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Oldwiz, I‘m nearly speechless.  It‘s karma for sure.  We all reap what we sow.   My ex used to always tell me that I‘d end up sad and alone, too.  NOT!  That‘s the way it‘s worked out for him so far. (snicker, snicker)

I‘m the kind of gal who takes nearly everything that happens to me in life as a "sign."  It seems to me that your ex has had many of those "signs" and has heeded none.  You‘d think that having  down time after being struck by a car, not to mention the death of a spouse,  would spur her on to re-evaluate how her life is turning out and do some serious revamping.  BUT, no.   Does she even wonder why her children don‘t want anything to do with her or does she know and doesn‘t care?

Kudos to you for taking the high road!  At least your children have one normal parent.  Keep up the good work, Mista‘ Sista‘ (haha)

I dont think she ever got over what she did to you,  so she drinks to cover the pain.  She is so unhappy with herself that she does nothing to help herself.  Its really sad  for your children. 

I hope she finds somekind of peace  so that your kids can too.

She needs to get a job and not live off her kids, what a strain that must put on their marriage.  I took care of my father in Law for years   I loved him dearly,  but it was still hard on me.

What comes around goes around!

Be happy!! oldwiz   you deserve it!!

Most unfortunately, the ex has learned little or nothing.  Perhaps the inability to do so was one of the reasons we grew apart, but by no means the only one.

There would only be lessons there for her is she was open to learning them.  however, I‘m convinced she has narcissistic personality disorder so in her mind, and learning has to be done by others because she‘s perfect just the way she is.

I have to admit, I haven‘t always taken the high road and at times, that was a problem in the marriage as well.

Interesting, but if I had been a better husband she and I would likely be on the verge of celebrating our 40th wedding anniversary.  To be perfectly honest, when put in that context, I‘m actually glad I was as flawed as I turned out to be.  If I wasn‘t and if she‘d stuck around I doubt very much that I‘d have achieved what I have and been as happy as I‘ve since been either.

Would that it were true, Sunny, but the reality is that she thinks, no, actually believesz, I was totally wrong in everything and she was totally right.  therefore, I deserved precisely what I received.

I, too, hope she one day finds happiness.  I‘ve always hoped that for her.  I certainly don‘t care for her but I have to care about her.

You‘re a very special woman to have been a caregiver for so long.  Like you said, what goes around comes around and there are good things in store for you.

Thank you,   Sometimes  I wonder  why this happened to me.  Sometimes I wish that I never would have married the idiot,  then I focus on the wonderful memories and look at my boys  and I say  it was worth the pain.  Now I just want to cause him pain !!  hahaha  

I do know that he will get his, and I just hope it isnt until my divorce is final.  He has been drinking and driving for to long now  and his day is coming.  it scarys me and my boys,  we have tried to talk to him about this, but this is his new life  these are the people that he thinks are more important then his family.   I use hope that my boys dont get hurt by his actions.

You Ex knows in her heart that she caused this,  she is just so full of hate and anger that she cant  face it.