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| minouminou |
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Posted: 4/10/2008 10:55 PM |
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Subject: It‘s killing me inside |
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Please somebody help me. I am dying inside. I cannot not stand the thought of my soon to be ex-husband mistress be around my babies. I have a 3 years old and a 8 months old. I was 7 months pregnant of my second when their affair started. So now I am hurting so bad picturing her holding my little baby girl in her arms or pushing her stoller while walking hand in hand with my Ex- husband and my son holding his father other hand looking like an happy family. I can‘t stand having people thinking that my babies are hers, thinking she‘s their mother. She already got my husband and I am dying inside knowing that she is having my children too. How can I deal with this. I am in so much pain, I cannot even breathe. I would rather die than witness this.
Anything advice than can help me get over the pain?
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| TALUTAH |
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Posted: 4/11/2008 2:29 PM |
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Hello,
Your anxiety is palpable and with good reason.
Please take a few minutes to give a little more information, such as;Custody issues, shared or sole?
Do you live in the same area with the X?
Why do you say others will think the children belong to her?
Why do you think she even wants to be with your children?
Any other information you wish to share will be helpful.
Best,
T.
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| meandnotyou |
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Posted: 4/12/2008 11:13 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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| minouminou wrote: | Please somebody help me. I am dying inside. I cannot not stand the thought of my soon to be ex-husband mistress be around my babies. I have a 3 years old and a 8 months old. I was 7 months pregnant of my second when their affair started. So now I am hurting so bad picturing her holding my little baby girl in her arms or pushing her stoller while walking hand in hand with my Ex- husband and my son holding his father other hand looking like an happy family. I can‘t stand having people thinking that my babies are hers, thinking she‘s their mother. She already got my husband and I am dying inside knowing that she is having my children too. How can I deal with this. I am in so much pain, I cannot even breathe. I would rather die than witness this.
Anything advice than can help me get over the pain? |
Listen to me - she might spend a visitation or two with your kids, but it won‘t last long.
Remember, this slag only knows your husband as "Good Time Charlie", not the parent he will have to become on her time.
You should try as hard as you can to stop thinking of them as a big happy family with your children, because that‘s not what she‘ll be thinking for very long. It‘s more along the lines of "oh no, not another weekend with the kids..."
And you‘ll know that as soon as he approaches you with visitation schedule changes...
It won‘t be long before reality sets in for her and she dumps his sorry ass.
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Posted: 4/23/2008 6:38 PM |
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You ARE the mom. Make sure you focus all your energy on maintaining as strong a relationship with your children as possible.
Yes, it is a cruel blow. Yes, you have a right to feel crushed.
But you also can and will find the strength to be a great mom --- if you look inside -- deep down -- you can find the strength to be as good a mother as you wish.
And no matter how you feel about your ex and ‘that woman,‘ Just remember that your kids will need to look up to their father with respect. Just as they will need to look to you for all the motherly nurturing that you can offer.
Yes, it‘s tough, and I am so sorry that life has dealt you this blow. But do you really have a choice? If you want to be the mother to those kids, you will have to be the best mother that you can be.
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