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| tlf2000 |
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Posted: 10/23/2007 4:40 PM |
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Subject: How do you deal? |
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New WomanSaver
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Age: 25
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I was with a man for 4 years. Things were mostly good until the very end when he left. When he left he immediately started dating another woman and moved in with her. They have broken up and gotten back together multiple times over the past 3 years since he and I have been split up. Now she has gone into labor with their son. He and I have a 5 year old son together, he was born after being together for 2 years and we were still together up until just before our sons 2nd birthday. I still love this man although I try to fight it and push my feelings aside so often. He was much more caring and protective of me when I was pregnant with our child than he has been with his current girlfriend. Anyway, to make this a bit shorter - how do I deal with the fact that he‘s having another child with another woman and I still can‘t let go of the love I have for him????
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| sunny fl |
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Posted: 10/26/2007 9:35 AM |
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WomanSaver MoFo
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tireofhisshit
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| tlf2000 wrote: | | I was with a man for 4 years. Things were mostly good until the very end when he left. When he left he immediately started dating another woman and moved in with her. They have broken up and gotten back together multiple times over the past 3 years since he and I have been split up. Now she has gone into labor with their son. He and I have a 5 year old son together, he was born after being together for 2 years and we were still together up until just before our sons 2nd birthday. I still love this man although I try to fight it and push my feelings aside so often. He was much more caring and protective of me when I was pregnant with our child than he has been with his current girlfriend. Anyway, to make this a bit shorter - how do I deal with the fact that he‘s having another child with another woman and I still can‘t let go of the love I have for him???? |
You need to have no contact with him except for son, you shouldnt know about his relationship with this other woman. You need to stop wondering and worrying about what they do. You need to do things and go places with friends and family, stay busy do not live for the past!!
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Posted: 10/26/2007 12:57 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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I do all that - I‘m working full time and am in college part time, plus raising our son, plus I go out with family and friends....the only contact he and I do have is about our son. I don‘t wonder and worry about what they do, I know its none of my business. I think it‘s just he was my first love and I‘ve had a hard time getting over that.....any suggestions?
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| Alystrial |
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Posted: 10/27/2007 7:02 PM |
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New WomanSaver
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It‘s been over 10 years since I split with the father of my eldest daughter, and he wasn‘t my first love...but he was a strong love that I had chemistry and a connection with, only our timing was all wrong. Now 10+ years later, during this very near divorce with my husband whom I love and have 2 other children with, I found myself wondering "what if"...
You will prolly never get over him, just move on, and in time you will find another to direct those feelings to.
All things heal in time...or at least appear to. Good luck!
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