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| petey68 |
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Posted: 4/24/2008 10:59 PM |
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Subject: Really need adive on long distance relationship ladies.... |
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I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half, she lives in South America and I live in Canada. I am 39, she is 32. I have seen here many times during that period of time. Last time I saw her was March 1 of this year. We both loved each other, I always called her 3-4 times a day, which she really liked alot. Sent her flowers, wrote her SMS‘s telling her I am thinking of her...etc...Two weeks later we are talking and she says I don‘t know if this is going to work out, I have alot of pressure here with other things. She said she needed peace in her life. Well being a dumb man, I kinda didn‘t give her much peace and pressured her to the point where she didn‘t want to hear my voice. She said some bad things like, you can‘t force anyone to be with anyone. That she doesn‘t love me anymore. After 2 weeks? She was crying and telling me how much she loved me right before I left.
I know what I did was HUGE mistake, I am fully aware. I regret bothering her but I was really overwhelmed.
Spoke to her the beginning of this week, to see how she is because I missed her dearly, she said things would have been different if I was there, I guess living there. We had discussed some plans when I was there but nothing final was really agreed upon at that time. She was pretty cold I must admit, she said she still wants me and doesn‘t mean to say bad things to me, and that she feels terrible for hurting me, I am not sure she wants me as a friend, because then she says well I can never see you as a friend because everything we have been through. She said if I come back there for work she would like to meet to talk face to face.
It‘s a 12 hour flight to go there, I am planning to go but not for work. I want to go and say I came here for you, I want to fix everything, and make a plan, either for her to come to Canada or for me to go there. I am very nervous and scared. I could be setting myself up for a bigger heartache than I have now. What do you think? If this doesn‘t prove how much she means to me, nothing will. I am not going there to force her to be with me, but I know if we see each other, there is a chance things can be fixed. Please help me. I don‘t know what else to do. I know over the phone or by email I am hopeless.
Pete
oops typo in the title...need ADVICE...heehee...oops
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Posted: 4/25/2008 5:49 AM |
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Hi Pete
I would not bother traveling such a long distance to get to the bottom of why she feels the way she does. She‘ll find it highly annoying, she‘ll treat you like dirt, and you‘ll be out of a pocket full of money.
IMO, for a gal to flip that fast, it‘s usually because she‘s met someone else and hasn‘t the balls to tell you.
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Posted: 4/25/2008 7:57 PM |
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I have to agree with ME. I think she‘s met someone else closeby & doesn‘t have the guts to tell you properly. Please don‘t waste your time, money & heart on her.
I would let this one go. Give yourself some time to heal, and then look for women in your area.
Good luck & I‘m sorry things aren‘t going the way you want. It‘s probably for the best.
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Posted: 4/25/2008 10:31 PM |
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Thank you both for your advice. Well she was online today, she said she wouldn‘t come to the airport. ok fine. A coffee she said so we could talk. Then she said call me. So I did, she said we are not together anymore so why should she come to the airport? I said because I thought perhaps you‘d want to see me when I arrive. Like a nice gesture type of thing. She said no. I said ok, then supper? She said she didn‘t want to discuss any further what happened and to let it go. So forget about my plans, she doesn‘t deserve this type of attention. She probably has someone else on her mind anyways, she could have been mature enough to tell me. At 32 I really wonder what she was thinking, when I saw her she was telling me she wanted to have a kid with me.
Later on I wrote her an email with my intentions for coming there, and how heartless and cold she was to me since she did this in March. I kinda let her have it but nothing really bad. Just a reminder of when she needed me how I flew half way across the world to support her. I really needed to vent and get everything off my chest once and for all. I ended the email with "Thank you for not for not believing in me and not giving me us another opportunity"
I felt much better after sending it, a weight of my shoulders, if she reads it or not I don‘t care. I had enough of her mind games.
Anyways one day she may realize what I was worth, but I am not going to suffer anymore because of this. I
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Posted: 4/26/2008 12:31 AM |
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| petey68 wrote: | Thank you both for your advice. Well she was online today, she said she wouldn‘t come to the airport. ok fine. A coffee she said so we could talk. Then she said call me. So I did, she said we are not together anymore so why should she come to the airport? I said because I thought perhaps you‘d want to see me when I arrive. Like a nice gesture type of thing. She said no. I said ok, then supper? She said she didn‘t want to discuss any further what happened and to let it go. So forget about my plans, she doesn‘t deserve this type of attention. She probably has someone else on her mind anyways, she could have bee mature enough to tell me. At 32 I really wonder what she was thinking, when I saw her she was telling me she wanted to have a kid with me.
Later on I wrote her an email with my intentions for coming there, and how heartless and cold she was to me since she did this in March. I kinda let her have it but nothing really bad. Just a reminder of when she needed me how I flew half way across the world to support her. I really needed to vent and get everything off my chest once and for all. I ended the email with "Thank you for not for not believing in me and not giving me us another opportunity"
I felt much better after sending it, a weight of my shoulders, if she reads it or not I don‘t care. I had enough of her mind games.
Anyways one day she may realize what I was worth, but I am not going to suffer anymore because of this. I
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I‘m sorry Pete, and I know your heart is breaking, but you just have to open your eyes and face the fact that she‘s not worthy of you.
She really isn‘t.
Time will reward you.
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Posted: 4/26/2008 12:46 AM |
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Thanks meandnotyou, that‘s very sweet of you. My heart was much worse before, I feel a bit of a sigh of relief right now. I think it was that email I wrote, did me a world of good. I let her know how I felt and everything she did to me and what hell she put me through since she broke up. No bad words, not mean either (ok maybe a teensy bit) but honest.
PS: GO HABS GO!!! hehehe
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Posted: 4/26/2008 6:20 AM |
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Pete, I have to say that my brain was screaming that this woman has a new man in her life and no matter what you do iy will not be good enough for her. Save the money that you would spend on the pane ticket and maybe take a little vacation for yourself. I am glad that you felt a little better after emailing her. Letting the person know how much they have hurt us helps.Stay strong!
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Posted: 4/26/2008 7:04 AM |
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Thank you supermom21664, I was on the verge of a nervous breakdown last month and over what? Someone who treats me like trash, and doesn‘t appreciate anything? I may not be completely over her but I am sure what I wrote her will touch a few nerves, and personally I don‘t care how she takes it.
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Posted: 4/26/2008 8:30 AM |
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| petey68 wrote: | Thanks meandnotyou, that‘s very sweet of you. My heart was much worse before, I feel a bit of a sigh of relief right now. I think it was that email I wrote, did me a world of good. I let her know how I felt and everything she did to me and what hell she put me through since she broke up. No bad words, not mean either (ok maybe a teensy bit) but honest.
PS: GO HABS GO!!! hehehe
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Let this be a lesson to you, young man. If she doesn‘t love the Habs, she ain‘t worth lovin‘!
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Posted: 4/26/2008 8:42 AM |
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Amen to that! hehehe.
Looking forward to the game later, at least that keeps me from thinking of her
GO HABS GO!!! 11 FOR 25!!!
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Posted: 4/29/2008 1:52 PM |
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| petey68 wrote: | | I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half, she lives in South America and I live in Canada. I am 39, she is 32. I have seen here many times during that period of time. Last time I saw her was March 1 of this year. We both loved each other, I always called her 3-4 times a day, which she really liked alot. Sent her flowers, wrote her SMS‘s telling her I am thinking of her...etc...Two weeks later we are talking and she says I don‘t know if this is going to work out, I have alot of pressure here with other things. She said she needed peace in her life. |
Almost sounds like the old, "i need my space" line.
Not saying this is the case with her, but have you considered when a woman says they need space, that they actually have interest in somone else and the "i need space" line is a load of bunk.
And as far as the "I need space" line, why can‘t anyone just say what they really mean? "I don‘t want to date you".
Again, not saying that is the case, but anytime I hear lines like the one she gave you, I gotta wonder what she REALLY means.
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Posted: 4/29/2008 8:06 PM |
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If 8000 kilometers isn‘t enough space, then I don‘t what is! LOL! Anyways let her do what she wants, I don‘t ever plan on contacting her again. I am sure she thinks that I will crack again and start calling or emailing her. Not a chance! When she realizes what she lost it will be way too late. Good riddance to rubbish I say, I can do MUCH better than that.
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Posted: 5/6/2008 7:00 AM |
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| petey68 wrote: | Amen to that! hehehe.
Looking forward to the game later, at least that keeps me from thinking of her
GO HABS GO!!! 11 FOR 25!!! |
Petey - WE LOST!
How could you let this happen?!
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(btw - everything here is the man‘s fault - LMAO)
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Posted: 5/7/2008 12:32 AM |
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| petey68 wrote: | Amen to that! hehehe.
Looking forward to the game later, at least that keeps me from thinking of her
GO HABS GO!!! 11 FOR 25!!! |
Petey - WE LOST! How could you let this happen?! 
(btw - everything here is the man‘s fault - LMAO)
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I know oh well, looking forward to next season! and you are RIGHT I blame Gainey and Carbo! MEN!! LMAO!!!
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Posted: 5/7/2008 10:10 AM |
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Amen to that! hehehe.
Looking forward to the game later, at least that keeps me from thinking of her
GO HABS GO!!! 11 FOR 25!!! |
Petey - WE LOST!
How could you let this happen?!
(btw - everything here is the man‘s fault - LMAO) |
I know oh well, looking forward to next season! and you are RIGHT I blame Gainey and Carbo! MEN!! LMAO!!!
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You dawg! LMAO!
When I say ‘men‘, I mean you!
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Posted: 5/7/2008 7:29 PM |
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| petey68 wrote: | | meandnotyou wrote: | | petey68 wrote: | Amen to that! hehehe.
Looking forward to the game later, at least that keeps me from thinking of her
GO HABS GO!!! 11 FOR 25!!! |
Petey - WE LOST! How could you let this happen?!
(btw - everything here is the man‘s fault - LMAO) |
I know oh well, looking forward to next season! and you are RIGHT I blame Gainey and Carbo! MEN!! LMAO!!!
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You dawg! LMAO! When I say ‘men‘, I mean you!
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and I was about to blame Carbo‘s "lucky" tie
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