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I am happily married since 2006. Very much in love, we do a lot of things together as a team, we plan to have babies soon, ......

Before meeting her I had a lot of girlfriends and I was used to treat them badly, seducing and leving them. But with my wife everything is different. She is really THE ONE.

Some times I travel for work and when I am somewhere alone I look for other women. Just to re-feel like the old times. A couple of times I also got two "one night stands". They were just sex and they did not mean anything to me. They were great, but the day after I totally forgot.

In both cases I came back, met my wife and everything was fine inside me. I was not even thinking about the sex I had had. No regrets, nothing.

I love her a lot and nothing has changed into me.

No I have a question: wat do you think about this? Is this cheating? Am I a bad husband?

I am happily married since 2006. Very much in love, we do a lot of things together as a team, we plan to have babies soon, ......

Before meeting her I had a lot of girlfriends and I was used to treat them badly, seducing and leving them. But with my wife everything is different. She is really THE ONE.

Some times I travel for work and when I am somewhere alone I look for other women. Just to re-feel like the old times. A couple of times I also got two "one night stands". They were just sex and they did not mean anything to me. They were great, but the day after I totally forgot.

In both cases I came back, met my wife and everything was fine inside me. I was not even thinking about the sex I had had. No regrets, nothing.

I love her a lot and nothing has changed into me.

No I have a question: wat do you think about this? Is this cheating? Am I a bad husband?

I am happily married since 2006. Very much in love, we do a lot of things together as a team, we plan to have babies soon, ......

Before meeting her I had a lot of girlfriends and I was used to treat them badly, seducing and leving them. But with my wife everything is different. She is really THE ONE.

Some times I travel for work and when I am somewhere alone I look for other women. Just to re-feel like the old times. A couple of times I also got two "one night stands". They were just sex and they did not mean anything to me. They were great, but the day after I totally forgot.

In both cases I came back, met my wife and everything was fine inside me. I was not even thinking about the sex I had had. No regrets, nothing.

I love her a lot and nothing has changed into me.

No I have a question: wat do you think about this? Is this cheating? Am I a bad husband?

In both cases I came back, met my wife and everything was fine inside me. I was not even thinking about the sex I had had. No regrets, nothing

you have more problems then being a lying whore-monger.

you have a mental disorder which i beleive is a "detachement" issue.

 perhaps from childhood.

you can not attach yourself to anyone completely because of some failure in your childhood.

you want what you want, for yourself alone and it begs the question, why the **** did you even get married?

seek professional help and do not try to **** your therapist unless she gives you a discount.

Thank you all for your opinion and your suggestions,

yesterday night it was very cold and me and my dear wife stayed all night long in the bed, talking sweetly to each other, making fun of each other, laughing and petting like two babies.

It was wonderful, we talked about our future, we will always be together, have babies and be the happiest people on the face of the earth.......

You women are so angry.....why? Initially I thought you were angry at me because I treat my wife in a "different" way....but now I realize why...you are angry because you know that, even though all I said, me and my wife are happy and will be always happy. In the mean time you moralist women will be always angry, angry against something you cannot change, angry against your life that is not satisfying you.

I understand, many of you are old and ugly, most of you are fat, many of you are bulimic and all of you hate that me and my wife are happy and will have babies and a wonderful life!

I am sorry, but...."that‘s the way it is"....

Salute

Thank you all for your opinion and your suggestions,

yesterday night it was very cold and me and my dear wife stayed all night long in the bed, talking sweetly to each other, making fun of each other, laughing and petting like two babies.

It was wonderful, we talked about our future, we will always be together, have babies and be the happiest people on the face of the earth.......

You women are so angry.....why? Initially I thought you were angry at me because I treat my wife in a "different" way....but now I realize why...you are angry because you know that, even though all I said, me and my wife are happy and will be always happy. In the mean time you moralist women will be always angry, angry against something you cannot change, angry against your life that is not satisfying you.

I understand, many of you are old and ugly, most of you are fat, many of you are bulimic and all of you hate that me and my wife are happy and will have babies and a wonderful life!

I am sorry, but...."that‘s the way it is"....

Salute

Before meeting her I had a lot of girlfriends and I was used to treat them badly, seducing and leving them.

Seller62:  I obviously cannot improve on anything the ladies here have already said.  I think they have pretty much already said it all. 

I guess I would have to ask what kind of reaction you are expecting.  You come to a woman‘s website and ask what they think of your cheating?  What did you expect - approval?  And then when you are called on your ****, you call us "bitter, angry women."

You say the illicit sex "doesn‘t mean anything" and I have to laugh at how warped that is.  It is a classic cheater‘s line.  It always means something.

What doesn‘t mean anything - when you do something like that - is your credibility as a man and as a husband.  How can you have so little respect for your wife?  How can you betray her trust and her confidence in you?  How can you look her in the eye, tell her you love her, and then whore around behind her back?  Your word means nothing when you are dishonest to her, and can‘t keep your pants zipped.  Obviously, you aren‘t concerned about her well-being when you take the risk of contracting an STD.  Even condoms aren‘t foolproof.

Do her a favor.  Don‘t have kids with her.  Don‘t break her heart any more than you already have.  Quit being such a selfish bastard.