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Posted: 3/25/2008 8:37 PM |
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Lately i‘ve started hanging out with a old friend from highschool, me and her have been friends for 4-5 years, never any romance or pursuit of a relationship, she is very attrative, tan, green eyes, blond hair, slender, while i‘m 6‘3 and 140lbs, mostly with curely bedhead, and lean muscles, i don‘t consider myself very attractive. Things were going good tell she lost her boyfriend and is now stuck between two guys(neither is me) she‘s interested in dateing, but lately she‘s been saying things about how me and her wouldn‘t work out in a relationship, and if i did some work on myself i would be ok in the nerdy kinda of way, normaly these remarks start with "Someone said you and me would make a good couple". it‘s been going on for a while now and starting to pull at the last straw alot of the times i just want to yell "I know i‘m not up to ur physical standerds for a boyfriend, that‘s why i never tried to date you, so just drop this ****" ladies can you please give me a insight into why she‘s doing this and how i can get her to drop it, our friendship is great except for this
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Posted: 3/26/2008 2:56 AM |
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| Dante43 wrote: | | Lately i‘ve started hanging out with a old friend from highschool, me and her have been friends for 4-5 years, never any romance or pursuit of a relationship, she is very attrative, tan, green eyes, blond hair, slender, while i‘m 6‘3 and 140lbs, mostly with curely bedhead, and lean muscles, i don‘t consider myself very attractive. Things were going good tell she lost her boyfriend and is now stuck between two guys(neither is me) she‘s interested in dateing, but lately she‘s been saying things about how me and her wouldn‘t work out in a relationship, and if i did some work on myself i would be ok in the nerdy kinda of way, normaly these remarks start with "Someone said you and me would make a good couple". it‘s been going on for a while now and starting to pull at the last straw alot of the times i just want to yell "I know i‘m not up to ur physical standerds for a boyfriend, that‘s why i never tried to date you, so just drop this ****" ladies can you please give me a insight into why she‘s doing this and how i can get her to drop it, our friendship is great except for this |
For a girl to say "someone said that you and me would make a good couple" means she thinks that you and her would make a good couple, but...it‘s just too bad that you‘re not 210 lbs.
And why is she "stuck" between dating these 2 guys? Can‘t she decide which one would look better on her arm? Is it a toss-up as to who drives the better car? Has more money?
Ahhhh...there‘s nothing like opening up a pretty package and finding fock all inside.
I‘d keep this one at arm‘s length if I were you. And at 6‘3", I‘m thinking that that must be a good 7 feet, no?
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Posted: 3/26/2008 2:03 PM |
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Lately i‘ve started hanging out with a old friend from highschool, me and her have been friends for 4-5 years, never any romance or pursuit of a relationship, she is very attrative, tan, green eyes, blond hair, slender, while i‘m 6‘3 and 140lbs, mostly with curely bedhead, and lean muscles, i don‘t consider myself very attractive. Things were going good tell she lost her boyfriend and is now stuck between two guys(neither is me) she‘s interested in dateing, but lately she‘s been saying things about how me and her wouldn‘t work out in a relationship, and if i did some work on myself i would be ok in the nerdy kinda of way, normaly these remarks start with "Someone said you and me would make a good couple". it‘s been going on for a while now and starting to pull at the last straw alot of the times i just want to yell "I know i‘m not up to ur physical standerds for a boyfriend, that‘s why i never tried to date you, so just drop this ****" ladies can you please give me a insight into why she‘s doing this and how i can get her to drop it, our friendship is great except for this
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I think she is young and hasnt learned that its what is on the inside that counts. Find somebody that will love you for you!!
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Posted: 3/26/2008 5:32 PM |
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I would tell her (or yell, whatever is your preference) that “You do not deserve me as your boyfriend, so stop this ****.” That will shut her up and it is the truth.
As to why she is doing this, I have to go with Me on that one.
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Posted: 3/26/2008 7:00 PM |
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Lately i‘ve started hanging out with a old friend from highschool, me and her have been friends for 4-5 years, never any romance or pursuit of a relationship, she is very attrative, tan, green eyes, blond hair, slender, while i‘m 6‘3 and 140lbs, mostly with curely bedhead, and lean muscles, i don‘t consider myself very attractive. Things were going good tell she lost her boyfriend and is now stuck between two guys(neither is me) she‘s interested in dateing, but lately she‘s been saying things about how me and her wouldn‘t work out in a relationship, and if i did some work on myself i would be ok in the nerdy kinda of way, normaly these remarks start with "Someone said you and me would make a good couple". it‘s been going on for a while now and starting to pull at the last straw alot of the times i just want to yell "I know i‘m not up to ur physical standerds for a boyfriend, that‘s why i never tried to date you, so just drop this ****" ladies can you please give me a insight into why she‘s doing this and how i can get her to drop it, our friendship is great except for this
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She‘s looking for you to throw your cap into the ring too, so she can give you the brush off.
6‘3" 140 pounds? Eat something, the mom inside me is screaming to feed you!!
Don‘t give what she says a second thought-she‘s young and silly, and will make you miserable. Tell her point blank, you don;t think it would work out either, and leave it at that.
Find a nice girl who doesn‘t think she needs all these guys wanting her. She has self esteem issues.
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Posted: 3/27/2008 12:54 PM |
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NONSENSE!
She likes you Dude! You guys are young and I think that is her waying of saying she likes you. I remember in school having these girls do the same thing until I got nerve enough to go over and hold them tight and give them a kiss. Sometimes it worked and other times it did‘nt. But they liked the fact that I got up the courage to call their bluff.
Weight is not an issue at your age. I was 6‘1" and weighed 135 when I graduated at age 19. I‘ll bet the ladies would agree that it is better to try to put weight on than it is trying to take it off. Don‘t worry about your physique, that will take care of itself. Confidence my man. Women love confidence in a man. She is already your friend so catch her off guard and give it a try. Hold her firmly and give her a nice soft kiss not a wild passionate one. Worst think that could happen is she jumps in the air frantically and futiley trying to slap you in the face. LOL!
Good luck. And remember if it does not work out, men and women are like busses. If you miss one, wait a bit and soon enough another comes along right behind it.
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Posted: 3/27/2008 2:17 PM |
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| Uncle Don wrote: | NONSENSE!
She likes you Dude! You guys are young and I think that is her waying of saying she likes you. I remember in school having these girls do the same thing until I got nerve enough to go over and hold them tight and give them a kiss. Sometimes it worked and other times it did‘nt. But they liked the fact that I got up the courage to call their bluff.
Weight is not an issue at your age. I was 6‘1" and weighed 135 when I graduated at age 19. I‘ll bet the ladies would agree that it is better to try to put weight on than it is trying to take it off. Don‘t worry about your physique, that will take care of itself. Confidence my man. Women love confidence in a man. She is already your friend so catch her off guard and give it a try. Hold her firmly and give her a nice soft kiss not a wild passionate one. Worst think that could happen is she jumps in the air frantically and futiley trying to slap you in the face. LOL!
Good luck. And remember if it does not work out, men and women are like busses. If you miss one, wait a bit and soon enough another comes along right behind it. |
amen don is right, she likes you dude.
will you survive her "trying you on for size" is more the question.
get rid of the bed head and go for it.
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Posted: 3/28/2008 4:03 PM |
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I don‘t know -she obviously don‘t know what she wants ( or who..) Unless you want to give it a try and get dumped as soon as someone more "up" to her standards show up - I‘d say go for it. Though personally, I would tell her, you are right we are not a good match. If she is a good friend keep it at that.
If you later want to bulk up for you own pleasure do so, never do it for someone else.
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Posted: 3/28/2008 10:39 PM |
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Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with
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Posted: 3/29/2008 8:43 AM |
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Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with
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Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
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Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Posted: 3/29/2008 6:43 PM |
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| Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with |
Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
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Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Personally, I like the physically ‘strong‘ male as opposed to the mentally ‘strong‘ male. Most times, but not always. I like all brawn and not a lick of brains.
Now, some men here might think that it‘s a control issue on my part, my rest assured, that is not true.
I‘m just tired.
Call it "PoolBoySyndrome".
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Posted: 3/30/2008 4:54 PM |
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| Tiredmomma wrote: | | Dante43 wrote: | | Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with |
Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
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Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Personally, I like the physically ‘strong‘ male as opposed to the mentally ‘strong‘ male. Most times, but not always. I like all brawn and not a lick of brains. Now, some men here might think that it‘s a control issue on my part, my rest assured, that is not true. I‘m just tired.
Call it "PoolBoySyndrome".
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Maybe‘s I suffer from it too???
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Well there you have it Mean. No wonder we don‘t agree or get along. I have neither brains or brawn. And now that I have been introduced to the iggy buttons I don‘t have your posts either. LOL
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| Uncle Don wrote: | | Well there you have it Mean. No wonder we don‘t agree or get along. I have neither brains or brawn. And now that I have been introduced to the iggy buttons I don‘t have your posts either. LOL |
You forgot balls. You haven‘t any of those, either.
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NONSENSE! She likes you Dude! You guys are young and I think that is her waying of saying she likes you. I remember in school having these girls do the same thing until I got nerve enough to go over and hold them tight and give them a kiss. Sometimes it worked and other times it did‘nt. But they liked the fact that I got up the courage to call their bluff. Weight is not an issue at your age. I was 6‘1" and weighed 135 when I graduated at age 19. I‘ll bet the ladies would agree that it is better to try to put weight on than it is trying to take it off. Don‘t worry about your physique, that will take care of itself. Confidence my man. Women love confidence in a man. She is already your friend so catch her off guard and give it a try. Hold her firmly and give her a nice soft kiss not a wild passionate one. Worst think that could happen is she jumps in the air frantically and futiley trying to slap you in the face. LOL! Good luck. And remember if it does not work out, men and women are like busses. If you miss one, wait a bit and soon enough another comes along right behind it.
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I have to disagree-physique will NOT take care of itself. A good, muscular healthy body must be created, sculpted, and worked on.
Simply eating to put on weight will make a person fat and unhealthy. For a skinny-fat person (someone who is very thin but hasn‘t muscle) to bulk up is hard work, and specialized workouts. Worth every minute in the gym or playing sports-healthy living will keep him alive longer and the longer life will be better. I WISH physique took care of itself. No, actually I don‘t. Then I‘d have to get a job selling hamburgers or something.
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| Tiredmomma wrote: | | Dante43 wrote: | | Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with |
Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
TM
Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Personally, I like the physically ‘strong‘ male as opposed to the mentally ‘strong‘ male. Most times, but not always. I like all brawn and not a lick of brains. Now, some men here might think that it‘s a control issue on my part, my rest assured, that is not true. I‘m just tired.
Call it "PoolBoySyndrome".
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As I grow older I prefer brains over brawn in a man. Maybe a nerdy poolboy for me?
Hmm -
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| Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with |
Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
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Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Personally, I like the physically ‘strong‘ male as opposed to the mentally ‘strong‘ male. Most times, but not always. I like all brawn and not a lick of brains.
Now, some men here might think that it‘s a control issue on my part, my rest assured, that is not true.
I‘m just tired.
Call it "PoolBoySyndrome". |
As I grow older I prefer brains over brawn in a man. Maybe a nerdy poolboy for me?
Hmm -
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| meandnotyou wrote: | | Tiredmomma wrote: | | meandnotyou wrote: | | Tiredmomma wrote: | | Dante43 wrote: | | Well i talked to her about it and got things worked out, so far she‘s droped the topic of me and her, i‘ve also been trying to steer her away from one of the two guys she likes, he seems to have alot of the characteristics that this site has as warning signs. I hope ur right about the confidents being the most important thing girls look for in a guy. Thank you all for the help i‘m glad to have this finaly over with |
Confidence is VERY attractive to anyone. Male or female. However I think purely biologically, women wants a "strong" mate. Not purely physically but mentally.
TM
Glad ya worked it out. Just remember some mistakes she will have to learn on her own.
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Personally, I like the physically ‘strong‘ male as opposed to the mentally ‘strong‘ male. Most times, but not always. I like all brawn and not a lick of brains. Now, some men here might think that it‘s a control issue on my part, my rest assured, that is not true. I‘m just tired.
Call it "PoolBoySyndrome". |
As I grow older I prefer brains over brawn in a man. Maybe a nerdy poolboy for me?
Hmm -
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no no that wouldn‘t do. I just can‘t picture him as a poolboy...
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Well it‘s been a while, we‘re still friends, pretty much i‘m the guy she comes to just to talk about her love life, she started dateing her on and off boyfriend and i was there when they hooked back up on the phone, it started out with her almost crying becuz he got another DUI and right after that she asks "Are we going out?" that was one of the most sadest things i have ever seen she would do what ever this guy asked or said, later she told me "Well when i asked if we were dateing he said, Whatever, so i think we are". After that day i joined a internatial penpal website, hopeing that i will meet a girl i like there. I‘m a nice guy, i believe a man should show respect, and that he is only as good as his word so he must do his best to keep it. I do my best to live my life by this, but every girl i have met in this town just date pricks, there are guys that look worse then road kill yet the girls stay with them, I actualy think some guys become pricks because of this. I"m sorry ladies i‘m ranting alot, but i have had 5 girls come and complain to me recently about thier ex boyfriends treating them like ****, and how there are no nice guys in this town, and how I am a sweet nice guy, yet dateing me is unthinkable, I don‘t want to date these girls they don‘t even acknowledge me, but it‘s annoying, and regardless of what you say they go back to the bastards. Sorry again for the rant, so does anyone have any advice about online dateing?
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Why is it so important to you have a girlfriend is my question. Do not rush it. You are only 19 and you have years ahead of you. To me online dating spells desperation, but everyone seems to be doing it. They all lie in their profiles, be careful of that.
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