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Posted: 8/29/2009 7:16 AM |
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Subject: Is it possible? |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| Floydphur wrote: | I‘m 28 (29 soon), and very very extremely shy. I never really had many friends, and I‘ve never dated at all (despite my attempts). I‘ve never been with anyone, and have worsening issues trying to find someone like me to learn and experience with. At my age, I feel like I‘m losing out on big parts of my life, and in a hurry, and I feel a great desire to be close to someone. I have always had trust issues, and am extremely uncomfortable with the idea of physical intimacy. But the older I get, the slimmer my chances are getting of finding someone like me in my situation. I want someone special, who wants to share all of their firsts with someone special too, someone my age who feels like I do about love and caring. I would love to experience the wonders of love and share everything that comes with it. To be kissed, to be held, to be loved, to share the most inner feelings of my heart. But I feel like I am losing ground fast, and I am continually feeling more and more helpless. I don‘t have anything to offer a woman my age, and don‘t even see much of a point in trying anymore. I‘m catching up to 30 fast, but I feel like a 10 year-old inside, lost and confused, and I have noone to turn or talk to.
What can I possibly do to save myself before I am lost forever?
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Hi, Floyd. You can start by letting go of your fears that you‘re not going to find anyone. Thoughts have a funny way of becoming reality. Deal with and let go of whatever has happened in your past that has caused you to have trust issues. Talk positive to yourself at all times. Sounds cliche, but join a group and/or sign up for a class that interests you. It‘s a nice way to meet people.
Your sentence structure is excellent. You write intelligently, so that means you are intelligent. You want a relationship. Right there are two things you have to offer the right woman. Stop saying you have nothing to offer.
And PLEASE, if only for me, PLEASE stop talking as if 30 is over the hill....‘cause if that‘s the case, I‘ve been toe-tagged and don‘t even know it!
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Posted: 8/29/2009 8:06 AM |
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| learning wrote: |
| Floydphur wrote: | I‘m 28 (29 soon), and very very extremely shy. I never really had many friends, and I‘ve never dated at all (despite my attempts). I‘ve never been with anyone, and have worsening issues trying to find someone like me to learn and experience with. At my age, I feel like I‘m losing out on big parts of my life, and in a hurry, and I feel a great desire to be close to someone. I have always had trust issues, and am extremely uncomfortable with the idea of physical intimacy. But the older I get, the slimmer my chances are getting of finding someone like me in my situation. I want someone special, who wants to share all of their firsts with someone special too, someone my age who feels like I do about love and caring. I would love to experience the wonders of love and share everything that comes with it. To be kissed, to be held, to be loved, to share the most inner feelings of my heart. But I feel like I am losing ground fast, and I am continually feeling more and more helpless. I don‘t have anything to offer a woman my age, and don‘t even see much of a point in trying anymore. I‘m catching up to 30 fast, but I feel like a 10 year-old inside, lost and confused, and I have noone to turn or talk to.
What can I possibly do to save myself before I am lost forever?
Lost and Alone
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Hi, Floyd. You can start by letting go of your fears that you‘re not going to find anyone. Thoughts have a funny way of becoming reality. Deal with and let go of whatever has happened in your past that has caused you to have trust issues. Talk positive to yourself at all times. Sounds cliche, but join a group and/or sign up for a class that interests you. It‘s a nice way to meet people. Your sentence structure is excellent. You write intelligently, so that means you are intelligent. You want a relationship. Right there are two things you have to offer the right woman. Stop saying you have nothing to offer.
And PLEASE, if only for me, PLEASE stop talking as if 30 is over the hill....‘cause if that‘s the case, I‘ve been toe-tagged and don‘t even know it!
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See, this is exactly why i don‘t make posts. no one understands, or even cares for that matter. first of all, of course i fear being alone, who doesn‘t? Ive been alone my whole life, and i really don‘t want to continue. Have you ever been totally alone for 30 years? No, so don‘t think you understand. And as far as meeting people, i work full time, and go to school full time, i meet new people everyday. Next, the 30 thing, sorry, but id like to have kids at some point, but also have them out of the house by the time i retire at 50 or so, which means i better have‘m before 30, so time isn‘t exactly on my side either. On the subject of trust, i have never met a woman in my life that was deserving of trust on any level. No offense, but females (especially near my age) are nasty lil whores who care about nothing but getting some, no matter what it takes or where it comes from. Frankly it makes me sick. I wouldn‘t touch a woman today with a ten-foot pole while wearing a hazmat suit. And no, sorry, i don‘t have anything to offer a woman. I moved back in with my mom at home, and i‘m still in school. I don‘t own a car, or anything really, and i have no money. i‘m highly unattractive, and have no interest in intimacy. Besides what woman would want a 30 year old virgin anyway?
Sorry, but the entire reply post is cliche as hell, ive heard it from everyone. Sorry i interrupted your forum with my bull**** posts.
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Posted: 8/30/2009 9:47 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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I think just by you truley believing you have nothing to offer might be one of the things holding you back. everyone has something to offer...if it‘s the right person to recieve it.
What I think you have to offer if nothing else is time, willingness, and companionship...and it sounds like you are also wanting commitment...trust me that‘s alot more than alot of men out there have going for them!!!
You just need to find someone like minded to spend some time with and get to know...
What outlets do you have to meet people? Maybe we can talk about options? I think that may be the first step..
I know you are worried wether or not to trust women or if you are comfortable with intimacy...BUT trust me on this one...if you meet someone you really like...the worries will go out the window...
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Posted: 8/30/2009 5:19 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Yes, we understand. That‘s why people talk here.
You love and anticipate intimacy in your first post, and wish to meet a woman. You hate women and have no interest in intimacy in your second. You went from victim to antagonist so abruptly, I‘m sure some members here have already deduced some peculiar information about you.
The posts seem cliche‘ because it is common sense, and only a person without common sense would be inclined to disagree with them.
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Posted: 8/31/2009 5:40 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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The help you need Floyd, old boy, is not here.
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Posted: 9/1/2009 11:07 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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I agree with the last two posters Wire and Busty...
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