man at a later time. Eventually somebody will show up thinking on the same lines as me. Ill wait. :)
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I understand.
As long as you‘re happy and having fun, that‘s all that matters.
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Thanks for understanding Shally.
My theory is if you‘re not 100% up for the idea...why bother?
Ill just have fun until the mood strikes me. Did I mention devine intervention is probably what its going to take........
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Posted: 8/28/2010 1:10 PM |
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My mate will do the most horrible thing, then try to defend himself by saying "But I‘m a good guy!" He‘ll say that he goes to work, that he pays his bills, that he feeds and houses his family, that he doesn‘t break the law, etc..
Well, you know what? I‘m not giving him any congratulations. Every day, millions of people do those things. Every day, millions of people manage to keep food on the table, keep the prescription drugs in the medicine cabinet where they belong, don‘t hit the booze, get up and go to work at jobs they don‘t like, avoid going to prison, don‘t hit their kids and parners, study for school, and generally just get on with their day. Is this extraordinary behavior? No! It‘s just doing the things that you gotta do. It‘s called being an adult. No medals or awards or fanfare expected or required.
Really and truly being a "good guy" involves a whole lot more. It‘s all about going those extra steps that go beyond what is simply required. It‘s all about paying attention to the smaller, yet crucially vital, details that often go on the wayside when you‘re wrapped up in your other day to day activities. It‘s all about doing things that make you stand out as something really special and unique.
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Posted: 8/29/2010 3:43 AM |
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| philly_dragonfly wrote: | |
My mate will do the most horrible thing, then try to defend himself by saying "But I‘m a good guy!" He‘ll say that he goes to work, that he pays his bills, that he feeds and houses his family, that he doesn‘t break the law, etc.. Well, you know what? I‘m not giving him any congratulations. Every day, millions of people do those things. Every day, millions of people manage to keep food on the table, keep the prescription drugs in the medicine cabinet where they belong, don‘t hit the booze, get up and go to work at jobs they don‘t like, avoid going to prison, don‘t hit their kids and parners, study for school, and generally just get on with their day. Is this extraordinary behavior? No! It‘s just doing the things that you gotta do. It‘s called being an adult. No medals or awards or fanfare expected or required. Really and truly being a "good guy" involves a whole lot more. It‘s all about going those extra steps that go beyond what is simply required. It‘s all about paying attention to the smaller, yet crucially vital, details that often go on the wayside when you‘re wrapped up in your other day to day activities. It‘s all about doing things that make you stand out as something really special and unique.
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+1
Too true!
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Posted: 8/29/2010 9:32 PM |
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Stop trying to control people. Just let people be what ever they are.
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| lovehard wrote: | Trying something brand new, I‘m thinking a bit more about "ME" these days A good guy ? That would be a guy that makes Me, HAPPY   he makes my sat am americano  does his part to make "our" home happy  he makes me laugh .gif) learns from his mistakes  a hard worker  an amazing lover  he will insist on holding the umbrella for me, enen when I say, " i can do it myself"  A good man ? A man wise enough to realize he has a "good woman". This man, will Never again engage in behavior that would risk loosing her !! |
Good guys and good girls only exist in stories where we are transported by a pumkin and wear glass slippers. Men and women are usually capable of being both at the same time. I don‘t view my frank to be a ‘good guy‘ because I know hasnt always been good to his ex‘s and he has some faults, I could wring his neck when he starts talking over me and he gets his patronising head on! Slap! But im not a good girl either in fact im a right cow sometimes. I think we compromise the bad cos the good is worth it. I think we work cos we fit well and understand each other. Maybe thats my definition of a good partner someone capable of understanding me and who I can understand fauls and all.
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| lovehard wrote: | I‘m gonna climb out on a limb here and say this, "I am a good girl, my guy is a good guy" No pumpkin, glass slipper or ferry dust needed. Just a humble heart and selfless way of thinking. I don‘t expect anyone to "put up" with my faults. Even "good" people make stupid choices, they have moments of weakness but are not wicked, the difference is those who learn from hurtful decissions they made and those who say rude crap like "this is just who I am ,deal with it"!!!!  deal with that !!!! |
Totally confused now, how can you not believe in miracles but then believe in wholly good men and good women? Prince and princess charming who tick every box on the good list don‘t exist because people cant be wholly good, its impossible to be wholly good.... And if they did exist, then wouldnt that be a miracle!
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I‘m gonna climb out on a limb here and say this,
"I am a good girl, my guy is a good guy" No pumpkin, glass slipper or ferry dust needed. Just a humble heart and selfless way of thinking.
I don‘t expect anyone to "put up" with my faults.
Even "good" people make stupid choices, they have moments of weakness but are not wicked, the difference is those who learn from hurtful decissions they made and those who say rude crap like "this is just who I am ,deal with it"!!!!
deal with that !!!! |
Totally confused now, how can you not believe in miracles but then believe in wholly good men and good women? Prince and princess charming who tick every box on the good list don‘t exist because people cant be wholly good, its impossible to be wholly good.... And if they did exist, then wouldnt that be a miracle! |
no human is "good" in a whole and complete way. A human can be basicly "good" but have made poor decissions. What they do after that poor decission dictates character.
Regardless of the mistakes I have made or persons I may have unintentionally hurt, I consider myself a good person. I do my best to right my wrongs and don‘t cause pain to others intentionally. I am quite pathetic at times because I do worry if I‘ve hurt someone, I want to make it right with them. Because I am a good person
I‘m not a kiss azz or care if people like me or not, I just don‘t want to have that attitude so many have " this is who I am SO deal with it " those people I tell, go deal with yourself, I‘ve got better ways to spend my time.
Only 1 human has been perfect, without spot. We can only do our best to be good, to do good to others.
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Posted: 10/20/2010 4:47 PM |
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| menmakemesad wrote: | | For me a good guy is someone whose honesty you never have to question.
If anyone finds such a creature please send me an alert. |
Alert you? Forget it missy! There arent many of them out there.
Ill keep him for myself! LOL
There is something wildly sensual about a man who can be honest enough with himself to be honest enough with you.
I guess I love them best at their most vunerable moments......hehe
Trust is the new sexy for me........
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