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| nappi23 |
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Posted: 2/22/2010 12:03 PM |
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Subject: My First love |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 27
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Hi,
I am new to this forum, so any insight is appreciated. I feel very lost and scared. I dated my ex for 3 years when I was 24. He was my first love, first everything. Needless to say I fell head over heels in love with him. He was my whole world and I defined my happiness with him. I loved him unconditionally, we went through so much together. He has been battling depression for more than 10 years of his life. I was there for him through everything and within the last month I convinced him to seek help and therapy.
I thought we would be together forever. I was so naive I thought if I stood beside him and gave him love and support that would be all we needed. But I was wrong. He cheated on me with a younger woman. He‘s 31 and she is 22. All I can think about is the two of them together and her taking my place. I feel cheated and betrayed, like he‘s getting better and he doesn‘t need me anymore. Now, this new woman is with him when he‘s not depressed.
I‘m so angry and so mad and I cry nearly every day. I want to leave him behind me. I know I deserve better but my heart won‘t listen to my mind. I do not want to be with a liar and a cheater but my heart always comes back to him. It is so painful. I can‘t function or do anything. It sucks because while he is happy I am not, it is so unfair. I gave him everything and he can‘t appreciate it.
How do I get over him, I have physical symptoms of nausea and nervousness everyday and I hate this feeling of no control.
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| shelbelle |
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Posted: 2/23/2010 7:35 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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oh geez...i am sorry you are going through this. i can see why you feel betrayed. it seems like maybe the way both of you saw your relationship wasnt the same. the commitment you felt toward isnt the same as he had towards you and then you said he lied to you.
if you want him then maybe talk to him about your relationship and the future. at least it gives him a chance to see it the same way as you even though he might not. i think either way it would help you get direction.
i hope this helped in some way.
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| nappi23 |
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Posted: 2/23/2010 9:12 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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Thanks for the advice. I‘m trying my best to move on. Its just so hard and difficult. I feel like I don‘t see the light at the end of the tunnel. I guess I can only take it one day at a time.
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Posted: 3/1/2010 11:28 PM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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You are settling. It is an awful way to live. It‘s heart breaking. You want him to be what you want him to be and we both know that is a very unrealistic way to think.
As much as it hurts you have to ask yourself why you are settling. Forget him I‘m more interested in why you feel it‘s ok to treat you this way. You may say it isn‘t ok but it is if you are still allowing him in your life.
Sometimes we make the mistake in thinking that the feelings we feel come from another. It isn‘t true, that love you felt came from you not him. Dig deep ask yourself the tough questions.
Does he make you feel like the most loved woman in the room? Does he honor your love? You deserve nothing less than to be adored, cherished. This life is a precious gift please don‘t waste another minute on this man. Love yourself more than you love him, you owe it to yourself. Give yourself the love you so richly deserve. He deserves nothing from you.
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