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Hurtin bad,

I have copied and pasted below something that I wrote a few months ago after remarrying following a divorce from my ex who had cheated many times during our 20 year marriage. BTW, EACH time she cheated she said that she felt terrible about it and swore to herself she would NEVER DO IT AGAIN.

"As I look back to where I was 30 months ago - where many of you are NOW, I want to give you guys who are thinking about taking a cheating wife back - DON‘T!!! Don‘t waste your time, money, or emotions on a woman who didn‘t respect you or your kids enough to stay away from other men. Believe me, you will find someone who doesn‘t cheat - the closeness will be better, the fun will be better, and the sex will be better too!"

Now, several months into the marriage, I can tell you that divorcing my ex was the best decision I ever made. I just wish I had done it before spending 10K on marriage counseling.

Hi Fly!

Long time no see.  How‘s the bride?

hello,

i do agree with flyguy in so many ways and i do believe once someone cheats they tend to do again soon or later. plus once the trust is broken it is very hard to pass that line and be happy again in so many ways

on the other hand every relationship is different, it is good that u are searching advice and hope, at the end it is all up to you, i may sound lame but u will make your mind up to stay in the relationship , repair and be together or move on alone with your life and leave your partner But till to get to that clear point it is rocky road.it takes whole alot thinking

i am single and i have been in relationship and i did trust my man fully and he turned out to be someone that i didnt know at all. Plus i would never cheat, no reason if i have a attraction to other man beside my partner, i just tell the my true feelings and break up and be single and have other men as many as i want.

wish you the best with all my heart and try your best to make a good choose for yourself and for your partner.

peace

summer

I am glad you are doing well!!

The samething happened to me.  But Instead of feeling like i wasted time trying to work things out,  I feel more at peace because I know I tried  and even if it didnt work out,  I tried!

 Some great points being made. It is true that to have peace with yourself it is important to be able to look back and say to yourself "yep, I tried". I guess I am just bitter for all the money wasted on counseling sessions where the counselor made us BOTH promise to not see other people while actively in counseling. We both agreed but neither the counselor or I knew that my ex was still seeing her married boyfirend. That money should have gone to our kids instead of being wasted.

BTW, "Hi" back at ya guys. Married life is good - although I am sitting in London alone for the weekend on a trip. sob!

It depends on how you are invested in your relationship and making it work. It also depends on the number of times your spouse has cheated. Our deal was THE NEXT TIME IS THE LAST TIME!!!!!  I think I made my point when the process server handed the papers that stated I wanted it all. Our state also has laws still on the books which state adultry is a crime and you can go to jail for up to a year and face a $10,000 fine. I am not afraid of having anyone arrested. I‘ll not be hurt again.