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Posted: 11/15/2009 1:16 PM |
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Posted: 11/16/2009 11:46 AM |
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a cocky, player of a guy that thinks his s##t doesn‘t stink.
Someone whose only value is looks and treats women a certain way because......he can.
a guy that thinks he is god‘s gift to women, and that knows women think this as well.
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Posted: 11/16/2009 3:12 PM |
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A guy that thinks a woman is lucky to be with him, one that would rather solve problems with his fist then his brain.
One that doesn‘t see that he has any faults but will be very fast to point our yours.
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Posted: 11/16/2009 8:15 PM |
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Someone who has a parole officer.
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Posted: 11/17/2009 6:21 AM |
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A guy who doesn‘t give a damn.
He is not necessarily handsome, successfull, rich, tall, smart or anything bad or good.
It‘s the guy who comes out of jail, with no job or perspective, and in less than a week is walking with a tall blonde.
It‘s the guy who knocks up the girl, won‘t pay child support, and won‘t be even asked too.
It‘s the guy who drinks, beats up his wife, and she still won‘t leave him. Or denounce him.
It‘s the guy who cheats over and over, but the wife/girlfriend prefers to pretend she doesn‘t see it.
It‘s the guy who will sleep with married women, whose husband stays until late in the office, to support her and their(alegedly) children.
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Posted: 11/17/2009 7:10 AM |
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| Africanguy wrote: | A guy who doesn‘t give a damn.
He is not necessarily handsome, successfull, rich, tall, smart or anything bad or good.
It‘s the guy who comes out of jail, with no job or perspective, and in less than a week is walking with a tall blonde.
It‘s the guy who knocks up the girl, won‘t pay child support, and won‘t be even asked too.
It‘s the guy who drinks, beats up his wife, and she still won‘t leave him. Or denounce him.
It‘s the guy who cheats over and over, but the wife/girlfriend prefers to pretend she doesn‘t see it.
It‘s the guy who will sleep with married women, whose husband stays until late in the office, to support her and their(alegedly) children.
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Isn‘t this MrUnpopularTruth??
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Posted: 3/2/2010 5:47 PM |
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Isn‘t this MrUnpopularTruth??
No, I am very popular. The truth isn‘t though.
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Posted: 3/2/2010 6:47 PM |
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| Africanguy wrote: | |
A guy who doesn‘t give a damn. He is not necessarily handsome, successfull, rich, tall, smart or anything bad or good. It‘s the guy who comes out of jail, with no job or perspective, and in less than a week is walking with a tall blonde. It‘s the guy who knocks up the girl, won‘t pay child support, and won‘t be even asked too. It‘s the guy who drinks, beats up his wife, and she still won‘t leave him. Or denounce him. It‘s the guy who cheats over and over, but the wife/girlfriend prefers to pretend she doesn‘t see it. It‘s the guy who will sleep with married women, whose husband stays until late in the office, to support her and their(alegedly) children.
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You just described (in my opinion) the classic loser that gets away with everything. I agree with you. You have a way with words! They are like children that get away with everything because the parents let them.
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Posted: 10/25/2010 4:02 PM |
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| Africanguy wrote: |
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A guy who doesn‘t give a damn.
He is not necessarily handsome, successfull, rich, tall, smart or anything bad or good.
It‘s the guy who comes out of jail, with no job or perspective, and in less than a week is walking with a tall blonde.
It‘s the guy who knocks up the girl, won‘t pay child support, and won‘t be even asked too.
It‘s the guy who drinks, beats up his wife, and she still won‘t leave him. Or denounce him.
It‘s the guy who cheats over and over, but the wife/girlfriend prefers to pretend she doesn‘t see it.
It‘s the guy who will sleep with married women, whose husband stays until late in the office, to support her and their(alegedly) children.
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You just described (in my opinion) the classic loser that gets away with everything. I agree with you. You have a way with words! They are like children that get away with everything because the parents let them. |
please forgive me, but given the above posts, I find I must ask the question that has gone unasked:
Why is it this "Badboy" is soooo popular with women who seem smart, articulate, and should know better?! I know you gals always hear it from us guys, but you have to admit, there is a certain something about the "Badboy" who attracts you to him like mosquitos to a zapper light (with often the same result!).
I find it curious that a man and woman get together, the man marries her, hoping she will never change, and the woman marries him hoping he will change, and neither one of them get what they want! He never changes, and she changes alot!
(excuse the above rant...somewhat bitter here)
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Posted: 10/26/2010 4:00 AM |
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Because women tend to be "mothers" and "fixers" and "protectors". Women are attracted to rotten apples because they think that they‘ll be the exception, they‘ll excel where others have failed, they‘ll be the ones who stick by their man and prove to the world that they made it work. They like the bad boys because sometimes us women have the infuriating tendency of trying to "tame" them.
They also support losers because they feel sorry for them and are compassionate enough to give a damn, while all the while being played.
By the time they realise this ain‘t gonna work (you can‘t fix stupid), they‘re hooked, and by that time you have emotional and/or financial dependence going on, which makes it harder to leave.
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Posted: 10/26/2010 5:37 AM |
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| Kahlan wrote: | Because women tend to be "mothers" and "fixers" and "protectors". Women are attracted to rotten apples because they think that they‘ll be the exception, they‘ll excel where others have failed, they‘ll be the ones who stick by their man and prove to the world that they made it work. They like the bad boys because sometimes us women have the infuriating tendency of trying to "tame" them.
They also support losers because they feel sorry for them and are compassionate enough to give a damn, while all the while being played.
By the time they realise this ain‘t gonna work (you can‘t fix stupid), they‘re hooked, and by that time you have emotional and/or financial dependence going on, which makes it harder to leave.
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Thanks for the constructive answer, Kahlan! I do find it odd though, that the compassionate women never feel bad enough for the infamous "nice guy" to try to mother, protect, and fix him.
I know with men, we are all too often attracted to whats on the outside rather than whats on the inside. Men are more visual than women. Physical attraction is certainly part of the equation, maybe slightly moreso with men than women. I have to say though, one of the things (I think), which attracts women to the "bad boy" is that interesting, and never boring "walk on the wild side" that only the bad boy can provide.
Yes, you women worry about the bombshell who you might catch him looking at (she‘s likely no more pretty than you, but noone is more critical of ourselves than we are), but us guys wonder about the "bad boy", who comes home drunk, stoned, jobless, you may have to bail him out of jail, but he‘s so damn EXCITING, isnt he? I know far too many good women who support these jerks, often financially, and you just want to tell them to wake up!
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Posted: 10/26/2010 7:27 AM |
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| vipermoray wrote: |
| Kahlan wrote: |
Because women tend to be "mothers" and "fixers" and "protectors". Women are attracted to rotten apples because they think that they‘ll be the exception, they‘ll excel where others have failed, they‘ll be the ones who stick by their man and prove to the world that they made it work. They like the bad boys because sometimes us women have the infuriating tendency of trying to "tame" them.
They also support losers because they feel sorry for them and are compassionate enough to give a damn, while all the while being played.
By the time they realise this ain‘t gonna work (you can‘t fix stupid), they‘re hooked, and by that time you have emotional and/or financial dependence going on, which makes it harder to leave.
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Thanks for the constructive answer, Kahlan! I do find it odd though, that the compassionate women never feel bad enough for the infamous "nice guy" to try to mother, protect, and fix him.
I know with men, we are all too often attracted to whats on the outside rather than whats on the inside. Men are more visual than women. Physical attraction is certainly part of the equation, maybe slightly moreso with men than women. I have to say though, one of the things (I think), which attracts women to the "bad boy" is that interesting, and never boring "walk on the wild side" that only the bad boy can provide.
Yes, you women worry about the bombshell who you might catch him looking at (she‘s likely no more pretty than you, but noone is more critical of ourselves than we are), but us guys wonder about the "bad boy", who comes home drunk, stoned, jobless, you may have to bail him out of jail, but he‘s so damn EXCITING, isnt he? I know far too many good women who support these jerks, often financially, and you just want to tell them to wake up! |
These are two excellent post, I agree with both.
Honestly I was married to the BAD Boy, I honestly figured that he would grow out of it. NOT!!!
I am now with a nice guy, and I would never ever try to change him, I love him just the way he is. The bad boy is only exciting for a little while, then you realize he is wreakless and not responsible for nothing!
I still stayed for over 20 years.
I would never go back to that life again.
I didn‘t feel that I deserved a nice guy, while in chat one night here, I talked to Chaos (an old member) for hours, he told me that I did deserve a nice guy and I should take my now boyfriend up on the offer for a date. He gave me the courage to do it and I will always love chaos for that.
I am happier then I have ever been in my life!!
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Posted: 10/26/2010 11:08 AM |
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| Sunny fl wrote: |
| vipermoray wrote: |
| Kahlan wrote: |
Because women tend to be "mothers" and "fixers" and "protectors". Women are attracted to rotten apples because they think that they‘ll be the exception, they‘ll excel where others have failed, they‘ll be the ones who stick by their man and prove to the world that they made it work. They like the bad boys because sometimes us women have the infuriating tendency of trying to "tame" them.
They also support losers because they feel sorry for them and are compassionate enough to give a damn, while all the while being played.
By the time they realise this ain‘t gonna work (you can‘t fix stupid), they‘re hooked, and by that time you have emotional and/or financial dependence going on, which makes it harder to leave.
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Thanks for the constructive answer, Kahlan! I do find it odd though, that the compassionate women never feel bad enough for the infamous "nice guy" to try to mother, protect, and fix him.
I know with men, we are all too often attracted to whats on the outside rather than whats on the inside. Men are more visual than women. Physical attraction is certainly part of the equation, maybe slightly moreso with men than women. I have to say though, one of the things (I think), which attracts women to the "bad boy" is that interesting, and never boring "walk on the wild side" that only the bad boy can provide.
Yes, you women worry about the bombshell who you might catch him looking at (she‘s likely no more pretty than you, but noone is more critical of ourselves than we are), but us guys wonder about the "bad boy", who comes home drunk, stoned, jobless, you may have to bail him out of jail, but he‘s so damn EXCITING, isnt he? I know far too many good women who support these jerks, often financially, and you just want to tell them to wake up! |
These are two excellent post, I agree with both.
Honestly I was married to the BAD Boy, I honestly figured that he would grow out of it. NOT!!!
I am now with a nice guy, and I would never ever try to change him, I love him just the way he is. The bad boy is only exciting for a little while, then you realize he is wreakless and not responsible for nothing!
I still stayed for over 20 years.
I would never go back to that life again.
I didn‘t feel that I deserved a nice guy, while in chat one night here, I talked to Chaos (an old member) for hours, he told me that I did deserve a nice guy and I should take my now boyfriend up on the offer for a date. He gave me the courage to do it and I will always love chaos for that.
I am happier then I have ever been in my life!! |
wow! See? the Nice guy CAN work! But boy, still chaps my a$$ when I see a girl support one of these losers......grrr 
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Posted: 10/26/2010 3:00 PM |
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Of course he can! But sometimes, as in my case, a woman has to go through the jerk to appreciate the nice guy.
Nice guys have qualities that would seem pretty normal and mundane if your eyes haven‘t been opened to them.
Once, I told Bear "Where the hell were you eight years ago?" and he said "Well, thank god we didn‘t meet each other then, because that would mean we wouldn‘t meet each other now".
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| Kahlan wrote: |
Of course he can! But sometimes, as in my case, a woman has to go through the jerk to appreciate the nice guy.
Nice guys have qualities that would seem pretty normal and mundane if your eyes haven‘t been opened to them.
Once, I told Bear "Where the hell were you eight years ago?" and he said "Well, thank god we didn‘t meet each other then, because that would mean we wouldn‘t meet each other now".
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Oh I totally agree, CB and I dated in highschool, he moved our senior year (military family) over 20 years later he moved back here and called and asked me out. It hasn‘t been easy we both went thru hell with our ex, but we both agree that we wouldn‘t appreciate what we have now if it wasn‘t for the hell that we went thru with our ex‘s.
I don‘t think that I would have appreciated a nice guy if I hadn‘t been with the bad boy. Now I treasure my nice guy. He is amazing and I have to admitt it is a total turn on being with a responsible man!!!
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Posted: 1/8/2012 3:17 PM |
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lol. i havent been here in 2 years, and this topic still here.
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Posted: 1/10/2012 4:56 PM |
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| Africanguy wrote: | |
lol. i havent been here in 2 years, and this topic still here.
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Probably close to every topic posted is still here. There are topics alot older than this one.
You are the only one that resurrected it. And now me
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