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Ladies, tell me if I was some sort of azzhole for my take on a matter. I don‘t think I was, but what if a guy broke up with you for the following reason. Quite a few months ago I ended a relationship with a woman because of something she said to her friends with me at a party(more like a get together, not a party in the typical sense) We were standing there and one of her friends said to her, something along the lines of, "so, looks like you found yourself a keeper...not the typical guy you are use to being with"....I thought nothing of that comment ....until she said: "well you know, the bad boys were fun in their days, but I like them well adjusted and stable now"......to which I immediately replied, in front of her friends, "uh....what?" You could see the look on her friends‘ faces when they realized, I think, she screwed up with that comment. I said, "glad to see I‘m being settled for" She immediately tried to play it off as that isn‘t how she meant it. So I forgot about the comment for the evening...but later on as we were on our way back to my place, we discussed the comment. I told her I was insulted by that comment....meaning she liked the thrill of the "bad boys", but I was simply a well adjusted guy that wouldn‘t treat her the way they did....therefore I felt I was being settled for. Well, the relationship didn‘t end that night...but it slowly fizzled out of my own desire because I wasn‘t going to be someone that was used to bad boys, and then decided they simply didn‘t want to be treated bad anymore. My feeling is she probably still wanted the fun and had fond memories of the jerks that she was with in the past.....and what is my comparison(even though I can tear it up in the bedroom with the best of them)?? that I‘m a "stable and nice guy". So the relationship took a turn for the worse after that night and I ended up losing interest in her. And in the end she asked what she did wrong and I simply told her that I wasn‘t her type and that I felt she was only with me because I treated her well, when she really had a thing for other types of guys. don‘t get me wrong, I am in better shape than I was in my 20‘s, I feel I am attractive....I just don‘t go around thinking my sh#t don‘t stink and am all cocky, which too many times is mistaken for "confidence". So do you think I had a right to be put off by what she said in front of her friends?
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