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I guess..

never thought it about it that way..

I mean think of bachelor parties.  Isn‘t that the scene usually 2 women together or more.  Strip clubs have women touching each other.  I don‘t know, I do know at my bachelorette party there they got me a stripper (not my thing at all).  Some people like that some do not.  I had to be wasted to even deal but it was over then we moved on to a club.  But men do not do that.  They watch and then who knows what happens.  The thought makes me sick since I find out 13 years later my H cheated with his stripper and then with another at a another bachelor party but he knew her..she worked for him. 

This all makes me think.

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Most men think it is erotic for two women to play together and then participate.  How many of the women on here have had their mate ask them to participate in a 3 way with another woman?  Chances are, there are many.  but, if you had asked him to participate in a 3 way with another man, he would have gone ballistic!  It ain‘t right for two men to play together is probably what he would say.  But, he would think it is OK for two women to play together and him participate after watching the two women for a while.

Daouble standard!  :)

I can‘t even hug my own mother without the old man whipping out a camera...

“In my observations, being a gay man, I have seen in 99% of the men I know who proclaim to be "only" bisexual, that it is the door step to being gay”

I find that interesting.  I never thought of that.  I am going to ask my brother (who is gay) if he agrees with that.

Regarding the woman/woman, I agree that most men think it is erotic.  We all joke about how it is every man’s fantasy.  I have never had anyone I was involved with ask me to do a three-some.  Do you think if it actually came down to that, the men would go for it or is it just a fantasy that they really do not want to play out?

As I posted previously, a guy I worked with kept hounding his wife to play with another while he watched and then would participate.  She finally did it.  She thought the woman was more passionate than him and she went with the woman and sent his ass packing.  I told him it served him right!  Then, he started playing with me after they divorced, but, according to him, it was just curiosity of being with a guy and to see what it was like.  Then he proclaimed to be bisexual and that women were his preference, but then, he was hardly ever with a woman.  He was with me more than anyone which was 5 nights out of 7.  Then he decided that he liked men more and decided he is gay.  Now, he does drag shows in Dallas.  Talk about an evolution!  Darwin would have a field day with this guy.  I don‘t keep in touch with him.  I only hear about him from other people who know him and know me.

let me know your brother‘s thoughts on this.  It would be interesting what another gay guy thinks of bisexual men.

Yes, Cowboy, I read that story about your friend.  But is he the minority or do you think most men would really want to live out the fantasy?  Perhaps all the women here who are dating/married should ask their boyfriend/husband if they would actually have a 3 way if the opportunity arose.  I would be interested in knowing how many would or would not.

I will let you know what my brother says.

This is a very interesting topic.

Yourself being gay...would you say there are more Bi men out there than women would imagine?

I ask because I suspected an ex bf of being bi.

I never really knew for sure....I just "felt it."

Also,do you think a lot of womanizers are bi?

I wasn‘t referrring to you..sorry.  I was saying men in general.  You have morals and do not let your thoughts get the best of you like some.  My H was/is very jealous.  Not in an abusive way but never would want me shared.  Now if the opportunity comes his way for himself to have a 3 way without me ..he prob would go for it esp if it was the past.  I know that is a fantasy becuz I saw what he looked at on the comp.  Granted this was 2 years ago but I know (instinct). 

About being bi..no that isn‘t him.  I know of other men that like that thing with women also.  Then really how well do we know anyone? I thought I knew him for years but I didn‘t know him..not the least bit.  I think you have a great argument in this.  Why if men like to see 2 women why not 2 men...PRIDE or embarrassment or fucked up thought processes..

Hi Cowboy, I posed you comment to by brother:  “In my observations, being a gay man, I have seen in 99% of the men I know who proclaim to be "only" bisexual, that it is the door step to being gay”

His reply was:  “I don‘t actually know any men who claim they are only bi but I disagree with the statement.”

I asked him why.

To be continued . . .

All right, Miss Suspense!  LOL!

I am curious about his thoughts, too.  It is OK to have different ideas about the subject.  And, a healthy difference is good.  Makes it that much more mysterious.  :)

I had one bf hint continuously for over a year about the woman/woman thing.  Finally I talked to a bi-friend, who joked often to me in his presence that "if you ever decide to go that way, put my name first on the list lol",  and we set his butt up. 

I had her show up one night out of the blue, and I informed him that I would do what ever he wanted to made him happy.  It took him all of a split second to say NO-WAY.

My girlfriend had a hell of a time that night teasing him.  She kept telling him over and over again he was just afraid she would steal me from him hahahaa.

It was a hoot, and yes I knew there was a possibility that he would say OH YEA!  I‘d already told her I didn‘t believe push-come-to-shove he would... but I did tell her just in case that it wasn‘t gonna happen.

Thanks for the story OW.  That is what exactly I was asking.  If it really came down to it, would they?

Cowboy, still waiting for my brother to reply to the why question.  I may have to actually pick up the phone call him!  I’m not sure how often he checks his e-mail.

Cowboy, here is my brother’s answer to the “why” question.

“If you enjoy sexual relations with both sexes, why would you limit yourself to one?

i always think if a man wants another man and his wife to "play" together its because he really wants another man and he can‘t bring himself to face it.

As far as that goes, I did the man-woman-woman thing once (I‘m not bragging).  I felt pretty insecure with it for a while.  It wasn‘t really the 3-some I was after so much as seeing this exciting, new side of my gf. 

I would be okay with a man-man-woman scenario, but I‘m straight.  I can‘t help it.  I tried to ogle men with my female friends.  I tried playing around with anal stuff when nobody was around.  I didn‘t like it.

If I found men attractive in the least, I wouldn‘t have a problem with doing it.  But as things are, I‘m straight.

But I admit, sometimes I do wonder what the hell is so attractive in men.  I mean, Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp... I just don‘t see it.

When a bi person does fall in love and settles down with just one partner, I‘d be curious to know which sex they are more often likely to choose - the same or opposite sex?

If there are statistics on that, (maybe there are, I‘m just too lazy to go and look)  perhaps that would give more insight  as to whether bisexuality is indeed a mask for outright homosexuality, or not.

Everyone, I‘ll post soon.  I promise; however, as ME knows, I have an extremely full plate right now.  Can‘t talk about it, but might soon. 

Just because I haven‘t posted isn‘t because I don‘t care about all of you.  I really do.  You all are so wonderful and I do appreciate you so much.

Not in a good frame of mind right now. 

Talk to you later!  Love to you all!

Dale

aka TxCowboy

Nah...I don‘t think two women together are normal at all.   It doesn‘t do anything for me...especially since I don‘t know what a woman feels when another woman is pleasuring her...so why would it really turn me on?

Now show me a woman givin‘ a BJ...and WOOHOO!!!