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I know how you feel.  I felt the same punched in the gut feeling when my husband‘s mistress showed up at my office to tell me about their relationship.  I felt nauseated for weeks.

You need to think about your children.  You need to be the primary parent if possible. 

Children who grow up in homes where they see this kind of swinging sexuality become sexualy active early and tend to have lots of sex partners.  Many are sexually abused  by their mother‘s sex partners.

Focus on the children.

thanks for all the advice people, but really.... i have a general question here.

why wouldnt i want to start looking for another REAL LADY? apparantly she replaced me quite a while back.

i‘ve seen several replies to the effect "just focus on the children"  "dont worry about that right now" type of thing...

but screw it, its now been almost 3 months since i‘ve talked to her, and she has no interest in speaking to me (nor i her). i‘m the type of person that likes to have someone to talk to, to be with. wtf is wrong with that? loneliness is something new to me i guess.

1. Drank scoth to cope. Not the best way.

2. How the hell can this domestic violence charge stick if all you did was drink? I‘m guessing you threw objects around? Yes or no? If court finds a lack of details, I‘m sure it will get thrown out. However if that first love of yours gets on the stand and cries, your **** is over. A crying woman on a stand against a man who is angry and drinks always wins.

3. How can you find a good honest loyal lady? I‘m not sure. But I can tell you what to avoid. I told another guy what to avoid in this topic. Don‘t make the mistakes he did okay?

If you want my view, read what this guy went through and then read what I told him and take it to heart. If you don‘t heed my advice and you get hurt again, it will be your own fault.

Happy trails.

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As if she "waited"? AT ALL? Get over yourself. I would use honesty, something you don‘t sound like your used too. Do you know my wife?

Pfft, go ahead and defend the whore if ya want too. It‘s been several months now since we seperated. Haven‘t had one since we seperated (but she sure ain‘t shy about texting me about all her skank ass lays). I can‘t divorce her till the no contact order is dropped(counting the f‘ing days). I have had a girl in my life since i was 12 years old, I just want one that will be FAITHFULL to me.

Judge me if ya wanna, join the carpet lickers union. My soon to be EX is a star member.

Go ahead and keep that high toned lecture style, sounds as if it suits you.

I dont judge you,  I am not divorced yet either  and I have been dating. 

Take it slow,  they say that if you arent careful  you will attract the same kind of person you just split up with.  I think every situation is different  and you are not still living with her  so I think getting out of the house and doing something for yourself  is good! 

You werent replaced,  you are the good guy  she will be searching and searching  and will never find another,  wHORES never do,  they get used up!!

wow - that was uncalled for!

A poster offers his/her opinion and you accuse the poster of belonging to the ‘carpet lickers union‘?

Fock off, Meathead.

Oh, and good luck finding ANYONE to be faithful to the likes of you - AHAHAHAHAHA!  At least until that no contact order is dropped BY HER!  Oh man, what a surprise!

AHAHAHAHAHAAHA!

hi mister,

i‘m so sorry for what you are going through. just listen to everyones advice and don‘t rush into anything new too soon. and i just have to tell you that some women think that a 30 year old man on a first date is REALLY HOT!

WOW!  While you‘re under what now seems to be an easily understandable no contact order I hope you‘ll use the time wisely for some anger management sessions.

I started out sympathizing with you but should have remembered one of the many lessons that came from my own divorce years ago.  That is that there are three sides to every one of them; his side, her side and the truth which usually lies somewhere in the middle.

It would appear that you have an extremely short fuze and I wouldn‘t be a bit surprised if that was a factor in all of this.

Now before you go on attack mode with me, which would be a waste of your time anyway, let me tell you that I had a short fuze in the past which, while it never led to physical violence in the former marriage, was one of many factors that caused it to fail.  It might be something you‘d benefit from working on.  I know I have.

eh, i was pissed off that day. shortly before i came on here the day i fired off on her, my stb ex sent me a series of texts that was just uncalled for. (including a pic)

she is still trying (and for the most part succeeding) in jacking with ma head. i should just block her ass so she cant do that stuff to me.

i aint worried about the courts my lawyer said he has it taken care of.

just can‘t wait for all this stuff to be over with so i can move on with my life.

If I may make a suggestion, extinguish her.  Fighting back, letting her get to you, giving her that level of control over you, your moods and your emotions just feeds her.  If you don‘t respond, don‘t have contact, don‘t react, don‘t give her the pleasure of watching you jump through her hoops, then she will be extinguished just like a fire you‘ve robbed of oxygen.

I did that to the ex.  When she realized she couldn‘t communicate with me in any manner it drove her crazy(er).

how to respond to this like im not a f‘ing dick... jesus i don‘t know how.

and please keep in mind dog, i‘m not attacking you. your trying to help me dammit.

even she has never had a problem with me in the sex area, she just said straight to ma face that she wanted "it all", read EVERYTHING before you try to slam me here guys.

i knew she was a BI but dammit i didnt know i was gonna walk into a dude (COMPLETE STRANGER) banging my wife.

Wow  Drew  I agree with you for once!!

Write this down Shally!!