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dominica

Posted: 12/12/2008 10:14 PM

Subject: help me with my wife issues

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Hi ,I am sorry ,But I dont think there is any thing innocent about the things you are finding.I have been down that road with my husband .Here is what I learned;The person at his job was a woman he was f!@#@!@.The phone records proved it .These phone calls to her were far to frequent for it to be about work.Then there was the email....well the women he was e-mailing ,he met on line in a chat room.they also called him on his cell phone.So she is doing things that are innappropriate to say the least.You might not see it at first ,or see it that way at first but I tell you I have been there and the more I dug around the more I found keep your eyes open ,and be careful sexually.My husband denied everything,and our marriage was never the same .Eventually he began to tell the truth about things after I called some of the women that he was meeting in the chat rooms.I found out that he has a real problem.A problem that he needed professional help with.Good luck .Send me a personal message if you want to talk more.Sometimes it helps to talk to people who have experienced something similar to what you are going through.

MrTrueBlue

Posted: 12/15/2008 5:22 PM

Subject: help me with my wife issues

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jmill wrote:

can someone help me get this right in my head. i feel bad all the time. she is a vampire, she can see something is wrong all the time, i cant wait to get away from her because thats the only time i have to think. what does she think she can do this to me, and then im supposed to act like nothing is wrong. she changed everything.

any help would be great.

Only way you are going to get this right in your head is to get rid of your so-called "wife".

You‘ll always be wondering what she is up to now and that is no life.

If you see her as a "vampire", then you should get a divorce.

So divorce her and live the rest of your life in peace.

dave1971

Posted: 12/15/2008 8:17 PM

Subject: help me with my wife issues

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I‘m no expert by any means, but if you don‘t have trust what do you have? Are you just insecure or is there truth in your worries? I can see your self-esteem has taken a hit in your marrige just by what you wrote, either from the marriage troubles or something else that has happen to you. In good relationships both partners thrive and feel good about themselves. If you are serious about saving your marriage, Go to the library and get one of many books, Dr. Phil has some get books on relationship repair.

See if your wife is interested in repairing things. I think just by making the effort to get a book on relationships would impress your wife. Sadly, everthing we say and do has consequences, she may be hurting too, or has emotionally given up. Mopping around will just drain you, do something about it, EMPOWER YOURSELF WITH KNOWLEDGE, before it‘s too late. Being insecure and needy isn‘t going to help you one bit, infact it‘s takes away from your relationship.

When was the last time you got a great bottle of wine and romanced her, showed interest in her. Pick something going on in your community for the holiday and take her out. It‘ won‘t cost a lot.

Questioning her and showing her you don‘t trust her will just push her further away. Constantly talking about the problems in your marriage isn‘t the answer either, that‘s not living live together. Take control of your life, No one can make you feel better except yourself. Only by EMPOWERING yourself.

Kids, bills, past fights, old hurtful memories, saying hurtful things all build up and add up and stressout relationships/marriage.

Once I read, You can‘t change another person, only yourself. Usually the other person will react positive to your positive changes.

My advice, Marriage/family is one of the most important things in our life. Sadly many people don‘t have positive role parent models while growing up. Where do you learn how to do it? There is no perfect match. Marriage is work, if you don‘t have the right tools, you will fail.

Go to the library and get a few good books on trying to repair your marriage. (((( can you remember what you loved about her in the first place.)))) Tell her.

brandimash

Posted: 1/16/2009 11:35 PM

Subject: help me with my wife issues

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Im so sorry this has happin to you! I would love to help you with this, but to tell the truth Im in the same boat. I know that it hurts alot and there is nothing you can do to get it out of your head. Also you lose sleep just checkin the computer and her phone to catch her up in another lie. The same thing is goin on with my husband so if you happin to find out what to do about all this plz let me know. I wish you all the best and really hope you and I get the peace of mind we need!

Wishing you nothing but the best.

tula1969

Posted: 1/18/2009 10:00 AM

Subject: help me with my wife issues

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