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Hurtin,  you are asking the wrong people this question.  I am sorry that you were hurt.  I hope that she loves you and wants you enough  to  call it quits with the other man!

I have never cheated.  I got rid of the cheating husband and gave him to the other woman so they could have 100% of each other.

All I can say is it will be hard for you to trust  her again.You should get some help from an outsider  and if everyone tells the truth you could help.

keep your eyes open .

Hurtin, the best thing you can do is INGORE any propaganda that you can work this out if you convince your wife to come to counsellng. Any woman who tells you that is lying because they this site has consistently maintained that once a cheater, always a cheater and that blaming the victim is wrong. So don‘t listen to nstevens. Dumb the bitch and cut your losses.

If you want my view, read what this guy went through and then read what I told him and take it to heart. If you don‘t heed my advice and you get hurt again, it will be your own fault.

Happy trails.

http://www.womansavers.com/forum-for-women/mens-area/76/15825.html

And if you really want good advice, here it is -

Join hands with Drew J and skip happily over to his favorite woman-bashing site, and wallow in pig excrement over there.  I‘m sure the guys give him the ‘high-five‘ for every new member he recruits.

The sooner you do that, the better.

DAMN ME - you crack me up girl!

 TM

I think if you believe that you can get past the fact that your partner cheated on you - the marriage might be salvageable.

Some people try their asses off to get it working others say:" hell no if I am going to take anyone treating me like this."

Every person is different.

The OP asked if women who cheated ever gave up the guy they cheated with.. I wouldn‘t know cause I don‘t cheat, nor do I intend to do so. If I get to a point where I can‘t get past what he did - I will tell him and move on with my life - but I will try to see if we can work it out first. Unless ofcourse he feels he needs to leave - then I‘ll tell him fine - the door there.

TM

When did I ever say that men should take back unfaithful wives?  And where have I ever said that women should give the ol‘ heave-ho to unfaithful men?  Give your head a shake, Drew - each situation is unique. 

Geezus, I‘ll bet you become really paranoid when a woman offers to cook you a home made meal.  Do you snoop through her medicine cabinet looking for the Arsenic before or after dinner?!

Here‘s a tip for you, Drew - it‘s not hidden in the medicine cabinet...

Nice try. But the reality is, if you don‘t think people should take back unfaithful mates or spouses, then you shouldn‘t have a problem with my philosophy of dumping the cheater‘s ass and moving on.

The fact is, suggesting counseling is a way of suggesting that you take back your cheating wife because suggesting counseling implies you should give her a chance to change her ways. And this totally contradicts the philosophy women have on this board when they blast cheating men. "Once a cheater, always a cheater." To tell cuckolded men to try counseling, but telling cuckolded women to take him for all he‘s worth in court and dump his ass is a double standard.

"Give your head a shake, Drew - each situation is unique. "

Clearly, it‘s not if women on this board say, "once a cheater, always a cheater." That kind of philosophy allows for no gray area or gray reasoning, only black and white. Stay or go.

So, you have a disagreement with other women on this board who say once a cheater always a cheater, and therefore you should be telling them to give their head a shake. The day I ever see you telling women who were cheated on to give their boyfriend or husband a second chance, is the day hell freezes over. And you know it!

"And where have I ever said that women should give the ol‘ heave-ho to unfaithful men? "

Wow. You‘re even more loony than I thought. You think women should lower themselves by taking back guys who cheat on them? What are you a traitor? No one should do that. What you should be doing is telling people that‘s it‘s better to be alone for the right reasons.

I firmly believe once a cheater always a cheater...and yes...blaming the victim IS wrong...assuming they are truly a victim.

Speaking from experience, I would advise anyone, man or woman, to not take back a cheating spouse.

I am not blaming anyone who does take back a cheating spouse.  I understand the thought process and I have been there.  Its just for me...there was no way I was gonna put up with looking at her everyday and not wanting to vomit.

Holy doodle.  I stand corrected.  Give your head two shakes, Drew.  As I stated earlier, EACH SITUATION IS UNIQUE.

As for the rest of your rant - I only accept double-speak in triplicate.

Now get busy.

You are an angry little man!!

Each case is different, some can forgive and forget and be stronger for it,  some cant.  I do not believe once a cheater always a cheater.  I believe mistakes can be made once,  more then once and it isnt forgivable.

You have a right to your opinion,  but you have no right to degrade others for there opinion.

Muhawahaha, ME you crack me up again. Twice in one thread..

TM

every women on here that i know well has stayed with the man that cheated on them, on their vows.

i am one of the few that got divorced( as fast as possible) and would not have him back, tho he has asked me.

so i see no reason not to advise people to dump the dick.

the only reason i don‘t say to dump the wife, here and now, is because the OP had a wistful tone to his question.

Gotta say I agree with this.  Not to say that all men or all women are the same, but in the majority of cases I‘ve seen, when women cheat, they are already done with the marriage, they just haven‘t accepted that for some reason.  Whereas men cheat cause they‘re horny

I also think that women have a very hard time forgiving themselves, learning from the mistake and moving on.  They will carry that guilt forever which makes it very hard for them to accept forgivness from their spouse (or anyone else).  Not to say that men don‘t feel guilt, it‘s just seems easier for them to move on.

I know that‘s oversimplified and every situation is different, but I‘ve known people from both sides of the issue, both male and female and that‘s what I‘ve gathered from those relationships.