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sarah80

Posted: 8/4/2011 9:21 AM

Subject: break up guilt

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HELP!!! I am an in complete desperation right now an need advice. I broke it of with my boyfriend who I was with for nearly 2 yrs, I love him but our relationship has been toxic from day 1. We have had our good times but I cant continue doing this anymore. He moved to my home town and is isolated from friends and family which makes me feel like a cold hearted cow. I cant forget the past pain he was so controlling and verbally abusive but was slowly improving but i cant get back to where i was. I feel sick in the pit of my stomach and it is seriously affecting me physically because he wont accept its over and im not comming back, he is constantly crying and begging for me to go back it breaks my heart. I just want him to accept it and concentrate on going back home to his friends and family, he needs to buy his plane ticket and just go. I love him but I am not willing to try anymore because i dont have it in me, I am completly drained. Please I am so sick with guilt and hurt, I need to hear advise good or bad Please!!!!!!!!!!!!! :( :( :( I am mentally and emotionally drained I dont feel strong enough to make it work....I am miserable and feel physically sick...

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Posted: 8/4/2011 7:34 PM

Subject: break up guilt

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Sarah, The best decisions are often the hardest to make and move past. But sounds like you are on the right path.

Who knows maybe separation will cause him to think about how he treats a partner who loves him so much.

As for you ?

You must take care of YOU!

Think long and serious about staying in such a relationship that would cause you to feel so crappy. Try not to allow his whining to make you feel guilty, Classic move from a manipulator....... Ohhhh if I cry she will feel sorry and I can keep her under control...... People can change and learn from their bad behavior but be careful, most do not stay changed for long.

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