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| greenhub |
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Posted: 7/6/2009 5:00 PM |
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Subject: I NEED SERIOUS HELP---I AM REACHING OUT---IF ANYONE COULD HELP---PLEASE! |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 41
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Hello,
I am new here---and the recent turn out of events brought me here. Hoping to find comfort and clear my thoughts.
I wish I could write over and over again what I have gone through. It is just too painful to relive those events again.
I have found my way to vent---I started my own personal blog. I really don‘t care if it is being read or not. But it chronicled what i am going through---it is not complete yet---it is just too difficult.
PLEASE ----I NEED HELP---I HOPE IT IS NOT TOO MUCH TO ASK TO VISIT MY BLOG www.greenilosity.wordpress.com . Everything that I wanted to say are all there.
I NEED ADVICE-----I NEED STRENGTH. PLEASE DON‘T PASS JUDGMENT ON ME SIMPLY BECAUSE I AM REQUESTING YOU TO READ WHAT I HAVE WRITTEN. WHEN U GET THERE YOU WILL UNDERSTAND WHY IT IS EXTREMELY DIFFICULT FOR ME TO WRITE ABOUT IT OVER AND OVER AGAIN.
SO IF YOU COULD ---- PLEASE!!!! PLEASE!!!!!
BIG THANKS!
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| uberbeotch |
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Posted: 7/7/2009 4:34 PM |
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Subject: I NEED SERIOUS HELP---I AM REACHING OUT---IF ANYONE COULD HELP---PLEASE! |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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No, it is NOT normal or acceptable for someone to come home & "chat" on the computer til all hours of the night & exclude him/herself from the family.
The Internet can be a great thing, and it can also destroy families & relationships. Your husband needs to get off the f-ing computer & spend time with his family, before he loses it!
You need to think about what you are going to do. Perhaps you should install a keylogger so you can track what he‘s doing on there. Knowledge is power, and evidence is good to have.
Don‘t issue an ultimatum unless you are fully ready to back it up. I‘m sure some opf the other gals have some good advice for you too. ladies?
Good luck!
UB
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Posted: 7/7/2009 5:18 PM |
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Subject: I NEED SERIOUS HELP---I AM REACHING OUT---IF ANYONE COULD HELP---PLEASE! |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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Greenhub,
It doesn‘t matter if other people think it‘s ok to chat for hours on end while neglecting/family/responsabilities/relationships. In your blog why are you asking if it‘s ok when it‘s having such a negative impact on you and your child? No one thinks this is tolerable behavior for a grown man with a family.
This is not normal. Not healthy. Not ok. And now that he has taken it to inappropriate are you really thinking this is just some form of entertainment?!
Deep down you know it‘s not. It‘s up to you if you want to find out more about what he‘s doing (like UB suggested a keylogger) but be ready...He‘s been so secretive so who knows what you‘ll find. Just mentally prepare if you go that route.
If not and you just want to get past this with him, the computer has to go. And he needs to commit to being done with this chapter. Period.
I‘m not even sure I could do that. It‘s your choice.
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Posted: 7/9/2009 8:46 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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I went through the same thing you are experiencing. I even had company from out of state, and he would not get off the computer. He even let his business falter, not paying bills on time, letting his business license expire, etc. They just get mesmerized. So I started snooping, got a keylogger. And you DO have to be prepared for what you may find. I found out he was in love with some woman from out of state. He was posting messages everyday to her adult my space (Utherverse). They were "I love You" I miss you" type things. The kicker was a Mother‘s Day greeting he sent her, so heartfelt and I got nothing for Mother‘s Day. Pissed wasn‘t the word for me the day I saw that. Anyway I kicked him out, but everytime I feel sad or lonely, I go to that site and look at his posts and it gives me the strength to not see him again. I reasearched the cell phone bills and he was calling her after I left for work, or before I got home. So your instincts are telling you something, listen. I did and now I‘m free. The day after i kicked him out, I changed all locks, closed all bank accts and took over his business. I staged a Coup.
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Posted: 7/9/2009 9:05 PM |
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Let‘s talk about the internet a minute, it is one of the greatest things to happen to us, but it opens up people to all kinds of hurt. I have been on the internet since the beginning and I have never been tempted to chat or engage with others online. I think the person who does is looking for something different maybe, but what may be innocent flirting makes way for more chat and finally actual phone calls. This is where I draw the line! Now it is full participation in cheating. My husband was playing games online with other people and admitted that much to me. They met and started chatting, then started playing other games in Utherverse, cyber sex games, then the cell phone calls started coming. Now mind you she knew he was married and she is also in a relationship. I‘ve been married for 30 years, we just built our dream home and I thought we were happy. No one could be more stunned than me. He was willing to give up our beautiful home, 3 grown children, one granddaughter, and a successful business for a woman he has never met in person. But he says he is in "love". I think maybe he is in love with the idea of her. The justice for me is that she will not leave her mate to be with my husband, so now he has no job, no money, no home. I think he staying with his mother. What kind of woman actively chases a married man? Anyway beware they are out there ready to take your man away from you. I would demand the computer stays off, if he wants to stay with you. Otherwise let him go! There are so many ways to hook up with others, look at Adultfriend finders. Yikes! If that is the kind of man he is, let go. Just be glad you found out now and not waste anymore time with him.
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Posted: 7/10/2009 10:28 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| CalifLady wrote: | | Let‘s talk about the internet a minute, it is one of the greatest things to happen to us, but it opens up people to all kinds of hurt. I have been on the internet since the beginning and I have never been tempted to chat or engage with others online. I think the person who does is looking for something different maybe, but what may be innocent flirting makes way for more chat and finally actual phone calls. This is where I draw the line! Now it is full participation in cheating. My husband was playing games online with other people and admitted that much to me. They met and started chatting, then started playing other games in Utherverse, cyber sex games, then the cell phone calls started coming. Now mind you she knew he was married and she is also in a relationship. I‘ve been married for 30 years, we just built our dream home and I thought we were happy. No one could be more stunned than me. He was willing to give up our beautiful home, 3 grown children, one granddaughter, and a successful business for a woman he has never met in person. But he says he is in "love". I think maybe he is in love with the idea of her. The justice for me is that she will not leave her mate to be with my husband, so now he has no job, no money, no home. I think he staying with his mother. What kind of woman actively chases a married man? Anyway beware they are out there ready to take your man away from you. I would demand the computer stays off, if he wants to stay with you. Otherwise let him go! There are so many ways to hook up with others, look at Adultfriend finders. Yikes! If that is the kind of man he is, let go. Just be glad you found out now and not waste anymore time with him. |
Califlady,
That‘s inspiring! You are a strong woman!
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