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Posted: 4/4/2008 2:16 AM |
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Subject: I need some advice and help. |
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New WomanSaver
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I have a girlfriend who I love a lot..a lot. We were a great couple, an
example for our friends. That was until she went to college. God, I was
so happy. Now that I had a person who loved me, I was more of a human.
For three months, it was a wonderland. I was in such a joyful point of
my life that everything else seemed to take a backseat. We talked the
whole night. She was a great support in life. Paintings, poems flowed
in. Everthing went awesome until this - "I have had many break ups
before, one more break up with you won‘t make much difference to me" I
even today am not able to re-construct the destruction caused by this
line. The person without whom I couldn‘t survive said that. Then
dropped in on her birthday - "This is the worst birthday of my life,
all because of you" Only I can tell that those four hours we spent
together that day are one of the most memorable days of my life. Two
days later, we had our first sex. Between that line and our sex, it
were my tears, nothing else. I was lucky I had my sister with me that
time. My love didn‘t even spoke to me even on her councelling day. She
had made it to NIFT. There was a time when she refused to give the NIFT
paper without talking to me. But time waits for none. She did things
that hurted me. I couldn‘t stop her because I never actually had
courage enough to hear this again- "I can‘t be in a relationship with a
person who thinks like that." Whenever I imagined her going away, I
virtually died.
That wasn‘t all here are things that prick me every night, each night go sleepless and I just can‘t sleep, but these things:
1.) I get hurt a lot when she adds random guys on social networking
sites, then chats and then phone number exchanges. I don‘t know whether
I am right or wrong, all I know is how I feel. These guys, like, call
her with words like "doll, sweetie, babie"..also the social networking
she uses is filled with random club-donkey-feeders...and recently, she
has changed her relationship status on it to single and started adding
more guys. I do not know what to do, all I know is that it hurts me. I
have told her this 1000s of times, she just doesn‘t stop it.
2.) I have never had problems with her guy-friends. But I told her the
first day she went to college that its okay to have guy friends but it
will really hurt me if you get emotionally close to some particular
guy. I really can‘t bear that. But as usual, she got close to one guy.
Not that I suspect anything, but things like "he is like the other side
of me", "i won‘t hear a word against him", "its would have been
impossible for me to survive without him" really hurt bad.
3.) On 11th september on of her hostel mates texted me that she is
cheating on me, I didn‘t take it seriously and on 13th she sent a mail
to a guy who she used to chat before our relationship and about whom
she told me that she now have no contact with him. The mail had her
photo and subject " wid loadsssssssssssssssssssssss of luv"..
4.) We used to talk on phone late night, as the night calling was free
most of the times our phones were on call even when we were working.
And this is what I heard over just by chance, she talking to maybe one
of her hostel mates:
"So this guy called me and he made me so much excited, I told my
roommate and she called and told him...he was in such a good mood
today"
I cried so much that night, I really felt a broken heart.
5.) One of my friends who also works with networks like me showed me kinky chats of her with other guys.
I really don‘t know what to do. Maybe the problem is me myself, I only
couldn‘t keep her happy enough. But one thing is true, I really love
her like retards.
I am nearly suicidal. :(
I even sacrificed my research fellowship, my top buddies because of her
and once I asked not to talk to one of those random social network guys
and she warned me that she‘ll break it up. Don‘t my tears matter
anything to her?
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Posted: 4/4/2008 4:21 AM |
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Subject: I need some advice and help. |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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she is just not good enough for you.
a good relationship will be even better then this one.
she is young and fickle and wants, like most "girls" to just have fun.
do not contact her anymore. no calls, no email, no chats.
don‘t talk to her and don‘t see her. its her first time in college and she appears to have left you behind.
let her go.
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Posted: 4/4/2008 6:28 AM |
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She is strining you along. Dump her. If she does not care about the relationship now she never will. NO CONTACT!!!!
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Posted: 4/5/2008 8:15 AM |
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I agree with these women. Don‘t phone her or contact her anymore. See if she comes back to you. If not drop her like a bad habit.
Don‘t even think of suicide. Do you have any idea how many wonderful, good, decent. loving women are out there looking for you to bump into? Suicide is a weak persons way out. Don‘t even think about it, especially because of a girlfriend. YOur only 18 man, you have got a lifetime ahead of you. Any more thoughts like that and get to the Dr. Don‘t let all those lonely women down. It is up to you young single guys to get out there and make one of them the happiest person on earth. That is your job. Foget the college girl.
A short story for you. When you get a puppy dog and you train him to go poop, you walk him around the block, etc. If you put a leash on the puppy he pulls real hard to get awy from you. You end up pulling real hard to teach him not to pull but it does not work puppy pulls harder. You yank and hurt the puppy but the puppy gets scared and pulls some more. See the pattern.
Stop a moment. Kneel down and give puppy a hug, a treat and another hug. Tell him he is a good puppy and that you love him. Now get up and walk a little more and then stop and do it again. After awhile the puppy stays right next to your side. I walk my puppy without a leash. He stays right by my side. I wish I could have done that with my wife! LOL
Do you understand the story? Good luck!
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Posted: 4/7/2008 2:54 PM |
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Battery,
There is only one thing to say about this situation, leave this immature tart in the dust. She is nothing but trouble and is about as trustworthy as a guest on the Maury show.
Cut your losses, forget about her and move on. There are decent women out there. Unfortunately she isn‘t one of them.
And man, nobody is worth being suicidal. I know all about the feelings of despair when you face losing someone you "think" you love. But this girl is not good for you or anyone else.
The way you need to look at it is this, she is cheating, you know she is. She has all the signs and even her "hostel" mate told you. So why would you want someone so worthless?
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Posted: 5/15/2008 10:04 AM |
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your a 18 year old guy and your acting like a total puss
dude you sound completly pathetic about some girl that
doesnt give a dam about you and its obvious. find someone new and get over this trick and man up a little its not like you guys were together for a long time or married **** get over it ***** theres plenty of girls out there dont give up sorry if it sounded harsh but it was needed you cant walk around all the time acting like a wimp
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Posted: 5/15/2008 10:11 AM |
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| stacyloo wrote: | your a 18 year old guy and your acting like a total puss
dude you sound completly pathetic about some girl that
doesnt give a dam about you and its obvious. find someone new and get over this trick and man up a little its not like you guys were together for a long time or married **** get over it ***** theres plenty of girls out there dont give up sorry if it sounded harsh but it was needed you cant walk around all the time acting like a wimp |
Hey take it easy !!! We are here to help, no need to be so rude. He‘s young
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Posted: 5/15/2008 11:55 AM |
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Hmm...thanks everyone....
but the thing is.....i dont have much people in my life....i mean...you can see i was totally dependent on her for any kind of happiness....and she always knew it....and still she did all this...
only one thing disturbs me is - all her actions show that i dont have any worth for her.....but she is always showing like i am the culprit....making me feel like i did something wrong...she has no points...she just says it....which makes me clingy to her cause i will never do any wrong to her if i was the prob...
one more query from you women....if your guy gets hurt like hell if you get emotionally attached to other guy....and if he told you and you promised you wont....will you still do it? will you still want to get emotional with a guy which will mean hurting your guy?
i know the reason....most girls are wide C U N T S.....they live only to have fun...if one guy dont provide it....they get that share of fun from another one....its time when we men kick there asses....no woman is worth to be loved more than 8 hours...10 if she has freaking rears...i know there r exceptions...but thats wat i see in girls in my age group...i know its not like that later....my mom is so loyal and caring for my dad....its just this late teen girls who r whores...y the hell they commit if they cant sustain....y they say theyll never hurt wen they do it all time....why they say they will never did it...when they actually DID IT....if any girl can tell me y this late teen girls r like this...it wud be grateful...
sometimes it feels so okay to just cry for few hours a day if dat keeps her happy....but i am crying from so long...she once told me that if she makes a mistake...i shudnt leave her...cause she needs me and i shud forgive her....that one moment of promise make me stick till now...hoping one day she understands everything and become like before...
y cant girls deliver commitment?
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Posted: 5/16/2008 12:02 AM |
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Hmm...thanks everyone....
but the thing is.....i dont have much people in my life....i mean...you can see i was totally dependent on her for any kind of happiness....and she always knew it....and still she did all this...
only one thing disturbs me is - all her actions show that i dont have any worth for her.....but she is always showing like i am the culprit....making me feel like i did something wrong...she has no points...she just says it....which makes me clingy to her cause i will never do any wrong to her if i was the prob...
one more query from you women....if your guy gets hurt like hell if you get emotionally attached to other guy....and if he told you and you promised you wont....will you still do it? will you still want to get emotional with a guy which will mean hurting your guy?
i know the reason....most girls are wide C U N T S.....they live only to have fun...if one guy dont provide it....they get that share of fun from another one....its time when we men kick there asses....no woman is worth to be loved more than 8 hours...10 if she has freaking rears...i know there r exceptions...but thats wat i see in girls in my age group...i know its not like that later....my mom is so loyal and caring for my dad....its just this late teen girls who r whores...y the hell they commit if they cant sustain....y they say theyll never hurt wen they do it all time....why they say they will never did it...when they actually DID IT....if any girl can tell me y this late teen girls r like this...it wud be grateful...
sometimes it feels so okay to just cry for few hours a day if dat keeps her happy....but i am crying from so long...she once told me that if she makes a mistake...i shudnt leave her...cause she needs me and i shud forgive her....that one moment of promise make me stick till now...hoping one day she understands everything and become like before...
y cant girls deliver commitment?
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Well not all teen girls are like that.You just need to learn how to read a girls personality.I dont know what are the reasons why she is acting that way but u should talk to her straight and tell her everything ur feeling ask her what she feels.Give her a last chance if she doesn‘t want that chance forget about her.There are many decent ,nice girl around u just need to learn how to find them ,how they talk ,how they are everything.Trust me u know a girl thats worth the time.Its going to be hard at first,u‘ll feel a lot of emotions and cry a lot but it will be worth it,when u foget her u‘ll notice what she really was.Take lots of care buddy!!
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Posted: 5/18/2008 9:03 AM |
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i know the reason....most girls are wide C U N T S.....they live only to have fun...if one guy dont provide it....they get that share of fun from another one....its time when we men kick there asses....no woman is worth to be loved more than 8 hours...10 if she has freaking rears...i know there r exceptions...but thats wat i see in girls in my age group...i know its not like that later....my mom is so loyal and caring for my dad....its just this late teen girls who r whores...y the hell they commit if they cant sustain....y they say theyll never hurt wen they do it all time....why they say they will never did it...when they actually DID IT....if any girl can tell me y this late teen girls r like this...it wud be grateful...
sometimes it feels so okay to just cry for few hours a day if dat keeps her happy....but i am crying from so long...she once told me that if she makes a mistake...i shudnt leave her...cause she needs me and i shud forgive her....that one moment of promise make me stick till now...hoping one day she understands everything and become like before...
y cant girls deliver commitment?
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Maybe you are one of those boys that needs to go find a girl like your Mama! My interpretation here is that you are a clingy, whiny guy who needs to grow a pair and be more concerned about school than some girl who is obviously not that into you. If she was crazy about you she would not be flirting with other guys!
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